"If the woman does not take care of her husband? He works and deprives himself for the sake of his wife, children, and household necessities, and the wife is sleeping and not doing anything in the house. The husband simply says marriage is a great responsibility and a headache. It's better to avoid it."
If wife is not cared emotionally and physically just backing financially then it would affect her.What is the solution in this case when children are involved?
If a man doesn’t provide for his wife and children covering all finances, clothes, safety, food, education then he has no right to demand cooking and cleaning cos he hasn’t even fulfilled his duties
Likewise if a woman doesn't do the above mentioned men should stop paying? Each individual should do their part and focus on theirs and not play thus game
@@yuppieyup8188 typical modern woman always keeping the score. Even if the man do all those list and beyond she will still find next 'if husband doesnt do...'
No not all women. I have sacraficed my entire career to be home for my family. I have a degree ma sha Allah and yet decided instead to stay home. I could never allow my husband to work all day AND come home and serve me. It doesn't sit well with me at all. BUT when I was sick my husband cooked and took care of the home. Women need to allow their hard working husbands to feel relaxed at home.
Men want to have one responsibility only which is providing. They wanna throw all other responsibilities on the wife: cooking, cleaning, showering the kids, feeding them, helping them with homework, taking care of them as if they're her kids only and not his. And all this is done with no appreciation from the husband as he comes home to sleep, spends the weekends doing nothing, and spends his holidays playing games.
Yousra Ammachi when wife sat at home all day she should do these things a man will be at work whole day what u expect him to come home and work again? When u can sit home after cleaning or cooking it doesnt take 8 hours
What if the wife works late nights,and mornings, pays bills, pays rent, takes care of her parents, makes food and cleans and all husband does is talk to his family, plays games, studies and send most of the money that he gets to his parents
Then he is not following the Quran and not being a good Muslim man and she has rights to leave him. He must provide if he wants these rights over his wife.
That is your view, your husband may have his own view. But if I assume that you are right. Then you can ask for divorce as you have right to live happily as he is failing on his duties towards you.
The wife's responsibility is to give her husband a peace of mind with warmth and love in her actions. There is no need of going into rights and duties if there is love and affection in the relationship, and there is no use of telling the rights and duties if there is no love or affection.
If someones husbands take care of rights of his parents and siblings on him but ignores the rights of wife on him. And asks wife only to sacrifice. Whats should a wife do?
Why is everyone so quick to suggest divorce, most cases of issues is coz of the spouses not being able to communicate with each other due to various reasons, be it fear of making things worse etc
The Wife is obliged neither to cook for the family nor to clean the home but she may choose to do so at her will and pleasure. If she chooses not to do so, he must provide her at his expense, with someone to cook and clean. However he is not obliged to cover medical expenses." Book of Sharia - Wael B. Hallaq
The duty of a wife is to serve her husband and it's her responsibility to prioritize the household chores, as well as taking care of the kids besides being a good wife. If she refuses to serve her husband this way as she's supposed to, then he has the right to file for a divorce
Sheikh al albani and sheikh mohamed aman al jami says her job is to serve her husband. Question for u: When Fatima RA complained to mohammed ﷺ about her hands hurting from all the housework, and that she wanted a servant. Why didnt the prophet ﷺ grant her this? Why didnt he tell her “u dont have to work if u dont want to”? Why instead did he teach her dhikr before sleeping?
@@K.w897 Hazrat Ali RA kept himself busy in jihad even for months and preparation of jihad. Today's men always claim that Hazrat Fatima RA uesd to do household chores but why such men don't mention that Hazrat Ali RA was also busy in jihad and in preparation of jihad.
