Being emotionally unavailable describes someone who is not open to discussing or sharing their feelings. They can be evasive, flaky, or hard to read. "They're scared of intimacy👍
Sadly, yes. I don’t like flaky ppl but I know my crush is super flaky due to emotionally unavailable. And when ppl are emotionally unavailable, there’s not much you can do about it 😭😭😭 but I can’t just let go of him because I care about him so much, I hate seeing him depressed 😭😭😭
@@michirista well, bad behavior person also help us to know what kind of person that we don't want to be in the Future...That's always reason of people come into our life 😁
Often times, people who are emotionally unavailable are in the process of working through some hurt. But with some work, they can come around like I did 🤗
I have a crush on someone online but he going through some things and so am I guess..but still I wish I could be there for him..sigh..maybe it's not meant to be.😌
0:33 they lack compassion 1:00 they don't seem to want a real relationship 1:25 their body language come off as distant 1:55 they're dismissive of you 2:25 they avoid emotional depth 2:53 they don't have many deep relationship
No no emotionally unavailable person does not lack of compassion. They really compassionate if someone wants to tell their stories, they can be a good listener. But they dont want to tell their stories. They dont want to reciprocate.
I was in a relationship with someone that was emotionally unavailable and I've never felt more unwanted or dismissed like my feelings didn't matter at all :( I wish people would at least be honest instead of hurting others who are ready to open up and give love another chance. After this I honestly feel so scared to try again.
bless you! They should work on themselves, they are the problem, not you. These people will end up very lonely if they don't start opening up, and start talking about what's bothering them, or how they feel etc. Don't let anyone think you are not worthy for any recognition of who you are as a person x
As a guy who just discovered I am (was) emotionally unavailable ... You just don't feel it its something wrong with you, even if the other is points it to You, I guess its hard to belive how someone can't understand even if its told to him but it is. I felt something is not quite right but then you think you just need time to adjust, you don't value the positive that much but the negative so much you use it in you mind to build a wall. Now after I ended the relationship i feel all the emotion and love to her and how toxic it was to her. Am I regretting I ended the relationship? No, as I couldn't make her happy and by that I was also not happy. And without the pain I now have I wouldn't know how much i have to invest in myself. So it hurts really much i hurt him and i have to let her go and by that maybe i lost her forever, but I also know I need time to find myself and she also needs time to heal. I just can hope in the future maybe our roads will cross again, but I know i did the most to her by letting her free from me right now :/
@@gracehaven5459 I’ve been there and let me tell you. It can be scary but it’s better to leave now then later. Don’t stay in the relationship. It can be hard but it’s worth it in the end.
I used to like someone who was only clearly emotionally unavailable. He was always negative and he drained me out mentally and emotionally. He always brought confusion in my life, so I ended up cutting him off. Here’s my advice: Just because someone is going through something.. that IS NOT an excuse for that person to hurt you or lead you on. If a person is draining you out then cut that person off. You can’t change someone. If your crush is emotionally unavailable then GET OUT. (Depending your situation)
I'm compassionate and all that but I just don't want to date anyone. At least not for a while. It's hard to find someone I like who accepts me for who I am
I had a friendship like this. It took living with them for me to see what was so different. I think it's important to discuss that emotional availability applies to friendships as much as it does to romantic relationships.
Yea it just becomes emotionally exhausting I think also as you get older you see how needy the world and people are its to.much to keep up with so you just shut down .
I was emotionally unavailable for over a decade after a disastrously bad break-up. Then, recently, things happened that helped open me back up…only to fall for someone who is, herself, currently emotionally unavailable.
Hope y'all liked this video as much as I did :-) 1. They lack compassion 0:31 2. They don't seem to want a real relationship 0:58 3. Their body language is distant 1:23 4. They're dismissive of you 1:57 5. They avoid emotional depth 2:25 6. They don't have many deep relationships with others 2:52
I just went through a breakup. He's very emotionally unavailable and all these points apply and myself being very emotional and my love languages being quality time and physical touch it was so hard to make it work. I felt like he didn't love me or care at all about me. He had bad father figures in his life and I know he went through a lot. But it's very difficult to help someone who won't open up. It was very bad for my mental health so I had to choose to put myself first...
My crush doesn't seem to fit any of these, I think he just sees me as a friend more than anything :') I mean that's completely okay, he's a big boy who can choose who he wants to be in a relationship with, but oof what's this feeling? p a i n
I feel u. Sometimes me and my crush flirt to each other but i think he just see me as a little sister that he like to tease. He is my senior in college also my partner in crime :) 💔
I am like this. just like my mother. I knew I will be like her someday, no matter how much I despised her. but I know that healing my inner child is my own responsibility. this is hard. but things that matter are never easy.
