How & Why to Set Goals (for people who feel lost in life)

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  • Опубліковано 16 лис 2021
  • How and Why to set goals - from lost to found.
    Worksheet: drive.google.com/file/d/1J6F7...
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 576

  • @struthless
    @struthless  2 роки тому +605

    Lol I'll straighten my posture for the next vid, I spent the mic stand money on frames

    • @Loefoll
      @Loefoll 2 роки тому +5

      I was just about to ask :D

    • @katierobertsart5658
      @katierobertsart5658 2 роки тому +1

      Hahaha! Was wondering!! :D

    • @robertbikers9502
      @robertbikers9502 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you, this video is quite visually incongruous with the message you are trying to convey.

    • @Todiros
      @Todiros 2 роки тому +1

      Ha, I was thinking... why the mic is so short, that must be uncomfy! xD

    • @lisettegarcia
      @lisettegarcia 2 роки тому +8

      Lol.. looks like you're super into us. I didn't mind it.
      On my channel, I just use the sewing machine cover as my microphone stand. 🤣 Maybe you could use a shipping box from your garment line.

  • @Hi_Im_Akward
    @Hi_Im_Akward Рік тому +191

    I love how you always tackle that darkness. You're the opposite of toxic positivity. You're healthy positivity. Tackling that dark shit is half the battle. And you short cut it so easily. "Because it feels good" 🤯 thank you. I love your videos

  • @reemam8965
    @reemam8965 2 роки тому +148

    I felt like crying as early as "without you the world would probably still be as bad. with you, you do have the potential to make it slightly better." struthless is truly a gift and the world is definitely substantially better with you in it - thank you!

  • @ronie_artwork
    @ronie_artwork 2 роки тому +463

    I was crying two hours ago about the fact that I couldn't set goals correctly. Two possibilities : you're my spiritual mentor or google is listening . Cheers from Belgium, I love everything you do 🤘

    • @Sholpanization
      @Sholpanization 2 роки тому +6

      I think social media can listen to our thoughts, already

    • @ronie_artwork
      @ronie_artwork 2 роки тому +8

      ​@@Sholpanization if it's true then good luck social media, it's not a quite place down there :D

    • @Sholpanization
      @Sholpanization 2 роки тому

      @@ronie_artwork haha

    • @marcoscarlomagno3065
      @marcoscarlomagno3065 2 роки тому

      Both of them 😂

  • @titatesta4577
    @titatesta4577 2 роки тому +32

    linking jealousy with direction is one of the best things I've heard in a while. great advice

  • @sarahisatitagain
    @sarahisatitagain Рік тому +58

    I've noticed your videos are the type of videos you have to watch at least 2 times to get the most out of it. One to enjoy the video and visuals, to get that mind blowing feeling out of it. The second to "do your homework" and apply to practical life.
    Getting people to watch stuff is hard, but your content is so good it deserves a double watch. Thanks for your videos. All of them, even the ones you think aren't that good. I've learned at least 1 useful thing in each of them or they have moved me to a better state of mind with your sense of humor and metaphors. Just bought your book and it is helping me understand the stuff my therapist can't. Thanks

  • @thecommonnovelist4181
    @thecommonnovelist4181 2 роки тому +32

    "Follow the fun!" Ferrrr sure. I really struggle with this, as most times I've followed the fun I've managed to turn something I really enjoy into drudgery. Mostly just pinning too much importance on it, and trying to do too much of it, thinking about it in my off time etc...burning out on it.
    Anyway, your videos help so much and I'm starting your book once the kid is in bed tonight. Cheers!

    • @attacatz8945
      @attacatz8945 2 роки тому +3

      Same for me. I'm having to teach myself that it's okay to take breaks, even from fun. Depression and perfectionism really make you think that fun things arnt as fun anymore. If you're up for advice(I dont know you so feel free to ignore this I may be wrong), try to relax. Practice being okay with taking a 30min break from EVERYTHING without feeling bad about it, then once you're relaxed, make an achievable goal and do it. This is kind of what he touches on in the video lol but with an added "it's okay to get burned out so give yourself a break so you can get back to it". :)

    • @Olivia-fl3bn
      @Olivia-fl3bn 2 роки тому +4

      Same here, I learned my problem was I put a huge expectation on everything I touch. I feel like I have to be the “best of the best,” and shouldn’t it be easier to do that if I choose something I actually enjoy? It very quickly takes the fun out of it. I’m slowly but surely cutting out the expectations, negative thoughts, judgements, criticisms, and comparisons I not only get from others but also myself 😅 Best of luck to you and finding the fun again!