@@iqramehboob4256 nope, he discouraged it because it was the dotter of his enemy, he didnt forbid it. Prophet ﷺ also had servants so u cant claim that he didnt want them. Ali wasnt at jihad, he was home during that time so why didnt he tell Ali RA to do 50% of the house chores? Instead he advised Fatima RA to be patient, u can follow the opinion that its mustahab if u want, but im gonna follow that its wajib
Salaam brother,sometime with one hand can be clap,if the wife or the husband is not well an there are having argument over nothing,what can be the solution
These days in west, money has become such a thing to gain power over another human( especially womens doing it) and this trend is slowly spreading or almost spreaded over Asia, while in past, it was beautiful when money was only there to raise your children and live a happy life with eachother. Nowadays, it is like......a way to show yourself more empowerd, independent ect. Its all for a women, beacuse a normal man always earns for family, because he cares for them and their needs(its a fact and responsibility of the man that he fulfilsz)this is a NORMAL MAN, while women i heard in Europe have even stopped getting married, HOW IN THE WORLD A SPECIE WHO USED TO PRODUCE A WHOLE GENERATION IS NOW TRYING TO CUT OF HUMANITY FROM THE EARTH?? This is problem for a working women in WEST. However, it is permissible for a women to work in Islam according to Sharia but NOT GETTING MARRIED? Even a small ant knows that she has to collect food for her children so that her generation remains on earth. A wife in Islam can keep her money but if her job is effecting the children, she should quit to give time to her children, this is HER responsibility, and this is why Allah made womens MOTHERS because of their patience and love
The end he said if this is done for a number of time the husband has to look for someone else 😂 so let’s flip the script, the woman is the bread winner and the husband doesn’t work, so when she comes home and no fragrance smells often, does she have to look for someone else?
Living in London we all pay tax an national insurance contribution,which support the single mothers an people who are married with childrens some married people are well off the others, We pay high tax does that mean we as tax payer have to pay for our wife an kids,if that's the case they could be more richer than the husband might Couse more fitna,please can you explain, Thanks
tax paying is something that has to do with the gov , not your wife and children . The woman and children should have food shelter and cloth , there is nothing in Islam that says " woman and children have more money than the husband causes fitna " , a wealthy woman can marry a poor man and she'll have more wealth than him and can give him some of her wealth to him if she wants , if she doesn't it's her right to not share her money as a wife . so , there is nothing is Islam that says what you said , please always check what sayings go around this fitnah you said is in noo hadith nor in the quran .
How if husband doing everything by his own.. such as cook his own meals, do laundry,cleaning etc? It's normal? Is that okay for wife who has that's kind of husband? I'm grateful but sometime I feel I'm not normal wife. I want like other wife who serve foods for others husband. It's seem like your food is your food but you are ok to eat mine. We are from different country I'm open mind about food, I can eat any food as it's halal, but he is not open mind, but honestly I can cook theirs tradition food even my friend who the same origin as my husband said food that I cook is perfectly good as they cook. But my husband doesn't want to eat the food that I cook. He did laundry mine and kids clothes. And for other thing such as family he likes his family is his family, my family is my family, he doesn't like me to know anything about his family and he doesn't want to know what going on to my family (seem like that but I don't know for sure as he doesn't talk about his family and doesn't ask about my family)
Maybe if you speak with and communicate this to him with a nice way he will listen to you inshaALlah! Maybe he come from a family that learned him to be independent on the house tasks. That’s very nice of hin to do all the laundry . I think there be plenty of woman that’d be jealous of you LOL! But talk to him in a good and serious about what you feel! And pray ALLAH ou ta’ala ! InchaAllah may God be with you
(Arian AHM) the relationship between u and ur husband is not looking normal .According to Islam after marriege husbands responsibility is to provide food,clothing and house to his wife, protect ,care and love her .and it's ur responsibility to make food for him clean house, clothes and take care of his house and kids ( if u can afford servent u can take help of servent in doing household works) besides this if ur husband willingly helping u in household works ,Allah will give him ajar( though it's not obligatory upon him to do this ),and if u willingly earn money and spend on him and his kids it will also give u ajar (though it's not obligatory for u),Besides this , though it's not obligatory upon u to serve his parent and him to serve ur parent but they are ur close relatives so it's a good mannerism (akhlaq )that both of you be in touch with ur. In-laws talk to them, invite them to ur house ,meet them whenever needed. Talk to ur husband regards this, inshallah ur life will be happy and there is good chemistry between u and ur husband.
