Bev is very good at what she does. So easy to understand , she 1:02:49 gets to the point. Love her easiness. Great interview Johnathon. You did her justice. You did well together.
I use to be scared of going places and getting lost. I believe it stems from my parents arguing over the map . My dad drove and mom was reading the map. Many arguments. Better today but still get worried.
Avoidants come on very strongly. Then they literally fault find with no communication so u never have the ability to correct things. They are way way too secretive and if you try to get too close or ask normal questions that’s when they back away. Everything literally is on their terms. Honestly unless u are in a relationship with one you could not even imagine. It’s the most challenging relationship I’ve ever been in. Never ever again …
Here is what will help us in the clinical approach. ALL trauma responsive behavior is narcissistic. Period. We can stop being afraid of the word. Whether intentional or not, we have to highlight fear-based ego responses as they are without minimization. It doesn't help people to discount their undesirable traits. The main proponent of change comes through facing the shadow aspects. Avoidant behavior is fearful behavior and it is narcissistic. Anxiety-ridden control is narcissitic. It's self-preservation. It's okay to call it narcissistic so that people can make accurate decisions.
Bev is very good at what she does. So easy to understand , she 1:02:49 gets to the point. Love her easiness. Great interview Johnathon. You did her justice. You did well together.
Thank you ❤
Thank you for this 🙌🏽🫶🏽😻
I use to be scared of going places and getting lost. I believe it stems from my parents arguing over the map . My dad drove and mom was reading the map. Many arguments. Better today but still get worried.
Avoidants come on very strongly. Then they literally fault find with no communication so u never have the ability to correct things. They are way way too secretive and if you try to get too close or ask normal questions that’s when they back away. Everything literally is on their terms. Honestly unless u are in a relationship with one you could not even imagine. It’s the most challenging relationship I’ve ever been in. Never ever again …
Exact same thing happened to me. I can’t help but be bitter and angry, but I’m working on it.
@@bmatthews003 You described it so perfectly.
Would this be also known as the "Love Bomber"?
No, not necessarily. Love bombing implies an intent to manipulate and deceive.
Here is what will help us in the clinical approach. ALL trauma responsive behavior is narcissistic. Period. We can stop being afraid of the word. Whether intentional or not, we have to highlight fear-based ego responses as they are without minimization. It doesn't help people to discount their undesirable traits. The main proponent of change comes through facing the shadow aspects.
Avoidant behavior is fearful behavior and it is narcissistic. Anxiety-ridden control is narcissitic. It's self-preservation. It's okay to call it narcissistic so that people can make accurate decisions.
Agree!