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0:21 Your social avoidance is from fear of failure, not because it’s draining. 1:10 You’re uncomfortable in social situations. 2:04 You find it difficult to make conversation with others. 3:03 You’re not as verbally articulate as you’d like. 3:56 Alone time makes you feel more lonely. 4:36 You have twitches.
"I get more socially awkward when I get closer to people. Not the opposite. Because they're closer. It feels like the spotlight is on me, and they're sitting in the first row vs. the back. " - Scooby Doo
Honestly I think once I start to talk to them. It should be easy. But no. I’m always worrying about what they are thinking of me or if they even want to talk to me. I just never know peoples motives. But after a while that can go away and I’ll be more comfortable with them. So it’s like a bridge
Same when i was a kid but you can adopt in the time being, its normal for young ones i survive 😄 and now they thought im Miss Congeniality well i just got true to myself and doesnt think if they dont like the way iam
I'm socially awkward due to my sheltered lifestyle, and while I'm shy, but I tend to realize that it is caused by my social awkwardness and can't find the right words and always can't form a basic conversation without fumbling over my words
A tip I'll give you: Do you like movies? Ok think of a script of what you're gonna say if you're in that scene so you can have confidence to be around other people. Be calm In conversations and then look at the eye of that person or group so you feel comfortable around them.
@LunAria LoonAtic The social skills part is what I have to work on. I'm on the Autism Spectrum and it's a difficult thing to do to approach people especially for help but it's a process I have to work on especially now having a job at a movie theater but my tip is do you like movies, think of a script based on the situation that is at play and figure out lines in your head of what to say to that person or group of people and say your lines even if you improvise at it. But you'll get better once you do it!
I have this thing if i fumble over my words, i blow on my tongue ( like you would if you tease some one, sticking out my tongue and blow on it ) WELL, i can tell you.. within the panic of "i can't get the words out" i do this without thinking and therefore sometimes without swallowing first.. so yes the cringe is big. Making it worse for myself 😂 i then silently say to myself " why do i do this " and loudly thnk to myself " run you awkward fool, run "
As a socially awkward person, i could relate to 4 and 5. I always want to make conversation with people, and have a full sentence cooked in my head, but when I speak out, I end up stuttering, or my sentences get chopped up into pieces that end up not making sense, and it gets quite embarrassing, and when get some alone time for relief, I just get depressed and lonely and it sucks. If anyone has any advice that helps me being more social, please feel free to reply.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have a form of depression but it's not severe and I do feel embarrassed or edgy when I say something that I shouldn't have but I don't make that mistake by not saying it again. I was in speech and I was taught to be slow with your words so people can understand you and not talk so fast even though I'm on the Autism Spectrum and I can talk fast but you gotta try. You can and still have a chance to have a conversation with people. It's the eye contact, body language, being relaxed and being confident with your words when you're talking. Do you like movies? Think of a script. Think of what you're gonna say as If you're in a scene in one of your favorite movies and say that sentence as fluently as you can. But you don't have to label yourself as socially awkward even though I did in my comment in a good way. You can make good friendships with the right people if they want to understand you as you want to understand them. People will like you just the way you are If they got to know you and you getting to know them.
I used to be exactly the same but have discovered over the last couple of years how to relax and not stress so much. Meditation was the answer for me and repeating positive affirmations. It’s crucial to be able to relax and over time, by repeating positive messages, they honestly start to become reality. When you find yourself talking negatively about yourself, cut it off and say ‘I am relaxed and can talk with ease to people’. Your subconscious will start to believe it and it becomes your new reality. Whatever you tell yourself is what manifests. Follow guided meditations for anxiety and do it every day and you’ll be amazed how things will change. Good luck😊
Same, how the heck can i just word what i really want to say?? Its excruciatingly frustrating esp when i need to talk. Im an introvert, but still have a big problem on articulating my thoughts, which sucks cuz it leads to stuttering. :(
@@pepperuu3403 Try taking a breather, and understand that just because you stutter doesnt mean they won't like you. When you slow down how fast your thoughts are going, and lower the stakes of messing up, its way easier for your brain to say the right words.
My advice would be to watch shows like "FRIENDS" or "The Big Bang Theory"... also, tv shows (movies not so much) of families and co-workers... like "Chicago Fire" or whatever show is of your same mindset and, focus on the interactions and THAT can be like a social class 👍🏼
@@cp368productions2 I watched a video from a creator named Girl with the Dogs. She’s a pet groomer that narrates her pet grooming in a monotone, dry humor way and she was grooming a cat she used to own. She had to rehome said kitty because she had dogs as well and kitty was peeing in places it shouldn’t, usually a sign of stress or illness. In an attempt to be funny she said the cat did it out of spite. One viewer commented that, as a professional pet person (I guess you would call it), she shouldn’t be making jokes that perpetuate a stereotype of cats (bear with me we’re pet lovers here) because people actually do believe cats pee out of the litter box out of spite of something and will take them back to the shelter or flat out abandon them. You should’ve seen the amount of abuse this person got, not the content creator but the girl who made the comment. What’s worse was the content creator chimed in so she knew what was happening and did nothing about it. The fact is people do abandon their pets when they have problems like that cat had and I think her comment in the video may have struck a nerve. The OP wasn’t mean about it at all she just said that she shouldn’t be perpetuating that stereotype about cats. So I reported it because people really went after the OP for having an opinion. It seems civil discourse cannot exist on any social media platform.
This helps me so much 💀 whenever I speak to people it’s rather I’m very aware of what I’m saying and feel like shutting up to not embarrass myself, or I’m completely unaware of my rambling and end up being a mess !!
I saw Mystic Messenger on the thumbnail and clicked on this video. For the most part, I think I’m both socially awkward and an introvert. I enjoy the silence, usually only speaking when someone asks me something or speaks to me first. I’m okay at talking BUT i’m definitely more socially active through texts rather than actual in-person socialization. Though even texting is exhausting sometimes. I wonder if being more chatty in text than in-person makes a difference? Is there a reason for that as well? Why I prefer online chatting than in-person (cuz sometimes I also just text even though I’m sitting beside the person I’m talking to)?
probably because you dont feel that much pressure to respond immediately and because there is less information to take in. Personally I dont approach strangers/people I dont know that well either and I dont have an issue with it, I can definitely talk once I trust you or if you ask me something. Cant say texting was ever that bad, maybe I d ask myself if I said something wrong in exceptional circumtances but that is about it and I never text if I am face to face with a person, just makes no sense
I’m actually both. I’m a shy introvert, I really enjoy spending my time alone. It makes me comfortable. I’m also socially awkward, I REALLY have a hard time making new friends and I always overthink if they’re being annoyed or enjoying it. Thank you for the video though! :)
Bro, literally me, except that thankfully, I don't overthink things like I did before; now I don't care what ppl think about me, it's draining, and it was constantly hurting me (my wellbeing)
OMG THE THUMBNAIL 😭😭💓💓💓💓 I have this situation I noticed since last few years, where after this certain "thing" happened, I no longer capable of talking. No words come out for almost a year and my brain became awfully quiet, with little thoughts. My mother insist on taking me to the doctor, but I refuse because I think it was calming. I know I'm worrying her, but whenever I think about a certain "someone" who was undergoing treatment at the time, and my father who seems annoyed at my "attitude", I just told myself to stop being a bother. Now I think it's almost 4-5 years and talking has become a very difficult thing, words coming out (if ever) tend to become aggressive and angry, and I become more tired just thinking about conversing.
