The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring! (Don’t Let Men Treat You Like This!!) - Sadia Khan & Matthew Hussey

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    Welcome back to The School of Greatness! We have a very special episode for you today. For the first time ever, we're in the studio with two incredible relationship experts, Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey, to explore the reasons you're still single and how to navigate the complexities of modern dating. Sadia is a psychologist and relationship coach who works with people around the world, and Matthew is a New York Times bestselling author renowned for his work in helping individuals build healthier relationships.
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    0:00 Intro
    00:02:19 - The Phenomenon of Sabotaging Green Flags in Relationships
    00:04:30 - The Fear of the Unknown
    00:06:57 - The Power of Appearance and Sexual Gratification
    00:09:14 - The Power of Sexual Connection and Beauty
    00:11:33 - Women's Emotional Addictions in Dating
    00:13:50 - The Myth of Money and Status in Men and Women's Attraction
    00:16:19 - The Illusion of Value in Love and Dating
    00:18:52 - The Rush of Receiving a Message
    00:21:19 - Deciding your relationship with opportunities in life
    00:23:50 - The Impact of Dating Apps on Relationships
    00:25:53 - Male Emotional Unavailability and Women's Reactions
    00:28:11 - The Popular Kids Making Everyone Look Bad
    00:30:17 - The Importance of Height in Relationships
    00:32:41 - Emotionally Unavailable Women
    00:35:12 - The Destructive Cycle of Self-Preservation
    00:37:11 - Overcoming Relationship Game Playing
    00:39:42 - The Curse of Being Too Smart for Love
    00:41:41 - Finding Security and Trust in a Relationship
    00:43:40 - Insecurities and Staying in Unfulfilling Relationships
    00:46:17 - Accepting and Judging Ourselves
    00:48:49 - The Struggle with Vulnerability
    00:51:17 - The Masked Persona and Escaping One's True Self
    00:53:16 - The Difficult Conversation
    #greatness #inspiration #motivation

КОМЕНТАРІ • 628

  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  15 днів тому +220

    Thanks to Sadia & Matthew for sharing their wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again UA-cam.com/lewishowes

    • @ranahna3096
      @ranahna3096 14 днів тому +5

      Wwwww what an introduction, excited to watch the full episode .
      🙏🙏🙏

    • @user-vw9vf4un2j
      @user-vw9vf4un2j 14 днів тому +2

      YES

    • @SydneyBristow0788
      @SydneyBristow0788 14 днів тому +7

      30:34 Maybe listen to some Gad Saad. Women wanting a tall man isn't superficial or shallow, it taps into a biological instinct to want a man that can protect you from other men.

    • @shraddhamishra9058
      @shraddhamishra9058 14 днів тому +2

      Part 2 of this ❤

    • @ModernDalai
      @ModernDalai 13 днів тому +1

      Both great people ! Great to have them over - respect ❤

  • @thematthewhussey
    @thematthewhussey 14 днів тому +472

    Thanks for having me on as always brother! ❤

    • @meenurajput3077
      @meenurajput3077 14 днів тому +13

      Matthew, you're amazing and your insights to unravel the meaning behind actions and thought process is so helpful.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому +17

      Powerful conversation!

    • @lee_annhammant
      @lee_annhammant 14 днів тому +8

      Thank you, Matthew, for being honest and your authentic self. You shone the brightest in this interview with nothing to prove by only being you. Thank you again 🙏💞

    • @monasalama479
      @monasalama479 14 днів тому +1

      ❤️❤️

    • @waterbearmedicine
      @waterbearmedicine 13 днів тому +4

      Really great take aways from this, safety in relationships is really important and so is authenticity being yourself helps people accept who you really are, can't think of better advice. Thanks Matthew great interview 👍

  • @selma6746
    @selma6746 14 днів тому +287

    “What misses you was never for you, and what is for you will never miss you.”

  • @sadiapsychology
    @sadiapsychology 14 днів тому +427

    Super honored to be part of this ! Thank you Lewis ❤

    • @serenaroseauthentics1391
      @serenaroseauthentics1391 14 днів тому +4

      Thank you so much for sharing your valuable wisdom and knowledge, Sadia.

    • @anahi-fireoftheforest
      @anahi-fireoftheforest 14 днів тому +2

      I haven't seen the episode yet but I already know this episode is going to be great! ❤

    • @Mariedumont
      @Mariedumont 13 днів тому +2

      You rock it as always!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +10

      Thank you! Let me know your thoughts once you do.

    • @boutiquelove5391
      @boutiquelove5391 12 днів тому +4

      Love you Sadia! You are exceptionally smart and stunning! Every point is insightful and you hit the mark. You are even smarter and you can tell you hold back as some ideas maybe too much for the average joe! You are helping million and educating those that are drowning in the modern godless world!

