Hello, Mel. My name is Oleg and I am from Russia (Saint-Petersburg). I wanted to tell you that your podcast has been supporting me for the last year. In the atmosphere of horror and anxiety that reigns in my country now, you are like a beam of hope for me. Two years ago I came across you podcast, but my level of English was not so good to understand you. For now I have improved and I am happy to listen to you every week. When I feel overwhelmed and stressed, I take a stroll listening to you, and it helps me to move forward, cope with all of this and hope for the better future. Thank you for your light, Mel.
I let a snarky co-worker email eat up a whole day of my 3 day weekend. I am horrified. I awoke at 2am with it on my mind and put on youtube. This is the first thing that came up. It was perfect synchronicity. The whole " let them" was so simple, and it shifted my perspective. Thank you.
“Let Them” is a healthy replacement for “F@&* You!” Lol! As I’ve gotten older, I cannot tolerate as much and I’ve been taking a stand towards people that are too hard to be friends with and cutting them out of my life with kind of an FU energy…which isn’t healthy and is rooted in anger and resentment for me 😞 AND it’s still consuming my power. “Let Them” feels much better because it’s freeing, light, empowering and peaceful and I definitely feel like I’ve taken my power back when I say it. 🙏🏼💖 I’ve ordered the book and I look forward to reading it and attending the workshop. Thanks Mel!
My adult son has decided to cut me out of his life. Hurts horribly. But, this is his journey and I can't control it. I can love him, while saying...LET THEM.
I’ve been thru this. It is his journey, but are you certain that YOU have done the work to improve the relationship? If you are not listening to him and refusing to change in certain ways that pertain to him, then it’s not just his journey. Shifting blame does not help either side. It has to be accountability on BOTH sides. On the contrary, if you have done all of this and it’s still not enough, then it is HIS journey. I have done the latter and no longer allowing another adult (who hasn’t worked on themselves or have not done the work via therapy and self-reflection) steal my joy. In visiting nursing homes to see older relatives, they are full of parents who allowed their kids to dictate their lives and given their all-only to be abandoned in these nursing homes.
@GlamGadz . Thank you! I do appreciate your comment. The hardest part has been feeling like no one else has ever experienced this. While I'm not sure I shifted or placed blame anywhere in my comment, I did want to share with you that your comment prompted me to reach out -- again. You made a difference. ❤️
@@jyd572 Awwh, that great! ❤️There are not many forums for people going through this. I think a lot of parents are embarrassed about it too. But a lot of people are going through it. Societal norms have made it comfortable to crap on the parents nowadays. It gets clicks and likes and to me, mental health professionals pander to this to appease their clients. I’m thinking of starting a YT to address this. We can’t always be the blame for everything. I hope it works out but it takes time. Be blessed. ❤️
I’m going through this same thing right now and I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I don’t even know what I did. I can’t stop crying. She won’t take my calls and I haven’t seen my grandson. I don’t know how to handle the pain. 😢💔 I’ve been crying for days now. I’m completely lost. I want to go to sleep and just not wake up.
I’m going through the same thing. It’s horrible and painful, but it’s teaching for the valuable lesson of focusing on the things I CAN control, and letting go of what I can’t. I pray our adult children return to us, for reconciliation and growth, and for peace and serenity in the meantime 🙏🏽
I broke my back ( 5 vertebras) was bedbound for a year.. docter told me I would never be the same BUT I thought to myself let them! Now I am going to the gym again! Life is not the same but Let me!
This is the gift to give yourself is to get up and look after you for the best wat you can. We definitely have the power within ourselves. Please keep pulling your power up towards you ❤️
I’ve ordered your book. Now you need to make a bracelet with the words Let Them on it. It’s better than a tattoo…I would wear it everyday…a stretchy type bracelet that you can snap every time you need to stop and catch your negative thoughts and LET THEM…
I had one made..it says let ‘em……my choice And I agree, love my bracelet won - over a tattoo….i don’t have tattoos. But almost did. I also wanted it to be including my faith..so mine also has one scripture … Psalms…..46:10 I think….easy to remember ….Be Still!!! I5 makes me smile bs remember it easily
I understand how you feel and I am sorry. No words can express it. I lost my pup 1 week ago today. I was sitting in the sofa wondering about life in general when I chose to revist Mel's podcasts. This came up.....serendipity.
Thank you Mel The anxiety I am experiencing right at this moment IS paralyzing me. My brain is overwhelmed. The words you have spoken here are EXACTLY what I need to hear. So much stuff going on. Sometimes I can't breathe. I appreciate this very much and will listen to this again tonight. You're our angel Mel ❤️🙏
TY Mel - I needed this. "Let Them" is more empowering than "Let It Go." A great reframe - and healthier for me! A great reminder to put myself first because I guarantee you the people, relationships, and situations I am worried about are not worried for or about me. I am retaking my power back. 💜💜💜
My longtime friend hurt me, called me a loser (said “we’re losers.”) if she wants to be a miserable hater, let her. I am believing I will move on and find more supportive friendships.
I hope things get better between you two.... move on feel better about yourself.... You said long time friend, for me long time is when we're 6, 7 8 years old...I speak to less than 5 life long friends... we say what we want to each other, but we don't hurt each others feelings. I've been told you'll have less than a handful of friends in your life, but you'll have several acquaintances. Good luck to you and you're a long time friend❤
Thanks Mel. I asked a sign from the universe while I was feeling anxious about the outcome of my future plan while I was sitting in the cab having a panic attack. The timing of this video is immaculate. Thankyou ❤
Mel, you are totally on point with this. I am just now listening to this podcast 1/27/2025 and I am blown away at how much I can relate to "Let them". For the past 50 years I have been trying to change my sister to be more healthy, to eat right , to exercise, to do all the things to make her healthier. And as a Personal Trainer, it is even harder to see her let her health just go like she does. We are truly opposite when it comes to lifestyle. I now know that I just have to let it go, and let her make up her own mind. Thank you for this podcast. It really opened my eyes to what I have been doing all these years. Bravo to you Mel.
I wish I had seen this back in November... I've been really struggling with things I can't control, even though I thought I had ANY say in any of it... my peace came when God said "be still and let them. This does not define YOU."