I'm sure an expert could help. The actress lark from "saved by the bell" had a terrible disorder that affected her speech. People just said that she was crazy. But Dr. Oz set her up with a specialist and helped her to formulate her sentences again. I know your situation is different. But that's just an example of how specialist can help.
@@wildonez3076 I also wish to find one, but living in rural place with stereotypes about mental health care still an issue.... It's not just that, finding someone who specializes in mental health care here is so rare. I need to go to big cities, which right now beyond my reach.
I'm so socially awkward that I've stopped initiating conversions with people I don't know. Unless they initiate. I tend to not engage with anyone. When I have in the past I've embarrassed myself so many times.
Mildly hurt by the title but definitely understand the tips and the difference between the two tips of people 😅 sometimes what you don’t want to hear is what you need the most lol
I'm socially anxious 24/7 and am always awkward :/ gotta love apathy and hopelessness of depression with overthinking and being overwhelmed cuz of social anxiety and Normal anxiety
Don't feel bad. I'm that way too because of my Autism I've mentioned in the comments. It's a process you have to work at. If you like movies, think of a script and figure out at the exact moment what to say to someone because you can only get better if you keep doing it all the time. Think of what you enjoy in your head while those moments of your social awkwardness arises and go from your head. Even try to be involved in a conversation.
Yes it really takes time to understands who we really are, at first we thought we're weird or somewhat different from others, or sometimes we feel we never belong but in the long years we get to know ourselves and tend to blend in socially coz we learn from every experience, we struggle but its a part of growing up 😊
I'm socially awkward because of my Autism like Sheldon Cooper from TBBT and it makes me who I am in a way that's part of my personality to enjoy social settings. I can also feel uncomfortable whether I don't have a lot to say but it's a process just like Sheldon or he just uses sarcasm in his sentences like I do sometimes. Don't feel bad I'm here for you! If you need to talk to someone comment below! Edit: I've got my first job at a movie theater I've always wanted to work at!
I used to be similar but after 5 years I gained the confidence to not be awkward anymore, or to not even care when it happens. Never doubt the ability of the human mind to shape itself!
Oh and by the way because it is helpful, a huge amout of awkwardness stems not from lacking social skills, but rather from feeling inherently unsafe with new people who you have no rapport with. The most important skill is to mentally accept that you are not constantly in danger! This is seriously crucial.
ayy Sheldon-like gang, I am not even autistic but my dad has nicknamed me Sheldon since I watched the show with the family. He also calls me alien so yeah
I’m very socially awkward and an introvert. Being around people is draining, but the fact that I can’t talk to people makes it worse and even more draining.
I knew that you can be socially awkward, but NOT shy. These 2 things don’t always go hand in hand. I’m glad someone is confirming this, thank you for the video.
@@pixeldarkgirlita858 exactly, you can be any of the (in this case 4) combinations, you can be shy, you can be awkward, you can be both, or you can be neither. Personally I'm pretty sure I'm both, I often just don't want to do social stuff, especially with most people, but even when I do want to socialize with others I often end up not doing so or doing so awkwardly, that's of course just in general not always, sometimes I do get to socialize normally and it can even be enjoyable with the right people and in moderation, also I seem to be getting rid of the awkwardness for the past year or so, or at least it's lessening, Idk if it will go completely, prob not. This channel is definitely part of what's helped me get better with social stuff and I'm very glad it exists and I ran into it. Sorry for the personal rant, it just happened and I hope you don't mind
Im socially awkward bc im hard of hearing and whenever i mishear someone and answer incorrectly or ask them to repeat themselves i feel so awkward and embarrassed i purposely isolate myself because conversation is so hard to make but the feeling of loneliness is the worst thing ive ever felt. I go to therapy hopefully inna couple years ill be okay enough to make friends and hvae fun
It takes a little investment in "courage"... BUT in the military, we got reprimanded about "sounding off"... That's a term for putting some force in the air and projecting your voice. It takes a little practice so you're actually "sounding off" (projecting) rather than just shouting and screaming at people, BUT one great thing about it, YOU CAN HEAR PEOPLE when they learn how to do it... There's a phenomenon in psychology where you can just start whispering, and the other people in the room will lower their own voices. My mother used to use that trick on us at home, and when she became the "Lunch-room Monitor" at the local Elementary School, she used it, and it was the quietest that lunchroom had been in DECADES... By the same token, if you raise your voice (projecting, or "sounding off") others will tend to follow suit. If anyone asks "why are we all shouting?" THEN you can explain that you're a bit hard of hearing, and "People just need to sound off like they've got a pair." (One of the military's FAVORITE phrases for it)... I'm a bit hard of hearing, myself... machinery... military time (and guns)... motorcycles... etc... (a LOT of "etc"s...) SO in conversation, at least around me, it doesn't tend to take too long for everyone to figure out how to use their "outside voice" even inside the house... Again, just to be clear, it's not yelling, shouting, or screaming at each other... It's just regular talking with a little more "push" from down in your ab' muscles... get that air flowing and "sound off" like you mean it. You'll be fine, and in little or no time, it'll be second nature... You won't even think about it anymore, and everyone just tends to accept it... Nobody asks me "Why's everyone shouting?" anymore... They occasionally say something like "Hey... you're hard of hearing, ain't you." AND I nod... sometimes with "Too many mile on motorcycles before they invented earplugs that were worth a damn."... AND sometimes just a nod. "Yup..." Folks are more forgiving than you'd expect, most of the time. ;o)
I feel like my intense social awkwardness is one of the reasons why I’ve wasted my late teens and twenties. I’m 28 now. I believe the reason why I’ve struggled to maintain conversations, to get out more, why I’ve actually worked poorly at jobs, why relationships have ended, why I have yet to really pursue my dreams, why I have not taken advantage of big opportunities, and why I’m currently living with my parents and jobless is because of me. Because of my intense fear of failure, my fear that I may prove my close ones right, and my fear of humiliation, which tends to then overwhelm my mind. I keep saying “what if you don’t make the cut? You’ve wasted your time then. What if everything they said is right? What if you say the wrong thing? What if you embarrass yourself? What if you take this opportunity and you mess it up royally and then wish you never taken the opportunity in the first place? What if everyone laughs at you? What if everyone talks about you behind your back? What if someone steals your ideas if you send out a story idea or open up about it? What if you pursue this path and find out that this whole endeavour was a waste of time? But what if you don’t do it then you definitely know that you’re not going to succeed? What if you get the opportunity, succeed but then mess it up? You wasted an opportunity then and taken it from someone who deserves it.” Bizarrely the reason why I fail to remember things is because all I’m thinking of is hoping not to forget things so it prevents anything else from coming in. I want to stop this from further doing more to waste my life (I’m in a relationship now which isn’t a waste) and I’m trying the best I can. However when I have tried, it has crashed poorly which is now what I think about whenever I think about opening up and trying to improve myself.
I can relate to your struggles. I have lost a lot of opportunities I failed a number of interviews, decided not to attend some, stopped going for dates coz was always flopping and wasting money. I realised that writing down all my fears and critically review them one by one helps me to stay calm. Planning ahead and imagining succeeding helps me as I will focus on that good mental picture as opposed to fear of failure. I always meditate do body scans maintain open body language n balance negative thoughts with positive ones
Thanks for making this video! I always thought I was more of an introvert than an extrovert, but had some characteristics of both. After watching this I definitely identify as more of a socially awkward person than an introvert.
I just started playing mystic messenger again and this appears not only with the game I'm currently obsessed but also with super relatable content lol this is really mind blowing because it makes me realize that my social anxiety first developed because of my social awkwardness hah I absolutely love your videos, keep up with the good work!!
