If a person tells you/shows you they're not looking for anything serious BELIEVE THEM. No amount of conversations time spent date nights and sex will change their mind. If you are out here dating with a purpose you have to align yourself with people who want exactly what it is that you want rather if it's marriage or something casual you have to be honest about what it is that you want. Sometimes people can't see our value and sometimes people just don't want the obligation and responsibility that comes with a relationship neither is a good situation to be in because what happens is you pour so much of yourself into that person hoping they see your value meanwhile they give you bare minimum treatment because they may feel you are not worth the investment or they try to keep things as nonchalant and casual as possible because they don't want to connect on an emotional level with you so there behavior won't come across as misleading. Nobody is worth wasting your time or emotions so it's best to move on I don't care if u 1 month in or 7 years in WALK AWAY
I agree with EVERYTHING you said & it's true...I happen to find myself in a situation where the person kept confusing me & I tried to have conversation after conversation, like Ace said, & all it did was leave me hurt. This last relationship was one of my biggest lessons regarding the codependency that I am healing from & even though I went through mess, I am grateful for the lesson & I will no longer allow my precious time to be wasted on "trying to save someone" 🙏🩷🙏
@latoyawalls5042 I got out of a situationship 7 months ago I had never been it that type of situation before but from experience it was draining crazy part was I didn't even like him for awhile but ended up catching feelings once I got to know him. But I take full responsibility for even allowing myself to catch feelings and also for allowing myself to stay and continue to get disrespected I was on and off with him for 7 months and I couldn't take it anymore. It was hard letting go but sticking around was killing me. Even to this day I still think about him but it's from a hurtful place because that was my experience with that man. I never really comment on post but I feel like alot of people needed to hear this and I know it's hard but we have to give ourselves the type of love we seek from others once u master that nobody will ever be able to take advantage of you because u know your worth. Make sure you have standards and set clear boundaries!!!!!!!!❤️
@rissalewis5975 @rissalewis5975 Thank you for sharing 🙏 it sounds a lot like my situation. And like you, I had to take full responsibility for my own behavior & issues in order to forgive myself and heal. I also agree that knowing your self-worth and creating healthy boundaries is necessary 🙏🩷🙏
Before entering a relationship, it should be established what the terms are and the direction of courting process. You should date to marry not date to waste time. To avoid dating unequally yoke partners, people should use discernment, weaning process. It should not take long to understand if an individual is your equal.
Ladies run do not walk past go. Thank him for his time and you DISAPPEAR. They dont want to commit if you are still hanging around and offering benefits. Stop trying and talking just disappear .
Ok I had a friend and all we do is f......and he only call me at 12am or when Its convenient for him. Just listening to you I walked away for 2024. I was connected to an soul ties. I thank you for this message....
Wow....just bc he is not my boyfriend don't mean I ain't his girlfriend???? That is so twisted and gamey, but ur on point ....I learned this the hard way. Thank u !!!
Because part of my business I talk about how well my business does, I live in a multi million dollar house, drive a $120k car…. I don’t tell them this on first date but eventually they find out.
I have no time to waste. My standards are in place, and my boundaries are firm. I've been single my divorce because I reject them because I won't settle or they reject me because I won't settle for bare minimum, negativity, or insecurities.
Years...I promise you when a man is ready he ain't gonna give you years...let alone one full year. Can't be scared to lose him...He just aint ready Sis. Accept that fact and move on to your real peace.
If men don't want to be in a committed relationship, then they should just leave women alone. Stop running around just looking for sex. Stop wasting women's time. If your not looking for a committed relationship, you shouldn't even be dating. Men love to talk about women hitting the wall, but then they are out here wasting women's time... leave women alone!
I love ur fuckin honesty... should have been listening to yo ass ida been out this situation 😂😂😂all mf good tho. Lesson learned my dude. Thanks for clarifying certain shit
Why waste your honesty and loyalty on men who have unnecessary ego and don't want your progress as a woman? Be you, and the right one will come along. Love only the one who loves you.
7 Years!!!! Why haven’t you married her? What kind of relationship coach are you? You’re the guy you’re talking about!!! You stringing a woman along for 7 Years!!!! Really?!?!,!?! 🤷🏽♀️
Everyone’s end goal in a relationship isn’t marriage. Some people want to get married just to say they did it, not because they’re ready or qualified for it. If they’re ready to have children and live together, then yes, get married. Otherwise, be okay with being together. Marriage doesn’t mean you’re any more committed if you’re not already mentally.