    • @MellowMutts270
      @MellowMutts270 2 місяці тому +1

      I am struggling with the same thing. I think a part of my problem is that I take things too seriously and too personally. I have always been extremely harsh on my self and being that way over the years has caused me to avoid playfulness for fear of looking like an idiot. I don’t care if others judge me it’s me and the viciously pessimistic voice in my head that bother me more.

  • @App.ollo_
    @App.ollo_ 2 роки тому +28

    When I needed him the most, he appeared.
    Cheers yellow hat guy, luv u

  • @alancooke6630
    @alancooke6630 2 роки тому +18

    Great video. My problem is I suffer with anxiety, and goals make me anxious. I have abandoned so many that when I set a goal and I DO manage to complete it, I am more relieved that it is over than getting a sense of achievement. So a long term goal, even broken down, is a wait on my shoulders.

  • @abhisheksharma2138
    @abhisheksharma2138 2 роки тому +42

    The only "self help" channel that I never miss a video of, thanks mate!

  • @Karmer
    @Karmer 2 роки тому +34

    Thanks so much for the start point of 'lost'!!!!! It's definitely rare to find a video like this because everywhere presumes we already have our 'goal'.

  • @furaidochikification
    @furaidochikification 2 роки тому +4

    Can we have a struthless journal with all your journal prompts PLEASE. I risk spending 2 days of my life binge-watching (again) all your videos just to note them all down in one place!

  • @Hardts
    @Hardts 2 роки тому +16

    Thanks for doing these videos.
    I keep ending up in depression. Poeple tell me I have a lot to offer, but I often don't see it that way myself, or am totally bogged down by mental health issues.
    Sometimes a video like this can give a little push in the right direction.

  • @kristiwidner7880
    @kristiwidner7880 10 місяців тому +4

    Thanks! I am actually linking a bunch of your videos in my class for graduating high schoolers taking an alternate route to graduation.

    • @Jess-zz2je
      @Jess-zz2je 4 місяці тому

      If anyone in my life would have provided me with this when I was graduating, I don't think I would have been so lost in the world. Your students are lucky to have you

  • @dylanelkins2259
    @dylanelkins2259 2 роки тому +10

    I love how he recognizes on some days we feel like shit and others we feel like we can accomplish anything. This bipolarity in my own emotions from day to day really set me back and i’m glad he points this reality out.

  • @ravenecho2410
    @ravenecho2410 3 місяці тому +2

    Hey i saw ur video two years ago, i set big ambitions, ive achieved 95%. Was looking at my paper i wrote and i am never where i thought i would be.
    I have tons more dreams to keep going. Just wanna say ur video is still as relevant and i remember seeing this, after having had written what i was working on.
    Thinfs even 10 years ago i thought were impossible. Im having new types of goals, like meeting people and things but i still have my fire in my belly

  • @naomistone
    @naomistone 10 місяців тому +3

    I love how you mentioned that quote "following the fun" and if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong! Because life is supposed to be enjoyed and your goals should have something that excites you!

  • @ThecrazyJH96
    @ThecrazyJH96 2 роки тому

    Sometging that helped my busy brain is taking social media detoxes. Not checking my phone when I wake up gets me out of bed faster, I stop comparing myself to other, and stop distracting myself/procrastinating

  • @yael9455
    @yael9455 2 роки тому +80

    This video came at the exact right moment - I want to organize and perform in a solo recital by sometime next year because it’s an opportunity i didn’t seize when I was doing my BA in music... ready set gooooo!!!

    • @Gnomes_
      @Gnomes_ 2 роки тому +3

      Hey good luck! I'm doing a BMus at the moment and find recitals fucking terrifying! It's compulsory in my course to do them, otherwise I don't know that I would. What's your instrument?

    • @cheese3640
      @cheese3640 2 роки тому

      Best of luck!!!

    • @Dany_lop
      @Dany_lop 2 роки тому

      Eeeyooooo we got the same goals, god speed my friend

  • @diegovillanueva8049
    @diegovillanueva8049 2 роки тому +25

    Your channel is one of the best things I found on UA-cam this year. I really appreciate your content and it has helped me a lot.

