What Are the Rights of the Wife? - Nouman Ali Khan
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2015
- Ust. Nouman Ali Khan was asked this question during a live lecture on the 2015 Gulf Tour. Sign up to bayyinah.tv to watch more videos on the Quran, Arabic, and Islamic History.
Now THIS is the real and true Islam! This is why I respect Nouman Ali Khan so much! He understands Islam the way it should be understood and practiced upon. Alhamdulillah.
+Nick Randall May you continue to benefit from this channel.
Me tooo
Even i was searching the truth. Our so called desi maulvis always talks in favor of man n pose as if woman is bad if she doesn't serve her inlaws.. This logic never satisfies me as marriage is a need for men n women n it should not be trampled by forcing women to do things for her inlaws which she finds burdensome...
Amazing..I wish they could broadcast this on a loop in every home until it finally registers in people's minds.
+Nik A hahaha!!
+Nik A yeah i want that too.
+Nik A or give them a taste of thier own medicine humans tend to understand this a lot better hate injustice
Nik A right
A woman owes her in-laws nothing.
The main culprit in this situation is the husband. He should do absolutely whatever it takes to give his wife a house of her own.
Even if it's a tiny tiny tiny house.
That 'acha' at the beginning :D
Hahahaha! Yes it was so cute!
hahaha made me laugh too!
+uroojali19 same 😂
DA CHAMP hahaha yeah 😂
It made me laugh
Subhanallah, it's so sad to hear sisters being treated like slaves inside their homes. I pray that Allah makes it easy for them and grants them jannatul firdaws Ameen.
+Nayma Bint AbuBakr ameen.
Aameen ya robbalalamin ..
Ameen.
Ameen
+Rida Merida ameen
"daughter-in-laws being turned into maids".
Dear Allah,
You know what they did and you know whatever happened. You see the wounds on my soul. And I don't forgive them.
Tch Tch 😢😢
I felt what you said
Nazesh Fahad May Allah alleviate your difficulties my dear sister, Ameen. I know it’s a bit late but your comment made me tear up and I hope you are doing fine 😢💗💗
Let's forget and forgive and move on sis, Allah will take care of everything...u need to get out of these as soon as possible coz u deserve the best life ..Ameen !
@@redlilly2584 our prophet S.H.A.W. said none of us will enter jannat with our deeds alone not even me.we need to forgive people in this dunya so that we can ask allah to forgive us in the day of judgment.
And my in laws say that after marriage u don't owe any responsibility to your parents but to them. May Allah guide then and help me out of this situation
This is why you meet the family to find out if their following their culture or Islam.
yes. this is why you also set the bar BEFORE arranging the wedding. do not agree to live with his parents if you do not want this, wife has the RIGHT - yes the RIGHT - to demand separate accommodation.
They pretend to be religious as soon as you get married they start showing you their true colours. I also got trapped by their innocence
Every other sister has these issues. If it's not the in laws, it's the man twisting the deen to oppress her. I hope the current generation learns from the mistakes of the previous generation instead of repeating the same cycle over and over again. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership built upon mutual love, respect and support. Treat your wife/husband the way you want to be treated.
+Khadija M Mashallah.
Yes! Exacty! Men manipulate and twist the Deen and do injustice to their wives. They will be questioned harshly on the Day Of Judgement, In Shaa ALLAH.
justame smith what is Allah's commandment again?
justame smith I'm sorry what are you doing here again?
K M you took the words out of my mouth my husband treats me horribly and says its our culture and that i have to deal with it 😢😢
This is so relevant and timeless! I'm saving this and sharing everytime I hear/see discouraging things of this faith. Horrible stereotypes and fear mongering can be defeated with truth like this. True faith in good people.
This should be titled desi marriage culture...not women's rights. The answer is simple don't live with your inlaws. If they want a maid than hire one to work.
Agreed but it happens a lot in the middle east as well.
Tell that to the husband. Even when the wife is pregnant in-laws want to put the name to her children, disliking all the names she likes... and husband supporting his parents. Where’s the respect? Wife does everything in house and also work outside look for kids n her in laws and then she becomes a maid...
