The Journalling Techniques that Changed My Life

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  • 9 Journalling Techniques that I've come across/up with over the past 12 years (using the double L spelling coz I'm Australian)
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  • @nicolim3946
    @nicolim3946 2 роки тому +3387

    2:40 journalling for clarity
    3:00 journalling for breaking your mindset
    3:48 journalling for daily reflections
    4:25 journalling for habits & lifestyle audit
    5:34 journalling for when bad things happen
    6:35 journalling for anxieties
    8:28 journalling for your to do list & direction
    9:03 journalling for decision making
    9:50 journalling for direction in life

  • @lotusfae
    @lotusfae 2 роки тому +3564

    "No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it." Something I've heard and known before, but really needed to hear again right now. Thank you for that!

    • @canmetan670
      @canmetan670 2 роки тому +27

      "Negative visualization" technique from stoicism would disagree.

    • @candychip2557
      @candychip2557 2 роки тому +55

      Idk I feel like this depends on the person. For me, rehearsing negative outcomes is a positive thing, it doesn't make me overly anxious but instead drags down my standards and takes off a lot of pressure, as well as lets me prepare for a bad future in case it might ever arrive. For example, for a long time I've been practicing myself with the idea that my older family members might pass away randomly at any time, so I should appreciate my time with them while I have it. Last year my grandma got a pretty serious mini-stroke and was taken to the hospital; we didn't know what was wrong with her at the time and it was scary, but unlike the rest of my family, I didn't freak out and was able to support them in a time of need. I even moved to my grandma's and kept an eye on her to make sure she was alright, and it didn't mess up my life or mental state. Of course, negative thinking is not for everyone, especially those prone to paralyzing anxiety, and everyone should let themselves grieve if the time calls for it. Just saying, rehearsing bad outcomes might work for some people

    • @Connibolognese
      @Connibolognese 2 роки тому +9

      @@candychip2557 Thank you, this was very helpful for me. 🙏

    • @sheridanhunter3297
      @sheridanhunter3297 2 роки тому +22

      @@candychip2557 I have pretty bad anxiety, and I always used to assume the worst possible outcome would come true. My therapist had me write down a list of what I thought the bad outcome of a situation would be and the "evidence" I have to support that. Then she had me write down the positive outcome and "evidence" to support that as well. Based off of these two things, she then had me predict the likelihood of the negative outcome happening and if it were to happen how I would cope with the situation. It definitely makes me feel more prepared and realistic about day to day situations.

    • @calmontes651
      @calmontes651 2 роки тому +10

      @@candychip2557 I agree that it depends on the person, I have been practicing worst case scenario since I was 10 when I didn’t know that was a thing, I’m now 46 and it still calms me down. I did it out of habit at the start of the pandemic and it shifted my mindset as soon as I finished writing it down.

  • @1m1a
    @1m1a 2 роки тому +576

    •••Journaling for clarity
    Sit down in one session and try to write out every thought that you're having
    Keep a notebook with you and every time you have a new thought just jot it down
    •••Journaling for breaking your mindset
    Imagine 6 impossible things
    How can I make someone else happy right now?
    What's something in my immediate environment that I have never noticed?
    •••Daily reflections
    What excited me?
    What drained me of energy?
    What did I learn?
    What are 10 things I'm grateful for?
    How did I push the needle forward?
    •••Journaling for habits and lifestyle audit
    Divide page into three columns
    --Actions
    --The worst version of myself
    --The best version of myself
    in first column put day's actions
    in other columns mark whether your good or bad self did those actions and add up
    •••Journaling for when bad things happen
    What happened objectively?
    What did I make it mean?
    How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them?
    How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me?
    •••Journaling for anxieties
    Divide page into three columns
    --Fears
    --Fixes
    --The outcome that I would bet on
    •••Journaling for To Do list and Direction
    a bullet point list of all my various obligations
    audit the list with:
    --What is non-negotiable?
    --What is exciting?
    --What on my list, if done, would make everything else easier?
    --What of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back?
    --What 20% of activities are producing 80% of the results?
    •••Journaling for decision making
    What are the options? Are they mutually exclusive?
    If I had to make this decision in 60 seconds, what would I choose?
    What would this look like if it were easy?
    •••Journaling for direction in life
    What did I want 5 years ago?
    What do I want now?
    What do I think I want in five years time?
    If I knew I couldn't fail what would I do?

  • @HellStitcher
    @HellStitcher 8 місяців тому +154

    1. Journal for clarity 2:40
    2. Journal for breaking mindset 3:02
    3. Journal for daily reflections 3:48
    4. Journal for habits and lifestyle audit 4:26
    5. Journal for When Bad Things Happen 5:33
    6. Journal for Anxieties 6:34
    7. Journal for to-do list and direction 8:27
    8.Journal for decision making 9:03
    9. Journal for direction in life 9:49

    • @shayanzaidi2836
      @shayanzaidi2836 7 місяців тому +5

      appreciate u ✊

    • @clairebear1808
      @clairebear1808 6 місяців тому +1

      Excellent!!!

    • @mr.nobody3354
      @mr.nobody3354 5 місяців тому +1

      thank you brother, have a nice day ahead

    • @yohanesliong4818
      @yohanesliong4818 5 місяців тому +2

      Thank you

    • @swl9270
      @swl9270 3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks for this breakout! I know that took some time to do…appreciate it!!

  • @nikim6901
    @nikim6901 2 роки тому +437

    "I'm a pretty anxious dude" *instinctively laughs nervously*
    (I've never related to anything so pure and true)

    • @top10africa65
      @top10africa65 2 роки тому +1

      😂💔

    • @PsychoSk8r4bg
      @PsychoSk8r4bg 2 роки тому +3

      That part made me pause just to come to the comments baha! I had to comment on how hilariously human this comes across! Great video, and great content too!

  • @dabbyleemiller
    @dabbyleemiller 2 роки тому +407

    “No amount of rehearsing tragedy will make you ready for it” really spoke to me above all the other things that spoke to me, which is basically everything you said. Thank you so much for making this video.

