When they realize that you know who they really are and that all game over… they may become very dangerous. Their biggest fear is exposed and they don’t have place to hide behind no mask. Then they attack like wild animals. The outcome may be not safe. So be sure to stay totally away from them because their revenge may be life threatening. You need to leave them drown in their own poison. No words, no arguments, no truth telling or silence. Just leave. Safe yourself. That’s my advice from my own experience.
@@alionamarina7061 I've seen the wild animal come out, the roaring lion, the fiery dragon, the dark evil in the eyes and filthy dirty mouth, the tongue speaks of what's in the heart.
Yes, have experienced thus too. As soon as I went no contact( which really really pissed the narc off) then she set out to destroy me any way she could. Thats when it got really dangerous!! Think about everything in advance because who once pretended to be your friend unveils and they are actually your worst nightmare ENEMY!!!!😮😮
I see narc people always take good sound sleep of 8-10 hours everyday. You will never see a narc being sleep deprived. That's how they take care of their memory & brain.
Many narcissists have problems sleeping. They either can't fall asleep without drugs, alcohol or sleeping pills. They nap during the day because they're tormented at night by all the demons in them.
Alzheimer's and senility expose the narc in every way. Loss of memory, loss of control over self and others, and just at a time when they need others the most they double down on driving them away. (I used to supervise caregivers, and done caregiving myself). They become some of the most wretched people to take care of. The relief of their passing is evident on their relatives faces if they even attend the funeral at all.
@@lamoon1525 Yes their lack of control over their ability to manage and direct their façade crumbles leaving only their empty disagreeable shell behind. It is shocking to witness.
Wouldn't it be so awful to be that person whose death brings relief to their loved ones?? They do it to themselves. My narcissistic sister is 61 yrs old and smokes like a chimney, plus has other health issues (whatever they are). My daughter, 2 nieces, and I talk about the relief we'll get when she's gone. She'll leave a horrible legacy and no one will miss her. I sound like a mean person but I'm really not. I don't feel that way about anyone else. Just her.
@Cindys.9688 I feel that way about my mother! I can't say I will be happy when she's gone because I'm a "bleeding heart but she is such a textbook narcissist. The family dynamic was my mother (narcissist) the martyr who is ALWAYS THE VICTIM, my sister as the golden child & I was the scapegoat that she blamed everything on! "My father stopped loving her when I was born...my fault!" She couldn't leave him because everytime she tried, I would run & tell him her plan & he would stop it (which is stupid cuz he was a long haul trucker & her main complaint was that he was never home! So all she would have to do would be to wait a day & he would be gone again. Also, everytime "she would leave. I would constantly cry & scream "for your DADDY!" She was about to leave him before I was born but got real sick & went to the Dr & found out she was pregnant with me, also my fault! She hid the fact that my sister was the result of an affair she had with a married man & that was my fault! When I was in kindergarten I used to have so much anxiety over my parents marriage that I started throwing up otw to school & she sent me to school with it on my shirt one day & they called her to come get me & take me to the Dr cuz I told them it happens everyday & it was a Christian school, when she picked me up & got me in the car she reaches behind the seat and started smacking all over the place. When we got to theDr, it turned out i wasnt faking like she swore up & down i was. But because i had stomach ulcers caused by anxiety & stress & i had to start taking a huge pill called carafate IN KINDERGARTEN BECAUSE I HAD SO MUCH ANXIETY & WORRY THAT MY STOMACH ACID WAS BURNING HOLES IN IT! Needless to say i started using drags at a very early age & by 16 i had a baby & by 17 i was a full fledged H addict & she put me out on the streets! My other sisters went down a similar road but she didn't put them out.or have them arrested like she did me. We were estranged for 25yrs and barely spoke pretty much the entire time. On my 40th bday I woke up out of a co.a with her in my face crying I didn't recognize her because I had amnesia &from being on life support & and I was braindead according to the drs & she was only there cuz she was my next of kin & legally they couldn't take me off the machines without my next of kin signing off on it. They had already tried twice & I couldn't breathe on my own & after the 2nd time they pretty much knew I would die shortly after so they needed her permission. Somehow, a few hrs before the agreed upon time, I woke up & tried to take myself off & pulled it out as far as I could & they had to restrain me. I had to open heart.Surgeries and learn how to do almost everything all over again as far as basic rudimentary things like swallowing etc. It was a long road but I made almost a full recovery but I do have very bad short tern memory loss & I have to take a ton of meds & I'm in constant pain, can't work etc. But I moved in with her so she could help me out but instead shes got me acting like her slave. She makes me run all of her errands & waiting on her hand & foot plus I have to pay her a little over half of what I get each month from disability pay for all the gas in her car because "I'm driving everywhere for her cuz she recently lost her license for medical reasons so her logic is that because im the one physically driving, "it's the least I can do." I have to buy her dogs food every month and I'm expected to (which I do) keep her entire house neat & clean (with all the work I do and running several places a day (for her, not me.i think that is more than enough payment for her letting me live at her house instead of being homeless and 100% fully disabled. She treats me so terribly all day long she picks at me & points outeverything she dislikes about me & how I don't do anything for her which is a joke.i do so much for her I don't even have time to do my own basic needs. She won't allow me to use the car that I have to put all the gas in unless it's for her. I can't even take it 10mins down the street to visit my daughter & grandchildren. When her husband (my stepfather) passed away, she gave all their kids $5,000 from his life insurance except for yours truly. I didn't get anything not even a dime ! All the others have the means to help themselves, they didn't need it, they're not disabled & they have cars that my parents gave them. Oh & did I mention they live with her too & have for their entire lives? Oh, and they were addicts also. We all struggled with addiction. And even though I'm coming up on 5yrs clean in march, she continues to accuse me of "not being right" (basically implying I'm still using or started again which is very hurtful to say the least) but when she does i tell her to prove herself right & go g a drug test kit & if she is right & I'm dirty that I will give her the cost of the test back. And then she can look down her nose at me for a reason & can prove that I'm a liar like she accuses me of being & call me a hypocrite & of not really having the integrity that I claim to value & cherish so much cuz for a long time, it was ALL that I had! But of course she never takes me up on it calling my bluff cuz she knows I'll pass it & she won't be able to use it as ammo anymore! Not to mention I get random UA's and atlease twice a month for sure & in almost 5 years of that, i have never once failed one! Anyway, so the whole point of all of this comment was to say that 2 days ago I was driving her all over town and she reaches over & outta nowhere, she attacks me & smacks my arm as hard as she can as I am literally trying to merge into heavy oncoming traffic!!! I'm a 46 year old grown woman . A disabled woman who has Chronic Congestive Heart Failure & has already undergone two open heart surgeries in the past 4yrs! I told her I would have her arrested if she ever puts her hands on me again. Not out of spite but because that's not normal or in any way okay! She used to tell me how terrible my husband was & he was such a pos & how "that's not love!" Now she's officially done everything he did & said how terrible he is & trash! I would move but I really can't cuz I don't have anywhere to go & I don't get enough disability to even get by now & I'm not even paying anywhere near what it would cost me to live on my own. And being so unhealthy, I can't just sleep in a tent somewhere & I don't have any friends cuz the only "friends" I had all are users! I'm just at a loss & most days all day I find myself thinking I wish I'd have died instead of lived
1.Memory Loss 2.Fear of You Developing a Strong Relationship With Their Children 3.Fear of Loss Of Sexual Appeal 4. Being Seen Through 5. Fear of People's Indifference
#5 is absolutely on point. Could not stand that i didn't care about their wealthy family and stopped going to all their "look how rich we are" parties. I'd drive separate and say, "you get 2 hours." I'd eat, play with the kids, then...well i gotta go let the dog out. See you at home.
