This is the problem I have with Matthew Hussey. He is so focused on the ideal that he almost can't see the reality of most peoples relationships, and that is most people are fearful, vindictive, and selfish and would rather avoid these conversations and cheat, because its easier. Its not ideal, but its the reality. I really like how Sadia makes that clear.
exactly: whats more is I like that she's just factual and logical, no judgement about "the ideal" or what your doing. She's just focused on "X works, so do as I say"
I don't see any problem with Matthew. He's asking good questions which leads to more discussion. "Most people are like that" is not a good way to think. Humans are complex and each person's situation is unique and cheating is not like a decision spontaneously made in the moment.
People get into things (relationships, Jobs, etc) situations that they really didn't expect and then they realize they don't have the tools/knowledge to get out, so they find ways to cope until they find something better. That goes for any job, career, relationship, friendship, investments etc. Few People actually know how to be completely honest with themselves and their lives and relationships, because they are dependent on the person or job/career etc. finances, support, companonship etc. the they are in relationship.
Honestly with the divorce rate so high, why bother? Furthermore, The Family dynamic has been thoroughly eroded with both parents working and other people bringing up the children. It’s a hot mess.
I've been saying this. There should be at least one parent at home, preferably the woman. She is the nurturer and the person who brings that warmth to the home.
I love ur videos. I watch often and i see how difficult it is sometimes. U have men and women hostile to u and ur ideas so often. In defensive. Please dont stop . U showing clearly and with beautiful feminine grace the flaws of both genders
" human nature is flawed ". Thanks Sadia for confirming what we Christian's call "original sin", which Islam denies about flawed human nature with their " fitrah".
Islam recoginses that every single person commits sins. Not one person is free from it. Fitra on the other hand means something else. It is the natural and innate belief that we have been created from one God. So I think there is a misunderstanding what fitra means. And you're right, we don't believe in the concept of the original sin
If you are going to make such a statement, I think you should do a little bit more research (a 2min google search would have been sufficient). Otherwise it can be quite embarrassing for you, like now 😅
I think the men they are referring to are the top 10% percent men, i.e., the 6 figures, 6 ft, etc. I dont think the average blue-collar worker thinks like the men they're describing here.
7.00 minutes.😊 It's so cute how she gets tongue-tied. I guess that she has to work very hard to help her clients and create online content 💪🏼. Sadia Khan, you are a true gem.🎉
I disagree on Sadias Position. Poor Communication will defenetly end in a failing marriage but and thats the important Part it only Leads to cheating if one Person doesn‘t has faithulness in his Moral Compas. If Both are faithul They will just have both a Long miserable time instead of either trying to work things out or seperate.
I am a male and got married 23 she was 33. I was a male model on academic scholarship dates many women..toooooo many.. Been loyal to each other for over 35 years. Both people need to give in the 90% range... 50 50 will not cut it... I needed to explain to my wife what I needed and what I wanted.. she understood the trade offs I did make... We always looked for a win win.
This is why i walk away when i see that behaviour. I wont compromise myself if they want to live a double life. No matter how much i love them, I will walk away if the show that. I follow my own morality not the morality of others. And i will not compromise my own morality for others.
Honestly being the type of girl thay attracts many men because of my looks, I experience the reality of the male gaze, cheatng tendencies, and everything that touches and crosses the line. This is about 75 percent of men I come across who are in relationships or marraiges. Makes you realize you must trust your partner.
6:05 yeah because why else are we marrying you? Because of that exclusively. Its a part of why we marry. To get that physical intimacy that you should also want from us. Remember guys, if she denies you, she doesn't love you. She can say she loves you but if she isnt giving it to you, she doesn't love you. Always pay attention to her actions not her words.
So what do you do if you’ve had the hundred conversations, letting them know what you want, and they still deprive you? When you are upholding all of their needs and requirements, and they ignore yours?
Sadia is correct. I don’t agree with him. His points really don’t make sense. Take ownership for your part in the relationship! Even if you get cheated on. I had to take responsibility for my part In the failed marriage, then I moved on and make sure I don’t make that mistake again. That’s me loving myself.
I can't get over my ex, she left 5 years ago and I have spent the last 5 years suicidal self harming in and out of hospital, I just can't let go of my love for her and it's broken me
been there. You have to realize that your ex did not love you. Love means giving and caring for the other, did she do it? The problem is that you gave more than you received. Just go on, the next love will bereal, just have faith!