    • @annjuurinen6553
      @annjuurinen6553 Рік тому +1

      I think he is a sage.

    • @jellyrcw12
      @jellyrcw12 Рік тому

      Wow that is so well said, thank you for sharing!!

  • @LisaGelhaus
    @LisaGelhaus Рік тому +280

    Woah! A 40 minute Keynote in 11 minutes. So many insights from such a charismatic person! I’m glad you brought your life around so you can help others.

  • @ronanhart5922
    @ronanhart5922 2 роки тому +499

    My therapist has taught me to avoid saying stuff like "bad" or "good" because it makes the behavior/action feel moral or immoral. Instead, he says that behaviors are healthy and unhealthy. They're not bad or good, it's just that they may or may not be a healthy thing for me to do. So for those wanting to do #4 but it feels too harsh, maybe think of it instead as a healthy version of yourself (and healthy actions toward that person) and an unhealthy version of yourself (and unhealthy actions). I think for me I would feel too negative about myself if I put actions in the "worst" version of myself and might not want to continue journaling

    • @desiv3025
      @desiv3025 2 роки тому +10

      omg thank u for sharing

    • @scriptkeeper8243
      @scriptkeeper8243 2 роки тому +5

      This has got to be the worst advice I've ever heard. One person's good could be an absolute evil. You can't relativize existence like this and expect to make it very far.

    • @PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA
      @PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA 2 роки тому +15

      @@scriptkeeper8243 all “evil” is subjective as people aren’t designed to do good or bad, we’re designed to satisfy our emotional needs. Lions kill for food, yet no one ever refers to them as evil, because it’s understood why they do it. The people you consider evil, have emotional needs you simply do not understand

    • @oliviarose3513
      @oliviarose3513 2 роки тому +4

      @@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA not all evil is subjective, everyone knows that some things are just not to be done because of how morally corrupt they are

    • @db7084
      @db7084 2 роки тому +6

      @@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA Hmmm. So if someone wants to slice and dice me, I must cater to their emotional needs and let them? My emotional needs are to stay alive and in one piece. So whose emotional needs win? Your mindset is the reason society is in the state it is in, why criminals are more catered to than victims, why there are all these entitled idiots running around. There IS good and bad, moral and immoral. Helping a pensioner across a street is good. Stabbing that pensioner to death is bad. Any other argument is just lefty progressive bullshit that is causing untold harm to our society. Participation medals, 'not yet competent' instead of fail, excluded instead of expelled, individual's 'emotional needs' more important than the group's, minorities are more important than majorities etc. Stop drinking the koolaid and take a sip of reality and practicality instead.

  • @eh1452
    @eh1452 2 роки тому +661

    How you talk about anxiety with calmness, normality and even humor makes me feel safe. I feel many things similar way as you do but sometimes don't feel seen, since the topics are hard to talk about. I try talking about them in a calm manner, although we anxious people know those feelings are brutal and ugly sometimes. But hearing this type of talk about it makes it just so much more tolerable. You go to the root of journalling, root of problems. You are a very brave person. That you for being! You made my day. I have to start journalling again.

    • @LlamaLaQuiff
      @LlamaLaQuiff 2 роки тому +12

      It gets easier to talk about the further down the process you are. You should also note that it's not always easy to talk about, even if it seems like it. Can't reach the finish line without running the race, you've got this

    • @erictran4384
      @erictran4384 2 роки тому +12

      A Holocaust survivor once said something along the lines of: suffering ceases to be miserable the moment it finds a meaning. Therefore writing down the hardships you endure creates meaning.
      May your future hardships and journaling give you fire and freshness in your loins.