Today I feel in control of my thoughts and feelings. I wanted to tell you that your advice in another video of yours about when we wake up don’t pick up our phone first thing because it uses up our energy. You spoke the truth. It was hard but I didn’t get hooked into my phone the very next morning and, wow, I got more done and still had energy. I am sticking with it. I had no idea I became addicted to my cell phone. It was draining my energy and I was wandering why I got tired so early in the day. I appreciate your videos.
EXACTLY, Julie!! You can preorder the book NOW on LetThem.com!! I'm also hosting a free live virtual event, which you can sign up for by using your order number from you purchase of The Let Them Theory!! See you on December 12th 💚
Salutations Mel. Thank you for the much needed kick in the pants. I have been enduring, not living. The difficulty of being with those that you associate with as far as family and co-workers has been a strain. They are good people to me, but when they congregate, the behavior totally changes. Gossip, sniping at people , pointing out faults, or just getting peeved at littlest things has stressed me out to where I dread going to work or any events. I listened to your podcast, and it did bring some clarity. However, i feel like I am taking two steps forward and three steps back. It is going to take time for me to realize that I can control me. Thanks again.
I am also going through this with 2 people who I thought were good friends. After my pup's death last week, I started wondering about letting these two go. Sad but necessary.
I go through that with certain people. Some disappeared out my life. But I'm gonna let it be. I can't control them. I just direct that energy on the focus on me, and my duties in life. 🙏
I had two years of hell with a back injury. I had many days with tears and having a pity party for myself. I finally said if this is going to be my life, I have to figure out how to live like this. I started changing my attitude and doing the physical therapy exercises. Leaving 30 minutes early for work ( because it took me 25 minutes to get from my car to my desk) I just kept doing little things and keeping a better attitude. Now, I am not totally pain free but I can walk. I am so grateful everyday when I get out of bed and i can walk. There was a time I couldn’t. I focus on what I call NPV’s ~non pain victories. Like washing my hands at work. When I had to reach for the soap dispenser and push for soap to come out, my back would hurt so bad. Not anymore. I have lots of NPV’s which help me to know I am improving. Love your podcasts and keeping grounded mentally. ❤
Mel !! Omg I have to get your book. I'm going through a terrible situation right now and every single thing you listed right down the line , I am doing. I've been a "basket case" from sun up to sun down. Anxiety? Yes It's xmas eve and you came up on my UA-cam feed. Your right, I not even been able to think straight, because I am paralyzed by my fear. I am going to make myself a graft ,just like yours and carry it with me all day So when I reeling in my head , I am going to read it to remind me I DO have the power to get through this. I'm almost ten years sober so I know how strong I can be. Thank you thank you thank you for this today.
Your Let Them helps me to decrease my anxiety over events I can’t control. Like colleague yelling on the phone, overeacting on a small mistake. I figured that it’s his problem not mine. So i let him freak out. What a change.
Thank you Mel. I've felt lighter and happier since saying "Let them". We collectively needed permission to do this, and to re-set, and re-ground ourselves. I'm looking forward to your book. We are each unaware of the power inside. Thank you for that reminder.
You really hit the nail on the head, LoreeW! We DO need permission to do this survive these times!! Thank you for saying the obvious out loud!! Worrying Only Tortures your soul!!
We love you Mel. Thanks for sharing your powerful, positive, method. The part about letting go of abusive family members and finding a different tribe, hit home. How my family communicates with each other and myself is out of my control. I need to let them keep abusing each other and let me walk away. No fear, no obligation, no guilt.
I use to worry about all the people I care about but have stopped and starting to worry about my self to look after my self to look after my wellbeing thats more important
You are so right about all that you said about letting go of what you can’t control. I had to learn this hard lesson for years and it finally sinks in to my worrying brain. I do a lot of positive self talk when I’m back in that place of worry. In the movie “Bridge of Spies” when Tom Hanks who played as a lawyer representing a Russian spy in jail who asked the spy before the trial “are you worried”? His extremely calm response was “would it help”. I always think about that line when I worry because it is so very true. It doesn’t help nor change the circumstances. Btw… your videos are awesome! ❤️
Yes 👍 I’m currently focusing on myself of what I can achieve,before helping others, it’s about the fear of missing out, it good to go out & have fun 🤩 especially for my mental health
Hi everyone, I think this is one of the best talks I have ever heard. I absolutely love this! I'm sending everyone listening to this love!! My we all heal from whatever issue's we are dealing with! Mel Robbins is giving me hope! Thank you Thank you!!!
BTW i am the wife and you are spot on, I have worries i can’t control and I am a control freak and there are things i cannot control i have to “Let them” and yes i feel paralyzed by my fear of the unknown. Thanks for all the info. ❤
I gotta keep this video saved. I lost a lot of family and peace of mind over global politics these last 5 years. I'm finally starting to realize that the only way I'll get through this one is to leave behind any illusions of control over the world and just focus on myself today. Thanks, Mel.
I wish so so so much your book and this talk was in Spanish. I keep telling and translating to my Mom. We both adore you so much! ❤️ Thank you Mel for your light and wisdom.
I can’t begin to tell you how much this has helped and changed my life. I’ve been living my life with fear of the unknown and learning to let go and let them has open my eyes to a whole new world and begin healing and being happy and I pray every one who feels the same way finds their new beginning. Thank you so much ❤for
I needed this today! I just got laid off from my job and I'm Soo crushed and feeling a huge confidence decline. But listening to this gave me a chance to give myself grace in this moment and pick up the pieces and move on. Thank you 🤍
You are a real special girl(I’m 82😂) live in SA & only saw it now!! I watched on you tube yesterday with you & hubby, what a special relationship you have together❤️🎉💫🎄
Mel, I love your podcasts and UA-cam channels. You are truly an inspiration to me, as I am sure, to many, worldwide. BUT, it's really really really hard to let go when you are faced with challenges on a daily basis at work. The challenges are the bullies at my work. To the point that even when I set boundaries and no matter how kind I still am to them or try really hard to ignore them, they constantly keep breaking me and one of the bullies is my boss. The nicer I am, the more daggers are thrown my way. It's really hard to let go of it when it's constantly in your face. I am human, and after a while of taking this abuse, it breaks you into so many small pieces that I feel so disconnected from life. I do not want to leave because that means they win. I don't know why they are so evil, but mostly, why do they get away with it. I now feel numb when I go to work to protect me from feeling anything. Somethings you just can't let go.
