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  • @PatriciaReyes-ui1fw
    @PatriciaReyes-ui1fw 6 місяців тому +211

    I was told by a man when I was 17: men do know better, don't let them give you excuses don't tolerate it. I think his advice is the one worth holding on to.

    • @veebliss1266
      @veebliss1266 6 місяців тому

      Absolutely true!!! It’s women like this who give excuses 😂 they can’t hold big boys accountable apparently their needs control
      Them!! 🎉😮

    • @maix139
      @maix139 5 місяців тому +8

      So true they know what they are doing...they r not stupid but they are testing how much the woman will tolerate them.

    • @YesThatsMeFolks
      @YesThatsMeFolks 5 місяців тому

      Same! And the men in my family

  • @piscesmaiden6175
    @piscesmaiden6175 6 місяців тому +113

    There are women out there who know a man is with a woman, either engaged or married, and still message a man as a customer or an "old friend" trying to instigate a conversation having no regard for boundaries. I've seen this happen many times. Women too can be extremely disrespectful to other women who they know are happily with a man. Some women unfortunately try to also sabotage another woman's security because they are alone in their own lives.

    • @prophetdr.danareece3748
      @prophetdr.danareece3748 6 місяців тому +21

      That’s true. But men need to set boundaries as well. It’s a two way street. A strong man is not so weak that he can’t say no to a woman’s advances.

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому +12

      @@prophetdr.danareece3748 EXACTLY! The woman can only do what the man allows.

    • @prophetdr.danareece3748
      @prophetdr.danareece3748 6 місяців тому

      @@Laoriginal718❤

    • @violananyanja3804
      @violananyanja3804 6 місяців тому +1

      True100%

    • @MrsUnique437
      @MrsUnique437 6 місяців тому

      Well said 🎉

  • @Laoriginal718
    @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому +333

    Never take back a cheater. Never. Ever. Anyone who cheats on you DOES NOT LOVE YOU.

    • @user-em8on8py9z
      @user-em8on8py9z 6 місяців тому +20

      They may say they love you, but they are not IN LOVE with you.

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому

      @@user-em8on8py9z they don’t love you AND they’re not IN love with you either

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 6 місяців тому +11

      Yes and excuses of drinking and other stuff is bs!!!

    • @Cantetinza17
      @Cantetinza17 5 місяців тому +7

      I feel that they could have love for you as a person, but they don't love you and dang sure don't respect you.

    • @taniak8707
      @taniak8707 5 місяців тому

      😮❤

  • @eyeinsee
    @eyeinsee 6 місяців тому +155

    I mean its not like cheating just happens. The violation comes in when your lying, planning and scheming behind your partners back. You have to suspend your morals and values for quite some time in order to have an affair.

  • @ladymiss9134
    @ladymiss9134 6 місяців тому +111

    Dear men. If a women acts like every things cool after you cheat. Trust me she secretly having her revenge then eventually most likely leave.

  • @moodymoonboo7853
    @moodymoonboo7853 6 місяців тому +186

    There's difference between being an honorable man or selfish boy.

    • @freddyperla7944
      @freddyperla7944 6 місяців тому +5

      Yeah, there's also a difference between a wife who performs her wifely duties and ones who don't.

    • @IamH24
      @IamH24 6 місяців тому +1

      Lol, using a 'boy' card

    • @natalieboult3122
      @natalieboult3122 6 місяців тому +10

      @@freddyperla7944 that’s a partnership dude.. it ain’t just for you dude, she should want to and enjoy it too.. if she’s not then there is a reason. No one should want someone else’s body if they aren’t enthusiastically wanting sex as much as you do 🙄. That’s not love just predatory 💩🤮

    • @freddyperla7944
      @freddyperla7944 6 місяців тому

      @@natalieboult3122 I've performed in the bedroom for my wife even when I wasn't in the mood but she was (it's rare but has happened). You do things for your spouse, not ALWAYS because you want to, but because you love them. Love should move you to be selfless.

    • @kingbones96
      @kingbones96 6 місяців тому

      How many bd u got lol ya let's start there 🤪

  • @raeannaroylance5401
    @raeannaroylance5401 6 місяців тому +93

    Adultery is the height of selfishness

    • @kinndah2519
      @kinndah2519 6 місяців тому +5

      No,not supporting your family is. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't tolerate cheating, but it's the 2nd most selfish. A man wanting his woman to work outside the home while she's pregnant or already taking care of babies so he can half ass his duties is the most selfish thing.

    • @fancylyrics.
      @fancylyrics. 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@kinndah2519 Agree and I exoerienced it!! He was a Narcissist

  • @nosceteipsum6742
    @nosceteipsum6742 6 місяців тому +267

    It is 100% personal. It is betrayal. It is abuse. Especially if they dare touch their partner afterwards and their partner is unaware it happened. The partner can not consent. So then it is even more abusive.

    • @saraht8474
      @saraht8474 6 місяців тому +17

      True it is a big violation! He or her took away the free will to choose or not. That's against The Law!

    • @purplegirl3455
      @purplegirl3455 6 місяців тому +16

      I've never heard it put that way. I agree one million percent.

    • @MrsUnique437
      @MrsUnique437 6 місяців тому +14

      It’s nasty vile, it’s also emotional abuse.
      It’s a choice and they can’t help themselves tell so many lies they believe it them selves.

    • @Flyingtaco82
      @Flyingtaco82 6 місяців тому +12

      If they do it once, they will do it again and again. They feel privileged, like they deserve it. And they will NEVER change.