Talk to him why he behaving like this ,ask him the reason ,ask him is he happy with u ? And sister before feeling bad keep in mind the fact that every country has different culture, language,food, and as u both are from different nationality , u both have to adjust many things which need time don't worry inshallah Everything will b fine
obedient to husband like a boss and and a maid is impossible , better stay alone . some husband makes life miserable . every single thing of the house has to be the way he wants , never open your mouth . ALLAH WILL PUT YOU TO HELL............
No one is telling you to be a maid marriage is all about sacrifice tolerance understanding and cooperation you shouldn’t marry someone you have no connection to and if you married one you are free to file for a divorce that’s unIslamic to treat you bad and he is selfish for that
The Wife is obliged neither to cook for the family nor to clean the home but she may choose to do so at her will and pleasure. If she chooses not to do so, he must provide her at his expense, with someone to cook and clean. However he is not obliged to cover medical expenses." - Book of Sharia - Wael B. Hallaq. This is what i read and learned about islam. Also heared from many ustads too. Like Nouman Ali khan, mufti menk etc.
"If the woman does not take care of her husband? He works and deprives himself for the sake of his wife, children, and household necessities, and the wife is sleeping and not doing anything in the house. The husband simply says marriage is a great responsibility and a headache. It's better to avoid it."
If wife is not cared emotionally and physically just backing financially then it would affect her.What is the solution in this case when children are involved?
If a man doesn’t provide for his wife and children covering all finances, clothes, safety, food, education then he has no right to demand cooking and cleaning cos he hasn’t even fulfilled his duties
Likewise if a woman doesn't do the above mentioned men should stop paying?
Each individual should do their part and focus on theirs and not play thus game
@@yuppieyup8188 typical modern woman always keeping the score. Even if the man do all those list and beyond she will still find next 'if husband doesnt do...'
If you're going to bring up rights in a marriage when it's not necessary then you're just both roommates
Men should cook and cleAn and work and provide his wife and wife can sit and relax thats what nowadays muslim women want
No not all women. I have sacraficed my entire career to be home for my family. I have a degree ma sha Allah and yet decided instead to stay home. I could never allow my husband to work all day AND come home and serve me. It doesn't sit well with me at all. BUT when I was sick my husband cooked and took care of the home. Women need to allow their hard working husbands to feel relaxed at home.
Men want to have one responsibility only which is providing. They wanna throw all other responsibilities on the wife: cooking, cleaning, showering the kids, feeding them, helping them with homework, taking care of them as if they're her kids only and not his. And all this is done with no appreciation from the husband as he comes home to sleep, spends the weekends doing nothing, and spends his holidays playing games.
Yousra Ammachi when wife sat at home all day she should do these things a man will be at work whole day what u expect him to come home and work again? When u can sit home after cleaning or cooking it doesnt take 8 hours
@@Amatullah.574 Masha Allah Sister 😊😊😇
Yes bro.
What if the wife works late nights,and mornings, pays bills, pays rent, takes care of her parents, makes food and cleans and all husband does is talk to his family, plays games, studies and send most of the money that he gets to his parents
Then he is not following the Quran and not being a good Muslim man and she has rights to leave him. He must provide if he wants these rights over his wife.
then marry a man!
That is your view, your husband may have his own view. But if I assume that you are right. Then you can ask for divorce as you have right to live happily as he is failing on his duties towards you.
It's your husband's responsibility to provide for you and your kids sis
Divorce him
The wife's responsibility is to give her husband a peace of mind with warmth and love in her actions.
There is no need of going into rights and duties if there is love and affection in the relationship, and there is no use of telling the rights and duties if there is no love or affection.
That's too unrealistic and fantasy like
What fantasy world do you live in? Do you think warmth and love will keep each other happy for ever? What about duties and obligations?
Sheikh what’s the responsibilities of women’s towards islam ?
If someones husbands take care of rights of his parents and siblings on him but ignores the rights of wife on him. And asks wife only to sacrifice.
Whats should a wife do?
if he is not providing for his wife, she has the rights to file divorce. but what are the rights that he is ignoring? can you talk about?
