Josh’s Untold Story on His Porn Addiction.
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- Опубліковано 17 вер 2023
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Josh and Sav are two married creatives who began vlogging on a whim in 2017 and have amassed a loyal following of 700,000 UA-cam subscribers and over 1.8 million followers on social media ever since. Fans have come to know them for authentic and upbeat conversations about their relationship, parenting and family life, and faith, with the goal of bringing positive and encouraging content to viewers. Their new podcast, For Us with Josh and Sav, offers fans weekly pieces of encouragement by sharing the teachable moments from their lives.
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Sav, it seems like you handled Josh admitting to his porn addiction so graciously. I would love to hear more from your perspective of how you managed to support him through it while not letting it affect you personally.God bless you guys for your vulnerability, truth, and genuine love for each other and people. ❤
I loved that he did that the way he did! So honest. You really never see anything real and raw like that.
Agreed. I’d love to hear more from Sav’s perspective as someone who’s dealt with the same situation
@@erinmarie6736Same!
I’m 22 and struggling with the same addiction. I didn’t expect it, but I’m glad you guys decided to talk about this because so many people struggle with this addiction; Christians too.
Christians too. - DM me, you can’t do it alone 🖤
Anything in obsession is too much. Even food and drinks. Watching porn in itself isn’t bad but doing it to the point where it disrupts your life is.
@@ravendawnhead97i believe it is bad regardless of how often you watch it. But of course the lesser the better.
@@ravendawnhead97yes it is bad. And trying to justify it will only keep you in sin and it may get worse
Appreciate your honesty. The battle isn't yours but the Lords. When your flesh is tempted, its still just dust to God. In other words, is anything to hard for the Lord? You can overcome through the grace and endurance of Christ.
Josh, bro!! appreciate your openness and maturity to share your baggage with Sav prior to marriage and even prior to having it all sorted out.
Shoutout to Josh for stopping! I don’t know a single male my age who doesn’t watch it. Its such a awful toxic addition that is not talking about enough. Thank you for using your platform to talk about this!!
If it feels toxic to you then it is and don’t watch it. Anything can be toxic or an obsession even food and drinks. So.. 🤷🏻♀️
@@ravendawnhead97 Its not that easy to just stop
I look forward to Mondays so much. This is such an interesting episode and I learned a lot. Y’all so strong for this. Love unbreakable
Brought the podcast to the living room! Your home looks so cozy! Wow, Josh you’re strong for admitting your addiction. Sav, you handled this with grace.
Being this young and wise is beautiful to see...such open conversation, welcoming and accepting is what is needed in a relationship
I just want to commend Josh for opening up about that and sheding some light on a topic that is very hard to talk about . You and Savanah are so brave ! I love that you told her everything about your life before yall got married. So courageous! I love yall so much and i love this podcast 💗 💕 sending blessings from Louisiana
The first step to getting through an addiction is to admit and realize that you have it and you are willing to put a stop to it. A lot of guys don't like admitting that it's an addiction or if it's even affecting their relationship.
the dynamic between you two is so infectious and it is so sweet. God bless your family 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
So glad you guys opened up about this. My partner and I struggled a lot with this and I always thought Josh’s vague comments might have stemmed from overcoming this. This needs more representation and discussion
Thank You Josh for admitting your addiction whether its still going on or not. Appreciate it. I struggled and this just helped me understand that im not alone
I love how honest you guys are ❤ it takes a strong person to be so vulnerable! Thank you for trusting us your viewers enough to open up! Also Josh the pink looks really nice on you (in a completely fashionable way) Sav you are always beautiful and can we talk about how FAST you get your body back after giving birth!
I'm so thankful to have found you guys! I feel like you guys are everything I could strive to be like! Thank you and I love you!
I’m 62 and totally love watching this podcast. You guys are so refreshing to listen too. May the Lord continue to bless you and your beautiful girls with wisdom, health and love always. ❤️🙏
Yayyyy just in time for my lunch break. Happy Monday everyone!!
I love the vibe of the living room set! Its like sitting with two friends and just talking.
Salute to Josh... I honestly would have been a little nervous/mad being asked a question that personal. Also thank you for being super transparent/sharing your life with us especially private moments such as this.
I'm 43, been married 25 years, I think you guys are so brave and awesome for opening up your stories to the Internet! You 2 have something special and can really help your generation with a lot! Keep being you and thanks for your channel! Take care of yourselves! And thanks for making marriage a sacred thing again!
I always look forward to watching your podcasts!! I love your family!!❤❤
You’ve got yourself a keeper Savanna!! I was very inspired when you talked about telling Savanna everything about your past!
Yes it’s always so refreshing when a lover gives u “their dirt”, stuff u would have never known and they choose u to share!
