"Nothing is more attractive than someone who we think could have reasons to not feel confident and yet they're still unstoppable". I just looooooove this line!
The converse is also true. I know a very attractive, successful man that recently admitted that he sometimes struggles with depression. I warmed to him much more because of that.
Nothing is more attractive than someone who we think could have reasons to not feel confident and yet they're still unstoppable". I just love this line!
My insecurity I’m over weight. I’ve been single for years and I’ve told myself that when I lose weight I’ll be more comfortable to start dating. But TODAY I will rid myself of that bad energy and never tell myself that I don’t deserve love because of my weight. I will attract my mate at the size I am now and I will lose weight because I want to.
Yes Girl. Me overweight too, I feel like no one will ever want me,MY ENTIRE LIFE . Just put yourself out there. I start online dating couple months a go, and only get good feedback and meet nice people.
The JESSIE D Techniques my insecurity is I am overweight too. I agree loose weight because you want to. I’m loosing weight mainly for my health. When I was young I was thin and pretty. It’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Someone will always criticise you know matter what you look like.
I'm happy you've come to that realization. I truly hope you keep that momentum going and continue to believe in your value. I"ve been telling myself that for 5 years now. While I have a personal trainer now, and my goal once to be realized until next May, I'm finding success. It comes from making that conscious decision that I am worth the investment whatever that might be. I feel good about me, not for losing weight, but for committing to a lifestyle that is going to let me live longer, and has shown me that this determination and integrity carry into my other personal and professional aspirations. Fuck yea man!!
"The things that make us less alone is that, everyone else is feeling it too." Thanks for these words Matt. I instantly feel encouraged. It's good to know that not only me are alone or feeling lonely (both parents passed away, no siblings, no life partner, very few close friends). Other people might be feeling the same despite having families and friends surrounded.
I am alone and have a dreams that are unrealistic to obtain with out a partnership of like minded I have 0 support from family members or significant other who had a life he no longer shares or supports anything I say or believe he has completely lost his interest in me . I am 59 years old and looking at homelessness in my near future with no options for I have the desire to own my own laundromat but unable to afford the cost of start up location has been available for a successful future but I just couldn't move forward since the pandemic and all the events following up to date 8 deaths in my inner circle noncovid
I actually surprised myself towards the end of this video. When he prompted us to share a physical insecurity, I couldn't think of one. Not because I'm perfect. But because I've been working on my insecurity long enough to stop seeing parts of myself as "bad", but rather to just see them as "mine". I care more about the person I am inside than outside. This obviously isn't a cure all, but I think more people should adopt this way of thinking.
Dear Matthew, I'm so proud of you for putting this issue out there! As a flight attendant in a Middle Eastern country I can really appreciate the value of your work concerning the present female self-appreciation and self-worth. Whenever you get the chance, please speak more about the power that women can have as an encouragement to all the ladies seeking for understanding in this wonderful but tough part of the world. Thank you for trying to change something in women all over the world!
Matthew you are gorgeous not because of your body/ shell but because your spirit/ conciousness shines brightly !!! Continue to just be you !!! You're great !!! Love and positive energy always !!!
Gina McDonald Imperfections make us unique and totally perfect in the way we live our lives...we are greater and more precious than what we think we are !!! I am 54, I have wrinkles. I also have imperfect vision so I don't see my wrinkles and I don't worry about them because then I would only get more of them !!! LOL
This felt so sincere I wanted to give all my secrets away to you. I'm insecure about my personal traits, not the appearance to be honest. The possibility of being boring and stupid in front of others scares me most. But thank you for a motivation to meet my fears and to deal with them, Matthew.
I understand you and it makes total sense. What I have learned is that being scared and doing it anyway is what works best...And how do you do this in real life? Leaders, people with great communication skills, great attitude and amazing capacity to take over in any circumstances, they don't know it all either, but they know that nobody knows it all, so they use what they have, exactly where they are, right away. They make this a habit, so they never allow themselves to overthink things. And the interesting thing you come to realize is that the fear and discomfort soon become fuel for passionately being more of who you really are. You can lead even when you are really bad at something. Let me give you an example, a very physical one, one that doesn't just talk about the fear caused by overthinking, but also about the true danger it can cause: I am scared of water, don't get me wrong, I love water, I am a piscean astrologically speaking, but there was a time when I was sooo scared of possibly drowning that my brain would get completely numb. However, I went to swimming classes several times in my life, and once I almost drowned. Yup! Not because of my physical condition(i am a fitness trainer), or because I didn't know how to swim, but because I was overthinking constantly, I couldn't be 100% present, I would constantly think of the possibility of losing my cool in the water and not knowing what to do...But those were also some of the most beautiful days in my life, cause I could feel everybody's support to the point where I became the strongest there, my fear never really left, but I got to learn how to stay focused in the moment and swim like a pro even if I was actually scared. Everybody else thought I was so great, I became the example, they all wanted to know how I could conquer my mind, nobody could see beyond my courage and skill...but I knew at the end of the day that it was both: courage and fear working together. So...it makes no sense to think of things that make no sense...Just do the things you love and always remember that you must do those things that scare you in particular, cause those are the ones that take down your inner "China walls", your biggest boundaries, the fixed ideas you have built within, knowingly or unknowingly. I believe life is not about learning/adding to, but more about constantly undressing ourselves to the point of absolute vulnerability....and about being comfortable with all of it. Freedom is not about knowing it all, but about accepting that we never get to know it all in this universe where everything is constantly expanding in utter interdependence. Freedom is a deep understanding and acceptance of the fact that control is just an illusion, a mind game...this mind game, of course, mirrors itself in many ugly ways in our surrounding environment. Therefore... one cannot gain, nor lose control, one can only change perception, abort a game all together(any mind game) and focus on a more constructive layer of life or at least on more positive possible outcomes. As Wayne Dyer used to say: "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change". I should stop ranting...they say we always speak what we need to hear anyway, not what others want and need... so maybe i'm only talking for myself 😷😋...However, hope you're having a great time these days, sending good vibes your way!🙂🤗
No one truly boring and stupid would consider themselves boring and stupid. Just like no one truly insane would agree they are crazy. I belive you are not boring or stupid.
Kit Kitren did you even listen to the actual words he's saying or are you just trolling because of the tittle of the video and some need for attention. I really do invite you to listen to it because what he is saying is exactly what you are trying to comunicate but with less violent questioning. He says you know what? Just fucking be you and accept who you are today and own it and fuck the rest of the world and the need to finger point. He invites of all as to stop justifying who we are and what we do and just be present and let it all out there. The critics, the pointing, the questioning is negative energy we should learn to stop from making us insecure and self destructive. So there, that's your answer and is exactly why this video is ok.
Well make up you mind then. As long as I can see you where the one "traveling the Internet looking for women to fuss at". If you don't want answers don't ask questions.
I’m dating for the first time since I was a teenager. My husband left last June, and while I’m much happier than I’ve been in years; I’m incredibly self-conscious about putting myself out there. I’m a 40-year-old college student, a mom to 3 teens, and a plus-size woman. I’m also legally blind and can’t drive after dark, so sometimes I feel I have too many things working against me.
yeah but youre still an awesome human and plus size is also attractive (as fuck). people in that age group more so expect people to have kids anyway. I am 28 and it I already have younger friends who either have a kid or date a person with a kid or kids. andddddd it just means you have a sexy curfew to abide by;) I think the fact that you feel your happiest ever is not only super attractive but also means you have soooo much potential in so many different meanings of the word! and, eevn when I get out of a 1-2 year serious relationship, I too feel self-conscious about putting myself out there. I am alays afraid I'll end up with some douche who doesn't compare to my ex, but those douchebags are just the practice rounds to help me figure out my dating strategies. try lunch time dates and coffee dates for starters!!!! or walks and picnics in public/touristy areas because quarantine.
You DONT How many things working against you go for take the first step with you and God it’s a partnership your part to put yourself out there you don’t have to know all the answers just do it it
@@ThePrivet18 because she wants to? I’m 44 and starting to date again. Lol, you can love and validate yourself and still want romantic partnerships.... Why would you ask her ‘ why she wants to date ‘ when you are here watching a dating video yourself. Why do you want to date? I imagine she wants to date for the same reasons you do. Sounds like you’ve watched a lot of these videos and now you’re in the comments section trying to spew out what you’ve been listening to 😂🙄
What’s different about him is he’s obviously an existential genius. There’s 9 types of intelligence and I think existential genius is pretty rare, even among coaches and it’s very interesting to watch the difference between a coach who has existential genius and one who does not. It’s pretty remarkable. Love this guy ❤️
Thank you, Matt. I've watched this before and now again. You exemplify what women love in men...a real man. Honesty, raw unedited...vulnerable, yet secure. Beyond words...❤
I went on a date with a man who wasn't the right fit for me. He wanted to hook up that day, and I declined. I later respectfully declined to see the man again because I could tell that he didn't have integrity and the kind of character I was looking for in a partner. He messaged me and said, "adios, chubby." Really? I'm not petite, but I always considered myself average and toned. But his 'chubby' played over and over in my head. I'm taking back my power today! I'm so thankful I walked away from that guy after the single date. He will not steal my confidence. I am more than a single part...I'm a whole and worth far more than that man could see. I take back my confidence and power, right now! Thanks, Matthew for your helpful encouragement.
Man! I love this! I am a 47 year old disabled man, and I never have been in a long-term relationship. I have had hundreds of first dates (because I worked incredibly hard at that), but no second dates. You have fucking inspired me to "own it"! I love this, man! My channel name was very optimistic.
Don't work so hard at it. Instead of trying so much just show up as yourself. Less is more. Believe it will happen and eventually you will meet the one. Don't focus on the fact you haven't got second dates or a long-term relationship. Focus on the fact you're about to have them. There's someone out there for everyone. Good luck ♡
I definately agree with Lola:) Just be your beautiful self. Next time think are they impressing you. Change your mindset you have to impress them. It has to be both ways, meaning to connect and enjoy each others company :)
sandy/I/see Never be ashamed of having wonderful parents and living with them and enjoying them! Many people aren't that fortunate. They have parents that they couldn't wait to get away from when they became 18! Enjoy that relationship!