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 6 місяців тому +2

      YES!!! This lady is a joke and is wrong many times on things she states about us women. Not sure about this video as I need to listen to it.

  • @J3RRYJ
    @J3RRYJ 5 місяців тому +11

    As a Man, I dont respect any man that cheats. How you do anything is how you do everything. It'll happen in Business, It'll happen w Hobbies, It'll happen with his kids, It'll happen everywhere. This goes for women as well.

  • @FerKzrs
    @FerKzrs 6 місяців тому +58

    Sadia's right. My ex cheated on me multiple times but I saw the red flags in the beginning when we first met. He was fairly promiscuous, which wasn't going to change just because we were now in a relationship. He also came from a broken home, a cheating absent father to be more precise, who naturally didn't share the same family values I have. And I picked him anyway. "What could possibly go wrong?", I thought. Well, plenty apparently.
    Now I often ask about family history, whether they're close to their parents, even if divorced. I care more about values, their meaning of respect in a relationship and their opinion on monogamy. I'm more aware of my own red flags, because I know how I'll react if these deal-breakers appear.

  • @marilynnorth4281
    @marilynnorth4281 6 місяців тому +105

    Here's an idea fellas....how about the father pitching in and helping his exhausted wife who, oftentimes, can be depressed because HER emotional needs are not being met simply because she now has extended responsibilities that raising a child and children require...come on guys, lighten her load, put yourself in her shoes, let your wife refresh and rejuvenate herself....she will love and appreciate you even more for it...the core of the issue is that we live in a selfish, "me first", instant gratification mindset and our marriages often suffer for it. The moment we try to fix our marital problems by going outside the marriage we open the door to a worse situation that will only sabotage the people we love. It's simply not worth the risk.

    • @eyeinsee
      @eyeinsee 6 місяців тому +6

      Yea you’re right, we’ve been fed that relationships are effortless and everything “just works” and you should want for nothing but marriage is a balancing act. I just dont understand how a someone could risk their entire family for a few minutes of pleasure that riddle you with guilt.

    • @alwayshopeful7587
      @alwayshopeful7587 6 місяців тому +5

      Everyone has his own responsibilities. For example I as a stay at home mum of 3 kids .I do all the house work and take care of the kids and I think it is solely my responsibility when he is the one working around the clock for our financial stability. After he comes back from work all tired ,I wouldn't want him to help me with the kids etc.apart from our individual roles .we both take out time solely for us .I dress up for him provide a clean environment and yup I never ever refuse him ever. Sometimes it is he who refuses because of how tired he gets from daily intimacy. I picked up a saying from a person that give him soooooo much of it that he isn't left with the strength to go out for it 😂😂.we are happpppilyyyyy married for 10 years now and we were arranged married to begin with.

    • @ednaluna6728
      @ednaluna6728 2 місяці тому

      ❤❤❤

  • @os5634
    @os5634 6 місяців тому +52

    I personally cannot take back someone that has cheated. If I can’t trust him when he walks out the door I don’t want to be with him. I am not going torture myself by wondering what he’s doing when he’s not with me. Not worth it to me.

    • @marionwest3661
      @marionwest3661 6 місяців тому +3

      It’s torture when he out of sight and you fear the worst. If he was promiscuous before you met, chances are he will always be. Unless you have a hide like a rhino, it will break you.

  • @whirlingcurvish
    @whirlingcurvish 6 місяців тому +22

    Anyone who lies and keeps lying, will never change. They’ll always lie. Lying kills trust.

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 6 місяців тому +106

    If a man cheats, do not blame the woman. He is the one who made the unethical decision. Will we blame her for not talking? No. He also can talk.
    Same if a woman cheats.

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 6 місяців тому +76

    What you cannot talk about, do not do. A simple rule to stay out of trouble. The adrenaline of doing forbidden things is not intensity, it is adrenaline to warn about danger.

    • @AlinaHirtlMusic
      @AlinaHirtlMusic 6 місяців тому +3

      This

    • @xscenify
      @xscenify 6 місяців тому +2

      word

    • @helafinwe
      @helafinwe 4 місяці тому +1

      Dang... words of wisdom. I'm gonna save that initial quote

  • @anyaf.6946
    @anyaf.6946 6 місяців тому +31

    They love themselves and if they cheated, they proceeded to put their needs above yours which is not love. Let’s have a solid definition of love, let’s start there. Because all this bs and jumping through loops to find an explanation, will cease to exist.

    • @gerlindestaffler6450
      @gerlindestaffler6450 5 місяців тому

      Well said

    • @helafinwe
      @helafinwe 4 місяці тому

      100%, I agree with Sadia's points a lot but she's not understanding that actual love will always remind you that cheating no matter the reason is unacceptable

    • @jasg771
      @jasg771 3 місяці тому

      They either feel grateful to their wives or didn't want to seem heartless for dumping their wives. Being grateful doesn't necessarily equate to love. But rather, most men choose to stay in a marriage if their wives aren't much of a menace and that divorce is messy. They still get their clothes cleaned and meals prepared. It's just too troublesome to lose the convenience.

  • @NoNameNanny2024
    @NoNameNanny2024 6 місяців тому +14

    I know this is a less common situation but my husband & I were enmeshed, intensely passionate, intellectually compatible & emotionally best friends. We willingly did everything together & we were each other’s biggest cheerleader. I had no clue he had 11 mistresses our first 2 years of marriage!