  • @thefoundersjourneypodcast9017
    @thefoundersjourneypodcast9017 14 днів тому +94

    Playing games to protect your ego only leads to self-destruction. Real value lies in true connection and emotional availability

  • @lb1798
    @lb1798 14 днів тому +159

    Matthew Hussey is one of the few people that truly make sense to me. In a world where narcissism is " the health crisis of our time per Dr. RAMINI", he just makes the most sense to me.

    • @saga2828
      @saga2828 7 днів тому

      Can you explain?

  • @monasalama479
    @monasalama479 14 днів тому +70

    What I love about listening to Matthew is that every time I listen thinking that I am gonna get a relationship advice but I end up learning more about myself and life ! So it’s much more !

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +1

      Glad you loved it! Thanks for watching!

    • @monasalama479
      @monasalama479 11 днів тому

      @@lewishowes ❤️❤️🙏

  • @savanniek
    @savanniek 14 днів тому +86

    I dated a short guy once. I am 5’3” and he was 5’4”… he ended up being super manipulative due to compensating for his shortness. He had to be the loudest in the room and needed the attention to the point of peacocking through his life instead of being authentic

    • @lucymartinez3246
      @lucymartinez3246 14 днів тому +5

      I can relate.

    • @user-dt8fg1bq7x
      @user-dt8fg1bq7x 13 днів тому +10

      Its really tough for short men. They need more therapy than the rest of us

    • @AgisVision
      @AgisVision 12 днів тому +1

      Same

    • @polokoolaotse7671
      @polokoolaotse7671 9 днів тому +1

      I've had the same experience and you're spot on about that

  • @tnyqueen
    @tnyqueen 13 днів тому +68

    I wish high schools could have mandatory classes with Sadia & Matthew. There would be so many more healthy relationships out there. Love this interview!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +5

      Thank you for tuning in! :)

    • @coachnursececille
      @coachnursececille 9 днів тому

      Totally agree with you

    • @yaa251
      @yaa251 3 дні тому

      shows you that the system isnt designed to help anyone.

  • @lylyanazarela4807
    @lylyanazarela4807 14 днів тому +134

    Finally Sadia and Mathew Hussey in the same room ❤️❤️

  • @hadiashah8467
    @hadiashah8467 5 днів тому +15

    Matthew Hussey is so incredible with the way he sees things with so much compassion especially when it comes to women, he really understands where we are coming from without giving any advice that would lead to toxic behaviour from men or women. Sorry Sadia and Lewis but Matthew has absolutely won this conversion

  • @Smartbeatifulawesome
    @Smartbeatifulawesome 14 днів тому +78

    I think women and men like personality more then looks at the end of the day. The whole best friend thing makes a big difference

    • @SydneyBristow0788
      @SydneyBristow0788 14 днів тому +17

      Both are important. You need to have attraction to their looks and personality, but ultimately without similar values and goals - the relationship will fall apart.

  • @celceleste6756
    @celceleste6756 14 днів тому +101

    I love the openness, calmness and knowledge Matthew brings to this conversation.. There is compassion in his energy that is so relatable which makes you trust his words.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +6

      Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

    • @obiblooze5902
      @obiblooze5902 10 днів тому

      totally agree 🙂

    • @Ematuresco
      @Ematuresco 10 днів тому +1

      @@lewishowes Suggestion get Esther Perel with Sadia/Mat together :) Tripplets

    • @Inventiff
      @Inventiff 6 днів тому

      I agree with you, it makes his words feel more valuable due to how he addresses it in his calm tone

  • @Dixie8642
    @Dixie8642 13 днів тому +63

    Thank goodness Matthew is speaking reality into the misguided assumptions voiced here.

    • @darcellcrockett4541
      @darcellcrockett4541 13 днів тому +12

      Exactly how I felt! So thankful he was there to shut a lot of those harmful and incorrect assumptions down.

    • @tiktokfamous3446
      @tiktokfamous3446 11 днів тому +7

      What misguided assumptions

    • @Rose.szch88
      @Rose.szch88 7 днів тому +2

      What are you on about ?
      Sadia is on point with everything shes so graceful and beautiful with her delivery . I guess only the insecure can see what ur seeing .

    • @nadiahossain3651
      @nadiahossain3651 7 днів тому +3

      Interested to know what you think is misguided on Sadia’s points? I thought she was spot on.