You have a duty to find a husband who can fullfil his duties
Divorce 🔥
Why is everyone so quick to suggest divorce, most cases of issues is coz of the spouses not being able to communicate with each other due to various reasons, be it fear of making things worse etc
Because these women keep marrying joe across the street. Idk why they have difficulty finding a good husband
The Wife is obliged neither to cook for the family nor to clean the home but she may choose to do so at her will and pleasure. If she chooses not to do so, he must provide her at his expense, with someone to cook and clean. However he is not obliged to cover medical expenses."
Book of Sharia - Wael B. Hallaq
The duty of a wife is to serve her husband and it's her responsibility to prioritize the household chores, as well as taking care of the kids besides being a good wife. If she refuses to serve her husband this way as she's supposed to, then he has the right to file for a divorce
Sheikh al albani and sheikh mohamed aman al jami says her job is to serve her husband. Question for u:
When Fatima RA complained to mohammed ﷺ about her hands hurting from all the housework, and that she wanted a servant. Why didnt the prophet ﷺ grant her this? Why didnt he tell her “u dont have to work if u dont want to”? Why instead did he teach her dhikr before sleeping?
@@K.w897 Hazrat Ali RA kept himself busy in jihad even for months and preparation of jihad. Today's men always claim that Hazrat Fatima RA uesd to do household chores but why such men don't mention that Hazrat Ali RA was also busy in jihad and in preparation of jihad.
@@iqramehboob4256 still doesnt explain why the prophet ﷺ didnt give her a maid or told Ali to get her a maid. Jihad wasnt everg year
@@iqramehboob4256 nope, he discouraged it because it was the dotter of his enemy, he didnt forbid it. Prophet ﷺ also had servants so u cant claim that he didnt want them. Ali wasnt at jihad, he was home during that time so why didnt he tell Ali RA to do 50% of the house chores? Instead he advised Fatima RA to be patient, u can follow the opinion that its mustahab if u want, but im gonna follow that its wajib
Salaam brother,sometime with one hand can be clap,if the wife or the husband is not well an there are having argument over nothing,what can be the solution
What about for a wife works outside off home? For people who live in America?
He talks about the husband who works outside off home .not the one set home not do anything
These days in west, money has become such a thing to gain power over another human( especially womens doing it) and this trend is slowly spreading or almost spreaded over Asia, while in past, it was beautiful when money was only there to raise your children and live a happy life with eachother. Nowadays, it is like......a way to show yourself more empowerd, independent ect.
Its all for a women, beacuse a normal man always earns for family, because he cares for them and their needs(its a fact and responsibility of the man that he fulfilsz)this is a NORMAL MAN, while women i heard in Europe have even stopped getting married, HOW IN THE WORLD A SPECIE WHO USED TO PRODUCE A WHOLE GENERATION IS NOW TRYING TO CUT OF HUMANITY FROM THE EARTH??
This is problem for a working women in WEST.
However, it is permissible for a women to work in Islam according to Sharia but NOT GETTING MARRIED? Even a small ant knows that she has to collect food for her children so that her generation remains on earth.
A wife in Islam can keep her money but if her job is effecting the children, she should quit to give time to her children, this is HER responsibility,
and this is why Allah made womens MOTHERS because of their patience and love
The end he said if this is done for a number of time the husband has to look for someone else 😂 so let’s flip the script, the woman is the bread winner and the husband doesn’t work, so when she comes home and no fragrance smells often, does she have to look for someone else?
First of all, in Islam it's the responsibility of man to provide. If he doesn't, he's already neglecting his duty. Unless he's disabled etc
Jazak Allah khayr
What happens to a husband who's used his wife he's never ever provided for her though she's has been robbed of her every right 🙄🤔
True question what if women doesnt like someone and he knows but still lets them
Jazak Allah shaik but I feel the video is very politically correct
This video make modern marriage more complicated
Living in London we all pay tax an national insurance contribution,which support the single mothers an people who are married with childrens some married people are well off the others,
We pay high tax does that mean we as tax payer have to pay for our wife an kids,if that's the case they could be more richer than the husband might Couse more fitna,please can you explain,
Thanks
tax paying is something that has to do with the gov , not your wife and children . The woman and children should have food shelter and cloth , there is nothing in Islam that says " woman and children have more money than the husband causes fitna " , a wealthy woman can marry a poor man and she'll have more wealth than him and can give him some of her wealth to him if she wants , if she doesn't it's her right to not share her money as a wife . so , there is nothing is Islam that says what you said , please always check what sayings go around this fitnah you said is in noo hadith nor in the quran .