  • @denisemedina3297
    @denisemedina3297 6 місяців тому +19

    When you decide to cheat, don't get pissed when your Partner ends the relationship and you have to pay child support and maintenance.

  • @veebliss1266
    @veebliss1266 6 місяців тому +15

    No if he cheats it means he can COMPARTMENTALIZE *** and completely file you away in his mind while betraying you and disrespecting your time and relationship . It is absolutely ABUSIVE it is absolutely a CHOICE and the ONLY thing he “loves” is HIMSELF. I don’t care what need goes
    Unmet -if he isn’t COMMUNICATING with his partner but takes several ACTIONS to make cheating happen and occur then HE is aware enough to communicate or leave you FIRST!!! This lady lost all credibility after gaslighting herself with several men “experiences” to say he can love you and do this 😭🤢😂 he doesn’t wreck his dream car 🚗 to go find the thrill/need of driving a big truck , so why is he wrecking his relationship to go fill a “need “, when all he has to do is TALK or LEAVE!! Excuses & excuses!! This men are usually disordered , immature , selfish , greedy and not worth taking back or forgiving , go move forward in your life and NEVER accept a cheater back they will do it AGAIN and AGAIN!!

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 6 місяців тому +2

      This is the utter TRUTH!!!

    • @GP-gt4bo
      @GP-gt4bo Місяць тому

      SAY THAT 👏👏👏💯💯💯💯

  • @natela_mk
    @natela_mk 6 місяців тому +24

    Whether they love you or not is irrelevant. Do they love you in a way that makes YOU feel loved and safe?

    • @mint_soup9743
      @mint_soup9743 5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you. This notion is easily lost in the commotion.

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 6 місяців тому +38

    Also it is important to TALK about the definition of CHEATING.
    Amazingly the definition is not the same for different people.
    One example. A man meets his ex in secret but had nothing. For her, he cheated, but for him, by not having physical action, he did not. So the same reality is seen differently by two different people.
    What I do is that if I see a woman interested in me, I let my wife take control of all interactions and I remain in the background. I also like to be transparent and anything I see, I tell her so she can judge. She is not jealous because I did not give her a reason to be. So I do not do that because she is controlling. It is just that I like a simple life, and I clearly remember Robocop advice to kids "stay out of trouble"

    • @ssiegreen5292
      @ssiegreen5292 6 місяців тому +5

      Smart man! Being transparent and open is the key!

    • @AutumnC22
      @AutumnC22 5 місяців тому

      If there is a component of secrecy and the opposite sex is involved... it's tipping into cheating territory IMO.

    • @faerydust2410
      @faerydust2410 5 місяців тому +3

      Your wife is very lucky. You make smart decisions, and that comes from you, not from her telling you to do that , which is amazing.

    • @jessiesheldon-huffey1824
      @jessiesheldon-huffey1824 4 місяці тому +1

      This is such an important question to ask! Before anyone gets into a relationship, they need to have a talk about what defines cheating. My definition is different from the definition a lot of men would have which makes this conversation super important. For me cheating is indulging in lust or romance outside your monogamous relationship. Most men think using porn isn't cheating. Each couple needs to define and be honest and agree on their joint cheating definition before getting together. If they have definitions that don't match, the relationship is headed for doom.

    • @jasg771
      @jasg771 3 місяці тому +1

      Knowing your husband still has the market value and yet not cheat is such a wonderful feeling. Most men lack the will power to resist temptation. But if they love u enough they will put your feelings above themselves.

  • @user-hs7lk7tk1v
    @user-hs7lk7tk1v 6 місяців тому +15

    If someone really love you they would have discipline enough not to cheat. A man that cannot talk out their feelings is immature. Disloyalilty is abuse . They know very well it is wrkng and know they would not want it done to them

    • @MsPerfume25
      @MsPerfume25 3 місяці тому

      N the women keep taking the man back so doesn't teach hima lesson😅

  • @mariaolson251
    @mariaolson251 5 місяців тому +4

    Excuses for disrespect and a green light to be selfish - stay single if you need to cheat - betrayal is always personal and so is integrity

  • @JanetMacCallum
    @JanetMacCallum 5 місяців тому +6

    This advice doesn’t apply to narcissists and serial cheaters. They just get a kick out of manipulating people and the thrill of the chase.

  • @Heavenlysky89
    @Heavenlysky89 5 місяців тому +13

    All cheaters get their karma .......period

  • @mallyb132
    @mallyb132 6 місяців тому +19

    I love how Sadia admits to her flaws. Most people who teach don't, in my experience.

  • @Gigi-qi3ck
    @Gigi-qi3ck 6 місяців тому +26

    Sadia is always so accurate and has a healthy objective view on things. Thank you for sharing.

    • @JenniferPutnam-qu4ug
      @JenniferPutnam-qu4ug 5 місяців тому +1

      She is basically saying women have to prevent cheating. How about not blaming women for someone’s behavior? How bout men be better and learn skills to communicate? How about men have a little maturity and understand they need to help with kids and house work of they want women to have the time to give to them? Her perspective is excuses for men not helping men develop better skills. She says she helps men. Making excuses for men is not helping them. It’s enabling them.

  • @aritoomey1901
    @aritoomey1901 6 місяців тому +6

    Whew. Damn. I went to school. 1. He asked me if I "needed" him twice. 2. He is under 35. 3. I'm insecure. 4. I have "worse case scenarios" in my head. 5. I put my kids needs over his. 6. I chose "certain" men on purpose 7. I saw "signs of infidelity" early but wasn't sure. 8. We both have intergenerational trauma on several levels of abuse. THIS WAS EYE OPENING. HE BROKE MY HEART...BUT I ALSO BROKE MY 💔 OWN HEART.