@melliecrann-gaoth4789 I don't understand what you are saying. I am so traumatized right now because of my work, that I don't get what that has to do with what I wrote about.
It seems like you still think about how they will feel when you leave work. That they will win. I know that feeling and it makes you feel stuck but what helps me is to really focus on what I want to have. Do I really want to be stuck with people who feel entitled to break me? I changed jobs because of mobbing and it was stressfull but in the long run I was gratefull that I did not have those people around me anymore. And guess what, the people who were mean to me eventually faced karma. Please leave those people and let them “win”. Eventually you will see that the person who won in life is you because you left the negativity and found peace.
@@elif-5349 Thank you for the kind words. I did leave and am in a new place. But all that trauma I experienced, I am afraid. I am hoping that not everyone is like that. Thank you so much for caring.💚🩵💚
Watching this again after being blindsided by passive-aggressive colleagues today. I let them ruin my evening. Now trying to pull out of my irritation and conversations I am having with them in my head. Jerks at work are always going to be jerks. I need to minimize my interactions and energy spend.
@karlaschmid8757 agree She is encouraging us to focus on what we can control. We can control who we vote for, with whom we organize, which organizations we support. She's not saying be passive. She's telling us to redirect our energy on what we can do.
I currently work at a homeless shelter and it’s really really easy to get consumed with things that I have no control over but funny thing is by allowing some thing stupid as maybe cleaning supplies aren’t coming on time then somebody needs to talk to me and they’re feeling unseen I’m too occupied by lack of some thing I can’t control and I’m honestly doing my best to try to refocus myself on what is in my control. I know that I can be an ear to listen I can acknowledge each person that stays at the shelter as an individual and I appreciate this Contant because it reminds me of what I am in control of and that it matters way more than the crap that is out of my control thank you and happy holidays
Hi Mel, I just discover your channel. Thank u for the wonderful tools you share with us. I live in Israel in a terrible reality that is completely out of my control. I hope this technique will help me deal with this continuing difficult situation
Thanks indeed Mel, I'm Eric from Rwanda. I want to ensure you that I love you, I dore you and dote on you, oh, my goodness! Mel, you not only a Guru but also a divine angel here to enlighten human beings and mainly I hope that I will meet with you in person one day by God's will and I can't wait for that to happen. Thanks again Mel you turned my level of English around. i ❤ you
To protect my PTSD peace I now say, you do you and Send Loving Kindness as a Buddhist. Hurt people will always hurt people especially if they have leaky body parts causing leaky brain.. Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital ❤️🙏☮️🥰
Hello Mel! To you I’m just a viewer than randomly came across your channel but I want you to know your words and guidance you provide in this video have been life altering and impactful. I have been DREADING my repeat images for a health issue.. of course for 6 months thinking the worst! I listened to your video and have been saying LET THEM to nearly everything and everyone 🤣 very liberating! Even my therapist listens to you! So long story short the radiology tech wanted ‘’more pics” (panic sets in like the airplane!) so in my head I stayed centered, said LET THEM , it is what it is at this point anyways..take 100! Wouldn’t ya know I felt mentally calmer, started saying LET ME remind myself many things are just routine. I’m so happy. Can feel it working, especially those of us that are consumed by worry! Blessed for souls like you!!! Keep shining 💗
Hi, I'm new here Mel Thank You I needed to hear this video as everything's is starting to paralyze me in: sleep, pain throughout my body, thoughts, memory, extremely high anxiety, I have a 82yr old mom with dementia/SPD 4/5 with no support, with rent so high, food, everything is out of control which now I can't eat (nerves) so I buy green shakes, oatmeal, chicken 🍗, I have spent 3yrs in bed due to shut down, now this which I can feel shutting down again 😢, it has turned into phobia of leaving my apt, I'm scared. I just bought on Audiobook your "Let Them" which I'm looking forward to hearing. Thanks Mel Robbins ❤ From Vancouver BC Canada 🇨🇦
Hello Mel, I found you today and I’m glad that I did. I have used the let me theory the past 2 hours and it has recentered my focus and productivity. It’s so true that negative external factors outside of my control can derail you mind from what you can control and I love those two words [let me].
Ordered ❣️you’re adding to an already good routine of mine - you’re actually putting new, easier and more powerful words on this philosophy and I love you for that❣️❣️ I’m now in Thailand for 3 months, but the book is ordered at home, in Norway. I guess it’s on my desk when I return by the end of february❤️thank you Mel❤️
Wow this is so beautiful!! And it’s so true!!! My mother in law used to say all the time “SAY UNCLE” and it’s so true….but this is said in a much more defined way. Mel you are such an inspiration! ❤
Mel Robbins i ve never commented on anything on you tube.but i had to do it here, cause the let them theory changed my life.thank you from the bottom of my heart for this theory. I wish you beaucoup de succès.
Needed to hear this. Just at the right time. Love all your content Mel.♥️ Thank you for all you do. Hope you're doing well and having a great new year so far. Thanks again.
Hey Mel. I just wanted to reach out and say thank you. The work you are doing is really helping me and I am sure many others get through life at the moment
I bought your book from Audible. I am enjoying it while I am working on a project. Politics has been stressing me out. Your book and your voice is helping me tremendously. It is helping me to put the Serenity Prayer in practice. Thank you! Your narration of your book is enjoyable. I am glad I'm listening to it, but I have a feeling I will be buying it in print for myself and others
Hey Mel! You have no idea how much I was waiting for this book! It seems like you were predicting what was coming and launched at the right time. I can’t put in words how much your podcast, guest speakers and books transformed and helped my life. Thank you so much for that! I hope it comes fast to the Middle East, I was so happy when I found the other two in a bookstore over here! Success with this new one 🎉❤
I saw you on the Oprah podcast. I played the tutorial over and over for about 4:hours. I got up the next morning and I turned the podcast on again. I used the tips on my Boyfriend 😮😮😮😮 worked like a charm I get to choose ❤❤❤. I told Millions about this book on my Facebook page and my family. 🎉 Thank you so much Mel You are my favorite
I preordered the book and can’t wait for it to arrive . I am also looking forward to the masterclass . I’ve learned so much from listening to you. I am glad my brother (RIP) found you and shared you with me.