I learned how to be emotionally unavailable from my mother. and emotionally abusive from my father when I was a very small child. My question would be, is being a adult survivor of childhood emotional abuse and neglect the same as being a total jerk? or maybe like a complete asshole. My whole life the question was always whats wrong with you? and never what happened to you? The reason I am emotionally unavailable is because I have served a life sentence in a prison of shame for the crime of being born. and in that prison all the doors lock from the inside. That's what being emotionally unavailable feels like.
These people can exhaust you and there’s nothing to be proud of if you’re one of them I don’t care if they’ve been hurt before, if you don’t want to open up just don’t start any relationships and don’t hurt others I hope I’ll never find these people anymore
I am so thankful for you helping me through these tough times and making me more knowledgeable about life. I have told all my friends and family members about your channel and how you get people the help they need. They all love you including me. So keep doing what you are doing and I hope I can stay with you for a long time! ❤️❤️💖💜💛
They are emotionally unavailable. I already knew but I wanted to make sure I was labeling it correctly. I’ve never been in a relationship so I was still unsure. They don’t ignore me but they are quick to dismiss other people’s opinions or feelings as in if they make someone feel bad in accident they’ll just brush it off as an accident and just keep doing how they do. I had to confirm because sometimes its hard for me to tell when someone is emotionally unavailable or just a selfish/ inconsiderate person. They definitely do #5. I thought that was just how some people are because I’m a very open person with everyone I know. I don’t have many deep relationships but I’m willing too. It’s just I don’t know that make people that are as open. I just end up resenting people that aren’t because the relationship feels lopsided like they really don’t want me to know them.
I had just been struggling with this issue. Someone who I am close with has many of these qualities, and it hurt me for so long as to why they felt distant and I never knew why. Thank you so much for this insight
I need to learn to open up more to people. That is the reason why I don’t have deep friendships. It took me so long to find this out, BUT I am working on this as we speak. Gotta take it on step at a time!
(Insert a good "hi" here) 1. They lack compassion 0:31 2. They dont want a real relationship 0:59 3. Their body language is distant 1:22 4. They dimissive of you 1:57 5. They avoid emotional depth 2:24 6. They dont have many deep relationships with others 2:53 (Insert a good "bye" here)
Yes He is very uncomfortable when I express my feelings towards him and he keeps me at a distance. It's not what I want or deserve so I think I need to move on to someone that knows what they want and can see my value.
ERROR: "Lack of deep and meaningful emotional relationships"... As a child of a Covert Narcissist, I have always BEEN open and vulnerable, willing and eager to engage, connect, and grow deep with people. Problem: due to my mother's isolating me from my entire family and from normal friendships,... I DID NOT DEVELOP THE SOCIAL SKILLS, scientists prove that the BRAIN misses the early development of these skills, then, does not recover them... one has to LEARN them, but they struggle... THIS DOES NOT MEAN I AM EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE! Quite the contrary! I meet men who ARE! 🙂
Hmmm, some of these describe myself.🤔 Though I try be polite and considerate, I may seem distant to some people. I don’t trust people easily and prefer to stay single, due to negative past experiences. I’m a skeptic when it comes to romantic love too.🤨 So that’s why I’m “emotionally unavailable”.
This was my best friend who I had to say goodbye to recently. She always blameshifted back to her issues when I wanted to discuss important topics about her and how she made me feel in the relationship or made excuses. And if I needed to talk about something in my life that was upsetting me she wasn't present to comfort me, and we would just end up talking about her life. It's my fault, too because I put her up on the pedestal. My heart is broken. And she doesn't care. I wasn't trying to manipulate her. I have PTSD. Also, I'm a dark empath who's done psychotherapy. I hate her for this.
I can understand why time travel is fun! Btw, great video! It helped me realize that someone I've been very close to for a while is bordering on emotional unavailability.
Weirdly enough I’m the opposite of all those signs, and I’m an infj. We are known as people who have trouble opening up and stuff. But I don’t have that weakness. I can be so open that I can scare people away
But it's fine bc i don't want them to be like, totally emotionally available just yet Also a reminder to all who read this, it's okay to not be emotionally available all the time, and it's also okay to set expectations and boundaries for how much emotional availability you can provide.
