The Most Important Quality In Spouse for Marriage | by Nouman Ali Khan
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2022
- The Most Important Quality for Marriage
Speaker: Nouman Ali Khan
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i'm going to be honest here, when he said it's not about love but peace.. i actually felt some kind of relief from a heartbreak i have been carrying for quit some time..
I pray you heal the wounds and the trauma that were the core for this to happen as well. It's a huge test
May allah bless u with someone who will be your forever peace.......and what ever allah takes anyway will be replaced it with better things
Yea, experienced the same relief after hearing this
Hear..hear...
I did it also
for the person reading this
may you find peace in the person Allah has written for you...
Aameen
❤Ameen
Ameen soom ameen.
Amin...Barakallahu fiikum
Ameen ❤
To the person reading this: Even though I don’t know you but I wish you the best of what life has to offer to you may Allah (S.W.T) Guide you and always protect you and your family Ameen.
Amin, you too ❤
Ameen and you as well ❤
ameen
Ameen ya Rabb. Wa iyakum
Allahuma amin 🙏🏼
Purpose of marriage:
Looking for Peace/calm (not because you love that person) - when talking to them, you feel calm, tone down. There is peace
I dont marry a man without loving him
@@Shinobu2506. When there is peace, love comes naturally.
A lot of wife, unfortunately stay in abusive relationships. Sure, a part of it is your brain playing you and because you are at a very vulnerable situation you can't really decide clearly for yourself. But think about it for a second, the thinking of "look for love" is what breeds this sad misfortunes, most of the time. Thankfully, there are absolutely beautiful relationships out of this mentality but we can't really deny that majority of them are unfortunate.
Therefore, look for peace. And let love unfold naturally.
@@user-gm9uk6ho5dgood point!
I got married to my husband because I knew he’s the right person for me. Love wasn’t there but Alhamdullillah I fell in love with him and now we are living happily ever after. 😊
What do you mean love wasn't there? I'm curious
@@heymanhaha I mean I wasn’t in love with him when I got married. I just liked him as a person and decided to get married to him.
@Sidra wow. That's incredible. Completely opposite of how the current western culture does marriage. I think it makes alot of sense though. Marrying for the external reasons (looks, money, status, etc) will always run its course eventually but purpose and God will unite eternally
@@heymanhaha well said
Exactly. Same. Didn't even like them
This hit at the core of my marriage/divorce. We didn’t bring each other peace. I would always say “he prays, goes to Hajj and has done multiple umrahs, is good person..” but the anger management issue was a red flag since before marriage and I chose to ignore it. 20 years later, 4 children, and divorced. Wish I had this concrete advice before. Listen to this lecture youngsters! And May you find peace in your current (or future) spouse.
May Allah bless you with better
Hy , can you tell me one thing ,,, if a person has anger issues so do i not marry him? If yes then here in Pakistan about 99 percent men have anger issues bcz here it is considered men's right and unchangeable thing ... In these circumstances I'm not going to marry anyone then?
Must get legal prenuptial agreement and find deen person @@user-ql4mh9ce6u
@@user-ql4mh9ce6u Make dua in tahajjud and pray satul haajat and uh will find that 1 percent men of ur interest inshallah
assalamu alaikum. i hope you're coping well with your situation, may Allah make it easy for you.
if you're ok, would you leave a brief response to my question based on your experience and realization? it's completely ok if you don't want to.
my question: im currently talking to someone and as far as i could understand, he is a good, calm and cool headed person overall. however, he struggles to say his obligatory prayers. this is why i am a bit hesitant. what would you advise me to prioritize regarding this person?
jazakAllahu khairan.
I was married at age 24 to someone I knew was wrong for me but due to family pressure I gave in. He had mental illness that was not disclosed until after marriage when he could no longer hide it. But I felt bad to leave until I was abused in many ways so I left. I hope young people who get married only marry for the right reasons and do not do this just to please family and meet certain age expectation.
