It's so refreshing to hear people actually speak positive about loving babies. And loving their kids. I have so many baby hang ups because of the negativity that exists online. 😭😭😭
Right? I don’t even think the negativity is even authentic I think it’s like the “cool” thing to be negative. And not just about babies but about your spouse as well. If we pay attention to media, Hollywood, social media no one would have kids or get married. Both seem dreadful and pointless when in actuality both are beautiful aspects of life.
@@thesagetraveler7649 Congrats kinda late! 😉 ❤It is single handily the most challenging and yet rewarding experience ever and fyi with 4 grown young men now it doesn’t ever stop being exactly this however WOW the ten times fold that comes back as they grow and mature shewy then you add the intricate details of having grandchildren. Whew it just gets awesome (and Challenging 😅) in even more ways!!
As a parent of four boys, it is the third that is most challenging. That ratio change is the most difficult. Our third son was by far the easiest, however, just adding him to the mix caused quite the uproar. Once you get passed that, any additional kiddo is just another new team mate! ❤️
The way Shawn talks about her body after everything she has been through with haters and ED is sooo inspirational! Body image is such a hard thing to deal with especially in her case when people always point out the differences since having babies I’m so happy for her 🥰💕
While you said no minivan, we just got a Toyota Sienna and love it! It's a hybrid, has lots of room, don't have to worry about kids slamming the doors, and you can get the Woodland Edition that is a little more sporty with roof racks and a tow hitch.
We had our first 2 kids back to back. They are 19 months apart. We had a girl first and then a boy. As soon as we had our 2nd I knew I wanted one more. I wanted to have our 3rd immediately but my husband was not ready! Our 2nd and 3rd are 3 years and 5 months apart. I feel I enjoyed all the little things more with our 3rd. With the first 2 it’s survival mode and I feel you take these for granted. With the 3rd and last I held on more to the little things. Soak all of it up! This quote circles in my head constantly “ the days are long but the years are short”. ❤️
Thank you to both of you! I'm 61, married 33 years, and my kids are adults. So, listening to the 2 of you talk about your faith and the love you have for your kids makes me smile so wide! Hearing about your experience brings back memories of when my wife and I were having babies. May God continue to bless you in all that you do.
My husband told me all my markka from pregnancy ( stretch marks, c section etc) are just beautiful road maps from our children. He said it’s beautiful. It made me smile like forever.
Yes!! I have 7 kids, and for sure the hardest was going from 2 to 3 kids. It's because you're out numbered! Not enough hands to help all the kids. Once you hit 4, it's just chaos all the time no matter what. But by that time you're older and able to roll with it all better.
Having just experienced a miscarriage, so much of what you said was very healing. Andrew, I loved what you said about everything being part of the story. 💕
Y'all have me in tears. The loving way you two talk about Drew and Jett is refreshing. I've had 6 pregnancies and only 2 live births. My first 3 pregnancies ended in miscarriage at 14 weeks (so did my 6th pregnancy). Out of 6 pregnancies I only took one baby home with me at the time of discharge. My two babies are now 24 and 25 year old men!!! The oldest was in NICU for 2 weeks because he was born 5 weeks early and needed help breathing. They are the light of my life and was my rock when we unexpectedly lost their Dad/my husband 7 years ago at the age of 53. He was able to see our 2 daughters and our 2 sons in heaven before I was. I am grateful to have had the experience in spite of the pain it caused me. I would do it all over again. I pray blessings in your journey and your family, Shawn and Andrew (btw...Andrew was my husband's name but went my Andy. Y'all have very similar personalities).
Thank you Shawn for articulating that struggle of deciding to have a 3rd. We had a boy and a girl after 2 miscarriages. Then my son was a difficult birth and my daughter could have died during birth if a specialist doctor wasnt called in to get the merconium out of her lungs. We also had friends that lost a child in the first year of life due to genetic issues. I feel absolutely blessed to have the 2 healthy kids we do. We ended up not going for a 3rd. We just couldnt bring ourselves to possibly go through that stress again and decided to pour 100% of our focus on the kids we already have. Its a tough decision. Good luck!
I have 4 brothers and sisters and life has been so fun with them. We are now all in our 20s and 30s and us and our spouses are all best friends. My dad says his only regret in life is not having more kids. I’m all for as many kids as possible!
Loved this episode and your honesty about the realities of being parents, positives or negatives. I had 4 kids in 5 1/2 years and I wouldn't change my family for anything. It was hard at times but also so beautiful. Good luck with your journey
You two are amazing! I am right there with you on the "not loving pregnancy" thing. I love all 3 of my girls more than I ever thought imaginable, but I DID NOT love the pregnancy part. I am in awe of the miracle of it all, but do not love the 9-ish months of being pregnant. I would deliver babies every year over being pregnant. My deliveries were easy and surprisingly enjoyable. I respect you guys having open, honest conversation about this with the world.
My first pregnancy ended in loss at 33 weeks my son was born and we found out he didn’t have kidneys and he passed less than 24 hours later and I had to have a c section with that pregnancy… after I had a miscarriage and now I have a healthy 4 year old and almost 3 year old and both were c sections and I chose to have my tubes removed because my risk for complication during birth increased after I had already had 3 c sections. I wonder sometimes how it would be if I had another but then I’m so happy and content and blessed to have the healthy happy babies I have now! Whatever you choose to do that’s exactly how God planned it for you!!
You will know. I had 2, said no more….4 years later we added. I think in the moment of 2 littles, you can’t see outside the chaos. But everyone does what works best for them!!
We’d never really be able to know/feel what love is without having felt sorrow. Those are words spoken from the wise, my pastor, and they’ve stuck with me throughout the years so I thought I’d pass them on!
Y'all continue to keep it honest and clear on every topic. It's truly appreciated! I am 57 and just lost my brother (59) in June. He was my one constant in my life as we came from divorced parents. Siblings are a true blessing. My world has forever changed and I try to find a new normal daily. I do know this.....I will forever be his "Baby Sister" and he my "Bubba!"
I had 5 miscarriages, 2 in the second trimester, before I had my son. I had 2 more after him and was told I would never be able to conceive again. 17 years later, at 40, I gave birth to our daughter. Talk about shock and awe! I was afraid that my children would not be close. I would be raising 2 only children. At 43 and 26 they worship the ground each of them walks on. From the day our daughter was born, she was my son's focus. Away at college, living in another state, building a life, he always makes time for her. He is her confidante. She trusts him and they talk everyday. They are closer to each other than either are to me or their dad. So, in my opinion, 17 years is the perfect space between children.
Love this episode! You will both know when it’s time to try again. You are such wonderful parents and I know you will be happy with whatever you decide. Blessed to be on the journey with you. I have three girls myself and I can say middle child syndrome is a thing BUT that is not at all a dealbreaker for a third kiddo. ❤️❤️ Blessings to you in your decision.