So true. I was with the narc who was obsessed with working out and couldn't pass a mirror without looking in it for ages. He had so many mirrors, at least 5. He had to admire himself from every angle!
@@yamisomad3486 ~ If he was he'd probably have a cute personality, be sweet in a multitude of ways, and be hunky to boot. Obsessed with their health and looks?... maybe, but at a narcissistic level? I'd say 'no'. A narcissist is one at every level, not just surface. Gay men might just like to "look their look", to look nice, hair styled, clothes attractive and appropriate for the occasion (work, play, adventure, yard work, shopping, etc).
That's actually nauseating.🤢 Same for women who do that. I see that and think, "Really??!"😂 Seeing somebody like that I want, just to be annoying, to ask them with all seriousness, "Oh, did you WANT your hair to look like that today? It looks different." then, " No, it's fine. Really." They'd hate me. Haha! I wouldn't, but I'd like to, believe me!🥴
Oh, on the contrary with my mother. I woke her in the middle of a dream she thought was real and I received a dressing down and screaming fit over what she believed was true!! Even when I questioned her to the point she realized it was a dream, she got infuriated at me over THAT. Neither of the narcissists in my family have half my memory!!! I have THAT over them. My memory of abuse disturbs them greatly. I was blessed with a very sharp memory! Both a blessing and a curse.
@@melliehobson8299 It’s selective memory as seen through the lens of their narcissism and denial through their inability to self reflect ergo taking accountability. They are unaware of a lot of these defects☹️
Yes ever so grateful.a bit late but informative. Which you came sooner! My x husband shock in his boots from me at no.4. Because I stopped being scared, stopped arguing, putting in effort and finally could see through everything and disconnected completely and challenged him. Lol
I did find this to be insightful! Thank you for sharing your experiences! I believe that I've observed all five of these "pee their pants fears" 😂 There are those that would tell me that these observations are just my imagination! Thank you for your affirmation!
Wow! I truly became indifferent to my narcissist and he has now smeared my name saying I'm a drug addict and an alcoholic, that I've changed, and I'm delusional. To everybody they know! Now I'm in an ugly battle with the courts.
Mine caught me watching a narcissism video on UA-cam. Thought he was asleep for the night in the other room. Oh, the fun that ensued. Two and a half years covert narc hellscape but he’d never laid a hand on me. That UA-cam narc video night he chased me screaming through the house and up the stairs…he came close. Unmasking is dangerous.
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
The Marc I was with was the exact opposite. Constantly wanted sex while always playing mind games, gaslighting, demeaning, overtaking, invalidating, smearing me behind my back daily*.... But still wanted segs every single night. I finally closed down on him and he told everyone I was not being a good wife because of that
Of course, their tactic is to not be there when they are physically present. I see them grooming young women some times that way. They will sit next to her and then ignore her, taking space. Absolute scums. And when they do it , no one notices their game around.
@@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR yes, well, they adapt to your vocation, rhythm or personality (whatever it is) and then highjack the space of that vocation to do the opposite of fulfilling that vocation but to starve it. Any vocation they read and then screw with.. It is the ironic flip: taking space and making the other feel guilty for trying to commerce with them while they are in your commerce space; or alternatively, demanding engaging in commerce when you feel like sleeping or want peace or are unavailable for various legit reasons, and, when engaging in commerce, withdrawing emotionally from the person or putting on paces or rhythms that are off beat and unpleasant. Trauma is a means to stop rhythm, and stoppage of rhythm (breathing, heart beat etc…) is psychical spiritual death, or even outright death.
@@sfertonoc I was the extremely seggsual person it's actually all we had in common. The problem was, I stopped being attracted to him because if the inside of him. I think he found pleasure in wanting to have seggs while knowing I did not want to. Like he wanted to violate me to exert control
You have a very powerful angel.More you are created in the image of a great and awesome all powerful God who has a beautiful purpose and plan for your eternal life.This time here is temporary. To thine own heart be true.❤
OH geeez, you really hit the nail on the head with this one. My mother did the same thing to me with my father. Yes he was an alcoholic, and womanizer, but she drilled into me every single day how bad he was. She wanted a slave in her old age...and she got one. As a nurse, I am very empathetic, I can remember her having me promise her I would never put her in a nursing home...I committed to slavery ao she would love me. My dad was physically abusive, and she was mentally abusive. Nice video today My friend!
Someone want to ignore the narc but the problem not easy if you have children with a narc,they still meet him. You need to protect your children from get influences. Pray that God guide these children & help us to guide them Aameen
Yes this was different and insightful. I am this person who makes the narc "pee their pants" lol I related to everything you mentioned in this video. I left him last year and we have to co parent. You can imagine the tactics he used to get me back. I am currently in a situation where I have to be in his home to see my child and have pretty much over stayed my welcome to be there for my 6 yr old whether Narc likes it or not. H attempts to discard me again and again by telling me to leave, yet he needs me to care for my son while he's at work. He cannot stand my presence. Calls me evil and says I steal his peace because I see right through him. The jig is up lol
It sure changes the dynamic, doesn't it? You're "in control" without even trying, without fighting with him, without being confrontational, and without caring. Good job!
Been there done that....... Actually Narc Jr is an adult now and I am still living in this situation...... Nar Sr haha bday a while back.....Narc Jr gave him a 357 magnum knowing narc Sr is elderly and careless in his handling of guns..... I think Narc Jr wants Narc Sr to use it on me.......
@ petrifying, isn’t it????? Mine goes shooting all the time and leaves the target sheets lying around with all the holes in the head and the heart. They’re psychopaths!!!