I've self isolated for so long now that I dont talk to anybody enough to even develop a crush. Being bullied in high school helped push me away from people, and I ended up with depression from it. Being bullied for expressing emotions made me cold. Not doing this for sympathy, I'm just curious if that's normal.
Yes, it's normal. If you're being bullied for expressing ur emotions, then naturally, u start being cold to ppl out of resentment and fear. U also have a hard time trusting ppl, so u easily push them away, making u feel lonely and depressed
Ive had experience with being bullied when I was young. It gets better when you get older trust me. Im in college now and I went through same thing as you. You will learn how to love yourself, develop boundaries with narcissistic people and open up again to different forms of love friendships/romantic. I highly recommend watching Lisa A. Romano. She is a great life coach. Good luck sending virtual air hugs 🤗 ❤️
Emotional unavailability” describes a person who's evasive, avoids meeting up, or simply doesn't like to talk about their feelings or relationships. That person might also have difficulties with the following: trusting people. bursts of anger
Sadly this was my ex gf and ex crush. It was good in the initial honeymoon phase but sadly.. she did everything in this video. I tried to be patient with her but I just felt so disconnected... I feel bad because I know she has had some trauma in her past 💔. I wish I could help her but I think she hates me . I hope she gets better some day.
Another sign that I know myself using is mixed signals and faking emotions and facial expressions, im constantly playing hot and cold. One day I will be super loving to get them on the hook and they next day I will act cold towards them. Then when I notice they pull away I will turn up the flirting only for when they eventually reciprocate turn away again. It is kinda miserable knowing that it is impossible for me to have a real relationship. Most of the time I try to justify my behaviour that I do towards others, toying with their emotions etc. This way I never feel bad about it. But I just feel like I cannot have a deep connection with anyone, fault lies with my own insecurities, even tho deep down I want one hence the mixed signals.
Well I thought of myself that I am emotionally unavailable, because of a lot of trauma and problems I had to live through the last two years, and I told my now boyfriend back then too, that I am absolutely unavailable. I don't really see myself in this video tho. After watching this I get why my boyfriend also had the feeling that I am not completly unavailable and kept being on my side to see how things may turn out. I am very happy he didnt gave up ^^
I had a crush on someone this year but this video pretty much confirmed it. I cut ties with them and blocked them. I personally don't like giving my all to someone and keep me hanging. Its unfortunate but I have to watch out for myself. The last text was them asking me about an outing I was going to and guess what, left me hanging and I wasnt gonna wait 🙃
I had this girl who liked me a whole lot, it was the first time anyone had actually liked me that way so I just went along with it. She kept talking to me and trying to be a common part of my life but that's when I realized something. I had been alone for so long that it was hard to be around others. I tried to stay in the relationship for her sake but it ended with her liking me even more. She got too close and I pushed her away.
This was frustrating at first. All too common do we end up gravitating towards them, and you know, that doesn't make them a bad person. Rather they just aren't fully available emotionally. It was a few months ago that I almost went off on a girl cause things were going well...til I was lead on. I used to think it was a reflection of me and thought it was my fault, but that wasn't the case.
I am just now realizing how emotionally unavailable I am and have been. I don’t care for friends, deep connections or people in general. I love being alone, hanging out by myself, going out to eat myself, essentially doing everything by myself so there’s that. Sometimes I see others with friends and I think about how great it would be to have friends but tbh I just don’t care that much. If I keep on this path of loving my loneliness so much I might rot.
A summary for those that struggle to concentrate or stay still for long: Sign 1: They lack compassion. Sign 2: They don't seem to want a real relationship Sign 3: Their body language comes off as distant Sign 4: They're dismissive with you Sign 5: They avoid emotional depth. Sign 6: They don't have many deep relationships
ugh man I'm trying to get to the core of why my crush is acting the way he is, and this hit differently... We talked recently and we both recognize that a relationship would not work out; he says it's partly because he doesn't believe in the concept of relationships but also because he couldn't provide stability for me at the moment. And let me tell ya I'm sensing severe attachment issues here.. I feel like there's something going on and weighing him down deep inside.. Crush or not, I just wanna be there for him.. but like idk to what extent i can actually help...
My ex fits in everyone of these characteristics, still feel guilty nd ashamed for dating him and staying with him for those 9 months. Still Traumatised after 4 years after the break up.