Post a video on what the best questions to ask a man is. Some of us may not be asking the right questions. I do find it funny you made this video and have been in a relationship for 7 years and giving advice. Why are you not married? Most of these "gurus" giving advice and not living by that standard. Just sayin.
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Yeeees bro toxic dudes in 2024 @24:53 💀💀💀 you described it near perfectly. See Ace it’s an epidemic! Our generation needs a lot of help like we need to find God immediately
I have a friends with benefits. I would marry him tomorrow but he has made clear he doesn’t want a commitment. So I date other men. You’re not about to waste my time.
He doesn’t even deserve the benefits. Cut it off. You got this. If you won’t allow him to waste your time, don’t allow him to use you for the benefits.
I will continue to be single.... It's amazing 🤩 don't got to worry bout no man. Nothing wrong with being single and alone.... and to the people who say aren't you worried about dying alone? My answer is HELL NO!! I have two adult children and they are always gonna be HERE!!!! Plus, I got plenty of friends.... Who needs a man 😂😅
21:20 good question lol cause theyre bluffing. They're pretending to have the upperhand. Go no contact and they'll either act right or go play another woman...
You just can't talk about anything you got going on in life. Im mean i won't say anything what i got coming in whats in my account. They hate when you speak about your accomplishments the things women put up with just to say u in a relationship. That shit always end bad.
I'm only 4 minutes into this video and Ace you are speaking ALL TRUTHS!!! I am grateful to have your messages on my healing journey 🙏🩷🙏 sounds nieve but I didn't realize the amount of evil people that exist in this world...thank you 🙏🩷🙏 I just had to add that there was definitely a reason i was brought to this video this morning, all these things were in my mind this morning & you are so confirming 🙏
Yea stop telling them cause they out to get you i don't trust at all. I let u think i make 9 dollars i don't owe nobody nothing i have never what they make. My friend is straight he got a job and lets another business but i don't have talking to someone im building with
Looks will fade with time. That's why you must run a FULL background check on him, so you will know all his LIES up front and not allow him to waste your time. Get a man who is honest, respectful, has gainful employment, home, car, good credit, pays his bills on time, no alcohol or drug abuse, etc. If not, DO NOT date or marry him. DO NOT settle! Always get a man who is AT or ABOVE your level.
If a person tells you/shows you they're not looking for anything serious BELIEVE THEM. No amount of conversations time spent date nights and sex will change their mind. If you are out here dating with a purpose you have to align yourself with people who want exactly what it is that you want rather if it's marriage or something casual you have to be honest about what it is that you want. Sometimes people can't see our value and sometimes people just don't want the obligation and responsibility that comes with a relationship neither is a good situation to be in because what happens is you pour so much of yourself into that person hoping they see your value meanwhile they give you bare minimum treatment because they may feel you are not worth the investment or they try to keep things as nonchalant and casual as possible because they don't want to connect on an emotional level with you so there behavior won't come across as misleading. Nobody is worth wasting your time or emotions so it's best to move on I don't care if u 1 month in or 7 years in WALK AWAY
I agree with EVERYTHING you said & it's true...I happen to find myself in a situation where the person kept confusing me & I tried to have conversation after conversation, like Ace said, & all it did was leave me hurt. This last relationship was one of my biggest lessons regarding the codependency that I am healing from & even though I went through mess, I am grateful for the lesson & I will no longer allow my precious time to be wasted on "trying to save someone" 🙏🩷🙏
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Whew 😢..... 💯
@latoyawalls5042 I got out of a situationship 7 months ago I had never been it that type of situation before but from experience it was draining crazy part was I didn't even like him for awhile but ended up catching feelings once I got to know him. But I take full responsibility for even allowing myself to catch feelings and also for allowing myself to stay and continue to get disrespected I was on and off with him for 7 months and I couldn't take it anymore. It was hard letting go but sticking around was killing me. Even to this day I still think about him but it's from a hurtful place because that was my experience with that man. I never really comment on post but I feel like alot of people needed to hear this and I know it's hard but we have to give ourselves the type of love we seek from others once u master that nobody will ever be able to take advantage of you because u know your worth. Make sure you have standards and set clear boundaries!!!!!!!!❤️
@rissalewis5975 @rissalewis5975 Thank you for sharing 🙏 it sounds a lot like my situation. And like you, I had to take full responsibility for my own behavior & issues in order to forgive myself and heal. I also agree that knowing your self-worth and creating healthy boundaries is necessary 🙏🩷🙏
He stomped on us once again! 😂 we need this tough love
Before entering a relationship, it should be established what the terms are and the direction of courting process. You should date to marry not date to waste time. To avoid dating unequally yoke partners, people should use discernment, weaning process. It should not take long to understand if an individual is your equal.
