Productivity is Making You Miserable
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Ever feel unproductive? Maybe we've been looking at productivity all wrong. This video shares a little shift of how I look at "productivity" and how it's actually helped me be more "productive"
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The BEST gift I ever gave myself is the habit and discipline of doing the dishes and the kitchen before bed. The very same that Kallie has suggested. I can’t even talk myself out of NOT doing it now. 😂
The best advice I've ever heard too! I've developed an am & pm routines that work for me! My hubby has noticed & agrees that I'm making our home better!❤
Can I ask you something
One thing that helps me a ton, is watching someone do the task I've been putting off. So for instance if I need to do the dishes but I can't seem to peel myself off the couch, I will literally watch a youtube video of someone cleaning their kitchen/doing the dishes and it somehow gets me off the couch to get the task done. Just a small tip for anyone having some trouble :)
It's crazy how motivating it is to see someone else doing the exact task you need to do for yourself! I feel like that is a huge part of what I find inspiring on UA-cam. Thanks for sharing the tip :)
This channel helps me a lot just like that! She’s the best hype girl!
How does this work? Mirror nuerons?
Forced myself to fold laundry 🧺 while my kids napped, it was the last thing I wanted to do but I knew I would actually be able to REST tonight once they went to bed. I do little tasks throughout the day and by the end of the day(most days at least) I have very little to do except for the normal dishes/closing the kitchen up. Decluttering has been a huge help and just putting things back to where they go immediately!
I’m going to try and make a list of completed tasks at the end of the day for the days I felt like I “got nothing done”. And you know what, if all that’s on it is “I fed my kids, I loved my kids, they’re alive & safe” …. I’ll consider that a win.
That's a really good idea--I've heard of the first thing when you wake up write down 3 things you want to get done today but your idea flips it into a more positive activity especially if you didn't hit all 3 things
Wow. I was feeling completely defeated today. It’s Friday. It’s supposed to be great. But I felt like I have not succeeded in any category…work, family , health, household. Thank you for putting it into perspective I really needed that. Happy Friday everyone!💗
When I lack motivation I keep coming back to you and your advice and inspiration to get me going and keep it real and attainable! So thank you again and again ❤
This would be a wonderful message for high school kids, as well. Intentional teaching of executive function, coping, and workplace readiness skills is a critical need. Well done!
I felt productive today: I got up, dressed, made up, drove to the city, went to doctor’s appointment, visited my daughter, went shopping, ate lunch, pressed 3 blazers, 3 tops, one dress, and cooked dinner.
I feel pretty good about myself!
You always motivate me!! I will say this morning… PRIOR to watching this video I decided to clean off our dining room table (that we rarely use) … I wanted to do cartwheels 🤸🏻♀️!! It looked great and I felt great having it clean and stuff put up! So yes… gratification for sure feels awesome!! Thanks for all you do Kallie!!
I MUST start walking 30 minutes a day every day for a health issue that has gotten out of control. That and adjust my diet, etc., etc. But, I don’t want to walk, and we live in Oregon where it will be raining daily for months, I don’t want to walk in the rain. Too bad! I have to. I walked tonight and it felt good and I was proud of myself for making myself do it. Now, only 65 more days and it will be a habit! Thank you Kallie, you video couldn’t have come at a better time! ❤
I have been trying to start a walking routine, too! I've found on days when the weather is really awful, it helps me to do a UA-cam walking video/walking workout depending on my energy level. Good job on the new habit! 😊
Thank you for being real about this! I've been super overwhelmed lately and I'm trying desperately to get back to the small wins to keep me motivated. Today I had to work so I chose to delegate a few of the small wins out to other people in my house. If it helps me to walk into a little more peace and a little less train wreck, I'm definitely all for it. I am a list maker as you are, and so really breaking things down makes things feel a lot less crazy. 😉
Kallie, another great motivational video! Thank you! One of your ideas I have claimed is (paraphrased) What would Tomorrow Me appreciate Today Me having done? Tomorrow Me is always grateful 😇
Sometimes I have a day where I’m busy all the time but I’m doing lots of little tasks. At the end of the day I think “I don’t have much to show for my work.” But it’s a lot of little tasks that have been long neglected. I take stock and realize it’s all worthwhile! Thx again!
Could be my fav video so far. I really needed it. I never get to do what I want to do because I never accomplish what I should do.
