Hopefully this video shows you some simple concepts and ideas that you can do to release anger in a healthy way :) Leave a comment below and let me know what was most helpful!
these so called anger management video makers need to understand that most of the audiance search for such videos when they lose their patience.Keep the video to the point.
I used to not be able to communicate especially when someone hurt me. I knew I couldn't hurt back with violence so I used my words instead to hurt the ones closest to me. I lost my relationship with my mother, sister, and fiancee because of this. My whole life I've been alone, isolated, neglected, and have abandonment issues. 25 years old and I'm still trying to work through this but I still carry the guilt of how much I hurt people in the worst ways possible when all I crave is love and attention.
You were only defending yourself and if you stopped people, they started it. They are not taking accountability. Sounds like narcissistic abuse from those family members. Your better off without abuse. Move forward.
I'm in between anger and apathy. When I'm trying to express my anger, I'm blocking it by rationalizing it and then all this energy returns back to me and I'm getting in frustration and melancholy and then apathy. It's a circle. I really have to learn to navigate this energy properly
Same here but I feel what's blocking me is the fear of confrontation... I have no idea where it comes from but anger always accompanies fear in my case...
Really love this video. I have always suppressed my anger so much to a point where I’ve become more of a apathetic quiet person like you said. Didn’t know those two went hand in hand and will definitely try the three steps.
I’m grateful you showed up on my tiktok and saw your videos my suppressed anger is a big problem in my life I’ve hurt people cause of this physically and psychologically without any intention I just wanna say thank you for this video
My anger is girls in my class think they can do what they want they kick me punch me and as soon as i pretend to punch them and make them flinch that say DO U WANNA GO TO JAIL HUH? and then they kick me i tell the teacher and she just makes a straight face like BRUH WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL I hate it
One advice from a girl. The next time tges do it, film it or record when they do it and then the next time they do it wail the evidence in their face and say the EXACT same thing they always say but include "you may be a girl but I am the one with evidence, wonder who they gonna believe. Wanna find out" and try to threaten them/intimidate them and if they somehow try to convince you that "it is not gonna work" do NOT give in. Girls say that when they are scared, which means they feel threatened and that it's working. So instead of giving in, say "then how about we show it to the teacher together?.did u know you could sue someone with this amount of evidence?" and then walk away. If they come after you try to negotiate something like, coi delete it and they stop their behavior, and now comes the sneaky advice. If they agree then delete it in front of their eyes BUT have a backup of the footage on a USB or your computer or something, because girls do not hold their promises most of the time. So if they break the promise and pick on you again then say you have a backup of the footage and make them sweat again. Option 2 would be to beat them up, cause if they tell their parents and Try to sue you, you have the footage and you are going to say" I didn't do anything. You can see on this film that THEY are the ones who picked on me. And without accusing, but maybe they bruised themselves on purpose so they could blame me"
I like the idea of setting them up and recording it and then taking action by going to the principal with your parents and possibly higher . Go to the superintendent of schools if it doesn't stop. Gather as much evidence as possible. I do not agree with " beating them up" no one will help you otherwise. I was a teacher forv22yrs. I got bullied by the adults in schools, left my job and I'm thriving. You WILL TOO!
My struggle with anger is how to not burst out at work or in a situation where it frightens people. I am a truck driver and work with a lot of guys. Many things they do frustrate me and when I calmly bring it to their attention they laugh. Then it happens over and over again and I burst like a compressed can of hot beans. My leaders only say things like "stay calm". I tell them how I would like them to change the situation or behavior only to get an excuse as to why they continue to miscommunicate or withhold information necessary to do my job. My biggest complaints relate to safety and broken equipment. Yet nothing ever changes. So I get quite because I am exhausted from holding back my anger in various situations. Then one day I just go off. I would love to know any advice to help me reduce my angry outburst. I also never knew anger and passion run along the same path. Thanks.