  • @rafaelvecchi2874
    @rafaelvecchi2874 2 роки тому +1290

    HOW TO JOURNAL - BY STRUTHLESS
    ## 1/9 - JOURNALING FOR CLARITY
    A "mind dump". Just writing every single thought as you have it.
    Two ways to do this:
    1. Sit down in one session and try write out every thought that you're having
    2. Keep a notebook with you and every time you have a new thought just jot it down (hard mode)
    (Example given: filling out a page from a simple notebook around 3 times a week)
    ## 2/9 - JOURNALING FOR BREAKING YOUR MINDSET
    For when you get too obsessed with one thing and can't think about other stuff
    Three exercises:
    1. Imagine 6 impossible things (write 6 bullet points) (from Lewis Carroll)
    (e.g.: A camel and his best friend skating over an exploding pigeon)
    2. How can I make someone else happy right now? (write 5-10 bullet points)
    Gets you out from the mindset of serving yourself
    (e.g.: Telling a friend you love them, sending them a weird meme)
    3. What's something in my immediate environment that I have never noticed? (write 5-10 bullet points)
    This question draws you to the present in case you're stuck in either the past or the future
    (e.g.: Never noticed the ship's square sail in the picture on the wall)
    ## 3/9 - JOURNALING FOR DAILY REFLECTIONS
    The most common type of journaling (5-10 bullet points for each question)
    1. What excited me?
    2. What drained me of energy?
    3. What did I learn?
    4. What are 10 things I'm grateful for?
    5. How did I push the needle forward?
    ## 4/9 - JOURNALING FOR HABITS & LIFESTYLE AUDIT
    For anybody who's in a phase in their life where they are going for big improvements.
    **A bit of a harsh method and exploits a false binary, but effective for an extra push**
    1. Divide a page into 3 columns
    - First column = "Actions"
    - Second column = "The worst version of myself"
    - Third column = "The best version of myself"
    2. At the end of your day, list every single thing you did that day in the "Actions" column (what you ate, who you hung out with, what work you did, ...)
    3. In the second and third columns, decide whether that thing gave you a point in the negative or positive column (e.g.: drank 10 beers = 1 point for negative column, yoga = 1 point for positive column)
    4. Then, add all the points and see which column got the highest score (that's the direction your life is moving toward)
    ## 5/9 - JOURNALING FOR WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN
    You've expected life to go a certain way, but sh*t happened.
    > “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
    ― William Shakespear, Hamlet
    Write around half a page for each question:
    1. What happened objectively?
    2. What did I make it mean?
    3. How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them?
    4. How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me? (from Tom Bilyeu)
    ## 6/9 - JOURNALING FOR ANXIETIES
    For when anxiety creeps in.
    Divide a page into three columns:
    - First column = "Fears"
    - Second column = "Fixes"
    - Third column = "The outcome that I would bet on"
    Example: Anxious about putting your art online
    1. Dissect your anxiety into its constituent fears into the first column
    (a = "I'm worried people will tell me it's bad"; b = "I'm worried no one's gonna look at it")
    2. On the "fixes" column, write a basic strategy to overcome those fears
    (a = "Turn off comments until I've posted 20 pieces"; b = "Post it on every platform I possibly can")
    3. To eliminate catastrophizing, write the probable outcome for each scenario you fear on the third column
    (a = "5% of people will call it bad"; b = "a few hundred people will see it in the 1st year")
    ## 7/9 - JOURNALING FOR YOUR TO DO LIST & DIRECTION
    1. Start with a scattered list of all your obligations and things you'd like to do (fill a page (2 columns) with bullet points)
    2. Auditing your list (gets you from a scattered full page of bullet points to a manageable number of tasks)
    1. What is non-negotiable? (usually less than a quarter of a page of bullet points)
    2. What is exciting? (usually less than half a page of bullet points)
    3. What on my list, if done, would make everything else easier? (by Tim Ferriss) (usually 1-3 things)
    4. What of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back? (by Tim Ferriss) (usually less than half a page of bullet points)
    5. What 20% of activities are producing 80% of the results? (Pareto Principle) (usually 20% of the first scattered list)
    ## 8/9 - JOURNALING FOR DECISION MAKING
    1. What is the decision/problem? (clearly define it in 1 or 2 sentences)
    > "A problem well-defined is a problem half solved" ― John Dewey
    2. What are the options? Are they mutually exclusive? (try to come up with around 10 options, unless the problem is explicitly binary)
    3. If I had to make this decision in 60 seconds, what would I choose? (put on a timer and choose an option in less than 60 seconds)
    4. Could I live with this outcome? (yes or no? + a few bullet points as to why)
    5. What would this look like if it were easy? (by Tim Ferriss) (write 1 paragraph / 5-10 bullet points)
    ## 9/9 - JOURNALING FOR DIRECTION IN LIFE
    Analogy: The more points you put in a graph, the clearer the curve's direction.
    In journaling: These points = asking yourself "what do you want?" (x axis as time)
    For each question: a whole page of bullet points, usually separated into categories like family, work, fitness, lifestyle, bucket list
    - What did I want 5 years ago?
    - What do I want now?
    - What do I think I'll want in 5 years time?
    There's also the cliché that is a cliché because it's important:
    - If I knew I couldn't fail, what would I do?

    • @Dieannuhh.
      @Dieannuhh. 2 роки тому +32

      Thank you!!!
      I love comments like these, so helpful. 😊

    • @LS-vq2or
      @LS-vq2or 2 роки тому +29

      Oh my god THANK YOU I had no energy to make those notes and then use the tips and needed the written resumee! life savior

    • @tonyastatler
      @tonyastatler 2 роки тому +9

      awesome! thank you for those very clear and organized notes!

    • @evaeggen6928
      @evaeggen6928 2 роки тому +4

      Thank you for writing this doen, i love this !! He talks a bit fast one might say, but very important!!!

    • @MJ-vf1im
      @MJ-vf1im 2 роки тому +4

      You are awesome!!

  • @lovewroteme
    @lovewroteme 2 роки тому +53

    My life spiraled down to rock bottom in 2009 - I was 18 as well. Journaling literally saved my life. And I've never stopped since.

  • @MA-bt8il
    @MA-bt8il Рік тому +86

    I really like you. Your raw honesty. Your humor. To survive the last few stupid chaotic years, I have begun to make junk journals out of the crap in my home. They have been sitting here, staring at me in all their creative loveliness, abandoned, forlorn, and empty. You inspired me to actually USE them. Your ideas are so simple, real, and helpful. You just made my day and validated the last 2 1/2 years of my crafting through the scams of 2020, et.al. with this simple video. I am sorry for your heartache. But I am blessed by you today, and I bless you back! :) Thank you!!!

  • @writerandartist
    @writerandartist 2 роки тому +318

    "A problem well stated is a problem half solved." Charles Kettering.
    I did a calligraphy of that quote once. It's useful in MANY situations. Love it!

    • @jfo3000
      @jfo3000 2 роки тому +2

      That quote is so true, even with difficult technical problems.

  • @duckyluver12
    @duckyluver12 2 роки тому +237

    I've been journaling since I learned how to write. I was a very anxious child and my grandpa (who also had anxiety) gave me a journal for my birthday and told me that writing every day would make my life better. I'm infinitely grateful to him for that.

    • @Zar2244
      @Zar2244 2 роки тому +7

      That's lovely, smart grandpa

    • @monicab.9093
      @monicab.9093 2 роки тому +2

      Do you still have all your journals?

    • @duckyluver12
      @duckyluver12 2 роки тому +11

      @@monicab.9093 Yes! They've very interesting to go back and read.