  • @shannonkreiv5618
    @shannonkreiv5618 Рік тому +11

    fair play to you admitting your jealous tendencies! Especially in the online world it's easy to fall into the trap of portraying perfection, but what I love about you is that you're authentic 💜

  • @dizye2971
    @dizye2971 28 днів тому

    its so nice to be remembered that you aren't alone in this. no one has it all figured out and thats okay. Keep pushing everyone

  • @els2222
    @els2222 2 місяці тому +1

    This video has given me some hope thank you! Been feeling lost on what makes me happy and what to dooo x

  • @mjwilds
    @mjwilds 2 роки тому

    I've had a shit day and I am en route to my winter job in Colorado; a shit place that is overrated in every single way. Hearing you say you're calling your series "Shit Dads" resuscitated my dead heart. Thank you.

  • @fdora20
    @fdora20 Рік тому +7

    What you said about jealousy is so life-changing man... I appreciate so so much that you always try to give us an option to use our negative feelings in a useful way. Thank you so much ❤️

  • @invervluck2899
    @invervluck2899 Рік тому +3

    This changed my life, I made a list of decisions a little over a year ago, and because of this video, I’m in a much happier place today. However, I stopped doing the journaling after only a few months, and I can tell that my goals have fallen to the wayside. But a friend asked me today how they could keep up with their goals and daily stress, and I suggested this video. I decided to watch it again myself, and I’m filled with motivation to restart the journaling I started when you first released this video. I hope it turns out well, thank you and keep doing you.

  • @GGSkyHigh
    @GGSkyHigh 2 роки тому +1

    You the teacher I wish I had as a Kid.

  • @cheese3640
    @cheese3640 2 роки тому

    I swear your uploads come at the exact right time. Thanks so much!!

  • @misterklem
    @misterklem 2 роки тому

    Thank you struthless, i really needed this!

  • @RealJamieBarclay
    @RealJamieBarclay 2 роки тому +38

    I've discovered goals work differently with different people. Some people need them in order to function, while it causes severe anxiety in others. The whole "I need to be a millionaire by the time I'm 30" goal is SO common and causes so much unnecessary stress and anxiety. The points in this video are great, just do what works for you king 👑

    • @GeorgiaPeck
      @GeorgiaPeck 2 роки тому

      I agree and with the millionaire by 30 goal, if you think about it it’s so ludicrous. Often the only reason we want to aim for that is because we see it all over social media

    • @GeorgiaPeck
      @GeorgiaPeck 2 роки тому

      Cool content on your channel by the way!

  • @clairechapman5842
    @clairechapman5842 Рік тому

    Always love and appreciate this content, thank you Struthless!

  • @TheTime92
    @TheTime92 2 роки тому

    Just love this - thanks Sturthless

  • @pauli8379
    @pauli8379 11 місяців тому +1

    this is literally the best youtube channel ever. thank you so much. you changed my life 3 years ago and now i kinda lost the direction a bit again and came back here to find this amazing video. thanks man.

  • @elinor2667
    @elinor2667 2 роки тому

    As always, thank you struthless!!!

  • @potentialhb0mb
    @potentialhb0mb Рік тому

    I just found your videos and I love them. Your approach is so helpful and makes so much sense. Really needed this. Thank you.

  • @brianmichael5935
    @brianmichael5935 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks man good to see a vid up. Worth the wait. I appreciate you bringing reality and a strong positive outlook. (:

  • @jorgleiger
    @jorgleiger 2 роки тому +1

    I've never been more excited about an upload!!! Thank you!!

  • @BigRigTrig
    @BigRigTrig 2 роки тому

    Thanks for being real man, it’s hella refreshing

  • @valeriaalfonso1479
    @valeriaalfonso1479 Рік тому

    thanks for the worksheet man!

  • @velmineb5807
    @velmineb5807 2 роки тому +3

    I was on a long car ride looking for a good video and I got this notification. Off to a good start today ♡

  • @abiomer415
    @abiomer415 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for this vid Cam! Also I started reading your book 2 days ago and I'm enjoying it so much, can't thank you enough!

  • @peachwatercoloreyes
    @peachwatercoloreyes 25 днів тому

    thank you man this was needed in my life these days

  • @fairaies1786
    @fairaies1786 2 роки тому

    As always thank you 🙌🏼 just what I needed to hear

  • @ishverma8263
    @ishverma8263 2 роки тому

    i LOVED this video. I felt it was very authentic and different from the other goals setting vids i've watched. Thanks man, keep posting!