He triggered me, did things to upset me time after time. I got very upset in our relationship, while it was a funny game for him. I was the perfect source of supply for him. I lost a lot of myself in the relationship, the great things about me. He had the control. I left him and found myself again, and when he no longer had the control I knew exactly how to behave towards him, the few times I encountered him, I was stable and I stopped giving him the reactions he craved. After a few encounters where he has behaved irrational, childish and entitled, it seems like he tries to run from me as fast as possible. I don’t take the bate any longer. I know the truth and it gives me stability.
the face expression when my father gave when I said you are as good as dead to me just made him sweat live i couldn't more happier plucking his nerve when he was in my nerves since childhood
Thank you soo much❤️i had a narascist friend of mine who had destroyed my everything,from studies to my personality everything but when in 12th grade i got so hurted and i left her she felt discarded and she kept hoovering me until one day came to my home after 3 years saying what just happens to you lets give it a try and all but accidentally seen her profile in my phone which i had saved(doogli friend) many years back and forget to delete it,at that exact moment she become so angry and felt so embarrassed and then tried to demean me again that i am like this not her,but her hoovering and taunting and demeaning kept me in guilt for 4 months in total i have cried and cried until i realised i am whole different person now, thats when i found your channel and started having deeper insights i am so thankful that there is someone like you spreading awareness about this.thank u again❤️ Plus can you make video on how to respond to hoovering??
Hi Danish, thankyou. Yes i believe the narc person knew i saw through them and began to devalue and distance me. It was a platonic relationship on my end but i believe he was wanting more, and could not handle the rejection.
Be careful exposing. They get kinda dangerous when they feel exposed. Calculate your steps, be patient, and wise with your next moves. Don't be too obvious, leaving discreetly is the safest way
Being a narcissist, they will of course insist that someone else came up and pissed in their pants - they certainly didn't!!! In fact, it was YOU. You pissed their pants. Why did YOU piss their pants??? HOW COULD YOU PEE THEM THIS WAY? Thank you for helping this to get out into the open. Yes, they claim to remember every thing that could possibly be made into a slight for their benefit. But you have to forget everything they ever said that could be even slightly negative.
Yes, I did get an impression that my father regarded my brother and I as his "slaves", it was as though he regarded us as a kind of investment. He treated us as though we were stealing his oxygen by living under his roof, but he repeatedly threatened to kill us if we tried to leave. We left anyway -- I decided that it would be better for him to kill me than the other way round. It turned out he wasn't willing to go to jail -- he'd been bluffing.
I have a relative who lost her son....I always thought she was a narcissist...when her son died...She literally said : " my son was my investment " I was shocked 😮..
Thank you, stepping into the indifferent stage( .noticed he glares hatefully, amped up digging for instructions, lovebombi g with food yet using up resources ,driving up utilizes bills depletewood for heatetc.....making statements like I have no money but boast about spending on big ticket item all the while destroying the things you rely on.
... oh Dang. I know this, like, ive lived it, but hearing it- up until how they act like a victim, living that still, I hadnt heard it explained like that in terms of slowly raising a servant. Thats machiavellianism. I've experienced it. Once I figured all that out with ONE person, it makes it very hard to trust. I'm incredibly sensitive now to any type of manipulation and i'm quick to just kind of like shut it off with them even if I have to be around them. It's such a distraction. And that's hard to balance with trying to not lose the part of me that loved people.
@@ElySmarty you can use it as your defense too by telling them they don't remember things right and to dismiss their gaslights n then start laughing, jk they usually threaten to kill you if you do that 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hahaha. My husband didn't eat the breakfast I served him because I appeared indifferent about his complaint. When he realised it, he started insulting and I showed I didn't even care. He couldn't face the truth so he left the scene. Truth scares them
I said "what? Are you talking about all those emails you sent. Just because you wrote it down doesn't mean its true", and he realized that 6 months of vindictive BS meant NOTHING. I saw his fear. He saw i saw. Havnt heard boo in a year.
I’m can definitely understand why anyone might enjoy being around young people. Because they are more active, vibrant, they still have that wonder about the world, especially little people, they are precious. And no, I’m not a narc and I don’t need to be around the young, it’s really a state of mind.
I met the Covert Narcissist again when she said she was interested in me. She told me about her breakup about a year ago and lied about how horrible her ex was (he wasn't) When I ignored her victim story and said I didn't remember anything about it, she freaked out and got angry..(I pretended i didn't remember her problems). Because i'm not really interested in that.
Hi, you have a lot of interesting points and very detailed analysis, which is very well articulated. However, I would ask you a question, wether your desire to explain and interpret everything is somehow related to your own interest in having complete "control", of the narrative!? Or is this unconscious perhaps!?
One Narcissist faked an emergency. ‚Quick send me my child to see me before I am no more,‘ he said. Why just the daughter and not the Son? We didn’t go there. I wouldn’t be manipulated. Later he mentioned that time again, asking why we didn’t come to him. I said, ‚well, you never mentioned in which hospital you were in…‘ He had a blank look on his face, because he hadn’t gone to a hospital, so he really didn’t have an emergency. I can only deal with reality but not with foolishness. I have no minutes free, for that.
They are proud for has excelent memory...they remember date, color of clothes, .any details. I used to give him a card with moments we shared and I wrote six things and he, the other six for me remember too ALL things that we've done. My memory isnt good.
My father wanted me to be with the narc because he needed me. I was supposed to deal with him and keep showing his place. I didn’t want him around so I got rid of him
Plz make avideo for wives of narcicest .going through a similar situation like urmother,s situation . So what do u think a mother should do indifferent from ur mothers behaviour.
I was only 5 years old when I Learned not to give my narcissistic mother the satisfaction of my emotions. I didn’t understand it at that time, however the skills we used to cope with a narcissistic parent often becomes something we need to unlearn as we get older
Perfect submission. Fear number 2 for me is really bad. Setting your children against you. Incase, you are separated and she has the children in her custody, how do you erase the impression from the children's mind
In the Army I worked with a new recruit child-woman, which is a natural narcissism that does not last when a woman goes maturing through relationships. One day after I saw her with some jacked dude at a shooting range, she proceeded to tell me at work that it was not “like I sleep with him or something, he is a friend”. Me being dum dum naive thinking we had a philosophical argument, simply told her jokingly that for jobs or for love, the quality time with the boss is more important than money or sex from him because it secures both, whereas the latter put first, you end up getting neither. She looked at me in an UTTER STATE OF FRIGHT and back away, would always avoid me after this, scared like in a panic. I had no idea what was going but this video has shed light on this definitely with the issue of the narc getting unmasked.
