I told him my car broke down and a certain part was required to fix it. He's been thinking about it for days now. Someone else fixed it without thinking twice. All I wanted was to know if I could depend on him this time round, he's never been dependable, even when he had the means
@@princessizeamen6345 he wanted to make a hotel booking for the weekend. Just days after he wouldn't lift a finger to help with my problem 🤦. I am so gone
I just went through this and you are 100% correct. There I was, being transparent, communicating my thoughts and feelings; trying to get a deeper connection and all I received was crickets. Very little communication or one word answers, so I withdrew myself from the situation and kept it moving. Life is too short and time is the one thing you can’t get back once it’s gone. I value my time way too much to waste it on people or things that don’t deserve it.
Thank you!!!!!!!!! I've been married for 10 years together for 18 years in total and on my way to 'splitsville'. Everything you are saying is music to my ears and making this 'break - up' situation easier for me. Now I'm healing and realising I was being short changed in my relationship / marriage all these years and I truly deserve 100% better!
Same! Been together almost 10 years just got married less than a yr ago! I help him with his job plus my duties at home and I never say no. I'm getting fed up!
I get excuses, then he turns it around on me and attempts to guilt trip or something to make me drop the conversation.....been with him way too long- its not a marriage, its a black hole draining pit .....the time to leave is long overdue
If it's not a yes or no answer and instead it's a bunch of drag (bs) then he's trying to manipulate that particular situation. I wish i learned this earlier in life versus later in life.
So true. It’s rough to not nurture. Hard being selfish. That’s a good woman. But it leaves one open to be used. And, they do. I’ve moved on. No communication. No commitment. Yes, he meant to be ‘exceptional’.
Are we in a committed exclusive relationship??? “I’m here ain’t I” I’m talking to u on the phone every night”…your so emotionally needed”” These are the answer I be getting to the simple question- are we exclusive. Smh🤦🏾♀️
Wow, it’s like you are literally able to read my mind! I’m in the middle of this exact situation right now, feeling like I’m in this relationship alone or questioning where I stand or where this is going, if anywhere. We’ve been together for a VERY long time but it’s feeling like it’s never going to move past this point which I’m not ok with. Your right, if he wanted to, he would have by now.
I wish I would have realized that I was in a situationship and going along to get along years ago, I'm still struggling with wasting so much time with that situation but I'm moving forward with the new chapter of my life
The point when u said there’s someone out there who needs this right now Then you went on about quality time, Netflix and chill this is what am getting at my self it’s changing up things and there’s repetitive excuses
Preserving me is only going to distance us if he is out to hurt me...OMG. SOOO many jewels for girls and women, young and mature alike. You are a gift!!!
Good morning Derrick, I seriously needed to hear this. I’m in the boat if he doesn’t want to burn bridge because I’m on a turnaround in life. It’s silence
Unqualified applicants!!! I love it. You are amazing, for sure married. Always the good ones are taken. You put a smile to my misery. Thank you for your passion amd energy spent to make us understand how dummies we become when the heart is in attack. God bless you❤
Don’t worry ladies it’s not that he wants to. He doesn’t want no more more less. It’s he’s in capable of it so it’s not a personal thing so you can still feel good about yourself.❤
All i can is thank you derrick someone needed to hear this and im that person what i been knowing and feeling all along but im done now praise the tmh❤
SPOT ON!!!! I was always last on his list. He used work or being busy as his excuse for not being there for me or our family. I begged for quality time for us and our children. Eventually I just stopped asking. He seriously was gone more than he was home, but wanted me to be prepped and ready to give him sex when he walked in. Divorce is on my list. Thanks for giving me the courage to do what I need to do? No more men! BROKEN PROMISE AFTER BROKEN PROMISE!!
Bro you being an influencer means you speak a lot. Protect your voice now so you don't end up like people like td jakes or Joyce Myers who have gotten older and struggle with speaking because their voices are fading. You have a good message and it is my hope you take care of your throat to continue sharing the good news
Your video was so timely for me. Everything I knew but chose to not face, I am now. Thank you for your honesty, I was his internship for 12 years, now I asked those questions and was told " I deserve better". Imagine? Thank you for reinforcing I need to walk away.
Thank you thank you and thank you!!! You are speaking the truth! I'm guilty of listening to the excuses, etc., although the tangible progress is the key along with the confusion & lack of clarity. 🙏🙏🙏
U is telling the truth I’m on my way out the door now as we speak Ladies know your value and worth don’t let him keep u and the layaway we as woman got to know are VALUE and WORTH love u first
III thats what i been going thru for to long n i just look at them thanks for the message i really needed to hear this message today keep doing what u do God bless u keep u n your family safe
Indecision is a decision
You're fired
Ok
Got it
Exactly. No response is the response.
You r literally talking to yourself
I'm praying that someone wants me on the same level as me.
Me too.
This right here!
Me too or same level or higher
Derek be spitting straight facts. It is hard to accept because we be gas lighting ourselves. This is truth.
💯 You said it..."Sometimes we gaslight ourselves."
