Wonderful answered with alll the islamic aspects by the most wonderful sole ever...from past 2 years I was having this doubt...alhamdulillah cleared now...thank u sister for quoting this question to Mr.zakir naik...may Allah fulfill everyone's duas
"A woman is like a rib: if you straighten her, you will break her, and if you enjoy her, you will enjoy her as she has some crookedness." -Muslim. The husband is encouraged to not change the wife completely like forbidding her to uphold the ties of kinship with her parents and forbidding her for halal things everytime he gets the chance. You have to create a balance. The husband has to understand that he is an ordinary human and absolute obedience that the wives of s.a.w showed to him was because he was the best of believers and the best of husbands. You are not so like Allah says in the Quran "do not declare yourselves self righteous" you have to understand you are not right every single time because even prophet s.a.w listened to umm salamahs advice and his wifes advice. Umar r.a. was corrected by a woman in the court and that didnt make him feel offended. Its when the man uses hadiths to justify arrogance and ego which is satans whisper. Both should understand that a man and his wife are one i.e. part of each other and should come to common grounds always
Most of the times when according to most women "men use hadith to justify their ego" is more like women complaining about men doing something women themselves don't like so they call it ego when the man brings up something that is islamically indeed accurate. Obedience is important in Islam between a marriage as Allah made the marriage this way, if your husband is using islamically justified ways to make decisions, then i don't see a reason to not obey him.
Please note that Allah said in Quran that live with your women honorably. Obidence to husband is great but when men start misusing their power and then refere to hadiths, how would you state a women to react? She can be patient but than the original PEACE in marriage is gone!
@@alishaaliza789 Trying to fix things is what the sincere woman would do. When rasool(pbuh)was to divorce one of his wife she made an offer to rasool(pbuh)and said " I just want to be your wife in this duniya and hereafter."
Jazakallah khairan for explaining in such a beautiful way that both Husband wife are important,their responsibility are important for a smooth sail otherwise it’s only said to woman to obey her husband
It's because most women don't like the term obeying husband and so many women are inhabitants of the hellfire because of their attitude towards their husband. Don't you fear Allah and don't you even read the verse women must obey husband and if she don't ask the permission of her husband to go outside and dead she will be hated by Allah. This is sahih hadeeth. Still you're trying to throw women nonsense and illogic on me to saying this.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Shaton is after me and many other Muslims. We don't take the time to be grateful to Allah. We need people like you to give us reminders to benefit us Muslims. I personally needed this talk. I have to try my best not to box my wife in a corner were I know she's going to come out fighting. Try to keep her away from haram women and men who influence her to go to hell.
Husband is protector, supporter, should treat wife with love, equity, kindness, passionate. But, if husband doesn't support his wife and abuses her infront of everyone at home then after every 5th or 4th day just to obey his mother. Then, what should do by a female?
@@archyy1615 our prophet Muhammad ( PBUH) said: If i were to order anyone to prostate to anyone, then i would order the wife to prostate to her husband.... Jama-at-tirmidhi ( 1159).
I want someone to help me here, If Allahh has blessed you with the bestt husband in the world, who loves you or takes care of you, but at the same time you have an abusive father, I can tell an extremely abusive, you is abusive verbally and physically both, and even ends up abusing your husband too, What are you supposed to do in that case? If you wish to cut ties with him, if you're suicidal because of such father and your husband also reaches toa point to tell you not to see him. What should a girl do in this case? Please don't tell me that she should obey the father, I'm telling them he is like a devil. May Allah guide him. He is full of devilism in his heart and soul, so nothing won't matter here.. Please someone come up with a solution. Jazakallah
Your husband has the right over your father. I understand your pain, but you will be rewarded for being patient with your father n not cutting ties with him. I suggest you should keep your distance and have a long distance relationship with your father therefore you won't have a headache n you won't have to cut ties with him. Your husband should help you keeping your distance from your father if you dont wish to be around your father. After Allah, your husband is your greatest protector. Use it to your advantage.
@@07ayshaaa_ Because you love him/her and you don't want him/her to do SIN and buy the HELLFIRE ,Which OUR LORD PREPARED FOR ARROGANT PEOPLE(one category).