  • @Tygrave
    @Tygrave 2 роки тому

    YOU'RE THE BEST!!! Really helped clear my head!

  • @Manohikari
    @Manohikari Рік тому

    Thanks man. Much love and appreciation.

  • @annabellamusic
    @annabellamusic Рік тому

    All of your videos are so unexpected and exciting! I am never disappointed!

  • @KariN-rt1ok
    @KariN-rt1ok 2 роки тому

    I honestly love your videos so much. Every time I step in one of your videos, you give me a breath of fresh air.

  • @nicholassouliotis6621
    @nicholassouliotis6621 2 роки тому

    You’re the goat, such a unique balance, keep up the good work mate!

  • @marseltukhvatshin4880
    @marseltukhvatshin4880 2 роки тому

    hey, Campbell, your impact is priceless!
    thanks for the wisdom 🙌

  • @charleneali
    @charleneali 2 роки тому

    Thank you for the worksheet ☺️👍🏼

  • @lindahernandez3984
    @lindahernandez3984 2 роки тому

    I love your content so much! One of the most authentic UA-camrs out there 💛

  • @lauragale6920
    @lauragale6920 2 роки тому

    You are a wonderful human being with wonderful content, that comes across perfectly - easy to take in and relaxing to watch! X

  • @15MinuteModeller
    @15MinuteModeller 2 роки тому

    Think this is one of your best vids yet and certainly hits the spot. 🙂

  • @kellywilson7936
    @kellywilson7936 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for creating and sharing this! Such a helpful tool!!

  • @melissarichard4533
    @melissarichard4533 2 роки тому +2

    I just live how passionate you are about your art and guiding others. you're the best :')

  • @mahakaransandhu917
    @mahakaransandhu917 2 роки тому +2

    mate your videos are bloody brilliant, deeply insightful, full of deep wisdom and come at exactly the right time -- appreciate your work brother!!

  • @e.challis6796
    @e.challis6796 2 роки тому

    Thank you for existing man

  • @haileynichelle8343
    @haileynichelle8343 2 роки тому

    Thank you for starting at the point of "lost..." So relatable!

  • @ArgenAndJael
    @ArgenAndJael 2 роки тому

    There's so much helpful stuff in this video that I had to get out paper and a pencil and take notes! Thank you so much for making these videos!

  • @erin2150
    @erin2150 2 роки тому

    I didn't' even hesitate to buy your book just now. Each video I watch is teeming with fun tidbits of life with just enough wit and critical thought to keep me entertained and growing as a person. I'm really excited to read it.

  • @jasmarr
    @jasmarr 2 роки тому

    This is so helpful . Thank you so much for sharing this with us. And I can not believe I saw this video for free on UA-cam. The quality is too perfect!

  • @skyh1348
    @skyh1348 2 роки тому +1

    I'm s happy i found your channel a couple of months ago, one of my favourite youtubers right now. Keep being yourself man :)

  • @maridesconsi
    @maridesconsi 2 роки тому

    i just absolutely freaking LOVE your videos and everything about them, you inspire me SO MUCH, AAAAHHHGGG!!!! (this is me hugging you for very far away, hope you felt some warm fuzzy feeling or whatever). have a great day man

  • @lemonkitty8320
    @lemonkitty8320 2 роки тому

    I get so excited to see your videos. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @sentryslayer16
    @sentryslayer16 2 роки тому

    Awesome video! i was just writing goals when i saw this when looking for music. Keep up the good work, you're awesome.

  • @NewKidOnTheBlock100
    @NewKidOnTheBlock100 2 роки тому

    dude this is one of your best videos yet

  • @honeybees6040
    @honeybees6040 2 роки тому

    Finally! A new video I've waited it from yesterday and then it came out today :D

  • @sutter9702
    @sutter9702 10 місяців тому

    this video has become one i go back to multiple times when i feel lost. thanks for reminding me/us there is a life to be lived somewhere between extremes.

  • @redcloud4741
    @redcloud4741 Місяць тому

    Sometimes it's the most simple solutions (setting goals) which solve what feels like the most complex problems (feeling no direction in life)

  • @mashainmotion
    @mashainmotion 2 роки тому

    your animations are so dope! you make everything so short and simple, lovin' it. 👌🙃

  • @louisecurran3226
    @louisecurran3226 2 роки тому

    Love the jumper/sweater/fish thing!

  • @TheEefaShrof
    @TheEefaShrof 3 місяці тому +1

    Dude, you are brilliant!!!
    Thank you for the clarity and making it fun.