Can we normalize being honest about not enjoying pregnancy? Of course the excitement of the end result is worth it beyond measure. And it is so great for the women that enjoy their pregnancies. But it is so hard for some people to go through-it’s okay to say you don’t enjoy the process to get to the end result. I’m glad you guys touched on this topic!
My personal thoughts are; 1) Andrew is definitely more aware and appreciative of what you, Shawn, went through while being pregnant. I didn’t have that awareness and appreciation… that is a big PRO when considering more kids. 2) Shawn, you’re maternal desire to give the best of you to your kids, while not wanting to lose the relationship between a husband and wife is one of the most difficult challenges a woman will ever experience. This is not just a job you can turn around one day and say I quit ! I don’t know where my strength has come from, but through every single high and low, I know I will never quit being there for my family. I see that strength in the two of you. May your journey be blessed with as many children God has chosen to give you. 🤍
Currently 29 weeks pregnant with our first. I think I want four kids, but pregnancy has been tougher than I thought (and I've had a great pregnancy compared to many). It's a lot to think about and worry about. But God's will be done! God bless your family as you navigate life together.
No one ever told me that we would be out numbered once we had 2 kids! Babies are wonderful, as are our children at every age! It just takes a different level of parenting with more! Once they start with their activities and friends, or going on vacations there just are moments where one feels splintered. Worth it in the end, but sort of trial by fire for sure! Do what your hearts tell you, then you know it will be right for you.
I understand the battle of fear surrounding pregnancy. I’ve lost a baby girl at 36 weeks, and a baby boy at 16 weeks. Pregnancy has never and will never be the same. However, as hard as losing a child is, I can truly say God’s Grace is sufficient. Whatever road we have to walk, he promises to be faithful.
Andrew. You two have been parents to three. A miscarriage is still a lost child. The next child is pregnancy #4. Believe me I know what Shawn feels. I went threw the same thing. My last child was three weeks early, lost down to five pounds within three days, but is so beautiful today with two beautiful children of her own. Go with your faith, believe in that, rely on that and it will be fine. Much love to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I love y’all so much. My husband and I got married last year and are planning out our baby timeline right now. I love watching how y’all navigate this phase of life so gracefully while being so genuine. So much love for you both. Ps. I’m team 3rd baby 🤷🏼♀️
Having a second child scares me because my daughter was born 6.5 weeks early. She was in the NICU for 32 days. I cannot imagine going through that again, although I know I would get through it if I HAD to. I also fear not having enough love/attention for 2 children! Love listening to you both! thank you for being so candid, open, and honest!
A word of encouragement, I have 7 children. My first was a premie. I had a lot of complications with her. But with my 6 boys they were all born full term and no complications at all. It's definitely possible. And when the time comes, you will have enough love for more than one child. Your heart just grows with each blessing added.
Nothing wrong with one and done either. Lots of One and Done groups on Facebook and they’re filled with people who have birth trauma. It’s a great support even if you eventually to choose to have another.
My family of 4 just got a Chrysler voyager and I am SO in love with my mini van. I have a 3 yr old and an 8 month old. This vehicle WILL change your life for the better! Rent one and try it out!!! Life changer!!
I am also not a fan of being pregnant either, but the baby at the end is a true miracle and totally worth it! I think it is OK to not enjoy pregnancy- in fact more people should talk about it because I was definitely blind sided with sickness etc with my first!
I have 3 kids under 5 (almost 6) and I wouldn’t change it for the world! Our first two are just like yours at 21 months apart. Our 2nd and 3rd are 29 months apart. I was very much on the fence of having a 3rd. To be honest it terrified me. But my mom heart knew that I wanted more. The best gift we will ever give our children is each other. My oldest and youngest are boys with a daughter in the middle and it’s simply the best. The always changing dynamic between the 3 of them is a blessing to watch play out. When people ask me what it was like having the 3rd, here is what I tell them: Going from 1 to 2 was the hardest because you are learning to juggle. Going from 2-3, you already know how to juggle, you’re just adding in another ball! In seriousness tho, you are already in the thick of it and everything you are already doing for your current 2, just triples, in a good way! I’m definitely team 3!
Love this conversation....Special moments happen at All ages and if you put off having a baby because you are afraid to miss special moments with your other kids, you will never have another child.....
I am a grandma and done with the years of raising our kids but I just love to listen to your words of wisdom. I love how you are both honest and complimentary of each other. Thanks for sharing your trust in God through all of this.
My three brothers and I , 4 of us in five years. It’s the absolute best! I love them with all my heart. My sisters in law’s are the best! Like you said, all going through the same season of life together ♥️ I have 3 in five years. My children are grown and also very close. Beautiful discussion.
I'm in my 60s, and have no biologic children. That said, I have to side with Shawn... When the time is right, she'll know WHEN she's ready to try again. Whenever that happens, Andrew will be the second to know. Shawn will be the first. They're NOT stretch marks, they're tiger stripes, and Shawn has EARNED them, no doubt.
I love this episode so much, thank you both for taking the time to do this! You will know when your family feels complete! We are personally a 2 child family and that's where we stopped because our family feels complete to us. ❤️
I always ask my sister this how do you know when your done? I know I’m no where near done I have three. Did you have this grand feeling of like okay we’re done we’re content this is it ?
I 100% felt the difference of not “bouncing back” after the second kid compared to the first. It is/was a bit defeating how weak and unhealthy I felt and still feel after the second kid. My second kid is 6 months old and I still feel like I have a long road ahead to get back to what my body used to be able to do.
Can I just say, don't pressure mama? Don't pressure mama. We carry SO much through a pregnancy that men will never understand. Grow family through adoption, or fostering. Pregnancy is so hard, and I get what Shawn is saying. It's so much easier for a fun to want to grow the family when he doesn't experience it. Out of all love for you guys, let Shawn be ready us she ever is
I did foster care years ago and at times there were 5 kids and it was definitely harder. You are stretched thin, it's just the reality of it. It was definitely one of the best things (aside from giving birth) I ever did. As I am typing you are bringing up traveling with 3 car seats. Omgoodness it was a lot of work with 3 babies and toddlers in seats when I had to go shopping or run in places while running errands. I have great respect for parents of multiples. Every day with everything you do would definitely get taxing especially if you are alone.
We have 3 kiddos, all 3 years apart. When we had our third, our family just felt complete. Just like any siblings, they have their days where they're just tired of each other. As far as a family vehicle, we have a Ford Expedition and love it! The leg room is great and it's perfect for car seats because you can flip the seat with the car seat attached so people can get in the 3rd row.