This is so correct. Just tell the truth and stick to it. Stop being so desperate and settling. Got what? Wasted time
You spoke facts! No man should know how much you make. Please speak to these ladies! lol
That one liner....just because I'm not your boyfriend, doesn't mean you are not my girlfriend! Wow......this is all too real!
He dam sure right.....
This brotha is preaching! Amen
You are a blessing to many. I try to tell my friends some of the same things that life has taught me. Most look at me crazy and don't listen!
Smh its hard realizing you been in a toxic situation for such a long time
Ladies run do not walk past go. Thank him for his time and you DISAPPEAR. They dont want to commit if you are still hanging around and offering benefits. Stop trying and talking just disappear .
Another YEAR is a whole opportunity for him to hurt you, meet, date and have a whole new family on you! I’m single but I’m just saying 🤷🏾♀️
Ok I had a friend and all we do is f......and he only call me at 12am or when Its convenient for him. Just listening to you I walked away for 2024. I was connected to an soul ties. I thank you for this message....
Yesss same here..... Walking away for 2024 as well 🙏🏾
Walked away from mine in 2023. He saw me out in 2024 and ignored me 😂 He got the message.
Wow....just bc he is not my boyfriend don't mean I ain't his girlfriend???? That is so twisted and gamey, but ur on point ....I learned this the hard way. Thank u !!!
Thank you Ace. I appreciate you. ❤❤❤❤
I love how he speaks the truth and i can really learn a lot from him
Thank you 🙏 😊 you’re amazing. I appreciate your honesty ❤️
365 is a LONG time to ask a man to get some damn GET RIGHT! 🗣️
Lawdamercy!! The truth hurts so good!! I truly appreciate you Ace!
Because part of my business I talk about how well my business does, I live in a multi million dollar house, drive a $120k car…. I don’t tell them this on first date but eventually they find out.
You said nothing but facts thank you
This is right on time for me right now.. this is so real. I greatly needed this and I greatly appreciate it.
I have no time to waste. My standards are in place, and my boundaries are firm. I've been single my divorce because I reject them because I won't settle or they reject me because I won't settle for bare minimum, negativity, or insecurities.
Years...I promise you when a man is ready he ain't gonna give you years...let alone one full year. Can't be scared to lose him...He just aint ready Sis. Accept that fact and move on to your real peace.
If men don't want to be in a committed relationship, then they should just leave women alone. Stop running around just looking for sex. Stop wasting women's time. If your not looking for a committed relationship, you shouldn't even be dating. Men love to talk about women hitting the wall, but then they are out here wasting women's time... leave women alone!
Let's be honest... It's cuz women let them. The blame isn't all theirs. Yup, I said it. Take accountability for picking f**k boys. 🙌
Absolutely absurd
I love ur fuckin honesty... should have been listening to yo ass ida been out this situation 😂😂😂all mf good tho. Lesson learned my dude. Thanks for clarifying certain shit
Better to walk away, don't waste your time
Why waste your honesty and loyalty on men who have unnecessary ego and don't want your progress as a woman? Be you, and the right one will come along. Love only the one who loves you.
Well said brother.
Soon after i heard the question i knew he was about to go in 😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂
7 Years!!!! Why haven’t you married her? What kind of relationship coach are you? You’re the guy you’re talking about!!! You stringing a woman along for 7 Years!!!! Really?!?!,!?! 🤷🏽♀️
Right !
Everyone’s end goal in a relationship isn’t marriage.
Some people want to get married just to say they did it, not because they’re ready or qualified for it.
If they’re ready to have children and live together, then yes, get married.
Otherwise, be okay with being together. Marriage doesn’t mean you’re any more committed if you’re not already mentally.