  • @andreacovarrubias8871
    @andreacovarrubias8871 14 днів тому +68

    Thank you Matthew for advocating for women’s true life experiences and for being so genuine ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +2

      You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @melitesla8656
    @melitesla8656 7 днів тому +13

    I love how matthew always points out that we shouldnt generealize some experiences or statements on a certain sex/gender. Sadia seems to push women down a little whereas matthew offers a more fair view on both genders

  • @mariahhelm5488
    @mariahhelm5488 12 днів тому +81

    As a woman who's been single for 8 years and who's been through a lot and worked on my growth and healing through years of therapy, I would highly disagree with the "98%" of men are emotionally available. Out of all the men I've dated in the last 8 years the majority are very emotionally UNavailable. And I think alot of things are to blame, starting with being integrated in a culture of toxic masculinity, childhood trauma and being jaded after getting hurt and not having the tools to process and regulate their own heartbreak. I've maybe dated a very, very small handful of emotionally available men. Unfortunately, we were incompatible. It's rough out here.

    • @Kyra-qn3nh
      @Kyra-qn3nh 10 днів тому +12

      Hardcore agree. Only one of the men I've dated was emotionally available. In 8 years of dating on and off, ONE.

    • @Clara-mq8sv
      @Clara-mq8sv 10 днів тому +13

      Agree too. Lots of emotionally unavailable men out there 😞

    • @ShyMplsMale
      @ShyMplsMale 10 днів тому

      It wasn't incompatibility, women are just subconsciously turned off by emotionally available men because it's feminine energy and women crave masculinity which is indifference and not caring. It takes a healthy balance of both to get to a woman's heart but most men are usually on one side of the spectrum or the other.

    • @Burrburrcloud
      @Burrburrcloud 9 днів тому +12

      ​@@notlengthy Take it from women...most men are not emotionally available.

    • @keh-dalia809
      @keh-dalia809 8 днів тому

      BIG FACTS!

  • @ashleyglover8219
    @ashleyglover8219 7 днів тому +12

    THIS EPISODE WAS SOOOOOOO GOOOOOOD. The part I loved the most was when Sadia was asked why do people self sabotage when there are green flags. She said " Their barrier to intimacy has become their self esteem based on a core belief they have believed that love should be difficult and a struggle and not smooth. And because they don't have love and compassion for themselves, they start to question and think their is something wrong with the other person. Instead of realizing the love is infused with peace, which they just aren't use to. Hearing this truly healed apart of my heart that has been broken for a few years because I was in a relationship with a guy like this and couldn't understand why he just wouldn't accept my love and why he kept questioning everything, So THANK YOU! writing with tears in my eyes :)

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @DominionAnako-bb7ry
    @DominionAnako-bb7ry 15 днів тому +71

    Hey, it sounds like you're looking for some signs! If someone loves you, they might show it by being there for you, listening, and supporting you through good times and bad. Remember, actions often speak louder than words!

  • @jadedowdy91
    @jadedowdy91 14 днів тому +39

    Sadia is absolutely breathtaking. Beautiful on the inside and the outside I absolutely love her.

    • @boutiquelove5391
      @boutiquelove5391 12 днів тому +3

      Love Sadia- exceptional beauty and exceptional brains and quick to the diagnosis

  • @Diamondbeach
    @Diamondbeach 14 днів тому +59

    Not true. I’m an independent women who is successful and I value and look for connection. I don’t do hookups. Emotional connection needs to there be first for else next. Too many men on the app put low effort.

    • @zeynand4039
      @zeynand4039 11 днів тому +5

      People are on the app because of low effort. Best to meet through others.

    • @naimam3976
      @naimam3976 10 днів тому

      ​@@zeynand4039or meet people out in the real world by travelling, going 2 different places,trying new activities because most guys on dating apps are low effort men and IF they were high quilty they would leave their house and approach women in real life.

    • @tanyamiller6083
      @tanyamiller6083 10 днів тому

      Agreed

  • @karinodendaal5277
    @karinodendaal5277 13 днів тому +14

    Gosh this is so unnecessarily painful. Never allow a person to steal your joy, your peace. If they play hard to get for whatever reason true or not, don't pay this person any attention.

  • @shiishiro9574
    @shiishiro9574 9 днів тому +6

    💯Agree with Mathew.Majority of men are playing games,hence the majority of women are are opting to be single and loving themselves other than being out there playing games.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  9 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @gabrielalomelicasanova6595
    @gabrielalomelicasanova6595 14 днів тому +54

    Great episode! I love Sadia’s honesty and vulnerability. I really don’t get all the criticism towards her. You don’t have to agree with her (or anyone for that matter) but she is still wonderful and insightful. Both of them are really helpful… and that’s the whole point… it’s not a competition or a judging contest.

    • @MamoJoydevine
      @MamoJoydevine 13 днів тому

      💯

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +1

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

    • @SaulEmersonAuthor
      @SaulEmersonAuthor 11 днів тому +4

      I think a lot of people are prejudiced by her looks.
      You can't look like that _and_ still be wise & authentic.