@@trendo78 we were together 11 years have two kids I was 19 she was 28 when we met it's my fault I didn't grow up quick enough and think about important things like getting a house and my priorities were just on the wrong things and it's my fault I pushed her away and she left and went back to Thailand just before COVID with my kids and I video call every day I changed to night shift job to continue contact with kids easier and I just can't handle it I found out she's with someone now and I just can't stop thinking about suicide and the police keep checking in on me because they had to cut me down I hung myself and I cut my wrists and had 16 stitches I just loved her so much I can't handle life anymore I feel so broken I don't feel like me anymore
5:24 bull, that's a lie sadia. If you look at why is the case you will realise its because she saw a younger and fitter model who they developed an emotional connection with. When it comes to them cheating, its a long running thing.
What happens with a defacto that constantly cheats? It doesn’t add up what she is saying? Avoidant… personalities… commitment phobes, lying to themselves and their partner, Or when things become hard… they cheat because of their insecurities… living double life’s… very obscure observation from sadia.
My uncle said that and he's so true. Unfortunately he's not in this world anymore and i'll never forget him. He's the one that redpilled me when i was younger.
You are religious, but you have completely lost your faith 😂 All my friends who don't have sex with their partners frequently are treated like shit or slave away to pay the bills.
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This is the problem I have with Matthew Hussey. He is so focused on the ideal that he almost can't see the reality of most peoples relationships, and that is most people are fearful, vindictive, and selfish and would rather avoid these conversations and cheat, because its easier. Its not ideal, but its the reality. I really like how Sadia makes that clear.
exactly: whats more is I like that she's just factual and logical, no judgement about "the ideal" or what your doing. She's just focused on "X works, so do as I say"
I don't see any problem with Matthew. He's asking good questions which leads to more discussion. "Most people are like that" is not a good way to think. Humans are complex and each person's situation is unique and cheating is not like a decision spontaneously made in the moment.
Very true. Especially the part about men thinking women dont cheat. Alot of men are told all their lives to cater to women and this makes them naive
People get into things (relationships, Jobs, etc) situations that they really didn't expect and then they realize they don't have the tools/knowledge to get out, so they find ways to cope until they find something better. That goes for any job, career, relationship, friendship, investments etc. Few People actually know how to be completely honest with themselves and their lives and relationships, because they are dependent on the person or job/career etc. finances, support, companonship etc. the they are in relationship.
Always keep the spark going. Its harder to light it again.
Choosing the right partner with aligned values is the only way forward, people are only faithful to their values
Yes, but it is a difficult task because in the early stages of a relationship people put on best behaviour and secondly do not answer very honestly.
This is EXACTLY why I’m going to remain single! 😂
Because you're afraid?
@@mr_deluzional I just won’t subject myself to be cheated on again.
Then stay single and see other people - humans aren’t good at monogamy
@TheDiamondEdge1 she just told you how not to
@@PoopsieSquirtle a lack of understanding is probably WHY I’m single lol! 😂
Man or woman, it’s nothing to do with their kindness about cheating but it’s the level of constructive conversation that they willing to have
7:36 wtf was that mindfuck remix
That's what i said
Thank you great video , however you need to edit the ad in the middle - pls delete comment at your convenience
No
@@Cute__Noob ?????????
Honestly with the divorce rate so high, why bother? Furthermore, The Family dynamic has been thoroughly eroded with both parents working and other people bringing up the children. It’s a hot mess.
Women being financially dependent on men has resulted in disrespect and abuse in the past.
Women are never going back to that shit. Forget about it.
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I've been saying this. There should be at least one parent at home, preferably the woman. She is the nurturer and the person who brings that warmth to the home.
Cheating is not always about sexual needs not being met. Emotional and intellectual needs can be a strong catalyst.
I love ur videos. I watch often and i see how difficult it is sometimes. U have men and women hostile to u and ur ideas so often. In defensive. Please dont stop . U showing clearly and with beautiful feminine grace the flaws of both genders
" human nature is flawed ". Thanks Sadia for confirming what we Christian's call "original sin", which Islam denies about flawed human nature with their " fitrah".
Islam recoginses that every single person commits sins. Not one person is free from it. Fitra on the other hand means something else. It is the natural and innate belief that we have been created from one God. So I think there is a misunderstanding what fitra means. And you're right, we don't believe in the concept of the original sin
If you are going to make such a statement, I think you should do a little bit more research (a 2min google search would have been sufficient). Otherwise it can be quite embarrassing for you, like now 😅
@@frikandelXL No idea what you mean squire. Islam doesn't accept original sin. ( human nature is flawed ).
I agree Sadia, the time increases the feeling of entitlement
I think the men they are referring to are the top 10% percent men, i.e., the 6 figures, 6 ft, etc. I dont think the average blue-collar worker thinks like the men they're describing here.
7.00 minutes.😊 It's so cute how she gets tongue-tied. I guess that she has to work very hard to help her clients and create online content 💪🏼. Sadia Khan, you are a true gem.🎉
Some people are perfectly happy in a non sexual ling term relashionship..on both sides. Sex isnt EVERYTHING
I disagree on Sadias Position. Poor Communication will defenetly end in a failing marriage but and thats the important Part it only Leads to cheating if one Person doesn‘t has faithulness in his Moral Compas. If Both are faithul They will just have both a Long miserable time instead of either trying to work things out or seperate.