@@mdfardinkhan314 so? Thats their problem and not all of them love their spouse some of them are arrange marriaged also she can can her reasons it has nothing to do with him her sins aren’t his sins also she should be angry if he doesn’t pray so
You dont have to obey your husband if he is being irrational and oppressive,as this is against Allahs commands to bully someone.They dont have a right to tell us to not work if we want to and we still doing our duties in islam,if his being irrational just to imprison you you dont have to obey because he is going against Allah and bullying.Allah will decide actions are judged by intentions,do not let anyone oppress you sisters in the name of Allah.If ylu have faith his just being oppressive for no reason disobey
If he can see your careless and not obeying than he can decide for you if you should work or not. Why would he spend around 50K-100K and provide and care for you than you end up not obeying his order. If you displease your husband you are disobeying Allah in a way. They are correlated. And as long as the husband can take care of her and provide for her and make sure he can take care of his role than he has every right to tell her not to work. It’s not harming her so it’s completely fine for her not to work if the man will continue to provide for her and if she continues to obey her husband he will be pleased which will make Allah pleased. Please delete your comment as you don’t know what your talking about.
Muslima if he's oppressive get a divorce but, I bet you won't because most women just be online talking that wu-wu/trash talking. Just listen to your husband if he tells you to do something according to Quran and Sunnah. You not going to work is liberating. Unless you one of the members of the liberal/lesbian party that wants to be the man. This what you do, go get a full time job, let your husband cook and clean then I guaranteed you will get a divorce from your husband because women like the idea of being a man, but a man life is cruel and it comes with no mercy. No shoulders to cry on, hell you can't even cry or show any sorrow. A lot of Lesbians who go through sex changes to a full man end up committing suicide. Why, because men are not allow to be an emotional person. You don't get to go to groups were you can cry and be emotional. So sister stop it!!!. And thank Allah you have a husband who loves you and wants to take care of you. If he is hurting u pysically get a divorce simple. Don't let shaton foul you to be ungrateful.
If the child is health hazardous for her, or both, she has to do so. But if their si neither of the reasons. She hasn't to do so. Because, without the legal reason, mentioned above, no one is allowed to abort. Even if the child is illegitimate, there is no need to abort. It will be considered as murder of a soul. And, the Hadood will be applied over husband.
Why is it that we woman always have to obey? Look at the Universe and you'll see Allah SWT greatness. Then you'll understand how petty this whole "who should we women obey" thing is. We are not minors. We have our own mind and ideas of our own. Stop patronising us. To those women who still believe that we were created to be eternal minors, may Allah SWT guide you.
Your questioning Allah and challenging his ruling. Women like you are the inhabitants of hellfire if a woman don't like the idea of obeying husband then it's her fault and Jahannam is her price. I think you don't learned Islam. Desobedient is the reason for a man to divorce his wife it is in Qur'an then who the hell kind of munafiq Jahannam are you to question Islamic guidance.
It is the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam who has told us in many hadiths about the obedience to the husband for the woman The prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam said If a woman prays her fardh, fasts her Ramadan,guards her chastity AND OBEYS HER HUSBAND it will be said to her enter paradise. And Allah swt has told us in the Quran that whoever obeys the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam has obeyed Allah so if you know about Allah swt Greatness then you should follow his prophet and follow what the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam told you to do Indeed that is a straight path
How can you take Hadith over Quran?! Honoring one’s parents is commanded in the Quran, right after worshiping God almighty. In fact, multiple Hadith also command us to honor our parents. Where in the Quran does it say that a woman must obey her husband? The husband doesn’t have the authority to command a wife to disobey God, and as the Prophet said: *“A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”* So by the logic of Shaikh Nayek, a husband can command his wife to remove the hijab, not fast Ramadan, and not pray and she should obey??! Truly ridiculous!
I'll tell you why some Muslim men say this? Because their purpose is to control women because they fear them. I'm a Muslimah and AlhamduliAllah I use my brains to know that any mam with these kind of ideas will never be next to me. I mean do these kind of Muslims ever look at the Universe and Allah SWT greatness?
