gymnastics and body image | shawn johnson
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- Опубліковано 25 жов 2022
- This episode touches on a topic we feel is very important - body image. After we had our daughter, Drew, we felt a sense of responsibility for the way we teach our kids about different aspects of life, and this was a big one! If you have children and aren’t sure how to start the conversation about body image or want to know when to start laying the foundation for body positivity- this one is for you and we hope you leave encouraged! And if you don't have kids but are struggling with body image- we hope you can take something away from this episode :)
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SHAWN NEEDS TO WRITE A BOOK ON THIS!!!!!!
I was a social worker with kids from all kinds of neglect and abuse backgrounds- which brings all sorts of eating issues. In the shelter setting we had an amazing Nurse practitioner who had all the staff read a book called “Feeding with Love and Good Sense”. The best take aways from it were that healthy boundaries around food are an adult responsibility: We are in charge of What Where and When food is offered and the child decides If and how much they put in their bodies. MIND BLOWN- and power struggles disappear. Also do not assign higher “value” to sweet foods or use them for bargaining. Instead incorporate them as part of a balanced approach. The freedom this gave to meal times was amazing. Also as we kept track of food the kids ate over the course of a week (as part of documentation), we realized they usually balanced it out fairly well even if one day all they ate was fruit.
Fast forward to me being a mom, NOT wanting to do the clean plate club/body shaming I was raised with, but wanting to be intentional to promote healthy bodies and images in my kids. Even preschoolers can understand basic nutrition and anatomy. We had great fun with it and they helped shop, menu plan and meal prep from very young. We had 3 meals and 3 snacks with a day- sitting down to eat! If there was a “sweet” like brownie or cookie or ice cream it was afternoon meal or snack- to avoid sugar crash at bed time.
We did great with that routine and as teens and adults they are amazing😊 They tease me to this day about the “choices” they got to make - “do you want carrots or snap peas?” “ Do you want your sandwich cut in squares or triangles?” etc
Follow your amazing mom sense and remember they are resilient!
I think it’s almost more important to have them not search for compliments. Like when my children make a picture I don’t say “oh my gosh that’s soooo pretty!!!” I ask “do you like it?” “What do YOU like about it?” “I could tell how hard you worked on that. Are you proud of yourself?” Things like that. So saying how lively I am will teach them to see the best in themselves. Hurt my thought!
Thank you!! Such an important topic to discuss. ♥️ People just don’t understand how many individuals struggle with eating disorders, and just poor self-image and low self-esteem, in general.
glad you enjoyed :)
Moderation. Eat whatever u want. Too much of anything is unhealthy. It's not about how we look but how we feel.
I have been a Shawn fan my whole life!! Now understanding that she's had the same struggles do many of us have had, my respect for her has grown so much more. My daughter is 10 and she struggles with having the thoughts that she's fat. From what Andrew said about not wanting kids to even think about looks, I began telling her that she looks very healthy today or complimenting her clothes. That way "healthy" becomes the focus word for her not the word pretty.
Keep being amazing and inspiring the world. We love you and your family and life lessons. ❤️
Thank you for this episode!! I honestly believe that the best thing a parent can do to help their child develop a healthy body image is to model one. If we as parents tell our children they are beautiful but constantly talk negatively about our own bodies or about those of other people, our children will ultimately emulate that. Thank you for addressing this issue so thoughtfully. Your kids have wonderful parents.
One of my fav thing is always telling little girls in my family that they are always beautiful. When they have a little makeup or a pretty dress on I say "you are always beautiful, this is fancy too though"!
I am pregnant with my first and am working through horrible body image issues. Seeing the positive pregnancy test did re-wire my brain to see that there is a purpose for my body besides physical appearance. My biggest fear is inadvertently projecting those negative thoughts onto my baby girl as she grows up. Thank you for being real and open about this topic. It means a lot to me that you can use your experiences to share with others and help us moms and future moms to have the courage to keep going. ❤
Wow, I’m only 1/3 way in this video and it’s already really encouraged me soo much. Needed this reminder - thank you!
The thanksgiving where no one is thinking about the calories on your plate is the world that I grew up in. No one ever talked about body image or overthinking food. I worry that people are trying to overcorrect and little kids just need to be kids. if you lead by example it will go so far. One thing that I think is great for everyone is to have a small garden and teach your kids how to grow food and prepare it. Also family walks will work wonders.