We worry because something didn't go the way we wanted it to go. That is extremely frustrating for me, but I've lived long enough to know that the negative energy that hurts comes from me and not the situation or the people involved.😮
This is what Merve wanted to say to me just before he died and i have been torn between my emotions and my feelings of getting sick from depression and you have said what Merve wanted to say. I am not the one who cut down the trees that our protected Magpies have lived in for decades. They protect us they are beautiful. Kids they have adapted themselves to our ways for 200 +years and they swoop you because you are a kid and they know you will panic and drop that sandwich. That is how they try and get on with us they have phenomenal intelligence and are so unique to Australia. I cannot control the rogues they have their supporters and those beautiful little yodelling magpies will be missed but i can't control what is. Do what you do. The thing is I am more important than a bird and the love I have for them does not make me able to change what I can't change it is not completely about chopping down trees it is largely about disrespect and control and as I person God wants me to have more and we will meet again God has the control. I am not saying people need to change we are all looked upon by God. The big question apparently is "what is a woman" Mercy that is what a woman is in the bible you can read about the wedding at cana and how Jesus turned the water into wine. It was his mother who saw what was happening and Jesus said to her "my time is not here yet" because it is now that he has risen that his time is truly here and Mary walked off and said to those he was with " Do as he tells you". Jesus knew his mother was acting in accordance with what was right and so he told them to go fill the barrels up with water. That dear friends is what a woman is. The thing is when you love something things are not as simple as they seem are they. I could never leave here I could never let the Maggie's wonder why Mary left them without water on a hot day without that much needed breakfast to give them wings to fly. It would destroy me RIP Good man Merve but I couldn't do it no matter what they are my friends
I love your message. I ordered a book for a friend and she will get is Christmas Eve and also one for myself. My friend and I discuss Let Them almost every time we see each other. I am very excited to surprise her.
Wow!! That's incredible, thank you SO much!! Don't forget to sign up for my free live virtual event happening on December 12th!! You can sign up on LetThem.com by using your order number from your purchase. See you there!! 💚
Love you mel keep spreading your light, let them is our family motto here in the uk, its really helped us! Please do a podcast with martha stewart would be amazing ! ❤🎉
Dear Mel, Thank you for the incredible work you do-your insights have truly changed my perspective on so many aspects of life. I particularly love your Let Them theory and the 5 Second Rule. These concepts have been so impactful for me, and I wonder if they could also be helpful for kids and teens navigating challenges like self-doubt, peer pressure, and procrastination. Would you consider creating a podcast episode exploring how these tools could be adapted for younger audiences? I believe it could resonate deeply with parents, teachers, and young people alike. Thank you for considering this, and for all the positive change you’re spreading! Warm regards, Mel P.
I’m ordering my copy today and the High Five book. Love the 5 second rule book, giving it to a friend for Christmas as well. Keep up the great work and messages. We all need this great advice ❤
Thank you, Mel! Really needed this today. I am so excited for the book and looking forward to your masterclass. Sending high fives from Phoenix, AZ! 🙏🏻
Hello, Mel. My name is Oleg and I am from Russia (Saint-Petersburg). I wanted to tell you that your podcast has been supporting me for the last year. In the atmosphere of horror and anxiety that reigns in my country now, you are like a beam of hope for me. Two years ago I came across you podcast, but my level of English was not so good to understand you. For now I have improved and I am happy to listen to you every week. When I feel overwhelmed and stressed, I take a stroll listening to you, and it helps me to move forward, cope with all of this and hope for the better future. Thank you for your light, Mel.
I wish you peace and happiness, Oleg. Stay safe. xoxo
I hope life improves for the citizens of your country soon, Oleg.
I pray for you, your family and your country 🙏
Hi Oleg, I'm sending you all the love in the world I'm here in the US and I completely understand!!! Love, love love😍
Sending you awareness and admiration for your strength and spirit.🤗
Well said...,.. worrying is nothing but torturing yourself!!!
It’s crippling.😢
I let a snarky co-worker email eat up a whole day of my 3 day weekend. I am horrified. I awoke at 2am with it on my mind and put on youtube. This is the first thing that came up. It was perfect synchronicity. The whole " let them" was so simple, and it shifted my perspective. Thank you.
I also let work emails eat me alive on the weekends.
Co-workers? Bosses? Let them!
Feel this!
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Yesss!! Recently I let one of my bosses completely ruin my day. I needed this video!!!!!
“Let Them” is a healthy replacement for “F@&* You!” Lol! As I’ve gotten older, I cannot tolerate as much and I’ve been taking a stand towards people that are too hard to be friends with and cutting them out of my life with kind of an FU energy…which isn’t healthy and is rooted in anger and resentment for me 😞 AND it’s still consuming my power. “Let Them” feels much better because it’s freeing, light, empowering and peaceful and I definitely feel like I’ve taken my power back when I say it. 🙏🏼💖 I’ve ordered the book and I look forward to reading it and attending the workshop. Thanks Mel!
I'm with you. Let them. I need to focus on self-care and more.
I’m with you. I recently had to walk away from a 50-year friendship that was toxic.
My adult son has decided to cut me out of his life. Hurts horribly. But, this is his journey and I can't control it. I can love him, while saying...LET THEM.
I’ve been thru this. It is his journey, but are you certain that YOU have done the work to improve the relationship? If you are not listening to him and refusing to change in certain ways that pertain to him, then it’s not just his journey. Shifting blame does not help either side. It has to be accountability on BOTH sides. On the contrary, if you have done all of this and it’s still not enough, then it is HIS journey. I have done the latter and no longer allowing another adult (who hasn’t worked on themselves or have not done the work via therapy and self-reflection) steal my joy. In visiting nursing homes to see older relatives, they are full of parents who allowed their kids to dictate their lives and given their all-only to be abandoned in these nursing homes.
@GlamGadz . Thank you! I do appreciate your comment. The hardest part has been feeling like no one else has ever experienced this. While I'm not sure I shifted or placed blame anywhere in my comment, I did want to share with you that your comment prompted me to reach out -- again. You made a difference. ❤️
@@jyd572 Awwh, that great! ❤️There are not many forums for people going through this. I think a lot of parents are embarrassed about it too. But a lot of people are going through it. Societal norms have made it comfortable to crap on the parents nowadays. It gets clicks and likes and to me, mental health professionals pander to this to appease their clients. I’m thinking of starting a YT to address this. We can’t always be the blame for everything. I hope it works out but it takes time. Be blessed. ❤️
I’m going through this same thing right now and I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I don’t even know what I did. I can’t stop crying. She won’t take my calls and I haven’t seen my grandson. I don’t know how to handle the pain. 😢💔 I’ve been crying for days now. I’m completely lost. I want to go to sleep and just not wake up.