Phir husband ko sunn na pare ga "pehlay maid lana ka khyal ni tha ab wofe aa gai to maid b le aaya"
@@CatzyTeCk exactly I completely agree with u like totally moreover my in laws literally forbid me to have any ties with my parents. It's like I live in a boarding school where I have to wake up on the time they ask me to go to my room for a specific amount of time and then expect me to work like a maniac on my pregnancy. The worst part isn't even this the worst part is that my husband doesn't even acknowledges that my in laws r wrong and they can't do this with me. How could anyone expect me to cut off ties with my family my parents my siblings like how??
Alizeh Malik fell to ur parents what they are doing with you n ur baby. It’s an huge abuse. Seek for help in your family try to stay in their house more
Time so u can rest. Don’t allow your in-laws to treat you that!! If i was you I
Would run to my parents house!
Make a drama or ask help u can’t be in that condition n even pregnant u can lose ur baby they want a maid tell them to hire. We have to obey husband but when he is wrong u do the right thing, don’t put ur life n ur baby in risk because of people like that!
You're so near yet so far...I listen to you all the time with awe and respect. Allah bless u:)
JAZAK ALLAH KHAIR FOR CLARIFYING THAT A MARRIED WOMAN IS ONLY FIT TO SERVE HER OWN PARENTS AND NOT HER IN-LAWS, WHICH IS AN EXTREME INJUSTICE BESTOWED UPON HER BY THE HUSBAND IN A DESI JOINT-FAMILY SYSTEM. MAY ALLAH (SWT) GUIDE THE MUSLIM UMMAH, AMEEN.
Yes.
But unfortunately there are still lots of families where such things are still prevalent. You know the problem is- a WOMAN tries to compromise, this is taught to girls from the beginning but to boys, such things are never taught. Which is why they don't care. However, not every man is bad, but most of them are unreasonable to their wives. Allah ne kitni khoobsurti se saari cheezon ko, saare haqon ko Quran me btaya hai, kitne tafsir me btaya hai Lekin ham khud se poochen ki ham kis raah pe chal rahe hai, ham apne zinndagiyo ke saath Kya kar rahe hai? Khud se poochen insan, ki use jannat chaiyye ya .....??
@@romanavlogs5613 sahi kaha ladkiyon ko hamesha kaha jata hai sabr karo varna sasural me nahi reh paogi 😂😂😂😂 khud parents hi galat sikha rahe hain betiyon ko. May Allah give them hidayah.
Brillant as always. Ma sha Allah!
Alhamdu lillah
Thank you for this video. I can relate 100% to this video. Especially when it comes to the joint-family part and the sister in laws.
Thank You So much Ustad Nouman Ali Khan. This was a very informative and beneficial talk.
OMG ! thank you for this video a million times
Nice ma sha Allah. May Allah reward you for this message.
masallah. this is so good to know. thsnk you may allah bless you and your family. amin
+Gonj Gonj ameen.
so true 😢😢 amazing explanation I feel everyone should follow islam properly
Jazakh Allah khair! Amazing quality on this video! :D
thank you now this is islam when i look other videos of islamic i think thay islam is very hard but you are best you made me happy
Masha Allah beautiful speech...
Masha Allah very well explained 👍👍👍
wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, Masha Allah , may Allah azzawajal
grant you all the goodness of this world and akhira , ameen ya mujeeb ad duaa. A very common issues in families solved in the best possible way layed out by Islam and explained to us by Bro. Nouman Ali in awesome manner. Jazak Allah Khairan kaseera.
May Allah reward all of you for what you are doing.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us to understand.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.
+Akbar Nauabi Ameen.
Very well explain brother. This is Islam Masha Allah. May Allah bless all of us with health and happiness ameen. 🤲🤲🤲👍👍
May Allah make it easy for all of us................... its a cultural thing...... we need to avoid mixing culture with religion if the culture goes against the teaching of Islam...
I showuld show this to my dad and grandparents...
Totally agree with nauman Sir mashallah this is true Islam
JazakAllah this is real islam really...