But dude I'm both introverted AND socially awkward, and I've already know this for a long time XD, the outside world just isn't for me and I've come to terms with that🙂
Same, I honestly find both draining and awkward having to interact with new people. I've had to get better at being social because of what I study, but it doesn't stop being uncomfortable for me from time to time
I totally feel the same way. Having a social life just isn’t for me, and while I do get lonely at times, I’d rather remain alone than form fake friendships with people I don’t connect with, which seems to be nearly everyone
I FEEL FOR YOU💙. hope you get adopted by a good extrovert.They change you and get you out your comfort zone multiple times. Opening a reality thats hard to see by one self.😄
I do admit it's actually hard. I have homeschool meaning i no longer know how to really socialize, I feel like i could nearly pass out whenever i have to go out in public Even if it is for something simply like a haircut, my leg loves to do the jumping thing i swear. I agree alone time is more lonley. I feel like i'll forever be isloated. I dont know how to handle friends so i just dont even bother. I always feel as if im being judged by every pair of eye(s) out in public, I feel like crying and the world ending in my head whenever someone/anyone decides to talk to me. (Which normally- i do end up crying) it's just to stressful for me.
Mystic messenger references are sooo cute! I truly struggle with socializing my whole life and this video explained pretty much my recent interactions :(
Oh my gosh thank you so much this is ME this is ALL ME I’ve always wanted to know what I was. I didn’t know if I was introvert or extrovert. I want to talk but it’s very hard. I’m getting better as I’ve been taking baby steps.
I always thought i wouldn't call myself anxious since that word was too much to describe me and i wasn't scared to talk to people that much, but i think i kinda relate to being social akward, idk tho since i am not diagnosticed of anything
Same, kinda. Idk how to keep a conversation going. Whenever I want to say something, either I don’t say it or I say something weird. I would like to make friends but idk how lol
@@Hello-sm8ke that describes me as well, now that school has started I don't how to converse even when someone talks to me and as a result I have 0 friends ╥ ╥
Your videos always make my day! These Mystic Messenger references really topped the cake. Thank you for always being so creative and making great videos. 💛💛💛
Introversion has something to do with how draining it is to someone when they're socializing. I usually regret it within an hour or two when I'm out. I just have no courage to say that I wanted to go home because I'm afraid that they'd think I don't like them.
I do all of these things lmao. Been trying to work on it for a while now, and things are definitely improving, but I still have quite a ways to go before I can definitively say that I'm comfortable in social settings. I guess my blessing is that I'm introverted, so when I'm alone it's more of a relief for me. Thanks for the video! It was nice to see signs of social awkwardness laid out so I could better determine what to work on in the future. 🙂
I have ADHD and I collected a lot of negative social experiences with peers growing up and now I can get veery anxious, especially around new people... I normally am a loud, quirky personality who loves to connect with others, but I got rejected often for being too much... 😓 In some settings I now shut down completely and still am afraid, that people hate me...
This is so eye opening, thank you. I partially fit into the introvert description, but there are times when I swear I am actually an extrovert... This new perspective makes more sense now.
Ah MM! Also, I’ll be getting my first job anytime soon like I’ve mentioned before and I’m super nervous and I’m so close to shutting down but I hope it all goes well and then relief hits (kind of because I’ll always be interacting with new people)
I just got my first job today at a movie theater I've always wanted to work at so I understand. For me with going to the movies I know the environment and the people and I had an interview so I felt comfortable with who was giving me the interview today and they told me I do very well talking to a stranger. It's the social skills aspect I'll be working on. Don't feel bad. It will be your first job. Take it slow. Breathe. Lower your expectations and you'll be great!
@@isaiahvoss ah thank you so much for your input, that definitely puts me a little more at ease. There is definitely a lot of overthinking but hopefully it all turns out well. I’m glad it went well for you :) !
Thank you very much for this video I finally realized that I am just socially awkward! (Not happy with it) But I want to ask one question and it is 'How to socially awkward people act at home then?' I am just asking this out of curiosity :) I know this video is from 2 years ago ..so I don't think you'll answer 😅
Social Awkwardness is a case of missing social cues that most of us recognize instinctively, we take them for granted and view them as "easy" and "common"... BUT the socially awkward person simply doesn't see, hear, or otherwise sense them... OR s/he doesn't realize they're cues for something... Social Anxiety is a case of FEAR... plain and simple... about social situations. Whether it's a fear of missing social cues or a fear of just running into violent lunatics or psychos or having a "brain fart" and scrambling words... saying something either ridiculous or blurting out unintelligible word-salad... BUT it's all JUST a fear about it, because it hasn't happened yet... it only MIGHT happen at all... I knew someone who was INCREDIBLY intelligent and articulate. She was well read and knowledgeable. She wasn't afraid (when I could get her started talking at all) to admit when she didn't know something, but when she knew what she was talking about (which was most of the time) she could carry a conversation for HOURS... The trouble was getting her to participate in the conversation at all... at least, in the beginning of knowing her... I'd directly ask her questions to get her to start communicating... and when the others around us would actually pay attention and let her finish her thoughts consistently, she grew a bit out of her figurative shell... She was socially anxious... BUT once we could connect a little, over time, at least around our group, she grew... Toward the last couple years of high school, I'd just turn and tell her she was thinking too loud... (kind of a joke about not talking) AND she'd giggle and join the conversation... witty remarks and sharing in the sarcasm and all... I knew another guy who SIMPLY COULD NOT understand a social cue... If it was "wrong" at the moment, HE was the one to say it or do it. You name it, he'd trespass it... If it was a "normal social rule" he'd find a way to sh*t all over it... AND he regularly got picked on and even knocked around from time to time for saying to doing something insensitive and stupid... BUT in his mind, he was THE life of the party! He really THOUGHT he was popular with everyone... witty and charming and everything... BUT most of us struggled with a deep-seeded need to punch him in the face rather than look at him or listen to him... HE was Socially Awkward... ...AND no, he wasn't an idiot. On the subjects he actually knew about, he was smart as anyone... He was gifted with electronics and his advice was often sound. He just had a way of saying things that could crawl RIGHT up your *ss or push your last button, get on your nerves... SOMETHING about it would certainly "rub you the wrong way" as soon as he opened his mouth... AND the more he'd talk, the more he seemed to be trying to get you to punch him in the face... Like there's a super-power "Little brother TIMES 1000" and he HAD IT... ...BUT he still thought he was "a great guy"... SO... The "short" of it, is yeah. There's DEFINITELY a difference between "Socially Awkward" and "Socially Anxious". Hope this helps. ;o)
As expected, I tick basically every single one of these boxes here, and ever since I've gotten to learn more about my general issues/traumas (or rather, learned to give them a name) I've gained more clarity, but have also inadvertently given more thought to my various socializing issues...all outlined on every single point of this video. Well truthfully, this difficulty of socializing -which might've been about a decade long by this point- ironically goes both ways; while on one hand I worry about other people judging me, on the other hand, I -worse still- worry that, because I barely even say much -nvm anything of note- I feel redundant/essentially invisible on any given group of people I'm currently a part of; due to not having/knowing much to say -minimal knowledge of slang words/funny wits to respond to most situations doesn't help matters- I on the contrary feel like people don't even acknowledge my existence much, nvm have anything to say. Even when I do try to force myself into the conversation, whatever I mean to say comes out as much weaker voiced than expected and doesn't end up amounting to anything meaningful. All of this causes me to essentially "tab out" and not even bother with basics anymore, because what's the point when I don't have anything meaningful to add? Just a waste of time and more. This used to be even worse when I took things more personally without even realizing it, unintentionally hurting people in the process because I thought they were just avoiding me because of various reasons making me inadequate, and that I just needed to force myself in some more and say more interesting stuff to become included. But yeah I've remained trapped in this cycle for possibly over a decade by this point, and even though I sometimes manage to get my mind off it, when I see others and how they address each other so easily -or even with a friendly banter, while it feels like basically no one would ever do with me- and start conversations without much awkwardness, while few are willing to do so with me (beyond just saying hello with courtesy/sometimes try to make random unrelated joke/question out of nowhere that I feel caught off guard and don't know how to properly respond because I don't expect other people to even see/treat me like a normal person anymore. I know most of what I'm saying isn't actually that bad in reality, and I'm still working on getting rid of my victim mentality -especially after having actively pointed it out to me and getting me alarmed about it- but sometimes I just dip back into this state and wonder what the point of any of this even is.