2/13/2023 Adding a comment. I don’t know how I missed this originally. Everyone’s experience adding children is SO different. Ultimately you do what you are comfortable with. I am an IVF momma, I always dreamt of 4 children. After SO much heartache and miracles I have 4 under 4. I went 0-1, 1-3, 3-4 as far as transitions. Hands down 3-4 was the hardest. BUT I want to share what made me SO glad for my timing even though I’m so done having more children. The baby stage! It is adorable it is precious but as Drew and Jett get older and slowly more self sufficient adding a baby, so starting over is SOOO hard. Right now my 4yr old and twin 3yr olds seem so far advanced from my 13 month old. I would not want any more gap. It is hard, I’m in the weeds but I’m starting to see the light and I think it’s very important to consider that. Best of luck as you navigate this decision.
We had our third and final baby 15 months ago (all of our kids are three years apart…not planned) but we LOVE our Lincoln Navigator! It’s perfect for our family!!
I truly loved this episode because I like that they are open to different perspectives and I really enjoyed hearing Shawn's journey with the pregnancies. It is really rare to meet a man who doesn't want to control a woman so I really enjoyed hearing how he will accept whatever she wants to do. Very sweet. They are a great team. I don't know if they will read my comment but I do want to share my story in hopes it will low-key be put on the next podcast. I right now am 26 years old. I actually have never wanted kids and I have known since I was 14 years old. I used to tell people proudly and people would just dismiss me, including my family members. However, they are more understanding now. I had a wonderful family. Both parents together and worked as a team to raise my brother and I. Yes our family has been through hardships but at the end of the day, they are the most important people to me. I value my family a lot. I would do anything for them. Now I have also learned a lot about knowing what I want and going after it. My mom raised me and my brother and my dad went to work. He was the provider. My mom loved to work, she loved to be independent. When she had my brother and I, that all disappeared. My brother had learning issues and she had to help him, then she had me and , I am a handful just because I am me haha. She loves both of us and doesn't regret anything, however, she gave up her freedom and she remembers thinking, "I wish I could be free like everyone else". Now I know in this day and age I could work and be a mom , however, I know that isn't something I would do. I would have to be a career woman, or stay at home mom, no in between. I am someone who will not do both, because , I simply am not wonder woman and refuse to take on that title/ role. I want to have a husband I want to love him till I die, but I want to live my life to the fullest. Based off my perspective, thats having my freedom, thats being able to always put myself first , if I have children, putting myself first will no longer be attainable, in my eyes. I like kids, I respect people who have a strong family unit. I think its amazing, but I would never dare to do it. To go further , I actually want to get my tubes tied when I turn 30 or 35 years old, the latest. I am actually excited for that day to come because I am always an anxious wreck when I have sex(protected). I am always afraid of getting pregnant, I have had many mental breakdowns over it. I am sure people can relate to me on that note. I also want to add that I work in a profession where I deal with people who have mental illnesses, and that is basically like parenting, except I get to go home after 4:30pm. I do want to add that as a woman it is incredibly hard to date when you have this viewpoint I have learned. I have been rejected left and right purely because of this . I understand it is a deal breaker but it can feel isolating and self- esteem crippling, especially in the dating world. I am on my way to becoming more independent, and I love my family dearly, I would do anything for them, but as for starting my own , I will stick to my fur babies. I really would love to share my perspective on the next episode, hopefully this gets seen.
You’ll know when/if you’re ready and I will say after two it is chaos, but it’s lovely! I have 4 girls and said we’re done now…no regrets. As they began leaving home for their own lives (oldest 25 and married) that was hardest. Parenting wasn’t easy, but learning to let go and be a side part of their lives is tough. Not excited about empty nesting as youngest enters college fall 2023! Thanks for sharing, discussing, and educating through experience.
Omg I have never thought about this. I have 1 baby girl and I'm pregnant with our second...And I never realized that one day, I'll have to experience being an empty nester and learn to be a side part of my children's lives...how shocking but also sobering and helpful to remind me to enjoy this time and know it doesn't last forever.
Shawn is wonderful. She’s still healing because a miscarriage is a scar of the heart. Sometimes you feel fine and other times you feel like your neglecting that child, you aren’t. Fear is normal and healthy for parents. Just keep communication open. Listen to each other. Prayers for wisdom coming your way.
I have 4 kids and 2 to 3 was my hardest transition. My first 2 were also 21 months apart and then 2.5 years between 2 and 3 and you being outnumbered was difficult! But #4 was a lot easier and she was 2.5 years after 3. We have 3 girls and 1 boy. I'm now entering the teenage stage. My oldest just started HS and my baby is 2nd grade. My oldest was born during the 2008 Olympics and I watched Shawn and Nastia in the all around in the hospital. My daughter was a gymnast for many years but is now on the HS Swim Team! My 3rd is in Tumbling. Good luck with your expanding family!
As a 51 yr old woman with my one and only 26 yr old daughter..I still where my c-section scar and tiger stripes with pride! Best thing I ever done. Xoxox from Dallas Texas ❤️
I just had this conversation with my husband yesterday. If you plan on getting pregnant you should also be prepared for the possibility of a complicated pregnancy, birth or medically complex or disabled baby. It can happen to anyone and you never know. I had a rough first pregnancy - I had HG which basically makes you live like you have a stomach bug for 8 months. It was awful and I had bad PTSD and PPD after. My daughter is 2 now and I can’t imagine being that sick and still giving her the care she deserves. I know I have a 75% chance of having another HG pregnancy and so I have to prepare for that. We do want another but I want to wait till my daughter is at least 3 or 4 so she can understand a little better what’s going on when mommy is sick and be able to play on her own for short period of time while I’m in the bathroom vomiting. Our kindergarten also offers afterschool programs from 3 so if I’m afmitted to hospital (inevitably) she will be safe and taken care of while my husband works. I don’t drink wine anymore simply because I am a grumpy baby the next morning and my daughter deserves my best self. So my point is, sometimes in order to protect your children you HAVE to think worst case scenario and be prepared for it. It’s our job as parents.
Thank you for sharing. I was adopted. I had a loving strong bond with my adopted parents. I was truly blessed to have such wonderful parents. I was an only child. My adopted mom was unable to bear children. I was blessed with son , he is 12 now. I love my son with all my heart.
I am odd man out. I have 3. I had a miscarriage, a son, and a set of twins. I was a single mom when twins were 4 and son was 6. My kids were always 2 against 1. You do better w 2 or 4.
Go for the 3rd! ❤️ 2 to 3 for us was easy, it had it’s challenges at times, but wasn’t hard. 3 to 4 for us was so hard. It rocked our world in the best ways, and in some really hard ways! I think everyone has that 1 that’s really hard for them. My sister’s was going from 1 to 2. It all just depends. I’m also 1 of 5, I’m the 3rd. I always loved having a big family, and being so close with all my siblings!! ❤️ Y’all are so awesome! It’s nice watching a couple who values their marriage, and family so much!! ❤️
Transition between child 1-2, 2-3 or 3-4 all depends on age gap and natures of the children, personally the first 2 can never be too close, but going further you need some more space to balance out as at that point the big one is out of the baby stage so your juggling more
We had 3 kids in 4 years 1 months. I would have them close together again if we wanted a 4th kid. The positives are you are never out of a “stage.” It is just a rolling progression thru each phase. I have friends that had 4 years between each kid and I think that has its own hardships because there is a lot of difference once they get to school age in those 4 years.