  • @Aaska2.0
    @Aaska2.0 6 місяців тому +44

    Cheating is a matter of core value and self discipline.
    It is a management of sex drive...
    Poor or strong management.
    Not really to deal with love.

  • @Sakura05470
    @Sakura05470 6 місяців тому +14

    End the relationship and regain self respect.

  • @maix139
    @maix139 5 місяців тому +4

    I've learned throughout my 12 years of marriage that...love and respect yourself. Do not tolerate a cheater. If he can't voice out his feelings properly and cheat then just walk away. Sometimes you are both just not right for each other. I used to be afraid of divorce but if it happens then it happens. Meanwhile I am being self reliant in case it does happen. If he wants a break I say go ahead because I know my power. He knows that I can get any guy if I wanted to. I will walk out the minute if I ever find out.

  • @denisesmith8657
    @denisesmith8657 5 місяців тому +7

    Actually most men are not attracted to their wives after childbirth bc her body changes. Men expect women to bear children and maintain the same body before pregnancy.

  • @ladydj5380
    @ladydj5380 6 місяців тому +5

    I don't think it has to be low self-esteem, but it is definitely trust issues. A person can believe they deserve love and loyalty..., just have lost faith in people.

  • @beatrizconcepcion3090
    @beatrizconcepcion3090 5 місяців тому +3

    I admire how Lisa and Tom love each other. He is so devoted to her and she is to him. They inspire me and know that I will find love like that one day.

  • @mylenebrunelle7109
    @mylenebrunelle7109 5 місяців тому +12

    I think it’s putting a whole lot of responsibility on women to make sure his needs are met at all times when that woman already has so many responsibilities to handle daily. Also, you can’t tell me that every woman’s needs are met 100% of the time either so does that give us the right to outsource it elsewhere? What if it is a situation where she isn’t comfortable doing what that need is? Pornography is one thing but dipping somewhere else, unacceptable. Not only is it disrespectful, it’s also putting someone else’s health at risk. Male psychology is absolutely bonkers!

  • @demetrianicole1657
    @demetrianicole1657 5 місяців тому +2

    Some men enter into a relationship knowing they don’t want to be faithful. Instead of communicating they rather be friends with benefits, they pretend to be loyal. These men make the decisions for the women bc the idea of her having a choice and exiting stage left is not chance he wants to take. 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @yukee1127
    @yukee1127 6 місяців тому +20

    Find yourself a demisexual empath. It would reduce way more risks of them cheating. And make sure they’re not an avoidant attachment style, so they can reassure you with lots of love and build trust.

    • @MsJada17
      @MsJada17 5 місяців тому +2

      Well where can I find that person?

    • @northofyou33
      @northofyou33 Місяць тому

      @@MsJada17 Same question here.

  • @nobe7745
    @nobe7745 5 місяців тому +3

    I knew very early when he started to be a way and emotionally unavailable,
    I knew there is another woman in his life at work
    Unfortunately in my case he fall in love with her
    Not having sex with her
    But emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating

  • @veebliss1266
    @veebliss1266 6 місяців тому +4

    Soooo a mans NEEDS “CONTROL” him …to cheat ??? 😂😂😂😭😭 he’s not accountable cause he’s in love still …he just has “needs”. But a woman’s needs don’t control her enough to make her leave , she stays and fights with a broken man ? I guess our needs should now be excuses enough to leave asap if theirs are justified to cheat 🤷‍♀️

  • @J3RRYJ
    @J3RRYJ 5 місяців тому +2

    Though I don't agree with men cheating, I also don't agree with women withholding themselves from their husbands expecting nothing to happen. That is manipulation. If a woman chooses to intentionally engage in this behavior, whatever happens is on them.

  • @HonourMoon
    @HonourMoon 5 місяців тому +2

    If you cheat, you are weak. End of story. No reason, excuse or complex explanation into the human psyche. Just a lack of discipline and self-control.

  • @user-ds8fq8cp2f
    @user-ds8fq8cp2f 6 місяців тому +4

    Being friendly with many women..not wanting to talk etc

  • @dynamicforce8051
    @dynamicforce8051 6 місяців тому +16

    No one needs these complex discussions which can actually give men an excuse to cheat- “unmet needs” really?? Reality- MEN WHO CHEAT DONT FEAR GOD AND HAVE NO SELF RESPECT! It’s as simple as that!

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому

      THANK YOU! A man that isn’t submitted to God is USELESS! And a man that is submitted to God is also RARE maybe 1%. That’s why it’s better to stay single. I want to stay single and spend the rest of my days serving God the same way Jesus did.

  • @Marina.Dezie2
    @Marina.Dezie2 6 місяців тому +4

    " i'm too tired, go to watch pornography" WTF. Create the mood, put some effort for her and for him, or just deal with frustration but still respect the relationship, don't go to porn for Christ sake

  • @BloodhoundRanch88
    @BloodhoundRanch88 3 місяці тому +1

    newly wed and was cheated on. separated after 3 months.