I’ve always been socially awkward.. mostly with my grandma, cousins, & classmates, etc. i can only talk to my mom/siblings. i literally can never talk to anyone. *i start freezing up.*
Entendo bem o inglês e adoro os vídeos desse canal, e, realmente, eu sou exatamente do jeito que o vídeo descreve. E isso se dá por causa do meu autismo, eu também sempre penso muito numa coisa que poderia ter falado para alguém, mas que guardei para mim por me sentir desconfortável.
Timestamps: 1. 0:23 Your social avoidance is from fear of failure,not becuase it’s draining 2 . 1:09 you’re uncomfortable in social situations 3. 2:04 you find it uncomfortable to make conversation with others 4. 3:00 you’re not as verbally articulate as you’d like 5. 3:57 alone time makes you feel more lonely 6. 4:36 you have twitches
today my school had a big event and i had to speak but since i am socially akward i forgot every single thing i had to say so i improvised and it ended up being better than my original speach- the weird part is that i didnt even know my teammates (idk their names) yet we did surprisingly well
I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know you but you deserve friends. Everyone does even if it's one or a couple. I may have lots of people that support me in my life but it shouldn't make you think differently of yourself. Think of this quote when you make a friend, I think it's the beginning of a beautiful friendship. It might spark some friendships! Be confident with yourself when you're around people because you'll be noticed when you try to be yourself around other people and they'll like you just the way you are!
@@Psych2go oh, its been almost a usar, when i was searching about relationship on UA-cam, then i found your wonderful video: "5 habits that ruin relationships". This video helped me so much, thank you. ❤️
This really described me I'm so glad that I know what it truly is for me. Sometimes when I'm in a situation when I have to talk I have it all in my head, but it comes out all bad and I forget words, or I stutter a lot. Also, I have a tendency to shake my leg A LOT when I have to talk or perform or anything to a class or a group of 1-to a big crowd. Example: one time in math we were doing a set of problems, so I just figured out the answers, wrote it down and sat there quietly. I looked out the window when I heard the teacher call out my name. Since I hate saying answers out loud - especially in math-- I got scared and lost the answer in my head and my words. I started bouncing my leg like crazy and tried to say something, but it came out as "I uhh ... so-... uhm- the, the..." I just said what another person said so I could get out of it and started crying because I felt that all the kids were laughing and judging me.
I never was in a relationship but I'll give you some pointers. If you think this woman is attractive, don't overthink of going up to her because you might have your chance to get to know this lady. Don't give your feelings to this lady unless if you have a good connection. I understand where you come from. If you think of a movie you really like think of a script to say to her don’t do a long one just think of a sentence to say to this lady you find attractive and approach to her with confidence.
I feel like i have most of the signs reported in this video, but i don't know if i can call myself a social awkward because that makes me feel like i'm more of a delusional person trying to just get an excuse to justify my inhability to socialize
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0:21 Your social avoidance is from fear of failure, not because it’s draining.
1:10 You’re uncomfortable in social situations.
2:04 You find it difficult to make conversation with others.
3:03 You’re not as verbally articulate as you’d like.
3:56 Alone time makes you feel more lonely.
4:36 You have twitches.
So I'm a socially awkward introvert with damage from my parents. Wonderful...
@@peanutsaber8837 same :(
@@peanutsaber8837 me too 😵💫
What if I'm both
I have 2,3 & 4
"I get more socially awkward when I get closer to people. Not the opposite. Because they're closer. It feels like the spotlight is on me, and they're sitting in the first row vs. the back.
" - Scooby Doo
Same
Honestly I think once I start to talk to them. It should be easy. But no. I’m always worrying about what they are thinking of me or if they even want to talk to me. I just never know peoples motives. But after a while that can go away and I’ll be more comfortable with them. So it’s like a bridge
🎯
Relatable
Same when i was a kid but you can adopt in the time being, its normal for young ones i survive 😄 and now they thought im Miss Congeniality well i just got true to myself and doesnt think if they dont like the way iam
I'm socially awkward due to my sheltered lifestyle, and while I'm shy, but I tend to realize that it is caused by my social awkwardness and can't find the right words and always can't form a basic conversation without fumbling over my words
A tip I'll give you: Do you like movies? Ok think of a script of what you're gonna say if you're in that scene so you can have confidence to be around other people. Be calm In conversations and then look at the eye of that person or group so you feel comfortable around them.
@@isaiahvoss thank you for that advice and I'll take it to consideration
@LunAria LoonAtic The social skills part is what I have to work on. I'm on the Autism Spectrum and it's a difficult thing to do to approach people especially for help but it's a process I have to work on especially now having a job at a movie theater but my tip is do you like movies, think of a script based on the situation that is at play and figure out lines in your head of what to say to that person or group of people and say your lines even if you improvise at it. But you'll get better once you do it!
I have this thing if i fumble over my words, i blow on my tongue ( like you would if you tease some one, sticking out my tongue and blow on it ) WELL, i can tell you.. within the panic of "i can't get the words out" i do this without thinking and therefore sometimes without swallowing first.. so yes the cringe is big. Making it worse for myself 😂 i then silently say to myself " why do i do this " and loudly thnk to myself " run you awkward fool, run "
When I talk to other I don't like me, I don't like my personality..
As a socially awkward person, i could relate to 4 and 5. I always want to make conversation with people, and have a full sentence cooked in my head, but when I speak out, I end up stuttering, or my sentences get chopped up into pieces that end up not making sense, and it gets quite embarrassing, and when get some alone time for relief, I just get depressed and lonely and it sucks. If anyone has any advice that helps me being more social, please feel free to reply.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have a form of depression but it's not severe and I do feel embarrassed or edgy when I say something that I shouldn't have but I don't make that mistake by not saying it again. I was in speech and I was taught to be slow with your words so people can understand you and not talk so fast even though I'm on the Autism Spectrum and I can talk fast but you gotta try. You can and still have a chance to have a conversation with people. It's the eye contact, body language, being relaxed and being confident with your words when you're talking. Do you like movies? Think of a script. Think of what you're gonna say as If you're in a scene in one of your favorite movies and say that sentence as fluently as you can. But you don't have to label yourself as socially awkward even though I did in my comment in a good way. You can make good friendships with the right people if they want to understand you as you want to understand them. People will like you just the way you are If they got to know you and you getting to know them.