You are so blessed to have great parents! I have a wonderful mom but not a good step dad, he gave my twin sister and I a bad time and told us we were out of the house when we turn 18 and was always yelling at us! We were good kids too. I was shy and quiet and never went out a lot! I had to move home again and I love being with my mom because I am getting lots of memories that I would not ever have! God bless
Being attractive doesn't mean to be good looking but the way you present yourself as a valuable individual is what matters most. You better wear your smile and be confident all the time because men find it really sexy.
This video deserves to be shown in classrooms! I mean basically what you talked about is crystal clear. We shouldn't justify ourselves or be scared to be who we want to be. I'm 22 years old and I now really REALLY wished I got this kind of lecture when I was younger!! Hey Matthew, you rock!!!
When I was young, I used to feel lots of shame , insecurities and self consciousness when I need to take off my shirt, due to a big mole on my left shoulder. Nowdays, I've learned to accept myself and not allow others to judge me!
This video is really motivating to me, and just what I needed to hear. I've had a stressful couple of weeks and my skin is the worst it's ever been... I'm breaking out all over my face and I have eczema on my eyelids and my cheeks are all rough and dry, and all I want is to make an impression on my coworker but it's proving to be really difficult to be around him since we haven't had a shift together for a week and I have no idea what to think. Right before watching this I was thinking about how I looked yesterday when I saw him, and was almost cringing because my skin probably looked absolutely terrible. But the way you talked about owning your flaws and just being open about it really gave me a new perspective on the situation and I actually feel okay. Thank you so much. I'm gonna go ahead and watch more of your videos because your intellect and even just the way you speak calms me down
darkfawn A guy I was dating recently had also just had a very stressful time and had psoriasis all over his face and his body. He goes to hospital three times a week for treatment and has a light thingy he puts his face in for twenty minutes three times a week at home. He had it when I met him and he was and still is super hot! I wouldn't change it on him even if he would. There is something deeper that draws me too him despite him being self conscious about it. I don't even notice it and I don't care about it either. Good luck with your guy :)
darkfawn That's really beautiful. Also, eczema is often actually an allergic reaction to wheat/gluten. When I take out gluten, my eczema goes away. So, I keep gluten out, as you can imagine. But when I do eat it, the next day I get eczema under my eyes. So, there a trick. You can be free! (And still own yourself) Love.
This is by far the best video M. Hussey ever made. Ever! Don't know was it intentional and played or really random. Doesn't matter. But what he is talking about is really important - selfworth, selfawareness, mental and emotional tuffness all which is fundamental for a success at relationships of any kind and in life as a whole.
I just want to say that I loved this punchy-less video, you letting yourself be seen unedited. I'm a self-love and body confidence coach, and one of the reasons I haven't been as 'successful' is because I don't care for making things sparkly in order for them to sell. It feels like it goes against my message that you are enough exactly as you are. And it feels good to see someone like you spreading the gospel. ;) As for my insecurities, it's mostly my dimply, jiggly thighs. But you know what? I've had so many men tell me they LOVE my thick thighs, and I've learned to love them too. Sometimes it still gets me, but I don't let it rule me. I'm a WHOLE person, not just my cellulite.
"this person hasn't got this confidence because they've got it all but this confidence comes from somewhere else"...Powerful recognition, statement, and reminder.
Wow..."Project your most confident image- that in itself will make you more attractive than if you had no flaws at all". That is so fuckin' SMART! You are so wise and that advice makes me feel better about myself and my potential. Thank you for making these videos, they really help guide me.
Or a sweetheart/partner ... and he doesn't want to break hundreds of female hearts ... out here ... His confidence, here, truly did make him more attreactive!
Dude, I believe that whoever said this is an ugly guy. You are superhot! Still waiting for the video: “How to get Matthew Hussey to be interested in you” lol
But, you know what, Bruna? He's attractive because he's unassuming. He's not a snob and he doesn't think he's "all that." That's what makes him attractive.
I'm self conscious about my weight. I am overweight and I worry everyday about what I'm wearing and how it is going to look on me. I worry that no guy will find me attractive because I'm curvy and plus sized. I really appreciate you posting this video Matthew, it really helped me realize that I don't have to apologize for my choices or justify them whether that's about my looks or any part of my life. It's my life, my choices and that's it. I'm going to start owning it.
I own the fact that I get depressed, and even though I am vibrant, constantly uplifting the world and focussing on the positive, my inner world might be gloooooomy😣. but Fuck It! it is me and I own it! and I love it because it has shown me to love the best moments of my life with incredible passion. The worst brings out the strenght in me... and I hope it does in you too. I take pride in my vulnerabilities and oh... I dont like my dimply bum 🤔 lol!!! love u back Matthew... takes great strength to speak about being vulnerable. Owning it is a beautiful thing. bless u hun.... 😚
GinaG u might have an overly sensitive personality as i do, we feel the good and the bad too strongly, we might think we are depressesd, but we are not, we just feel more strongly than others do, our inner worlds are a bit deeper than other's, and we tend to get lost in it at times. But i tend to enjoy those deep gloomy feelings specially after i knew i was a highly sensitive person. U can look this up and if u feel its true for u as well it can help u alot because it did for me 🤷🏼♀️ best wishes.
I'm insecure about my body weight..Ever since baby number one it's been very hard to return to my pre-pregnancy weight..I have been working out the last couple weeks and some people have complimented on my weight loss😄 and after watching your videos it made me even more confident about my body..thank you so much for being AWESOMEEEE!!!!😁👏👏💗
Hi Matthew, what I really want to mention is that as long as you keep up encouraging people, torching their lives with your insightful tips, as long as you are being Matthew, YOU ARE SOOO WONDERFUL. The way you look, the orange/ brown tan hand white or your hair flipped back using gel, skinny or fat or fit doesn't matter, what matters is your beautiful soul trying to uplift and help other souls, that's very noble, I must say ( just ignore shallow people with their shallow comments) By the way, this video was was very authentic, not commercialized, more like a heart to heart talk which requires no alterations, so great job done there ❤️ .... What's my take away from this video is to fully accept who I am not because I am perfect or by concealing the imperfections I become near perfect, no, but because I am imperfectly perfect in my own way and nobody can ever beat me on that as only I am amazing at being myself nobody else can do it better, so, I might as well wear it with pride :) The second take away would be conditioning .... I will inculcate the conditioning thing in my life as I just scurry when I am near some person throwing off negative energy in order to protect myself instead I need to learn not be bothered by their presence.. Thanks a ton, Matthew! Aditi A fan from India🙏
By far my biggest insecurity is my skin. Luckily, the skin on my face is nice, but the skin on the rest of my body is highly sensitive, and I break out in rashes very easily. It's to the point where I am not comfortable in tank tops, much less a bathing suit. But I will not let it control my happiness anymore. I am not my flaws. And my flaws will not control me.
Krystal Smart i'm glad i'm not the only one either! I have no idea what is causing it, but I cant let it control me anymore. Like wearing something sleeveless or strapless, or even a bathing suit!
heather leshay howard Eczema may be due to eating gluten. I need no gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO...vitamins/good oil/minerals/detoxing, LDN which helps to block hidden gluten. Any food with a label may have hidden gluten and nuts not in the shell/meat basting/some spices etc. Gluten can cause leaky gut and allergies and lower nutrients absorbed. Fish oil, Mg, zinc, Vit C, probiotic, Vit B12 methylcobalamin under the tongue kind, Vit D3 5000IU, HCl and enyzmes with meals and more help me. Best wishes.
I thought I had eczema too. I developed this terrible rash all over the top of me feet that I had for months and I finally found out that I was allergic to my damn shoes!
@@amyjacquelineg.9541 what a negative way of looking at things. No one feels perfect all the time, but it's nice to meet someone who boosts how you feel about yourself. Hopefully you feel alright day to day and meet someone who makes life even better.
I *was* self conscious about my smile. I didn't like the shape of my lips, my small mouth and how I looked in pictures. I felt that because of this, the entire shape of my face was horrible! I hated it when people tagged me in facebook pictures where I didn't feel my best. Now I accept those pictures, just as I have accepted the part of me that was holding me back for so long. I wouldn't do anything to ever change them. This is the first time I'm opening up about this and it feels amazing. Honestly Matt I want to thank you for your good intentions, and your efforts in helping us to all become our greatest versions together :) Aisha
I am a big women, I'm 178cm tall and I am curvy. I always felt ashamed about my body. In the passed year maybe I started to feel more and more confident. I am watching your videos since a while and maybe I haven't met my partner yet but definitely your work and advisers giving me a totally different perspective about myself, man and dating. Thank you Matthew! Shine bright! 💚
Omg ! In today's social media- Skinny girls are tortured! I walked in the living room yesterday and heard my aunt's laughing at a skinny-girl Meme..☹ .. Apparently, it's ok to pick at us bcs we are skinny ?? This year, I've had so many condescending comments about being skinny ! Once , my eyeliner made me into a raccoon and while I fixed it in the car mirror , my friends mocked me and said things like "if you think that looks bad, what do you think of us?!" If I look in the mirror -I am considered arrogant, if I get a new outfit - I cannot ask opinions without jabs... It hurts me !! I can tell you a hundred stories, easily.. Why am I saying this to you?? Skinny or "curvy " people will continue their judgements.. Apparently, to these judges - I need a bigger butt, bigger boobs (I am a C cup !), bigger hips to "fill out" my clothes and I eat "like a bird " (even tho I can down over a half a pizza), the wind will "blow me away", "malnutrition" will kill me prematurely, clothes shopping with me is "unfair", I shouldn't wear heels bcs it "makes guys insecure" , ppl will "always say yes" to me only bcs of how I look, I can never order a salad bcs "it's why I am thin", etc etc etc .... the comments are endless! People like to judge !! Please don't hit the "like" button on skinny girl jokes and I'll continue not liking "curvy " girl jokes- BOTH hurt ☹
i am overweight. and i love myself, i am strong and beautiful. i made 4 amazing babies including twins with this body. my body works hard taking care of my family. thankful for my body
I have never ever seen anyone this human neither on tv nor on youtube. I have never enjoyed a 20 minute long video with someone just talking to the camera as much as this one... I am insecure about my hands because they do not look feminine at all, but I like to think of them as very useful tools to hold people tight when they need strength! THANK YOU for yet another important message, I hope it reaches as many people as possible :)
I love myself but there are some days that I feel ugly if I'm just in my pjs all day with no make up. My mother has taught me that when I put my hair in a ponytail I look ugly and I always have to have my hair down around her or she gets mad. It's kind of stupid but I wish she would just say that I was beautiful no matter how I have my hair or when I don't have makeup on she says "put make up on so you don't look ugly" and then I told her I wanted to be a personal trainer or someone that helps people be healthier and she said I couldn't do it because I was fat. But I don't believe anything she says and I'm in control of my own life and I'm not going to let anyone pull me back❤️❤️❤️ I am grateful that I have a body and I can travel and go to beautiful places. There are people that are in wheel chairs and they have to just sit at home all day. love yourself and don't compare yourself to other people and you'll be much happier☀️
Wow! Your mum must be a VERY insecure person ... Wear a pony tail and no make up whenever you feel like it. She'll get used to and over it.You are beautiful anyways!