Please do more of these bayans in Urdu,as it would be far more reachable.This is relevant and clearly shows unjustified customs followed by generations. It is high time to change
my husband siblings have tried to destroy my reputation but i took the high road and remained kind no matter what they did to me. burn my clothes, poison my shampoo with cleaner....long story short, they respect me now and see my faith is strong and that my morals are clean by being a good muslim. alhumdulilah. its not easy but the sunnah is the right way all the time.
25 seconds for intro is too long.....
these are questions from the gulf tour. the intro showed the places where the tour was in.
well said. all people should think like this, so that there's nobody will overclaim themselves just like as if they're the best of human kind without thinking about others need privacy and space too
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How do you contact nouman ali khan so that he can answer questions
Finally, this is the answer everyone.... The daughter in.law shouldnt be treated as a maid and then u say that this is what islam wants, no that is ur family wants. Barakallah syeikh nouman for the speech.
Jzk brother Nouman :)
may Allah reward u
I am really confused in my life regarding my husband , in laws and parents ... I am stressed 😥 May Allah bless me with all the answers of the questions that I have in my mind
Don't worry about anything... and don't take any stress....ask help from Allah SWT with Sabr and with Namaz....plus get busy in things you like ..make yourself beautiful...stay strong and keep in touch with Islamic Women rights lectures etc ..may Allah SWT ease your pain Ameen inshaAllah 💞
JzakAllah
Don’t ignore the rights Allah gave you in order to please human being you will never be able to please human beings
MashaAllah!
There is an amazing book by imam Ali Zain abiden as. “A divine perspective on rights” you can find it in Amazon
May allah bless everyone with righteous spouse..make them as a coolness of our eyes.. Aameen
Mashallah very well explained. I got a private question to ask nouman Ali khan how do I get in touch with him any help please?
Assalamu Aleykum my dear Bayyinah-team,
where can I ask brother Nouman Ali Khan a question?
JazakAllahu Khairan for your hard work, may Allah reward you all and may Allah give you all Jannah-Firdaws 💎 Allahumma Amin 🌺
alhamdulililahh, Islam had solutions and answers. Allah hu Akbar.
This topic is so huge and the problem is bigger than this. It’s really hard to explain this situation and make it work out in the way Islam wants. :(
May Allah guides us and our parents into righteousness.
Assalaamu alaikum jazakallah for that wonderful lecture . Can anyone tell me how can I email this guy I want information on many other issues
Just wondering, does anyone have a version of this with only the responsibilities of the wife? Or can you make one and send it to me? jazakAllahkhair
😨 So here I am a scared teenager after reading the scary comment section looks like I shouldn't marry in future 😨 bcoz yes its true it happens in India....*sigh*
so its a request from a scared teenager😂 Pray for me that May Allah give me a good husband and good in laws of my choice in future and I'll pray for all the girls❤
I will pray for you pray for me
I am too scared that if I marry a man and after a period of time when he get bored from me he will marry another woman though islam allows men to marry 4
I dont even share my dress how can I share my husband 😔😔😔😔
Start preparing a list of criterion that you want in your spouse
It shouldn't be a problem for the other party
If it is then you aren't meant to marry into that family
Firstly marry the one with the best deen, the other favorable qualities come only next
Secondly, you don't have to marry someone unless you are sure will be able to provide for you better than your father, mind you provide does not stand for monetary provision alone. It's more to do with emotional & physical support.
Thirdly you need to make sure you & the other party both communicate each others wants & future plans clearly. That'll be quite sufficient as compatibility test.
Once you have made a decision, must pray istikhara & then proceed
Fourth
Better to study and gain knowledge than thinking about marriage and husband . May allah bless you with correct direction first .
@@suhanadevalapur8766 lol why don't woman dream about being Independent? Why always think about marriage and husband?
@@thegreatbilli6974 lol who told you that woman always think about marriage and husband? If you are watching a video about marriage then the comments will surely be about marriage if the video is about cooking then the comments will also be about cooking what's wrong with u? and if a man or woman is independent it doesn't mean that he/she shouldn't think and be careful about his/her spouse.