Maths! Algebra! Ends video 😂 this was very helpful though, thank you for sharing. 2020 has been an absolute shit show in my personal, professional, and external life. Will be trying this.
Schools do not care about emotions. How many of us were not supported when we needed validation for our emotions and have the situation dealt with and instead were reprimanded and shamed. 💔
These past days I've being meditating and realized that maybe the reason of why I blow up with my clients at work (not to their faces of course) is because for all my life in my home I've being swallowing again and again my anger to how they talk to me, treat me etc. Of course I explode once or twice a year but the res of the 363 days I swallow my frustration, pain and anger every time...
What does it mean if I tend to release anger by crying ? Am I suppressing myself or that's just how my energy tends to flow ? Thank you for your videos they really resonated with me at the moment ☺
I have problems to manage my anger. I consider myself an energic person, expressive and passionate as you say, but sometimes certain things happen that turn that energy into anger. Someone says something I didn't like, things don't turn the way I planned, sometimes I'm angry with myself for making mistakes or not giving my best, and sometimes is an accumulation of things. I've always had problems to manage it. I don't say it, but many times I believed that being angry was wrong, because I've seen how you end when you just let it out with people. In others and in me. Someone in my family is very spiteful and easily angered. I hate those traits, but sometimes I feel that I can't help but be like that too, and when I realise it I feel very sad with myself. It's like I can't control myself. Sometimes I blow things out of proportion or overreact, giving in to provocations, and I just don't know how to deal with it. Sometimes I can't find a way. Sometimes it's a bad moment. Sometimes I'm too lazy and I don't wanna deal with it. It's really frustrating, because I know that if those moments come when you need to remain calm, or use that rage in a good way to solve things, I won't be able to do it. Sometimes though, I manage to find ways to channel the anger in a good way. The things that work the best for me are playing the guitar, going outside and watch the sky and trees, and for those times when I'm so angry I'm about to explode, I'd find a place where I'm alone, like my room, and I'd start punching a wall or doing some aggressive kamehameha / chi movements. I know, it's weird af, but it works so well that as long as nobody's watching me, I'll use it. So to summarize, dealing with my emotions has got to be one of the hardest things to do for me, specially anger, but thanks to people like you I've learned many things that helped me get better at it, so thank you. I'm learning to accept it. Embrace it. Find ways to release it, to channel it, not to control it. Not to hold it inside. After all, anger, like happiness, sadness and many more, is just another emotion. It is part of ourselves. If we don't express anger too, we're not people. We just don't want it to get the better of us, to destroy what we have or consume us.
Thanks for this video! Felt every single word you said. I tried to do this by myself with no technique until now. The question is: what about if we use that anger to realize one of our projects? Can this technique be counterproductive in that way? Also, do you suggest any other songs? Thanks again!!!
I’ve been know to explode with anger and yell when I was a kid and stomp my feet in anger. I know one day I will go to far and hurt someone. Hopefully this video will help me
This video only has 9.6k? Are you damn serious. This guy is very good. This video should have minimum 100k. Now I am upset but also happy at how helpful this was haha
I found it extremely helpful to hear that anger is a valuable emotion which is often connected with passion. Before this, I'd heard far too many teachings that anger is bad and to be avoided, which would unfortunately lead me to suppress this emotion, that is, until I would explode in unhealthy ways. Thank you, Matt, for your energetic, helpful message!
This was insightful and I am sure it will help me embrace my anger more in the future. I had never really thought about how anger and love/passion go hand in hand. Thank you for sharing :)
I myself don’t get angry often it’s very rare when I get angry But when I do get angry I hate it like I just don’t like the feeling of anger or frustration There has been times when my mom has told me that I need to control my emotions because I’m very in tuned with my emotions And Sometimes I’m scared that I might lash out and say something I might regret because sometimes I don’t understand that I’m acting grumpy or rude because I lack tone induction so I’m trying to figure out a good way to express my anger I usually listen to music and draw when I’m angry like that helps me I don’t scream tho because I’m not really into screaming and I don’t know if that’s a healthy thing or not But if it is then I’ll probably just scream into a pillow or something idk
Lately i'm not being able to express anger and it's somehow effecting me a lot this is not me. I was very straight forward person. Not being able to express your emotion effects on a fucking different level of pain
It’s so cute that you refer to anger as masculine. You don’t see it. But I do thank you for the techniques. They try to teach it in SEL but the kids don’t take it seriously-even the angry ones that need to get it out. Good video.