These are my narcissistic sister. She's truly sick in the head. She loves to use her memory to attack, but with remembrances that aren't exactly attacks, but the way she says them, they sound like an attack. Does that make sense?? For example, I can sincerely tell you, "I like your shirt." and say it in a normal tone of voice. You'd take it as a compliment. Or I can say it in a snide way, like, "I like your shirt." with a sarcastic tone of voice, maybe a roll of the eyes, and you'd naturally be insulted, and probably defensive. My sister does that with her remembrances. "You did such-and-such" in an accusatory way when it was something normal that she, unbelievably, wants to attack me with. Anyway, you know what I mean. Growing up in a narcissistic home, with a narcissistic mother and sister, was a nightmare. I was the main target and I got no help from anybody. I thank God for you, Danish, as you help all of us be aware and heal.
Unfortunately, yes they are. They manifest it in different ways, of course, depending on which of their traits serve them best to control their victims. Their relationship with their victims(s) is an important factor as their abuse towards that person will fit the script. Husband/Wife, Parent/Child, Roommate/Roommate, Sister/Brother, Sister/Sister, Brother/Brother, Worker/Boss, etc. You get the idea.
Its very hard to survive with narrc parents, one side you have bare too much pain and sufferings, on other hand people won't believe you if you share this with any one who doesn't knowledge the word narrc. And in society most of the people don't know these personalities existence. They don't even have idea of what we are talking about. Most of them will try to covince you by tell you "she is your Mother / Father how can you say something like this its very bad to hear this from you" and so on.... Its very tough very touch. Sometimes i feel lack of zeal of life. Fed-up too much.
My narc knew I was indifferent towards him as I wanted to stay in the marriage but didn't care for him. He would break study tables for attention. It didn't scare me as I wanted to stay in the marriage.
I used to ask Ex why he cared about mundane things and remembering them. I didn't know in the beginning to claim superiority. Young people can learn from our experiences that these people who hold us to little things are upto no good and walk away and nip the relationship in it's bud itself
I don’t know if I am the narcissist or if some of my family members are??! But something is wrong. How can I know for real?? I have grown children that seem to spend more time being mad at me and not speaking and they never tell me exactly what I have done that caused the problem. It’s always generalized excuses of past problems. They leave me bewildered and wondering if I must be nuts!!! I always used to always be the first one to try to make amends for something I am not aware of. The butt kisser! Well, the last time they pulled this I have built some boundaries. I have left them alone. Neither holidays nor any other occasion do I contact them anymore. This has been 3 yrs now since we’ve spoken because I haven’t reached out this last time. But I am so tired of feeling rejected, disrespected and honestly I can’t do this with them anymore. I turn 70 on 17th of Nov. I just want to be happy, preferably with my family but not willing to keep being jerked about. Deeply hurt!
As a psychological professional I diagnosed my son as a narcissist he was 40 at the time and he would scream how much he hates me. You helped confirm my diagnosis and prognosis and he died one year ago leaving four kids 29 27,25 ,23 years old. He was always self-centered after 18 years old.
They will be avoidant with people who are the same narcissistic, but they fear of authentic people cus they are afraid their lies and manipulations will be revealed 😊
Omg yes,narc ex friend actually ran from a shop making excuses about her dog being in the car when we accidentally ran into each other.By that point she knew that i knew who she was as i had previously tried (in vain) to speak to her about the way she treated me.
This is what my narcissist boyfriend did to me yesterday. He keeps remembering things that happened years ago. We had a big argument 😢 and pulled a knife and threatened to cut me in the face and smashed my phone he even held on my phone and put it in his pocket
Csll tve police and file a charge AFTER you found a safe place to go. Call your local woman shflter. Make sure they only take in biological women, otherwise he can send a friend / flying monkey to come in and harm you. It has happened in my town.
I told them i see through them even it block me everywhere by having some friends helping me I gave them time to apologies it didn't At last i exposed it to its family members and it disappeared into thin air Never to be found😂
When they realize that you know who they really are and that all game over… they may become very dangerous. Their biggest fear is exposed and they don’t have place to hide behind no mask. Then they attack like wild animals. The outcome may be not safe. So be sure to stay totally away from them because their revenge may be life threatening. You need to leave them drown in their own poison. No words, no arguments, no truth telling or silence. Just leave. Safe yourself. That’s my advice from my own experience.
@@alionamarina7061 I've seen the wild animal come out, the roaring lion, the fiery dragon, the dark evil in the eyes and filthy dirty mouth, the tongue speaks of what's in the heart.
so true
My bro is spiteful. Our own Mother said that.
Yes, have experienced thus too. As soon as I went no contact( which really really pissed the narc off) then she set out to destroy me any way she could. Thats when it got really dangerous!! Think about everything in advance because who once pretended to be your friend unveils and they are actually your worst nightmare ENEMY!!!!😮😮
I wish I could leave, but I can't afford to.
The last point - Indifference .... That's what kills them !!!
Narcissists are monsters they rumble and roar, stomp, and cry loudly like a storm, giant babies that disrupt peace in this world.
Heal and move on and be happy. There are still good people out there. Best revenge. And let God deal with them ❤
I see narc people always take good sound sleep of 8-10 hours everyday. You will never see a narc being sleep deprived. That's how they take care of their memory & brain.
Many narcissists have problems sleeping. They either can't fall asleep without drugs, alcohol or sleeping pills. They nap during the day because they're tormented at night by all the demons in them.
You are spot on. You are right about their fears on aging.
Alzheimer's and senility expose the narc in every way. Loss of memory, loss of control over self and others, and just at a time when they need others the most they double down on driving them away. (I used to supervise caregivers, and done caregiving myself). They become some of the most wretched people to take care of. The relief of their passing is evident on their relatives faces if they even attend the funeral at all.
@@lamoon1525 Yes their lack of control over their ability to manage and direct their façade crumbles leaving only their empty disagreeable shell behind. It is shocking to witness.
Wouldn't it be so awful to be that person whose death brings relief to their loved ones?? They do it to themselves.
My narcissistic sister is 61 yrs old and smokes like a chimney, plus has other health issues (whatever they are). My daughter, 2 nieces, and I talk about the relief we'll get when she's gone. She'll leave a horrible legacy and no one will miss her. I sound like a mean person but I'm really not. I don't feel that way about anyone else. Just her.
FACT. MOM IS WICKED. FAKES TO ALL BUT ME. SHES GOT THE MONEY. I ALWAYS THOUGHT SHE WAS KIND ITS WHY IM SO KIND. SHES WRETCHED DOWN DEEP .UNBELIEVABLE
@Cindys.9688 I feel that way about my mother!
I can't say I will be happy when she's gone because I'm a "bleeding heart but she is such a textbook narcissist.
The family dynamic was my mother (narcissist) the martyr who is ALWAYS THE VICTIM, my sister as the golden child & I was the scapegoat that she blamed everything on!