I sooo didn't expect this.. and I have endless respect for them both for sharing this.. because it's obviously to try and help others. And on another note.. there's something so lovely about Sav 💖
I really love watching you guys. I’ve been here since the beginning pretty much and I just love your growth. Especially the podcasts, I’m 25 and love hearing your experiences.
right? they're such a light! Matthew 5:14 and 16
Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
Thank you for being so open about this. Sav I’d love to know how you handled this and how you guys were about to work through it.
I know you guys are doing so much content that sometimes subjects get repeated, but I appreciate you guys telling it again because I may not have seen it before!
Love you guys and your podcast for the honesty 🙏🏽
Josh, kudos to you...your character just shine through this podcast. Love to both you & Savannah!
Loved this episode. I actually same addiction when I was younger. It was so interesting hearing your perspective. I would love to hear more of savannahs side on it.
Thank you for being so open. Many men seem to struggle with this and are not open about it. Some don't even think there's anything wrong with it. It's damaging to themselves and relationships.
Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
I would love to hear Savannah’s side and how this affected her if possible! A lot of women are hurting my spouses in the struggle and I would love to know her thoughts. I love the grace and sympathy she is showed you and the witness Josh is showing to so many! To God be the glory!
You both are awesome! Always look forward to watching your pod cast. ❤
Josh thank you for being vulnerable and honest and all of the things and the way Savannah is so receptive and I don't even know the right words here but this it is an amazing podcast and you're not even halfway through❤
I love yall so much & Josh, the honesty and vulnerability in this episode helped me so much.
Thank you both for this video!
Another great episode! Thank you Josh for opening up about porn addictions because it really needs to be talked about and feel safe to talk about with people you trust. But tell someone though. And thanks Sav for asking the question. Also, y’all funny too! Love watching y’all!
Yes please show us the behind-the-scenes and tell us all about it as well!! Like a real Day in the Life social media creator, I know I'd love to see it! Like when you say editing what does that entail?!
I can see it, glad he recovered though and is still working on it. Having this conversation isn't easy.
Your testimony will help others Josh. Thank you for sharing
I love your podcast so much. I always have a lot of comments but don’t know where to start from or if I’m even ready to share❤❤
Thank you! I feel like around 90% of men and yes women too like Billie Eilish have or had an addiction to porn so it’s so refreshing to have conversations about something SO unspoken and at the same time SO relatable! 🙏🏽
Great Example❤
Wow love this set up!!! Cozy!!
Welcome to OREGON! ❤Happy you're here!
This podcast is definitely for u.... and for us love it
Absolutely love the honesty!
I really appreciate the fact that you two decided to talk about this publicly. And I also think it’s so respectable that you deal with it together as a team with so much honesty. You guys are such a mature couple that genuinely seem like a good influence to others🙌🏼
I appreciate the honesty. This is important to talk about.
First podcast tuning in on, heck yeah Boi 🎉
Glad you’re here!!
Such a timely subject to discuss in our era with the world weighing on this generation of young people. So many young people deal with this and are ashamed to admit it. The downside in this is that it only heightens the level of difficulty it takes to overcome. I wish it weren’t viewed as a “taboo” topic in the Christian community. There’s no way to reach or help others with this if we never acknowledge it as a problem that needs resolving. There is always a time and a place when we take the time to create it. And topics like this can be discussed in a manner that isn’t intended to shame but to help others through it. I believe God intends for us to serve as aid to one another in times of need.
I love that you guys have always been so open with your faith & have created a safe space like this to discuss things like lust and pornography. It’s something many of us struggle with or have in the past. It’s also something many don’t realize that women struggle with too…Praying that all chains of addictions would be broken for those in battle (addiction of any kind). ❤❤
You were really brave and honest Josh to admit about your addiction, Sav was great understanding and helping you. You were meant to be together. Josh is so in love with his wife and Sav so thoughtful in return.❤❤. Hope your new home turns out what you want and expect so you remain so loving and happy together and as a family.🙋🏡🎊🎊
Loved this honestly ❤
Me too
my boyfriend has been struggling with the same addiction since he was 11. could really use prayers! he’s struggling a lot rn
Y'all were on Marriage Be Hard?!! LET'S GOOOOOOO!!
As always, thank you for sharing your lives with us.
forever running to my car on my lunch break when i see this notification come up ❤️💗 thanks for filling my cup today :)
More testimonies like this ! Keep sharing the faith and give all glory to God 🥹🙏🏻 Love you guys 💕
Definitely struggled with the addiction as well. I have admitted it to one person, but I cannot tell my parents or anyone else because of how embarrassed and ashamed I am.
I hate that I let myself get so deep into an addiction that it was what I ran to instead of God.
Love y’all’s dynamic!