    • @hajimesenpai7996
      @hajimesenpai7996 2 роки тому +1

      this is a sweet story :3

  • @Sigma.Infinity
    @Sigma.Infinity Рік тому +189

    Two more journalling techniques I find useful: writing letters not to send and writing down daydreams as stories.
    (1) When you have unfinished emotional business with someone but can't express it to them directly (for whatever reason), write a letter to them that you don't intend to send. It can be someone you're angry with, or who has hurt you, maybe a bully, or someone who you love from afar. It could be someone who has died that you're grieving about, or anyone else that you wish to communicate with. For me, it's when I feel angry, or hurt, or trampled on by someone, especially in workplaces, that's when I do this mostly. Go at it and say to them exactly what you want to say, then store it away (or send it if you dare). Or, you can write to an imaginary counsellor and pour it all out to them. You can do it in email form (with a blank "To" field for safety!) and then stash it in your Drafts folder if you prefer.
    (2) Spontaneous daydreams are the mind's way of telling us what we want. Sometimes they paint that picture accurately, sometimes they exaggerate, and sometimes they paint the feeling we yearn for even though the practical details of the daydream are just a useful backdrop. Whatever the case, I find it amazing to write down these daydreams as though I am writing a story. Doing this can be cathartic and also a great help in finding out what you really want deep down. Often what we long for are not the practical details we imagine (that job, that relationship, that holiday, that whatever). Rather, it is the *feeling* we yearn for that we believe these things will give us: that feeling of freedom and adventure, that sense of belonging and love, that pride and sense of meaning that comes with our talents being recognized, the excitement of novelty, or of breaking out of our shell and running wild, expressing ourselves, or a sense of personal strength and empowerment, and so on.

    • @reynajelly
      @reynajelly Рік тому +4

      Sounds like amazing advices!

    • @panagiotaaltanopoulou5489
      @panagiotaaltanopoulou5489 Рік тому +2

      Thank you for this!

    • @carolinaardenghi2749
      @carolinaardenghi2749 Рік тому +2

      Sometimes I do the (2) but I feel so stupid reading it!

    • @pravashi_382
      @pravashi_382 Рік тому +2

      I've done the first one a lot myself,didn't think about the 2nd one,maybe because i love to "act it out" instead 😅,not exactly like the way of the daydream but eh i roleplay it with whatever i have and then, waste HOURS,i just saw a video about maladaptive daydreaming hehe😅.

    • @Sigma.Infinity
      @Sigma.Infinity Рік тому

      @@pravashi_382 Roleplaying the fantasies is a great idea. Haha! I think I'll try that.

  • @adgrimes1981
    @adgrimes1981 2 роки тому +217

    This is absolutely hands down the best video about how to get started with your journaling practice that I’ve come across… Thank you!

  • @Nathiusca01
    @Nathiusca01 2 роки тому +437

    Hi! I want to give a helpful tip that my therapist gave to me to add to my journaling. If you struggle with depression and fixate on your thoughts like I do... It is just to make a list for the next day of the essential and basic things that have to be done and check them as you accomplish them. For example for me are things like brush my teeth, brush my hair, take a bath, take my vitamins, clean my pets' dishes. It may sound stupid but I forget to do all of these and I found myself at night feeling more ashamed and guilty than when I woke up just cause I let my thoughts win. As the days go by and you see your lists with the items checked out you'll feel better and proud and later when you realise you find yourself doing those things with joy. Hope that helps ✌️

    • @zijing9548
      @zijing9548 2 роки тому +8

      I've been doing this for about 2 years now, really helps

    • @Amani9800
      @Amani9800 2 роки тому +4

      IM THE SAME WAY! I'm thankful 🙏 for you

    • @adelafaith9604
      @adelafaith9604 2 роки тому +7

      Proud of you! This video has so much wonderful content. I started my journey out of overwhelm and disorder with marla cilley aka fly lady..worth looking her up. She starts with putting on shoes, taking things 15 mins at a time baby steps, cleaning your sink so it make you smile and making the bed. The day is pretty much conquered after that.
      Little by little, being gentle on yourself xx

    • @bonniedavis9076
      @bonniedavis9076 2 роки тому

      I've gone from knowing & not doing to not knowing & feeling panicking cause it wasn't in my thoughts.

    • @Paulabird7
      @Paulabird7 Рік тому

      Yes, agree! I wash my hair, do my animal chores, do morning pages. Bare minimum but gets me moving and focusing forward.

  • @fabulous50s
    @fabulous50s 2 роки тому +1153

    Wow! You have created an amazing channel that is so helpful and relevant to your generation. You give a disclaimer that you are not a qualified professional but I disagree…the exact life experience you have lived, and found a way to the other side, gives you way more credibility than a few years at Uni and a piece of paper to prove it. We’ve got it all the wrong way around, it’s people like you who are making the biggest difference in the world today. Bravo 👏

    • @leaannsavage2231
      @leaannsavage2231 2 роки тому +26

      I'm 59 and it is also extremely relevant to me so it also crosses generational constructs. (I kind of dislike that word "constructs" by the way - it sounds so pretentious, but it was the best word I could think of at the time - I'm not generally a pretentious person 😉)
      I so agree with you that his contribution is SO valuable and his background is irrelevant to the value, but also the fodder for what made him who he is today. I LOVE stories where people overcome adversity. We are ALL struggling with different kinds of adversity (some just hide it better than others). Tribulation is guaranteed in life. How we deal with it is up to us.

    • @douglascampbell4993
      @douglascampbell4993 2 роки тому +31

      Reminds me of a quote I come across once that I read and made me contemplate on for a while.. It goes;
      “The broken are saved by the broken..”
      And it just reminds me that people make it out the other side, and they are always the first to extend a hand when you need it, and you will too when you find someone needs it..

    • @nichobee
      @nichobee Рік тому +5

      I've definitely found people such as this more helpful for me than therapy

    • @GillianLarmond
      @GillianLarmond Рік тому +1

      Totally agree. Life experiences makes one an expert, not a piece of paper from someone who determines whether or not you are qualified

    • @Ailyloves
      @Ailyloves Рік тому

      You pointed out a good point! 👍🏻 Having a ton of life experiences and learning from them really helps in a sense that we get a better idea of what works and what doesn’t for us. And learning from experienced people helps as well, because they have concrete evidence.
      This isn’t to mock theoretical ideas or the like, because the way I see it, it sure has it’s place but at some point, we genuinely need to have someone who’s experienced in this kind of matter and take inspiration and knowledge from their side as well~ 💛

  • @tiegz9770
    @tiegz9770 Рік тому +37

    Hearing that I'm not the only one who has anxiety fixations and catastrophizes unrealistic events helps me alot, thank you for your candidness ❤