I do it alot of times the common are to me is cuphead game overs, losing a game, having sausage finger's while tiping, trying to fix that word to make scene, playing a game that's hard, and ECT
I've inadvertently done this many times in my life, only when driving. I'll be coming back from work, hanging out with someone, or some other event, I may think about something bothering me from the past and I'd just scream the angriest scream I could, maybe even slam my steering wheel a couple times, regretfully. Afterwards I'd always feel a bit better and it felt like my brain had processed the event and moved past it after screaming like that.
I went walking the street tonight because I don't want to feel sometimes my anger or to release my thoughts. I vented that way. The streets are peaceful and safe mostly here and while smoking my pipe the cool air makes me relaxed. My mind is at peace if I let it go and think happy thoughts. Thoughts of joy. Sometimes the worst if anger, frustration and resentment is released by doing what you feel will bring you peace.
I never looked at it like this. You’ve opened my mind and now I look at anger from a different POV. Well spoken and I can easily understand where your coming from. Much love from NZ 🇳🇿 🤲🏽
Hello!! This video was super helpful, but i don't have a space space/feel comfortable letting it go due to feeling scared of being judged by others, if you have any tips or tricks on how i can get more comfortable with my emotions, can you make a video or if you already made one can you please reply with the link? Or if its easier, you can reply to my comment and ill take a screenshot so i have it on the go as well, once again thank you so much it was very helpful!! I hope you're having a
these so called anger management video makers need to understand that most of the audiance search for such videos when they lose their patience.Keep the video to the point.
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Hopefully this video shows you some simple concepts and ideas that you can do to release anger in a healthy way :) Leave a comment below and let me know what was most helpful!
Matt Cama wow this 🙏🏻
these so called anger management video makers need to understand that most of the audiance search for such videos when they lose their patience.Keep the video to the point.
Great video!
I used to not be able to communicate especially when someone hurt me. I knew I couldn't hurt back with violence so I used my words instead to hurt the ones closest to me. I lost my relationship with my mother, sister, and fiancee because of this. My whole life I've been alone, isolated, neglected, and have abandonment issues. 25 years old and I'm still trying to work through this but I still carry the guilt of how much I hurt people in the worst ways possible when all I crave is love and attention.
I am so sorry ... I wish you the best ❤️
Same here, it's difficult to change when you also feel guilty for being so "crazy"
You were only defending yourself and if you stopped people, they started it. They are not taking accountability. Sounds like narcissistic abuse from those family members. Your better off without abuse. Move forward.
Its okay to feel angry just make sure you apologize and spend time with your family/friends
Me right here.
I'm in between anger and apathy. When I'm trying to express my anger, I'm blocking it by rationalizing it and then all this energy returns back to me and I'm getting in frustration and melancholy and then apathy. It's a circle. I really have to learn to navigate this energy properly
Totally feel you. I go through similar stuff and in the end I'm just a big mass of confusion doubt and frustration
Same here but I feel what's blocking me is the fear of confrontation... I have no idea where it comes from but anger always accompanies fear in my case...
Same
exactly, and then it either eats us up and/or bites us when we least expected... how do we handle this?
This was enlightening, thanks for sharing! All the frustrating and angry screaming I did as a kid into a pillow has now been validated 😂
Really love this video. I have always suppressed my anger so much to a point where I’ve become more of a apathetic quiet person like you said. Didn’t know those two went hand in hand and will definitely try the three steps.