You guys are so incredible and filled with the holy spirit. I am sobbing. I have walked away from the Lord for a while now and women def struggle with this addiction, I have been struggling for a bit now. But thank you for posting this, it honestly showed me that there is hope. I have been feeling like God hates me now but you showed me otherwise, thank you Josh and Sav for your vulnerability.
God doesn't hate you. God hating someone goes against the very essence of what God is. . . Love.
I love you all's outlook on the way you think people should share with one another prior to marriage. I agree with you. And not everybody would and it would take a lot of self inventory and self-reflection to be able to admit things like that to someone you want to marry. And I just feel like it brings a foundation for a very strong relationship. Kudos to you guys. I hope one day to find the type of relationship that you guys have, because when it comes to honesty and transparency most people don't bring baggage out of the closet. They carry all that stuff into the relationship with them and continue to do things behind closed doors. It just brings another stepping-stone for trust and unity in my opinion❤
It’s amazing how josh allows you to be this beautiful understanding partner!! Unfortunately my partner and father of 4 hasn’t allowed me any of that with any of his addictions it’s been 7 years now.. About ready to call it quits and find myself again.
Josh, I see you are a young man who is growing and maturing. Thank you for being real and honest with us, I admire what you did before you and Sav got married by telling her all off your baggage. God bless you Josh and your family, by the way the pink looks great on you,lol❤❤❤❤❤❤😂
Eating mcdonalds on my lunch break literally laughed out lpud so hard at the favorite milkshake part almost crying thanks needed that lol this gonna be great just what i needed
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Sav, i fr relate so much to the having to work towards being kind and it not coming naturally !! Ive has to work HARRRDD to be kind! I’m proud to say that I’ve improved with the lords help 😂😂😂
I hope you guys go to seaside ❤❤❤ my parents would go there for their anniversary trip every year. My dad passed away in 2021 from liver cancer 😢 that place holds special memories
Are you guys not doing the drafts anymore 😢I loved those!!!
Josh you are so blessed and so anointed! I originally came to this channel for you after listening to a podcast with you and Jordan Ciciotti. I am so proud of you and thank you for sharing this. It’s something that yes women struggle with too and it’s the worse, especially not having someone to tell. thank you for your honesty. don’t let anyone downplay who God has called you to be because I can tell that you are going to do amazing things!
The house looks great so far!
Me being a new sub && this the first UA-cam video that catches my attention is crazy 😭😭😭
Proud of you guys🥺💕💕
I LOVE this podcast so much. ^_^
You know what’s crazy??? How many times y’all say “You know what’s crazy?! 😂 It makes me laugh so much!! ❤
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Side note: Savannah (and Josh too if you’re curious), I think reading Through a Man’s Eyes gives a really interesting insight for women and just how visual men are and how their thoughts relate to how visual they are. It’s so fascinating and makes me see why so many men use porn. I think the author is a Christian which makes it even more relatable.
But side side note: I’ve had a ton of female friends watch porn too, I just don’t think it’s on the same level as men… possibly.
Oh and I’m sure it’s challenging as a PK and someone who works in ministry to share that, Josh, but it’s sooo valuable to hear about your struggle with it and how you navigated it with Savannah. I love that y’all are getting into some of the nitty gritty topics, especially as Christians. So thank you!
It’s 50/50 it’s not just men who struggle with it I’m a female I been struggling with it since I was 12 and I overcame my addiction choosing Jesus over my addiction at 18 so it’s 50/50
Someone I know posted about their addiction to the same thing today. The coincidence is crazy!
The way Josh looked around the room when he said one thing I want to change about you it was like he was searching y'alls living room for an answer😂
I love you guys. I've not only been here since day 1 but I also had the pleasure of watching a long journey of two beautiful people growing together, now living their dreams❤
However you may see it,
Doing anything on your phone or computer is completely a thought-out choice.
It's gross to see people stand beside someone because of their "history". Addiction is an excuse for someones actions to trick their loved ones into staying with them out of fear that they'll loose you, to straight up hide the reality that they're unfaithful and don't really WANT to give it up.
25, a woman and definitely struggling. It’s so hard and started when I found it when I was 7. I’m still asking God to help. Trying to figure out why he still wants me
Josh & Sav lay your hand's on each other and rebuke anything that may ever come between you too. In the mighty name of Jesus. And I'm going to be honest I'm a female and was very addicted to porn. But I got delivered thank you Lord. Me and my hubby have been together for 16 years he's 34 & I'm 35 Are marriage is going through it hunny. The devil comes only to kill,steal and destroy and he is in over drive. I have cried, prayed , anointed my man and I refuse to give up because I know my father in heaven said what he put together may nobody take it away. Prayer you guy and prayers to everyone on this page. ❤ Love you guy's ❤ Beautiful family! - The Garrett's I want to start a UA-cam channel but I'm nervous. Me and my hubby have such a strong testimony be through it I know the Lord could use us pray for us and that the Lord let's us know if it's a good idea to start a UA-cam page!