May Allah grant you ease, Ameen
May Allah grant you goodness in this world and in akhira
@@salimbanjo1019 thank you
im currently in a similar situation :( so scared man, theres so much pressure and guilt but i don't know wht to do, I can't sacrifice my happiness and future but at the same time theres so much pressure and culture issues
@@mariaa3480 stand up for yourself because your intuition never lies.
"When you live a purposeful life, when you accomplish purpose and you live that way, then good people of purpose will come in your life" 💯👌🏻
In sha Allah
Such a relieving comment
Its true that marriage is not all about love its about peace... If you do not have peace in love the purpose of love is gone
When he says my anxiety goes down, honestly, my anxiety goes down 😅 listening about a person like and literally get one is really a reward from ALLAH..May Allah blessed us with the best spouses.
Ameen
I'm not Muslim but I consider this sagacious advice.
Sagacious is my new word of the day
Subhanallah may Allah grant all the single men and women pious husband and wife which will be the coolness of our eyes. Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Ammeeeeeen!!!!! 😭😭😭
Aameen
Summa ameen!
The last words of Ustadh are very true. The same thing I've experienced in my life. The day I became purposeful, a purposeful man came into my life Bi'dhnillah ❤
No one is perfect in life, in my opinion the best way to live peacful marriage life is more respect,less expectations & share thoughts ,help each other in good & bad situations.raise children in good manners .
The perfect commitment 🌹
so true
True
Very true
Waaaaaaaaouh
This really describes what I'm going through.
I was planning to marry a man that I loved too much. The problem was that there was no matching in our communication. We couldn't even understand each other, so after thinking of the fact that I will not find peace in marrying him I just decide to cancel everything.
May Allah give all of us peaceful marriage 😊
Like seriously 😨
Same is my case
Brother Nouman is right, the purpose of marriage is gone when there’s no peace in it. I can attest to this through my personal experience. Lack of peace ended my marriage. May Allaah have mercy on us. This life (dunya) is for testing us by God. It’s not perfect. May Allaah forgive us and grant us his paradise in the afterlife (akhirah), aamiin.
I hope the Almighty Allah will give me the person...the perfect one for me..who will understand me and both of us will find peace in us. ❤
In sha Allah, Ameen
Absolutely beautiful ,i didn't hear about it earlier but in my experience after getting into this love thing for a long time(exhausting ) I'm convinced on love might not bring peace even more drama .....and you can live more soulful life with a person who doesn't say" i love you" ,but they're respectful to you and it's peaceful to be with them ❣️
I agree
Marriage: Is Allah and Allah alone combining two hearts as one and this is marriage.
True marriage is not difficult, it's easy. It's not a job. It doesn't hurt. It is half when we are a unit in the process of our faith.
He's a real special person. His relatable humorous practical explanations are a gift to modern mankind. Allah bless him
I say this: if this person gets u close to Allah or get you away from Allah.
That’s the most important factor IMO.
A tyrant, oppressive husband gets you closer to Allah. So, should you choose someone like that?
@@curiousmind8510 I didn’t say that.
that tyrant might force u to do things in the name of religion & that will get u away from Islam. if ur wearing a hijab out fear from ur husband then it’s worthless & unaccepted in the sight of Allah.
That’s why I said “gets u” closer, and what I meant is if that person makes you WANT to love Allah & worship him. then yes 100%.
Totally agree the one thats right for u will bring u close to Allah n give u peace.
Close is diff things to diff pple . Criminality violence addictions in law cruelty etc is from humans
im about to get engaged and i had so many questions regarding if we are right for each other or not..this video gave me all the answers
Waaw, it's like you explained it all why my marriage didn't work 🤯
May Allah grant yo ease and bless you with happy life.... Ameen
May Allah give us spouse, who will be our coolness of our eyes
Ameen
And you be the coolness of theirs. It is a two way street. Do your homework .
Even if it’s an informed decision to marry but interacting and keeping relationships with human beings is tricky they can change anytime.
This is extremely true. They can change for the better or for the worse.
Definitely. Sometimes our trauma bonding makes us connect, and we aren't able to see clearly due to trauma.