"My father stopped loving her when I was born...my fault!" She couldn't leave him because everytime she tried, I would run & tell him her plan & he would stop it (which is stupid cuz he was a long haul trucker & her main complaint was that he was never home! So all she would have to do would be to wait a day & he would be gone again. Also, everytime "she would leave. I would constantly cry & scream "for your DADDY!"
She was about to leave him before I was born but got real sick & went to the Dr & found out she was pregnant with me, also my fault!
She hid the fact that my sister was the result of an affair she had with a married man & that was my fault!
When I was in kindergarten I used to have so much anxiety over my parents marriage that I started throwing up otw to school & she sent me to school with it on my shirt one day & they called her to come get me & take me to the Dr cuz I told them it happens everyday & it was a Christian school, when she picked me up & got me in the car she reaches behind the seat and started smacking all over the place. When we got to theDr, it turned out i wasnt faking like she swore up & down i was. But because i had stomach ulcers caused by anxiety & stress & i had to start taking a huge pill called carafate IN KINDERGARTEN BECAUSE I HAD SO MUCH ANXIETY & WORRY THAT MY STOMACH ACID WAS BURNING HOLES IN IT!
Needless to say i started using drags at a very early age & by 16 i had a baby & by 17 i was a full fledged H addict & she put me out on the streets! My other sisters went down a similar road but she didn't put them out.or have them arrested like she did me.
We were estranged for 25yrs and barely spoke pretty much the entire time.
On my 40th bday I woke up out of a co.a with her in my face crying I didn't recognize her because I had amnesia &from being on life support & and I was braindead according to the drs & she was only there cuz she was my next of kin & legally they couldn't take me off the machines without my next of kin signing off on it. They had already tried twice & I couldn't breathe on my own & after the 2nd time they pretty much knew I would die shortly after so they needed her permission.
Somehow, a few hrs before the agreed upon time, I woke up & tried to take myself off & pulled it out as far as I could & they had to restrain me. I had to open heart.Surgeries and learn how to do almost everything all over again as far as basic rudimentary things like swallowing etc. It was a long road but I made almost a full recovery but I do have very bad short tern memory loss & I have to take a ton of meds & I'm in constant pain, can't work etc.
But I moved in with her so she could help me out but instead shes got me acting like her slave. She makes me run all of her errands & waiting on her hand & foot plus I have to pay her a little over half of what I get each month from disability pay for all the gas in her car because "I'm driving everywhere for her cuz she recently lost her license for medical reasons so her logic is that because im the one physically driving, "it's the least I can do."
I have to buy her dogs food every month and I'm expected to (which I do) keep her entire house neat & clean (with all the work I do and running several places a day (for her, not me.i think that is more than enough payment for her letting me live at her house instead of being homeless and 100% fully disabled.
She treats me so terribly all day long she picks at me & points outeverything she dislikes about me & how I don't do anything for her which is a joke.i do so much for her I don't even have time to do my own basic needs. She won't allow me to use the car that I have to put all the gas in unless it's for her. I can't even take it 10mins down the street to visit my daughter & grandchildren.
When her husband (my stepfather) passed away, she gave all their kids $5,000 from his life insurance except for yours truly.
I didn't get anything not even a dime ! All the others have the means to help themselves, they didn't need it, they're not disabled & they have cars that my parents gave them. Oh & did I mention they live with her too & have for their entire lives? Oh, and they were addicts also. We all struggled with addiction. And even though I'm coming up on 5yrs clean in march, she continues to accuse me of "not being right" (basically implying I'm still using or started again which is very hurtful to say the least) but when she does i tell her to prove herself right & go g a drug test kit & if she is right & I'm dirty that I will give her the cost of the test back. And then she can look down her nose at me for a reason & can prove that I'm a liar like she accuses me of being & call me a hypocrite & of not really having the integrity that I claim to value & cherish so much cuz for a long time, it was ALL that I had!
But of course she never takes me up on it calling my bluff cuz she knows I'll pass it & she won't be able to use it as ammo anymore!
Not to mention I get random UA's and atlease twice a month for sure & in almost 5 years of that, i have never once failed one!
Anyway, so the whole point of all of this comment was to say that 2 days ago I was driving her all over town and she reaches over & outta nowhere, she attacks me & smacks my arm as hard as she can as I am literally trying to merge into heavy oncoming traffic!!!
I'm a 46 year old grown woman .
A disabled woman who has Chronic Congestive Heart Failure & has already undergone two open heart surgeries in the past 4yrs!
I told her I would have her arrested if she ever puts her hands on me again. Not out of spite but because that's not normal or in any way okay!
She used to tell me how terrible my husband was & he was such a pos & how "that's not love!"
Now she's officially done everything he did & said how terrible he is & trash!
I would move but I really can't cuz I don't have anywhere to go & I don't get enough disability to even get by now & I'm not even paying anywhere near what it would cost me to live on my own.
And being so unhealthy, I can't just sleep in a tent somewhere & I don't have any friends cuz the only "friends" I had all are users!
I'm just at a loss & most days all day I find myself thinking I wish I'd have died instead of lived
1.Memory Loss
2.Fear of You Developing a Strong Relationship With Their Children
3.Fear of Loss Of Sexual Appeal
4. Being Seen Through
5. Fear of People's Indifference
Question what's causing the memory loss if they get good sleep? I believe you I just want to understand.
#5 is absolutely on point. Could not stand that i didn't care about their wealthy family and stopped going to all their "look how rich we are" parties. I'd drive separate and say, "you get 2 hours." I'd eat, play with the kids, then...well i gotta go let the dog out. See you at home.
This looks funny but has a sign of Intelligence on how to deal with their s**t 😂😂😂
So true. I was with the narc who was obsessed with working out and couldn't pass a mirror without looking in it for ages. He had so many mirrors, at least 5. He had to admire himself from every angle!
Is he gay?
@@yamisomad3486 ~ If he was he'd probably have a cute personality, be sweet in a multitude of ways, and be hunky to boot. Obsessed with their health and looks?... maybe, but at a narcissistic level? I'd say 'no'. A narcissist is one at every level, not just surface. Gay men might just like to "look their look", to look nice, hair styled, clothes attractive and appropriate for the occasion (work, play, adventure, yard work, shopping, etc).
That's actually nauseating.🤢 Same for women who do that. I see that and think, "Really??!"😂
Seeing somebody like that I want, just to be annoying, to ask them with all seriousness, "Oh, did you WANT your hair to look like that today? It looks different." then, " No, it's fine. Really." They'd hate me. Haha! I wouldn't, but I'd like to, believe me!🥴
So crazy that these people exist on the earth
The narcisist is an evil energy being and they are being destroyed by love, truth, life and peace.