I told him my car broke down and a certain part was required to fix it. He's been thinking about it for days now. Someone else fixed it without thinking twice. All I wanted was to know if I could depend on him this time round, he's never been dependable, even when he had the means
Time for you to head out.
You know what do
So sorry dear, time to gooooo 👋 👋 👋 👋
@@princessizeamen6345 he wanted to make a hotel booking for the weekend. Just days after he wouldn't lift a finger to help with my problem 🤦. I am so gone
He been thinking about it for days because he knows he can be a bum with you, and you will still stay.
This explains my husband 100 %. No effort to change the things that hurt me. He just didn't care or loved me enough to want to stop hurting me.
I don't need to watch any other video from anybody this did it all . FACTS 💯
Very effective
absolute fire 🔥
I just went through this and you are 100% correct. There I was, being transparent, communicating my thoughts and feelings; trying to get a deeper connection and all I received was crickets. Very little communication or one word answers, so I withdrew myself from the situation and kept it moving. Life is too short and time is the one thing you can’t get back once it’s gone. I value my time way too much to waste it on people or things that don’t deserve it.
Phew!!!! 😩😩
Good for u!!! I'm getting myself to that mindset now. Too long in a relationship that wasn't serving me, that I tried to fix for years.
THAT'S RIGHT!! We find a way to do what we want to do. I couldn't get a conversation!! He didnt want to, period.
I left him after 4years - that’s exactly how he treated me
One knows a person, not by what they ‘say’ but by what they ‘do’…..
Don’t keep letting unqualified applicants come in & waste your time ⌛️
Thank you!!!!!!!!! I've been married for 10 years together for 18 years in total and on my way to 'splitsville'. Everything you are saying is music to my ears and making this 'break - up' situation easier for me. Now I'm healing and realising I was being short changed in my relationship / marriage all these years and I truly deserve 100% better!
Same here. Got married in 2006 but been together since 2000. My marriage has become a nightmare. Need to be strong and move on.
Same! Been together almost 10 years just got married less than a yr ago! I help him with his job plus my duties at home and I never say no. I'm getting fed up!
Or be alone🤷♀️
I get excuses, then he turns it around on me and attempts to guilt trip or something to make me drop the conversation.....been with him way too long- its not a marriage, its a black hole draining pit .....the time to leave is long overdue
I already know that most guys like to play with women's hearts,and I like someone be straight up.
If it's not a yes or no answer and instead it's a bunch of drag (bs) then he's trying to manipulate that particular situation. I wish i learned this earlier in life versus later in life.
*talking about what i learned in past relationsh1p
The ultimate test to see how much he really likes you is ask him to meet a need and see if he does or creates excuses.
YES THAT PART DERRICK 💯👊 IM DONE DEALING WITH THESE BROKEN DUSTY BIRDS # SELFLOVE ❤❤ IS A MUST NO MORE TIME WASTERS💯👊
So true. It’s rough to not nurture. Hard being selfish. That’s a good woman. But it leaves one open to be used. And, they do.
I’ve moved on. No communication. No commitment. Yes, he meant to be ‘exceptional’.
Preserving me will only distance us if he is out to hurt me. 💯 All I needed to hear.
Are we in a committed exclusive relationship??? “I’m here ain’t I” I’m talking to u on the phone every night”…your so emotionally needed”” These are the answer I be getting to the simple question- are we exclusive. Smh🤦🏾♀️
I I I I I, LORD ,MERCY TELL THE TRUTH. SPEAK BROTHER SPEAK
Ty for giving it to us straight, no bs. 😔🙏💔
Humans never cease to amaze.. for better & for worse. 🤷♂️🥴😹
I did the question. Got a sneer and got told I always want to fuss. Fired.
Wow, it’s like you are literally able to read my mind! I’m in the middle of this exact situation right now, feeling like I’m in this relationship alone or questioning where I stand or where this is going, if anywhere. We’ve been together for a VERY long time but it’s feeling like it’s never going to move past this point which I’m not ok with. Your right, if he wanted to, he would have by now.
Derrick, Thanks again. Your always keeping it real.
It's not that if he wanted to he would it's that if you were worth it he would . Make yourselves worth it ladies.
Are you in my head, life, and mind....The only thing I can say is THANK YOU....
I wish I would have realized that I was in a situationship and going along to get along years ago, I'm still struggling with wasting so much time with that situation but I'm moving forward with the new chapter of my life
Let security be a requisite for being in your life...POW!!
You are absolutely right. After a decade, he just leaves w/o any words being said.
You are absolutely right ..I walked away tonight..listen up ladies
Never answers the question!!!!
The point when u said there’s someone out there who needs this right now
Then you went on about quality time, Netflix and chill this is what am getting at my self it’s changing up things and there’s repetitive excuses
Then get ghost. Stab out. Kick rocks. Get outta there.
This is now on YOU, not him.
@@marciawade9101amen. You have to love yourself enough to walk away.
@@ineedhoezand that sometimes is the hardest thing to do but you're absolutely correct!!!
@@natthebratsterthanks for input guys I respect it
That is so true.