We have been friends for 2 years I finally asked him to hang out twice and both times he immediately said yes and was gebuinely interested but said he is going thru shit and offered sometime in the future .....we have gotten so much closer lately but I'm still not where I want to be!
anyone else watching this is more so for themselves than others? i just can’t share my feelings and can’t understand others to the point where i want to live completely void of others
I don't really agree with the compassion one I agree with all the others but for me I feel uncomfortable crying sometimes but if my friend was crying I would support and have compassion for them. With my mental illness it's like i am kind and compassionate to everyone else but myself
1. Lack compassion 2. They don’t want a real relationship 3. Their body language comes off as distance 4. Their dismissal of you 5. Avoid emotional depth 6. They don’t have many deep meaningful friendships
What Netflix series are you watching at the moment? Comment below. (If it's not on Netflix, comment something else)
Attack on Titan ;-;
demon slayer
death note !!
Euphoria (again)❤️
Im watching the disastrous life of Saki K
Being emotionally unavailable describes someone who is not open to discussing or sharing their feelings. They can be evasive, flaky, or hard to read. "They're scared of intimacy👍
I was like this before I met her She helped me a lot emotionly-
We all are guilty of doing this at one time or another. What changes that is how self aware you are to it which can help make the changes necessary
tbf intimacy is quite scary
@@matheussanthiago9685 it is quite scary cause it requires vulnerability, but we sometimes need to take that risk and sometimes it's rewarding
Sadly, yes. I don’t like flaky ppl but I know my crush is super flaky due to emotionally unavailable. And when ppl are emotionally unavailable, there’s not much you can do about it 😭😭😭 but I can’t just let go of him because I care about him so much, I hate seeing him depressed 😭😭😭
“The people you meet are either reflections of a repeater cycle or guides towards a new start.” ✨
I think that's called law of attraction 😁
@@journeylife777 more then law of attraction a think you can see as stay focused on people bad behavior ,if you decide live with that is different !!
Bro i feel like i see you everywhere especially on elis videos
@@michirista well, bad behavior person also help us to know what kind of person that we don't want to be in the Future...That's always reason of people come into our life 😁
@@journeylife777 you are totally right ,it's about perspective !!!
Hits different when *you're* the emotionally unavailable person without even realizing it
Ice bear will get better
:')
literally i watched the video and was like dang that’s me
Often times, people who are emotionally unavailable are in the process of working through some hurt. But with some work, they can come around like I did 🤗
Self awareness is the first step!
By the way, how did you overcome that? And where are you at now with all this?
I have a crush on someone online but he going through some things and so am I guess..but still I wish I could be there for him..sigh..maybe it's not meant to be.😌
Yeah... idk bout that..
@@kimberlybogert-nemeth4760 i feel you, ive lost feelings but still
I came here to see if my crush was emotionally unavailable but then I realized I was the emotionally unavailable one-
Same
Literally just cleared up stuffs with him and UA-cam recommended this video...
Lmao plot twist
Oh my god I watched this but substituted my female friend and it is a match
I don't have a crush on anyone, but I watched it anyway out of sheer boredom. And yep, same thing here...
0:33 they lack compassion
1:00 they don't seem to want a real relationship
1:25 their body language come off as distant
1:55 they're dismissive of you
2:25 they avoid emotional depth
2:53 they don't have many deep relationship
Thanks!
This helps me so much! Thank you!
Time travel!?!@11
But also each of these behaviours are okay, and deserve a conversation
*being dismissive isn't cool
Thank you : ) .
No no emotionally unavailable person does not lack of compassion. They really compassionate if someone wants to tell their stories, they can be a good listener. But they dont want to tell their stories. They dont want to reciprocate.
I was in a relationship with someone that was emotionally unavailable and I've never felt more unwanted or dismissed like my feelings didn't matter at all :( I wish people would at least be honest instead of hurting others who are ready to open up and give love another chance. After this I honestly feel so scared to try again.
bless you! They should work on themselves, they are the problem, not you. These people will end up very lonely if they don't start opening up, and start talking about what's bothering them, or how they feel etc. Don't let anyone think you are not worthy for any recognition of who you are as a person x
gurl, same...
:(
As a guy who just discovered I am (was) emotionally unavailable ... You just don't feel it its something wrong with you, even if the other is points it to You, I guess its hard to belive how someone can't understand even if its told to him but it is. I felt something is not quite right but then you think you just need time to adjust, you don't value the positive that much but the negative so much you use it in you mind to build a wall. Now after I ended the relationship i feel all the emotion and love to her and how toxic it was to her.
Am I regretting I ended the relationship? No, as I couldn't make her happy and by that I was also not happy. And without the pain I now have I wouldn't know how much i have to invest in myself. So it hurts really much i hurt him and i have to let her go and by that maybe i lost her forever, but I also know I need time to find myself and she also needs time to heal.