I used to be exactly the same but have discovered over the last couple of years how to relax and not stress so much. Meditation was the answer for me and repeating positive affirmations. It’s crucial to be able to relax and over time, by repeating positive messages, they honestly start to become reality. When you find yourself talking negatively about yourself, cut it off and say ‘I am relaxed and can talk with ease to people’. Your subconscious will start to believe it and it becomes your new reality. Whatever you tell yourself is what manifests. Follow guided meditations for anxiety and do it every day and you’ll be amazed how things will change. Good luck😊
Same, how the heck can i just word what i really want to say?? Its excruciatingly frustrating esp when i need to talk. Im an introvert, but still have a big problem on articulating my thoughts, which sucks cuz it leads to stuttering. :(
@@pepperuu3403 Try taking a breather, and understand that just because you stutter doesnt mean they won't like you. When you slow down how fast your thoughts are going, and lower the stakes of messing up, its way easier for your brain to say the right words.
My advice would be to watch shows like "FRIENDS" or "The Big Bang Theory"... also, tv shows (movies not so much) of families and co-workers... like "Chicago Fire" or whatever show is of your same mindset and, focus on the interactions and THAT can be like a social class 👍🏼
the mystic messenger references quite literally made my afternoon so much better
Samee:)
Yo, same. Yoosung looks so cute.
sameee
They did lol and helped with the lingering feeling of the pain from 707’s route
Lolol!
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”♥️♥️
So true. What other quotes do you adhere by?
and unfortunately people treat you like crap for not sharing their exact views.
@@Psych2go too many!☺️ especially ones that resonate in times of need♥️
@@cp368productions2 I watched a video from a creator named Girl with the Dogs. She’s a pet groomer that narrates her pet grooming in a monotone, dry humor way and she was grooming a cat she used to own. She had to rehome said kitty because she had dogs as well and kitty was peeing in places it shouldn’t, usually a sign of stress or illness. In an attempt to be funny she said the cat did it out of spite. One viewer commented that, as a professional pet person (I guess you would call it), she shouldn’t be making jokes that perpetuate a stereotype of cats (bear with me we’re pet lovers here) because people actually do believe cats pee out of the litter box out of spite of something and will take them back to the shelter or flat out abandon them. You should’ve seen the amount of abuse this person got, not the content creator but the girl who made the comment. What’s worse was the content creator chimed in so she knew what was happening and did nothing about it. The fact is people do abandon their pets when they have problems like that cat had and I think her comment in the video may have struck a nerve. The OP wasn’t mean about it at all she just said that she shouldn’t be perpetuating that stereotype about cats. So I reported it because people really went after the OP for having an opinion. It seems civil discourse cannot exist on any social media platform.
Love this quote
This helps me so much 💀 whenever I speak to people it’s rather I’m very aware of what I’m saying and feel like shutting up to not embarrass myself, or I’m completely unaware of my rambling and end up being a mess !!
Same
SAME🥲
sameee
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Whoever is socially awkward here, we will always be here for you!!! The whole Psych2go community !!! ^^
Yes, let's bond together lol
@@Psych2go idk man, makes me feel anxious
Thanks tomorrow I go for y haircut I don't know if anyone relates but I find that a really stressful thing
I'm socially awkward
:)
I saw Mystic Messenger on the thumbnail and clicked on this video. For the most part, I think I’m both socially awkward and an introvert. I enjoy the silence, usually only speaking when someone asks me something or speaks to me first. I’m okay at talking BUT i’m definitely more socially active through texts rather than actual in-person socialization. Though even texting is exhausting sometimes.
I wonder if being more chatty in text than in-person makes a difference? Is there a reason for that as well? Why I prefer online chatting than in-person (cuz sometimes I also just text even though I’m sitting beside the person I’m talking to)?
probably because you dont feel that much pressure to respond immediately and because there is less information to take in. Personally I dont approach strangers/people I dont know that well either and I dont have an issue with it, I can definitely talk once I trust you or if you ask me something. Cant say texting was ever that bad, maybe I d ask myself if I said something wrong in exceptional circumtances but that is about it and I never text if I am face to face with a person, just makes no sense
I’m actually both. I’m a shy introvert, I really enjoy spending my time alone. It makes me comfortable. I’m also socially awkward, I REALLY have a hard time making new friends and I always overthink if they’re being annoyed or enjoying it. Thank you for the video though! :)
Ikr most of the time I wan't to be alone but when I want to talk to anyone it's just too hard :(
Im a shy introvert with social anxiety and constant DP/DR
I think I also fit in both, sometimes I'm able to to have a nice chat with a few people and sometimes I can't
Bro, literally me, except that thankfully, I don't overthink things like I did before; now I don't care what ppl think about me, it's draining, and it was constantly hurting me (my wellbeing)
did you change ? if so how?
OMG THE THUMBNAIL 😭😭💓💓💓💓
I have this situation I noticed since last few years, where after this certain "thing" happened, I no longer capable of talking. No words come out for almost a year and my brain became awfully quiet, with little thoughts. My mother insist on taking me to the doctor, but I refuse because I think it was calming. I know I'm worrying her, but whenever I think about a certain "someone" who was undergoing treatment at the time, and my father who seems annoyed at my "attitude", I just told myself to stop being a bother.
Now I think it's almost 4-5 years and talking has become a very difficult thing, words coming out (if ever) tend to become aggressive and angry, and I become more tired just thinking about conversing.
I'm sure an expert could help. The actress lark from "saved by the bell" had a terrible disorder that affected her speech. People just said that she was crazy. But Dr. Oz set her up with a specialist and helped her to formulate her sentences again. I know your situation is different. But that's just an example of how specialist can help.
@@wildonez3076 I also wish to find one, but living in rural place with stereotypes about mental health care still an issue.... It's not just that, finding someone who specializes in mental health care here is so rare. I need to go to big cities, which right now beyond my reach.
I'm so socially awkward that I've stopped initiating conversions with people I don't know. Unless they initiate. I tend to not engage with anyone. When I have in the past I've embarrassed myself so many times.
this is so relatable
I have had this policy basically forever myself
Same here
Yah, this has been me most my life
I have had this my entire life. I will only start a conversation when I'm texting
Lmao when you’re both an introvert and socially awkward 🤘🥲
😔✋🏼
You can’t be both
Same 🫠
@@RzVids why not
@@RzVidsI'm isfp and I'm socially awkward
Mildly hurt by the title but definitely understand the tips and the difference between the two tips of people 😅 sometimes what you don’t want to hear is what you need the most lol
Do you have another title you want to suggest to us instead? :)
@@Psych2go What Is Social Awkwardness? 6 Ways To Tell If You Have Trouble In Conversation
I'm socially anxious 24/7 and am always awkward :/ gotta love apathy and hopelessness of depression with overthinking and being overwhelmed cuz of social anxiety and Normal anxiety
Don't feel bad. I'm that way too because of my Autism I've mentioned in the comments. It's a process you have to work at. If you like movies, think of a script and figure out at the exact moment what to say to someone because you can only get better if you keep doing it all the time. Think of what you enjoy in your head while those moments of your social awkwardness arises and go from your head. Even try to be involved in a conversation.
do you know the cause of your social anxiety?
@@ririzamel285 it's probably cuz of my self sabotaging thoughts lingering cuz of depression
I LOVE THE MYSTIC MESSENGER THEME! ❤️
yeah
This video ended 18 yrs of all the struggles of finding out who am I truly. Now I can finally heal from it ♥
Yes it really takes time to understands who we really are, at first we thought we're weird or somewhat different from others, or sometimes we feel we never belong but in the long years we get to know ourselves and tend to blend in socially coz we learn from every experience, we struggle but its a part of growing up 😊
Exactly
I’m both social awkward AND an introvert. Double homicide 💀
Same 😭
Dude I'm same way
Same 😭
I'm socially awkward because of my Autism like Sheldon Cooper from TBBT and it makes me who I am in a way that's part of my personality to enjoy social settings. I can also feel uncomfortable whether I don't have a lot to say but it's a process just like Sheldon or he just uses sarcasm in his sentences like I do sometimes. Don't feel bad I'm here for you! If you need to talk to someone comment below!