    • @leannelollypop1869
      @leannelollypop1869 11 днів тому +5

      I agree. She gets a lot of criticism when she is genuinely trying to ask questions to understand that individual’s perspective.
      I would have thought Matthew is capable of choosing different words for “the vast majority/minority aren’t like that”.
      He basically said Sadia was wrong.
      That is Sadias experience based upon the people she works with.
      Both can be right.
      He put his experience superior to hers.
      He could have said “in the demographic that I mostly interact with, it has been a different story”.

    • @jeanpaulnkurunziza3287
      @jeanpaulnkurunziza3287 10 днів тому

      True

  • @Bestlifesofar
    @Bestlifesofar 14 днів тому +374

    As a woman, when I hear what they are NOT saying but reading cues, Sadia comes across as a woman who has her own relationship issues but giving out advice ironically . Matthew appears to be genuine where he had lived the issues and landed a stable relationship /marriage by his posture and choice of words. Sadia speaks cookie cutter lines but Matthew speaks from grounded wisdom.

    • @zar187
      @zar187 14 днів тому +48

      Most definitely Sadia has relationship issues, and no real expertise other then “experiences” but doesn’t look like she any better off then the people she is taking about on all these podcasts. Honestly it seems like she is trying to use this podcasts to reel in her next relationship.

    • @ChosenMe
      @ChosenMe 14 днів тому +59

      Yes, I’ve been semi-following Sadie for about 6 mos. Matthew 3 yrs. I do find Matthew’s advice & expertise comes from experience & I believe he has researched many avenues for his information to use to pull from when handing out advice. I'm not trying to criticize Sadie, however in many of her Podcast Ive watched or listened to, I am very intuitive & she isn’t very good at hiding her “personal” emotions. It has felt as if she more hands out her advice from what she's personally going through at that time or experienced herself through her relationships. Rather than being non bias & really digging her heels in & taking more time to find out from other females by talking with them & trying to better understand whats going on from many different economic backgrounds of females & truly what they're feeling, wanting, experiencing out there. Its very obvious to me that she works with predominately all men, from most of the information she offers. I do enjoy listening to a lot of her content. However as far as looking for advice from her as a female, I wouldn't choose her. Thank you for reading this.

    • @CarolineGirl81
      @CarolineGirl81 14 днів тому +33

      I appreciate her many interesting qualities. A brief look at her website shows that her group course for men is over $7500. This leads me to believe that her “sample size” is quite, quite small. Matthews events are huge packed rooms. Matthew has literally 10x the followers than her. Not a judgement, Just an observation.

    • @rukicowgal1
      @rukicowgal1 14 днів тому +36

      incoming women jealous of beautiful girls pretedning to disagree with sadia

    • @rukicowgal1
      @rukicowgal1 14 днів тому +24

      @@ChosenMe so basially you agree with her but because shes attractive you need to find flaws...got it

  • @lounamana
    @lounamana 13 днів тому +32

    Matthew truly represents the everyday men and women and makes more sense. Sadia is simply knowledgeable about the rich and their world as that is her only exposure. Good to see them together though

    • @emilythompson8070
      @emilythompson8070 8 днів тому +1

      I don't know Matthew to me sounds more like the average person talking where as Sadie sounded like an expert. I did enjoy and appreciate what Matthew was saying but she got to the point more.

  • @LB22448
    @LB22448 12 днів тому +15

    I like the fact Lewis did this interview with 2 people and he is so well prepared, loved this interview!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  12 днів тому +1

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

  • @ceciliabosire
    @ceciliabosire 13 днів тому +17

    Amazing episode. Matthew’s videos were my go to whilst I was dating. Helped me a lot. I took this statement from him ‘Be ruthless but also full of love”

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @22Amazonas
    @22Amazonas 12 днів тому +3

    I think Sadia only talks about 1% of women. I love how Matthew speaks for the rest. Thank you Matthew you are the best 🙏❤️

  • @-abrahamster-1
    @-abrahamster-1 14 днів тому +7

    These two should get together to start matching men and women for dating!

  • @korneliachmielewska1394
    @korneliachmielewska1394 12 днів тому +30

    I really like Sadia and tried listening to Matthew in the past but I feel he talks so much I loose the point and also talkes about the problem but there's no solution at the end. Sadia for me hits the nail on the head each time. I'm 'old school' maybe that's why. She's faster at noticing the actual problem, at least for me I get her point, and it feels more relatable to how I feel the dating is at the moment. I feel she's trying to help us girls and make us not feel guilty for once. ❤

    • @SaulEmersonAuthor
      @SaulEmersonAuthor 11 днів тому +5

      Absolutely! You've conveyed this brilliantly.
      Most on here seem to be enamoured with the chap - but two minutes into not-answering a question, he's talking about pizza!
      Sadia is super-incisive - like the Jordan Peterson of this arena - & people assume it's 'cookie-cutter' because she's so quick off the mark - & precise!