Just wanted to say, I am so thankful you are speaking out about eating disorders. You're story has made a big impact on me and what I desire for any future children I may have. I hope your story reaches those who need to hear it most.
Thank you! My husband and I aren’t having children, so I can’t speak to raising any. HOWEVER, I want to thank you for raising your kids this way. I, too, grew up in the era of pretty significant fat shaming and the main goal of girls, and boys I’m sure, was to lose weight. I struggled so much throughout school. K-12 because I was “fat”. It is terrible and negatively life altering. Anywho, thank you both. 👏🏼🙌🏼
It's so great that you are teaching your kids about a healthy body image. I do see that sometimes people use the excuse of 'positive body image' to allow themselves to have an unhealthy body. I think the key is being healthy vs being thin. Healthy bodies come in many shapes and sizes - the key being 'healthy'.
Telling a child that certain foods are going to give them a belly ache is a negative connotation toward food and no better, in my opinion, than saying the food is going to make them fat. Food doesn’t need to have so many consequences for young children. They don’t understand it and they don’t need to. Fill your house with healthy foods, give them leeway to have treats, and don’t make any of it a big deal.
Agreed!!!!
You two are Amazing! Thank you!😊
I don't think u are over thinking. I say, the world needs more people to learn that kind of positive reinforcements with their children. I say u are doing great in this instant. Always put Heavenly Father in with your teaching. He is the one to be grateful to. Doing great. I appreciate u for that. Your babies deserve parents like u, who include them into their family. Families are great to have and be apart of. Ok bye
Thank you both for this. So many people struggle with eating disorders and some may not even know it. I didn't until quite recently and turns out, it's been since I was a teenager (I'm 50 now). I thought I lacked willpower (and that is what I have heard from friends and family) which is why I couldn't stop eating, ate in private even when I wasn't hungry, ate so much even though I felt full, and always felt guilt and shame over it. Thank you for discussing this topic and I'm praying it reaches all those who need to hear it.
Thank you for voicing this problem. This topic really important. Your both are amazing.❤️
Thanks a million for that so honnest ans authentic ans humble video bout who you truly are and went thru. Just the 1st 5 mins of that video totally moved me... Shawn you are wonderful!!!!
So many good thoughts! I feel like in the parts of the conversation where Andrew seemed to get stuck and feel like there was no right answer, my thought over and over was that you guys are absolutely doing it right because you're trying to do it at all. Just being aware of the potential issues and trying to be intentional about "getting it right" means that even when you get it wrong, you'll be able to course-correct and get to the end-goal you want for your kids.
I grew up over weight. I was picked on by a particular family member. She even tried to bribe me by saying she would buy me a new wardrobe. As an adult I lost allot of weight for my health with diabetes. She was so happy and proud of me. Her approval didn’t have an impact on me. I’ve since had 2 failed back fusion’s and gained the weight back. I’m trying to get myself healthy so I can return to Weight Watchers and get the weight of for good. I also had to promise my late brother that I would lose the weight. That was due to health issues. So I wanted to say I agree with everything you’re saying. It’s just hurtful.
Oh. My. Goodness. Thank you so much for this!! Bless you!!
Shawn , your equating food to belly aches (if that's the way you phrase it) can have an effect on Drew that your trying not to instill. It could backfire. Just equate food and moderation and healthy eating to being healthy. Moderation being the absolute 💯 per cent thought to instill. The eating habits of Americans is to indulge. The portions ANYWHERE are huge. The more you eat, the more your stomach stretches and the more it takes to fill. Snacking around-the-clock makes more snacking. The amount of kids in sports has dwindled. All truth.
Moderation is the key word. Tell them all the time how beautiful they are and teach them about moderation in life . And love them and hug them.
I have had body image issues all my life. At one point 96 pounds wasn’t even good enough. I see Shawn go up and down in her weight and how she rocks her outfits regardless. I notice when she walks in a room she owns the room with her confidence and I truly only notice her new outfit and how beautiful she is, so now I have been working on my inner beauty and I have noticed that I now feel like a queen when I walk into a room ❤
I love hearing about your nutrition and body image journey! Finding teammates, like dietitians and psychologists, sounds like a really important step. I’d love to hear your perspective on finding medical professionals who work well with you, especially nutritionists etc. I’m not sure what questions I should ask to vet that sort of medical pro.