The one way to mess with someone’s anger is putting an ad every two seconds when I’m trying to find a solution to fix my anger problems.
he's trying to get you to level 9 anger in your body so you can practice the primal scream lol
🤣🤣
I’m grateful you showed up on my tiktok and saw your videos my suppressed anger is a big problem in my life I’ve hurt people cause of this physically and psychologically without any intention I just wanna say thank you for this video
My anger is girls in my class think they can do what they want they kick me punch me and as soon as i pretend to punch them and make them flinch that say DO U WANNA GO TO JAIL HUH? and then they kick me i tell the teacher and she just makes a straight face like BRUH WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL I hate it
One advice from a girl. The next time tges do it, film it or record when they do it and then the next time they do it wail the evidence in their face and say the EXACT same thing they always say but include "you may be a girl but I am the one with evidence, wonder who they gonna believe. Wanna find out" and try to threaten them/intimidate them and if they somehow try to convince you that "it is not gonna work" do NOT give in. Girls say that when they are scared, which means they feel threatened and that it's working. So instead of giving in, say "then how about we show it to the teacher together?.did u know you could sue someone with this amount of evidence?" and then walk away. If they come after you try to negotiate something like, coi delete it and they stop their behavior, and now comes the sneaky advice. If they agree then delete it in front of their eyes BUT have a backup of the footage on a USB or your computer or something, because girls do not hold their promises most of the time. So if they break the promise and pick on you again then say you have a backup of the footage and make them sweat again. Option 2 would be to beat them up, cause if they tell their parents and Try to sue you, you have the footage and you are going to say" I didn't do anything. You can see on this film that THEY are the ones who picked on me. And without accusing, but maybe they bruised themselves on purpose so they could blame me"
I like the idea of setting them up and recording it and then taking action by going to the principal with your parents and possibly higher . Go to the superintendent of schools if it doesn't stop. Gather as much evidence as possible. I do not agree with " beating them up" no one will help you otherwise. I was a teacher forv22yrs. I got bullied by the adults in schools, left my job and I'm thriving. You WILL TOO!
It’s worse for a guy, if a girl acts like and a guy decides to give her swift equality, he is f. kd
My struggle with anger is how to not burst out at work or in a situation where it frightens people. I am a truck driver and work with a lot of guys. Many things they do frustrate me and when I calmly bring it to their attention they laugh. Then it happens over and over again and I burst like a compressed can of hot beans. My leaders only say things like "stay calm". I tell them how I would like them to change the situation or behavior only to get an excuse as to why they continue to miscommunicate or withhold information necessary to do my job. My biggest complaints relate to safety and broken equipment. Yet nothing ever changes. So I get quite because I am exhausted from holding back my anger in various situations. Then one day I just go off. I would love to know any advice to help me reduce my angry outburst. I also never knew anger and passion run along the same path. Thanks.
Scream during loud music. Punch pillows during loud songs. Punch a floor by using towel and screaming, swearing and more.
Maths!
Algebra!
Ends video 😂
this was very helpful though, thank you for sharing. 2020 has been an absolute shit show in my personal, professional, and external life. Will be trying this.
I just punch walls 🤷
I did all a time😂
I'm watching this cuz I'm about to knock out the first person that comes in my room
I feel the same way right now because I searched this up
Schools do not care about emotions. How many of us were not supported when we needed validation for our emotions and have the situation dealt with and instead were reprimanded and shamed. 💔
🥲🥲🥲
Matt algebra and nothing it went off
😤😠😡🤬 just kidding but if possible I would like a part 2.
Please and thank you for sharing your knowledge
When im pissed i run and lift weights and play metal music
I love this your helping me so much through my spiritual journey & with expressing my emotions THANK YOU DONT STOP WHAT YOUR DOING !!! 💓💓
I love anxiety by the black eyed peas too! Definitely gonna try this, thank you!
WHAT IS THIS GUYS ACCENT?!
australian
@@darion7804 how so?