Totally true ☝🏻
How if husband doing everything by his own.. such as cook his own meals, do laundry,cleaning etc?
It's normal?
Is that okay for wife who has that's kind of husband?
I'm grateful but sometime I feel I'm not normal wife.
I want like other wife who serve foods for others husband.
It's seem like your food is your food but you are ok to eat mine.
We are from different country I'm open mind about food, I can eat any food as it's halal, but he is not open mind, but honestly I can cook theirs tradition food even my friend who the same origin as my husband said food that I cook is perfectly good as they cook. But my husband doesn't want to eat the food that I cook.
He did laundry mine and kids clothes.
And for other thing such as family he likes his family is his family, my family is my family, he doesn't like me to know anything about his family and he doesn't want to know what going on to my family (seem like that but I don't know for sure as he doesn't talk about his family and doesn't ask about my family)
Maybe if you speak with and communicate this to him with a nice way he will listen to you inshaALlah! Maybe he come from a family that learned him to be independent on the house tasks. That’s very nice of hin to do all the laundry . I think there be plenty of woman that’d be jealous of you LOL! But talk to him in a good and serious about what you feel! And pray ALLAH ou ta’ala ! InchaAllah may God be with you
(Arian AHM) the relationship between u and ur husband is not looking normal .According to Islam after marriege husbands responsibility is to provide food,clothing and house to his wife, protect ,care and love her .and it's ur responsibility to make food for him clean house, clothes and take care of his house and kids ( if u can afford servent u can take help of servent in doing household works) besides this if ur husband willingly helping u in household works ,Allah will give him ajar( though it's not obligatory upon him to do this ),and if u willingly earn money and spend on him and his kids it will also give u ajar (though it's not obligatory for u),Besides this , though it's not obligatory upon u to serve his parent and him to serve ur parent but they are ur close relatives so it's a good mannerism (akhlaq )that both of you be in touch with ur. In-laws talk to them, invite them to ur house ,meet them whenever needed. Talk to ur husband regards this, inshallah ur life will be happy and there is good chemistry between u and ur husband.
Talk to him why he behaving like this ,ask him the reason ,ask him is he happy with u ? And sister before feeling bad keep in mind the fact that every country has different culture, language,food, and as u both are from different nationality , u both have to adjust many things which need time don't worry inshallah Everything will b fine
@@ADM-1423 Jazkumullah khair
You should worry about what have you earned in his heart because men in general expect to be loved and respected in different ways by their wives.
ma shaa A!
Unfortunately very hard to find these days. Let's please Allah to make it heaven. 🤤🤤🤤🤤 huries 👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸👸
look around for somebody else ... lOl
obedient to husband like a boss and and a maid is impossible , better stay alone . some husband makes life miserable . every single thing of the house has to be the way he wants , never open your mouth . ALLAH WILL PUT YOU TO HELL............
Exactly that's why I am getting traumatized
Then that’s not a true man. May Allah ﷻ grant us pious spouses, Amīn.
No one is telling you to be a maid marriage is all about sacrifice tolerance understanding and cooperation you shouldn’t marry someone you have no connection to and if you married one you are free to file for a divorce that’s unIslamic to treat you bad and he is selfish for that
The Wife is obliged neither to cook for the family nor to clean the home but she may choose to do so at her will and pleasure. If she chooses not to do so, he must provide her at his expense, with someone to cook and clean. However he is not obliged to cover medical expenses."
- Book of Sharia - Wael B. Hallaq.
This is what i read and learned about islam. Also heared from many ustads too. Like Nouman Ali khan, mufti menk etc.
a bitter feminist spotted. Good luck being lonely living with cats all your life