  • @johnathantai
    @johnathantai Рік тому +13

    Hey man, I don't know if you'll ever see this. I'm 15 and I'm from Hong Kong, I just came across your channel yesterday and I think it's one of the best discoveries I've ever made. A lot of what you've done really resonated with me, I personally went on digital detox not too long ago, I just want to say thank you for taking your time to make these videos. Your philosophy really helped me a lot, and it finally feels like there's something sustainable I can do for my life. This video particularly helped me today, I was having a pretty bad day, or so I thought but your point on cognitive distortions knocked me out of that, after following your techniques it was like my mind was suddenly cleared again and I could make rational decisions. Honestly, I cannot express more gratitude, for the first time in 2 years I feel like I'm starting to gain control of my burnouts

  • @kalvinlyle
    @kalvinlyle 2 роки тому +199

    I journal every day, but it’s always a stream of conscious dump. It’s helpful for sure, but I’m excited to try something more structured :)

    • @sparklypoof
      @sparklypoof 2 роки тому +4

      same! these 9 ideas are going to be fun to explore!

  • @Mariah-wt3xm
    @Mariah-wt3xm 2 роки тому +412

    You are seriously so cool. I really resonate with all these “self improvement” type videos you put out there. I love that you share personal experiences. I’m grateful for this info you put out there because it really does help me. Thanks man!

  • @CB-zs7lj
    @CB-zs7lj Рік тому +16

    I stopped buying diy books long ago but I had to buy yours. No regrets! I'm hitting my 60's and have started having constant memory flashbacks (good and bad). They have been making me crazy. I still don't know why its starting now, but your book is so enlightening! You've made a difference and wonderful contribution to mankind. I just wanted to say thank you.

  • @ESaturday123
    @ESaturday123 Рік тому +43

    I like how this is a journaling method that incorporates CBT skills in a way that’s really digestible. CBT has helped me a lot and this seems like a really organized and simple way to implement these skills.

  • @Makebuildmodify
    @Makebuildmodify 2 роки тому +536

    Dude! I just pre-ordered the book! I don't care if the book is bad (I know it won't be). I bought it because I want to support another UA-camr that is worth supporting; and I think that you and your team definitely are. I hope the book does well.

  • @dianeo
    @dianeo 2 роки тому +68

    "No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it..." I need to remind myself this and shut my catastrophizing brain off.

  • @caitlynwatts1855
    @caitlynwatts1855 2 роки тому +20

    Something I've really started to realise in the last few years is that most of the corny cliche stuff we learn and are told growing up really does hold so much weight. There's a reason you hear the same quotes and concepts through life and when you finally stop trying to reject those concepts and take them on board in the way you live things get so much easier.
    There is always so much to learn about ourselves and the world around us, once you open yourself up to seeing things from a different perspective it can be a bit overwhelming but it's also very freeing at the same time.
    Listening to those messages that keep arising will show you what things you subconsciously are already wanted to change, you know before you're aware of it and will see and hear things more frequently that resonate with you or your situation invoking a change within yourself.
    By no means is it easy but if a saying of some kind or similar advice keeps popping up it would be a good idea to pay a bit more attention to it and ask yourself why.

  • @jenniferfields10
    @jenniferfields10 Рік тому +31

    Hello, I'm a fellow writer and a chronic journaler as well. Love the video! You're going to change a lot of people's lives with this. AND you published a book?!? I am so proud of you! You should be super proud of you too!! If you don't have a mama to be proud of you, I will gladly be your beaming proud mama in Spirit. You rock!

  • @whatwhale5888
    @whatwhale5888 2 роки тому +96

    Its unreal how relatable this guy is. Honestly his advice helps more than anybody elses, simply because he gets it

  • @jayg789
    @jayg789 2 роки тому +62

    As the daughter of an addictions councillor these are the exact things I wish everyone’s parents could teach them. Tools for a healthy lifestyle stem so much further than those to help you get college degrees, impress during job interviews and receive high pay checks

  • @snxlxphant09
    @snxlxphant09 2 роки тому +72

    I've wanted to journal for a while now and just didnt know where to start. I wrote out all of your points at the start of my journal as prompts to go back to when I get stuck. Having the structure already there, and not having to stress about it really helps. Thank you so much!!

  • @jackielove00
    @jackielove00 Рік тому +43

    Wow! This was NOT what I expected, or what I've come to expect these days. It was LOADED with fantastic points, ideas, tips, fun, colourful and delivered some of the best bang for the buck I've seen in recent years. Loved the presenting style. Really happy I found this. Now going to force everyone I love to watch it and buy the book! Thank you so much.

  • @TheMoochiecat
    @TheMoochiecat 2 роки тому +310

    "What did I make it mean?" The first time I heard this concept it absolutely blew my mind and it shows how much power we really have even though we think we are powerless. Thanks for your journaling tips! I'm having a very difficult time with a coworker and any tool I can use to help me through this is welcomed.

    • @BeckyValkyrie
      @BeckyValkyrie 2 роки тому +1

      Same here. That bit really resounded with me.

  • @marina.artoflife
    @marina.artoflife 2 роки тому +46

    Omg, who are you?? I love when YT surprises me like this from time to time... Congratulations on getting out of that place 12 years ago. And when it comes to anxiety, you're just afraid of the power you have inside. Nothing else. Don't be afraid to do great things you were meant to do. Stay well, stay sane, keep inspiring.

    • @accenttraining4professiona864
      @accenttraining4professiona864 2 роки тому

      That’s an interesting point- I also had this inkling that anxious thoughts are due to being afraid of my power inside. We are all power houses, but afraid to entertain change that may lead to a better life. That is probably something to work on with a therapist ?

  • @macallisterbennett8115
    @macallisterbennett8115 Рік тому +1

    So good to see your channel thriving. I love your videos so much.