So true and it hurts 💔
❕Spend your given time wisely❕
“But the life of this world, compared to the Hereafter, is nothing but a fleeting enjoyment”. (Quran 13:26) 🤍
I got married in the age of 16 because my step mom was not nice and now I am so happy with my husband Allah keep as both happy Ameen ❤
Ameen
Perfect answer ever 💯.May Allah grant everyone of us long life ,peace and end up in Jannah.Ameen .
Ameen
Amen
Ameen
I just knew it! Thanks for sharing. His elaboration makes sense: Islam means peace and in our marriage we also look for peace first!
From life experience😊
Been accused of anger problem, and wife applied Divorce. In new marriage, No problems😊
May Allah grant you ease
Making a good decision at first doesn't mean the person won't change in the future.
I'm still looking for my PEACE ☺ my future husband is out there somewhere 🤲 or maybe I'm getting married in Jannah 🙂
Keep hoping, keep believing 🤍
May Allah give me and my single brothers and sisters who as asking Him for a wonderful faithful spouse. Ameen.
Ameen.
That’s me Alhamdullilah ❤ I’m the peaceful wife as a result and by the Grace of Allah Almighty, my husband has also calmed down over the years.
MashaAllah, May Allah always keep your family happy
Alhamdulilah
Mashallah...
Thats very rare in current times!
May Allah grant us , as students great spouses that will be the peace we are looking for , ameen
It's not in love, it's mostly in arrange marriages, love is when u love that person and his family with all the flaws and soothe them and calm them down
Please in this ramadan... Pray for me to get the spouse who will peace and calmness for me.....
Sry,i am not good at English
May Allah bless you with a pious spouse
May almighty Allah grant you sister good husband amiin Ramadan mubarak
May Allah blessing you all couples who love each other in achieving the highest love, loving Allah SWT and Rasulullah Muhammad Sholallahu alaihi wasalam💖
Ameen
👍👍👍👍👍👍..aaminnnn
Subhanallah! I needed this and I got it...Allah hu Akbar! Alhamdulillah for everything ❤
May Allah forgive us all and grant us all Jannatul-Firdaus. Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Thum Ameen
You Are a Muslim, "Live A Purposeful Life", NAK gives us golden advice everytime,❤
Trust me This is the most peace giving vdo I watched till this year❤
Jazak Allahu Khayran, plz subscribe and share video with your family and friends ❤
Same
@@ayeishakhan6265same
MashaAllah. After watching this clip, my heart came into the peace. Alhamdulillah
May Allah swt grant us the spouse who gives us peace 🙏🏻
Ameen
Ma sha allah a clear cut observation very helpful to understand all of us may Allah make all of our life in peace
😂 Where is the person that will give me peace??!
I wish my mom would hear this ❤
Beautiful reminder indeed.
Short video, it has actually hit the nail on the head. These are all we need to know.
This is so true and important and doesn't need to be from a religious perspective too, his talks are very valuable advice as he can relate to people
Yeah Noman sir. Peace is what matters the most.
Best best thing i have seen today.. Allah bless him ❤
Ameen, may Allah bless you too
Peace and happiness. That's it!
I really needed to see this video right now bcoz i have been going through something.. thank you to this scholar for this video and thank you to allah for showing me this video.. i hope everything will be good in future inshallah and I'll come back to this comment thinking.. indeed the allah is the best planner.. alhamdulillah
Alhumdulilah . Your messages are very helpful. May Allah give you Strength and happiness.Ameen Ameen
Ameen, jazakillahu khayran
Such a beautiful thought. JazakAllah for this.
Share this with others and don't forgot to subscribe
I love this imam
ALLAH HU AKBAR! Awesome
I love listening to Norman Ali and I appreciate his wisdom and guidance so much. This is the best guidance I have ever heard about marriage and it is explained so well. I wish I had heard this ages ago. Allah has given us the exact tools and guidance we need when choosing a spouse and yet so many of us are not aware of it. I once heard someone say, when you make a difficult decision and you are not sure it was the right one, observe how you feel after you make it. If you feel peaceful, then you know it was the right decision. May Allah grant us all peaceful and loving marriages 🙏🏽.