  • @lavinia8097
    @lavinia8097 14 днів тому +57

    I feel like Sadia has some insight only when it comes to the Dubai dating scene. That is very different from what happens in the dating scene all over the world.

    • @GreatWhite7
      @GreatWhite7 14 днів тому +5

      Dubai porta potties

    • @Harlemsweetie82
      @Harlemsweetie82 13 днів тому +5

      From my understanding, Sadia actually engages with with a large American group of men who are disgruntled about the dating scene. I think men are struggling with dating around the world b/c women's standards have changed. There are still a lot of nice and solid women and men that desire relationships but they are having a difficult time finding each other in the mess that is the world dating scene.

  • @GenXMystic
    @GenXMystic 14 днів тому +64

    Matthew is more than a dating expert. Dare I say... enlightened master?

    • @Ingrafre
      @Ingrafre 14 днів тому +1

      Hahaha great, yeah, Yoda he is becoming more and more.

    • @sumithraarul3321
      @sumithraarul3321 13 днів тому +4

      Well he is awakened person for sure. Enlightment is a stretch but am rooting for him.

    • @GenXMystic
      @GenXMystic 13 днів тому

      @@sumithraarul3321 😃

  • @loppan4534
    @loppan4534 13 днів тому +10

    Matthew was great in this conversation

  • @barbaraschultz1442
    @barbaraschultz1442 13 днів тому +16

    Playing a game with emotions, being more important, and manufacturing punishment due to ego means you are not ready for any relationship (you’ve got issues), run! This is a two year old.

  • @taniagil3122
    @taniagil3122 14 днів тому +13

    This was a greater podcast, Was confused in the middle with the different energy. But all parties to this talk spoke so from the heart. Found it helpful. Thank you!

  • @elenalouis311
    @elenalouis311 3 дні тому +2

    I love that we get to hear from both Matthew and Sadia, a man and a woman, sharing their experiences on both men and women. It is not a competition between the sexes. Over the years, I have learned to extend my compassion to men the same way I do for my girls. And eventhough men are harder to understand for me, because I am not one, I try to see them as human first, that usually helps.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 дні тому

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @augustasimone9323
    @augustasimone9323 14 днів тому +62

    I wish these experts would address the subjest of " Compatibility". From all the research the couples that have success and longeivity also have much in common: Common values and common goals.

    • @dear.aprisa
      @dear.aprisa 14 днів тому +7

      MH posted exactly a video on this yesterday

    • @Hrt3333
      @Hrt3333 14 днів тому

      Who is MH?

    • @KrystaUndertaker
      @KrystaUndertaker 14 днів тому

      ​@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey

    • @LouRegina
      @LouRegina 14 днів тому

      ​@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey?

    • @pegbuckner5074
      @pegbuckner5074 14 днів тому +3

      Matthew Hussey just posted one yesterday!

  • @aleenamasroor436
    @aleenamasroor436 14 днів тому +19

    I was here because of Matthew Hussey. However, mad respect for both of you. Thank you so much for bringing them together @lewis

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому +3

      Our pleasure!

    • @jelenavinca4111
      @jelenavinca4111 14 днів тому +1

      ​@@lewishowesYes, they both are great. And your obvious preference is disrespectful. At least like her thank you comment.

  • @noirettebeauty
    @noirettebeauty 9 днів тому +5

    I LOVE this!! Men coach vs women coach side-by-side

  • @lindamiliana6053
    @lindamiliana6053 14 днів тому +13

    I agree with Mathew. I think it would be the vast minority of woman are jaded and emotionally unavailable.

  • @Kyshalise
    @Kyshalise 14 днів тому +28

    I agree with Mathews take more. Sadia doesn’t understand because her clients are mostly rich men

    • @CarolineGirl81
      @CarolineGirl81 14 днів тому +1

      @kyshalise you are clearly beautiful. Not everyone has a developed eye.

    • @Peaceonearth2024
      @Peaceonearth2024 10 днів тому +4

      Some would find Matthew’s advice more helpful and some would find Sadia’s advice more helpful. The point of a collaboration is to have a more interesting conversation from including more than one perspective.

  • @primajope
    @primajope 13 днів тому +5

    "Matthew and Sadia nailed it! Recognizing and acting on red flags save un called for heartaches. Understanding our worth and avoiding toxic patterns are under rated for sure. key to healthier relationships.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Thank you for tuning in! :)

  • @NaynaHall
    @NaynaHall 11 днів тому +1

    I love how open this conversation was. The three of them are speaking a similar language in a different level, making this video accesible to understand for a wide range of people

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 12 днів тому +5

    Men put pretty women on a pedestal very quickly, and no one can live up to their idealized fantasy.