Edit: I've got my first job at a movie theater I've always wanted to work at!
I used to be similar but after 5 years I gained the confidence to not be awkward anymore, or to not even care when it happens. Never doubt the ability of the human mind to shape itself!
Oh and by the way because it is helpful, a huge amout of awkwardness stems not from lacking social skills, but rather from feeling inherently unsafe with new people who you have no rapport with. The most important skill is to mentally accept that you are not constantly in danger! This is seriously crucial.
I have ASD too but I'm ashamed of it and I mask it bc of how people treat me and bc I hate myself
ayy Sheldon-like gang, I am not even autistic but my dad has nicknamed me Sheldon since I watched the show with the family. He also calls me alien so yeah
I’m very socially awkward and an introvert. Being around people is draining, but the fact that I can’t talk to people makes it worse and even more draining.
I'm like that some too:(
I knew that you can be socially awkward, but NOT shy. These 2 things don’t always go hand in hand. I’m glad someone is confirming this, thank you for the video.
i mean, i'm both but, yeah, not everyone must be both
@@pixeldarkgirlita858 exactly, you can be any of the (in this case 4) combinations, you can be shy, you can be awkward, you can be both, or you can be neither.
Personally I'm pretty sure I'm both, I often just don't want to do social stuff, especially with most people, but even when I do want to socialize with others I often end up not doing so or doing so awkwardly, that's of course just in general not always, sometimes I do get to socialize normally and it can even be enjoyable with the right people and in moderation, also I seem to be getting rid of the awkwardness for the past year or so, or at least it's lessening, Idk if it will go completely, prob not. This channel is definitely part of what's helped me get better with social stuff and I'm very glad it exists and I ran into it. Sorry for the personal rant, it just happened and I hope you don't mind
Yep. I have little anxiety in social situations, but I often find it difficult to connect with others.
@@ieatkids03 same, it's like I don't know what to say and when I talk I screw it up
Exactly
I am both, except for the fact that I got used to be alone and now I quite enjoy it. It is not a torture to enjoy my own company 😊
Same
THE THUMBNAIL!!! omg the mysme characters look so cute
The mystic messenger references I LOVE IT
Im socially awkward bc im hard of hearing and whenever i mishear someone and answer incorrectly or ask them to repeat themselves i feel so awkward and embarrassed i purposely isolate myself because conversation is so hard to make but the feeling of loneliness is the worst thing ive ever felt. I go to therapy hopefully inna couple years ill be okay enough to make friends and hvae fun
It takes a little investment in "courage"... BUT in the military, we got reprimanded about "sounding off"... That's a term for putting some force in the air and projecting your voice. It takes a little practice so you're actually "sounding off" (projecting) rather than just shouting and screaming at people, BUT one great thing about it, YOU CAN HEAR PEOPLE when they learn how to do it...
There's a phenomenon in psychology where you can just start whispering, and the other people in the room will lower their own voices. My mother used to use that trick on us at home, and when she became the "Lunch-room Monitor" at the local Elementary School, she used it, and it was the quietest that lunchroom had been in DECADES...
By the same token, if you raise your voice (projecting, or "sounding off") others will tend to follow suit. If anyone asks "why are we all shouting?" THEN you can explain that you're a bit hard of hearing, and "People just need to sound off like they've got a pair." (One of the military's FAVORITE phrases for it)...
I'm a bit hard of hearing, myself... machinery... military time (and guns)... motorcycles... etc... (a LOT of "etc"s...) SO in conversation, at least around me, it doesn't tend to take too long for everyone to figure out how to use their "outside voice" even inside the house... Again, just to be clear, it's not yelling, shouting, or screaming at each other... It's just regular talking with a little more "push" from down in your ab' muscles... get that air flowing and "sound off" like you mean it. You'll be fine, and in little or no time, it'll be second nature... You won't even think about it anymore, and everyone just tends to accept it...
Nobody asks me "Why's everyone shouting?" anymore... They occasionally say something like "Hey... you're hard of hearing, ain't you." AND I nod... sometimes with "Too many mile on motorcycles before they invented earplugs that were worth a damn."... AND sometimes just a nod. "Yup..."
Folks are more forgiving than you'd expect, most of the time. ;o)
Same..
I feel like my intense social awkwardness is one of the reasons why I’ve wasted my late teens and twenties.
I’m 28 now. I believe the reason why I’ve struggled to maintain conversations, to get out more, why I’ve actually worked poorly at jobs, why relationships have ended, why I have yet to really pursue my dreams, why I have not taken advantage of big opportunities, and why I’m currently living with my parents and jobless is because of me. Because of my intense fear of failure, my fear that I may prove my close ones right, and my fear of humiliation, which tends to then overwhelm my mind. I keep saying “what if you don’t make the cut? You’ve wasted your time then. What if everything they said is right? What if you say the wrong thing? What if you embarrass yourself? What if you take this opportunity and you mess it up royally and then wish you never taken the opportunity in the first place? What if everyone laughs at you? What if everyone talks about you behind your back? What if someone steals your ideas if you send out a story idea or open up about it? What if you pursue this path and find out that this whole endeavour was a waste of time? But what if you don’t do it then you definitely know that you’re not going to succeed? What if you get the opportunity, succeed but then mess it up? You wasted an opportunity then and taken it from someone who deserves it.”
Bizarrely the reason why I fail to remember things is because all I’m thinking of is hoping not to forget things so it prevents anything else from coming in.
I want to stop this from further doing more to waste my life (I’m in a relationship now which isn’t a waste) and I’m trying the best I can. However when I have tried, it has crashed poorly which is now what I think about whenever I think about opening up and trying to improve myself.
I can relate to your struggles. I have lost a lot of opportunities I failed a number of interviews, decided not to attend some, stopped going for dates coz was always flopping and wasting money. I realised that writing down all my fears and critically review them one by one helps me to stay calm. Planning ahead and imagining succeeding helps me as I will focus on that good mental picture as opposed to fear of failure. I always meditate do body scans maintain open body language n balance negative thoughts with positive ones
Mystic Messenger’s miniature brought me here, but I’m glad, it’s an amazing video
Socially awkward, introvert, anxiety...
"Oh, yeah. It's all coming together"
Yeahhh
damned
Omg that Mystic Messenger thumbnail is amazing 💕
Thanks for making this video! I always thought I was more of an introvert than an extrovert, but had some characteristics of both. After watching this I definitely identify as more of a socially awkward person than an introvert.
when you're introverted, shy, and (sometimes) socially awkward all in one package: sayonara, socializing :l
I’m a socially anxious introvert. It’s painful and exhausting
You watch Jazz Skeptic Guys?
I’m, too and I agree with you 😉
These are all true for me in irl but not when I'm on the Internet lol.
Same LOL 😆
I just started playing mystic messenger again and this appears not only with the game I'm currently obsessed but also with super relatable content lol
this is really mind blowing because it makes me realize that my social anxiety first developed because of my social awkwardness hah
I absolutely love your videos, keep up with the good work!!