  • @cleverscreenname5698
    @cleverscreenname5698 2 роки тому

    I’m 80 pages into your book and I love it. I can really hear your voice in it. I’ve been using it to get some Struthless content between your last post and this one. :)

  • @niaimanicooper7757
    @niaimanicooper7757 2 роки тому

    I literally love you and your videos.

  • @hoghug4338
    @hoghug4338 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video, you seriously always have the perfect video at the perfect time

  • @blakebolt9205
    @blakebolt9205 Рік тому

    I absolutely love your content and the way your brain works, thank you for sharing this wisdom, this is gold 🏆 especially for people with ADHD like me

  • @vika.v8917
    @vika.v8917 2 роки тому

    Thank you for videos like these. Love your content and it usually pulls me out of downward negative spirals my mind tends to follow. 🖖

  • @richardteare5534
    @richardteare5534 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for this brother. Your Uber line really got me because I have done that more time than I can remember. I feel grateful for this breakdown my dude. It really makes goal setting a whole lot easier with these steps. What gets me excited is making entertaining videos based on daily situations when learning a new language. Purely for entertainment, but that’s all I have for now. Will do the breakdown and mapping of it all this week! Thank you so much. Have a wonderful day!

  • @Freckles101598
    @Freckles101598 2 роки тому

    This video helped and also made me excited for your upcoming projects!!

  • @Csoery
    @Csoery 7 місяців тому

    Great video, thanks for the upload. I'm "between goals" atm and was looking for a bit of inspo. I found your thought process really uplifting. I know you posted this a while ago but still wanted to say that I'd noticed and enjoyed the animation even before you mentioned it as your goal :)

  • @Kringeladida
    @Kringeladida 2 роки тому

    I love this swirly font. It gives me happy „you can do it“-vibes. 👀
    Thank you for the worksheet! 🧡

  • @telmaceyakidua4088
    @telmaceyakidua4088 2 роки тому

    Totally appreciate your talking style. For this type of videos it's very important to be not annoying, and you got it rly well

  • @HP-mk2lw
    @HP-mk2lw Рік тому +2

    I love your book. It’s also the only book about anxiety that I can get my husband to read. Thanks for creating it.

  • @drewmiller8825
    @drewmiller8825 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much!! Perfect timing!

  • @ayayahyaoui2286
    @ayayahyaoui2286 2 роки тому

    You're becoming easily my fav UA-camr

  • @jennifertharp659
    @jennifertharp659 Рік тому

    This is a keeper. Thank you!

  • @courtlovecat
    @courtlovecat 2 роки тому +1

    I don't know how it is possible for someone all the way across the earth to speak to exactly who I am as a human, but I appreciate it. Thank you for sharing everything you do. You've given me a lot of hope. Keep it up, man. 👍👍✌

  • @chantelmcskimming6633
    @chantelmcskimming6633 2 роки тому

    Thank you!! I really like the fun element ! 😊

  • @martinaodell2866
    @martinaodell2866 2 роки тому

    Thanks for the reminder! Your book is on my amazon Christmas wish list

  • @GuardianOfFey
    @GuardianOfFey 2 роки тому

    Already having a worksheet instead of always writing notes helps a lot, thanks for posting it.

  • @edwardn.4784
    @edwardn.4784 5 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for making this video.

  • @ojoaofecchio
    @ojoaofecchio 2 роки тому

    great video as usual! thanks cam, love you xoxo

  • @Naominaxna
    @Naominaxna Місяць тому

    I can't explain how much this helped omg

  • @noonereally9946
    @noonereally9946 2 роки тому

    You're a champion mate. Thanks

  • @victorialynn6248
    @victorialynn6248 2 роки тому

    I really like all of this video but specifically the part 4 and putting the tasks on the wall with the arrow. Wow!

  • @willnoel5201
    @willnoel5201 Рік тому

    Incredibly informative and concise. Thank you for what you do! I really feel understood.

  • @user-uz5kf8jq4m
    @user-uz5kf8jq4m 2 роки тому

    Man, so glad you've came back!!! Awesome setup though!

  • @hannuccia
    @hannuccia 2 роки тому

    i like your videos because they give me the motivation and direction i need in a simple, funny and casual way

  • @diegolikescode
    @diegolikescode 9 місяців тому

    my dear, your book is great! I just finished reading and it is a MUST for most people in this day and age. Thanks for your great work and video