N don't he ridiculous. Do you not have any intellect? Why would a Muslim husband say to the wife to do unislamic things? She can refuse unislamic commands if that were to be the case. Talk with common sense, don't talk unnecessarily, you talk like a child
@@the_specialista6319 Yes, men are like that. Allah order to women to obey their man and stay at home. What we seeing as women empowerment is anti Islamic. Read Qur'an it is mentioned several times. And also rasoolullah(pbuh)told women that " A good woman will obey their husband and never do the things which is disliked by their husbands. Are you out of your mind. Disagreeing with Islam and praising Islam like munafiq.
@@the_specialista6319 If don't obey Allah have angry upon you. Since it is in Qur'an and hadith why you have problem with this. Women are the majority in hellfire and very less in Jannah due to their arrogant and defensive attitude. If don't men like us next to you then it's your problem not us. Even Allah is with us in this matter then why we need to care about women like you. We will have Hoorul eins in Jannah.
6:18 Al-Baqarah (2:187) The verse Number will be 187. I think I have heard 87. Thank You Zakir Naik Sir for this great information and advice. By the way, my wife was angry with me so I am copying and sharing with her all those points Zakir sir mentioned and I did not find that in Al-Baqarah 87 ayat. That’s why I mentioned that, maybe it will help someone like me 😂. Allahu Akbar
@@abdirahman_hassan No I don’t need to put him before my own parents and I won’t my parents will always come first I watched the whole video he didn’t say it once my parents come first and I won’t obey him I’m not his slave and he doesn’t own me the house is literally with my own money I can kick him out if I want to
@@07ayshaaa_ u can't kick him out even if the house is yours its a sin . When a woman is married the comand of her husband is superior than the command of her parents combined as long as is not an evil comand. Hope u understand
@@abdirahman_hassan no it isny I can kick him out if he djsrespects me also I'll always listen to my parents first it doesn't say it in the quran or in any hadiths soo my parents come first if they're old and my husband Is young then my parents should come first I'll always look after them and if my husband has a problem with that then we'll get a divorce simple
@@07ayshaaa_ i know parents comes first but for a married Muslim woman the guardian is transferred to your husband whether he is older than your parents or not. You kick him out through divorce not the way it sounds
@@07ayshaaa_ sorry for the spelling mistake. I said if your parent s abused him so you never question your parents because they're your parents so they can abuse him infront of you and you never take a stand for him. Since he is depend on then you're his care taker right.
You are neither his slave nor he is your atm machine Or slave or whatever. He is more like a second father when you are handed over to him by your father. So you should be obedient to him on the boundaries of halal things.
Ok then you can answer to Allah when he asks you on the day of judgement. If he has no legitimate reason to stop you from going he will be held accountable.
Wonderful answered with alll the islamic aspects by the most wonderful sole ever...from past 2 years I was having this doubt...alhamdulillah cleared now...thank u sister for quoting this question to Mr.zakir naik...may Allah fulfill everyone's duas
May Allah preserve you ❤️
سبحان الله وبحمده عدد خلقه ورضا نفسه وزنه عرشه ومداد كلماته
Really well said ❤️
This lecture is excellent
"A woman is like a rib: if you straighten her, you will break her, and if you enjoy her, you will enjoy her as she has some crookedness." -Muslim.
The husband is encouraged to not change the wife completely like forbidding her to uphold the ties of kinship with her parents and forbidding her for halal things everytime he gets the chance. You have to create a balance. The husband has to understand that he is an ordinary human and absolute obedience that the wives of s.a.w showed to him was because he was the best of believers and the best of husbands. You are not so like Allah says in the Quran "do not declare yourselves self righteous" you have to understand you are not right every single time because even prophet s.a.w listened to umm salamahs advice and his wifes advice. Umar r.a. was corrected by a woman in the court and that didnt make him feel offended. Its when the man uses hadiths to justify arrogance and ego which is satans whisper.
Both should understand that a man and his wife are one i.e. part of each other and should come to common grounds always
Most of the times when according to most women "men use hadith to justify their ego" is more like women complaining about men doing something women themselves don't like so they call it ego when the man brings up something that is islamically indeed accurate. Obedience is important in Islam between a marriage as Allah made the marriage this way, if your husband is using islamically justified ways to make decisions, then i don't see a reason to not obey him.