Great job, on a really hard but VERY relevant topic. Thank you!
This episode hit home for me. From age 11 I overheard a conversation btw my dad and his mother talking about my I’llr word “fat.” She even after paid for me to go to a fat camp for the summer, which led to eating disorderi😅 was never good enough. Bringing me to 1997 when I had my oldest son I never used the word fat even with my 2nd son. Two totally different body types. The younger one is a big.boned body type and stocky. My oldest is on ADD meds even at 25. Now before to Mom was going to turn 50 I decided to try WW again and lost 60lbs and have kept it off for 12 years now.
Thank you for this episode., i know everything in moderation and portion control and I don’t have to eat everything on my plate!❤❤❤
You do need another video! We want it!
Keep in mind that overthinking this also hi-lights that there is an "issue" with food that won't be lost on a kid. When you have a sensitive place such as this, your extreme attempt to make it not an issue can have the opposite effect. I feel like Andrew's instincts are spot on and maybe Shawn should let him take the lead as she continues to re-learn everything about food and nutrition and what normal attitudes are to it.. I also think that saying "No more cookies" is a v. good practice. If they love and respect you, they will internalize that too many cookies isn't optimal. Speaking less about all of this while still instilling good habits and some general nutritional education (and not serving Mac and cheese, chicken nuggets etc as regular kid food) helps to raise healthy (and non-picky!) eaters.
Love this so much
You said so many things in here that were absolute gold. There are so many things from this podcast that are important to remember for shaping the next generation and how that turns into Society as a whole
Hi and reetings from Finland! 💛What a helpful conversation! As someone who's struggled with an ED for 12 years I love that you're that you're paying so much attention to this topic with your kids. I do think shawn's right with associating food to strenght and everything but body-image. I would however steer away from telling that cookies etc give you a belly ace. Just since I personally would have taken that as a negative and just as another way of telling me that cookies are bad. I would instead leave it at recommending "having a bit of chicken with the cookies" so that it's more filling etc. 😊That is however just my personal opinion. Love all your content!🥰 Br, Sara
Very thing in moderation - even in moderation!!
He is such a cutie husband... Best thing you have is how well you communicate with each other!!!
One of my friends told me that when our kids are toddlers, what they want to eat, sometimes it's what their bodies needs at the moment.
Thank you for this podcast! I know not everyone believes in God or a higher power but I feel strongly that if you do believe in God, when you talk badly about yourself in anyway or someone else, you are treating God’s creation poorly. God doesn’t create ugly or worthless things or people. That’s something that helps me when I start to think negatively about my body or anyone else’s looks.
One thing about this video that sort of upsets me is it’s specifically talks about female eating disorder development prevention. We have to remember that more males will be taking anabolic steroids and going to do very damaging things to their bodies to achieve a specific look. This video is very direct to girls. We need more male representation in the body image department. How many male athletes are popped for PED use? More wrestlers are male and they have to have eating disorders to make weight and play the sport.
Except it’s ok to talk about girls .. their daughter is already starting gymnastics that’s why the conversation is happening .. yes men have issues but dang the didn’t act like they don’t .. men in gymnastics also have issues .. they did a great job chatting they aren’t doctors they are parents and athletes trying to give information and put the conversation out there ..
@@Kwildcat13 I know I agree. I just feel the whole eating disorder issue GREATLY ignores boys and focuses on girls primarily. Boys DO suffer from body image issues and boys ARE affected by the media and social pressures. It’s sad to see them so ignored. They do have a son so where’s the concern for male body image? Btw I don’t think they’re neglecting Jett for Drew, I just kind of expected them to cover both genders on this issue.
@@Kwildcat13 it’s totally fine to talk about girls and body image. I don’t think I mentioned it was bad. At all. I just was hoping for coverage on body image in both departments. Men have social pressures to look a specific way just like girls and there is a lot of girl coverage and not nearly as much boy coverage.