I've watched this 3 times already it's so so so helpful. It's hard to even verbalize how impactful each statement you make in this video is for me. It speaks directly to my brain in a way that makes perfect sense ---THANK YOU SO MUCH💜💜💜💜 🎉🎉🎉💜💜💜💜
I keep breaking a promise daily to myself about getting the decluttering started and complete 1 room at a time. I dread it and throw in the towel. Great video that I saved to watch daily. Thanks!
indeed discipline, what has helped me a lot is something someone once said to me, better do it crappy than don't do it all. And another one is the cut up bigger tasks in smaller very easy doable steps.
This is how I feel with scheduling I have to tell myself I’m not a bad person to say I can’t make something.
The best info you've given out is "what would today me do to help tomorrow me" (paraphrase)
It has made such a difference in my life & in my home! The 1st was the kitchen / doing dishes before bedtime. That worked so well that my hubby will sometimes tell me that he'll do the dishes because i fixed a super meal! (Usually it was only when I happen be sick or such)
I now have my evening & my morning routines that I do everyday - if I don't my day is completely off kilter!😯🤯
Thing I started doing was actually due to work from home and since my office now fully remote, this habit as continued to help me. It is hard to separate "work" from "home" on a good day, but when its a fully remote job it feels impossible. What helps me is to use my "home tasks" to force my butt up and out of my office chair. Not only does it help from sitting to long and gets steps in on my fitbit, it completes a few small wins around the house. Obviously I can't be away from my computer too long during the work day, but 5 - 10 minute tasks are quick enough. Every morning I make a list of 3-4 items while my coffee brews. This sticky note is separate from my work computer (in the kitchen by the coffee pot) so when I pass it during the day I remember the small things I wanted to do. The items are simple, make the bed, put away the mail, swap the laundry loads, etc. Nothing too big which then leaves bigger tasks for the weekend where I have more brain space to do them.
The Bible quotes tge Apostle Paul in Hebrews " no discipline is pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace, for those who have been trained by it. " Hebrews 12:11
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you
I'm obsessed with that kitchen!!!! That green is GORGEOUS!!!!! 💚
I couldn't agree more! I love to set a timer too so I can get going on a project and I know it'll be only a short amount of time 😊
YAY! A rainy day and coffee and hanging out with But First Coffee.
You are so articulate! Love your inspirations and ability to translate them to our everyday life. Now, on to that room 😂
I am nodding my head so furiously at this
I am in fact having a fantastic and productive day today! Usually it's little wins and getting on, but today was easier to be super productive. 😊
Kallie - I highly recommend the books “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big” and “Reframe Your Brain” by Scott Adams (Dilbert guy).
James Clear references Adams in “Atomic Habits” as inspiration. Adams is big on systems and talent stacks. It aligns with many of your videos and philosophies.
Fantastic!!! From beginning to end, this is a message we all need to hear! Thank you!!!
Thank you so much for this video!! I needed to hear this!! I usually procrastinate but I am trying to just get things done right when I think about it instead of waiting around for the perfect time.
1. Your nuanced approach to productivity is refreshing. You've managed to dissect a complex topic into digestible insights.
2. The sponsorship with BetterHelp is seamlessly integrated into the video's theme of mental well-being and productivity.
3. The visual aids and analogies you used, like the boulder on top of a hill, made the concept of task initiation so much easier to grasp.
Consider This
1. If you're struggling with productivity, consider using time management apps that can help you prioritize tasks and set reminders.
2. If you're into smart home technology, voice-activated assistants like Alexa can help you set reminders, make to-do lists, and even control smart appliances to make your life more efficient.
3. For those who find it hard to initiate tasks, consider the "two-minute rule." If a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. This can help you overcome the initial inertia.
@ But first coffee: that is one heck of a video. I can't imagine how much time and effort was put into it because it's amazing!!!!
I needed this today. Thank you!!
Kallie, I have watched many, many of your videos. I feel
this one was by far your BEST! I know it hit home for me, and surely did others. Thank you so much for making this one. ❤
This was super helpful. So smart, and absolutely hit the nail on the head! Thanks for this video! 😊
I love your videos! The topics you cover and information you present is so useful and inspiring.
Thanks for the encouragement!
Needed to hear this today; thank you.
You are super duper always on top of real life issues. Ty so much for being so reallll
This is so we'll said and so true. Thanks for sharing. I teach productivity & systems to entrepreneurs & I'll be sharing this with my community because they need to hear it.
This encouragement and advice is exactly what I needed today. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thanks. Will be watching this video over again a couple times
Fabulous post. Been watching ur vlog for a while, but I just subscribed to u cuz of your sage and kind advice. Small wins lead to big wins.
EXCELLENT video Kallie!
You are such a blessing.
I listened to it while washing my dishes before bed😉
Great video, as always. It’s so beneficial to learn new skills based on science and research. My 66 day challenge is to clean kitchen before going to bed. At day 33 will add laundry room. All dry and clean items, folded, hung and put into place.