  • @soapyfankatie
    @soapyfankatie 13 днів тому +7

    Love the 2 for 1! I do relate to what Sadia is saying about sabotaging Green Flags. Unfortunately, this is relatable to how I've behaved and actively working on improving this

  • @wendydelucca6918
    @wendydelucca6918 14 днів тому +18

    It was too short, need more of their expert wisdom, thank you Lewis, as always!! Great content.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому +1

      You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @lisalambert81865
    @lisalambert81865 14 днів тому +15

    I’ve been told recently that once you been doing your healing, now you need to heal in a relationship. Like a test run. So if your up front men will take advantage of it or they don’t want to take the chance.

    • @jesswatt5824
      @jesswatt5824 13 днів тому +5

      I definitely believe you can do all sorts of healing but don't know how far you've gotten until you stress test it in a relationship. Then you get to reinforce and fine tune the work you did, looking at it from a new angle. It's like book learning vs. field experience lol

  • @GloryThruHarmony
    @GloryThruHarmony 14 днів тому +45

    Thing is a man being tall is also about how protected the woman feels with him as she walks through the world - it's an indicator to a deeper primal desire, not just a superficial thing. Its about how she feels when she's 'covered' by a tall guy - she feels safer, more physically protected because he's bigger than her...

    • @ConnectWithUganda
      @ConnectWithUganda 11 днів тому +8

      What if he's tall but a coward

    • @GloryThruHarmony
      @GloryThruHarmony 11 днів тому +2

      @@ConnectWithUganda Fair play! Then I'd sense that and would look for someone who possessed both qualities I guess haha

    • @staywellandstrong4199
      @staywellandstrong4199 11 днів тому +1

      So not true. Experience proves that. When his spirit is large ~ the connection expands

    • @zeynand4039
      @zeynand4039 11 днів тому +1

      I think you are right. I'm very much motivated by feeling safe, because I never had that as a child. I don't think looks at important except for a man being tall, I know it's superficial but I really believe it's motivated by this idea thst he can protect me and if he is the same height as me I feel I need to protect him. Because I am from thst chaos and danger I had to protect people and I always geld scared and lost. I still crave the feeling of safety. My fiancee is tall and it breaks my heart thinking I would reject that man if he was shorter because we really do work well together. It's very sad to think of it. Because we really should work on our traumas so we can have lov ein our lives. I know other women who don't crave safety all the time, really don't care as much about height and the g it being skinny and whatnot.

    • @GloryThruHarmony
      @GloryThruHarmony 10 днів тому

      @@zeynand4039 Yeah I totally hear you!

  • @nryanhollister8758
    @nryanhollister8758 9 днів тому +2

    I don’t have interest in men who are shorter because of the way it makes ME feel. There isn’t anything wrong with him, but if I tower over or look down it makes me feel big and dominant. I’m 5’8” and I want to be smaller that’s all there is to it. Basically it makes me feel less attractive to be taller. Just a feeling.

  • @MindsetMotionFitness
    @MindsetMotionFitness 14 днів тому +4

    This is true. The men that are poor in judgement often look at you like red meat basically and it blinds them to who they truly are.

  • @HaumeaBlue
    @HaumeaBlue 14 днів тому +14

    Loved so much the grounded posture of Matthew 🙏 and the wisdom he shared from a place of Compassion. He gives me the feeling of seeing us/the world with a clear vision 💎 Thank you soul much 🙏 it feels good to receive it and to witness his evolution through the years ✨️🙏✨️

  • @dianaraducu9142
    @dianaraducu9142 14 днів тому +12

    What an amazing combo! I loved this conversation! Very insightful. The last part, especially, was mind blowing for me.
    Not being vulnerable leads you to living a double life and neither side of it feels aligned to who you really are. That feels exhausting and extremely damaging. It gave me a boost to be more comfortable to opening up and being vulnerable.
    Thank you, Sadia, Matthew and Lewis, for making this happen. We need a second episode with you three :)

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

  • @duamumtaz-vy5km
    @duamumtaz-vy5km 14 днів тому +2

    Were Curiously waiting for this!

  • @VenusAllmighty
    @VenusAllmighty 14 днів тому +14

    Matthew is brilliant!

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 12 днів тому +10

    The reason why women are attracted to men who have achieved something in their own life is because those men are confident and secure in themselves and they are not threatened by a woman who has achieved something.
    Show me a man who is not successful and I will show you a man who will forever be a user and selfish and then claim he's a victim.

    • @keh-dalia809
      @keh-dalia809 8 днів тому +7

      Nah, men can still be competitive and insecure even if they have money, status, or success. And a poor man can have drive, dreams, goals, and have every capability and potential to succeed. It's all about the character of the individual, not a blanket generalization that can paint someone's character by class, education, or worldly success.