Oh, on the contrary with my mother. I woke her in the middle of a dream she thought was real and I received a dressing down and screaming fit over what she believed was true!! Even when I questioned her to the point she realized it was a dream, she got infuriated at me over THAT. Neither of the narcissists in my family have half my memory!!! I have THAT over them. My memory of abuse disturbs them greatly. I was blessed with a very sharp memory! Both a blessing and a curse.
@@melliehobson8299 It’s selective memory as seen through the lens of their narcissism and denial through their inability to self reflect ergo taking accountability. They are unaware of a lot of these defects☹️
🎯🎯 my ex husband!
I learn these things too late but gives me a lot of clearance about who I was and AM as a person.
Ever so grateful! 🙏🏻❤
Yes ever so grateful.a bit late but informative. Which you came sooner! My x husband shock in his boots from me at no.4. Because I stopped being scared, stopped arguing, putting in effort and finally could see through everything and disconnected completely and challenged him. Lol
I did find this to be insightful! Thank you for sharing your experiences! I believe that I've observed all five of these "pee their pants fears" 😂 There are those that would tell me that these observations are just my imagination! Thank you for your affirmation!
OMG this is my mother and my daughter. This answers so many questions. wow.I have been going through hell.Thank you so much.
Same here my dear , unfortunately world is full of toxic people, thank you danish for enlightening us
Wow! I truly became indifferent to my narcissist and he has now smeared my name saying I'm a drug addict and an alcoholic, that I've changed, and I'm delusional. To everybody they know! Now I'm in an ugly battle with the courts.
Thank you! This is exactly what I've been going through but it seems too crazy to explain. I appreciate you.
Mine caught me watching a narcissism video on UA-cam. Thought he was asleep for the night in the other room. Oh, the fun that ensued. Two and a half years covert narc hellscape but he’d never laid a hand on me. That UA-cam narc video night he chased me screaming through the house and up the stairs…he came close. Unmasking is dangerous.
So they do know! Glad he didn't get you. Stay safe!
I'm experiencing no 5 with my narc husband at the moment. What a relieve to know I am not alone, thank you
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
The Marc I was with was the exact opposite. Constantly wanted sex while always playing mind games, gaslighting, demeaning, overtaking, invalidating, smearing me behind my back daily*.... But still wanted segs every single night. I finally closed down on him and he told everyone I was not being a good wife because of that
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Of course, their tactic is to not be there when they are physically present. I see them grooming young women some times that way. They will sit next to her and then ignore her, taking space. Absolute scums. And when they do it , no one notices their game around.
@@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR yes, well, they adapt to your vocation, rhythm or personality (whatever it is) and then highjack the space of that vocation to do the opposite of fulfilling that vocation but to starve it. Any vocation they read and then screw with.. It is the ironic flip: taking space and making the other feel guilty for trying to commerce with them while they are in your commerce space; or alternatively, demanding engaging in commerce when you feel like sleeping or want peace or are unavailable for various legit reasons, and, when engaging in commerce, withdrawing emotionally from the person or putting on paces or rhythms that are off beat and unpleasant. Trauma is a means to stop rhythm, and stoppage of rhythm (breathing, heart beat etc…) is psychical spiritual death, or even outright death.
@@sfertonoc I was the extremely seggsual person it's actually all we had in common. The problem was, I stopped being attracted to him because if the inside of him. I think he found pleasure in wanting to have seggs while knowing I did not want to. Like he wanted to violate me to exert control
I am surrounded by these diabolical predators.
You have a very powerful angel.More you are created in the image of a great and awesome all powerful God who has a beautiful purpose and plan for your eternal life.This time here is temporary. To thine own heart be true.❤
OH geeez, you really hit the nail on the head with this one.
My mother did the same thing to me with my father. Yes he was an alcoholic, and womanizer, but she drilled into me every single day how bad he was. She wanted a slave in her old age...and she got one. As a nurse, I am very empathetic, I can remember her having me promise her I would never put her in a nursing home...I committed to slavery ao she would love me. My dad was physically abusive, and she was mentally abusive.
Nice video today My friend!
Someone want to ignore the narc but the problem not easy if you have children with a narc,they still meet him. You need to protect your children from get influences. Pray that God guide these children & help us to guide them Aameen
Stay single ❤
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AMEN !!!
IVE DONE THE SAME !!!
WHAT A PEACE I FOUND..... AAAAAHHHHHHH😊😊😊
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Such a great video Danish (one of many!) Thank you❤
This is why narcissists try really really hard to damage their victims brains I believe.
Yes in this way they get full control of the victim
Well I hate is they say stuff that pushes the buttons and then they blame it on the other person's illness.
Yes this was different and insightful. I am this person who makes the narc "pee their pants" lol I related to everything you mentioned in this video. I left him last year and we have to co parent. You can imagine the tactics he used to get me back. I am currently in a situation where I have to be in his home to see my child and have pretty much over stayed my welcome to be there for my 6 yr old whether Narc likes it or not. H attempts to discard me again and again by telling me to leave, yet he needs me to care for my son while he's at work. He cannot stand my presence. Calls me evil and says I steal his peace because I see right through him. The jig is up lol
Take your son and leave
It sure changes the dynamic, doesn't it? You're "in control" without even trying, without fighting with him, without being confrontational, and without caring. Good job!
Whether we see through them or know everything they are doing, they never stop smeer campaigning against their targets.
Parental alienation!! Narc Sr makes Narc Jr. absolutely gut wrenching nightmare!!
Been there done that....... Actually Narc Jr is an adult now and I am still living in this situation...... Nar Sr haha bday a while back.....Narc Jr gave him a 357 magnum knowing narc Sr is elderly and careless in his handling of guns..... I think Narc Jr wants Narc Sr to use it on me.......
@ petrifying, isn’t it????? Mine goes shooting all the time and leaves the target sheets lying around with all the holes in the head and the heart. They’re psychopaths!!!
@@warriormom5843Great description word you used: horrifying..... so so true😢
How true you are Danish. Esp. the second point about closeness to children. Salute you.