DianeCrystal shoot a girl with a pony tail in pjs and no make up or lipstick what so ever i never seen any girl in a photo like that that sounds attractive and romantic me being a guy that is
I have a hair pulling disorder! Since I was 14, I have compulsively pulled out hairs - and thus have had bald spots (eyelashes and brows) at various times in my life. I used to be SO afraid that people would discover this. But now I have a lot of compassion and patience with myself, and I feel beautiful no matter what. Is it still hard? Absolutely. But it's also helped me grow into someone that is stronger and more compassionate - and more confident - as a result. Thank you for sharing this, Matthew. It's advice that I needed to remember.
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. I am very self conscious about being a bit overweight, I have scars throughout my body and face as well as dealing with thinning hair. It's been difficult to be okay with myself especially having been conditioned to think that as a woman I have to be thin to be sexy and beautiful, soft with radiant beautiful clear skin, beautiful thick and sexy long hair and basically look like a goddess. I know it's crazy but that's how I was conditioned since I was a very small child. 😕
I am self conscious about the symmetry of my face, about how would people react at my every single move, what possibly would they think of me (even when I am writing this comment) but from now on I will own it. Thanks Matthew for this wonderful video :)
Richa Jain I feel the exact same way.. knowing that someone with the same insecurity as me is owning it makes me feel way better, glad i'm not alone in this! lol
I always use to worry what people thought of me. I came to learn that people are so focused on themselves that they don't see other people and who cares what people think about us?
Matthew, I love how candid and point on especially this “spray tan” analysis about insecurities. Thank you, you are raw and real I always have a take away when I watch your videos. Keep going strong🎯
This is my absolute favorite video that I have ever seen you and Jameson create, Matthew. I can't even explain to you the different levels that this message spoke to me. I love that you chose to make this a raw and unedited video. This expanded on your message to "practice what you preach." Absolutely brilliant, mate! This is the video that I needed to see today. This video was created and posted 4 years ago, but I found this video through UA-cam suggestion on this exact day at the moment that I needed it. I know you were focusing on the physical insecurities, but today, I was dealing with my insecurity about the way I feel about the way my life is going right now. This insecurity was sparked due to looking at an old high school classmate's FB page because it was her birthday today. I looked on her page just to see what was going on in her life. I became jealous of her confidence, her wit, and her intellect after viewing some of her videos that she creates for a bookstore/bar/ music venue. I felt like, "I wish I could be on the same level of influence and knowledge, but I'm not super great, or knowledgeable, in an specific subject to create, or to step onto, a platform. I'm really lagging behind in my social and intellectual growth." I was just bombarded with negative thoughts about myself. Instead of protecting myself from others affecting my energy, I inflicted the damage to myself from within. It's been a journey for myself to figure out how to love myself as I should. But, anyway... *** Although I'm more hung up on my outward social insecurities right now, my physical insecurity would about to be that I'm not in the best physical shape right now...I'm probably 15 pounds over weight. It's not a detrimental amount, but I got some extra fluff that needs to come off, lol. Matthew, thank you so, so much for this video. It truly made my day! God bless you and Jameson for all the excellent work that you do
Matt, I'm 52yrs old and i love this video.. my belief: "its my life to live and I'm confident." I watch the followers and it's crazy to watch that people cannot be themselves. Great video!! 💪☘💕🐞 Dearborn, Michigan
my insecurity= my nose, my stomach pudge and love handles, small boobs, broad shoulders, long arms, thin hair, big feet, thin lips. however I rarely pay muvh attention to those things anymore. I know I am more worth than just a body
Total transparency is the key to living a great life. I laugh at myself anytime I start seeing myself develop a sense of insecurity. Then I shut it down with more laughter to myself. I don't have time to get caught up with my imperfections, these imperfections are my badges of honor, showing me, all of me. And I love them. Great video and wishes to you for being true and authentic to yourself and for yourself!!
jessica thomas if a man finds you attractive and truly cares for you Instead of just having his way with you, then he will love your flaws. I've been with women that I care for and I've never had any problem with any part of their body. If I don't have feelings for a woman those flaws can't hide. Bottom line is that if your man has a problem with your stomach then he is either shallow or doesn't have feelings for you, either way move on and be happy and confident😉
You are one brave person. Thanks for being so real. I'm self-conscious about the wrinkles on my face and neck...I realize that growing older is a sign that I am a survivor...resilient...I am beautiful in my perfect imperfection. I own this and will move forward...will take a deep breath and roll my shoulders back...held and all my beautiful wrinkles held high. What an inspiration you are...thanks a bunch!
acne and my fat rolls, especially around my belly and back. I love most of the rest of my body and writing this has made me realize that I don't dislike myself as much as I think I do. I feel like now I can decide more easily what I 'can' and 'can't' do... Thankyou :D
Being open about not being perfect makes you so unique in a positive way. you are a person with incredibly good energy from what I have seen and your positive attitude towards relationships has given me a new perspective and hope❤️ everyone has different tastes and pleasures so do not let it ruin your day. thank you for sharing good methods and ideas on solving today's challenge with relationships
I don't have a clear skin, especially on my face. I want my eyes to be a little bit bigger. I want my body to be fit. I want to be taller. I want, I want, I want... It's natural to want sth you don't have. But I'm trying to figure out how to change for the better, while still accepting myself.
I am short .... missing a side tooth i cannot afford to replace right now , and I have a honking big hook nose ..... I am now at an age (45) & place where I really enjoy taking pictures of myself, and more importantly , letting others take pics , as i used to hide and/or avoid pictures, and I now love LOOKING at myself and admiring myself ! not to be conceited but after years of NOT loving myself ... I think I can be allowed ..haha .... Yay me ! Here is a wonderful little ditty in Spanish about loving yourself . I will include a an English translation.. Que bonita soy Que bonita soy Como me quiero ! Sin me muero ! Que bonita soy ! in English : How pretty I am How pretty I am Oh, how I love me ! I'd die without me ! How pretty I am ! Repeat to self at least 10x when feeling ugly and down........It will cheer you up and remind you that, you should be kind to your self... your welcome.. lol..
laura v No.. that is how it is supposed to be said... how it was written ... it was not written grammatically correct on purpose, to make it a bit funnier.
The imperfection of this video is what makes it perfect. I like how you put it out there unedited "keeping with the theme." My insecurities can depend on my attitude that day, who I'm with, how I think they may judge me and how much importance I assign their opinions. It's not always the same insecurities. As time goes on I care less and less about being judged. I give myself the grace I need and am not waiting for other's approval. I don't need permission to like me or to be happy. Thank you Matthew Hussey and Jameson.
I am very self conscious of my stomach, however I have learned to live with it. I have two beautiful children and a survivor of bowel cancer, all of which created the stretch marks, scars and sagginess. It is a part of me, it makes me who I am and I can now actually put it to one side in my mind and focus on my many, many positives attributes.
Please love your stomach, it gave you 2 amazing kids, not to mention cancer survival! The stomach deserves love and acceptance. My best wishes to you! ❤
Im self conscious about my teeth and i cant affoed braces. ... Soo when a guy does actually come and talk to me. I freak out and look down due to this insecure. I wish i could fix this issue but i cant. But you have a point when you said what you said.
I have the same problem. I look back at my old photos and see myself smile soo big but now I can't get myself to do it because I am embarrassed and insecure about it. It's not as bad as some but to me it's something that holds me back also. So I know how you feel, you're not the only one ♡
Coming from someone who cleans teeth for a living... I love a beautiful smile just like the next person but I have to tell you, I see straight teeth all the time and my favorites are the ones with characteristic imperfections. Don't hide your smile it's an amazingly unique attribute.
I have a 3 inch scar across the majority of my face. I've it since I was 18 months old and I will have it for the rest of my life, unlike the causes of most people's insecurities. It's taken 21 years but I am finally starting to accept it as part of who I am, but it's fucking hard. All I have ever wanted is for someone to tell me I am beautiful - not STILL beautiful despite the scar, but that the scar is beautiful and I am beautiful. I realised I could be waiting a while for that to happen to a few years ago I just started saying it to my self, think I'm starting to believe it!
I think scars on faces are actually really attractive! There's just something about the imperfection that makes a person stand out and in a good way ;-)
Flic Coghlan My dear dear friend I am going to tell you, I find scars absolutely beautiful (I have quite a few myself, on my leg and on my hip) and my boyfriends have ALL loved my scars, and told me how beautiful they find them, because they are a part of my life story, and they come with a badass story of survival. You ARE BEAUTIFUL, not despite the scar, and not because of the scar, but because you are you. You should not be ashamed of your scar because it is something that is a part of your story, of what you went through. And I reiterate- YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU, IMPERFECTLY PERFECT, ALIVE, HUMAN!
New subscriber - one of my best friends as an adult was her high school's homecoming queen her senior year. She didn't understand why she had been chosen because she never believed she was beautiful, and she was. Her fiance began to convince her and she began to believe it. I realized in knowing her and her insecurity that we are all truly alike. It is when we accept ourselves and be ourselves that we become our best selves.
Same cars, different salesmen can sell so different quantities. Same with dating. If u know the skills, u get more opportunities. But it doesn’t change the car itself, but just present the car differently.
I have dark circles that I've had since I was very young and I was teased horribly about them up until high school. Even now, if people look at me sometimes, I'll assume it's because of the circles and turn my face. However, I've gotten a lot more conscious about this reflex since in my younger days. Thanks a lot for this video, Matthew! This actually confirms some things that I have been going through lately.
I have permanent dark circles too, I think it's hereditary, and I constantly got coments on them and my health, I was so self conscious about them I even though of getting surgery. Makeup helps a bit but you can still see them so now I've learn to love them and even think they are cute. Let's embrace the dark circles! :)
I get this too, and people saying "you look tired" all the time. I'm not tired, THIS IS JUST MY FACE. Why does anyone even say that?! May as well say "you look like shit" and think it's sympathetic!