و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله تعالى و بركاته
How to communicate with you regarding any queries? Please reply
Well said brother Ali khan
Assalam-o-Alaikum hope you are doing great first of all Ramzan Mubarak to you and all the Muslim world. .. I really like your lectures as they guides me in my personal life.. Is there any platform where we can send our questions anonymously as I have certain queries regarding husband wife relationship?? Thank you ...
اللهم صل و سلم و بارك و اثني على محمد و على أهله و صحبه أجمعين و على التابعين بإحسان إلى يوم الدين و أته اللهم الوسيلة و الفضيلة و ابعثه اللهم المقام المحمود الذي وعدته.
asalamualaikum wa rahmatullah, thank you very much for sharing meaning of the al-quran with everyone. iam not a regular viewer of your videos, but I want to ask a question. what is alaneen? what does it mean?
alamin - worlds or universe .....
eg
Rabbul Alamin
lord of all the worlds ....
Mashaa Allah
How can I contact to you dear Noman Ali Khan?
Asalamy Alaikum
Does anyone knows brother Khan email or any contact for questions please
Thanks
May Allah bless you nchallah
salam bro, I want to ask if it's possible that a husband have a two "first wife" in their marriage contract,, is it acceptable or the other marriage was null and void. thank you for the answer. Allah Bless you!
jazak Allah
How can I contact u Sir...I need a counselor for my mess up Marriage
Ok we understand those are pretty lights and trees but can we focus the camera on Ustad Nouman Ali Khan's beautiful face. thanks :)
hahaha
Hahaha really ;) im smiling still..thanks:)
Lol, well said
Omg
you are joking right?
What do i do if my husband doesnt listen to me and keeps violating my rights?
Leave him
mansha allah
Wow, Mixing cultures is not what causes conflict necessarily. Sometimes it is a matter of personalities clashing, being prideful, impatience, lack of humility and humbleness. in addition add being temperamental lacking active listening skills.
How do I ask the ustadh a question?
Thankyou
That's why you marry a not only practicing Muslim but one who is a true one and is also pure in heart
Hey. Amazong lecture. Its really truly sad that sometimes husbands and wives become spiteful of inlaws. Because of my father's hate of my grandparents, I unfortunately lost my Grandfather and didnt get to visit him enough or get to know him enough before he past away, may Allah swt bless him with Jannatul Firdous.. Ameen. And the sadest part was we were neighbors and my father forced my Mom to never visit my grandparents. And he used that statement of "obedience" to ur "husband" so much, it broke my mother down and opressed her and by extension, it harmed all of us. Now everytime I hear lectures where shieks tell wives to obey Husbands, I don't like to lsiten to them. I mean there are so many disturbing stories of men abusing women or treating them like captives or children and forcing this on them by saying they have to "obey"... im glad this lecture touches on how Islam doesnt actually require that kind of servant submission that God deserves...
The way he said “Accha..” 0:38
which is a email address to contact ustaad nouman??
I want to know the Malaysian Islamic Rights and how to abide with the rules and how to give respect to elders as I been living by my own and I don't move with anyone as I don't know and have no proper guidance from the age of 13 however just kept battling my life
I wish to know in this regard something more. What brother nouman is talking here is about normal circumstances. My in-laws are toxic not just for me but for my husband also, so much so that it has become life threatening to both of us. They do sihr upon us. Recently, they did sihr on my husband to take a divorce from me. After months of avoiding the situations and ignoring the fights, I found it difficult to carry on because during those fights, my husband turned suicidal and then suffered some kind of epileptic seizures. I would make dua and recite some surahs and ayahs and only then he would come back to his senses. It used to be so difficult for me to handle him during that. Again, no reason to fight but still he did that. This worsened so much that he even used to forget everything he did while fighting. He had no idea what he did or said. Therefore, instead of going to a raqi (coz i live in India, its difficult to find a genuine raqi here, instead you will find another magician who is very Islamic outside but corrupt inside), I myself started doing ruqya on him and he is fine now. Not a single fight since then.