He triggered me, did things to upset me time after time. I got very upset in our relationship, while it was a funny game for him. I was the perfect source of supply for him. I lost a lot of myself in the relationship, the great things about me. He had the control. I left him and found myself again, and when he no longer had the control I knew exactly how to behave towards him, the few times I encountered him, I was stable and I stopped giving him the reactions he craved. After a few encounters where he has behaved irrational, childish and entitled, it seems like he tries to run from me as fast as possible. I don’t take the bate any longer. I know the truth and it gives me stability.
the face expression when my father gave when I said you are as good as dead to me just made him sweat live i couldn't more happier plucking his nerve when he was in my nerves since childhood
Thank you soo much❤️i had a narascist friend of mine who had destroyed my everything,from studies to my personality everything but when in 12th grade i got so hurted and i left her she felt discarded and she kept hoovering me until one day came to my home after 3 years saying what just happens to you lets give it a try and all but accidentally seen her profile in my phone which i had saved(doogli friend) many years back and forget to delete it,at that exact moment she become so angry and felt so embarrassed and then tried to demean me again that i am like this not her,but her hoovering and taunting and demeaning kept me in guilt for 4 months in total i have cried and cried until i realised i am whole different person now, thats when i found your channel and started having deeper insights i am so thankful that there is someone like you spreading awareness about this.thank u again❤️
Plus can you make video on how to respond to hoovering??
Hi Danish, thankyou. Yes i believe the narc person knew i saw through them and began to devalue and distance me. It was a platonic relationship on my end but i believe he was wanting more, and could not handle the rejection.
Yes that's me 😅 recently I showed him who's he and I'm going to expose him soon after being abused by narc for forty years
Be careful exposing. They get kinda dangerous when they feel exposed. Calculate your steps, be patient, and wise with your next moves. Don't be too obvious, leaving discreetly is the safest way
Being a narcissist, they will of course insist that someone else came up and pissed in their pants - they certainly didn't!!! In fact, it was YOU. You pissed their pants.
Why did YOU piss their pants??? HOW COULD YOU PEE THEM THIS WAY?
Thank you for helping this to get out into the open. Yes, they claim to remember every thing that could possibly be made into a slight for their benefit. But you have to forget everything they ever said that could be even slightly negative.
You're so right!🙂 Funny, and right!😂
Perfectly said that’s it in a nutshell!
Hahahaha 😂 that is so true. You little wizzer! Enjoy life my friend. 😊
Yes, I did get an impression that my father regarded my brother and I as his "slaves", it was as though he regarded us as a kind of investment. He treated us as though we were stealing his oxygen by living under his roof, but he repeatedly threatened to kill us if we tried to leave. We left anyway -- I decided that it would be better for him to kill me than the other way round. It turned out he wasn't willing to go to jail -- he'd been bluffing.
Bro!! Is that you!??! 🤔
I have a relative who lost her son....I always thought she was a narcissist...when her son died...She literally said : " my son was my investment " I was shocked 😮..
Thank you, stepping into the indifferent stage( .noticed he glares hatefully, amped up digging for instructions, lovebombi g with food yet using up resources ,driving up utilizes bills depletewood for heatetc.....making statements like I have no money but boast about spending on big ticket item all the while destroying the things you rely on.
11:28 True. They have an Extra " sense". They know if it's for real or fake or temporary.
I Was 13 when I choosed to never sate.
I spared myself from a lot if Drama and pain.
And surely several male Narcicissts.
Thats true they run away the moment ur quiet n ignore their fights.danish bhai each n every word of yours is experienced with me.pls pray for me
Really Danish
You are great healer
God bless you😊
Prayers and hugs
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Dang. I know this, like, ive lived it, but hearing it- up until how they act like a victim, living that still, I hadnt heard it explained like that in terms of slowly raising a servant. Thats machiavellianism. I've experienced it. Once I figured all that out with ONE person, it makes it very hard to trust.
I'm incredibly sensitive now to any type of manipulation and i'm quick to just kind of like shut it off with them even if I have to be around them. It's such a distraction. And that's hard to balance with trying to not lose the part of me that loved people.
Memory... my covert narc ex- husband's was bad when he wanted it to be...
That is a defense strategy
@@ElySmarty you can use it as your defense too by telling them they don't remember things right and to dismiss their gaslights n then start laughing, jk they usually threaten to kill you if you do that 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hahaha. My husband didn't eat the breakfast I served him because I appeared indifferent about his complaint. When he realised it, he started insulting and I showed I didn't even care. He couldn't face the truth so he left the scene. Truth scares them
This is very informative & enlightening! I really enjoyed this one! Thank you.
Thank you danish for sharing this video. It was helpful.
Thank you very much. Very insightful.
Και τα 5 ειναι οπως τα λες!!!ΜΠΡΑΒΟ!!!
I said "what? Are you talking about all those emails you sent. Just because you wrote it down doesn't mean its true", and he realized that 6 months of vindictive BS meant NOTHING. I saw his fear. He saw i saw. Havnt heard boo in a year.
That's awesome! All it took, basically, was one confrontation and *POOF!*, gone. Congratulations!🥳
@cindys.9688 as always its not quite so simple . And im sure its probably not over. But the emails stopped
I remember very well her saying she likes to be around young people as it makes her look and feel younger? How ridiculous! Grow up! We had our time.
I’m can definitely understand why anyone might enjoy being around young people. Because they are more active, vibrant, they still have that wonder about the world, especially little people, they are precious. And no, I’m not a narc and I don’t need to be around the young, it’s really a state of mind.
They always stay or go around with 3 or 4 people who will do what she says, they can't sit alone at all. 😅
I met the Covert Narcissist again when she said she was interested in me. She told me about her breakup about a year ago and lied about how horrible her ex was (he wasn't) When I ignored her victim story and said I didn't remember anything about it, she freaked out and got angry..(I pretended i didn't remember her problems). Because i'm not really interested in that.
Merci Danish. Tu m'aides à mieux comprendre ce que j'ai traversé.
Love this ... as usual. Thank u Danish for all these ❤ 😊
Yep, he came at my work place litterally shaking. Got nothing from me.
This one was the best thank you🎉❤😮😢🎉
Oh my god.
Number 1 started andd i am 😢
Yes. That's me. Thats why they have been scapegoating me for a decade.
My narcissistic son ended these affairs after three baby mama breakups.
Regarding memory loss - Now they can't hold us to our mistakes and things we say to outlet steam.
True! Narcs are so superficial!
Hi, you have a lot of interesting points and very detailed analysis, which is very well articulated. However, I would ask you a question, wether your desire to explain and interpret everything is somehow related to your own interest in having complete "control", of the narrative!? Or is this unconscious perhaps!?
My ex wife was very threatened by the close relationship I had with out children...even when we were still together...
One Narcissist faked an emergency. ‚Quick send me my child to see me before I am no more,‘ he said. Why just the daughter and not the Son? We didn’t go there. I wouldn’t be manipulated. Later he mentioned that time again, asking why we didn’t come to him. I said, ‚well, you never mentioned in which hospital you were in…‘ He had a blank look on his face, because he hadn’t gone to a hospital, so he really didn’t have an emergency. I can only deal with reality but not with foolishness. I have no minutes free, for that.
They are proud for has excelent memory...they remember date, color of clothes, .any details. I used to give him a card with moments we shared and I wrote six things and he, the other six for me remember too ALL things that we've done. My memory isnt good.