For me, some kids thought I was on drugs because of the circles. I used to get called names like raccoon and black-eyed (peas), and then they would say stuff like, "Shut up before I make your eyes even blacker!" God, kids can be so cruel.
I have a tummy since I was 8...exercise like crazy-it,s still there...recently lost 40 lbs ... It,s still there...checked w/ dr...nothing abnormal...and I am self conscious of it...my boyfriend recently rubbed my belly and out of the blue commented...this is his favorite spot on me as it is the center of creation. I love my tummy now.
Matthew, you are perfect just the way you are! Critical people should tune in for your message not your physical humanity. We are ALL "damaged goods" trying to look for happiness. Keep up your good work!🙏
We would love more raw videos like this! Very constructive when we see how your minds and words piece together. I am just mesmerized as always by how well and clear and empowering Matthew articulate these positive and relatable messages to us. Thank you! Many loves❤️
To be honest, I used to be insecure and ashamed about myself as a whole. In fact, the only thing that I like about myself is that I try to be a good person and I'll try to help whenever I can. These days I'm learning to love myself because how can I expect anybody else to be able to love me if I don't love myself, right? Your videos really do help people Mathew and I hope you feel really proud. I'm not going to follow the link to your fake tan video, I'm sure I'll come across it at some point
I would smash the "like" button over and over again... Thank you, Matthew! Please do more videos about overcoming the rejection of people, their malicious side they show out of nowhere and so on.
i would never play my guitar or my songs in person in public because i believe that i know that people think it sucks and here it is - one i wrote yesterday and it happens to be very much related to this topic "Amazing Frankly, i can't draw.... and i'm not that good at singing Although i do some rhyme I'm not that great at dreaming And since my hands cant draw And both my feet arent dancing I'm defying every law Any judge may fancy Cos when my voice gets sore And the mind gets crazy Dreams get less than more But life... it's still amazing!"
Hmmm...my insecurity right now is that I'm 51 and have no significant other. Feel like others look at me like I should be worried about it...I do worry often times. For instance at work, being my age and not married, I feel pretty insecure about it, especially when other talk about what they (them and their spouses) did over the weekend, trips they took, etc.
idk if you would ever even read this but i just wanted to help, i think😅...you don't have to be married or have a relationship etc.who made this silly rule even up? you're whole yourself and if you could love yourself more, then you wouldn't even think about what others may think of you and wouldn't worry about things like that. I'm sure you're a wonderful human being and you just have to realize that:)
Hiya this comment may come a bit late but I'm 57 and have been single for abt 7 years by choice. I 've had relationships but I think I have a faulty man picker! lol They always turned out abusive. So I think I've given up. You know life is nice as a single woman. I live in an adult apt building and all I ever hear is women complaining abt their husbands or screaming matches.. There are a lot of perks about living single and having control of your own space. So don't feel bad about it and turn it all inside of yourself. Start telling your friends the things that you can do as a single, I often say .. Oh I don't have to worry about that, I'm free as a bird! ...and look at their sad faces.... lol
I know people who are married and miserable , it's about how happy you are and family and friends , you don't need to be married or with a man to have a good life x
Nancy Sellers : I am 53 years old and I am going to be single. Scary? Yes, it's have to go through the emotional process but it's how we build character to help others. I am learning so much about myself in the process. For me it's accepting healthier standards for myself and more importantly not to become bitter but better!!!
I can’t believe this video is already 5 years old - thank you for your authenticity. Thank you for being who you are. Thank you for keeping this video unedited.
I’ve struggled with acne off and on since middle school and it’s gotten me so down to the point where I’ve stayed home and hid away from people due to shame, self-consciousness and feeling so depressed about it. This latest time I’ve struggled with it in my 30s, I’ve been very focused on my thoughts about myself and making sure I’m not feeding into/believing the story that I’m ugly/repulsive/worthless/etc. and replacing those thoughts with affirming thoughts about myself. The work of Louise Hay has helped a lot and UA-cam recordings of affirmations by Jason Stephenson as well. Thank you for this video, Matthew! Such an important message to grow in acceptance and love for ourselves, and knowing the more we do so, the better relationships we attract into our lives. 🙏💖✨
I have hyper pigmentation so every bug bite and scratch I ever get turns into a scar…and it didn't help that i constantly picked them off out of insecurity. Because of this I had a good amount of body scars in middle school and high school and I'd always wear jeans and a jacket to hide them, I remember it being early summer and POURING sweat but I refused to take my jacket off. Although my scars are 90% gone now my arms and legs are far from perfect but I show them anyway. I refuse to live my life covered up and uncomfortable because of an imperfection, so now I wear what makes me happy and don't think twice about the scars. I am however still insecure about my remaining acne scars and still need foundation on when I go out
My legs are covered in PIH scars from mosquito bites and other accidents that happened throughout my childhood. Funny thing is, I wasn't self-conscious about them when I was young and wearing a short skirt that was part of my uniform throughout middle school and high school; yet, now I am. Somehow over the years we've established a social culture where nothing short of perfect is acceptable, but I feel like that is changing. More people are starting to embrace themselves just as they are, and calling out people who ridicule others insecurities, which is as it should be. I've stopped straightening my hair now and I've slowly started wearing more shorts and skirts in public. If people are going to judge me based on a few scars on my legs, well, that speaks more about them than anything else.
isisnra I'm the exact same way! Although I always covered my body scars I never had an issue showing my acne and acne scars in mid/high school and my acne was BAD. It was only once I got to college that I became insecure and started wearing makeup. I'm glad you're learning to accept yourself, we all need to do that
I’m not a fan of taking pictures of myself because I feel like one of my eyes are a little higher up than the other one, and it becomes incredibly noticeable upon a selfie. It’s not bad from further back but close up and I see it and it makes me feel self conscious. I’m just a normal hetro dude who found your videos the other day and I’ve found lots of useful 2 way advice, so thanks for doing what you’re doing man!
I have never commented under a video. But, I must share that. I literally took this video link and hide it so I can watch it each time I doubt who I am or feel insecure. It is really deep and nothing else could explain my own feelings as much as this. all of these insecurities within us and the others I can see clearer now. Thanks.
"Nothing is more attractive than someone who we think could have reasons to not feel confident and yet they're still unstoppable". I just looooooove this line!
yeah, I noticed it too strightaway, but was too lazy to note it down, so thank u, I'll just copy ur comment :D
The converse is also true. I know a very attractive, successful man that recently admitted that he sometimes struggles with depression. I warmed to him much more because of that.
Nothing is more attractive than someone who we think could have reasons to not feel confident and yet they're still unstoppable". I just love this line!
My insecurity I’m over weight. I’ve been single for years and I’ve told myself that when I lose weight I’ll be more comfortable to start dating. But TODAY I will rid myself of that bad energy and never tell myself that I don’t deserve love because of my weight. I will attract my mate at the size I am now and I will lose weight because I want to.
Yes Girl. Me overweight too, I feel like no one will ever want me,MY ENTIRE LIFE . Just put yourself out there.
I start online dating couple months a go, and only get good feedback and meet nice people.
The JESSIE D Techniques my insecurity is I am overweight too. I agree loose weight because you want to. I’m loosing weight mainly for my health. When I was young I was thin and pretty. It’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Someone will always criticise you know matter what you look like.
Own it! Stop justifying yourself!
You go girl!
I'm happy you've come to that realization. I truly hope you keep that momentum going and continue to believe in your value.
I"ve been telling myself that for 5 years now. While I have a personal trainer now, and my goal once to be realized until next May, I'm finding success. It comes from making that conscious decision that I am worth the investment whatever that might be. I feel good about me, not for losing weight, but for committing to a lifestyle that is going to let me live longer, and has shown me that this determination and integrity carry into my other personal and professional aspirations. Fuck yea man!!
"The things that make us less alone is that, everyone else is feeling it too." Thanks for these words Matt. I instantly feel encouraged. It's good to know that not only me are alone or feeling lonely (both parents passed away, no siblings, no life partner, very few close friends). Other people might be feeling the same despite having families and friends surrounded.
I am alone and have a dreams that are unrealistic to obtain with out a partnership of like minded I have 0 support from family members or significant other who had a life he no longer shares or supports anything I say or believe he has completely lost his interest in me . I am 59 years old and looking at homelessness in my near future with no options for I have the desire to own my own laundromat but unable to afford the cost of start up location has been available for a successful future but I just couldn't move forward since the pandemic and all the events following up to date 8 deaths in my inner circle noncovid
The most liberating realization I've ever had is that what other people think of me is none of my business.
I'm starting to wonder if Jameson is a real person.
Chris Hanline no it can't be Jameson is his second personality lol
Chris Hanline 😂😂😂😂
Lmaoo
xD
Jameson is real.
www.jamesonwhiskey.com
I actually surprised myself towards the end of this video. When he prompted us to share a physical insecurity, I couldn't think of one. Not because I'm perfect. But because I've been working on my insecurity long enough to stop seeing parts of myself as "bad", but rather to just see them as "mine". I care more about the person I am inside than outside. This obviously isn't a cure all, but I think more people should adopt this way of thinking.
+TheUniverseKiss that's so wonderful
congratulations!
You are on the leading edge of creating a new paradigm for people everywhere.
+bijou bijoux I could say the same about you mate. Look in the mirror, you'll prove me right. c:
bijou bijoux, i have pity for you
Dear Matthew, I'm so proud of you for putting this issue out there! As a flight attendant in a
Middle Eastern country I can really appreciate the value of your work concerning the present female self-appreciation and self-worth. Whenever you get the chance, please speak more about the power that women can have as an encouragement to all the ladies seeking for understanding in this wonderful but tough part of the world. Thank you for trying to change something in women all over the world!
the thing is, Matt isn't even my type but he's sooooo charming and magnetic. I can see how other girls totally fall for him. you go, Mattie!
+Hannah V the One you see in the video😊
well, he is white. that helps
+Lorem Ipsum what does it have to be with being white? whites are not my type, yet he still has got game soooo... why bring race into this?
That accent makes him even more charming.
Matthew you are gorgeous not because of your body/ shell but because your spirit/ conciousness shines brightly !!! Continue to just be you !!! You're great !!! Love and positive energy always !!!