We were bicycling together as a family with my husband and 6-year old daughter. I offered her a protein bar when she said she was hungry, but she chose a candy bar. Within the hour, she suddenly jumped off her bike, turned it around and said " I am going back to the car!" I reminded her of her choice of a candy bar, told her that it had caused her blood sugar to drop, she gratefully ate a protein bar. We finished the ride hours later.
This is an important topic. Really sound parenting advice too. Unfortunately it’s often hard for a lot of Americans to access those types of healthcare resources, which you’re right to say would be helpful, like nutritionists and dietitians. It’s hard to even get a therapist that takes your insurance sometimes. Wish we could solve some of those systemic problems so that we could focus on this kind of thing. It’s the Maslov’s Hierarchy of Needs of it all, ya know.
Eating is about moderation. Eat from all the food groups. Enjoy holidays, graduations, birthdays, weddings. If you starve yourself and deprive yourself of foods you will crave them more.
YES!!! so many many times I have heard this word by doctors to me as a child. by relatives who shamed me my whole life. There are so man many moments that cripple and haunt me to this day. No one ever empowered me as a girl and as a woman I am working on empowering myself. we live in a very sick society for women and I would love to speak to you about this. I have never been able to get help it has prevented me from getting help, quality employment and overall safe spaces to live. I would love to talk about this with you and keep this conversation going to heal women all women and empower your girls to love their bodies love their moms bodies loves there family and community and God.
Try including the kids while cooking the meals. I feel that helps them understand good foods vs junk foods.
You need to do a book on this
I can see how it must have been all consuming for you being in gymnastics. I was one who was not in gymnastics or around anyone that was. My experience however was similar though to yours. Bless my sweet grandma who is still alive but always focused on my external beauty and never my internal beauty. It was always “let’s add roseys (blush) to your cheeks” and she worked at the before and after school program in MN and when we moved from California to this school when I was in first grade she would tell me about a boy who saw me at school and asked her what is she, (about me), and he asked is she a movie star? She put Such importance on How Beautiful I was that I found ALL my value in my looks and WOW has this made me suffer in my life, my whole life that I didn’t have the perfect hair day or feeling like my roots are growing in I am Nothing and NO value if I didn’t look “just so.” Does that make sense? Am I 100 over this, no. It’s been the hardest part too in my marriage as I compare myself to others. It’s just been the hardest part in my life and I too have been to counseling over these issues. It’s done wonders as I’ve grown but just wanted to share my story as seems to be very similar but maybe my face or my looks was my focus vs my weight. My mom said she didn’t like when my grandma would do this and couldn’t do anything about it but knew it wasn’t good. Thank you for being so open and honest! Love you guys!! ❤
A video on temptation in marriage too may be helpful as my husband on occasion has fallen into sin. Woman are barraging around, it’s on billboards, how women dress even in the grocery stores, it’s all trying to wear men down. How does Andrew deal with this in being faithful with his eyes and honor you in the world we live in? Our Lutheran Pastor pointed us to read Ephesians 4-5 and it has helped. He also said to have my husband help me through this to help me heal and Jesus instructed to forgive not just 7 times but 77 times so if I bring things up it’s to help me heal and my husband needs to be supportive and understanding forgiving 77 times and having patients and this has helped us grow together and establishing trust. Anyway, that’s been hard for us but we are growing closer to God and closer together by my husband learning to be an even Godlier man and we both are creating the marriage we both desire, which is honorable.
I was an athlete. Anorexia has almost taken my life way too many times to count. It sneaks in different ways every time. I wish that aspect was brought to life more than a stereotypical situation or two
Have you had Drew checked for lactose intolerance? My friend's daughter is about 43 years old & just found out that she is lactose intolerant. My friend (her mother) says that it makes perfect sense to her because her daughter grew up with a stomach ache every morning on the way to school after drinking milk/eating cereal, etc.
Almost every American is lactose intolerant
You are not defined by your looks....actions speak louder than words
Body image is not just a problem for girls, boys and men also suffer.