I’m going through the same thing. It’s horrible and painful, but it’s teaching for the valuable lesson of focusing on the things I CAN control, and letting go of what I can’t. I pray our adult children return to us, for reconciliation and growth, and for peace and serenity in the meantime 🙏🏽
I broke my back ( 5 vertebras) was bedbound for a year.. docter told me I would never be the same BUT I thought to myself let them! Now I am going to the gym again! Life is not the same but Let me!
@@ylia17268 stay blessed 🙌 😇 🙏. Don't let those nah sayers voices inside of you. You have the light within ✨️ ❤️
I'm so happy for you! Good job focusing on YOU ❤
God bless you! Your story is so motivating! 🌸🙏🏻
Good for you! God bless you ! Keep your chin up and fight!
This is the gift to give yourself is to get up and look after you for the best wat you can. We definitely have the power within ourselves. Please keep pulling your power up towards you ❤️
I’ve ordered your book. Now you need to make a bracelet with the words Let Them on it. It’s better than a tattoo…I would wear it everyday…a stretchy type bracelet that you can snap every time you need to stop and catch your negative thoughts and LET THEM…
I bought a hoodie and wrote it on the inner sleeve. Since I wear hoodies all the time in winter lol
Great idea!! ⭐️
Great Idea, I would love to have one as well.
Yeah! A bracelet that comes with the release of the book.
I had one made..it says let ‘em……my choice
And I agree, love my bracelet won - over a tattoo….i don’t have tattoos. But almost did.
I also wanted it to be including my faith..so mine also has one scripture … Psalms…..46:10 I think….easy to remember ….Be Still!!! I5 makes me smile bs remember it easily
Thank you Mel. I was crying hysterically. I miss my pup so much and I feel so alone without her. I feel little better after listening to you.
I’m so sorry about your pup❤️
@@micheleonel5068 thank you 🙏🏻
I understand how you feel and I am sorry. No words can express it. I lost my pup 1 week ago today. I was sitting in the sofa wondering about life in general when I chose to revist Mel's podcasts. This came up.....serendipity.
Thank you Mel
The anxiety I am experiencing right at this moment IS paralyzing me. My brain is overwhelmed.
The words you have spoken here are EXACTLY what I need to hear.
So much stuff going on. Sometimes I can't breathe.
I appreciate this very much and will listen to this again tonight.
You're our angel Mel ❤️🙏
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You aren't alone... Feeling the same❤
TY Mel - I needed this. "Let Them" is more empowering than "Let It Go." A great reframe - and healthier for me! A great reminder to put myself first because I guarantee you the people, relationships, and situations I am worried about are not worried for or about me. I am retaking my power back. 💜💜💜
Sitting in my car listening to this. So needed to hear this right now!! Thank you so much!🙏
My longtime friend hurt me, called me a loser (said “we’re losers.”) if she wants to be a miserable hater, let her. I am believing I will move on and find more supportive friendships.
Best of luck! 😊
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I hope things get better between you two.... move on feel better about yourself....
You said long time friend, for me long time is when we're 6, 7 8 years old...I speak to less than 5 life long friends... we say what we want to each other, but we don't hurt each others feelings. I've been told you'll have less than a handful of friends in your life, but you'll have several acquaintances. Good luck to you and you're a long time friend❤
Thanks Mel. I asked a sign from the universe while I was feeling anxious about the outcome of my future plan while I was sitting in the cab having a panic attack. The timing of this video is immaculate. Thankyou ❤
Mel, you are totally on point with this. I am just now listening to this podcast 1/27/2025 and I am blown away at how much I can relate to "Let them". For the past 50 years I have been trying to change my sister to be more healthy, to eat right , to exercise, to do all the things to make her healthier. And as a Personal Trainer, it is even harder to see her let her health just go like she does. We are truly opposite when it comes to lifestyle. I now know that I just have to let it go, and let her make up her own mind. Thank you for this podcast. It really opened my eyes to what I have been doing all these years. Bravo to you Mel.
I wish I had seen this back in November... I've been really struggling with things I can't control, even though I thought I had ANY say in any of it... my peace came when God said "be still and let them. This does not define YOU."
You should feel out of control. The majority of America doesn’t think like you you better get on some meds and get some professional treatment.
Today I feel in control of my thoughts and feelings.
I wanted to tell you that your advice in another video of yours about when we wake up don’t pick up our phone first thing because it uses up our energy. You spoke the truth. It was hard but I didn’t get hooked into my phone the very next morning and, wow, I got more done and still had energy. I am sticking with it. I had no idea I became addicted to my cell phone. It was draining my energy and I was wandering why I got tired so early in the day. I appreciate your videos.
The best mental/emotional/physical advice to have PEACE that I’ve come across…
“LET THEM”‼️🎯♥️🦋
Give control up, let them. I see you, not worth my time and energy. Me, all I can control is me. Let them. I need this book! Thanks Mel
EXACTLY, Julie!! You can preorder the book NOW on LetThem.com!! I'm also hosting a free live virtual event, which you can sign up for by using your order number from you purchase of The Let Them Theory!! See you on December 12th 💚
Salutations Mel. Thank you for the much needed kick in the pants. I have been enduring, not living. The difficulty of being with those that you associate with as far as family and co-workers has been a strain. They are good people to me, but when they congregate, the behavior totally changes. Gossip, sniping at people , pointing out faults, or just getting peeved at littlest things has stressed me out to where I dread going to work or any events. I listened to your podcast, and it did bring some clarity. However, i feel like I am taking two steps forward and three steps back. It is going to take time for me to realize that I can control me. Thanks again.
I'm struggling with a friend who never reaches out to me , its a one way street. I know I have to let go, its hard, but I will do it, for my sake!
very familiar!
I’m also going through this
Yes 🙌 feel this
I am also going through this with 2 people who I thought were good friends. After my pup's death last week, I started wondering about letting these two go. Sad but necessary.