Gina McDonald Imperfections make us unique and totally perfect in the way we live our lives...we are greater and more precious than what we think we are !!!
I am 54, I have wrinkles. I also have imperfect vision so I don't see my wrinkles and I don't worry about them because then I would only get more of them !!! LOL
This felt so sincere I wanted to give all my secrets away to you. I'm insecure about my personal traits, not the appearance to be honest. The possibility of being boring and stupid in front of others scares me most. But thank you for a motivation to meet my fears and to deal with them, Matthew.
I can relate to this so much.
I understand you and it makes total sense. What I have learned is that being scared and doing it anyway is what works best...And how do you do this in real life? Leaders, people with great communication skills, great attitude and amazing capacity to take over in any circumstances, they don't know it all either, but they know that nobody knows it all, so they use what they have, exactly where they are, right away. They make this a habit, so they never allow themselves to overthink things. And the interesting thing you come to realize is that the fear and discomfort soon become fuel for passionately being more of who you really are. You can lead even when you are really bad at something. Let me give you an example, a very physical one, one that doesn't just talk about the fear caused by overthinking, but also about the true danger it can cause: I am scared of water, don't get me wrong, I love water, I am a piscean astrologically speaking, but there was a time when I was sooo scared of possibly drowning that my brain would get completely numb. However, I went to swimming classes several times in my life, and once I almost drowned. Yup! Not because of my physical condition(i am a fitness trainer), or because I didn't know how to swim, but because I was overthinking constantly, I couldn't be 100% present, I would constantly think of the possibility of losing my cool in the water and not knowing what to do...But those were also some of the most beautiful days in my life, cause I could feel everybody's support to the point where I became the strongest there, my fear never really left, but I got to learn how to stay focused in the moment and swim like a pro even if I was actually scared. Everybody else thought I was so great, I became the example, they all wanted to know how I could conquer my mind, nobody could see beyond my courage and skill...but I knew at the end of the day that it was both: courage and fear working together. So...it makes no sense to think of things that make no sense...Just do the things you love and always remember that you must do those things that scare you in particular, cause those are the ones that take down your inner "China walls", your biggest boundaries, the fixed ideas you have built within, knowingly or unknowingly. I believe life is not about learning/adding to, but more about constantly undressing ourselves to the point of absolute vulnerability....and about being comfortable with all of it. Freedom is not about knowing it all, but about accepting that we never get to know it all in this universe where everything is constantly expanding in utter interdependence. Freedom is a deep understanding and acceptance of the fact that control is just an illusion, a mind game...this mind game, of course, mirrors itself in many ugly ways in our surrounding environment. Therefore... one cannot gain, nor lose control, one can only change perception, abort a game all together(any mind game) and focus on a more constructive layer of life or at least on more positive possible outcomes. As Wayne Dyer used to say: "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change". I should stop ranting...they say we always speak what we need to hear anyway, not what others want and need... so maybe i'm only talking for myself 😷😋...However, hope you're having a great time these days, sending good vibes your way!🙂🤗
No one truly boring and stupid would consider themselves boring and stupid. Just like no one truly insane would agree they are crazy. I belive you are not boring or stupid.
Who's listening to this?
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Shit, I feel like I need to put this video and listen to it every morning before going out to face the world.
same
Kit Kitren did you even listen to the actual words he's saying or are you just trolling because of the tittle of the video and some need for attention. I really do invite you to listen to it because what he is saying is exactly what you are trying to comunicate but with less violent questioning. He says you know what? Just fucking be you and accept who you are today and own it and fuck the rest of the world and the need to finger point. He invites of all as to stop justifying who we are and what we do and just be present and let it all out there. The critics, the pointing, the questioning is negative energy we should learn to stop from making us insecure and self destructive. So there, that's your answer and is exactly why this video is ok.
Well make up you mind then. As long as I can see you where the one "traveling the Internet looking for women to fuss at". If you don't want answers don't ask questions.
Lilibutter lol same tho
omg yes! so wish this was on a cd or iTunes.
SHOW YOUR FACE JAMESON!!
+FluffyPinkGlam EXACTLY!
+FluffyPinkGlam WHO ARE YOU PERSON?!
Or voice even
Jameson is a crappy Irish whiskey. You should drink the real stuff Matthew, Scotch Whisky, without the added E.
hahaha i can't wait to see him too
I feel like Jamison is his imaginary friend
Alex Do ME TOOOOO
maybe. Own that imaginary friend!!
He's real! I've heard him and have seen parts of him like an arm..
Alex Do lol wouldnt it be creepy if whenever to go to show Jamison, it just pans over to a body length mirror.
I’m dating for the first time since I was a teenager. My husband left last June, and while I’m much happier than I’ve been in years; I’m incredibly self-conscious about putting myself out there. I’m a 40-year-old college student, a mom to 3 teens, and a plus-size woman. I’m also legally blind and can’t drive after dark, so sometimes I feel I have too many things working against me.
yeah but youre still an awesome human and plus size is also attractive (as fuck). people in that age group more so expect people to have kids anyway. I am 28 and it I already have younger friends who either have a kid or date a person with a kid or kids. andddddd it just means you have a sexy curfew to abide by;) I think the fact that you feel your happiest ever is not only super attractive but also means you have soooo much potential in so many different meanings of the word! and, eevn when I get out of a 1-2 year serious relationship, I too feel self-conscious about putting myself out there. I am alays afraid I'll end up with some douche who doesn't compare to my ex, but those douchebags are just the practice rounds to help me figure out my dating strategies. try lunch time dates and coffee dates for starters!!!! or walks and picnics in public/touristy areas because quarantine.
Well you have all that but for sure I see a beautiful face on your profile pic. I'm sure you will find your good guy
Why do you want to date again? Enjoy your solitude. Learn to love yourself, love is within you
You DONT How many things working against you go for take the first step with you and God it’s a partnership your part to put yourself out there you don’t have to know all the answers just do it it
@@ThePrivet18 because she wants to? I’m 44 and starting to date again. Lol, you can love and validate yourself and still want romantic partnerships.... Why would you ask her ‘ why she wants to date ‘ when you are here watching a dating video yourself. Why do you want to date? I imagine she wants to date for the same reasons you do.
Sounds like you’ve watched a lot of these videos and now you’re in the comments section trying to spew out what you’ve been listening to 😂🙄
What’s different about him is he’s obviously an existential genius. There’s 9 types of intelligence and I think existential genius is pretty rare, even among coaches and it’s very interesting to watch the difference between a coach who has existential genius and one who does not. It’s pretty remarkable. Love this guy ❤️
Thank you, Matt. I've watched this before and now again. You exemplify what women love in men...a real man. Honesty, raw unedited...vulnerable, yet secure. Beyond words...❤
I went on a date with a man who wasn't the right fit for me. He wanted to hook up that day, and I declined. I later respectfully declined to see the man again because I could tell that he didn't have integrity and the kind of character I was looking for in a partner. He messaged me and said, "adios, chubby." Really? I'm not petite, but I always considered myself average and toned. But his 'chubby' played over and over in my head. I'm taking back my power today! I'm so thankful I walked away from that guy after the single date. He will not steal my confidence. I am more than a single part...I'm a whole and worth far more than that man could see. I take back my confidence and power, right now! Thanks, Matthew for your helpful encouragement.
Katrina Hobart he was trying to punish you for rejecting him. What a jerk. He definitely does not deserve one more minute of thought.
But you are chubby, I can see that in the picture. Own it
I would’ve replied with: Many men love chubby women, good to know you’re not one of them. Good luck to you out there :)
@@DianaThermopolis Well, he obviously DID want to see her again, so the chubby comment was just a sour grapes phenomenon.
Man! I love this! I am a 47 year old disabled man, and I never have been in a long-term relationship. I have had hundreds of first dates (because I worked incredibly hard at that), but no second dates. You have fucking inspired me to "own it"! I love this, man! My channel name was very optimistic.
Don't work so hard at it. Instead of trying so much just show up as yourself. Less is more. Believe it will happen and eventually you will meet the one. Don't focus on the fact you haven't got second dates or a long-term relationship. Focus on the fact you're about to have them. There's someone out there for everyone. Good luck ♡
I definately agree with Lola:)
Just be your beautiful self. Next time think are they impressing you. Change your mindset you have to impress them. It has to be both ways, meaning to connect and enjoy each others company :)
I'm ashamed of living with my parents though being in my mid twenties. But I actually love it and them.
sandy/I/see Never be ashamed of having wonderful parents and living with them and enjoying them! Many people aren't that fortunate. They have parents that they couldn't wait to get away from when they became 18! Enjoy that relationship!
You are so blessed to have great parents! I have a wonderful mom but not a good step dad, he gave my twin sister and I a bad time and told us we were out of the house when we turn 18 and was always yelling at us! We were good kids too. I was shy and quiet and never went out a lot! I had to move home again and I love being with my mom because I am getting lots of memories that I would not ever have! God bless
sandy/I/see I live with my mum, cuz I'm 22.
That’s cool! You are a happy one))
I love my parents to death but I want to live on my own.. just to grow more independent and all
Being attractive doesn't mean to be good looking but the way you present yourself as a valuable individual is what matters most. You better wear your smile and be confident all the time because men find it really sexy.
Being attractive does mean to be good looking. You can't wear a smile and be confident ALL THE TIME. It's just not possible.
The first half of that statement was great.
This video deserves to be shown in classrooms!
I mean basically what you talked about is crystal clear. We shouldn't justify ourselves or be scared to be who we want to be.
I'm 22 years old and I now really REALLY wished I got this kind of lecture when I was younger!!
Hey Matthew, you rock!!!
When I was young, I used to feel lots of shame , insecurities and self consciousness when I need to take off my shirt, due to a big mole on my left shoulder. Nowdays, I've learned to accept myself and not allow others to judge me!