Your videos are helping with my daily life right now tysm for posting these ^^
But dude I'm both introverted AND socially awkward, and I've already know this for a long time XD, the outside world just isn't for me and I've come to terms with that🙂
Same, I honestly find both draining and awkward having to interact with new people. I've had to get better at being social because of what I study, but it doesn't stop being uncomfortable for me from time to time
I totally feel the same way. Having a social life just isn’t for me, and while I do get lonely at times, I’d rather remain alone than form fake friendships with people I don’t connect with, which seems to be nearly everyone
I FEEL FOR YOU💙. hope you get adopted by a good extrovert.They change you and get you out your comfort zone multiple times. Opening a reality thats hard to see by one self.😄
@@mostritozuri7443 we kinda like the comfort zone though
Imagine actually interacting with the outside world, couldnt be me
As an ambivert that is socially awkward, everyone thought i was an introvert and can't believe that im an ambivert 🥹
I do admit it's actually hard. I have homeschool meaning i no longer know how to really socialize, I feel like i could nearly pass out whenever i have to go out in public Even if it is for something simply like a haircut, my leg loves to do the jumping thing i swear. I agree alone time is more lonley. I feel like i'll forever be isloated. I dont know how to handle friends so i just dont even bother. I always feel as if im being judged by every pair of eye(s) out in public, I feel like crying and the world ending in my head whenever someone/anyone decides to talk to me. (Which normally- i do end up crying) it's just to stressful for me.
pardon, what's the "jumping thing"?
I freaked out when I saw the MysticMessenger characters in the thumbnail 💞💞💞
"You feel like you are being judged by people around you"
And the feeling is mutual. Mysanthropists, assemble!
Mystic messenger references are sooo cute! I truly struggle with socializing my whole life and this video explained pretty much my recent interactions :(
I think I'm more socially awkward than introverted.
Same
Oh my gosh thank you so much this is ME this is ALL ME I’ve always wanted to know what I was. I didn’t know if I was introvert or extrovert. I want to talk but it’s very hard. I’m getting better as I’ve been taking baby steps.
I always thought i wouldn't call myself anxious since that word was too much to describe me and i wasn't scared to talk to people that much, but i think i kinda relate to being social akward, idk tho since i am not diagnosticed of anything
Same, kinda. Idk how to keep a conversation going. Whenever I want to say something, either I don’t say it or I say something weird. I would like to make friends but idk how lol
@@Hello-sm8ke sameeeee pandemic ruined me lmao
@@Hello-sm8ke that describes me as well, now that school has started I don't how to converse even when someone talks to me and as a result I have 0 friends ╥ ╥
Same.. I’m not scared of talking to people, I don’t know *how* to talk to people 😂
@@bennekin BRO FR I WAS SUCH AN EXTROVERT BEFORE THIS SHITTY PANDEMIC
i thought i had socialy anxiety but i am just socially awkward
Amazing video, also the mystic messenger reference 👌
Thanks for using the mystic messenger character😭😭😭I missed them so muchh❤️❤️
When you're both introverted and socially awkward:
I just hate being alone but I also don't like people 🥸😅
Amazing video as always! I absolutely love and adore the mystic messenger drawings throughout the video!! (*´∇`)ﾉ
thanks for taking me back to 2016 with the mystic messenger references
Aww i love the mystic messenger themed video 😍😍
Your videos always make my day! These Mystic Messenger references really topped the cake. Thank you for always being so creative and making great videos. 💛💛💛
As an introvert shy person with social anxiety, this was pretty relatable to me
Ok I loved all the MM drawings uwu thank you for your video :3 So cute~
*M-Mystic Messenger??? You gave me flashbacks to my many sleepless nights 😭*
Omg, when I saw the thumbnail I literally had to take a few seconds to process it because I was like "mystic... Messenger?"
It made my day🥰
Just realized that I’m probably not even and introvert just socially awkward.
I'm socially awkward, but I need my alone time so I guess that makes me a socially awkward introvert
Introversion has something to do with how draining it is to someone when they're socializing. I usually regret it within an hour or two when I'm out. I just have no courage to say that I wanted to go home because I'm afraid that they'd think I don't like them.
OMG MYSTIC MESSENGER!! I LOVE YOUR ART BTW
Speaking of the thumbnail, I should start playing mystic messenger again but I am just exhausted to play other games on my priority list
Have fun and let us know if you do!
the pain of being an introvert with severe social anxiety....
I love the mystic messenger references
I do all of these things lmao. Been trying to work on it for a while now, and things are definitely improving, but I still have quite a ways to go before I can definitively say that I'm comfortable in social settings. I guess my blessing is that I'm introverted, so when I'm alone it's more of a relief for me.
Thanks for the video! It was nice to see signs of social awkwardness laid out so I could better determine what to work on in the future. 🙂
I have ADHD and I collected a lot of negative social experiences with peers growing up and now I can get veery anxious, especially around new people...
I normally am a loud, quirky personality who loves to connect with others, but I got rejected often for being too much... 😓 In some settings I now shut down completely and still am afraid, that people hate me...
This is so eye opening, thank you. I partially fit into the introvert description, but there are times when I swear I am actually an extrovert... This new perspective makes more sense now.
Ah MM! Also, I’ll be getting my first job anytime soon like I’ve mentioned before and I’m super nervous and I’m so close to shutting down but I hope it all goes well and then relief hits (kind of because I’ll always be interacting with new people)
I just got my first job today at a movie theater I've always wanted to work at so I understand. For me with going to the movies I know the environment and the people and I had an interview so I felt comfortable with who was giving me the interview today and they told me I do very well talking to a stranger. It's the social skills aspect I'll be working on. Don't feel bad. It will be your first job. Take it slow. Breathe. Lower your expectations and you'll be great!
@@isaiahvoss ah thank you so much for your input, that definitely puts me a little more at ease. There is definitely a lot of overthinking but hopefully it all turns out well. I’m glad it went well for you :) !
I loooove Mystic Messenger. I really appreciate all the details. Elizabeth the 3rd, chocolate milk, eyeless MC ♡
I totally relate. I’ve been going to therapy for a few months for my social anxiety and many of these are things I am working on…easier did than done
I am crying screaming and throwing up at all the Mystic Messenger references in 2022 (also the socially awkward points are accurate af)
Thank you very much for this video I finally realized that I am just socially awkward! (Not happy with it) But I want to ask one question and it is 'How to socially awkward people act at home then?' I am just asking this out of curiosity :)
I know this video is from 2 years ago ..so I don't think you'll answer 😅
MYSTIC MESSENGER I'M CRYIN
I needed this
lol
Now what if you’re an introvert, socially awkward and socially anxious?
It makes zero friends-
Aww mystic messanger ! 💕💕
I hate being socially awkward
Is there a difference between social awkwardness and social anxiety?
I believe so!
Social Awkwardness is a case of missing social cues that most of us recognize instinctively, we take them for granted and view them as "easy" and "common"... BUT the socially awkward person simply doesn't see, hear, or otherwise sense them... OR s/he doesn't realize they're cues for something...
Social Anxiety is a case of FEAR... plain and simple... about social situations. Whether it's a fear of missing social cues or a fear of just running into violent lunatics or psychos or having a "brain fart" and scrambling words... saying something either ridiculous or blurting out unintelligible word-salad... BUT it's all JUST a fear about it, because it hasn't happened yet... it only MIGHT happen at all...
I knew someone who was INCREDIBLY intelligent and articulate. She was well read and knowledgeable. She wasn't afraid (when I could get her started talking at all) to admit when she didn't know something, but when she knew what she was talking about (which was most of the time) she could carry a conversation for HOURS... The trouble was getting her to participate in the conversation at all... at least, in the beginning of knowing her... I'd directly ask her questions to get her to start communicating... and when the others around us would actually pay attention and let her finish her thoughts consistently, she grew a bit out of her figurative shell...
She was socially anxious... BUT once we could connect a little, over time, at least around our group, she grew... Toward the last couple years of high school, I'd just turn and tell her she was thinking too loud... (kind of a joke about not talking) AND she'd giggle and join the conversation... witty remarks and sharing in the sarcasm and all...