I look forward to ur high quality videos.
Love the boulder analogy! 😊
This I can do. Thanks for explaining it in a more digestible way. Good video. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing. This was helpful. 💖💖💖
You have always been inspirational about discipline and benefiting from that discipline. (doing the sink before bedtime for the tomorrow Kallie). I have followed that advice and have many disciplines that are now a routine. Thanks! God bless you and yours!
Thanks for the fun fact about the quote - love that kind of stuff!
I just love your videos. I have learned so much from you!
After watching this video I have realized my issue is task completion… I don’t have the discipline to finish tasks. I will start a task then start another task and so on but never really complete any one task. I get so distracted (I stop the original task to wash a load of laundry or to drink some water because I forgot to hydrate, etc). Thank you for this video.
Thank you for this video! 😀🌻
Yes true! It’s hard to get motivated anymore from having chronic pain and long Covid. It does help to watch these videos though. I set a timer for 10 mins and try do easy things. I was able to buy things on Amazon that my uncle got me a gift card for my birthday a few weeks ago. I love the card organizer. I have so many birthday cards and Christmas ones. I also found storage bags to keep my art supplies in. I was hoping it would fit under the bed. I have it in my closet though. I enjoy your videos. 🙂
Thank u for this. I struggle with this being a stay at home mom. 😊
You always end your video by saying, "Be kind to yourself and others." I found I'm more likely to be kind to others and then, be angry with myself. Today, I was kind to ME and I got 2 tasks done that I had put off for a very long time. Just keep your slogan going, we'll get the point eventually. And thanks for your videos and pictures of your little ones.
Just a reminder: If you are very busy with your little ones, but you need to send a get well card to a sick friend, text the friend a picture of your kids doing something cute. I have found it's the BEST get well card in the world and -- it's free!
Once again thank you ❤
Thanks!
Oh man, being disciplined has led me down some not-so-fun paths. Most recently, I started tidying common areas every night - was so stressed out I could feel my throat closing up daily. People have different “vacation needs”. It’s a concept from Economics but I forget what it’s called. Eventually, the line curves backwards.
It gives me peace !!!! Glenda
What do you do when you’re motivated, but your partner isn’t. Let’s say I am in the mood to clean the house and my husband wants me to just take care of the baby🫠
"Honey, would you like to watch the baby or do xyz (list the tasks you're motivated to do right now)?
Hand him the baby
Excellent video, thank you 😊x
You, Kallie, are an excellent speaker. Arlene
Good video. Lots of truth there!
Some very good thoughts. I find it helpful to identify three things I might get done today, then focus on one at a time.
FYI: Vs means versus, which is fully pronounced as versus.
It is a good content😊 keep it up girl!!!
Very motivating video :)
Thank you for the fun fact!
Great video, as always! I love your comparison between short lived pleasure and long lasting gratification. I will remind myself of that throughout my day, it makes so much sense! And your quote at 6:38 hits home! Did you make your planner at :48 or did you create it yourself? Thank you.
Great video
9:10 Olive ❤
Now I'm depressed, since I physically cannot do enough to stay caught up in a day let alone feel productive. Discipline does no good when you just can't and your goal that day is unload dishwasher and you know it's so little. It doesn't make you feel good, either metally or physically. There are no funds to hire someone to help either. I guess the answer is to never get old and physically incapable.
Finally content that made me subscribe your channel.
I also find that if you structure it as part of your routine you get the job done. You swear by your routines. Plus rewarding yourself while doing the thing you need to do.
Great video! Thank you for taking the time to explain this. If you have the time to answer, could you give more examples of how someone implement this into their day? In my case, I am a home schooling mom who struggles with disciplines in cleaning and tidying my home. Thankfully I have developed the habit of loading the dishwasher every day (kids unload), making my bed, and washing and drying a load or 2 of laundry everyday (put away clothes every couple of days). I'm lost as to how to start small with things like sweeping the floors, cleaning the counters, cleaning the bathrooms, etc. What would you suggest? And how many small disciplines should I implement at a time? Thanks!
My "one thing" is going to be to make the coffee as soon as I wake up (or when I get back from taking the kids to the bus stop). I'm not going to wait 2-3 hours after I wake up anymore. Other than the kids' bus, coffee is first priority. I know it sounds silly, but I'm more likely to stick to it than if I say that I'm going to do the dishes every morning. But... if I'm already in the kitchen, I'm more likely to empty the dishwasher, toss trash, wipe down the counters, fix breakfast... and if I don't do any chores in the kitchen... well... that wasn't my "one task" (yet) was it? LOL But I definitely have more of a likelihood of cleaning if I'm already standing up.