This video is really motivating to me, and just what I needed to hear. I've had a stressful couple of weeks and my skin is the worst it's ever been... I'm breaking out all over my face and I have eczema on my eyelids and my cheeks are all rough and dry, and all I want is to make an impression on my coworker but it's proving to be really difficult to be around him since we haven't had a shift together for a week and I have no idea what to think. Right before watching this I was thinking about how I looked yesterday when I saw him, and was almost cringing because my skin probably looked absolutely terrible. But the way you talked about owning your flaws and just being open about it really gave me a new perspective on the situation and I actually feel okay. Thank you so much. I'm gonna go ahead and watch more of your videos because your intellect and even just the way you speak calms me down
darkfawn A guy I was dating recently had also just had a very stressful time and had psoriasis all over his face and his body. He goes to hospital three times a week for treatment and has a light thingy he puts his face in for twenty minutes three times a week at home. He had it when I met him and he was and still is super hot! I wouldn't change it on him even if he would. There is something deeper that draws me too him despite him being self conscious about it. I don't even notice it and I don't care about it either. Good luck with your guy :)
darkfawn That's really beautiful. Also, eczema is often actually an allergic reaction to wheat/gluten. When I take out gluten, my eczema goes away. So, I keep gluten out, as you can imagine. But when I do eat it, the next day I get eczema under my eyes. So, there a trick. You can be free! (And still own yourself) Love.
This is by far the best video M. Hussey ever made. Ever! Don't know was it intentional and played or really random. Doesn't matter. But what he is talking about is really important - selfworth, selfawareness, mental and emotional tuffness all which is fundamental for a success at relationships of any kind and in life as a whole.
I just want to say that I loved this punchy-less video, you letting yourself be seen unedited. I'm a self-love and body confidence coach, and one of the reasons I haven't been as 'successful' is because I don't care for making things sparkly in order for them to sell. It feels like it goes against my message that you are enough exactly as you are. And it feels good to see someone like you spreading the gospel. ;)
As for my insecurities, it's mostly my dimply, jiggly thighs. But you know what? I've had so many men tell me they LOVE my thick thighs, and I've learned to love them too. Sometimes it still gets me, but I don't let it rule me. I'm a WHOLE person, not just my cellulite.
"this person hasn't got this confidence because they've got it all but this confidence comes from somewhere else"...Powerful recognition, statement, and reminder.
Wow..."Project your most confident image- that in itself will make you more attractive than if you had no flaws at all". That is so fuckin' SMART! You are so wise and that advice makes me feel better about myself and my potential. Thank you for making these videos, they really help guide me.
I'm overweight :(
That moment when you realized that maybe - Jameson is his alter ego.
the one that shows up after a few glasses of whiskey
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Or a sweetheart/partner ... and he doesn't want to break hundreds of female hearts ... out here ... His confidence, here, truly did make him more attreactive!
Dude, I believe that whoever said this is an ugly guy. You are superhot! Still waiting for the video: “How to get Matthew Hussey to be interested in you” lol
But, you know what, Bruna? He's attractive because he's unassuming. He's not a snob and he doesn't think he's "all that." That's what makes him attractive.
Bruna Mendes loooooollll yes!!!! plz hahah
I interpreted this as "How to get Matthew Hussey to be into you”
LOL, is there a waiting list we can get on?
lol
Matthew "I don't read UA-cam comments."
Also Matthew "leave me a comment and tell me what you think."
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Well jameson does xD
Haha thought the same!
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Being tall and mixed race has always been an insecurity instead of a strength. 😍😍 I luv this vid and learned a lot!!
Confidence is SEXY.
I'm self conscious about my weight. I am overweight and I worry everyday about what I'm wearing and how it is going to look on me. I worry that no guy will find me attractive because I'm curvy and plus sized.
I really appreciate you posting this video Matthew, it really helped me realize that I don't have to apologize for my choices or justify them whether that's about my looks or any part of my life. It's my life, my choices and that's it. I'm going to start owning it.
THE Most significant thing you said is "we are all afraid"
Strech marks, childhood scars, sun spots on my face, my nose, my teeth, my feet... you name it! I still dare to feel sexy!! 😜
I own the fact that I get depressed, and even though I am vibrant, constantly uplifting the world and focussing on the positive, my inner world might be gloooooomy😣. but Fuck It! it is me and I own it! and I love it because it has shown me to love the best moments of my life with incredible passion. The worst brings out the strenght in me... and I hope it does in you too. I take pride in my vulnerabilities and
oh... I dont like my dimply bum 🤔 lol!!!
love u back Matthew... takes great strength to speak about being vulnerable. Owning it is a beautiful thing.
bless u hun.... 😚
GinaG the first paragraph was powerful
GinaG u might have an overly sensitive personality as i do, we feel the good and the bad too strongly, we might think we are depressesd, but we are not, we just feel more strongly than others do, our inner worlds are a bit deeper than other's, and we tend to get lost in it at times. But i tend to enjoy those deep gloomy feelings specially after i knew i was a highly sensitive person. U can look this up and if u feel its true for u as well it can help u alot because it did for me 🤷🏼♀️ best wishes.
GinaG 👏👏👍
GinaG that is strong, you go girl ❤️
I'm a dude and I'm sorta like that too
Dude you are hotter than a sauna, in a volcano, on the Sun
ThirdWorld Style I decide that once I see him naked.. lolll
+ThirdWorld Style
hotter than TRUMP?! how is that possible?
ThirdWorld Style agreed!!!
yes... kinda makes you wonder why he got a spray tan? :D
ThirdWorld Style truuuuuu
I'm insecure about my body weight..Ever since baby number one it's been very hard to return to my pre-pregnancy weight..I have been working out the last couple weeks and some people have complimented on my weight loss😄 and after watching your videos it made me even more confident about my body..thank you so much for being AWESOMEEEE!!!!😁👏👏💗
I'm so happy for you. But make sure you're doing it for yourself and not for anyone else❤️❤️
Awe thank you for ur kind words!!😊😘yes absolutely!!!😁
Hi Matthew, what I really want to mention is that as long as you keep up encouraging people, torching their lives with your insightful tips, as long as you are being Matthew, YOU ARE SOOO WONDERFUL. The way you look, the orange/ brown tan hand white or your hair flipped back using gel, skinny or fat or fit doesn't matter, what matters is your beautiful soul trying to uplift and help other souls, that's very noble, I must say ( just ignore shallow people with their shallow comments)
By the way, this video was was very authentic, not commercialized, more like a heart to heart talk which requires no alterations, so great job done there ❤️ .... What's my take away from this video is to fully accept who I am not because I am perfect or by concealing the imperfections I become near perfect, no, but because I am imperfectly perfect in my own way and nobody can ever beat me on that as only I am amazing at being myself nobody else can do it better, so, I might as well wear it with pride :) The second take away would be conditioning .... I will inculcate the conditioning thing in my life as I just scurry when I am near some person throwing off negative energy in order to protect myself instead I need to learn not be bothered by their presence.. Thanks a ton, Matthew!
Aditi
A fan from India🙏
By far my biggest insecurity is my skin. Luckily, the skin on my face is nice, but the skin on the rest of my body is highly sensitive, and I break out in rashes very easily. It's to the point where I am not comfortable in tank tops, much less a bathing suit. But I will not let it control my happiness anymore. I am not my flaws. And my flaws will not control me.
Omg my skin is the same! I rarely get pimples on my face the rest of my skin is hypersensitive. I'm so glad that I'm not the only one.
Krystal Smart i'm glad i'm not the only one either! I have no idea what is causing it, but I cant let it control me anymore. Like wearing something sleeveless or strapless, or even a bathing suit!
I've been there. I have eczema and I'm also allergic to indoor allergens. I have to be very careful with what I expose my skin to.
heather leshay howard Eczema may be due to eating gluten. I need no gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO...vitamins/good oil/minerals/detoxing, LDN which helps to block hidden gluten. Any food with a label may have hidden gluten and nuts not in the shell/meat basting/some spices etc. Gluten can cause leaky gut and allergies and lower nutrients absorbed. Fish oil, Mg, zinc, Vit C, probiotic, Vit B12 methylcobalamin under the tongue kind, Vit D3 5000IU, HCl and enyzmes with meals and more help me. Best wishes.
I thought I had eczema too. I developed this terrible rash all over the top of me feet that I had for months and I finally found out that I was allergic to my damn shoes!
I had quite a few things I didn't like about myself, but then I met my husband. Now I feel absolute beautiful in and out.
Yuna Tang Sad that you didn’t feel beautiful before you had a husband to validate you.
@@amyjacquelineg.9541 what a negative way of looking at things. No one feels perfect all the time, but it's nice to meet someone who boosts how you feel about yourself. Hopefully you feel alright day to day and meet someone who makes life even better.
I *was* self conscious about my smile. I didn't like the shape of my lips, my small mouth and how I looked in pictures. I felt that because of this, the entire shape of my face was horrible! I hated it when people tagged me in facebook pictures where I didn't feel my best. Now I accept those pictures, just as I have accepted the part of me that was holding me back for so long. I wouldn't do anything to ever change them.
This is the first time I'm opening up about this and it feels amazing. Honestly Matt I want to thank you for your good intentions, and your efforts in helping us to all become our greatest versions together :)
Aisha
AISHALVSMJ re reading my comment, and I do not apologise that it sounds overly poetic! :') ;) Thanks again.
+AISHAMJLUV I think you have a great smile :)
I’m trying to embrace my age!!!
Your words are so true and the sooner we all get that confidence figured out, the better we ALL would be!!!
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I am a big women, I'm 178cm tall and I am curvy. I always felt ashamed about my body. In the passed year maybe I started to feel more and more confident. I am watching your videos since a while and maybe I haven't met my partner yet but definitely your work and advisers giving me a totally different perspective about myself, man and dating. Thank you Matthew! Shine bright! 💚
Omg ! In today's social media- Skinny girls are tortured! I walked in the living room yesterday and heard my aunt's laughing at a skinny-girl Meme..☹ .. Apparently, it's ok to pick at us bcs we are skinny ?? This year, I've had so many condescending comments about being skinny ! Once , my eyeliner made me into a raccoon and while I fixed it in the car mirror , my friends mocked me and said things like "if you think that looks bad, what do you think of us?!" If I look in the mirror -I am considered arrogant, if I get a new outfit - I cannot ask opinions without jabs... It hurts me !! I can tell you a hundred stories, easily.. Why am I saying this to you?? Skinny or "curvy " people will continue their judgements.. Apparently, to these judges - I need a bigger butt, bigger boobs (I am a C cup !), bigger hips to "fill out" my clothes and I eat "like a bird " (even tho I can down over a half a pizza), the wind will "blow me away", "malnutrition" will kill me prematurely, clothes shopping with me is "unfair", I shouldn't wear heels bcs it "makes guys insecure" , ppl will "always say yes" to me only bcs of how I look, I can never order a salad bcs "it's why I am thin", etc etc etc .... the comments are endless! People like to judge !! Please don't hit the "like" button on skinny girl jokes and I'll continue not liking "curvy " girl jokes- BOTH hurt ☹
Thank you, Matthew
JADE. I don't have to: J-justify, A-argue, D-defend, or E-explain.