Please note that Allah said in Quran that live with your women honorably. Obidence to husband is great but when men start misusing their power and then refere to hadiths, how would you state a women to react? She can be patient but than the original PEACE in marriage is gone!
@@alishaaliza789 Trying to fix things is what the sincere woman would do. When rasool(pbuh)was to divorce one of his wife she made an offer to rasool(pbuh)and said " I just want to be your wife in this duniya and hereafter."
MasyaAllah is good to listen Quran best Quran by Allah name alhamdulillah
Jazakallah khairan for explaining in such a beautiful way that both Husband wife are important,their responsibility are important for a smooth sail otherwise it’s only said to woman to obey her husband
It's because most women don't like the term obeying husband and so many women are inhabitants of the hellfire because of their attitude towards their husband. Don't you fear Allah and don't you even read the verse women must obey husband and if she don't ask the permission of her husband to go outside and dead she will be hated by Allah. This is sahih hadeeth. Still you're trying to throw women nonsense and illogic on me to saying this.
Jazak Allaahu Khayran
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Shaton is after me and many other Muslims. We don't take the time to be grateful to Allah. We need people like you to give us reminders to benefit us Muslims. I personally needed this talk. I have to try my best not to box my wife in a corner were I know she's going to come out fighting. Try to keep her away from haram women and men who influence her to go to hell.
Mashallah, balanced answer
I invite everyone to listen to the holy QURAN
If mother makes the husband's angry against his wife, then? Mother creates misunderstanding in order to creates fights?
Husband is protector, supporter, should treat wife with love, equity, kindness, passionate. But, if husband doesn't support his wife and abuses her infront of everyone at home then after every 5th or 4th day just to obey his mother. Then, what should do by a female?
Don't obey! ... obeying a husband is a Islam right, but firstly he has to fulfill her Islam rights, if he doesn't that she doesn't have to obey him
@@archyy1615she have to obey him at all cost
@@Mr-Markhor12 thats not how it works!
@@archyy1615 our prophet Muhammad ( PBUH) said: If i were to order anyone to prostate to anyone, then i would order the wife to prostate to her husband....
Jama-at-tirmidhi ( 1159).
@@archyy1615 i know ego hurts whenever feminists like you hear to obey their husbands...
Mashallah 🤲🏾
Bodybuilding competition in Islam is halal or haram ?
Unless you don't show you chesticity
Assalamu alaikum
Wa Alaikum Salam
I want someone to help me here, If Allahh has blessed you with the bestt husband in the world, who loves you or takes care of you, but at the same time you have an abusive father, I can tell an extremely abusive, you is abusive verbally and physically both, and even ends up abusing your husband too, What are you supposed to do in that case? If you wish to cut ties with him, if you're suicidal because of such father and your husband also reaches toa point to tell you not to see him. What should a girl do in this case? Please don't tell me that she should obey the father, I'm telling them he is like a devil. May Allah guide him. He is full of devilism in his heart and soul, so nothing won't matter here.. Please someone come up with a solution. Jazakallah
Your husband has the right over your father. I understand your pain, but you will be rewarded for being patient with your father n not cutting ties with him. I suggest you should keep your distance and have a long distance relationship with your father therefore you won't have a headache n you won't have to cut ties with him. Your husband should help you keeping your distance from your father if you dont wish to be around your father. After Allah, your husband is your greatest protector. Use it to your advantage.
But,you should be angry...if she neglect prayer intentionally.
A silence anger..
Why should you be angry she should be angry if he doesn’t pray he doesn’t own her and she has a free will
@@07ayshaaa_ Because you love him/her and you don't want him/her to do SIN and buy the HELLFIRE ,Which OUR LORD PREPARED FOR ARROGANT PEOPLE(one category).