  • @marilynnorth4281
    @marilynnorth4281 4 місяці тому +1

    Women have unmet needs too but marriage is about sacrifice especially when the children come along. Motherhood is terribly taxing and exhausting. If our men are "outsourcing" perhaps they have a bit too much time on their hands and a better use of their time could be involving them in the childrearing responsibilities, beyond earning a paycheque, instead of going behind their wife's back and violating the marriage by the betrayal of another woman. Has anyone considered the risks of the man bringing home an STD to his already exhausted wife?? Nothing good nor fruitful is accomplished by bringing in a third party except betrayal, unwanted pregnancy, disease and divorce. And, if a man is willing to risk all that to get his sexual needs met, if he does not have the self control and self discipline, who is led not by his integrity but by his body parts, who is unwilling and unable to put his marriage first and to protect it, he will only bring contamination to it. Sadly, the divorce courts are full of these type of men.

  • @user-pr1ye2be9x
    @user-pr1ye2be9x 6 місяців тому +8

    They outsource it regardless if you have kids or not stop making excuses for them

    • @jasg771
      @jasg771 3 місяці тому

      It boils down to their core value and environment. Core value is the main factor to determine if he is likely to cheat. If he places great emphasis on being upright and placing his wife's feelings before him, then he's less likely to cheat.
      Environment also affects him. For eg, if most of his friends cheat, it normalises cheating and reduces the guilt for cheating. Or may even be egged on to cheat.
      We can't say humans can be trusted always, but it doesn't mean all guys will cheat.

  • @user-jg6ge5ws8o
    @user-jg6ge5ws8o 5 місяців тому +2

    What are people’s thoughts on social media? My guy doesn’t get my reasons for not being enchanted with the time spent on social media platforms. He’s recently culled back the thousands of thirst trap pages considerably, so I appreciate him doing something about it. I can’t help still not being ok with the time he spends on it and I can’t accuse him as it makes me look unstable. It’s a gateway to micro cheating and worse in my opinion.

    • @jessiesheldon-huffey1824
      @jessiesheldon-huffey1824 4 місяці тому

      My thought that if a person has any social media activity where they are indulging their sexual or romantic desires, they are cheating.

  • @lumiezou
    @lumiezou 11 днів тому

    I LOVE asking open ended questions, but NON of my past partners as well as my guy friends HATED being asked open ended questions LOLOLOL
    Idk what to do.... 😭

  • @Useful67
    @Useful67 5 місяців тому +3

    how about she says I love you and cheats on him is it ok too ?????????? not give her needs and someone else does?

  • @jarglee4471
    @jarglee4471 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm wondering how much of her wisdom and knowledge Sadia is able to use in her personal life.

  • @thehighmaintenancehippietarot
    @thehighmaintenancehippietarot 6 місяців тому +5

    Do you think accepting bad behaviour from a partner subconsciously indicates for them that their behaviour is acceptable? Like a child where if you don’t put in proper punishment the child won’t fully register the behaviour is bad?

    • @jasg771
      @jasg771 3 місяці тому

      Men like to test boundaries. They wanna see how much they can get away with. By testing boundaries, u can clearly see these men aren't that afraid of losing you. Rather than being his option he doesn't mind risk losing, it's better to cut your loss and leave than wasting time to explain to him how you feel.

  • @whitewalker608
    @whitewalker608 6 місяців тому +2

    26:50 I don't think they specifically think of you as being dumb enough when you tolerate their bad behaviour. I think they just don't care about being hurtful unless you set boundaries.

  • @cherylcardona582
    @cherylcardona582 6 місяців тому +1

    The problem is if one cannot handle the truth they start to punish their partner for being honest! I can respect an honest person than not!

  • @karenpapas5045
    @karenpapas5045 5 місяців тому +1

    Both giving advice coming from a book because non of you really felt the pain loss and grief that comes with abandonment and cheating. And did you know men cheat on strong beautiful smart educated women with the whole package. You know why because they are insecure and empty inside and project it onto their partner. That’s when cheating happens and that’s a choice ! A person who loves you will never cheat on you no matter how miserable he/she is and no matter how much temptation. Plus one has to have morals. Breakup and divorce is more dignified than cheating .. that’s why when one is looking for a partner must look for someone who’s done his inner work and healing. If not run or be ready to invest in healing together if he/she worth it

  • @pclove7301
    @pclove7301 6 місяців тому +3

    It is not always personal but it is MOST OF THE TIME! It’s a way to punish the partner and get a revenge for a real or perceived wrongdoing. This woman is full of s***! 🙄

  • @RConnelly
    @RConnelly 5 місяців тому +1

    4:00 lol when I ask open ended questions to communicate and connect I get yelled at. 😂

    • @jalissapatterson965
      @jalissapatterson965 5 місяців тому +1

      Now you going back n forth in your head and more confused than you was before you said something lol

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 6 місяців тому +20

    Biggest sign is sax stops or starts rejecting it

  • @ND-or5so
    @ND-or5so 5 місяців тому +2

    Unmet needs in the bedroom? Or not enough times? Well, the wife already knows if she can't stand having sex with him if her husband didn't care about her needs and when she confronts him, he doesn't want to hear it and he figures he doesn't want to tell her about his needs not met and he just goes and cheats. I hate when they say men aren't communicaters. They have a mouth and know how to speak! Excuses.

  • @michellegirau8136
    @michellegirau8136 6 місяців тому +6

    So basically, just blame women for getting cheated on is what i got from this. I find it odd that someone who says their insecure and has work done to look beautiful would choose to work with clients who are men who cheat. In the therapy would men usually like their therapist, and its against the law in therapy to sleep with clients. I hope that's not the case.