So what *do* you do?
Wow, I showed up 4 years late to this party! 😂 I'm insecure about my acne, my stomach, and my neck lines. Beautiful message Matthew, thanks!
i am overweight. and i love myself, i am strong and beautiful. i made 4 amazing babies including twins with this body. my body works hard taking care of my family. thankful for my body
I love that outlook - "my body works hard taking care of my family". Lovely
I have never ever seen anyone this human neither on tv nor on youtube. I have never enjoyed a 20 minute long video with someone just talking to the camera as much as this one...
I am insecure about my hands because they do not look feminine at all, but I like to think of them as very useful tools to hold people tight when they need strength!
THANK YOU for yet another important message, I hope it reaches as many people as possible :)
I love myself but there are some days that I feel ugly if I'm just in my pjs all day with no make up. My mother has taught me that when I put my hair in a ponytail I look ugly and I always have to have my hair down around her or she gets mad. It's kind of stupid but I wish she would just say that I was beautiful no matter how I have my hair or when I don't have makeup on she says "put make up on so you don't look ugly" and then I told her I wanted to be a personal trainer or someone that helps people be healthier and she said I couldn't do it because I was fat. But I don't believe anything she says and I'm in control of my own life and I'm not going to let anyone pull me back❤️❤️❤️ I am grateful that I have a body and I can travel and go to beautiful places. There are people that are in wheel chairs and they have to just sit at home all day. love yourself and don't compare yourself to other people and you'll be much happier☀️
Wow! Your mum must be a VERY insecure person ... Wear a pony tail and no make up whenever you feel like it. She'll get used to and over it.You are beautiful anyways!
Oh! And become a trainer or whatever you like! Let no one hold you back. NO ONE
Aw thank you so much!! That is so true! This was very comforting💚❤️💚
DianeCrystal You are WELCOME! :-) Go, girl!
DianeCrystal shoot a girl with a pony tail in pjs and no make up or lipstick what so ever i never seen any girl in a photo like that that sounds attractive and romantic me being a guy that is
I have a hair pulling disorder! Since I was 14, I have compulsively pulled out hairs - and thus have had bald spots (eyelashes and brows) at various times in my life. I used to be SO afraid that people would discover this. But now I have a lot of compassion and patience with myself, and I feel beautiful no matter what. Is it still hard? Absolutely. But it's also helped me grow into someone that is stronger and more compassionate - and more confident - as a result. Thank you for sharing this, Matthew. It's advice that I needed to remember.
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. I am very self conscious about being a bit overweight, I have scars throughout my body and face as well as dealing with thinning hair.
It's been difficult to be okay with myself especially having been conditioned to think that as a woman I have to be thin to be sexy and beautiful, soft with radiant beautiful clear skin, beautiful thick and sexy long hair and basically look like a goddess. I know it's crazy but that's how I was conditioned since I was a very small child. 😕
I am self conscious about the symmetry of my face, about how would people react at my every single move, what possibly would they think of me (even when I am writing this comment) but from now on I will own it. Thanks Matthew for this wonderful video :)
Richa Jain I feel the exact same way.. knowing that someone with the same insecurity as me is owning it makes me feel way better, glad i'm not alone in this! lol
I always use to worry what people thought of me. I came to learn that people are so focused on themselves that they don't see other people and who cares what people think about us?
Me too!
Richa Jain Me too, oh my god!
But im also going to own it from now on! Thanks
Matthew, I love how candid and point on especially this “spray tan” analysis about insecurities. Thank you, you are raw and real I always have a take away when I watch your videos. Keep going strong🎯
This is my absolute favorite video that I have ever seen you and Jameson create, Matthew. I can't even explain to you the different levels that this message spoke to me. I love that you chose to make this a raw and unedited video. This expanded on your message to "practice what you preach." Absolutely brilliant, mate!
This is the video that I needed to see today. This video was created and posted 4 years ago, but I found this video through UA-cam suggestion on this exact day at the moment that I needed it. I know you were focusing on the physical insecurities, but today, I was dealing with my insecurity about the way I feel about the way my life is going right now. This insecurity was sparked due to looking at an old high school classmate's FB page because it was her birthday today. I looked on her page just to see what was going on in her life. I became jealous of her confidence, her wit, and her intellect after viewing some of her videos that she creates for a bookstore/bar/ music venue. I felt like, "I wish I could be on the same level of influence and knowledge, but I'm not super great, or knowledgeable, in an specific subject to create, or to step onto, a platform. I'm really lagging behind in my social and intellectual growth." I was just bombarded with negative thoughts about myself. Instead of protecting myself from others affecting my energy, I inflicted the damage to myself from within. It's been a journey for myself to figure out how to love myself as I should.
But, anyway...
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Although I'm more hung up on my outward social insecurities right now, my physical insecurity would about to be that I'm not in the best physical shape right now...I'm probably 15 pounds over weight. It's not a detrimental amount, but I got some extra fluff that needs to come off, lol.
Matthew, thank you so, so much for this video. It truly made my day! God bless you and Jameson for all the excellent work that you do
I I'm really related of everything that you say, I mean it's like all the things that I wanted to post you did, hope you're doing great until now ✨
Also to be honest, sometimes the most attractive people are the most insecure.
This is so true
Well, thank you.
Matt,
I'm 52yrs old and i love this video..
my belief:
"its my life to live and I'm confident."
I watch the followers and it's crazy to watch that people
cannot be themselves.
Great video!!
💪☘💕🐞
Dearborn, Michigan
my insecurity= my nose, my stomach pudge and love handles, small boobs, broad shoulders, long arms, thin hair, big feet, thin lips. however I rarely pay muvh attention to those things anymore. I know I am more worth than just a body
Lots of body hair that I spend time removing pretty much daily.
Same
me too
Debra Kelly, HAHA! I do, also, but I don't bother!!
same. especially from my face
Total transparency is the key to living a great life. I laugh at myself anytime I start seeing myself develop a sense of insecurity. Then I shut it down with more laughter to myself. I don't have time to get caught up with my imperfections, these imperfections are my badges of honor, showing me, all of me. And I love them.
Great video and wishes to you for being true and authentic to yourself and for yourself!!
When you feel the need to explain to anyone you lose your power - so true x
I don't really like my stomach and have always been pretty self conscious about it ... and that was pretty hard to write :)
jessica thomas if a man finds you attractive and truly cares for you Instead of just having his way with you, then he will love your flaws. I've been with women that I care for and I've never had any problem with any part of their body. If I don't have feelings for a woman those flaws can't hide. Bottom line is that if your man has a problem with your stomach then he is either shallow or doesn't have feelings for you, either way move on and be happy and confident😉
I'm 5'3, but I always feel like 50 shades of 5'11....
Self accepting is the way out of insecurities and others will love you as you are
You are one brave person. Thanks for being so real. I'm self-conscious about the wrinkles on my face and neck...I realize that growing older is a sign that I am a survivor...resilient...I am beautiful in my perfect imperfection. I own this and will move forward...will take a deep breath and roll my shoulders back...held and all my beautiful wrinkles held high. What an inspiration you are...thanks a bunch!
You are one of the best people! People that make this world better
acne and my fat rolls, especially around my belly and back. I love most of the rest of my body and writing this has made me realize that I don't dislike myself as much as I think I do. I feel like now I can decide more easily what I 'can' and 'can't' do... Thankyou :D
Matt thanks for being so honest on every video. Congratulations!!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I love his videos so much!
Being open about not being perfect makes you so unique in a positive way. you are a person with incredibly good energy from what I have seen and your positive attitude towards relationships has given me a new perspective and hope❤️ everyone has different tastes and pleasures so do not let it ruin your day. thank you for sharing good methods and ideas on solving today's challenge with relationships
I don't have a clear skin, especially on my face. I want my eyes to be a little bit bigger. I want my body to be fit. I want to be taller. I want, I want, I want... It's natural to want sth you don't have. But I'm trying to figure out how to change for the better, while still accepting myself.
I am short .... missing a side tooth i cannot afford to replace right now , and I have a honking big hook nose ..... I am now at an age (45) & place where I really enjoy taking pictures of myself, and more importantly , letting others take pics , as i used to hide and/or avoid pictures, and I now love LOOKING at myself and admiring myself ! not to be conceited but after years of NOT loving myself ... I think I can be allowed ..haha .... Yay me !
Here is a wonderful little ditty in Spanish about loving yourself . I will include a an English translation..
Que bonita soy
Que bonita soy
Como me quiero !
Sin me muero !
Que bonita soy !
in English :
How pretty I am
How pretty I am
Oh, how I love me !
I'd die without me !
How pretty I am !
Repeat to self at least 10x when feeling ugly and down........It will cheer you up and remind you that, you should be kind to your self...
your welcome.. lol..
You, your pretty proboscis, and your poem all made me smile. :)
MissAshleyPants Thank you ! quite loving my Romanesque nose ! Happy It made you smile ....keep saying the poem,.. it works ! :)
¡Qué bonta soy!
¡Qué bonita soy!
¡Cómo me quiero!
Me moriría sin mi (o: "sin mi, muero"),
¡Qué bonita soy!
Please use proper grammar.
Did you use google translate? :)
laura v No.. that is how it is supposed to be said... how it was written ... it was not written grammatically correct on purpose, to make it a bit funnier.
I have a disability, but its not stopping me from finding love
Adrie Visser I love you
I have a disability too but it IS stopping me
The imperfection of this video is what makes it perfect. I like how you put it out there unedited "keeping with the theme."
My insecurities can depend on my attitude that day, who I'm with, how I think they may judge me and how much importance I assign their opinions. It's not always the same insecurities.
As time goes on I care less and less about being judged. I give myself the grace I need and am not waiting for other's approval.
I don't need permission to like me or to be happy.
Thank you Matthew Hussey and Jameson.
I am very self conscious of my stomach, however I have learned to live with it. I have two beautiful children and a survivor of bowel cancer, all of which created the stretch marks, scars and sagginess. It is a part of me, it makes me who I am and I can now actually put it to one side in my mind and focus on my many, many positives attributes.