I go through that with certain people. Some disappeared out my life. But I'm gonna let it be. I can't control them. I just direct that energy on the focus on me, and my duties in life. 🙏
I had two years of hell with a back injury. I had many days with tears and having a pity party for myself. I finally said if this is going to be my life, I have to figure out how to live like this. I started changing my attitude and doing the physical therapy exercises. Leaving 30 minutes early for work ( because it took me 25 minutes to get from my car to my desk) I just kept doing little things and keeping a better attitude. Now, I am not totally pain free but I can walk. I am so grateful everyday when I get out of bed and i can walk. There was a time I couldn’t. I focus on what I call NPV’s ~non pain victories. Like washing my hands at work. When I had to reach for the soap dispenser and push for soap to come out, my back would hurt so bad. Not anymore. I have lots of NPV’s which help me to know I am improving. Love your podcasts and keeping grounded mentally. ❤
Please be strong. Let's go on. Take one day at a time.
I am in total panick! So I needed that.. I am really lost right now💔🙏
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You were meant to hear this message, my friend ❤Sending lots of love and support xo
you are not alone 🙏
Mel !! Omg I have to get your book.
I'm going through a terrible situation right now and every single thing you listed right down the line , I am doing.
I've been a "basket case" from sun up to sun down.
Anxiety? Yes
It's xmas eve and you came up on my UA-cam feed.
Your right, I not even been able to think straight, because I am paralyzed by my fear.
I am going to make myself a graft ,just like yours and carry it with me all day
So when I reeling in my head , I am going to read it to remind me I DO have the power to get through this.
I'm almost ten years sober so I know how strong I can be.
Thank you thank you thank you for this today.
Your Let Them helps me to decrease my anxiety over events I can’t control. Like colleague yelling on the phone, overeacting on a small mistake. I figured that it’s his problem not mine. So i let him freak out. What a change.
Thank you Mel. I've felt lighter and happier since saying "Let them". We collectively needed permission to do this, and to re-set, and re-ground ourselves. I'm looking forward to your book. We are each unaware of the power inside. Thank you for that reminder.
You really hit the nail on the head, LoreeW! We DO need permission to do this survive these times!! Thank you for saying the obvious out loud!! Worrying Only Tortures your soul!!
Mel! You hit the nail on the head!! Let them, totally releases me from stressing!!
What do YOU really have The Power over?? Very little but your own REALITY!! Let THEM! Thanks Mel!!
We love you Mel. Thanks for sharing your powerful, positive, method. The part about letting go of abusive family members and finding a different tribe, hit home. How my family communicates with each other and myself is out of my control. I need to let them keep abusing each other and let me walk away. No fear, no obligation, no guilt.
Love that let go and let them thing.Very encouraging and it frees you.Great advice once again Mel.Your such a blessing!
I have listen to this video at least five times. I need this lesson deep down deep in my soul
Me, too.
I use to worry about all the people I care about but have stopped and starting to worry about my self to look after my self to look after my wellbeing thats more important
You are so right about all that you said about letting go of what you can’t control. I had to learn this hard lesson for years and it finally sinks in to my worrying brain. I do a lot of positive self talk when I’m back in that place of worry.
In the movie “Bridge of Spies” when Tom Hanks who played as a lawyer representing a Russian spy in jail who asked the spy before the trial “are you worried”? His extremely calm response was “would it help”. I always think about that line when I worry because it is so very true. It doesn’t help nor change the circumstances.
Btw… your videos are awesome! ❤️
Yes 👍 I’m currently focusing on myself of what I can achieve,before helping others, it’s about the fear of missing out, it good to go out & have fun 🤩 especially for my mental health
Hi everyone, I think this is one of the best talks I have ever heard. I absolutely love this! I'm sending everyone listening to this love!! My we all heal from whatever issue's we are dealing with! Mel Robbins is giving me hope! Thank you Thank you!!!
BTW i am the wife and you are spot on, I have worries i can’t control and I am a control freak and there are things i cannot control i have to “Let them” and yes i feel paralyzed by my fear of the unknown. Thanks for all the info. ❤
I gotta keep this video saved. I lost a lot of family and peace of mind over global politics these last 5 years. I'm finally starting to realize that the only way I'll get through this one is to leave behind any illusions of control over the world and just focus on myself today. Thanks, Mel.
I wish so so so much your book and this talk was in Spanish. I keep telling and translating to my Mom. We both adore you so much! ❤️ Thank you Mel for your light and wisdom.
I can’t begin to tell you how much this has helped and changed my life. I’ve been living my life with fear of the unknown and learning to let go and let them has open my eyes to a whole new world and begin healing and being happy and I pray every one who feels the same way finds their new beginning. Thank you so much ❤for
Man, you're talking to me... I just sent this to my daughter to watch. ❤❤❤
I needed this today! I just got laid off from my job and I'm Soo crushed and feeling a huge confidence decline. But listening to this gave me a chance to give myself grace in this moment and pick up the pieces and move on. Thank you 🤍
I just bought the hardcover on Amazon! Thank you Mel you are so amazing!! 🙏🙏
You are a real special girl(I’m 82😂) live in SA & only saw it now!! I watched on you tube yesterday with you & hubby, what a special relationship you have together❤️🎉💫🎄
Mel, I love your podcasts and UA-cam channels. You are truly an inspiration to me, as I am sure, to many, worldwide. BUT, it's really really really hard to let go when you are faced with challenges on a daily basis at work. The challenges are the bullies at my work. To the point that even when I set boundaries and no matter how kind I still am to them or try really hard to ignore them, they constantly keep breaking me and one of the bullies is my boss. The nicer I am, the more daggers are thrown my way. It's really hard to let go of it when it's constantly in your face. I am human, and after a while of taking this abuse, it breaks you into so many small pieces that I feel so disconnected from life. I do not want to leave because that means they win. I don't know why they are so evil, but mostly, why do they get away with it. I now feel numb when I go to work to protect me from feeling anything. Somethings you just can't let go.
Reality for many is a major struggle for daily life, with basics. Poverty creates chronic feelings of unsafeness
Sarah workplace bullying causes hell, havoc and trauma. It is evil and you cannot always leave.
@melliecrann-gaoth4789 I don't understand what you are saying. I am so traumatized right now because of my work, that I don't get what that has to do with what I wrote about.