I absolutely love this video. I have only one thing to add. I am 4'9 and weight 82 pounds at my peak weight. I have tried so many different diets and I am still at 80 pounds right now. All my life I have been super skinny "to skinny" . I always got the anorexic or
bolimic comments. Yes, the subject of body image is getting a little better but being skinny is also a struggle that hurts and is in my mind all the time. Every day. Once I tried to put so much food in my stomach one day with all the nutritions I am supposed to have in a day and ended up sick to my stomach all the next. I feel the total opposite and dream of being bigger. Healthier looking. To be able to find clothes that fit without going to the kids department. This is not covered as much. There needs to be more talk on how to overcome the "to skinny" side. Everyone has throw out suggestions on what to do and I'm thankful but I have tried. My nutritionist has tried so many different things thru the years but my insurance just doesn't cover enough sessions. I was at the point of why eat because I will never gain weight so why try to eat so much. I got tired of eating. I don't know I just think there should be more talk on how people who feel they are to skinny and have also been bullied for their weight needs to be talked about more. Thank you for everything you guys are and do for others. I love your channels and how much you love to help others. I'm rambling now so I'll end with this. I love what you are doing and how you are trying to help others. You are a blessing to us all. Body image is a huge topic that needs more and more discussions and education. Thank you😊
Teaching kids about healthy body image should obviously start at home but schools(starting in PreSchool) need to teach it as well. Through nutrition, fitness and mental health. Kids both girls and boys should learn that every body is beautiful and if someone is over weight, under weight, tall, short, straight hair, curly hair etc, they are not to be made fun of. Maybe a book or a series of pamphlets showing kids how to be healthy physically and mentally is in your future???
Kids need to know that too much of something can hurt you and also make you over weight. People have to stop avoiding using the words that are what they are. That causes confusion in them. Yeah too much makes your tummy hurt but it also ca make you overweight and they need to know that. Not in a negative way but in a way they understand overweight because of eating too much is hurting you but thin or overweight you still love them. But they must know too much is not good but they can love themselves for THEIR body type and that is important to understand. Healthy diets are good if done right. Teaching choices is huge but they have to understand too much of the bad will make them overweight. It doesn't make them bad it means choices. Too little food is exactly the same it's unhealthy to be too skinny and they need to know that too. It's more learning their body type and not comparing it to another while understanding what food does
Excellent it’s true!! Fearing kids will become anorexic/have body image issues IS JUST AS DAMAGING as someone who focuses on their child not becoming obese. It creates fear/anxiety and obsessive behaviors and both are a problem. What ever happened to “let it be”? They’re not even 5 years old yet.
I love the podcasts but as a mom and an athlete . I was wondering if you would like to post some workouts .. curious minds would love to know how you still use gymnastic skills or core work into your daily workouts .. I’m an endurance athlete with a tiny bit of gymnastic background . I would love to know how you keep the core so strong or if you ever had any issues after birth getting it back .. I’m obsessed with your handstands and toes to bar .. now I know you tube can be very picky on workouts and the neg comments but I would love to hear anything and everything you conditioning wise and what you love and hate about certain workouts . I’m 4 foot 11 too ..it’s rare I find anyone with my body type and maybe the same struggles with it .. people actually always ask if I did gymnastics which I find laughable . I wish but I did basketball and soccer and softball .. and then military training .. I do love CrossFit because of the added gymnastic elements . I just love workouts and I’m an adaptive coach now so the curiosity of how you trained or train now is just so intriguing .. being a mom and training is different for every mom that’s for sure .
My dad would hide his snickers bars so we kids didn't eat them. I hoard candy and hide it now too. I don't want to be judged for having a recees so i hide them. But then I forget about them and I'm always finding candy around my house. LOL My parents always said to us if we got a cookie..."think you can pass that cookie jar w/out grabbing a cookie?" And one time they said, we never have to worry about you not eating. So i didn't eat for 3 weeks. I have issues. 😉
I think it’s about moderation. Plus it is ok to say no as a parent to the second or third piece of cake. It’s about balance.
Agreee 100% I think they’re overthinking it a LITTLE BIT. I get shawn has experience with this in the past and eating disorders can start at a young age but, to say no to eating all the candy and only having 2-4 pieces of Halloween candy or have one slice of cake and one piece pizza at a birthday party instead of 3 pieces of cake. Shawn also was an elite athlete. Just about every elite athlete has a specific diet/body standards to meet. You cant be playing basketball at 6’1 and 350 pounds. You cant be playing professional football at 5’6 and 135 pounds. Like her experience is VERY UNIQUE cause she was that 1% athlete that made it to the top of her sport. Her kids MAY NOT even be at that level.