Please love your stomach, it gave you 2 amazing kids, not to mention cancer survival! The stomach deserves love and acceptance. My best wishes to you! ❤
Im self conscious about my teeth and i cant affoed braces. ... Soo when a guy does actually come and talk to me. I freak out and look down due to this insecure.
I wish i could fix this issue but i cant.
But you have a point when you said what you said.
Amina jay I'm too :(
Me too!
Me too! It is Holding me back so much.
I have the same problem. I look back at my old photos and see myself smile soo big but now I can't get myself to do it because I am embarrassed and insecure about it. It's not as bad as some but to me it's something that holds me back also. So I know how you feel, you're not the only one ♡
Coming from someone who cleans teeth for a living... I love a beautiful smile just like the next person but I have to tell you, I see straight teeth all the time and my favorites are the ones with characteristic imperfections. Don't hide your smile it's an amazingly unique attribute.
I have a 3 inch scar across the majority of my face. I've it since I was 18 months old and I will have it for the rest of my life, unlike the causes of most people's insecurities. It's taken 21 years but I am finally starting to accept it as part of who I am, but it's fucking hard. All I have ever wanted is for someone to tell me I am beautiful - not STILL beautiful despite the scar, but that the scar is beautiful and I am beautiful. I realised I could be waiting a while for that to happen to a few years ago I just started saying it to my self, think I'm starting to believe it!
I think scars on faces are actually really attractive! There's just something about the imperfection that makes a person stand out and in a good way ;-)
Flic Coghlan My dear dear friend I am going to tell you, I find scars absolutely beautiful (I have quite a few myself, on my leg and on my hip) and my boyfriends have ALL loved my scars, and told me how beautiful they find them, because they are a part of my life story, and they come with a badass story of survival. You ARE BEAUTIFUL, not despite the scar, and not because of the scar, but because you are you. You should not be ashamed of your scar because it is something that is a part of your story, of what you went through. And I reiterate- YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU, IMPERFECTLY PERFECT, ALIVE, HUMAN!
What gorgeous people you are! Thank you so much, reading these replies has filled me with more happiness than you would realise - much love xx
New subscriber - one of my best friends as an adult was her high school's homecoming queen her senior year. She didn't understand why she had been chosen because she never believed she was beautiful, and she was. Her fiance began to convince her and she began to believe it. I realized in knowing her and her insecurity that we are all truly alike. It is when we accept ourselves and be ourselves that we become our best selves.
Same cars, different salesmen can sell so different quantities. Same with dating. If u know the skills, u get more opportunities. But it doesn’t change the car itself, but just present the car differently.
I have dark circles that I've had since I was very young and I was teased horribly about them up until high school. Even now, if people look at me sometimes, I'll assume it's because of the circles and turn my face. However, I've gotten a lot more conscious about this reflex since in my younger days.
Thanks a lot for this video, Matthew! This actually confirms some things that I have been going through lately.
I have permanent dark circles too, I think it's hereditary, and I constantly got coments on them and my health, I was so self conscious about them I even though of getting surgery. Makeup helps a bit but you can still see them so now I've learn to love them and even think they are cute. Let's embrace the dark circles! :)
I agree! I love my dark circles!
***** Hey, Hajin! Yeah, I follow him because I like his philosophy about life.
I get this too, and people saying "you look tired" all the time. I'm not tired, THIS IS JUST MY FACE. Why does anyone even say that?! May as well say "you look like shit" and think it's sympathetic!
For me, some kids thought I was on drugs because of the circles. I used to get called names like raccoon and black-eyed (peas), and then they would say stuff like, "Shut up before I make your eyes even blacker!"
God, kids can be so cruel.
I have a tummy since I was 8...exercise like crazy-it,s still there...recently lost 40 lbs ... It,s still there...checked w/ dr...nothing abnormal...and I am self conscious of it...my boyfriend recently rubbed my belly and out of the blue commented...this is his favorite spot on me as it is the center of creation. I love my tummy now.
Matthew, you are perfect just the way you are! Critical people should tune in for your message not your physical humanity. We are ALL "damaged goods" trying to look for happiness. Keep up your good work!🙏
We would love more raw videos like this! Very constructive when we see how your minds and words piece together. I am just mesmerized as always by how well and clear and empowering Matthew articulate these positive and relatable messages to us. Thank you! Many loves❤️
To be honest, I used to be insecure and ashamed about myself as a whole. In fact, the only thing that I like about myself is that I try to be a good person and I'll try to help whenever I can.
These days I'm learning to love myself because how can I expect anybody else to be able to love me if I don't love myself, right?
Your videos really do help people Mathew and I hope you feel really proud.
I'm not going to follow the link to your fake tan video, I'm sure I'll come across it at some point
If you're insecure about your shirt you can always ditch it. I won't complain. ;)
I would smash the "like" button over and over again... Thank you, Matthew! Please do more videos about overcoming the rejection of people, their malicious side they show out of nowhere and so on.
i would never play my guitar or my songs in person in public because i believe that i know that people think it sucks and here it is - one i wrote yesterday and it happens to be very much related to this topic
"Amazing
Frankly, i can't draw....
and i'm not that good at singing
Although i do some rhyme
I'm not that great at dreaming
And since my hands cant draw
And both my feet arent dancing
I'm defying every law
Any judge may fancy
Cos when my voice gets sore
And the mind gets crazy
Dreams get less than more
But life... it's still amazing!"
I don't watch his videos to critique his looks, I watch to get his advice, it doesn't hurt that he's handsome though
Hmmm...my insecurity right now is that I'm 51 and have no significant other. Feel like others look at me like I should be worried about it...I do worry often times. For instance at work, being my age and not married, I feel pretty insecure about it, especially when other talk about what they (them and their spouses) did over the weekend, trips they took, etc.
idk if you would ever even read this but i just wanted to help, i think😅...you don't have to be married or have a relationship etc.who made this silly rule even up? you're whole yourself and if you could love yourself more, then you wouldn't even think about what others may think of you and wouldn't worry about things like that. I'm sure you're a wonderful human being and you just have to realize that:)
As long as you get the respect....not based on your narital status :)
Hiya this comment may come a bit late but I'm 57 and have been single for abt 7 years by choice. I 've had relationships but I think I have a faulty man picker! lol They always turned out abusive. So I think I've given up. You know life is nice as a single woman. I live in an adult apt building and all I ever hear is women complaining abt their husbands or screaming matches.. There are a lot of perks about living single and having control of your own space. So don't feel bad about it and turn it all inside of yourself. Start telling your friends the things that you can do as a single, I often say .. Oh I don't have to worry about that, I'm free as a bird! ...and look at their sad faces.... lol
I know people who are married and miserable , it's about how happy you are and family and friends , you don't need to be married or with a man to have a good life x
Nancy Sellers : I am 53 years old and I am going to be single. Scary? Yes, it's have to go through the emotional process but it's how we build character to help others. I am learning so much about myself in the process. For me it's accepting healthier standards for myself and more importantly not to become bitter but better!!!
I can’t believe this video is already 5 years old - thank you for your authenticity. Thank you for being who you are. Thank you for keeping this video unedited.
I HAVE ACNE SCARS c: and that's totally fine.
same
uneven face skin tone
stretch marks on my legs
Hussey: I'd really like to use this video to grow and get constructive criticism!
Internet: I'd let Matthew Hussey do me.
I’ve struggled with acne off and on since middle school and it’s gotten me so down to the point where I’ve stayed home and hid away from people due to shame, self-consciousness and feeling so depressed about it.
This latest time I’ve struggled with it in my 30s, I’ve been very focused on my thoughts about myself and making sure I’m not feeding into/believing the story that I’m ugly/repulsive/worthless/etc. and replacing those thoughts with affirming thoughts about myself. The work of Louise Hay has helped a lot and UA-cam recordings of affirmations by Jason Stephenson as well.
Thank you for this video, Matthew! Such an important message to grow in acceptance and love for ourselves, and knowing the more we do so, the better relationships we attract into our lives. 🙏💖✨
I have hyper pigmentation so every bug bite and scratch I ever get turns into a scar…and it didn't help that i constantly picked them off out of insecurity. Because of this I had a good amount of body scars in middle school and high school and I'd always wear jeans and a jacket to hide them, I remember it being early summer and POURING sweat but I refused to take my jacket off. Although my scars are 90% gone now my arms and legs are far from perfect but I show them anyway. I refuse to live my life covered up and uncomfortable because of an imperfection, so now I wear what makes me happy and don't think twice about the scars.
I am however still insecure about my remaining acne scars and still need foundation on when I go out
My legs are covered in PIH scars from mosquito bites and other accidents that happened throughout my childhood. Funny thing is, I wasn't self-conscious about them when I was young and wearing a short skirt that was part of my uniform throughout middle school and high school; yet, now I am. Somehow over the years we've established a social culture where nothing short of perfect is acceptable, but I feel like that is changing. More people are starting to embrace themselves just as they are, and calling out people who ridicule others insecurities, which is as it should be.
I've stopped straightening my hair now and I've slowly started wearing more shorts and skirts in public. If people are going to judge me based on a few scars on my legs, well, that speaks more about them than anything else.
isisnra I'm the exact same way! Although I always covered my body scars I never had an issue showing my acne and acne scars in mid/high school and my acne was BAD. It was only once I got to college that I became insecure and started wearing makeup. I'm glad you're learning to accept yourself, we all need to do that
isisnra thumbs up! !
+MCR262 i have hyperpigmentation of my back so i don't even go to the beach anymore.
Can I get a slow clap for Matt? 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 What a Boss!👌🏼
You released this video about a year ago, a little bit more, but for me it came at the perfect time, thank you very much!
This is gold even 6 years later.
Thanks for sharing this, i can agree and identity myself with everything.
Jameson = Tyler Durden
I’m not a fan of taking pictures of myself because I feel like one of my eyes are a little higher up than the other one, and it becomes incredibly noticeable upon a selfie. It’s not bad from further back but close up and I see it and it makes me feel self conscious.
I’m just a normal hetro dude who found your videos the other day and I’ve found lots of useful 2 way advice, so thanks for doing what you’re doing man!
You're so inspiring ! I'm self conscious about my skin , my body I need to gain weight. I also fear eye contact with people but working on it.
I have never commented under a video. But, I must share that. I literally took this video link and hide it so I can watch it each time I doubt who I am or feel insecure. It is really deep and nothing else could explain my own feelings as much as this. all of these insecurities within us and the others I can see clearer now. Thanks.