I never had morning sickness and the bigger I got the better I felt. I loved being pregnant! I miscarried my first baby (s) but I still never got sick. My second baby… the pregnancy was perfect until I had to have an emergency C-section.
Have them when you are young and have them close together because you know what it’s like to have a newborn/2 or 3 yr old but your 20’s is the time, because you will have the energy to run after your little ones and your beautiful body and all it’s changes bounces back faster as well, and the kids grow up closer. My bro and I are 13 mo apart and I wanted to start school early (at 5 not 6) to go with him so we were only a grade apart. He’s my best friend and we are super close. I thank my parents for giving me a best friend ❤
Nice show! Birth order matters to me. I can't generalize but depending on if you are only child or birth order definitely plays a role on who we are as people.
I love you guys so much! It’s awesome how well you guys communicate. You guys are amazing parents and any child be it adopted or a bio child would be so lucky to have you guys as their parents! Your videos are an amazing part of my life and it’s amazing that you discuss so many relatable topics. I’ve found so many awesome products due to your videos! I took the plunge and got Boll and Branch everything for my bed! Thank you for making everyone’s life better for just being you and sharing your life experiences! 🤗
My daughter lost her first child (a girl) in delivery. Like you, she knew right away that she wanted to try again but wanted genetic testing to find out why it happened first. Today, I have two healthy grandsons due to her determination. I am also an only child. I don’t know that I could’ve tried again.
Shawn, you are such an awesome person and such a great role model. I really wish I could meet a woman like you or a man like andrew. I really wish you and your family nothing but the very best for the rest of your lives.
I always suggest physical therapy more than a chiropractor for pre and post-partum because it focuses more on stretches and exercises that you can do daily to help your body feel more comfortable
I had 4 kids and it was not hard. My first two were 1yr 10days apart the next was 2yrs exactly and then 2yrs 2months. Not one of them was planned. I'm one of those who got pregnant on birth control. I do remember feeling sad after my 3rd because I though it was the last. Then when I had the 4th I knew I was done. I'm the mom who loved being pregnant. I also had one 10lb 4oz 3rd child. I even enjoyed that pregnancy. What I'm getting to is just embrace the what ever decide its God's plan for you. Love you as a couple and parents. Now I enjoy being a grandparent of 7 they just need to slow down getting older.
Dear Shawn and Andrew, I am 68 1/2 and watch your videos, just to let you know the age range. My son is 33 and I am so stressed out, because I sold my home in Sonoma that I lived in 31 years where I raised him. Got rid of all my furniture and drove East. Ended up in Virginia Beach near where he and his woman relocated in Norfolk. Thank you both!
Honda Odyssey! Always said I would never have a mini van, but I’ll probably have one until we are empty nesters now. Magic seats in the second row allow you to move two carseats away from the door. Cabin Cam is the best. And you can fit anything in that thing
Hey Drew, a couple things (haha unintended pun there) I have learned about the body recently that might help with your full recovery and maybe prep for a new baby- there is a thing called "neural therapy" for scars- c section scars especially can cause issues in the body due to the scars that form internally in the healing. This can cause affects even in distant parts of the body. Many women have seen dramatic benefits with treating their c section scars. There are several ways to do it. One is the neural therapy I mentioned (I would suggest getting additive free- like only has the lidocaine)- another is with a thing called the dolphin stimulator I think- they are a canadian company. Another is at Clear Passage in FL (they help remove all the adhesions gently- this process alone has improved libido, infertility and extreme bowel issues like obstructions). There might be someone local that does the neural therapy. I know Dr. Rowen in CA does it. I know someone local to me, but yeah. Anyway, treating your c section scar, and by consequence, all the other stuff that is connected to that, might help your body feel better and perform better! One other thing to consider is the Gillespie Approach method that addresses birth trauma in babies and adults. And last but not least, grass fed organ supplements have been a game changer for me. I take bone marrow, a blend, and then recently have been using bovine thyroid glandular and it is the best thyroid support I have ever had and I have tried just about every kind of medication, conventional or alternative. I get mine from forefronthealth.com or nutri-meds.com . For other hormone issues, you can check out clearwoman.com or try grass fed bovine female reproductive organs- I have liked those too. Good luck on your family decisions! PS, as validation on wanting to wait a little longer, Weston A Price who studied traditional and indigenous cultures, recommends waiting 3 years in between kids to allow the mom to replenish her body enough. Again, good luck!
I also had a miscarriage when we first started trying and then had 2 healthy babies and then when trying for a 3rd had a miscarriage (a bit later on and it was heartbreaking) and then we had a 3rd healthy baby. Got ourselves 3 healthy boys ❤❤ the fear is very real though..but I think we can't avoid things out of fear, we can only face the reality of life and have faith
It's so refreshing to hear people actually speak positive about loving babies. And loving their kids. I have so many baby hang ups because of the negativity that exists online. 😭😭😭
Just became a mom in March. Literally the best thing in the world. Challenging for sure, but absolutely amazing.
Right? I don’t even think the negativity is even authentic I think it’s like the “cool” thing to be negative. And not just about babies but about your spouse as well. If we pay attention to media, Hollywood, social media no one would have kids or get married. Both seem dreadful and pointless when in actuality both are beautiful aspects of life.
@@thesagetraveler7649 Congrats kinda late! 😉 ❤It is single handily the most challenging and yet rewarding experience ever and fyi with 4 grown young men now it doesn’t ever stop being exactly this however WOW the ten times fold that comes back as they grow and mature shewy then you add the intricate details of having grandchildren. Whew it just gets awesome (and Challenging 😅) in even more ways!!
It is literally the very best thing ever. ❤
As a parent of four boys, it is the third that is most challenging. That ratio change is the most difficult. Our third son was by far the easiest, however, just adding him to the mix caused quite the uproar. Once you get passed that, any additional kiddo is just another new team mate! ❤️
Agree 💯 % as a mama of 4 boys also ❤️
Mama of 5sons and one girl boys are so much easier my girl the fighter and mad jealous boys just love they mumx
I have two boys and felt like that’s all we would have had.
The way Shawn talks about her body after everything she has been through with haters and ED is sooo inspirational! Body image is such a hard thing to deal with especially in her case when people always point out the differences since having babies I’m so happy for her 🥰💕
While you said no minivan, we just got a Toyota Sienna and love it! It's a hybrid, has lots of room, don't have to worry about kids slamming the doors, and you can get the Woodland Edition that is a little more sporty with roof racks and a tow hitch.