My toes all kinds of stepped on tonight!!! 😖
Thank you so much❤
😆 🤣 😂 😹 Big Facts
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Leave, Periodt.
13 years.no progress . We had our daughter 11 years ago . Nothing has changed
Sorry... That's a long time to waste
Facts and they take personal i learned it.
Post a video on what the best questions to ask a man is. Some of us may not be asking the right questions. I do find it funny you made this video and have been in a relationship for 7 years and giving advice. Why are you not married? Most of these "gurus" giving advice and not living by that standard. Just sayin.
😂I’m agree with everything u had told me
You are right you cant be helping people that don't help you or anyone that think you are crazy because you are being nice ❤❤to them
Whew 😅 I just love this podcast
The Truth about Cats and Dogs….”Some dogs have to learn to leave the damn cat alone.” #TonightsConversation #JackOfSpades #TheCardGame #HealthyRelationships
Yeeees bro toxic dudes in 2024 @24:53 💀💀💀 you described it near perfectly. See Ace it’s an epidemic! Our generation needs a lot of help like we need to find God immediately
4:20 gold 🎉🎉🎉
Thats some hard truth!!!!
Why is this a discussion??
Are people slow?!
MOVE ON. Why are you trying to figure out why somebody doesn’t want you?? 🙄
You are so right bro bless ❤❤👍🙏
Facts amen to that
Thank you!!!!!
I have a friends with benefits. I would marry him tomorrow but he has made clear he doesn’t want a commitment. So I date other men. You’re not about to waste my time.
He doesn't respect you dear. Please learn your value and worth.
Girl why u still getting with him ? 😭
He doesn’t even deserve the benefits. Cut it off. You got this. If you won’t allow him to waste your time, don’t allow him to use you for the benefits.
I will continue to be single.... It's amazing 🤩 don't got to worry bout no man. Nothing wrong with being single and alone.... and to the people who say aren't you worried about dying alone? My answer is HELL NO!! I have two adult children and they are always gonna be HERE!!!! Plus, I got plenty of friends.... Who needs a man 😂😅
You lost me @ 7 years together with no financial transparency.
Real talk ❤❤❤😊
Folks know what time it is
21:20 good question lol cause theyre bluffing. They're pretending to have the upperhand. Go no contact and they'll either act right or go play another woman...
I know that’s right
You just can't talk about anything you got going on in life. Im mean i won't say anything what i got coming in whats in my account. They hate when you speak about your accomplishments the things women put up with just to say u in a relationship. That shit always end bad.
What if we haven’t been intimate Mr.Bounce?
I agree. You speak the truth. Continue to keep it 💯. Black must be your favorite color.
Yes
damn some hard truth❤
No more talking move on or run no more wasting
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am debt free also
I'm only 4 minutes into this video and Ace you are speaking ALL TRUTHS!!! I am grateful to have your messages on my healing journey 🙏🩷🙏 sounds nieve but I didn't realize the amount of evil people that exist in this world...thank you 🙏🩷🙏
I just had to add that there was definitely a reason i was brought to this video this morning, all these things were in my mind this morning & you are so confirming 🙏
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An insecure man is intimidated by a strong woman.
Yea stop telling them cause they out to get you i don't trust at all. I let u think i make 9 dollars i don't owe nobody nothing i have never what they make. My friend is straight he got a job and lets another business but i don't have talking to someone im building with
24:40 lol so true
I think us women are too focused on looks and then we pass up on the good guys that can meet us at our level ..
I’m done with pretty boys!
Ugly men can break hearts too 😅 js... Make sure they are your equal (PERIODT).
Looks will fade with time. That's why you must run a FULL background check on him, so you will know all his LIES up front and not allow him to waste your time. Get a man who is honest, respectful, has gainful employment, home, car, good credit, pays his bills on time, no alcohol or drug abuse, etc. If not, DO NOT date or marry him. DO NOT settle! Always get a man who is AT or ABOVE your level.
He buys you so he can be his girl 👧 when you are 14
The. You have to announce this ahead ……
Law enforcement
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Sad😢 I have a rooming house
100 % accurate 🙂
Lols
It’s absurd that people make these videos. Who cares what a man wants or doesn’t want?
PREACH 🙌 We're need to work more about ourselves and less about the imaginary loneliness we think happens.
Real talk 😂💯
😂I’m agree with everything u had told me