Ameen
Beautiful talk Mashallah, thank you ❤🙏 very educating. Informative
This is what a lecture 👏🏻
may Allah BLESS YOU NOUMAN, this gave me hope
Ameen, wa iyyakum
U r doing great mashAllah mashAllah keep it up plz we need persons like u
jazakillahu khayran, plzz Subscribe and share with your friends and family
What brings u peace …. I added this to my list of questions I need to ask thank you !! 😁
May Allah bless you with best
Real & raw! Love his lectures!
May Allah bless you and your family
Marriage is about learning. How you learn to deal situations together. How to make connection stronger together with Allah if you faced difficulties. How do you deal with difficult situations when it comes using Quran to solve it. They are also tests we should not forget about that either Insha Allah
Brilliant as always… Ustad Nauman 💕
May Allah grant us the best
Ameen
I love my husband hE is my peace I love him like crazy and that's is the reason which makes me happy I feel happy when I care him I always pray my Allah that I always love him more and more because this is the only reason which makes me grateful to every time
May Allah bless you and your family
You are The greates wife...👍
Beautifully explained! ✨
Glad it was helpful!
WE do the sakinah, and if we managed to established that, THEN Allah will give mawaddah warahmah. So find out what sakinah really mean. Peace, calm.❤
This was amazing 🤲
Brilliant! Quran is perfect... ❤
Indeed
my parents are finding spouse for me...by listening thier faisla i get worried anxiety n all...i dont undetstand what to do..yet i knw ALLAH has written him thousand years beform the earth is created for me....yet i am restless please pray for me so i can get what i prayed...INSHAALLAH😭😭🤲
May Allah bless you with beyond your expectations
@@TheSunnahChannel Ameen🤲...kindly dua for me
Whenever i listen any scholars lecture it make peace n it jas ans of my question ...im single umarried but i alwys have a fear of arrange marriages cz apko sari duniya rishtea dar rishte lagne vale agents ek tasweer le ayege pasand h ha bolo nai bolo ...then shadi fixed hogyi then puri zindgi compromise ...vo insan ko smjhne mai ouri zindgai lg jaye or shdi k bad malum ho ki he is not my typ or may b im not his typ ...only compromise for whole life ...
Better is what phle se malum ho lekin no haram.things lekin ap apni pasand se ek dusre ko jan k shdi krey ...
May Allah protect you from every evil
@@TheSunnahChannel jazakallah khair
Excellent helpful topic
Glad it was helpful!
May Allah SWT guide us through ameen 🥰 and may Allah bless us with the coolness of our own eyes and may we find peace over our future spouses ameen ya rabil'ala'min 🥰
Ameen
Machallah nice advice
Masha Allah really I got this message from my past mrge life
May Allah bless you and your family
He's such a CHAMP❤
Peace ❤ from Ya Salam...Alhamdulillah
I have completed my university exactly as sheikh told by doing my homework and without thinking of marriage . Now its been 10 years i am still single.I couldn’t find proper person whom I could get married.
But last thing really hit me.
Live purposeful life and accomplish purpose so good people will come to your life.
Now really my question is what could be that purposeful life.
Make Dua to Allah for a pious spouse and Wait for the right time and perform your daily farz
Thank you so much
Really from some days I was thinking about my future husband recently I qualified my jrf net now I enrolled in ph.d alhumdulillah
This speech is very helpful for me at this moment really the almighty allah is the greatest
Shukriya for this video
May Allah grant you ease
Assalamalaikum due to hurry and laziness in internet revolution, we dont pay much attention to english rules.
but atleast we should be cautious about Islamic principles.
So please write,
Allah - not allah
Qur'an - not quran
Muhammad - not muhammed
peace be upon him/SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam - not pbuh/saws
Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala- not swt
Its not about sin and haram but about respect towards our Rabb!