  • @clintpot8521
    @clintpot8521 6 місяців тому +4

    That's wild Sadia is still insecure? Wow. She's got everything, but she can't just say "I'm tired of being this way and its making me exhausted" and give it up.

    • @madelineasmr926
      @madelineasmr926 6 місяців тому +3

      You can’t just stop being insecure… if you had a rough childhood or suffered severe abuse those issues will stay with you the rest of your life. You can always work on managing them better but they never truly go away. Everyone has a different cross to bear.

    • @clintpot8521
      @clintpot8521 6 місяців тому

      @@madelineasmr926 ya I get that. Still its surprising... she is so well polished in front of the camera.

    • @madelineasmr926
      @madelineasmr926 6 місяців тому

      @@clintpot8521 well of course, that’s her job plus she’s extremely self aware of her image… the fact that she’s gorgeous has definitely helped make her more famous

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 6 місяців тому

      @@clintpot8521now you know in real-time looks don’t matter it’s not the end all be all in real life

    • @a81758
      @a81758 5 місяців тому

      Being well polished and having what you perceive as everything has no connection to self esteem or security.

  • @beedido439
    @beedido439 6 місяців тому +3

    Disagree. Cheating is not love, period. Too many excuses. People have to own up and grow up. You have needs? State them like a grown up. I think what is happening is that we are quick to jump into relationships without really seeing if the person suits us. (And I’m not talking sexually). Then we want to blame it on something else. Let’s all grow up and own up!

  • @Cathyyy21
    @Cathyyy21 6 місяців тому +5

    I used to love listening to Sadia and I still do but when I followed her UA-cam channel and read through the comments and saw some of her responses… she responds in such an immature way and it’s mind boggling considering how intelligent she is.
    I don’t agree with everything she says but she is smart. I wish she’d be a bit more thoughtful with the way she answers social media comments. It takes away from her credibility in my opinion!
    She is defiantly against age gap relationships too. I say to each their own

  • @kcluu9390
    @kcluu9390 4 місяці тому

    I cheated because my ex was not meeting my needs. She would not validate my feelings when I was angry, sad, or anything. We lost emotional connection over time and I ended up not caring if I hurt her or not because I felt she didn't care about me for so long.
    My fault for not being able to communicate effectively as well as cheating.
    I did love her but I stopped caring about her since I felt she stopped caring about me.

  • @nancylitacastro2724
    @nancylitacastro2724 6 місяців тому +3

    Sadi doesn't want to offend the host but in reality pornography affects young and older men. So the host giving green light to her husband to watch pornography cause she's too tired or doesn't want it, diminishes the connection between them🤨

  • @muhammadismaeeljaumeer7755
    @muhammadismaeeljaumeer7755 6 місяців тому +19

    As a man, I agree with the beginning of the video. It's true that as man, most of the time, if not always we prefer to outsource our unmet needs... For e.g sex is vital for a man and if he is not getting it from his wife, he will outsource it. Similarly, if the girl is not caring, loving etc, the man will outsource it...

    • @catherineball7584
      @catherineball7584 6 місяців тому +9

      Same with women, I'm afraid. After 6 yrs no sex with me ex, I left and got myself a man.

    • @lucianaromulus1408
      @lucianaromulus1408 6 місяців тому +3

      Just divorce. It's gross, no excuses

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 6 місяців тому +2

      never reject your partner sexually

  • @mohsentajik7876
    @mohsentajik7876 3 місяці тому

    its my 2nd video that i watch from this channel and the content about men's behavior is so accurate that i felt the need to comment and mention it.

  • @TheSewiak
    @TheSewiak 6 місяців тому +1

    Not saying I do not agree but this works both ways. Woman can say I love you and cheat - this is not just one way. And I say it as a woman.

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 6 місяців тому

      But nature wise historically this their psychology of the common… they aren’t speaking on a “Her” the reason women keeps having tears for centuries and all of horrific events they’ve done involving women savagely. In Turn of it Women need to learn the psychology of man. Then all that crying and keeping heavy emotions to stop to and understanding the capacity of capabilities they perform daily one by one. Will throw all things away you oneonce told for truth.

  • @kendrahughes8622
    @kendrahughes8622 24 дні тому

    I disagree. Love doesn’t do things to intentionally hurt their partner. Love is, if your needs are unmet, you communicate with your partner or you let them go. You don’t cheat.

  • @Blondemominpa
    @Blondemominpa 5 місяців тому

    I never had to tell my hubby to respect me until recently he is totally disconnected.

  • @MaggieCano-wu1ek
    @MaggieCano-wu1ek 5 місяців тому +2

    How is don’t tolerate it and if women start doing this then men will have to change

  • @mabinogidrws
    @mabinogidrws 5 місяців тому

    I'm halfway through the video and I think if you're with a narcissist or psychopath, you're automatically doomed because they are going to cheat, full stop.
    I have abandonment issues so I'm naturally paranoid about being cheated on, and for sure, most of my partners have cheated on me.

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 6 місяців тому +9

    When a woman becomes a mother, in the mind of many men, a mother and a woman are 2 separate beings. So they feel that mothers are sacred, so feeling desire is wrong, so they outsource. It is a terrible way to understand things, but I have seen that plenty of times. The archetype of mother and women.
    The problem is that these men stop seeing the wife as a woman, and see her as a mother, and just like they would not do that to their mom, they put the archetype of their mom in their wives, and not having anything with the wife becomes a twisted form of respect towards mother. It is twisted because it is twisted. But the strong religious Christian beliefs about the virgin mother do not help too much to configure the archetypes.