I knew another guy who SIMPLY COULD NOT understand a social cue... If it was "wrong" at the moment, HE was the one to say it or do it. You name it, he'd trespass it... If it was a "normal social rule" he'd find a way to sh*t all over it... AND he regularly got picked on and even knocked around from time to time for saying to doing something insensitive and stupid... BUT in his mind, he was THE life of the party! He really THOUGHT he was popular with everyone... witty and charming and everything... BUT most of us struggled with a deep-seeded need to punch him in the face rather than look at him or listen to him... HE was Socially Awkward...
...AND no, he wasn't an idiot. On the subjects he actually knew about, he was smart as anyone... He was gifted with electronics and his advice was often sound. He just had a way of saying things that could crawl RIGHT up your *ss or push your last button, get on your nerves... SOMETHING about it would certainly "rub you the wrong way" as soon as he opened his mouth... AND the more he'd talk, the more he seemed to be trying to get you to punch him in the face... Like there's a super-power "Little brother TIMES 1000" and he HAD IT...
...BUT he still thought he was "a great guy"...
SO... The "short" of it, is yeah. There's DEFINITELY a difference between "Socially Awkward" and "Socially Anxious". Hope this helps. ;o)
As expected, I tick basically every single one of these boxes here, and ever since I've gotten to learn more about my general issues/traumas (or rather, learned to give them a name) I've gained more clarity, but have also inadvertently given more thought to my various socializing issues...all outlined on every single point of this video. Well truthfully, this difficulty of socializing -which might've been about a decade long by this point- ironically goes both ways; while on one hand I worry about other people judging me, on the other hand, I -worse still- worry that, because I barely even say much -nvm anything of note- I feel redundant/essentially invisible on any given group of people I'm currently a part of; due to not having/knowing much to say -minimal knowledge of slang words/funny wits to respond to most situations doesn't help matters- I on the contrary feel like people don't even acknowledge my existence much, nvm have anything to say. Even when I do try to force myself into the conversation, whatever I mean to say comes out as much weaker voiced than expected and doesn't end up amounting to anything meaningful. All of this causes me to essentially "tab out" and not even bother with basics anymore, because what's the point when I don't have anything meaningful to add? Just a waste of time and more. This used to be even worse when I took things more personally without even realizing it, unintentionally hurting people in the process because I thought they were just avoiding me because of various reasons making me inadequate, and that I just needed to force myself in some more and say more interesting stuff to become included. But yeah I've remained trapped in this cycle for possibly over a decade by this point, and even though I sometimes manage to get my mind off it, when I see others and how they address each other so easily -or even with a friendly banter, while it feels like basically no one would ever do with me- and start conversations without much awkwardness, while few are willing to do so with me (beyond just saying hello with courtesy/sometimes try to make random unrelated joke/question out of nowhere that I feel caught off guard and don't know how to properly respond because I don't expect other people to even see/treat me like a normal person anymore. I know most of what I'm saying isn't actually that bad in reality, and I'm still working on getting rid of my victim mentality -especially after having actively pointed it out to me and getting me alarmed about it- but sometimes I just dip back into this state and wonder what the point of any of this even is.
i clicked so fast when i saw the thumbnail lol
Mystic Messenger!!!
I’ve always been socially awkward.. mostly with my grandma, cousins, & classmates, etc. i can only talk to my mom/siblings. i literally can never talk to anyone. *i start freezing up.*
Entendo bem o inglês e adoro os vídeos desse canal, e, realmente, eu sou exatamente do jeito que o vídeo descreve. E isso se dá por causa do meu autismo, eu também sempre penso muito numa coisa que poderia ter falado para alguém, mas que guardei para mim por me sentir desconfortável.
Every time I watch these “signs it’s not introversion but this thing instead” I always walk away thinking “it’s definitely both”
Timestamps:
1. 0:23 Your social avoidance is from fear of failure,not becuase it’s draining
2 . 1:09 you’re uncomfortable in social situations
3. 2:04 you find it uncomfortable to make conversation with others
4. 3:00 you’re not as verbally articulate as you’d like
5. 3:57 alone time makes you feel more lonely
6. 4:36 you have twitches
Thanks for putting this together! How's your day going?
@@Psych2go I’m good thx!
Love the mystic messenger references in the thumbnail
today my school had a big event and i had to speak but since i am socially akward i forgot every single thing i had to say so i improvised and it ended up being better than my original speach- the weird part is that i didnt even know my teammates (idk their names) yet we did surprisingly well
OMG THE MYSTIC MESSENGER REFERENCES ARE PERFECTJJBEJRK I'M SO HAPPY RN
It would be so nice to see more of them !!
i'm introverted not socially awkward i still have barely any friends :(
I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know you but you deserve friends. Everyone does even if it's one or a couple. I may have lots of people that support me in my life but it shouldn't make you think differently of yourself. Think of this quote when you make a friend, I think it's the beginning of a beautiful friendship. It might spark some friendships! Be confident with yourself when you're around people because you'll be noticed when you try to be yourself around other people and they'll like you just the way you are!
I know I’m socially awkward I don’t need a video to prove it but I’m still watching the video :)
I would trade anything or anyone to stop being a socially awkward mess.
samsies girl its soo bad
Who tf
@@alobaymar ?
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@@alobaymar i was agreeing with u at first
lowkey makes me sad how accurate dis is
How do you fix being socially awkward??
I'm truly introverted and socially awkward
Ahhhhh mystic messenger 😭😭
I JUST GOT YOUR MESSSAGES-
(love the mystic messenger references!)
Love your videos
Thank you! How did you first learn about our channel?
@@Psych2go oh, its been almost a usar, when i was searching about relationship on UA-cam, then i found your wonderful video: "5 habits that ruin relationships".
This video helped me so much, thank you. ❤️
Almost a year*
This really described me I'm so glad that I know what it truly is for me. Sometimes when I'm in a situation when I have to talk I have it all in my head, but it comes out all bad and I forget words, or I stutter a lot. Also, I have a tendency to shake my leg A LOT when I have to talk or perform or anything to a class or a group of 1-to a big crowd. Example: one time in math we were doing a set of problems, so I just figured out the answers, wrote it down and sat there quietly. I looked out the window when I heard the teacher call out my name. Since I hate saying answers out loud - especially in math-- I got scared and lost the answer in my head and my words. I started bouncing my leg like crazy and tried to say something, but it came out as "I uhh ... so-... uhm- the, the..." I just said what another person said so I could get out of it and started crying because I felt that all the kids were laughing and judging me.
I have adhd , I have no problem talking with anyone but I'm EXTREMELY intimated by beautiful woman I find attractive.
I stutter and get very awkward
I never was in a relationship but I'll give you some pointers. If you think this woman is attractive, don't overthink of going up to her because you might have your chance to get to know this lady. Don't give your feelings to this lady unless if you have a good connection. I understand where you come from. If you think of a movie you really like think of a script to say to her don’t do a long one just think of a sentence to say to this lady you find attractive and approach to her with confidence.
@@isaiahvoss you're so awesome to not insult me but instead give advice.
Thank you so much :)
@@isaiahvoss you're clearly a wonderful person
@@jhh-jiynks6568When Life Leaves Us Blind, Love Keeps Us kind-Chester Bennington
@@isaiahvoss well said.
Thank you for the reminder :)
I feel like i have most of the signs reported in this video, but i don't know if i can call myself a social awkward because that makes me feel like i'm more of a delusional person trying to just get an excuse to justify my inhability to socialize