Now my problem is I clearly know it's his father and mother (they are my paternal uncle and aunt). I even know they made him eat something to do this like dry fruits etc. The problem is they don't care about him. Their care and their anger has no separation. When they care, they make him eat the sihr or blow upon him something or tie taweez in their home to make him return and divorce me etc. When they are angry, they make sihr to destroy him. I am not talking out of suspicion. I am recently married 7-8 months, but I know all this since years. They did this to all their sons(there are 7). They used to speak about all this very proudly.
Now my problem is, even after all this, they still don't leave us alone. This is very toxic. My husband has a bond with them, although he too hates them but still we are trying to figure out some sort of balance. I don't know what to do.
Can anybody please help me what should we do here?
Dear Mr. Ali Khan, please make a video with explanation what does mean "To Obey husband" in real life. What is obedience and what is not? If husband says you have to discuss all expenses with me, then when you discuss to buying something for your health and he says no, better save money. But I really need it but he says no and I'm not happy with this decision, am I disobeying him? Didn't find such a video about this topic, please help with details what is included into Obedience? Thank you
Sister, it's your health and as a human and a wife you have the right. So if your illness is serious, which I hope not, then your husband is doing injustice. In Shaa ALLAH, everything will be fine.
Dear sister he is wrong. Weather you have serious health issue ir not or you just likecti take better care of health us absolutely your right
There should not be saving when comes to health. Allah wants us to take care of ourselfs a specialy health. It is his duty to provide for your needs. May Allah make it easy.
I really don't understand brothers why they getting into marriages without being prepared being stable and knowlege respect etc.
Now days they just care fulify their desires
No, he's wrong. Y would u think ur disobeying him for that? Dis is y sometimes it's better to make ur own money, Inshallah when I finish school I'm gonna get a job & provide ma damn self. I ain't gonna depend on some random guy.🙄
from the title I thought I would know exactly what I should do my wife but apparently the video was a reply to a message
thanks though
Do u have any videos on marrying a man with kids and the rights of the wife in islam as a stepmother.
Mashaallah
Where can I find woman rights as well the husband and kids rights? Link please!!!
why is it most people complains about this in laws treatment in Pakistani culture or families? I read so many issues about sisters being treated this way in Pakistani families of their husbands.
Hinduism 's taint on Islamic practice.
Culture
Zue Adam because it's a serious issue. Most Indian and Pakistani women who get divorced have endless stories to tell about their abusive in laws. I've never met a Pakistani wife who's shoes I'd like to be in or who's marriage I consider ideal. Not ONE! South Asians are unaware and ill informed.
Immature controlling guys who get older are expected to get married. They expect girls to be loyal no matter what they do. There's daily abuse. Women all over the world don't raise good men. Men all over the world provide a very bad example of how men should treat women. And the south Asian culture concerning marriage is gender biased, controlling and dehumanising!
One of the main reason is bcz it has joined system.. they dont allow new couple to have seperate home .. wen they married thier son the dont want wives for thier son but instead they want daughter in law for them.. they think their son is getting separated from them bcz of his wife ..
its very belittle thgs .. culture should change ..
Because we lived with Hindus for centuries. In their culture wife wanting a separate house (which is her right in islam) is seen as her playing some Bollywood villain because she's trying to separate mother and son.
He never shares anything and never has time to talk to his wife, always on the phone talking to his friends and family?? What does it mean to his wife please answer
الله اكبر
need more emphasis on the un islamic combined family system ,that keeps a woman in compromise ,not on on her physical strength but deprive her of observing pardah with inlaws
Men and women should remember that even they will grow old one day, and then what if their own children don’t look after them well. Treat your parents/in laws the same way you wanted to be treated as a parent/in law to the future generation. I mean just take care of them a without being tortured ofcourse.