Balance really is the answer. Have them enjoy exercise with games and creativity as well as eat the banana and candy bar. To me, theyre over thinking this as a parent. Their intentions are in the right place though.
I am a 42 year old plus size woman and when I was in school from the time I was 9 to 18 I was bullied I was called fat and ugly so when I was 17 I tried to kill myself but my father found me in time I got help but I still have my moments that my body image goes from positive to negative thoughts every once in awhile. 🇮🇪👍
I think Andrew’s approach is much more reasonable than Shawn’s…dare I say. Shawn’s approach is “this is what I went through” when in fact eating disorders are VERY unique per person and never the same. She wants her daughter to not experience anything negative about her body when it comes to size but, it’s inevitable. It’s not the BEST idea to let a child experience the downside of no limits, the “tummy ache” idea she provided us. It SEEMS LIKE shawn would rather her daughter experience dental issues and illness VS slightly negative body image. I know she didn’t say those words but that’s what I can’t help but come to the conclusion. For gods sake FAT Is a bad word?!! No…it’s a macro nutrient and adjective. Just an opinion of mine. I definitely love shawn and KNOW she’s coming from a place of care and love and experience but it’s just a bit illogical.
Andrew’s is more being basic and honest. “These foods will help your muscles, these foods are treats, these foods help with eyesight”. Not putting a positive or negative approach to ANY food is the better way. Just providing the facts on what they are and what they can do to/for your body.
Ultimately balance is the key. Our bodies need all sorts of macro and micro nutrients to continue living. There’s nothing wrong with saying no to your child on their 3rd piece of cake if they had nothing nutritious prior.
If we as adults fear so much over the development of eating disorders, we are in fact nurturing obsessive and anxiety like behaviors. Just like fearing our kids becoming fat created this mindset, so will the opposite. We can’t overthink these things. We just need to let things be for now and when warning signs come abroad, take a course of action. Shawn should trust her instincts and her experience will help her notice warning signs of POSSIBLE eating disorder amongst her children (possible).
Also this videos title said “gymnastics and body image”. we didn’t really hear much about gymnastics, moreso how to parent a little girl into not developing an eating disorder.
I agree 100%. Fearing an eating disorder is just as bad as fearing become overweight. They are on the opposite sides of the spectrum but they meet in the middle and have the same outcome. I think Shawn’s jumping the gun because she experienced things. Her parents didn’t obsess over her weight, or her having bad body image. They seemed normal parents who knew balance and acceptance. Why should shawn be so uptight about it ALREADY? The kid is only 3.
Well she is new parent , parents of 20 plus years don’t know exactly how to help their daughters have better body image .. it’s ok .. I think that’s a big harsh to expect her to have all the answers .. she just doesn’t want her daughter to feel what she did and I can absolutely understand that
@@Kwildcat13 I understand she’s coming from a good place! I agree with some things she says, i don’t completely hate her ideas! I just think she needs to relax until a potential problem comes to the surface.
The dialogue we have with girls is generally different than we have with boys. It is changing a bit as society begins to emphasize men’s looks and fashion. When you mentioned telling your daughter she’s pretty when she’s dressed as a princess or if she’s running around naked is not something we do with our little boys. I don’t know what the answer is but maybe it’s an individual approach that if your comments result in a child focusing on things that aren’t important maybe it’s time for a different approach. Maybe we should examine why we feel the need to tell a little girl how pretty they look.
Andrew reminds me of Tom Brady
As 32 year old woman, I go to boy shorts, board shorts, and a tank top over a bikini... or I find something that makes me feel beautiful... a bikini won't do it for me..
I don't think constantly giving the bad connotation to unhealthier food is necessarily a good thing because it's like Andrew said, if you keep reminding them that cake isn't going to make them feel good if they eat it then they're going to go to their friend or family member's birthday and they'll REMEMBER all of the negative you said about cake and they WON'T want any and that's not really fair for them to feel like they can't enjoy the party to the fullest extent without fear that they're going to have negative bodily reactions to it if they do. I think it needs to be more of a "no, you can't have COOKIES after dinner because you had CAKE at the birthday party earlier and that's enough sugar for one day" and leave it like that vs always telling them how crappy it'll make them feel like telling them that they'll puke if they eat it. I wouldn't want to eat anything that I'm always being told is going to make me puke and I'm 40.