  • @daniellecharming
    @daniellecharming 2 роки тому

    Your practical philosophies and approaches resonate with me, by far the most helpful information on UA-cam! Purchased the book and can't wait to get started

  • @pritika5968
    @pritika5968 2 роки тому +36

    I have adhd and tend to daydream a lot. I noticed this a year ago when i watched a video on maladaptive daydreaming and realised it was me. So I started journaling to start taking control of my life. Sometimes it makes me cry how hard it is to stop myself from escaping reality but I try to and apply all the practical stuff you teach in your vids as activities and they really help me a lot when I note down my thoughts. Thankyou so much. I know you won't read this textwall but I always wait for your next vid and it always makes my day man

    • @cardisea
      @cardisea 2 роки тому

      It's more like a text fence.

    • @pritika5968
      @pritika5968 2 роки тому

      @@cardisea well yes but ykwim

    • @yaoipurpleheart
      @yaoipurpleheart 2 роки тому +3

      Do you remember the video you watched about maladaptive daydreaming

  • @royetter1777
    @royetter1777 2 роки тому +92

    Holy Crap! I just failed at a week-long "Journalling challenge" partially because I couldn't figure out what to write and couldn't motivate myself to even pick up the notebook. Thank You! Looking forward to the promised deep dive videos

    • @brefritzsching455
      @brefritzsching455 2 роки тому +4

      As soon as you pick it up you will feel inspired! Just start writing about literally anything. Weather, your 5 senses is a great one, hobby literally anything and then it sparks your inspiration. I have tried to follow prompts before and I always end up spending an hour looking for prompts rather than just writing.
      You can also brain dump a bunch of things that you want to find out about yourself and explore and then go off that

    • @KirinChan1998
      @KirinChan1998 2 роки тому

      you didn't fail! just starting is a wonderful thing!

    • @royetter1777
      @royetter1777 2 роки тому +2

      @@KirinChan1998 Nope, I'm gonna own it. I wanted to journal, but I failed to do it. Having the right tools is a step forward, though.

  • @brighteyedsmiles
    @brighteyedsmiles Рік тому

    I'm so thankful this video came back up on my feed, it helped me through a rough period last year, and helped me again tremendously today. Thank you!

  • @lanishea1984
    @lanishea1984 2 роки тому

    Ahhhh! I absolutely love your channel. I've been getting into the flow of bettering myself, and your videos are just awesome to watch.

  • @dragondancer5150
    @dragondancer5150 2 роки тому +44

    It's kind of funny but journaling got me through high school with severe, undiagnosed major depressive disorder back in the early 90s. I've always been a writer, and I discovered almost by accident the magic of actually just sitting down and word-vomiting into the pages of a notebook one day because I just couldn't take the maelstrom in my head any longer. I wound up dedicating that notebook, and at least two more after it, to just brain-dumping when I needed to. I'd never heard of journaling, and I had no idea that WTH WAS WRONG WITH ME!?!?! was actually something real and not just me being some kind of screwed-up weirdo. All this to say - JOURNALING IS MAGIC.
    Thank you again for these videos that you put out. I adore both your sense of humor and your courage to get raw with strangers on the internet. I can tell you that what you do is amazing, and helpful, and we don't know each other but I'm really proud of you for giving of yourself like this, and if we ever had the chance to meet one of these days, I'd love to chat over coffee or something. Anyway, pre-ordered your book some time back and can't wait for it to come out. TAKE CARE!

  • @madwilliamflint
    @madwilliamflint 2 роки тому +174

    Man I love your vids. Every time. It's insane. I wish you'd stop "apologizing" for not being an Expert. Who are the experts? Academicians who study the theory? Or the people who hit the road with this stuff in their life for real and improve the lives of people around them through their example?
    You haven't improved my life. That would be silly. But you've sure given me a bunch of tools and encouragement to do it my self.
    o7

    • @VimblesArt
      @VimblesArt 2 роки тому +31

      I don't think that him disclaiming that he's not an expert is a bad thing, if we're truly honest: nothing is for certain.
      He's just aware of the things he does and doesn't know and i find that very admirable. Especially considering that truly, mental health tips don't universally work for everyone.
      So basically: nobody is an expert and everyone needs to find their own path. He's just here to tell us what has worked for him

    • @madwilliamflint
      @madwilliamflint 2 роки тому +2

      @@VimblesArt I REALLY think he's selling himself short.

    • @riledmouse4677
      @riledmouse4677 2 роки тому +3

      One of the smartest people I’ve ever worked with told me early in my career not trust anyone who calls themselves an expert, and it’s proven to be very solid advice.

    • @madwilliamflint
      @madwilliamflint 2 роки тому

      @@riledmouse4677 *nods* It's an easy one. You should have to tell someone you're an expert.

    • @jamesaritchie1
      @jamesaritchie1 2 роки тому

      What you say sounds very, very logical, but it's pure, low IQ nonsense.

  • @jbd11691
    @jbd11691 Рік тому

    Just ordered a paperback of your book. So excited to read it, I just discovered you on UA-cam a week ago. You are truly one of a kind, please continue to push yourself everyday. You are an inspiration 🙏

  • @slingerfrancis4674
    @slingerfrancis4674 2 роки тому

    this, like so many of your videos is absolute gold man. thank you!

  • @waschell1
    @waschell1 2 роки тому +15

    I'm a licensed counselor and always felt kind of lame telling people to journal like, "really?" lol because it sounded so simplistic but now I can share this vlog to show just how profound it can be! Thank you, you Rock!

  • @jakesheath8382
    @jakesheath8382 2 роки тому +17

    Your videos on relatable self improvement have been a turning point in my life. I felt like I was stagnating at uni, my friends were all getting government jobs, my girlfriend graduated as a doctor and I felt like I couldn’t get my sh*t together. I was felt like a pathetic loser who wanted to make music all day.
    Since your videos I have started journalling, feel inspired by life again and I’m on a strong uni trajectory whilst balancing a music career.
    You are an absolute legend!
    Keen for the book!
    Stay awesome

  • @isabellsnape8165
    @isabellsnape8165 Рік тому

    I just really love how candid you are.