I'm proud to be a Muslim woman
Allow me to say something. Talking desi culture, well it is heavily influenced by some other traditions and cultures (Desi People know very well ). It is almost impossible for us to compromise with or leave traditions, which is unequivocally agreed upon and denial put one in a deviant position. Just as an example, Islam has no culture or traditions when it comes to cuisines and dresses, food has to be halal and dresses follows Islamic parameter, the problem occurs when extra baggage comes along with those traditions and we start feeling comfortable and taking them as core Islamic values or at least a part of it. Islam doesn’t adopt other cultures when they overwhelms its values and doesn’t comply with its root values. In this regard desis are not the exception, we are stuck between Islam and culture, that which one should be given precedence over whom. I personally believe that desis will be okay when they start taking Islam beyond Samosas, Pakoras and Biryani. May Allah give us Hidaya to think and act as a one Universal Ummah free by any culture, tradition or nonexistent boundary. This is my opinion and no insult is intended or propagated towards any person or community.
The most reasonable explanation, I hope we all get it as soon as possible insha Allah!
My God!~ so long I didn't even read.
Nouman ali Khan looks so much like my teacher her face and accent is same as his they look almost same she is also Pakistani and she speaks urdu same accent too
Allahu Akbar!
The truth is beautiful
what if my in laws are embarrassing and harassing me for no reason?I am their daughter in law and they are mentally torturing me?then what should i do?My husband is also not upto giving me justice? what would i do?still go to them and get insulted?
Mosabber Uddin Ahmed Bapon salamo alaykoum dnt know what to say its very difficul need to talk with him or ask ur parents to talk
Mosabber Uddin Ahmed Bapon You should leave him.
leave
Salam, I have a question. I respect and love my mother and father in law. But, what does Islam say about sister in laws? I’ve tried so hard to get along with them but they keep saying bad things about me to my husband and others. This in turn causes problems for my husband and I. My last straw was when my sister in laws told me I am nothing and they at least come from a family with a “name”. Will I be punished for not talking to them anymore? (They are also in another country so I have not and have never turned them out of my home) I am also not telling my husband not to speak to them, just me. I don’t wish to speak to his sisters and brothers any longer.
you don't have to see them or take their company ever, or talk to them , you will not be questioned, pass the salam if you see them in their street that is all that is required,
i dont know why you are talking to your husbands brothers, you should not be doing that ...
Anyone who deprives someone of their rights, especially in deliberation should be reported to authority in this world aswell!
This counts for mutliple counts of abuse, why dont we people of ability do anything? Yes we should pray we should fast we should fulfill tawheed, but what about those whoms rights are taken away?????
You should try to exit the situation as best you can and if you cant then report them and if that cant be done then your justice is with allah swt anyhow.
But brothers and sisters dont just let someone oppress anyone, ask them and ask in honesty without wrong intentions and help them out!
It is our duty as muslims to look out for one another
I still don’t understand why two spouses who used to love and respect each other at the beginning of the marriage then turn out this way where the respect is very little and both sides don’t give rights to each other.
what is a duaa for the wife who does not receive her rights?
+Nawa Charla JazakAllah khairn
+Servant of Allah ask Allah and only expect from Allah.
+Servant of Allah dua is best done in your native language. just ask allah directly, instead of uttering some arabic like a magic spell
In islam who have more right on woman her husband or parents? And how have more right on man wife or parents? With Reference
An Imam told me that women have to obey their in-laws doesn’t matter how they treat them and respect and obey them even more than their own parents..my conscience is not supporting this..What is said in islam about this and where (ayah in Quran or qouted in hadith)..please answer..I am really confused..!!!
I pray I get a good husband Ameen❤️
This raises the question and concern parents have. They raise their children, spend their life looking after them, so that they go off and leave them, neglected and old?
I understand that one cannot neglect parents as that is contrary to Islam, but leaving them to be with your wife, essentially means they will be in their home, alone, weak, lonely and vulnerable, even if you do visit them.
you can visit them everyday, all day if you wish, you do not have to live with them,
it seems that for the most part its only the desi culture that cant seem to understand that one you get married you need to move out, even the prophets daughter moved out away from home when she married,
besides if your out all day at work, your 'essentially' making your wife babysit your parents, entertain them etc, she has her own parents, what do you not get?
"Achchha"😂❤️