Current situation, well ex situation because I cut him off. But yes he would constantly stay on my phone, talking for hours but the second I brought up commitment ,he had the oh I'm not ready. So i said bet! I'm out. Not wasting my time.
My Capricorn ex wanted to act like he was a "free agent" so I tore up his contract and now I'm wearing a new Jersey and now I'm seeing someone who doesn't mind running the plays and doing the work for our team!☺
I'm a capricorn He's treating you like that because you aren't showing him that you are an equal. Many capricorns have bad childhoods so if you aren't motherly. You won't be kept.
@@SS-su3rn that’s the most bs unaccountable narcissistic bs I’ve seen. What if she was ? I’m a libra sun and moon with a Capricorn rising, not the best childhood( both parents were abusive and neglectful in certain ways). I healed got therapy and don’t place fault on others.
It's games that we allow them to play instead of putting ourselves first for some strange reason we put them first when we should be putting them back on the rubbish pile.
I learned to never put all my eggs in one basket assuming you'll do the same. The scales have to be balanced. I put one egg in and see if you put one in, and also how long it took you to put one in .at the end of the day I should have six and he should too .but I use to put 8 in and he only put two . That's a red flag
he told me i was rude for cutting him off and not responding to calls/texts and also that I got angry at him all the time for no reason while we were dating. PS I found out he was calling and texting while he had a girlfriend!
Partner with some one who will bring out the best in you not just the stress out of you…a woman who is properly loved is 10 times the woman they were before…bam!!!
What I notice w player mentality, is they play you like a chess game, strategy vs reality; hence the games! You want emotionally & mentally available up front; this way your body isn't toyed with!
Around 4 minutes you talk about projections please post a video about that because this touches such a deeper topic that I feel with gaslighting and Narcissistic relationships women and men have to go through and deal with.
This is so true and interesting what you say about men who need to feel that their woman "needs" them etc. I remember the turning point in my fateful marriage was when I got my dream job and started to earn 4x his salary... I think he couldn't deal with the fact that I now didn't "depend" on him. The more successful and confident I became the more abusive and angry he became! Luckily he's now soon to be "ex husband "!!!
My ex, contacted me with his new phone number as his old one was blocked. He always texts me, asking for him to call him. First, he knows I prefer texting him, so I knew it was going to be another "feel sorry for me, I'm not the same without you" sob stories. I told him to leave me alone and that I was ready to hit send on 911 if I saw him on my property again. He told me he never stopped loving me which earned him a barf emoji. Blocked his new number and hope this sealed the deal.
Haa🗽. So appreciate how you keep it real. I have four brothers and honesty is key. So good to see you out and about. Thanks for the knowledge. It’s power.
It's like your talking right to me derrick. I need to here this I'm going through this same thing he don't want you and don't won't no one else to have you
My mind is blown!! 🤯 I had to take a break after watching this before I commented because that’s how deep it hit. You literally gave me the missing variable to my personal equation. Thank you!!
Thank you for speaking on this a lot of women don’t understand! You men deserve respect especially when you’re doing nothing wrong. Women say you don’t listen but they’re not listening to your needs.
idk bout anyone else but i know a stray dog when i meet one and i can keep feedin it just out of my heart for animals but thats all they will get. a plate of food and a flee bath and they can keep on movin til next time they need me
Is it really necessary for men and women to be together?... Property? The more i learn about the nature of a men the less i feel like men and women are meant for each other 😒
Being loyal to someone’s potential while betraying yourself 💥
Poor investment with poor returns is not a wise investment
Yes
Right, I finally learnt that taking that energy and putting it into myself instead, is a much better investment .
❤❤❤❤
AMEN!
A lot of guys see you as property
not a partner. A Possession of ownership
Not a person of equality 🎯
Why? How do we come off that makes them see you that way?
Guys won't ever change don't wait
You’re right mend tend not to change their ways but the odd dedicated and commitment one is a rare breed, the unicorn 😉
Facts
They will change for the right woman. Learned that through experience.
@@yorubafreeman6069thy go back to old habits
Because we won’t apply boundaries. A person only does what one allow.
Truth. 🤍⚡
💯
Purr
So true
They will not stop ! They will keep coming no matter what
"There's a price to pay for giving your heart to someone who's not qualified to hold it."