This whole episode needs to be a movie it’s so good
❤
Derrick, you are so on point 😊 keep expressing these great perspectives for women and men you are 👏 amazing
He'll NEVER have me the way he had me before. Maybe this round we can be friends. I'm g00d !!
Drop him to the curb. You don't need a " friend" like that. Imo
Preserving me is only going to distance us if he is out to hurt me...OMG. SOOO many jewels for girls and women, young and mature alike. You are a gift!!!
Dang couldn't come at a more perfect time thank you!
I just said the same damn thing....
If it's important to you'll find a way, if not y'all find an excuse.
The clarity you give is amazing 👏 🙌 ✨ blessings and peace be upon you
I asked him to help me by grabbing something from the top shelf (he's 6'4''). He stomped his feet and told me I demand too much!
Good morning Derrick,
I seriously needed to hear this. I’m in the boat if he doesn’t want to burn bridge because I’m on a turnaround in life. It’s silence
Women understand the roundabout. It's not rocket science.
Yep so true. So sick of the games
You are so awesome. Thank you
Nailed point blank period
You help me a lot. I have boundaries if not ✌️. I love myself more than I love him. It’s fuking hard
Unqualified applicants!!! I love it.
You are amazing, for sure married. Always the good ones are taken. You put a smile to my misery.
Thank you for your passion amd energy spent to make us understand how dummies we become when the heart is in attack.
God bless you❤
Don’t worry ladies it’s not that he wants to. He doesn’t want no more more less. It’s he’s in capable of it so it’s not a personal thing so you can still feel good about yourself.❤
Thanks Bro!!!!
I needed to hear this so badly. Absolutely hit me like a truck. Thank you so much.
I love Derrick's hard-hitting TRUTH! ❤💯
Not even interested in a relationship
All i can is thank you derrick someone needed to hear this and im that person what i been knowing and feeling all along but im done now praise the tmh❤
It really is that simple.
Bro I love the way you talking ... Big facts... I am loyal to a default. I don't even be trying to be just in my DNA
Even God doesn't mess with a man's free will...felt that down deep.
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Amen, thank you for spreading the truth
I love this because you are changing lives with your honesty!
U got that right.
"Even GOD isn't gonna go at war with his freewill. He has to CHOOSE God! What makes you think you can make him choose YOU?!" wow...powerful!
SPOT ON!!!! I was always last on his list. He used work or being busy as his excuse for not being there for me or our family. I begged for quality time for us and our children. Eventually I just stopped asking. He seriously was gone more than he was home, but wanted me to be prepped and ready to give him sex when he walked in. Divorce is on my list. Thanks for giving me the courage to do what I need to do? No more men! BROKEN PROMISE AFTER BROKEN PROMISE!!
FACTS!!!💯💯
You are right!! Plain and simple! If he wants me he wants me.. I will not chase!!
I’m just tired of wasting time on dust bucket momma boys 🤦♀️🤦♀️
Yes this is making sense.cause I watch people's body language.
MESSAGE ‼️📣Say that for those Folks in the BACK! And the slow class…Real-Talk
Needed to be reminded of this today! Thank you!
Bro you being an influencer means you speak a lot. Protect your voice now so you don't end up like people like td jakes or Joyce Myers who have gotten older and struggle with speaking because their voices are fading. You have a good message and it is my hope you take care of your throat to continue sharing the good news
Facts
The title says it all,don't even have to watch the video
Thanks Big Brother. I have some hard thinking to do. ❤
Damn. The real date part. You nailed it on the head! Damn!
Spot on..on point..the real(er)💯 Fact...I am there right now and it's facing the cold hard facts!
Your video was so timely for me. Everything I knew but chose to not face, I am now. Thank you for your honesty, I was his internship for 12 years, now I asked those questions and was told " I deserve better". Imagine? Thank you for reinforcing I need to walk away.
Thank you thank you and thank you!!! You are speaking the truth! I'm guilty of listening to the excuses, etc., although the tangible progress is the key along with the confusion & lack of clarity. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you!!! Going to save this for future reminders.
You are telling it right
I needed to hear this. Thank you!!!
Thank you
Oh myyyy....is it really that simple homie? Wow. 💡
Omg hell yeah! so needed to hear this!!
Truth !
You are the bomb. Speak truth brother!
Thank you! Gaslighting is such a spell
Excellent straight up
U is telling the truth I’m on my way out the door now as we speak Ladies know your value and worth don’t let him keep u and the layaway we as woman got to know are VALUE and WORTH love u first
III thats what i been going thru for to long n i just look at them thanks for the message i really needed to hear this message today keep doing what u do God bless u keep u n your family safe
Ugh, I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much.I swear it's like you be talking directly to me about myself.
Truly said ! Thank you
Gets angry and shuts down conversation
Yes, indeed, u are absolutely correct, I have lived through this
Sometimes you have to leave to show him you won’t take no bs and he will come back and change if he want you to
Damn!! You are hitting it on the Mark!
Thank you I appreciate you making and sharing this video. I really needed to hear this. I went through all of this with my ex. You make it so clear.
Sooooo true on everything you said 💯
I Derrick hands down ever word you just said and called it out thank you I left him I got you to listen ro
Mercy, this was church!💞