I just can hope in the future maybe our roads will cross again, but I know i did the most to her by letting her free from me right now :/
I understand you
I have to wonder why they even bother with dating sites.
actions speak louder than words, so trust actions and not words.
This..
LOUDER my Queen!!!🙌🏼
@@exhausteDpigeonN 😇😇😇😁
💯
This video: talks about crushes
Me: *laughs in loneliness*
Relationships aren't always all they're cracked up to be. I'm miserable in mine but scared to leave.
@@gracehaven5459 I’ve been there and let me tell you. It can be scary but it’s better to leave now then later. Don’t stay in the relationship. It can be hard but it’s worth it in the end.
Laughs in aromantic asexual
@@nova4101 *Laughs in demisexual AND LONLINESS*
Me: *Laughs in confusion of if I have a crush or not, and wondering if they are just being extremely friendly*
I used to like someone who was only clearly emotionally unavailable. He was always negative and he drained me out mentally and emotionally. He always brought confusion in my life, so I ended up cutting him off. Here’s my advice: Just because someone is going through something.. that IS NOT an excuse for that person to hurt you or lead you on. If a person is draining you out then cut that person off. You can’t change someone. If your crush is emotionally unavailable then GET OUT. (Depending your situation)
I’m not emotionally unavailable but I’m not open to date so idk why I’m even watching this.
As an introvert dealing with social anxiety, I can wholeheartedly relate to being emotionally unavailable.
Just here to see if I'm emotionally unavailable 🙂
@@ladreenisaac2418 same and omg how is he? How many times did he ask to do a double suicide with you?
Tsuki is your profile pic you're emotionally unavailable into people who are emotionally unavailable
I'm compassionate and all that but I just don't want to date anyone. At least not for a while. It's hard to find someone I like who accepts me for who I am
Finally a comment I can relate to .
That's why I have a crush on an anime charachter
Easy peasy✌
😂 Let's keep it a crush not an obsession
@@mellomell7269 lmao no obsession 😁
god what a mood
dismissive avoidants often do.... I know what I'm talking about ;)
I like an anime girl *and a living one HOW FUN 🥲*
I had a friendship like this. It took living with them for me to see what was so different. I think it's important to discuss that emotional availability applies to friendships as much as it does to romantic relationships.
I think when people become emotionally unavailable it's not by choice it's because of all the pain they face in past
i agree, i dont blame anyone in this situation
Yea it just becomes emotionally exhausting I think also as you get older you see how needy the world and people are its to.much to keep up with so you just shut down .
Not if they are the one making it hard
It is by choice when he chooses to make somebody think their crazy
Hewwo I hope you guys have a good day today ,drink some water and spend some time outside 🌟🤗☀️
I have a bad habit of catching feelings for emotionally unavailable people 🙁
Then you may be emotionally unavailable
I was emotionally unavailable for over a decade after a disastrously bad break-up.
Then, recently, things happened that helped open me back up…only to fall for someone who is, herself, currently emotionally unavailable.
thats ur fuccking punishement and im here happy for itt....wtff is going wrong with you guys gooooosssshhh
@@mokakuma7329punishment for what exactly?
Hey random person reading this, you deserve all the love in this world and deserve better than emotionally unavailable people❤️
Thank you random time traveler✨🖤👉👉
Thank you úwù 💖
What if those with ravaged faces lacking in the social graces? Those my friend are the emotionally unavailable
Thank You..I needed that
Hope y'all liked this video as much as I did :-)
1. They lack compassion 0:31
2. They don't seem to want a real relationship 0:58
3. Their body language is distant 1:23
4. They're dismissive of you 1:57
5. They avoid emotional depth 2:25
6. They don't have many deep relationships with others 2:52
Tysm!
Thanks
Thank you Sir
2 months ago...
Oh so this is how people time travel. I was getting real confused.
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I just went through a breakup. He's very emotionally unavailable and all these points apply and myself being very emotional and my love languages being quality time and physical touch it was so hard to make it work. I felt like he didn't love me or care at all about me. He had bad father figures in his life and I know he went through a lot. But it's very difficult to help someone who won't open up. It was very bad for my mental health so I had to choose to put myself first...
Putting yourself first is something that a lot of people do these days...
My crush doesn't seem to fit any of these, I think he just sees me as a friend more than anything :') I mean that's completely okay, he's a big boy who can choose who he wants to be in a relationship with, but oof what's this feeling?
p a i n
Ever considering asking him how he feels about you?