These past days I've being meditating and realized that maybe the reason of why I blow up with my clients at work (not to their faces of course) is because for all my life in my home I've being swallowing again and again my anger to how they talk to me, treat me etc. Of course I explode once or twice a year but the res of the 363 days I swallow my frustration, pain and anger every time...
same for me it’s because of past bullying. i really regret not defending myself and it makes me angry
From the bottom of my heart, Thank you. You helped a life here. The life of mine and my family's.
What does it mean if I tend to release anger by crying ? Am I suppressing myself or that's just how my energy tends to flow ? Thank you for your videos they really resonated with me at the moment ☺
I think that means your processing, at least in some way - which is awesome.
I have problems to manage my anger. I consider myself an energic person, expressive and passionate as you say, but sometimes certain things happen that turn that energy into anger. Someone says something I didn't like, things don't turn the way I planned, sometimes I'm angry with myself for making mistakes or not giving my best, and sometimes is an accumulation of things.
I've always had problems to manage it. I don't say it, but many times I believed that being angry was wrong, because I've seen how you end when you just let it out with people. In others and in me. Someone in my family is very spiteful and easily angered. I hate those traits, but sometimes I feel that I can't help but be like that too, and when I realise it I feel very sad with myself.
It's like I can't control myself. Sometimes I blow things out of proportion or overreact, giving in to provocations, and I just don't know how to deal with it.
Sometimes I can't find a way. Sometimes it's a bad moment. Sometimes I'm too lazy and I don't wanna deal with it.
It's really frustrating, because I know that if those moments come when you need to remain calm, or use that rage in a good way to solve things, I won't be able to do it.
Sometimes though, I manage to find ways to channel the anger in a good way. The things that work the best for me are playing the guitar, going outside and watch the sky and trees, and for those times when I'm so angry I'm about to explode, I'd find a place where I'm alone, like my room, and I'd start punching a wall or doing some aggressive kamehameha / chi movements. I know, it's weird af, but it works so well that as long as nobody's watching me, I'll use it.
So to summarize, dealing with my emotions has got to be one of the hardest things to do for me, specially anger, but thanks to people like you I've learned many things that helped me get better at it, so thank you.
I'm learning to accept it. Embrace it. Find ways to release it, to channel it, not to control it. Not to hold it inside.
After all, anger, like happiness, sadness and many more, is just another emotion. It is part of ourselves. If we don't express anger too, we're not people. We just don't want it to get the better of us, to destroy what we have or consume us.
Thanks for this video! Felt every single word you said. I tried to do this by myself with no technique until now. The question is: what about if we use that anger to realize one of our projects? Can this technique be counterproductive in that way? Also, do you suggest any other songs? Thanks again!!!
I’ve been know to explode with anger and yell when I was a kid and stomp my feet in anger.
I know one day I will go to far and hurt someone.
Hopefully this video will help me
This video only has 9.6k? Are you damn serious. This guy is very good. This video should have minimum 100k.
Now I am upset but also happy at how helpful this was haha
Honestly being angry all the time makes me feel so tired, I just want to get rid of it.
At the end you say we weren't taught this... if we think about it when we threw tantrums that was our way of getting it out.
annoying siblings give me grey hairs and im only 14
I found it extremely helpful to hear that anger is a valuable emotion which is often connected with passion. Before this, I'd heard far too many teachings that anger is bad and to be avoided, which would unfortunately lead me to suppress this emotion, that is, until I would explode in unhealthy ways. Thank you, Matt, for your energetic, helpful message!
I kept on losing in rank from idv so ty
This was insightful and I am sure it will help me embrace my anger more in the future. I had never really thought about how anger and love/passion go hand in hand. Thank you for sharing :)
Glad it was helpful!
hidden ajenda in his videos. Not hard to spot
Why does the video cut off?