Dealing with this now. I'm trying to detach from him and find myself again. I gave my whole heart and got pieces of him in return.
Cut him off completely if you are ready. I understand it’s painful but every day you get stronger and don’t talk, think about it or feed it
Currently going through this myself
Saaame here!
In the exact same position. It is the most painful thing I have ever gone through
Going through this now too
Being loyal to someone's potential Ignoring their reality..👏
🙌🏽
They are narcissistic!!! ✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽
I'm scared mine is
Did he say, "some men are turned off from you not needing them?" 🤔
Yup!!! They want you to depend on them, it’s an ego thing.
Current situation, well ex situation because I cut him off. But yes he would constantly stay on my phone, talking for hours but the second I brought up commitment ,he had the oh I'm not ready. So i said bet! I'm out. Not wasting my time.
My Capricorn ex wanted to act like he was a "free agent" so I tore up his contract and now I'm wearing a new Jersey and now I'm seeing someone who doesn't mind running the plays and doing the work for our team!☺
Okurttt !!!🔥🔥
My ex was a cap too 😳
YOU MISS HIM.. CAPRICORN 💯😎
I'm a capricorn
He's treating you like that because you aren't showing him that you are an equal.
Many capricorns have bad childhoods so if you aren't motherly. You won't be kept.
@@SS-su3rn that’s the most bs unaccountable narcissistic bs I’ve seen. What if she was ? I’m a libra sun and moon with a Capricorn rising, not the best childhood( both parents were abusive and neglectful in certain ways). I healed got therapy and don’t place fault on others.
They send: hey
Sup
Wyd he can't type but wants attention!
It's games that we allow them to play instead of putting ourselves first for some strange reason we put them first when we should be putting them back on the rubbish pile.
Exactly 💯
Some men want to control the whole situation or never been in love. Completely closed off. You closed off I give no access. U selfish. Do u boo!
I just told him it’s time to say goodbye. Feels great. What a relief
I learned to never put all my eggs in one basket assuming you'll do the same. The scales have to be balanced. I put one egg in and see if you put one in, and also how long it took you to put one in .at the end of the day I should have six and he should too .but I use to put 8 in and he only put two . That's a red flag
Exactly he told me change my Facebook to In a relationship instead of single...i was like ohhh hell naw....
This came at the perfect time thank you !!
Yes indeed and that's why I'm single to this day I just don't have the energy to play games to tired now ❤️
Yep! That be me! Wanted all my time but didn’t want to fully commitment.
Sometimes you dont know what you want or what you had until its gone!
he told me i was rude for cutting him off and not responding to calls/texts and also that I got angry at him all the time for no reason while we were dating. PS I found out he was calling and texting while he had a girlfriend!
Did he come back often?
Yep, they come back to try to defend their turf. Except that they don't own your turf.
People, men and women want what they can’t have. As soon as it’s taken away they want it. It’s human nature.
Some guys just won't change that why I do me
I was outside today too. Went for a walk. Doing better I think 🤔
Partner with some one who will bring out the best in you not just the stress out of you…a woman who is properly loved is 10 times the woman they were before…bam!!!
I love you Derek! Thank you !For bringing so much needed clarity, God bless you! ❤️
Guys don't care
👍🏻 yeap an so glad I let him go cause I found my future hubby.
What I notice w player mentality, is they play you like a chess game, strategy vs reality; hence the games! You want emotionally & mentally available up front; this way your body isn't toyed with!
Stray dog analogy....daaaaammnnnnnnn that hits. Thank you times 483893388364637839383827727
Around 4 minutes you talk about projections please post a video about that because this touches such a deeper topic that I feel with gaslighting and Narcissistic relationships women and men have to go through and deal with.
you always hit the nail on the head!
This is so true and interesting what you say about men who need to feel that their woman "needs" them etc. I remember the turning point in my fateful marriage was when I got my dream job and started to earn 4x his salary... I think he couldn't deal with the fact that I now didn't "depend" on him. The more successful and confident I became the more abusive and angry he became! Luckily he's now soon to be "ex husband "!!!
I see this in romance stories all the time and it's portrayed as a good thing.
Yuppp exactly he putting all of it on me...yupppp u hit it on the head Derrick
You are speaking TRUTH !!!!
Could you, please, talk about men who never ever loved anyone, but still want some type of connection?