I agree with one above, I'd say go for it, if you haven't already, you never know if the door will open till you knock it
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I feel u. Sometimes me and my crush flirt to each other but i think he just see me as a little sister that he like to tease. He is my senior in college also my partner in crime :) 💔
I am like this. just like my mother.
I knew I will be like her someday, no matter how much I despised her.
but I know that healing my inner child is my own responsibility.
this is hard.
but things that matter are never easy.
The notif told me that it was new, but the comments are from months ago
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ITS THE FUCKING TIME TRAVALERS!!!!!!
I learned how to be emotionally unavailable from my mother. and emotionally abusive from my father when I was a very small child. My question would be, is being a adult survivor of childhood emotional abuse and neglect the same as being a total jerk? or maybe like a complete asshole. My whole life the question was always whats wrong with you? and never what happened to you? The reason I am emotionally unavailable is because I have served a life sentence in a prison of shame for the crime of being born. and in that prison all the doors lock from the inside. That's what being emotionally unavailable feels like.
whoaaa what’s everyone doing here two months ago when this is from 18 seconds ago 😭😭😭
Yeah 😭
@Winter Tree that would explain it
@Winter Tree U really think i have money to be a member? Lol
@Krishna Patel who are you talking to?..
I feel bad for these people. I could never live this way it would not be a full and satisfying life.
These people can exhaust you and there’s nothing to be proud of if you’re one of them
I don’t care if they’ve been hurt before, if you don’t want to open up just don’t start any relationships and don’t hurt others
I hope I’ll never find these people anymore
They don't "start" a relationship, right?
You know, its REALLY fckin hard to start relationships, right?
@@cieraboobitch6240 of course lol
I am so thankful for you helping me through these tough times and making me more knowledgeable about life. I have told all my friends and family members about your channel and how you get people the help they need. They all love you including me. So keep doing what you are doing and I hope I can stay with you for a long time! ❤️❤️💖💜💛
No I don't because I AM the emotionally unavailable Crush
If you're the emotional unavailable someone crush you try to work yourself if you want it,so you can heal and not hurt others in the way
"And when the seasons change, will you stand by me?"
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They are emotionally unavailable. I already knew but I wanted to make sure I was labeling it correctly. I’ve never been in a relationship so I was still unsure. They don’t ignore me but they are quick to dismiss other people’s opinions or feelings as in if they make someone feel bad in accident they’ll just brush it off as an accident and just keep doing how they do. I had to confirm because sometimes its hard for me to tell when someone is emotionally unavailable or just a selfish/ inconsiderate person. They definitely do #5. I thought that was just how some people are because I’m a very open person with everyone I know. I don’t have many deep relationships but I’m willing too. It’s just I don’t know that make people that are as open. I just end up resenting people that aren’t because the relationship feels lopsided like they really don’t want me to know them.
I had just been struggling with this issue. Someone who I am close with has many of these qualities, and it hurt me for so long as to why they felt distant and I never knew why. Thank you so much for this insight
What did you do about it?
don't tell me you love me and then ghost me. I'm trying to move on, but i'm MOVING ON! Stay there.
I need to learn to open up more to people. That is the reason why I don’t have deep friendships. It took me so long to find this out, BUT I am working on this as we speak. Gotta take it on step at a time!
This video would have been very helpful to me about a year ago. I hope the people who need it finds this video 💛
(Insert a good "hi" here)
1. They lack compassion 0:31
2. They dont want a real relationship 0:59
3. Their body language is distant 1:22
4. They dimissive of you 1:57
5. They avoid emotional depth 2:24
6. They dont have many deep relationships with others 2:53
(Insert a good "bye" here)
Being emotional unavailable feels like we fall in the deep end of a pool and we cant swim
Yes He is very uncomfortable when I express my feelings towards him and he keeps me at a distance. It's not what I want or deserve so I think I need to move on to someone that knows what they want and can see my value.
ERROR: "Lack of deep and meaningful emotional relationships"...
As a child of a Covert Narcissist, I have always BEEN open and vulnerable, willing and eager to engage, connect, and grow deep with people.
Problem: due to my mother's isolating me from my entire family and from normal friendships,... I DID NOT DEVELOP THE SOCIAL SKILLS, scientists prove that the BRAIN misses the early development of these skills, then, does not recover them... one has to LEARN them, but they struggle...
THIS DOES NOT MEAN I AM EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE! Quite the contrary! I meet men who ARE! 🙂
Hmmm, some of these describe myself.🤔 Though I try be polite and considerate, I may seem distant to some people. I don’t trust people easily and prefer to stay single, due to negative past experiences. I’m a skeptic when it comes to romantic love too.🤨 So that’s why I’m “emotionally unavailable”.