  • @galaxyalexanderh5737
    @galaxyalexanderh5737 5 місяців тому

    The part about women losing touch after kids needs to be adjusted. I didn’t and many women don’t…. How? I literally don’t understand and I am one of the most devoted parents …. Like, seriously. I feel that the woman was participating in the relationship for means of having the baby and didn’t care about their connection to begin with. I know MANY women who exuded hate for their husbands and they push out babies … ignoring them during pregnancy and afterwards. It’s the same as a guy chasing a woman for only one thing

  • @mariaheart5883
    @mariaheart5883 13 днів тому

    @lisabilyeu sometimes women remain in a 20 year relationship and they are unconsciously in denial, waiting to find solid proof that their husband is cheating, when proof is right there on the screen, just watching their husband's interviews, with the husband proclaiming that he is faithful with a guilty face 😉 I pray for that woman who is surrounded by hypocrites, I pray for her that at least maybe secretly she knows what is going on, I hope for her sake that she will not accept this all her life, cause its gonna work out for her even if she leaves him !

  • @latachatani5099
    @latachatani5099 5 місяців тому +1

    Amazing how she justifies that men cheat for a good reason

  • @TamKorodi
    @TamKorodi 3 місяці тому

    I don't agree with Sadia. what she is talking about "needs not being met" that's why good men "outsource it" and that she is shocked how some women don't notice that their partners have been different etc... it is true to some degree but definitely not the case in the majority of cases. as a psychologist myself who works with women who have been betrayed, I will tell you there are plenty of narcissistic men who are really good at lying. I personally worked with women whose marriages were super happy, yet their partners had been cheating for years without any guilt and shame. while normal men might feel guilt and seem irritated with their partner to justify their behavior as Sadia explains, a narcissist will have noooo problem treating his wife like a queen, having a ton of sex at home and still cheating. and narcissists' wifes often don't see a change in their behavior because their partners have always been lying and cheating from the very beginning, and in such cases, there will be no change in behavior. Sadia saying that women are supposed to notice sign of their men cheating - it only works in a tiny fraction of cases. women who got out of narcissistic relationships are already blaming themselves for not noticing what their cheating partners have been up to. I am leaving this comment here only to say that as a psychologist myself I disagree with Sadia's opinion. I don't want any victim blaming here. there is not enough space here for me to go into listing many reasons here why someone is very happy relationship might cheat. so talking about tired new moms neglecting their poor husbands and pretty much pushing them into cheating is a cliché. I am over this video.

  • @shureal
    @shureal 6 місяців тому

    At least he was honest and told me I had a lot of gf (which means I was actively a player) so I get it how is he, didn’t need to show me.

  • @eileengallagher8951
    @eileengallagher8951 5 місяців тому +1

    Is texting another women sexually cheating? Thats what my boyfriend did to me and weird part is he is very jealous of who i talk to

  • @paliali7752
    @paliali7752 5 місяців тому +2

    Don't have kids. Problem solved.

  • @Versatile668
    @Versatile668 6 місяців тому +1

    Oh heck no!!! If a person can't come to me for that but go to other people to allow them to have him in that way but not for me I can't do that because if I'm saying faithful and things like that and not having any sexual with anybody else haven't been for 18 years I have not been with another man in that way the last person I've ever been with like that was my ex-spouse of 17 years 4 years separated still nobody's been with me in that way ever the whole 18 years my ex-spouse would do that when we were together and if we were not and we were separated it was like he only wanted to be with me but when we were together he was constantly wanting to mess around with other people it made no sense that is another reason why I have not been intimate with another man nothing to do with that I don't want to I don't want to be put through that again

  • @MrsUnique437
    @MrsUnique437 6 місяців тому

    😂😂😂 I’m like you saida. Red flags 🚩 approach the situation

  • @palomahealing5073
    @palomahealing5073 6 місяців тому +3

    It's almost exactly like I thought it was..Men see cheating easy when they feel unattended, period! All Men will cheat, cos it's just easy for them🥴 And there's PLENTY of easy women to give it up to a Married man!

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 6 місяців тому

      Yup and knowing that isn’t worth it

  • @nataliefernandez6260
    @nataliefernandez6260 6 місяців тому +2

    We can love them and have un met needs too lol

  • @TsarOfRuss
    @TsarOfRuss 6 місяців тому +33

    - He is tall above 6ft.
    - He is rich.
    - He is handsome.
    He will CHEAT 100%

    • @estefaniadoniz6243
      @estefaniadoniz6243 6 місяців тому +12

      You sound bitter 😂

    • @TsarOfRuss
      @TsarOfRuss 6 місяців тому +1

      @@estefaniadoniz6243 you sound sweet 🤩

    • @slothisasin8240
      @slothisasin8240 6 місяців тому +7

      Do you not believe that men who are above 6 foot, rich and attractive can have morals?

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому

      He breathes in and out……he will 98% cheat.

    • @7a11
      @7a11 6 місяців тому

      @@slothisasin8240men in general

  • @YesThatsMeFolks
    @YesThatsMeFolks 5 місяців тому

    Or parents please start teaching your boys to communicate and that it’s ok to express their feelings.