  • @YanickFM
    @YanickFM 2 роки тому

    I'm so grateful for your videos. So many of them have had ideas that directly help me out. Obviously I haven't had the same life as you but I can relate to a lot of things you've talked about. It's nice to hear from someone I feel like I can relate to and who understands the problems I also deal with

  • @RealJamieBarclay
    @RealJamieBarclay 2 роки тому +9

    Most people live the same day over and over again on repeat. Journaling allows you to break the bad cycle, improve your thoughts, and take back control of your life. Love from a small youtuber 💙

  • @Exhibit_my_Tidbit_of_Cheese
    @Exhibit_my_Tidbit_of_Cheese 2 роки тому +12

    Growing up I got diagnosed with bipolar type two. I ignored that illness for 3 years, granted I took my medicine, but I did emotionally accept it until recently this year. When you came out and said " I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder" it nearly brought me to tears. I was so happy that someone that I highly look up to has the disorder and can talk so freely about it. I can only name one famous person (Kanye west) who has the disorder, but I don't see him as a role model or as someone special to me. So, thank you, you are an amazing person and I look up to you.
    -Mckayla

  • @emmawilliamson5663
    @emmawilliamson5663 Рік тому

    I cannot state enough how much your channel has helped me in the last few months!

  • @athertondrenth
    @athertondrenth Рік тому +3

    Loved this! Boy, you really nailed it! Journaling is such a lifesaver and you have definitely taken it to a whole new level of deep introspection!

  • @rawkrXbabee
    @rawkrXbabee 2 роки тому +6

    You're literally the older brother I've always wanted. I get so happy every time I see a video of yours pop up on my feed :)

  • @jaimetan
    @jaimetan 2 роки тому +4

    Loved these journal prompts, taking notes here! And CONGRATS on the book, how exciting!! 🙌❤️🙌

  • @libbyrashad3870
    @libbyrashad3870 2 роки тому

    Duuuude, you are AWESOME!!! And this video was extremely helpful, incredibly grateful that you published this as I've been soul searching lately and now I have a starting point

  • @anthonywatanabe9913
    @anthonywatanabe9913 Рік тому +2

    I watched this video about a year ago and added the book to my Amazon wish list. Finally bought the book and was blown away by it. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and for writing that book. Much love and respect.

  • @TrevorDyck
    @TrevorDyck 2 роки тому +3

    What an absolute MOUNTAIN of gold insights you've shared here. Thank you. Also can't wait for the book.

  • @michaelaback3674
    @michaelaback3674 2 роки тому +14

    Another great video! I love the actionable advice (because "journal about it" is overwhelming in itself for me!) and your homour as always. Pre-ordered the book because it seems right up my alley :)

  • @kelliskeltonart3835
    @kelliskeltonart3835 2 роки тому

    I just pre-ordered your book. I find your videos so thought-provoking! Thanks for putting a fresh spin on topics such as journaling. I'm inspired by you and starting my own journal today. Keep up the great work!

  • @reneeandrews4087
    @reneeandrews4087 Рік тому

    I can't wait to get this book !!!! 🥰 love your videos. Really helpful and you are easy to listen to / watch. Very relaxing and calming.

  • @lilsun
    @lilsun 2 роки тому +9

    ahhh!! im so excited for your book! love your videos. you've totally made it possible for me to get out of funks and pursue my passions 🥺💗 i love you so so much and have a great day today! 💗

  • @noniew0lf
    @noniew0lf 2 роки тому +9

    So excited for this, you’re incredible 🥰

  • @obxshelly
    @obxshelly Рік тому +1

    This is a video I can finally relate to about journaling. Thank you for your clarity and I'm really glad you're here to share it with all of us!

  • @luhan5123
    @luhan5123 Рік тому +2

    This video is so good and one has to have such balls to be honest with oneself to do it, I will definitely do this and I hope you're doing even better every time bcause you deserve it

  • @belifuna
    @belifuna 2 роки тому +16

    This is amazing! I usually do the brain dump method of journaling but sometimes don’t feel like doing that. It’s awesome to have different prompts to get the juices flowing.

  • @55springflower
    @55springflower 2 роки тому +3

    This is amazing! Thank you for putting this into the world. I will be watching this multiple times.

  • @sunnycurtis3236
    @sunnycurtis3236 2 роки тому

    You have to know that you make a tremendous difference any time I watch your videos. Congrats on your book!!! So happy for you. Thanks so much.

  • @carolg.5313
    @carolg.5313 2 роки тому +6

    Love this channel and this video. Haven’t journaled in a while and I’m happy to have some new techniques! Thanks so much!!❤️😁

  • @aurbb2u
    @aurbb2u 9 місяців тому +4

    This was hands down the best video I've ever seen about journaling towards mental clarity and growth without including trite basic prompts, but by using prompts that truly dive down into the heart of the issues. I am genuinely excited at the prospect of starting to dig in. Thank you, really, so much.

  • @MagnetMagicGirl
    @MagnetMagicGirl 2 роки тому

    I loved this, so useful! I especially love that mindfulness one, where you take some objective circumstance and ask how it was the best thing that could've happened.

  • @manonduwelz9304
    @manonduwelz9304 Рік тому

    This is one of my favourite youtube videos ever! I've been struggling a lot with my mental health lately. Thank you for sharing. I ordered your book as well :)

  • @astamaisha5801
    @astamaisha5801 Рік тому +3

    I’m 20 years Old and recently I’ve started having a lot of anxiety and having really bad thoughts and watching this (and more of your videos) has help me a lot. Even just think about the things I would write to some the questions helped me calm my emotions and anxiety ❤

  • @georginatrousas8040
    @georginatrousas8040 Рік тому +5

    You are my new favourite person! Finally, someone on UA-cam who speaks factually and provides real and relatable struggles, and does it in such a wonderful, funny, serious and creative way. I'm so grateful for finding this channel

  • @virglow
    @virglow Рік тому

    This is the raddest video I’ve come across all day. Truly, deeply… thank you man

  • @zoob2190
    @zoob2190 Рік тому

    This was exactly what I needed - I just purchased a copy of your book halfway through this video because I related so much. Thank you, I am excited to read it.