@@mdfardinkhan314 so? Thats their problem and not all of them love their spouse some of them are arrange marriaged also she can can her reasons it has nothing to do with him her sins aren’t his sins also she should be angry if he doesn’t pray so
@@07ayshaaa_is it a marriage or a business relationship
@@mdfardinkhan314 you do know anger is a sin? Just cos someone missed prayer doesn’t mean you should be angry
You dont have to obey your husband if he is being irrational and oppressive,as this is against Allahs commands to bully someone.They dont have a right to tell us to not work if we want to and we still doing our duties in islam,if his being irrational just to imprison you you dont have to obey because he is going against Allah and bullying.Allah will decide actions are judged by intentions,do not let anyone oppress you sisters in the name of Allah.If ylu have faith his just being oppressive for no reason disobey
If he can see your careless and not obeying than he can decide for you if you should work or not. Why would he spend around 50K-100K and provide and care for you than you end up not obeying his order. If you displease your husband you are disobeying Allah in a way. They are correlated. And as long as the husband can take care of her and provide for her and make sure he can take care of his role than he has every right to tell her not to work. It’s not harming her so it’s completely fine for her not to work if the man will continue to provide for her and if she continues to obey her husband he will be pleased which will make Allah pleased. Please delete your comment as you don’t know what your talking about.
Ask your self this. Is it haram for you to be a house wife and not work? Then how is that being oppressive?? Read your comment again 🙃
@@oxord1111 she is stupid , everybody knows he has the right to not let her work , without even telling her the reason , it s his right
Muslima if he's oppressive get a divorce but, I bet you won't because most women just be online talking that wu-wu/trash talking. Just listen to your husband if he tells you to do something according to Quran and Sunnah. You not going to work is liberating. Unless you one of the members of the liberal/lesbian party that wants to be the man. This what you do, go get a full time job, let your husband cook and clean then I guaranteed you will get a divorce from your husband because women like the idea of being a man, but a man life is cruel and it comes with no mercy. No shoulders to cry on, hell you can't even cry or show any sorrow. A lot of Lesbians who go through sex changes to a full man end up committing suicide. Why, because men are not allow to be an emotional person. You don't get to go to groups were you can cry and be emotional. So sister stop it!!!. And thank Allah you have a husband who loves you and wants to take care of you. If he is hurting u pysically get a divorce simple. Don't let shaton foul you to be ungrateful.
@@oxord1111 so true
Shanta is live the table are turning Islam is just a cover. It’s all about TikTok, instagram
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If the husband askd the wife to abort the child, does the wife should listen
If the child is health hazardous for her, or both, she has to do so. But if their si neither of the reasons. She hasn't to do so. Because, without the legal reason, mentioned above, no one is allowed to abort. Even if the child is illegitimate, there is no need to abort. It will be considered as murder of a soul. And, the Hadood will be applied over husband.
No she should disobey the reasons for abortion are clear
Why is it that we woman always have to obey? Look at the Universe and you'll see Allah SWT greatness. Then you'll understand how petty this whole "who should we women obey" thing is. We are not minors. We have our own mind and ideas of our own. Stop patronising us. To those women who still believe that we were created to be eternal minors, may Allah SWT guide you.
Your questioning Allah and challenging his ruling. Women like you are the inhabitants of hellfire if a woman don't like the idea of obeying husband then it's her fault and Jahannam is her price. I think you don't learned Islam. Desobedient is the reason for a man to divorce his wife it is in Qur'an then who the hell kind of munafiq Jahannam are you to question Islamic guidance.
Modern women always have a problem with obeying😂
They would NOT when husband will live with them honorably
It is the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam who has told us in many hadiths about the obedience to the husband for the woman
The prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam said
If a woman prays her fardh, fasts her Ramadan,guards her chastity AND OBEYS HER HUSBAND it will be said to her enter paradise.
And Allah swt has told us in the Quran that whoever obeys the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam has obeyed Allah so if you know about Allah swt Greatness then you should follow his prophet and follow what the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam told you to do Indeed that is a straight path
How can you take Hadith over Quran?! Honoring one’s parents is commanded in the Quran, right after worshiping God almighty. In fact, multiple Hadith also command us to honor our parents. Where in the Quran does it say that a woman must obey her husband?
The husband doesn’t have the authority to command a wife to disobey God, and as the Prophet said: *“A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”*
So by the logic of Shaikh Nayek, a husband can command his wife to remove the hijab, not fast Ramadan, and not pray and she should obey??!