This was my best friend who I had to say goodbye to recently. She always blameshifted back to her issues when I wanted to discuss important topics about her and how she made me feel in the relationship or made excuses. And if I needed to talk about something in my life that was upsetting me she wasn't present to comfort me, and we would just end up talking about her life. It's my fault, too because I put her up on the pedestal. My heart is broken. And she doesn't care. I wasn't trying to manipulate her. I have PTSD. Also, I'm a dark empath who's done psychotherapy. I hate her for this.
What if you both are emotionally unavailable and just don't want to be alone so you both just get together?
Sounds like my marriage.
I can understand why time travel is fun!
Btw, great video! It helped me realize that someone I've been very close to for a while is bordering on emotional unavailability.
Weirdly enough I’m the opposite of all those signs, and I’m an infj. We are known as people who have trouble opening up and stuff.
But I don’t have that weakness. I can be so open that I can scare people away
But it's fine bc i don't want them to be like, totally emotionally available just yet
Also a reminder to all who read this, it's okay to not be emotionally available all the time, and it's also okay to set expectations and boundaries for how much emotional availability you can provide.
Time flies when you have fun
I've self isolated for so long now that I dont talk to anybody enough to even develop a crush. Being bullied in high school helped push me away from people, and I ended up with depression from it. Being bullied for expressing emotions made me cold. Not doing this for sympathy, I'm just curious if that's normal.
Yes, it's normal. If you're being bullied for expressing ur emotions, then naturally, u start being cold to ppl out of resentment and fear. U also have a hard time trusting ppl, so u easily push them away, making u feel lonely and depressed
Ive had experience with being bullied when I was young. It gets better when you get older trust me. Im in college now and I went through same thing as you. You will learn how to love yourself, develop boundaries with narcissistic people and open up again to different forms of love friendships/romantic. I highly recommend watching Lisa A. Romano. She is a great life coach. Good luck sending virtual air hugs 🤗 ❤️
Thx yall. Hope yall are doing well also.
@@lyrah6360 Nope. Depending what demographic you cone from it doesn't get better when you get older. I really hate it when people like you say that.
Emotional unavailability” describes a person who's evasive, avoids meeting up, or simply doesn't like to talk about their feelings or relationships. That person might also have difficulties with the following: trusting people. bursts of anger
I was seeing if my old partner fitted this as a joke AND UHHH I THINK WE BOTH ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE
lmao same
I used to think it was all me but nahh he was in it too lol
Sadly this was my ex gf and ex crush. It was good in the initial honeymoon phase but sadly.. she did everything in this video. I tried to be patient with her but I just felt so disconnected... I feel bad because I know she has had some trauma in her past 💔. I wish I could help her but I think she hates me . I hope she gets better some day.
This exactly describes my crush and it makes me really sad
If u feel the same way, the better u end ur relationship .. don't waste ur time with people who pretend to love u
Another sign that I know myself using is mixed signals and faking emotions and facial expressions, im constantly playing hot and cold. One day I will be super loving to get them on the hook and they next day I will act cold towards them. Then when I notice they pull away I will turn up the flirting only for when they eventually reciprocate turn away again. It is kinda miserable knowing that it is impossible for me to have a real relationship. Most of the time I try to justify my behaviour that I do towards others, toying with their emotions etc. This way I never feel bad about it. But I just feel like I cannot have a deep connection with anyone, fault lies with my own insecurities, even tho deep down I want one hence the mixed signals.
That's really messed up especially if your in a relationship doing that 😢.
How do you fake emotions 😢 so acted like you were interested in them but really you weren't.
I go through the same experience
man ... how I love this channel :)
I don't have a crush but apparently I'm emotionally unavailable
I just realized I'm emotionally unavailable :,)
Well I thought of myself that I am emotionally unavailable, because of a lot of trauma and problems I had to live through the last two years, and I told my now boyfriend back then too, that I am absolutely unavailable. I don't really see myself in this video tho. After watching this I get why my boyfriend also had the feeling that I am not completly unavailable and kept being on my side to see how things may turn out. I am very happy he didnt gave up ^^
i came hear because my ex girlfriend and i are taking a break because she wasn’t doing well mentally and i’m still in love with her
Her voice melts in my ears
😌 I hope that’s a good thing 😆
@@amandasilvera yes... Heard many insults...