I am a male and got married 23 she was 33. I was a male model on academic scholarship dates many women..toooooo many.. Been loyal to each other for over 35 years. Both people need to give in the 90% range... 50 50 will not cut it... I needed to explain to my wife what I needed and what I wanted.. she understood the trade offs I did make... We always looked for a win win.
This is so right makes sense
This is why i walk away when i see that behaviour. I wont compromise myself if they want to live a double life. No matter how much i love them, I will walk away if the show that. I follow my own morality not the morality of others. And i will not compromise my own morality for others.
Honestly being the type of girl thay attracts many men because of my looks, I experience the reality of the male gaze, cheatng tendencies, and everything that touches and crosses the line. This is about 75 percent of men I come across who are in relationships or marraiges. Makes you realize you must trust your partner.
Trust is always essential but if you live a double life of hiding your needs then you don't trust your partner. That leads to cheating
Otherwise Sadia is the girl she thinks she is ❤. Straight like it is!!
Sexless marriage for 20 years, I divorced her just before our 23 anniversary. I didn't cheat, but found out she had.
That's tough
If they didn't get it from you, they get it from somewhere else.
Well Sadia if you don't pet the dog, he's gonna find another master!
Damn straight
6:05 yeah because why else are we marrying you? Because of that exclusively. Its a part of why we marry. To get that physical intimacy that you should also want from us. Remember guys, if she denies you, she doesn't love you. She can say she loves you but if she isnt giving it to you, she doesn't love you. Always pay attention to her actions not her words.
So what do you do if you’ve had the hundred conversations, letting them know what you want, and they still deprive you? When you are upholding all of their needs and requirements, and they ignore yours?
Sadia is correct. I don’t agree with him. His points really don’t make sense. Take ownership for your part in the relationship! Even if you get cheated on. I had to take responsibility for my part In the failed marriage, then I moved on and make sure I don’t make that mistake again. That’s me loving myself.
I can't get over my ex, she left 5 years ago and I have spent the last 5 years suicidal self harming in and out of hospital, I just can't let go of my love for her and it's broken me
Put all that love that you have for her… in yourself & in your family. In just 3 months of doing that daily. You’ll be a changed person. I promise.
been there. You have to realize that your ex did not love you. Love means giving and caring for the other, did she do it? The problem is that you gave more than you received. Just go on, the next love will bereal, just have faith!
@@trendo78 we were together 11 years have two kids I was 19 she was 28 when we met it's my fault I didn't grow up quick enough and think about important things like getting a house and my priorities were just on the wrong things and it's my fault I pushed her away and she left and went back to Thailand just before COVID with my kids and I video call every day I changed to night shift job to continue contact with kids easier and I just can't handle it I found out she's with someone now and I just can't stop thinking about suicide and the police keep checking in on me because they had to cut me down I hung myself and I cut my wrists and had 16 stitches I just loved her so much I can't handle life anymore I feel so broken I don't feel like me anymore
5:24 bull, that's a lie sadia. If you look at why is the case you will realise its because she saw a younger and fitter model who they developed an emotional connection with. When it comes to them cheating, its a long running thing.
Men and women get older and women lose leverage
she is a optical beauty. 👍👍
The ad at 7:36 needs to be fixed!!
I love'em and leave'em. Hey, hi. I'm the problem. It's me.
7:30 Fire your editor lmao
🤣🤣
What happens with a defacto that constantly cheats? It doesn’t add up what she is saying? Avoidant… personalities… commitment phobes, lying to themselves and their partner, Or when things become hard… they cheat because of their insecurities… living double life’s… very obscure observation from sadia.
There's not one alive that won't cheat when the right rich guy comes along.
Right is the word must-have style and no 5 b's no balding, bellies, boring,broke,breath lol
I feel like he is purposely being a douche and going against literally everything she is saying smh this feels sexist
What was that glitch am i missing something?
One would have to be a sadist/masochist, to engage in dating and relationships, these days.
My uncle said that and he's so true. Unfortunately he's not in this world anymore and i'll never forget him. He's the one that redpilled me when i was younger.
7:35 Sadia is a cyborg?
Where are the actual morals in this equation?
“Biology” …. Sigh
Why putting that on men ?
Bs
Who edit your videos girl? Ive commented on a number of them & u still dont fix your ads
You speak too fast like you’re on the run. Bad marketing. It’s a turn off.
You are religious, but you have completely lost your faith 😂
All my friends who don't have sex with their partners frequently are treated like shit or slave away to pay the bills.
Why putting that on men ?
Bs