I know it difficult. I stuggle but the negative voices are saying 'i eat too much' and 'i eat too little' it alway your not doing enough..i think the goal is to find out what you need to do to maintain a health positions and aim lowly for this. Balance expect it always a balance some time 'it a little too much' and 'some time it not enough'...you can go to the point why they are eat green rice and they are unhappy...they are going to be take it from one exterm or others.
Let kids be kids. Of course feeding them healthy foods and not dessert if they don't eat their meal. Kids don't have these ideas naturally. It is their environment. If you aren't talking about it all the time they don't get it stuck in the mind. You may say you are so beautiful so much that they feel like they have to look certain ways to keep your love for them like having to dress in beautiful gowns because that was when she was beautiful. Yes say it occasionally but don't over reflect your feelings and issues because that in itself would possibly lead her down the same path. When she gets older talk to her and let her know she can talk to you about anything.
I have a son who wasn't an athletic person he is intelligent beyond his years. He was called nerd/geek a couple of times. The 1st time he was upset about it and when he told me about it on the way home, we talked about how everyone has different gifts from God and his is being a bookworm and smart. So the second time it happened, instead of getting upset, he turned to the person and said good that makes me smarter than you. He stunned his bully with a very quick explanation and that the person got put in their place without any other issues and no more bullying. They all have things they may not like but as it comes up in conversation talk to them in more depth. I know this isn't exactly what you were discussing but very similar in how kids feel about themselves. Just love them unconditionally and in spite of their flaws let them know you are there when they need you. The more you focus on something the more the child thinks about it and looks to control it.
Let’s talk about what the medical community makes us feel like in regards to body image. The BMI scale is wack!! You are medically listed as overweight when you are a healthy weight. That is when i get irritated seeing overweight as my diagnosis when I feel great and do everything I can to be healthy but my body is not built to look healthy at the weight the medical community list as the number I need to be. When is the BMI scale going to be looked at!
I agree about teaching good habits, but don't make it about how they look or how they might feel because that is going to make it more about that. Being careful not to reflect on your kids your past because they are their own person and not you and what you have been through. I love how Andrew ended it with loving your heart ❤️ and that is what it is all about. Encouraging a relationship with Christ and walking through life and how he would address food and using it to fuel the body that he gave us and that everyone has a different body and that is the beauty that we all come from. ✝️📖
P.S. I love watching you all and especially as the babies were on the way and now with them growing into their own selves. They are amazing walking and talking so early. Little achievers!!!🩷🩵
Shawn, just say it. Nastia’s body triggered you majorly back then and probably a little bit even to this day. What YOU FAILED to acknowledge was that even though you weren’t built like Nastia, you WON every competition besides the Olympics. Your body won more All around competitions than Nastia’s. Sorry Nastia I don’t mean to be rude, I’m just stating facts.
You need to listen to Andrew and truly take in when he mentions “your 4’11 body can do awesome things” and HAS DONE awesome things. In fact, LOTS OF GIRLS admire your well built physique back then. You were arguably more popular than Nastia in 2007-2009 time. Yes, I understand, Nastia’s bodytype was more acknowledged positively according to gymnastics big dogs like Marta and Bela but, if your body type was not what they wanted, why did you win so often and get put on the Olympic team? Wouldn’t the judges be scoring you less if they didn’t like your physique.
You cant be so negative about your bodytype. More gymnasts are shaped like you vs Nastia. It really doesn’t help the situation you’re trying to fight. I still sense some insecurity and bad body image in your words and tone than what you want us to think. More than likely Not one of us watching u has even made it to elite status in one thing.
I use “you’re so clever!” Instead of “ you look pretty!” And try to shift language to be more body conscious and compassionate rather that confrontational and judgmental. Epiphany!!
Yes Andrew! I love how you praise Shawn for being so open about this!! I am 21 weeks pregnant and I’m so scared and have had so much anxiety about getting bigger with baby and hearing Shawn talk about her past is so helpful for me. 🥹😭💕