@@amandasilvera and adding a Sweetness to it is good
I had a crush on someone this year but this video pretty much confirmed it. I cut ties with them and blocked them. I personally don't like giving my all to someone and keep me hanging. Its unfortunate but I have to watch out for myself. The last text was them asking me about an outing I was going to and guess what, left me hanging and I wasnt gonna wait 🙃
I had this girl who liked me a whole lot, it was the first time anyone had actually liked me that way so I just went along with it. She kept talking to me and trying to be a common part of my life but that's when I realized something. I had been alone for so long that it was hard to be around others. I tried to stay in the relationship for her sake but it ended with her liking me even more. She got too close and I pushed her away.
I kinda need this- also, time traveling!
Youre a wizard, Harry.
This was frustrating at first. All too common do we end up gravitating towards them, and you know, that doesn't make them a bad person. Rather they just aren't fully available emotionally. It was a few months ago that I almost went off on a girl cause things were going well...til I was lead on. I used to think it was a reflection of me and thought it was my fault, but that wasn't the case.
Really good timing I was just wondering about my crush. Thank you!
If only I had this video 8 months ago.
Found these signs in myself
I’m a time Traveler
I am just now realizing how emotionally unavailable I am and have been. I don’t care for friends, deep connections or people in general. I love being alone, hanging out by myself, going out to eat myself, essentially doing everything by myself so there’s that. Sometimes I see others with friends and I think about how great it would be to have friends but tbh I just don’t care that much. If I keep on this path of loving my loneliness so much I might rot.
"the person you are calling is unavailable right now, please call later"
I haven't even watched yet but I just know this is gonna describe me perfectly 😔
Omg this is so me :( people see me as distant but I'm just protecting myself
Yay me and my crush are both unemotionally available, it was meant to be
Ayyy welcome peeps from the future
Hii
this sign can’t stop me!
Everyone who I have a crush on suddenly becomes emotionally unavailable LOL
I have been in that situation many times and also become the one of unavailable. I can relate 5 and 6 because unable to have deep relationships
A summary for those that struggle to concentrate or stay still for long:
Sign 1: They lack compassion.
Sign 2: They don't seem to want a real relationship
Sign 3: Their body language comes off as distant
Sign 4: They're dismissive with you
Sign 5: They avoid emotional depth.
Sign 6: They don't have many deep relationships
Wow, this was posted in June?
It’s October oof
Great vid tho
Ikr
damn
Tf?
ugh man I'm trying to get to the core of why my crush is acting the way he is, and this hit differently... We talked recently and we both recognize that a relationship would not work out; he says it's partly because he doesn't believe in the concept of relationships but also because he couldn't provide stability for me at the moment. And let me tell ya I'm sensing severe attachment issues here.. I feel like there's something going on and weighing him down deep inside.. Crush or not, I just wanna be there for him.. but like idk to what extent i can actually help...
I'm late😔
Anyway, I love the animations so much
It's beautiful
Smh you're late
@@waterdoeswork actually there were people before me so I assumed that I was late
My ex fits in everyone of these characteristics, still feel guilty nd ashamed for dating him and staying with him for those 9 months. Still Traumatised after 4 years after the break up.
I mean my crush often actually changes the subject very clearly when we are talking about something emotional.
We have been friends for 2 years I finally asked him to hang out twice and both times he immediately said yes and was gebuinely interested but said he is going thru shit and offered sometime in the future .....we have gotten so much closer lately but I'm still not where I want to be!
Ohh, I am most of these. Don’t know how to fix it, though, most people find me repulsive whenever I make an effort to stop doing these things.
I’ll never understand the emotional unavailability. It’s no way to live to me it’s not a full life.
anyone else watching this is more so for themselves than others? i just can’t share my feelings and can’t understand others to the point where i want to live completely void of others
Why guard your feelings so much? What makes them so much more special than mine?
Dang, this one has been hiding since June. Bet it will be out in a few days, though
Oh damn were you wrong...
How do you post these incredible videos everyday? That’s just impressive
I don't really agree with the compassion one I agree with all the others but for me I feel uncomfortable crying sometimes but if my friend was crying I would support and have compassion for them. With my mental illness it's like i am kind and compassionate to everyone else but myself
I have an entire psych2go playlist.
Don't mind me adding more to it lol
I add there videos to my playlist nice things:)
Just found out that I'm the emotionally unavailable one 😷
1. Lack compassion
2. They don’t want a real relationship
3. Their body language comes off as distance
4. Their dismissal of you
5. Avoid emotional depth
6. They don’t have many deep meaningful friendships
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