A Reese's Peanut Butter Pumpkin?! What hidden short lived pleasure have I been missing out on!? LOL JK But I loved your video and the shift you teach! Discipline! Not the answer some of us want to hear probably haha but a seriously important life skill. Training yourself to do something in a controlled and habitual way can be the most challenging thing to master!
Hi Kallie! I'm curious how you decide which habits to cultivate and if you've ever stopped a habit that you thought was good when you started but ultimately decided the benefit wasn't worth time cost. I (and I suspect many others) try to start good and worthwhile habits and WOULD have the discipline to keep them up, but in a moment of weakness convince myself it's not actually worthwhile. And I fear I'm doomed to repeat this unless an objective system can help figure that out.
Hi! This is so helpful, especially for us overworked moms. Is the last quote Aristotle? 12:55
Coming from a nerd who loved her Western Civilization course in college 😂❤
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The best thing I’ve done is declutter and put organisers in my underwear drawer, makes me happy every morning
Small wins are what works for me
Does anyone know the name of the song played during the intro? I know it's Epidemic sound but I can't figure out which song it is!
I’ve given up on cleaning. I want a beautiful clean house,but I get overwhelmed with it all. Plus I’m on disability. 🥺
Don't give up! I, too, struggle with getting things done. I have strength and mobility issues that prevent me from accomplishing everything I'd like to, but I try to just take one day at a time and be thankful for the one or two small things that I did get done. It's frustrating to have to wait for someone to come help, but giving up won't make things any better. At least if I continue to try my best, I have the satisfaction of doing something myself...no matter how small. I may have 3 things on my list to do, and get only one of those partly finished, but I try to maintain a positive outlook and be happy for what I accomplished. It's not always easy, but it's more helpful than just giving up! Sorry for whatever you are dealing with.
ah... so if you always have to stop and rest between most tasks, it makes sense that it'd be harder? Because you can't take advantage of that momentum.
Lefty! Nice.
I'm a fellow disciple of discipline. We're very cool 🤣
My thought on task initiation is. "Just do it!".
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First yay!!
I produced two kids. I'm productive for the rest of my life.
I love what you're saying, but you TALK SO FAST, I feel anxious trying to keep up with you! I tried slowing the speed, but then you sounded drunk! LOL LOL You're awesome, keep it up! But slow it down a little? Thanks! 😘
I get upset and stressed because I clean my house and doesn't last. I have a 1 year old daughter, 3 dogs, cat, and bearded dragon. I'm a first time mom too. My family and husband says to rehome my pets but I don't want to do that I had them since they were babies and plus all the money I spent on my pets .
Don’t rehome your pets! This season of craziness will eventually get better, though it will take awhile. Give yourself a break. Being a mom of a little person is demanding. Can you choose just one task a day, like changing the beds. Then another day clean the main bathroom, or at least part of it. I set a timer for 5 minutes & am always amazed at how much I can get done. “Done now is better than perfect later!” Can you toss something in the crockpot early in the day so that dinner time (“arsenic hour”) isn’t crazy? And ask for help! I think that as women we sometimes expect people we live with to read our minds; I know I have done that at times. What seems obvious to us doesn’t necessarily appear that way to other folks (re: things we think ought to be done or done a certain way). Hang in there, & be nice to yourself!
@@vivianhudacek1556thank you for the good advice
There are definitely parts of life where the best you can do is bare minimum. It's so hard to be okay with it, but I have been forced to do so before and I learned....like really slowly. When they make rude suggestions like that - maybe suggest they help with the cleaning instead of you having to deal with the heartache of rehoming your beloved pets.
Lol
You mean where your final paper is due the next day and you haven't even started it?
Love this, but that's not what cognitive dissonance is. Cognitive dissonance is when your beliefs don't line up with your actions. It's more along the lines of like, saying that you care about x, y, z cause and then actively voting for people who work against those causes. Or saying that you hate germs but then never cleaning. It's not about breaking promises to yourself, but not being able to see how you are part of the thing that you say is the problem.
Thank you for saying the word correctly…people have decided it is about a ‘product’ like a can of tuna..l was a Legal beagle for a very very long time. When a word is mispronounced and it’s picked up by even news and other organizations I just holler at the iPad. Stop it stop it stop it Jesus Christ please stop it thank you. So say thank you for saying it correctly. You just made my sad little Monday a little bit better better.
He has soooo many problems! Poor guy! Feel so sorry for him…..NOT
Omg don't you get tired of being so accomplished every day?? Perfect n productive?? 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️. Do what you can n enjoy your kids!
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