It seems like you still think about how they will feel when you leave work. That they will win. I know that feeling and it makes you feel stuck but what helps me is to really focus on what I want to have. Do I really want to be stuck with people who feel entitled to break me? I changed jobs because of mobbing and it was stressfull but in the long run I was gratefull that I did not have those people around me anymore. And guess what, the people who were mean to me eventually faced karma. Please leave those people and let them “win”. Eventually you will see that the person who won in life is you because you left the negativity and found peace.
@@elif-5349 Thank you for the kind words. I did leave and am in a new place. But all that trauma I experienced, I am afraid. I am hoping that not everyone is like that. Thank you so much for caring.💚🩵💚
Watching this again after being blindsided by passive-aggressive colleagues today. I let them ruin my evening. Now trying to pull out of my irritation and conversations I am having with them in my head. Jerks at work are always going to be jerks. I need to minimize my interactions and energy spend.
I am 75 and the state of my country is terrifying. Healthcare, social security, money all be ripped away. We need to fight back.
Pamelashoemaker, it is shocking. Compassion to you from Europe
I agree, it's so sad
I agree, her advice has to be carefully applied. In unity, some uncontrollable things are indeed controllable.
Don’t believe the lies and scare tactics. We are on a great new track.
@karlaschmid8757 agree
She is encouraging us to focus on what we can control. We can control who we vote for, with whom we organize, which organizations we support.
She's not saying be passive. She's telling us to redirect our energy on what we can do.
I currently work at a homeless shelter and it’s really really easy to get consumed with things that I have no control over but funny thing is by allowing some thing stupid as maybe cleaning supplies aren’t coming on time then somebody needs to talk to me and they’re feeling unseen I’m too occupied by lack of some thing I can’t control and I’m honestly doing my best to try to refocus myself on what is in my control.
I know that I can be an ear to listen I can acknowledge each person that stays at the shelter as an individual and I appreciate this Contant because it reminds me of what I am in control of and that it matters way more than the crap that is out of my control thank you and happy holidays
Hi Mel, I just discover your channel. Thank u for the wonderful tools you share with us. I live in Israel in a terrible reality that is completely out of my control. I hope this technique will help me deal with this continuing difficult situation
Thanks indeed Mel, I'm Eric from Rwanda. I want to ensure you that I love you, I dore you and dote on you, oh, my goodness! Mel, you not only a Guru but also a divine angel here to enlighten human beings and mainly I hope that I will meet with you in person one day by God's will and I can't wait for that to happen. Thanks again Mel you turned my level of English around. i ❤ you
Just ordered your book...thanks so much for all you do to improve the lives of others!❤
To protect my PTSD peace I now say, you do you and Send Loving Kindness as a Buddhist. Hurt people will always hurt people especially if they have leaky body parts causing leaky brain.. Sending Loving Kindness from Canada's Capital ❤️🙏☮️🥰
Hello Mel! To you I’m just a viewer than randomly came across your channel but I want you to know your words and guidance you provide in this video have been life altering and impactful. I have been DREADING my repeat images for a health issue.. of course for 6 months thinking the worst! I listened to your video and have been saying LET THEM to nearly everything and everyone 🤣 very liberating! Even my therapist listens to you! So long story short the radiology tech wanted ‘’more pics” (panic sets in like the airplane!) so in my head I stayed centered, said LET THEM , it is what it is at this point anyways..take 100! Wouldn’t ya know I felt mentally calmer, started saying LET ME remind myself many things are just routine. I’m so happy. Can feel it working, especially those of us that are consumed by worry! Blessed for souls like you!!! Keep shining 💗
Wow I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much!
This is every self help mantra rolled into one! Bravo Mel!
Thanks Mel!we love you ❤❤❤❤ you are an angel and you truly care xx
She really does 😊
Hi, I'm new here
Mel Thank You I needed to hear this video as everything's is starting to paralyze me in:
sleep, pain throughout my body, thoughts, memory, extremely high anxiety, I have a 82yr old mom with dementia/SPD 4/5 with no support, with rent so high, food, everything is out of control which now I can't eat (nerves) so I buy green shakes, oatmeal, chicken 🍗, I have spent 3yrs in bed due to shut down, now this which I can feel shutting down again 😢, it has turned into phobia of leaving my apt, I'm scared.
I just bought on Audiobook your
"Let Them" which I'm looking forward to hearing.
Thanks Mel Robbins ❤
From Vancouver BC Canada 🇨🇦
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this for everything that my parents are going through has been stressing me so much & it’s out of my control.
Hello Mel, I found you today and I’m glad that I did. I have used the let me theory the past 2 hours and it has recentered my focus and productivity. It’s so true that negative external factors outside of my control can derail you mind from what you can control and I love those two words [let me].
And with your method we rise a positive buddha field, with so much positive energy that nobody would dare to attack ❤
Ordered ❣️you’re adding to an already good routine of mine - you’re actually putting new, easier and more powerful words on this philosophy and I love you for that❣️❣️ I’m now in Thailand for 3 months, but the book is ordered at home, in Norway. I guess it’s on my desk when I return by the end of february❤️thank you Mel❤️
Thank you so much I was feeling so flat today and have been struggling the last 8 months. You are amazing so much gold ✨️
This was such a good episode. I really needed to hear this today. I am taking my power back and let them think what they want to think.
Love “let them let me. Working on to incorporate this into my life outlook. Thanks for being both honest and caring
Wow this is so beautiful!! And it’s so true!!! My mother in law used to say all the time “SAY UNCLE” and it’s so true….but this is said in a much more defined way. Mel you are such an inspiration! ❤
Thank YOU Mel...this is right ON...simple...let go of the drama...
Listening to this made me feel like I just did yoga - I am so much more relaxed and will start letting them! Thank you!
Mel Robbins i ve never commented on anything on you tube.but i had to do it here, cause the let them theory changed my life.thank you from the bottom of my heart for this theory. I wish you beaucoup de succès.
Needed to hear this. Just at the right time. Love all your content Mel.♥️ Thank you for all you do. Hope you're doing well and having a great new year so far. Thanks again.