Truly ridiculous!
I'll tell you why some Muslim men say this? Because their purpose is to control women because they fear them. I'm a Muslimah and AlhamduliAllah I use my brains to know that any mam with these kind of ideas will never be next to me. I mean do these kind of Muslims ever look at the Universe and Allah SWT greatness?
N don't he ridiculous. Do you not have any intellect? Why would a Muslim husband say to the wife to do unislamic things? She can refuse unislamic commands if that were to be the case. Talk with common sense, don't talk unnecessarily, you talk like a child
@@the_specialista6319 Yes, men are like that. Allah order to women to obey their man and stay at home. What we seeing as women empowerment is anti Islamic. Read Qur'an it is mentioned several times. And also rasoolullah(pbuh)told women that " A good woman will obey their husband and never do the things which is disliked by their husbands. Are you out of your mind. Disagreeing with Islam and praising Islam like munafiq.
@@the_specialista6319 If don't obey Allah have angry upon you. Since it is in Qur'an and hadith why you have problem with this. Women are the majority in hellfire and very less in Jannah due to their arrogant and defensive attitude. If don't men like us next to you then it's your problem not us. Even Allah is with us in this matter then why we need to care about women like you. We will have Hoorul eins in Jannah.
@@KadershaN-ou2sj go tell that to Khadija r.a and Aisha r.a. Ignorant. Jahl
6:18 Al-Baqarah (2:187)
The verse Number will be 187.
I think I have heard 87.
Thank You Zakir Naik Sir for this great information and advice.
By the way, my wife was angry with me so I am copying and sharing with her all those points Zakir sir mentioned and I did not find that in Al-Baqarah 87 ayat. That’s why I mentioned that, maybe it will help someone like me 😂.
Allahu Akbar
It doesn’t say that you have to put him before your own parents and if he’s my hell why should I obey him? This is messed up and cruel
watch the video again
@@abdirahman_hassan No I don’t need to put him before my own parents and I won’t my parents will always come first I watched the whole video he didn’t say it once my parents come first and I won’t obey him I’m not his slave and he doesn’t own me the house is literally with my own money I can kick him out if I want to
@@07ayshaaa_ u can't kick him out even if the house is yours its a sin . When a woman is married the comand of her husband is superior than the command of her parents combined as long as is not an evil comand. Hope u understand
@@abdirahman_hassan no it isny I can kick him out if he djsrespects me also I'll always listen to my parents first it doesn't say it in the quran or in any hadiths soo my parents come first if they're old and my husband Is young then my parents should come first I'll always look after them and if my husband has a problem with that then we'll get a divorce simple
@@07ayshaaa_ i know parents comes first but for a married Muslim woman the guardian is transferred to your husband whether he is older than your parents or not. You kick him out through divorce not the way it sounds
It doesn’t say you have to put him before your parents. And there’s a limit.
Tell us oh great Alimah aysha, what are the limits😂
He isn’t the leader if the house is on my name it isn’t his house
So you're his protector right? If you can't protect him from abuse then why you married him?
@@SK-gm7ge if I can protect him from abuse then that’s good I married him😭 what’s wrong with ur awful English
@@07ayshaaa_ sorry for the spelling mistake. I said if your parent s abused him so you never question your parents because they're your parents so they can abuse him infront of you and you never take a stand for him. Since he is depend on then you're his care taker right.
@@SK-gm7ge ur just an angry man lmao define abuse?
Why tho? They raised me and are my parents why tf should I obey someone I’m a slave to before my own parents?
Lol,why you even get married,you should stay with your parent
Terrible wife...
You are neither his slave nor he is your atm machine Or slave or whatever. He is more like a second father when you are handed over to him by your father. So you should be obedient to him on the boundaries of halal things.
Ok then you can answer to Allah when he asks you on the day of judgement. If he has no legitimate reason to stop you from going he will be held accountable.
@@gandalfm.student4756 you are dumb asf ngl
Dr zakir Naik is very wrong the parents is more important everyone ❤ that quran said
All Hadiith he was talking about is daiif Daciif all false 😅