We had our first 2 kids back to back. They are 19 months apart. We had a girl first and then a boy. As soon as we had our 2nd I knew I wanted one more. I wanted to have our 3rd immediately but my husband was not ready! Our 2nd and 3rd are 3 years and 5 months apart. I feel I enjoyed all the little things more with our 3rd. With the first 2 it’s survival mode and I feel you take these for granted. With the 3rd and last I held on more to the little things. Soak all of it up! This quote circles in my head constantly “ the days are long but the years are short”. ❤️
Thank you to both of you! I'm 61, married 33 years, and my kids are adults. So, listening to the 2 of you talk about your faith and the love you have for your kids makes me smile so wide! Hearing about your experience brings back memories of when my wife and I were having babies. May God continue to bless you in all that you do.
My husband told me all my markka from pregnancy ( stretch marks, c section etc) are just beautiful road maps from our children. He said it’s beautiful. It made me smile like forever.
Yes!! I have 7 kids, and for sure the hardest was going from 2 to 3 kids. It's because you're out numbered! Not enough hands to help all the kids. Once you hit 4, it's just chaos all the time no matter what. But by that time you're older and able to roll with it all better.
Oh gosh, 😂 I’m pregnant with 4th. 🙏
7 kids !!!! That’s ridiculous. That’s not having a family, that’s a litter !
Having just experienced a miscarriage, so much of what you said was very healing. Andrew, I loved what you said about everything being part of the story. 💕
Y'all have me in tears. The loving way you two talk about Drew and Jett is refreshing. I've had 6 pregnancies and only 2 live births. My first 3 pregnancies ended in miscarriage at 14 weeks (so did my 6th pregnancy). Out of 6 pregnancies I only took one baby home with me at the time of discharge. My two babies are now 24 and 25 year old men!!! The oldest was in NICU for 2 weeks because he was born 5 weeks early and needed help breathing. They are the light of my life and was my rock when we unexpectedly lost their Dad/my husband 7 years ago at the age of 53. He was able to see our 2 daughters and our 2 sons in heaven before I was. I am grateful to have had the experience in spite of the pain it caused me. I would do it all over again. I pray blessings in your journey and your family, Shawn and Andrew (btw...Andrew was my husband's name but went my Andy. Y'all have very similar personalities).
Thank you Shawn for articulating that struggle of deciding to have a 3rd. We had a boy and a girl after 2 miscarriages. Then my son was a difficult birth and my daughter could have died during birth if a specialist doctor wasnt called in to get the merconium out of her lungs. We also had friends that lost a child in the first year of life due to genetic issues. I feel absolutely blessed to have the 2 healthy kids we do. We ended up not going for a 3rd. We just couldnt bring ourselves to possibly go through that stress again and decided to pour 100% of our focus on the kids we already have. Its a tough decision. Good luck!
I have 4 brothers and sisters and life has been so fun with them. We are now all in our 20s and 30s and us and our spouses are all best friends. My dad says his only regret in life is not having more kids. I’m all for as many kids as possible!
Yall really should consider adoption. Yall make PHENOMENAL parents and ANY child would be SO lucky to have you.
Loved this episode and your honesty about the realities of being parents, positives or negatives. I had 4 kids in 5 1/2 years and I wouldn't change my family for anything. It was hard at times but also so beautiful. Good luck with your journey
You two are amazing! I am right there with you on the "not loving pregnancy" thing. I love all 3 of my girls more than I ever thought imaginable, but I DID NOT love the pregnancy part. I am in awe of the miracle of it all, but do not love the 9-ish months of being pregnant. I would deliver babies every year over being pregnant. My deliveries were easy and surprisingly enjoyable. I respect you guys having open, honest conversation about this with the world.
Children are something you should feel 100% about. So it’s a valid thing to work through your fears and concerns before committing to a decision.
My first pregnancy ended in loss at 33 weeks my son was born and we found out he didn’t have kidneys and he passed less than 24 hours later and I had to have a c section with that pregnancy… after I had a miscarriage and now I have a healthy 4 year old and almost 3 year old and both were c sections and I chose to have my tubes removed because my risk for complication during birth increased after I had already had 3 c sections. I wonder sometimes how it would be if I had another but then I’m so happy and content and blessed to have the healthy happy babies I have now! Whatever you choose to do that’s exactly how God planned it for you!!
You will know. I had 2, said no more….4 years later we added. I think in the moment of 2 littles, you can’t see outside the chaos. But everyone does what works best for them!!
We’d never really be able to know/feel what love is without having felt sorrow. Those are words spoken from the wise, my pastor, and they’ve stuck with me throughout the years so I thought I’d pass them on!
Y'all continue to keep it honest and clear on every topic. It's truly appreciated! I am 57 and just lost my brother (59) in June. He was my one constant in my life as we came from divorced parents. Siblings are a true blessing. My world has forever changed and I try to find a new normal daily. I do know this.....I will forever be his "Baby Sister" and he my "Bubba!"
I had 5 miscarriages, 2 in the second trimester, before I had my son. I had 2 more after him and was told I would never be able to conceive again. 17 years later, at 40, I gave birth to our daughter. Talk about shock and awe! I was afraid that my children would not be close. I would be raising 2 only children. At 43 and 26 they worship the ground each of them walks on. From the day our daughter was born, she was my son's focus. Away at college, living in another state, building a life, he always makes time for her. He is her confidante. She trusts him and they talk everyday. They are closer to each other than either are to me or their dad. So, in my opinion, 17 years is the perfect space between children.
I had one awesome pregnancy and two tough ones. It's crazy, how different they are!!
Love this episode! You will both know when it’s time to try again. You are such wonderful parents and I know you will be happy with whatever you decide. Blessed to be on the journey with you. I have three girls myself and I can say middle child syndrome is a thing BUT that is not at all a dealbreaker for a third kiddo. ❤️❤️ Blessings to you in your decision.
I was adopted...and it was the most beautiful thing to happen to me...that child would be so blessed
Can we normalize being honest about not enjoying pregnancy? Of course the excitement of the end result is worth it beyond measure. And it is so great for the women that enjoy their pregnancies. But it is so hard for some people to go through-it’s okay to say you don’t enjoy the process to get to the end result. I’m glad you guys touched on this topic!
My personal thoughts are; 1) Andrew is definitely more aware and appreciative of what you, Shawn, went through while being pregnant. I didn’t have that awareness and appreciation… that is a big PRO when considering more kids. 2) Shawn, you’re maternal desire to give the best of you to your kids, while not wanting to lose the relationship between a husband and wife is one of the most difficult challenges a woman will ever experience. This is not just a job you can turn around one day and say I quit ! I don’t know where my strength has come from, but through every single high and low, I know I will never quit being there for my family. I see that strength in the two of you.
May your journey be blessed with as many children God has chosen to give you. 🤍
Currently 29 weeks pregnant with our first. I think I want four kids, but pregnancy has been tougher than I thought (and I've had a great pregnancy compared to many). It's a lot to think about and worry about. But God's will be done! God bless your family as you navigate life together.