Hey Mel. I just wanted to reach out and say thank you. The work you are doing is really helping me and I am sure many others get through life at the moment
I bought your book from Audible. I am enjoying it while I am working on a project. Politics has been stressing me out. Your book and your voice is helping me tremendously. It is helping me to put the Serenity Prayer in practice. Thank you!
Your narration of your book is enjoyable. I am glad I'm listening to it, but I have a feeling I will be buying it in print for myself and others
love listening to your words, they are so true and helpfull, love and light to everybody here, greetz from germany❤❤❤
Ok I’m all in on this woman. She’s a genius and blessed to have UA-cam
Hey Mel! You have no idea how much I was waiting for this book! It seems like you were predicting what was coming and launched at the right time. I can’t put in words how much your podcast, guest speakers and books transformed and helped my life. Thank you so much for that!
I hope it comes fast to the Middle East, I was so happy when I found the other two in a bookstore over here! Success with this new one 🎉❤
Let Go, Let GOD.😊
Yes!❤
Let Go, nothing can change only iI can change how I react to what people say or do to me. I am a strong survivor and I am letting go and letting God.
I just got Your book in the mail “Let Me” so far very good. You’re so inspirational. I love you, Mel.
Thank you so much Mel. I definately buy your book! I need it badly. I need peace in my life. You are awesome! ❤
Sending you so much love and support, my friend xo
I saw you on the Oprah podcast.
I played the tutorial over and over for about 4:hours.
I got up the next morning and I turned the podcast on again.
I used the tips on my Boyfriend 😮😮😮😮
worked like a charm
I get to choose ❤❤❤.
I told Millions about this book on my Facebook page and my family.
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Thank you so much Mel
You are my favorite
This is monumental and can change the world with correct thinking!
Death out of control, growing old out of control. Lovely talk. Thanks ❤ Our likes and dislikes out of control. No freewill
Mel, I love you so much! A much needed voice of reason. Thanks for all you do
Thank you Mel- I listen to your wisdom everyday for focus and healing 🙏🏻
Thanks so much!!! So Grateful I listened to you!! Just what I desperately need!! I am buying Let Them !! May God Bless you 🙏 ❤
I preordered the book and can’t wait for it to arrive . I am also looking forward to the masterclass . I’ve learned so much from listening to you. I am glad my brother (RIP) found you and shared you with me.
This was a terrific livestream. Thanks, Mel.
WOW! Mel! this is PERFECT!! EXACTLY what i need to hear right now! you touched on every part of my life! THANK YOU!!! Sending it to everyone!!
We worry because something didn't go the way we wanted it to go. That is extremely frustrating for me, but I've lived long enough to know that the negative energy that hurts comes from me and not the situation or the people involved.😮
Your messages are always right on time Mel, thank you ❤
This is what Merve wanted to say to me just before he died and i have been torn between my emotions and my feelings of getting sick from depression and you have said what Merve wanted to say. I am not the one who cut down the trees that our protected Magpies have lived in for decades. They protect us they are beautiful. Kids they have adapted themselves to our ways for 200 +years and they swoop you because you are a kid and they know you will panic and drop that sandwich. That is how they try and get on with us they have phenomenal intelligence and are so unique to Australia. I cannot control the rogues they have their supporters and those beautiful little yodelling magpies will be missed but i can't control what is. Do what you do. The thing is I am more important than a bird and the love I have for them does not make me able to change what I can't change it is not completely about chopping down trees it is largely about disrespect and control and as I person God wants me to have more and we will meet again God has the control. I am not saying people need to change we are all looked upon by God. The big question apparently is "what is a woman" Mercy that is what a woman is in the bible you can read about the wedding at cana and how Jesus turned the water into wine. It was his mother who saw what was happening and Jesus said to her "my time is not here yet" because it is now that he has risen that his time is truly here and Mary walked off and said to those he was with " Do as he tells you". Jesus knew his mother was acting in accordance with what was right and so he told them to go fill the barrels up with water. That dear friends is what a woman is. The thing is when you love something things are not as simple as they seem are they. I could never leave here I could never let the Maggie's wonder why Mary left them without water on a hot day without that much needed breakfast to give them wings to fly. It would destroy me RIP Good man Merve but I couldn't do it no matter what they are my friends
So so so good- so grateful for this reminder ❤
I've just ordered this book. Perfect timing 👌 ❤😊
I can’t wait to start reading your book. It’s coming in the mail today. ❤
I love your message. I ordered a book for a friend and she will get is Christmas Eve and also one for myself. My friend and I discuss Let Them almost every time we see each other. I am very excited to surprise her.
Wow!! That's incredible, thank you SO much!! Don't forget to sign up for my free live virtual event happening on December 12th!! You can sign up on LetThem.com by using your order number from your purchase. See you there!! 💚
Love you mel keep spreading your light, let them is our family motto here in the uk, its really helped us! Please do a podcast with martha stewart would be amazing ! ❤🎉
Thanks Lady,God bless you 🙏🏾🌞
Amazing work this lady has given us ❤let them ❤game changer with nosy gossiping toxic neighbours!
Thank you Mel, I just ordered the book off Amazon 📖
I appreciate you and all you do such a Blessings !!!✨️✨️✨️❤️
Dear Mel,
Thank you for the incredible work you do-your insights have truly changed my perspective on so many aspects of life. I particularly love your Let Them theory and the 5 Second Rule. These concepts have been so impactful for me, and I wonder if they could also be helpful for kids and teens navigating challenges like self-doubt, peer pressure, and procrastination.
Would you consider creating a podcast episode exploring how these tools could be adapted for younger audiences? I believe it could resonate deeply with parents, teachers, and young people alike.
Thank you for considering this, and for all the positive change you’re spreading!
Warm regards,
Mel P.
I’m ordering my copy today and the High Five book. Love the 5 second rule book, giving it to a friend for Christmas as well. Keep up the great work and messages. We all need this great advice ❤
Thank you, Mel! Really needed this today. I am so excited for the book and looking forward to your masterclass. Sending high fives from Phoenix, AZ! 🙏🏻
😮😮😮😮😮absolutely GREAT THIS BOOK has changed my life already.
thanks Mel! You always make me smile. I just ordered your book! Cant wait to receive it! Bless! and LET THEM :D
I needed this today, Mel. Thank you for showing up with exactly what I needed to hear. Just pre-ordered the book-I can’t wait to dive in!
I am going to use this as my everyday therapy 💯