  • @majda108
    @majda108 5 місяців тому

    This is not love!!! What she say its ego and a Growing Boy

  • @majda108
    @majda108 4 місяці тому

    LISTEN TO TONY GASKINS! HE SAYS HOW MAN ARE THE GROWN BOY /AND A REAL MAN...that make it clear

  • @LaurnaWong
    @LaurnaWong 4 місяці тому

    This is the same for women

  • @valindabalcarzar8305
    @valindabalcarzar8305 6 місяців тому +6

    Sadia has beautiful and full hair.

    • @dynamicforce8051
      @dynamicforce8051 6 місяців тому +2

      They’re called hair extensions/wigs

    • @suussuzy4522
      @suussuzy4522 6 місяців тому +1

      She does..but people of her ethnicity have the strongest hair...its been researched.

  • @sharon268
    @sharon268 6 місяців тому +2

    the past 2 months he’s been on Facebook everyday sometimes 2-3 times a day and Denys it when in 8 years he was rarely on facebook he hired a a guy who’s the same age as him but separated with a 40 year old girlfriend , now he’s looking at other women profiles coming home from work saying he’s not feeling well , I’ve asked him is there anything attention he’s lacking from me if I’m not dressing a certain way or wearing my hair and clothes if I’m not praising him enough he say No ??? He says he doesn’t want to feel watched or squeezed or boundaries

    • @victorious1503
      @victorious1503 6 місяців тому

      Let him do what he wants. Focus on you. He will notice eventually you are no longer paying so much attention to him. This will either cause him anxiety that he is about to lose you and he will step up or he will allow the relationship to fall apart. Either way you end up finding out.

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 6 місяців тому

      @@victorious1503that’s sad one have to do that! Like children! …the moment one can’t communicate properly as a whole adult in that circumstance I’m out I have no time for that foolishness. So now she has to be in anticipation hopefully something changes. Nope to dang old for all of that especially if past 45 like WTH. Always has to wait on them. That’s very very bad for the mental of one self. Everyday he comes home he been poking someone else yet you a love of daily but have to Wait til he comes back to earth. I see why men do what they do because WOMEN do it to themselves.

    • @caroljamieson3476
      @caroljamieson3476 5 місяців тому +1

      I can tell you right now your man is trying to pursue other women watch carefully how he is with his phone dont dare let him disrespect you like this

    • @victorious1503
      @victorious1503 5 місяців тому

      ​@@sexygabby30 You're right, but no one should ever wait in anticipation to see what he does next, she should be living a full life of her own so her focus isn't so much on her partner and whatever garbage he is up to. A partner should compliment your life and add value to it, not leave you wondering and full of anxiety. These days most people do not know how to communicate properly and are not emotionally available, no matter the age. It is our job to notice the signs of poor communication and emotional unavailability early on in dating and decide if we want to continue with a man who possesses these traits. I personally would never entertain a man who makes me suspicious or leaves me with feelings of trust issues. But most people are also afraid of cutting people out of their life because of the fear of being alone. That is why you must do the inner work on yourself and occupy your time with your own hobbies and interests so you only have time for men who respect you, want to compliment your life & add value to it.

    • @jessiesheldon-huffey1824
      @jessiesheldon-huffey1824 4 місяці тому

      There is actually evidence that the amount of time a partner spends on Facebook is related to divorce rates: more Facebook time = more likely to divorce.

  • @bhavanasharma8393
    @bhavanasharma8393 6 місяців тому +3

    This doesn't explain the cheaters who are married WITH NO BABY coming in.. Still choosing to 2 time women

    • @fancylyrics.
      @fancylyrics. 6 місяців тому

      Girl, what does it mean with no Baby coming in..?..

  • @ltp27345
    @ltp27345 5 місяців тому

    what do you all think about cyber cheating? sex chats and exchanging photos with real people in our area…

  • @faerydust2410
    @faerydust2410 3 місяці тому

    Ummm....ok? An d I thought I was complicated with my responses .....😵

  • @suzanabcampbell5841
    @suzanabcampbell5841 6 місяців тому +4

    Sounds like it’s blaming the women for men’s selfish needs. I do not agree.

  • @carbon357
    @carbon357 6 місяців тому +1

    Hey Tom - can you weigh in on what your partner said

  • @MrsUnique437
    @MrsUnique437 6 місяців тому +1

    9:04 very interesting

  • @FlatStella1
    @FlatStella1 6 місяців тому

    Thank you Lisa

  • @berniecruz8405
    @berniecruz8405 6 місяців тому +13

    So the answer is, don't have children and then the women can't use the excuse of being exhausted from dealing with the kids! Problem solved!

    • @slothisasin8240
      @slothisasin8240 6 місяців тому +3

      It's not an excause, all involved parents know that children take a lot of time and energy to raise. Both mothers and fathers get tired from time to time.

    • @eyeinsee
      @eyeinsee 6 місяців тому

      This would only increase the chances of having babies 😂

    • @haikaikokoni369_
      @haikaikokoni369_ 6 місяців тому

      What a ridiculous reasoning! That’s NOT a solution, it’s avoidance. Actu answer is COMMUNICATE your expectations and future needs (kids or not) DURING the dating stage and see if you both are on the same page. If not, leave and connect with someone who does.

    • @berniecruz8405
      @berniecruz8405 6 місяців тому

      @haikaikokoni369_ avoidance IS a solution! Prevent the issue altogether. Hence, you won't have the problem! Common sense!

    • @jasg771
      @jasg771 3 місяці тому

      Not all problems are that simple. Yet many people dive into marriage thinking they won't be the unlucky ones

  • @toothnail605
    @toothnail605 5 місяців тому +1

    Don't get married