No one ever told me that we would be out numbered once we had 2 kids! Babies are wonderful, as are our children at every age! It just takes a different level of parenting with more! Once they start with their activities and friends, or going on vacations there just are moments where one feels splintered. Worth it in the end, but sort of trial by fire for sure! Do what your hearts tell you, then you know it will be right for you.
The Volvo XC-90 is a great family suv. There has never been a death recorded in this suv. This is our 3rd one.
Financially we are good with 1 child. We struggle now, but it's worth it for our son.
When she said “where do I have stretch marks?” 😂👀 his face
I understand the battle of fear surrounding pregnancy. I’ve lost a baby girl at 36 weeks, and a baby boy at 16 weeks. Pregnancy has never and will never be the same. However, as hard as losing a child is, I can truly say God’s Grace is sufficient. Whatever road we have to walk, he promises to be faithful.
Andrew. You two have been parents to three. A miscarriage is still a lost child. The next child is pregnancy #4. Believe me I know what Shawn feels. I went threw the same thing. My last child was three weeks early, lost down to five pounds within three days, but is so beautiful today with two beautiful children of her own. Go with your faith, believe in that, rely on that and it will be fine. Much love to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I love how you guys talk things out in a respectful, calm manner. Great topic!! Been thinking about this myself : )
My oldest daughter is pregnant with her 3rd baby girl in 3 years, but God is 100% control!!!
I love y’all so much. My husband and I got married last year and are planning out our baby timeline right now. I love watching how y’all navigate this phase of life so gracefully while being so genuine. So much love for you both. Ps. I’m team 3rd baby 🤷🏼♀️
Having a second child scares me because my daughter was born 6.5 weeks early. She was in the NICU for 32 days. I cannot imagine going through that again, although I know I would get through it if I HAD to. I also fear not having enough love/attention for 2 children! Love listening to you both! thank you for being so candid, open, and honest!
A word of encouragement, I have 7 children. My first was a premie. I had a lot of complications with her. But with my 6 boys they were all born full term and no complications at all. It's definitely possible.
And when the time comes, you will have enough love for more than one child. Your heart just grows with each blessing added.
You will always love another child. My first child was early and I have 6 children.
Nothing wrong with one and done either. Lots of One and Done groups on Facebook and they’re filled with people who have birth trauma. It’s a great support even if you eventually to choose to have another.
My family of 4 just got a Chrysler voyager and I am SO in love with my mini van. I have a 3 yr old and an 8 month old. This vehicle WILL change your life for the better! Rent one and try it out!!!
Life changer!!
I am also not a fan of being pregnant either, but the baby at the end is a true miracle and totally worth it! I think it is OK to not enjoy pregnancy- in fact more people should talk about it because I was definitely blind sided with sickness etc with my first!
I have 3 kids under 5 (almost 6) and I wouldn’t change it for the world! Our first two are just like yours at 21 months apart. Our 2nd and 3rd are 29 months apart. I was very much on the fence of having a 3rd. To be honest it terrified me. But my mom heart knew that I wanted more. The best gift we will ever give our children is each other. My oldest and youngest are boys with a daughter in the middle and it’s simply the best. The always changing dynamic between the 3 of them is a blessing to watch play out. When people ask me what it was like having the 3rd, here is what I tell them: Going from 1 to 2 was the hardest because you are learning to juggle. Going from 2-3, you already know how to juggle, you’re just adding in another ball! In seriousness tho, you are already in the thick of it and everything you are already doing for your current 2, just triples, in a good way! I’m definitely team 3!
Love this conversation....Special moments happen at All ages and if you put off having a baby because you are afraid to miss special moments with your other kids, you will never have another child.....
I am a grandma and done with the years of raising our kids but I just love to listen to your words of wisdom. I love how you are both honest and complimentary of each other. Thanks for sharing your trust in God through all of this.
My aunt says: 2 is not enough and 3 is too many 🙃
My three brothers and I , 4 of us in five years. It’s the absolute best! I love them with all my heart. My sisters in law’s are the best! Like you said, all going through the same season of life together ♥️ I have 3 in five years. My children are grown and also very close. Beautiful discussion.
I'm in my 60s, and have no biologic children. That said, I have to side with Shawn... When the time is right, she'll know WHEN she's ready to try again. Whenever that happens, Andrew will be the second to know. Shawn will be the first.
They're NOT stretch marks, they're tiger stripes, and Shawn has EARNED them, no doubt.
Everything you guys say is how I feel about having one. I know more than anything that I want a baby someday, but the thought is so overwhelming
Agreed
I love this episode so much, thank you both for taking the time to do this! You will know when your family feels complete! We are personally a 2 child family and that's where we stopped because our family feels complete to us. ❤️
I always ask my sister this how do you know when your done? I know I’m no where near done I have three. Did you have this grand feeling of like okay we’re done we’re content this is it ?
I 100% felt the difference of not “bouncing back” after the second kid compared to the first. It is/was a bit defeating how weak and unhealthy I felt and still feel after the second kid. My second kid is 6 months old and I still feel like I have a long road ahead to get back to what my body used to be able to do.
andrew is so gentle and well-spoken. Couldn´t be a greater fan of how high he sets the bar ;-)
Can I just say, don't pressure mama? Don't pressure mama. We carry SO much through a pregnancy that men will never understand. Grow family through adoption, or fostering. Pregnancy is so hard, and I get what Shawn is saying. It's so much easier for a fun to want to grow the family when he doesn't experience it. Out of all love for you guys, let Shawn be ready us she ever is
I did foster care years ago and at times there were 5 kids and it was definitely harder. You are stretched thin, it's just the reality of it. It was definitely one of the best things (aside from giving birth) I ever did. As I am typing you are bringing up traveling with 3 car seats. Omgoodness it was a lot of work with 3 babies and toddlers in seats when I had to go shopping or run in places while running errands. I have great respect for parents of multiples. Every day with everything you do would definitely get taxing especially if you are alone.
We have 3 kiddos, all 3 years apart. When we had our third, our family just felt complete. Just like any siblings, they have their days where they're just tired of each other. As far as a family vehicle, we have a Ford Expedition and love it! The leg room is great and it's perfect for car seats because you can flip the seat with the car seat attached so people can get in the 3rd row.
2/13/2023
Adding a comment. I don’t know how I missed this originally.
Everyone’s experience adding children is SO different. Ultimately you do what you are comfortable with. I am an IVF momma, I always dreamt of 4 children. After SO much heartache and miracles I have 4 under 4.
I went 0-1, 1-3, 3-4 as far as transitions.
Hands down 3-4 was the hardest.
BUT I want to share what made me SO glad for my timing even though I’m so done having more children.
The baby stage! It is adorable it is precious but as Drew and Jett get older and slowly more self sufficient adding a baby, so starting over is SOOO hard.