Some guys are selfish
My ex, contacted me with his new phone number as his old one was blocked. He always texts me, asking for him to call him. First, he knows I prefer texting him, so I knew it was going to be another "feel sorry for me, I'm not the same without you" sob stories. I told him to leave me alone and that I was ready to hit send on 911 if I saw him on my property again. He told me he never stopped loving me which earned him a barf emoji. Blocked his new number and hope this sealed the deal.
I’m experiencing all of this now. You just explained my ex to the T.
Mine too. It is a terrible and painful situation to be in
Experienced that!! Turns it all back on me! Gaslighting!
Haa🗽. So appreciate how you keep it real. I have four brothers and honesty is key. So good to see you out and about. Thanks for the knowledge. It’s power.
My husband does this. He doesn't want me but he refuses to divorce me so I can move on with my life. He doesn't want me to be with anyone else
Well don’t wait, DIVORCE HIM. I did it. 🤞🌹
Do what you need to do, why care what he wants
But he will leave you.. you’ll just be older, more jaded, farther behind, and in less than optimal position
But the difference is,a dog is authentic and true when you love it
You never lied when you said supermarket shopping it up!!!!🙌🏼
I'm still mad at him but still telling the truth.
👍🏾I can totally relate. That's happening to me right now.
It's like your talking right to me derrick. I need to here this I'm going through this same thing he don't want you and don't won't no one else to have you
Same here. I can truly relate.
Oh my gosh. This is truly genius. I never thought of it like this. Thank you so much
Right he's possessive !!!
❤ I know this video has been up for awhile but I love your video. They are always spot on.
Thank you for your insite. I’m newly divorced after 23 years and need help to navigate dating.😊
You are a blessing, and so is this message. Thank you
My mind is blown!! 🤯 I had to take a break after watching this before I commented because that’s how deep it hit. You literally gave me the missing variable to my personal equation. Thank you!!
It's all about how many they have in their stable, women beware✌️
Current situation 🤦🏾♀️…I
Because there is the proverbial DOUBLE STANDARDS!
Thank you for speaking on this a lot of women don’t understand! You men deserve respect especially when you’re doing nothing wrong. Women say you don’t listen but they’re not listening to your needs.
I love you guys so much ❤️❤️
Iv seen that men who cheat try cheat everywhere they go
*I needed this. Thank you.*
Don’t miss it until it’s gone.
Damnnnnn the bread crumbing part is what he was doing… 😒 it’s annoying…
🔥 YES And another YES 👍
Absolutely. True. 12yrs back and forth. Omgness
Me to 🙋🏻♀️
10 years for me. So draining.
Just started listening to you last night. You’re hitting home frfr
Derrick, you’re such a good person! I hope I can find someone like you one day ☺️☺️
I Derrick hear u and ur so right love u 😘❤️
Starting at 4:00 you briefly mentioned projection, can you make a video more in depth on that? I completely identified with this...
You are a genius! For real 💖
Excellent !! Love ❤️ the ending properly loved woman
Omg this is spot on smh
Thank yous for playing a role in our relationship... you have given my family and I a new start and for that I'm forever grateful...
Real talk love it
I.. Love your videos Derek. You speak truth
I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️
CONTROL😢😮
This is so true
The word PROPERTY sounds like slavery.
Good Bless You Sir. Thank you. 🙏
It’s true. Oh my gosh thank you for telling the truth.
He will string you alone because he knows you’re convenient & he knows how lonely weak & desperate the woman is
💓💙🤎💖💜
Our nature is to nurture....love makes it easy
idk bout anyone else but i know a stray dog when i meet one and i can keep feedin it just out of my heart for animals but thats all they will get. a plate of food and a flee bath and they can keep on movin til next time they need me
Thank you very much Jaxn,❣️❣️❣️
Currently in this situation but boundaries or blocked.
You’re spitting the truth my brother
Is it really necessary for men and women to be together?... Property?
The more i learn about the nature of a men the less i feel like men and women are meant for each other 😒
Why is he coming back if we never had sex? I don’t understand these men
I 🙋🏽♀️!!! (Derrick drops the mic 🎤 💥)
You on Point!☺
I was in something like that.
“I”unfortunately
Right! Egotistical and insecure
Speak the truth
thank you now I understand
Thanks so much!!! Needed this