  • @SaulEmersonAuthor
    @SaulEmersonAuthor 11 днів тому +26

    If you can get past Sadia's looks, you will note a person who is utterly sagacious, authentic & really does speak clearly to the Time we are living in.
    Some people regard her input as 'cookie-cutter' - but it's all deeply insightful & tailored properly to the question as-posed.
    She carries this clarity on the subject with her, it's what she lives & does - so, quick, effective responses some will interpret as cookie-cutter.

    • @lindam4259
      @lindam4259 8 днів тому +6

      Why do you have to “get past her looks”? Beautiful women are smart… if they are not afraid to show it for fear of threatening many males

    • @SaulEmersonAuthor
      @SaulEmersonAuthor 8 днів тому

      @@lindam4259 Completely correct! I myself don't have to - but many people (at least in many Western cultures) do.

  • @nafhar
    @nafhar 10 днів тому +4

    Wow three brilliant minds in the same room… super excited to watch this one

  • @iliapanev1687
    @iliapanev1687 3 дні тому +1

    I listen to both of them and I think they're truly experts in that field. Also having two experts exchange ideas and expertise is super valuable. One note: Matthew seems to have a broader view of the topic and takes into account variables.

  • @jf1980
    @jf1980 14 днів тому +34

    Great Concept with the two guests 😊 Next Time Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton together please 😎😂

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому +4

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

    • @wrs446
      @wrs446 14 днів тому

      And Gregg Braden

  • @imdee9024
    @imdee9024 13 днів тому +5

    LOVE Howie's vulnerable but HONEST response at 7:55 - not afraid to just answer truthfully

  • @shraddhamishra9058
    @shraddhamishra9058 14 днів тому +13

    Part 2 of this would be wonderful

  • @user-zh4io2uo4k
    @user-zh4io2uo4k 13 днів тому +4

    Oh, gosh, what a beautiful trio! I can just watch you all guys without sound😊 but the information is so valuable too! So thank you so much! Such a joy to the eyes and ears❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

  • @sidra5512
    @sidra5512 14 днів тому +9

    i was literally wiating for MY two favorite people to show up together !!!! OMGG I am so excited !!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

  • @anointedoneac8748
    @anointedoneac8748 9 днів тому +1

    Elevated conversation! What registered the most is "full self-acceptance" with embodying that you're actions and energy will speak for you ❤💫

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  8 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @milcaquingatuna2877
    @milcaquingatuna2877 12 днів тому +6

    😊 ... thanks Lewis...............Sadia and Matthew in the same room is so whaoooooo

  • @aishahackett3388
    @aishahackett3388 13 днів тому +3

    It's about your patterning in relationships and how you seek out what is comforting or chaotic. We are creatures of habit and tend to choose others based on our patterning

  • @jedilady4485
    @jedilady4485 13 днів тому

    This is such a great idea having both male and female experts together, then we can really squeeze information and really go deep into discussion of two opinions.

  • @odessarepresentative
    @odessarepresentative 8 днів тому +7

    It’s interesting how many comments seem to feel this is a competition between these two instead of an opportunity to learn from two people…perhaps placing them next to one another instead of opposite each other might be better in future.

  • @monday2756
    @monday2756 13 днів тому +4

    Wow!!.It's such a BIG TREAT 🎉 to have Sadia and Matthew on here. To me it's EPIC👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
    THANK YOU !!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @NothingButAComment
    @NothingButAComment 13 днів тому +2

    I’ve watched matthew for years and love how over the years, he has become so much more grounded and wise.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  12 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @clipsbycarra
    @clipsbycarra 14 днів тому +4

    From my learnings as a Sociology-Anthropology graduate, it's how well you extend your very own (as if you're adding nice attachments to an e-mail!) to the reality coinciding with your "ideals"... seriously, look back on the start because these memories are glued and sticked (not stuck) to our minds or body or soul THAT'S WHY there is ATTRACTION. Even people of the widest contrast or spectrum may connect with a certain vibe or simply certain kind of energies...

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 13 днів тому +1

      Wow well said

  • @sanuradhajabasingh7981
    @sanuradhajabasingh7981 14 днів тому +2

    Tysm ❤ Awesome people! 👌

  • @thechosen1650
    @thechosen1650 11 днів тому +8

    Matthew saved this video…

  • @MamoJoydevine
    @MamoJoydevine 13 днів тому +5

    Definitely need a part two of this conversation.

  • @beller8501
    @beller8501 5 днів тому +1

    Ive been in healing for 20 years, no wonder i didnt attract my husband, feeling safe with ones self is most important before attracting my husband.🙏

  • @JayJay-kp1sn
    @JayJay-kp1sn 11 днів тому +2

    I appreciate all 3 of them. Matthew is a buddah kind of he really sees the big picture. Sadia is really up to date she has a very good understanding of relationships of younger generations, it does sound absured like the backup boyfriend example, cheating before getting cheated that's really a thing. I lile the dynamics also between the 3 of them. Thanks guys!