Right now my 4yr old and twin 3yr olds seem so far advanced from my 13 month old. I would not want any more gap.
It is hard, I’m in the weeds but I’m starting to see the light and I think it’s very important to consider that.
Best of luck as you navigate this decision.
We had our third and final baby 15 months ago (all of our kids are three years apart…not planned) but we LOVE our Lincoln Navigator! It’s perfect for our family!!
I enjoyed every second. Thank u for all that u both share.
I could listen to you both, all day, seriously. It's SO interesting to hear each of your input re both marriage and parenting. Thank you!
No mini vans. I had a tahoe when my kids were young. Loved my tahoe and it was the perfect sized car for 3 kids and all their sports equipment!!
I truly loved this episode because I like that they are open to different perspectives and I really enjoyed hearing Shawn's journey with the pregnancies. It is really rare to meet a man who doesn't want to control a woman so I really enjoyed hearing how he will accept whatever she wants to do. Very sweet. They are a great team. I don't know if they will read my comment but I do want to share my story in hopes it will low-key be put on the next podcast. I right now am 26 years old. I actually have never wanted kids and I have known since I was 14 years old. I used to tell people proudly and people would just dismiss me, including my family members. However, they are more understanding now. I had a wonderful family. Both parents together and worked as a team to raise my brother and I. Yes our family has been through hardships but at the end of the day, they are the most important people to me. I value my family a lot. I would do anything for them. Now I have also learned a lot about knowing what I want and going after it. My mom raised me and my brother and my dad went to work. He was the provider. My mom loved to work, she loved to be independent. When she had my brother and I, that all disappeared. My brother had learning issues and she had to help him, then she had me and , I am a handful just because I am me haha. She loves both of us and doesn't regret anything, however, she gave up her freedom and she remembers thinking, "I wish I could be free like everyone else". Now I know in this day and age I could work and be a mom , however, I know that isn't something I would do. I would have to be a career woman, or stay at home mom, no in between. I am someone who will not do both, because , I simply am not wonder woman and refuse to take on that title/ role. I want to have a husband I want to love him till I die, but I want to live my life to the fullest. Based off my perspective, thats having my freedom, thats being able to always put myself first , if I have children, putting myself first will no longer be attainable, in my eyes. I like kids, I respect people who have a strong family unit. I think its amazing, but I would never dare to do it. To go further , I actually want to get my tubes tied when I turn 30 or 35 years old, the latest. I am actually excited for that day to come because I am always an anxious wreck when I have sex(protected). I am always afraid of getting pregnant, I have had many mental breakdowns over it. I am sure people can relate to me on that note. I also want to add that I work in a profession where I deal with people who have mental illnesses, and that is basically like parenting, except I get to go home after 4:30pm. I do want to add that as a woman it is incredibly hard to date when you have this viewpoint I have learned. I have been rejected left and right purely because of this . I understand it is a deal breaker but it can feel isolating and self- esteem crippling, especially in the dating world. I am on my way to becoming more independent, and I love my family dearly, I would do anything for them, but as for starting my own , I will stick to my fur babies. I really would love to share my perspective on the next episode, hopefully this gets seen.
You’ll know when/if you’re ready and I will say after two it is chaos, but it’s lovely! I have 4 girls and said we’re done now…no regrets. As they began leaving home for their own lives (oldest 25 and married) that was hardest. Parenting wasn’t easy, but learning to let go and be a side part of their lives is tough. Not excited about empty nesting as youngest enters college fall 2023! Thanks for sharing, discussing, and educating through experience.
Omg I have never thought about this. I have 1 baby girl and I'm pregnant with our second...And I never realized that one day, I'll have to experience being an empty nester and learn to be a side part of my children's lives...how shocking but also sobering and helpful to remind me to enjoy this time and know it doesn't last forever.
Have babies and be blessed! God bless life and family! Especially large families!
Shawn is wonderful. She’s still healing because a miscarriage is a scar of the heart. Sometimes you feel fine and other times you feel like your neglecting that child, you aren’t. Fear is normal and healthy for parents. Just keep communication open. Listen to each other. Prayers for wisdom coming your way.
I agree you never wanna leave the 2 children you have with complications
I have 4 kids and 2 to 3 was my hardest transition. My first 2 were also 21 months apart and then 2.5 years between 2 and 3 and you being outnumbered was difficult! But #4 was a lot easier and she was 2.5 years after 3. We have 3 girls and 1 boy. I'm now entering the teenage stage. My oldest just started HS and my baby is 2nd grade. My oldest was born during the 2008 Olympics and I watched Shawn and Nastia in the all around in the hospital. My daughter was a gymnast for many years but is now on the HS Swim Team! My 3rd is in Tumbling. Good luck with your expanding family!
As a 51 yr old woman with my one and only 26 yr old daughter..I still where my c-section scar and tiger stripes with pride! Best thing I ever done. Xoxox from Dallas Texas ❤️
Faith OVER fear….i once was told, never “do” or “not do” anything because of fear. Lean on your faith.
Life is about having faith and taking chances. Let let fear rule you. Embrace the positive and go for it.
I just had this conversation with my husband yesterday. If you plan on getting pregnant you should also be prepared for the possibility of a complicated pregnancy, birth or medically complex or disabled baby. It can happen to anyone and you never know. I had a rough first pregnancy - I had HG which basically makes you live like you have a stomach bug for 8 months. It was awful and I had bad PTSD and PPD after. My daughter is 2 now and I can’t imagine being that sick and still giving her the care she deserves. I know I have a 75% chance of having another HG pregnancy and so I have to prepare for that. We do want another but I want to wait till my daughter is at least 3 or 4 so she can understand a little better what’s going on when mommy is sick and be able to play on her own for short period of time while I’m in the bathroom vomiting. Our kindergarten also offers afterschool programs from 3 so if I’m afmitted to hospital (inevitably) she will be safe and taken care of while my husband works.
I don’t drink wine anymore simply because I am a grumpy baby the next morning and my daughter deserves my best self. So my point is, sometimes in order to protect your children you HAVE to think worst case scenario and be prepared for it. It’s our job as parents.
Thank you for sharing.
I was adopted.
I had a loving strong bond with my adopted parents.
I was truly blessed to have such wonderful parents.
I was an only child.
My adopted mom was unable to bear children.
I was blessed with son , he is 12 now.
I love my son with all my heart.
I am odd man out. I have 3. I had a miscarriage, a son, and a set of twins. I was a single mom when twins were 4 and son was 6. My kids were always 2 against 1. You do better w 2 or 4.