I myself don’t get angry often it’s very rare when I get angry
But when I do get angry I hate it like I just don’t like the feeling of anger or frustration
There has been times when my mom has told me that I need to control my emotions because I’m very in tuned with my emotions
And Sometimes I’m scared that I might lash out and say something I might regret because sometimes I don’t understand that I’m acting grumpy or rude because I lack tone induction so I’m trying to figure out a good way to express my anger I usually listen to music and draw when I’m angry like that helps me I don’t scream tho because I’m not really into screaming and I don’t know if that’s a healthy thing or not
But if it is then I’ll probably just scream into a pillow or something idk
Thank you for sharing Matt. Such an I eye opener, will definitely be putting this into practice!
How to release anger (both ways)
Healthy way:
Unhealthy way: *pillow*
Lately i'm not being able to express anger and it's somehow effecting me a lot this is not me. I was very straight forward person. Not being able to express your emotion effects on a fucking different level of pain
It’s so cute that you refer to anger as masculine. You don’t see it. But I do thank you for the techniques. They try to teach it in SEL but the kids don’t take it seriously-even the angry ones that need to get it out. Good video.
Thank you man. This is what i needed and what i was looking for. Thank you so much.
Express your truth, speak up and release your anger healthily.
That's what I do, I wait, "accept", then one day I go full King Kong and then feel bad afterwards. :/ Time to change.
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I'm between sadness and ager this help so much thx! Really appreciate it
I do it alot of times the common are to me is cuphead game overs, losing a game, having sausage finger's while tiping, trying to fix that word to make scene, playing a game that's hard, and ECT
Why this video ended at 9:11 , is this a sign or something
This made me laugh, thank you
i’m very frustrated all the time thank you
Sameeeeee 🥸
I've inadvertently done this many times in my life, only when driving. I'll be coming back from work, hanging out with someone, or some other event, I may think about something bothering me from the past and I'd just scream the angriest scream I could, maybe even slam my steering wheel a couple times, regretfully. Afterwards I'd always feel a bit better and it felt like my brain had processed the event and moved past it after screaming like that.
Not me in a pandemic looking up healthy coping mechanisms
I went walking the street tonight because I don't want to feel sometimes my anger or to release my thoughts. I vented that way. The streets are peaceful and safe mostly here and while smoking my pipe the cool air makes me relaxed. My mind is at peace if I let it go and think happy thoughts. Thoughts of joy. Sometimes the worst if anger, frustration and resentment is released by doing what you feel will bring you peace.
I always wanna break something when I lose or die to a hacker. Also do you ever wanna punch someone when your mad?
I never looked at it like this. You’ve opened my mind and now I look at anger from a different POV. Well spoken and I can easily understand where your coming from. Much love from NZ 🇳🇿 🤲🏽
When I see animal activists I don’t people who love animals, I always like to see how many of them have leather on their shoes or on their person
Hello!! This video was super helpful, but i don't have a space space/feel comfortable letting it go due to feeling scared of being judged by others, if you have any tips or tricks on how i can get more comfortable with my emotions, can you make a video or if you already made one can you please reply with the link? Or if its easier, you can reply to my comment and ill take a screenshot so i have it on the go as well, once again thank you so much it was very helpful!! I hope you're having a
**having a great day/night :)💖
Sorry my phone glitched 😅
Infuriating me further.
I just did this on a pillow and it worked, thank you!
I don't have the energy to scream. At times
I feel like I can’t feel anything now how do I fix this
This is really great thank you for sharing
am watching this because i ran out of hot coca packs.
Not me googling or YTing how to…
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Brilliant video!! Very helpful 🙏🏽💚
thanks man, this really truly helped.
This was very helpful
Amazing
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these so called anger management video makers need to understand that most of the audiance search for such videos when they lose their patience.Keep the video to the point.
Someone’s mad
@Hoop Club nice try,keep it up 👍🏻
My anger is rising now, the only thing that calms me down is fghtng or pnchn… I feel like some sht is gonna happen soon… 😵💫🙃😐🫤