سبحان الله انه محق
نتسرع في الزواج وننسى اننا سنتاثر بعواقبه طول حياتنا ليس نحن فقط حتى أولادنا سيتالمون بسبب سوء اختيارنا
Thank you
best vidio everfound on youtube .......and finally i made a decision for a whole life jazakaallah❣❣❣❣
May Allah grant you ease and success
jazakallah may allah grant u all the happiness and peace you have ever desired in this world an d world after this@@TheSunnahChannel 💝
i need a piece of advise@@TheSunnahChannel
Thank you for truth
Great content! as usual by Ustad
Jazakillahu khayran
Na'am syeikh
Barakallah
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Jazaq Allahukum khairan Shaikh💐💐💐💐💐
wa iyyakum
For the purpose u can find peace❤
According to Quran, Men need 1 thing: provide, women need 2 things: obey and be faithful (no betrayal). It is in sourate 4 verse 34. Working to achieve these qualities will give most of the peace needed to both.
I still don't see how those things can you peace
@@fabbydabby7194 I think that majority of fights in a couple are due to ego or betrayal. So if your wife submit to you, then there is way less drama/fight, so more peace. If she also behave in a way that shows her loyalty to you, then your trust in her will grow and with it your peace.
If you provide, you will « build » for her a place where she will feel at home and in security, so at peace. And she also will respect you for that, which will make it even more easier for her to submit. So even more peace in your relationship.
I think that with these foundations you can build a love that will last. I think that is why God said that. Knowing more of male/female psychology can probably help find other reasons as to why God said that.
@@ludefi2465 Okay I get it, but I think the guy has to be a great a guy for a lady to be able to obey him as women are very much capable of proving for themselves
@@fabbydabby7194 It’s true that in today’s feminist world, in many countries women can work like men. Even though they take no pleasure in providing, like men do. But I wasn’t talking about feminist « bible » and feminist men/women. I was talking about Quran and muslim(a). According to God, the husband is only required to provide, not be a « great guy ». It’s the women’s job to work on submission and loyalty. If she feels entitled to some Hollywood prince because she can work, it’s her problem, she needs to deal with it, or face ending up alone/divorced and dealing with her bad choices at a later age.
On this matter, I can understand that in our time many women overestimate their value and they are lost because no one tells them when they are wrong and everyone pedestalize them, pandering to them, and always find a way to blame men for their mistakes. Going to any social media make it clear that the trend is to pandering to women. But imo no man with a little dignity will deal with that nor commit to a marriage with such a girl, because it’s obvious that girls who look for a « great guy » can’t bring peace and are unfit for marriage. Earth is wide and there are plenty of feminine traditional women in it, even non muslim one, if you are looking for peace. So don’t limit your horizon, enjoy and build your family if that’s what you want. If you provide, and are muslim, then trust me you are plenty « great ». Don’t let feminist belittle you.
@@ludefi2465not true really … prophet saw said the best among u it’s best to your family. Provide (only) it’s not enough, it comes with other characteristics, if your husband brings money but treats u like trash no person will feel at peace with him, all things have to have a balance and if he is a good Muslim he will not treat u like trash, that’s not the definition of Muslim in the first place, remember , in Islam it’s not all about you relationship with Allah it’s also about tryout relationship with His creation therefore even if rightfully u are full filing your obligation (a relationship can’t be based on fulfilling duties only we aren’t in a corporation) u will still b harming them as a human being, so yeah there must b always a balance and work to improve as a Muslims and therefore as human beings
= life is the qadr of ALLAH
I think I learnt this speech by heart ..
As I saw it too many times😅
May Allah protect him
Ameen
very informative
Glad it was helpful!
جزاک اللە خیرا
So true ❤
Nouman u r wonderful❤
May Allah bless you and your family
💯 true and great advice!
Jazak Allahu Khayran
Assalamualaikum my brother and sister, pls make dua for me so that i can find the righteous person who can lead me. Also who will be the best husband and best father for my children. May Allah blessed all of us with righteous, pious husband.
Pls dua for me