My father wanted me to be with the narc because he needed me. I was supposed to deal with him and keep showing his place. I didn’t want him around so I got rid of him
Plz make avideo for wives of narcicest .going through a similar situation like urmother,s situation .
So what do u think a mother should do indifferent from ur mothers behaviour.
Absolutely brilliant!
My husband did this indirectly through body language, big chip on his shoulder, the man as it were and the contorted facial expressions.
I’d love to see a movie made based on your family Danish.
Healing thank you
I was only 5 years old when I Learned not to give my narcissistic mother the satisfaction of my emotions. I didn’t understand it at that time, however the skills we used to cope with a narcissistic parent often becomes something we need to unlearn as we get older
Perfect submission. Fear number 2 for me is really bad. Setting your children against you. Incase, you are separated and she has the children in her custody, how do you erase the impression from the children's mind
In the Army I worked with a new recruit child-woman, which is a natural narcissism that does not last when a woman goes maturing through relationships. One day after I saw her with some jacked dude at a shooting range, she proceeded to tell me at work that it was not “like I sleep with him or something, he is a friend”. Me being dum dum naive thinking we had a philosophical argument, simply told her jokingly that for jobs or for love, the quality time with the boss is more important than money or sex from him because it secures both, whereas the latter put first, you end up getting neither. She looked at me in an UTTER STATE OF FRIGHT and back away, would always avoid me after this, scared like in a panic. I had no idea what was going but this video has shed light on this definitely with the issue of the narc getting unmasked.
These are my narcissistic sister. She's truly sick in the head. She loves to use her memory to attack, but with remembrances that aren't exactly attacks, but the way she says them, they sound like an attack. Does that make sense??
For example, I can sincerely tell you, "I like your shirt." and say it in a normal tone of voice. You'd take it as a compliment. Or I can say it in a snide way, like, "I like your shirt." with a sarcastic tone of voice, maybe a roll of the eyes, and you'd naturally be insulted, and probably defensive. My sister does that with her remembrances. "You did such-and-such" in an accusatory way when it was something normal that she, unbelievably, wants to attack me with. Anyway, you know what I mean. Growing up in a narcissistic home, with a narcissistic mother and sister, was a nightmare. I was the main target and I got no help from anybody. I thank God for you, Danish, as you help all of us be aware and heal.
Thank you Danish all true!
oh you really get in there lol , yes when you finally realize they are really just so insecure
I had roommate, I ended up with counseling 😢
Are they ALL bullies? Cuz whew....DV/SA/the list goes on.
Unfortunately, yes they are. They manifest it in different ways, of course, depending on which of their traits serve them best to control their victims. Their relationship with their victims(s) is an important factor as their abuse towards that person will fit the script. Husband/Wife, Parent/Child, Roommate/Roommate, Sister/Brother, Sister/Sister, Brother/Brother, Worker/Boss, etc. You get the idea.
Nr 4>It s perfectly accurate/Nr.5 indifference!😅...I know this is what kills them!
Sounds like ALL major American media... haha
I just want to heal from these narcs around. I don't want them to exist. Please let me know if you do healing sessions
Pls sir hindi video bhi daily upload kare thx for your efferts
Its very hard to survive with narrc parents, one side you have bare too much pain and sufferings, on other hand people won't believe you if you share this with any one who doesn't knowledge the word narrc. And in society most of the people don't know these personalities existence. They don't even have idea of what we are talking about. Most of them will try to covince you by tell you "she is your Mother / Father how can you say something like this its very bad to hear this from you" and so on.... Its very tough very touch. Sometimes i feel lack of zeal of life. Fed-up too much.
My narc knew I was indifferent towards him as I wanted to stay in the marriage but didn't care for him. He would break study tables for attention. It didn't scare me as I wanted to stay in the marriage.
I used to ask Ex why he cared about mundane things and remembering them. I didn't know in the beginning to claim superiority. Young people can learn from our experiences that these people who hold us to little things are upto no good and walk away and nip the relationship in it's bud itself
I don’t know if I am the narcissist or if some of my family members are??! But something is wrong. How can I know for real??
I have grown children that seem to spend more time being mad at me and not speaking and they never tell me exactly what I have done that caused the problem. It’s always generalized excuses of past problems. They leave me bewildered and wondering if I must be nuts!!! I always used to always be the first one to try to make amends for something I am not aware of. The butt kisser! Well, the last time they pulled this I have built some boundaries. I have left them alone. Neither holidays nor any other occasion do I contact them anymore. This has been 3 yrs now since we’ve spoken because I haven’t reached out this last time. But I am so tired of feeling rejected, disrespected and honestly I can’t do this with them anymore. I turn 70 on 17th of Nov. I just want to be happy, preferably with my family but not willing to keep being jerked about. Deeply hurt!
Thank u for info god bless u
Very very true
As a psychological professional I diagnosed my son as a narcissist he was 40 at the time and he would scream how much he hates me. You helped confirm my diagnosis and prognosis and he died one year ago leaving four kids 29 27,25 ,23 years old. He was always self-centered after 18 years old.
@@Earthlywings oh wow, sorry to hear that- a son should never say those hurtful words to a mother.
May I ask was he your only child?
Do you have no shame? Do you think ANY of that is believable? Your "son" was the narcissist? Sure....sure he was omfg
Why would he scream that he hates you?
I am sorry... cruelty breeds cruelty..
Who was the narcissistic parent?
They will be avoidant with people who are the same narcissistic, but they fear of authentic people cus they are afraid their lies and manipulations will be revealed 😊
Pls talk about EXIT ways that doesn't have U turn
Omg, whole families? Mine just lies & believes it
It is like being in existence is a crime since they were exposed before me
Omg yes,narc ex friend actually ran from a shop making excuses about her dog being in the car when we accidentally ran into each other.By that point she knew that i knew who she was as i had previously tried (in vain) to speak to her about the way she treated me.
It’s being exposed and for others to see the real person.
How does a narcissist know that you are gray rocking or withholding emotion?
When there is no more "juice"
This is what my narcissist boyfriend did to me yesterday. He keeps remembering things that happened years ago. We had a big argument 😢 and pulled a knife and threatened to cut me in the face and smashed my phone he even held on my phone and put it in his pocket
Very dangerous… carefully carefully plan your exit …
Csll tve police and file a charge AFTER you found a safe place to go.
Call your local woman shflter.
Make sure they only take in biological women, otherwise he can send a friend / flying monkey to come in and harm you. It has happened in my town.
I told them i see through them even it block me everywhere by having some friends helping me
I gave them time to apologies it didn't
At last i exposed it to its family members and it disappeared into thin air
Never to be found😂