I have the same as you. A miscarriage, my daughter, then a son and one more son. Also, 2 or 4 is best. Always a buddy for someone. 👶
I agree. 2 against 1. I’m the youngest and I was always the 1. It’s easier in even numbers
Go for the 3rd! ❤️ 2 to 3 for us was easy, it had it’s challenges at times, but wasn’t hard. 3 to 4 for us was so hard. It rocked our world in the best ways, and in some really hard ways! I think everyone has that 1 that’s really hard for them. My sister’s was going from 1 to 2. It all just depends. I’m also 1 of 5, I’m the 3rd. I always loved having a big family, and being so close with all my siblings!! ❤️ Y’all are so awesome! It’s nice watching a couple who values their marriage, and family so much!! ❤️
Transition between child 1-2, 2-3 or 3-4 all depends on age gap and natures of the children, personally the first 2 can never be too close, but going further you need some more space to balance out as at that point the big one is out of the baby stage so your juggling more
Shawn you rock as a mom!! Being a mom is the best gift God can ever give a woman. You're a beautiful young woman!!
You two are amazing. Thanks for being so real and so relatable it really helps all of us mothers through all we’re dealing with ❤️
That was a great video! I hope you decide to have a 3rd child eventually - you will NEVER regret it ! 🙏🙏❤️❤️
And a 4th!
Just found you guys, such a beautiful couple. Will always watch. Thanks
We had 3 kids in 4 years 1 months. I would have them close together again if we wanted a 4th kid. The positives are you are never out of a “stage.” It is just a rolling progression thru each phase. I have friends that had 4 years between each kid and I think that has its own hardships because there is a lot of difference once they get to school age in those 4 years.
I never had morning sickness and the bigger I got the better I felt. I loved being pregnant! I miscarried my first baby (s) but I still never got sick. My second baby… the pregnancy was perfect until I had to have an emergency C-section.
And you’ll be blessed again. You’re young and you’ll be ok. Don’t think of the negative. Have faith in God.
Have them when you are young and have them close together because you know what it’s like to have a newborn/2 or 3 yr old but your 20’s is the time, because you will have the energy to run after your little ones and your beautiful body and all it’s changes bounces back faster as well, and the kids grow up closer. My bro and I are 13 mo apart and I wanted to start school early (at 5 not 6) to go with him so we were only a grade apart. He’s my best friend and we are super close. I thank my parents for giving me a best friend ❤
DO IT! You won't regret it. Probably...
Nice show! Birth order matters to me. I can't generalize but depending on if you are only child or birth order definitely plays a role on who we are as people.
I don’t have children, but I have heard that going from 2 to 3 is harder. You as a couple go from man to man defense to a zone defense.
This is beautiful
Tears of joy
Yes do explore adoption
IMO, Either go 2 or 4.
Going from 2 to 3 is huge difference!
I think whatever is right for your family is right for you’re family! Also I would talk to your doctor too! Your babies are blessing for sure
Andrew would love it, that way Andrew has Shawn hooked...he's playing the roll yea he would love it..
I love you guys so much! It’s awesome how well you guys communicate. You guys are amazing parents and any child be it adopted or a bio child would be so lucky to have you guys as their parents! Your videos are an amazing part of my life and it’s amazing that you discuss so many relatable topics. I’ve found so many awesome products due to your videos! I took the plunge and got Boll and Branch everything for my bed! Thank you for making everyone’s life better for just being you and sharing your life experiences! 🤗
My daughter lost her first child (a girl) in delivery. Like you, she knew right away that she wanted to try again but wanted genetic testing to find out why it happened first. Today, I have two healthy grandsons due to her determination. I am also an only child. I don’t know that I could’ve tried again.
Shawn, you are such an awesome person and such a great role model. I really wish I could meet a woman like you or a man like andrew. I really wish you and your family nothing but the very best for the rest of your lives.
I always suggest physical therapy more than a chiropractor for pre and post-partum because it focuses more on stretches and exercises that you can do daily to help your body feel more comfortable
I had 4 kids and it was not hard. My first two were 1yr 10days apart the next was 2yrs exactly and then 2yrs 2months. Not one of them was planned. I'm one of those who got pregnant on birth control. I do remember feeling sad after my 3rd because I though it was the last. Then when I had the 4th I knew I was done. I'm the mom who loved being pregnant. I also had one 10lb 4oz 3rd child. I even enjoyed that pregnancy. What I'm getting to is just embrace the what ever decide its God's plan for you. Love you as a couple and parents. Now I enjoy being a grandparent of 7 they just need to slow down getting older.
I have 8 children and I can say 3 is the hardest! After 3 is a piece of cake. 😊
Dear Shawn and Andrew, I am 68 1/2 and watch your videos, just to let you know the age range. My son is 33 and I am so stressed out, because I sold my home in Sonoma that I lived in 31 years where I raised him. Got rid of all my furniture and drove East. Ended up in Virginia Beach near where he and his woman relocated in Norfolk. Thank you both!
Honda Odyssey! Always said I would never have a mini van, but I’ll probably have one until we are empty nesters now. Magic seats in the second row allow you to move two carseats away from the door. Cabin Cam is the best. And you can fit anything in that thing
You can foster to adopt in a lot of states.
What about adopting?? 😍
Hey Drew, a couple things (haha unintended pun there) I have learned about the body recently that might help with your full recovery and maybe prep for a new baby- there is a thing called "neural therapy" for scars- c section scars especially can cause issues in the body due to the scars that form internally in the healing. This can cause affects even in distant parts of the body. Many women have seen dramatic benefits with treating their c section scars. There are several ways to do it. One is the neural therapy I mentioned (I would suggest getting additive free- like only has the lidocaine)- another is with a thing called the dolphin stimulator I think- they are a canadian company. Another is at Clear Passage in FL (they help remove all the adhesions gently- this process alone has improved libido, infertility and extreme bowel issues like obstructions). There might be someone local that does the neural therapy. I know Dr. Rowen in CA does it. I know someone local to me, but yeah. Anyway, treating your c section scar, and by consequence, all the other stuff that is connected to that, might help your body feel better and perform better! One other thing to consider is the Gillespie Approach method that addresses birth trauma in babies and adults. And last but not least, grass fed organ supplements have been a game changer for me. I take bone marrow, a blend, and then recently have been using bovine thyroid glandular and it is the best thyroid support I have ever had and I have tried just about every kind of medication, conventional or alternative. I get mine from forefronthealth.com or nutri-meds.com . For other hormone issues, you can check out clearwoman.com or try grass fed bovine female reproductive organs- I have liked those too. Good luck on your family decisions! PS, as validation on wanting to wait a little longer, Weston A Price who studied traditional and indigenous cultures, recommends waiting 3 years in between kids to allow the mom to replenish her body enough. Again, good luck!
My sister and I are 14 months apart, then have a brother that is 4 years younger, worked out awesome
I also had a miscarriage when we first started trying and then had 2 healthy babies and then when trying for a 3rd had a miscarriage (a bit later on and it was heartbreaking) and then we had a 3rd healthy baby. Got ourselves 3 healthy boys ❤❤ the fear is very real though..but I think we can't avoid things out of fear, we can only face the reality of life and have faith
Such a sweet couple! They really enjoy kids.