Be thankful for 7.30am wake ups…our 4th and last child woke at 5am every single morning!! This continued until he was about 3 years old. He wasn’t a snuggler, so wouldn’t jump into bed with us and snuggle back to sleep. Worst was that I left for work at 7.30am so was defo a killer to be up so much earlier than I needed to be. X
“What do you want me to say Carmel drizzle with baby formula” 😂😂
I love the podcast vibes from Josh and Sav
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I’m not sure if this is too personal but I’m dating someone with the same addiction and I’m wondering if that’s ever effected your sex life? Like expectations vs. reality, if that makes sense? I cannot miss an episode of this podcast, it’s my favorite thing to listen to sitting in the carpool line!
Deal with same thing it does affect sex life because open more doors for expectations and other women. I also didn’t feel appreciated or special during those times because it was more of a chore than a special moment. If that makes sense. Instead of letting it build up and sharing that moment together if their watching porn it taskes the spark out. Also men will natraully compare porn to what you are. Whether they say it out loud or act on it. Men would appreciate women more and please them more if they didn’t watch porn. Our generation likes to think that’s normal it’s not. It’s a toxic habit that takes away from your partner.
Word of advice: if he doesn't stop, leave him. Trust me, it's not worth the heartache. You might feel like you can bear it now but it really gets to you eventually. If they can't give up porn and willing to eradicate that then you deserve way better.
"i could never, but I could" to Who's your favourite kid? Is wild. Oh Josh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Just noticed both dogs in the first few seconds of this video! Yay!
Sav your hair looks so pretty 😍
Love y’all ❤
So proud of you Josh for admitting this.
my little brothers name is Steven Junior, and we call him SJ so it’s so funny hearing y’all call Starlie Jean SJ haha i love it
Love them both ❤️
The pink top has me thrown for some reason 😂
I feel like yall do social media really well. Like you share enough that we know your personalities but we really don't know anything about your personal life. And we see your kids but not too much of their life. Idk yall just balance it out really well.
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Porn is horrible and especially in marriage. My spouse has been dealing with it our entire marriage and it is such a struggle and true addiction. 😢😢😢
No it isn’t 😂😂. If it is for you personally don’t watch or do. Mind your business though maybe
@@ravendawnhead97 it’s 100 percent destructive . And until you get out of it, you’ll never know. I stand by my comment. But if your watching and hearing what he says in the podcast you’ll see that I’m not the only one who agrees.
It's all about the dopamine you get from watching it. It's the same as when you play video games and win the game or when you eat food. Food becomes an addiction because of the same thing. Its a dopamine release. Thats why you get addicted to it.
@@ieashafaddis Exactly. Anything can be bad and addictive. Things become a problem when they interfere with your life as in you can’t function without it.
@@ravendawnhead97 search the number of ppl doing porn who have committed suicide. It's gross.
I’m older than you guys and I must say I think this is a much bigger problem with millennials and younger because so many of you(men and women) have grown up with access to so much of it and much more hardcore than what us Gen Xers came across. Props to you for addressing it and being so open with your lady
"I don't know what's going on with the Roman Empire" is my favorite part of this pod LOL. Not a lot bro...not a lot
I LOVE YALL TOGETHER
Wow! This is an amazing episode. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and offering yourselves as a living sacrifice so that God can use your experience to strengthen the Church. This is why we needed a podcast from y'all! I love it❤❤
I also feel like this sheds more light into the narrative of Sav being "clingy, insecure and dependent" during your long distance season, if course she may have seemed that way knowing that her partner was struggling with pornography
Also, porn affects not just males but many women as well as kids from as young as 4 years old. It's an incredibly fast growing problem and really traps so many people even from believing that Jesus can redeem them. I struggled with masterbation and have been redeemed and freed by Jesus Christ, I have female and male friends who struggled with pornography and have been freed and redeemed by Jesus Christ. He is more than able, again, thank you guys!! ❤
I feel like everyone goes through something in which the devil slips into our brains.
Weather it is anxiety or body image issues. I had maladaptive dreaming. I’d wake up and stay in bed and dream while awake. I’d dream when I could, while listening to music and exercising. Eventually I started only dreaming while in the shower. I prayed for it to be taken from me. I know God took it from me. I know I can never
Go back to it. It’s been 4yrs now. I know God Took it because I felt it when it happened. I just knew God did it and I knew I could not ever go back to it.
I have had a thought of dreaming but I say No to it
And I don’t go back to it. Also another thing that helped me is I stopped listening to music and watching movies. I also felt convicted by God to not watch movies. I only watch faith based movies. God Bless you all
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Not the arm cross was wild 🤣🤣🤣
Dallas?!! 🤔 Must be Jeanine!! Either way, it’ll be great. Much love ❤️