  • @Suerte619
    @Suerte619 14 днів тому +4

    I love both of these people, thank you for making an episode with them!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +1

      You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @FunFitandWell
    @FunFitandWell 10 днів тому +3

    Height is huge… no necessarily “vanity” but comfort and protection

  • @Renee_egan
    @Renee_egan 14 днів тому +3

    Wow that makes alot of sense 😮 great episode, as always though 🙌🏼 ill have to finish this after work!
    The attachment style hits home for me, not a conscious choice but never had consistent, reliable, stable relationships growing up so that totally makes sense... Unfortunately lol

  • @ehimmybravo6964
    @ehimmybravo6964 14 днів тому +1

    This is the only account I'm capable to watch ads for. Tysm Lewis :) Always brilliant, I love the duo with Matthew!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

  • @bongumusamakhathini7815
    @bongumusamakhathini7815 10 днів тому +2

    Thank you for bringing us these two giants!! Very interesting interview love this!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  9 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @makeupisbeauty
    @makeupisbeauty 14 днів тому +4

    This was one of the most incredible conversations/therapy I had and needed! Thank you.

  • @taniagil3122
    @taniagil3122 14 днів тому +10

    Matthew you are incredible. Thank you for you honesty ! It resonates. The journey of living

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @user-vm5ou4yz9s
    @user-vm5ou4yz9s 14 днів тому +3

    I enjoy both guests and do follow them both- very excited to see them together here with you Lewis!! Thank you!! ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

  • @Inventiff
    @Inventiff 6 днів тому +1

    I had dated someone who was emotionally unavailable, to not fault of his own due to his upbringing. As a child he had to grow up fast, taking care of both his chronically ill parents therefore his he didn’t get his needs met as a child. Although he grew up to be a sweet individual, it’s a classic case of someone only meets you as deep as they’ve met themselves.

  • @fatimazahra-eb2tn
    @fatimazahra-eb2tn 8 днів тому +1

    The best combo i ever seen, great conversation bringing a wide range of perspectives. Excited for part two 🎉

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  8 днів тому

      Appreciate you for watching. 🙌

  • @BasiaS-cr5oj
    @BasiaS-cr5oj 13 днів тому +3

    Everything starts from proper upbringing♥️

  • @amber4027
    @amber4027 11 днів тому +1

    I appreciate Matthew so much, he does his research and is well informed and insightful. He is one of my favourite public figures bc I feel like he is actually trying to build people up and support their individual growth. Thank you for this Matthew.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @gamarberhum9039
    @gamarberhum9039 13 днів тому

    Wow what a great episode... I love the perspective they both poured into the episode... It is relatable when truly vulnerable people share their wisdom unapologetically

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

  • @jesscox1775
    @jesscox1775 10 днів тому

    Ive followed Matthew Hussey on and off for around 10 years since his 'Get the Guy' days. Listening to him now it feels as though hes really grown in himself . Hes so considered in his responses and you can feel the wisdom of his experience.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  10 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @mizzvip3196
    @mizzvip3196 13 днів тому

    This was a good conversation. Normally, no one challenges her opinions. He did a great job at debating to the point where she agreed with him on so many points. I've never seen that from her.

  • @JoannaTLopez
    @JoannaTLopez 11 днів тому

    I love this episode so much! I've listened to it many times. Every time I rewatch it, the beginning gets me excited all over again! 😆
    Thank you for more greatness!
    🙌❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @zuleyrigo3784
    @zuleyrigo3784 14 днів тому +6

    Amazing podcast! Thank you 🙏 for this!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  14 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @p.g.was_here
    @p.g.was_here 11 днів тому

    Some things mentioned really hit me, I still have healing to do. Thank you for the open and honest conversation sharing different perspectives.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  11 днів тому

      Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

  • @taghazoutmoon5031
    @taghazoutmoon5031 13 днів тому +2

    That's true about accepting yourself. I know everyone has issues.

  • @thatskaren
    @thatskaren 14 днів тому +1

    22:41 I’m seriously at the same point in my life with everything. So glad I’m not alone in this mindset!

  • @Mytown2024
    @Mytown2024 13 днів тому +2

    Thank you very much for this video. A psychology, Sadia,and Matthew Hussey, it was great the conversation and see all points of view, Great! ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @scheherazadewherry1410
    @scheherazadewherry1410 7 днів тому +1

    The interview hasn't even started yet....BUT I know it's gonna be GREAT!❤ Im ready!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  7 днів тому

      Thank you! Appreciate you!

  • @sophiabrad
    @sophiabrad 13 днів тому +2

    Absolutely amazing podcast. I just love that you had both male and female experts point of view. BRILLIANT!!!! One of the best ones ever. Made me think deep about my own growth and how I show up in relationships. Just amazing!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  13 днів тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.