  • @sarahroberts8110
    @sarahroberts8110 2 роки тому +18

    Never been compelled to comment on a video before, but wow. I’ve shared this with several people as well. First time a UA-cam suggested video has been so completely and utterly bang on. Communicated so well, great suggestions that have never been explained in such a pragmatic way to me. Watched this twice yesterday, and have done several of the techniques you’ve suggested today. 🤯😊😎 I feel the best I have in ages. Thank you. 👏🤜👌

  • @jazzyjamvs1125
    @jazzyjamvs1125 Рік тому +4

    i love this dude. you can tell how journalling really helps by his example.

  • @howward4071
    @howward4071 2 роки тому

    Dude you're amazing. Thank you for real talk and offering useful info.

  • @MidnightRants
    @MidnightRants 2 роки тому

    You're such a positive influence, thank you!

  • @aysedemirci2092
    @aysedemirci2092 2 роки тому +6

    Man it's been such a blessing to have access to this type of content. Thank you for offering tools that have such a positive impact, especially for people that are struggling with severe mental health issues and don't have the financial means to see a licensed therapist.
    I'm supposed to work on my thesis, but have been heavily struggling with getting my PTSD symptoms under control. Dissociating has been the only coping mechanism to help me get through the day, but I believe that trying some of these techniques will immensely help me to make my situation a whole lot more manageable.
    Again, I can't thank you enough!

  • @ryancoomber5709
    @ryancoomber5709 2 роки тому +10

    Struth. thank you for this. I really needed this today. I will start journaling with the help of your advice.
    I wish you the best

  • @vidushi82
    @vidushi82 Рік тому +1

    The absolute best guide, so raw, so genuine, so helpful!

  • @aubreyleighkirk
    @aubreyleighkirk 2 роки тому

    So excited to try out these techniques. Thank your for helping me fall in love with journaling again.

  • @beads2yarn
    @beads2yarn 2 роки тому +31

    That was so useful and enjoyable I watched it twice to make notes, then ordered your book. I am so looking forward to seeing it.. thank you for sharing 🙋🏻

  • @michellewhatsherface2749
    @michellewhatsherface2749 2 роки тому +6

    I can finally write something in my several empty journals lying around. I get anxiety whenever I sit down and try to write something. I never know what I’d like to write down but this video gave me such a nice direction. I enjoyed it so much I just pre-ordered your book. I can’t wait to own a copy, I cherish every book I add to my library very much. Thank you for helping people with this and sharing your experiences. I’m glad you’re in a better place now. Bless you ♥️

  • @overthemoo
    @overthemoo 2 роки тому +1

    I appreciate that you give a good amount of examples for the less familiar techniques. It’s a figurative push or nudge to get going, which is something I often need - even for the most basic assignments.

  • @snu2260
    @snu2260 Рік тому

    You are such an amazing person

  • @hidden_trax
    @hidden_trax 2 роки тому +16

    I've slept on journalling, and I think it's time I wake up. Gave the first one a try, the mind dump, and it amazes me how easy it was to get rid off sudden thoughts. Also, that part I read in your book too, and that was an action I immediately took after reading it, wrote every single thought I had in my head into MS Word and BOOM, it became more of a quiet place than ever. Keep it up dude!

  • @lorimcconnell9737
    @lorimcconnell9737 2 роки тому +41

    Just preordered your book for my son - he’s going through a lot right now. Thank you so much for everything you’re doing and I’m so glad you were able to turn your life around - you are quite an inspiration! Keep up the great work!

    • @jojoco6737
      @jojoco6737 2 роки тому +5

      I hope your son is doing better! You are a great Mom. Tell him to stay strong! Im praying for you Both. God Bless.

  • @hlb0111
    @hlb0111 Рік тому +2

    This really opened my eyes to how these techniques can help me deal with trauma and stress and actively observe if I'm moving in the direction I want. Thank you for this video.

  • @candyschwan5504
    @candyschwan5504 2 роки тому

    Some of the best questions, presented in an absorbing way. Thanks for laying it out there.

  • @sierrarobinson4447
    @sierrarobinson4447 2 роки тому +3

    I ordered your book the first time you mentioned the presale months ago. I'm so excited to dig in!

  • @Jessica-df9js
    @Jessica-df9js 2 роки тому +9

    I took the first step today and spoke to a professional about my mental health. We were talking about journalling and I was really curious how to structure it for it to have the best effect. Timing on this video is excellent for me. Thank you. Love your work and pre-ordered your book :)

  • @9Nikko8
    @9Nikko8 Рік тому

    i love your content. thank you for creating it! The world truly is a better place with you in it!

  • @dominikarobin1283
    @dominikarobin1283 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video. Finally some clear ways to journal for different objectives. I feel more ready than ever to really get started on journalling and see where it takes me.

  • @delta4497
    @delta4497 2 роки тому +3

    I just want to say that you've improved my life a thousand-fold, I saw the video on perfectionism and I faced the same problem editing videos. And I want to say thank you, for explaining in your unique and special way which lets me actually grasp and learn from the topic. I've been struggling with losing motivation to complete my tasks, and changing my environment around me and I want to say a huge thanks for making videos, and putting this advice out here.

  • @nayacmaynor
    @nayacmaynor 2 роки тому +4

    "Rehearsing tragedy" I felt that.

  • @miray.a.4845
    @miray.a.4845 Рік тому

    So grateful I saw this. Just flat out amazing. So concise, straight to the point and impressingly creative. Thank you!

  • @strawberryellis8456
    @strawberryellis8456 11 місяців тому

    this is the first time ive come across your channel but your vibe is so scrumptious that i subscribed like just a few minutes into this video. thank you for the tips youre a really cool presence

  • @stringbbeans
    @stringbbeans 2 роки тому +3

    I always find myself only journaling when bad things happen (to rant haha) so thank you for all the prompts! You provided so many, I'm excited to start journaling and reflecting again.