My husband had a big thing about how to load the dishwasher. So he got to do it his way. I rinsed the dishes and he loaded. Worked for us for 25 years. He's been gone 11. We sure saved ourselves grief. And adored each other to the end.
The black husband was insecure about his wife's accomplishments and tried to cut her down to size by criticizing her as a wife and mother. This was to make himself feel better bout his self-perceived professional mediocrity. Who knows, she probably belittled him about his professional ineptitude, compared to hers. But he was really trying to down her to make himself feel more like a man. He smirked when she spoke on how deep the motherhood comment stung her. Like he was savouring the moment all over again.
Yes! That’s the definition of winning. Dr. Phil is right. The stupidest thing people do in a relationship is compete with their partner. A relationship is a partnership. What benefits you benefits me and vice versa.
@Tony Malveaux and a win, all of it in one thing. Competition is the dumbest thing you can do. It is as dumb as thinking of any team competing against each other 😒
These episodes with Dr. Phil..they made me put pieces together for many of my personal questions. Especially the one “How to heal a broken heart.” Thank you Dr. and thank You Oprah.
Eric is simply extremely insecure that his wife is, by the world's standards, extremely successful so he tries to put her down so that he can feel better about himself.He needs to be reassured that he is still the man in this relationship and that he is the head of the family despite his wife's success.
Yes! He’s not upset about how she loads the dishwasher, he’s hurt that she doesn’t do it the way he says she should, because in his eyes, that translates to: “she doesn’t value my advice or opinion”. But when you’re constantly criticizing someone, they shut down and don’t even want to listen to you anymore.
@Amyx x I would never refer to my husband as "head of the house". My parents taught me that. They worked like a team in all matters. I earn far more money than my man. We each put the same amount of money into
Imagine how these couples would feel if after insulting and screaming at each other, one of them walked out the door and got into a car accident or something? How would they feel if that person died and the last thing you said to them was something awful and hurtful? I make sure that every time I leave the house I tell my husband, “I love you” because you never know what might happen.
That actually happened to a friend of ours, he got into a fight with his pregnant fiancé and she got into the car to leave and 3 miles down the road she crashed speeding head on into an electrical pole and was killed. About 6 years later he had a massive heart attack in the car on the way home from work and died, he was only 39, I don’t think he ever spiritually recovered.
To me it seems like the classic conflict between sanguine versus melancholic personalities. The two are hell when together, but when they grow up and work together their different ways of doing things, they are really power couple
Dr Phil gives good advice, and Oprah once again, shows her true self. She is actually uncaring and without compassion...She tries to hog the spotlight/look like 'an expert' when she has never even been married or raised children. Very telling, and easy to see now that the Years have Passed! Glad to see Phil got away from her and now has his own channel on Utube, where he is no longer muzzled!
The 3rd couple can frame the doily, in a nice frame, and hang it, on a wall, in the dining area. A small picture of the woman, who crochet the doily, can be added either in the frame next to the doily or in a separate matching frame hanging next to the framed doily. It would make a great conversational piece, it would look very nice, and it would illuminate some arguments.
Dr Phil gives good advice, and Oprah shows her true self, that is actually uncaring and without compassion...She tries to hog the spotlight/look like 'an expert' when she has never even been married or raised children. Very telling, and easy to see now that the years have passed. Glad to see Phil got away from her and now has his own channel on Utube, where he is no longer muzzled!
That second dude is totally checked out and regretting marrying her and having all those babies. But he knows he would be destroyed financially if he left.
My dad was allways a slob about THE dishes so My Mom let him DO hes thing and after he was done she went in to THE kitchen and redid it No arguments they were toghtere until My dad died and now she dont wanna meet anybody new becuse they had a real special bond
There is a proper way to load the dishwasher…. Fill it and don’t run it half empty. Don’t put in items that take up too much real estate or get used everyday.
Here’s the thing, what’s more important to you, having the dishwasher loaded ‘correctly’ or having a happy home. If it’s the dishwasher, that’s fine, you’ll soon have it all to yourself!
The second couple needs to find 2 hours a week for a date night. Most important, no work talk, no mention of children from the time you leave for the date, to the time you walk back in the door at home.
Put the doily in a picture frame with velvet behind it. It makes a beautiful showpiece. And label the back: Grannie jones made this 1852....it went thru the civil war....ta da ta da ta da. Like that !!!
if the second couple where divorced and it is his time with the children all for himself. I wonder how many times that will take place, until he throws the towel! I think he only stay in the marriage for her to take care of the children for him to have eirs and escape to his bar!
Okay, and that last supposedly grown man, who can only yell when he gets upset- jesus christ how UNATTRACTIVE. How unconscious can one be, and remain. I would be surprised if those 3 sentences from Dr. Phil made him change. I don't care what he went through to have anger issues. Get therapy and be better.
I am actually the wife in that couple, how grown of you to judge another human as being UNATTRACTIVE. It is so easy to sit behind a keyboard while you judge and bully others. For the record he has changed and 20 years later we are still together and have a great marriage.
@@christyelkins good for you he got better. And anyone is UNATTRACTIVE who needs to yell around! And then also, why do you defend this behavior? You don’t even get it that my comment was pro you.
@@christyelkins No offense, but you went on the show and put it out there in front of everyone and so people will have opinions. And we only get to see about 5 minutes of your lives, so it isn't always an accurate depiction. I also agree with you that people can be harsh and there's no reason to be. But its easier to have an opinion because it's not personal for us, but it is for you. And obviously YOU didn't like the behavior either or you wouldn't be on The Oprah Winfrey Show. But having said all that, so happy to hear you're doing so well!! To many more years of happiness. 🥂
My son doesn’t permit me to load his dishwasher. Lol. He told me it drives him insane if things aren’t placed as he thinks they should be. My ex husband same way.
Seen it way back. Why would you upload it again. Please upload tanya’s kitchen table episodes, patti LaBelle making potato saLad with oprah, Brandy’s entire interview and oprahs legend ball.
Hes cute ......but what does he do for a living.....it takes a really strong man to live happily w a really brilliant woman........he's cute.....but he's NOT your equal mentally......😏
It seems like couple #2 husband is not paying to much attention on his family cause he already has them! Secondly, nobody wants a wife who is yapping all the private family business with friends! So, he taking it to easy on that part! When Dr. Phil told him, he could call his wife, that he’s able to come home earlier and take the children, the husband seems to get afraid to actually handle the children!
That's not true at all. As soon as he started talking about what to fix with the husband, he looked at the wife and said "I'm not just picking on you I'm sure she does this too"
I don’t think he does. But what he does have is experience of being a husband and a very strong idea of how to be a good husband. If it was me I’d see each person’s point of view, but I’d have a little more to say to the woman about being a good mother because that’s where my experience and passion is.
I don't know who's idea it was to unlock these Oprah Show episodes, but whoever you are, you are a genius and I LOVE YOU! Thank you!!🙏💗💗💗
Absolutely brilliant because UA-cam is another passive income stream for Oprah not only from the views but from ads. 😉
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When she told him how she felt 😢 I couldn't help but cry too!!!
THIS IS THE CONTENT I WANNA SEE 👏🏾
You just can’t beat classic Oprah episodes!
It’s what we’ve ALL wanted to see!!!
I always search for classics. Very hard to find. This is gold.
Dr phil show itself is even better
My husband had a big thing about how to load the dishwasher. So he got to do it his way. I rinsed the dishes and he loaded. Worked for us for 25 years. He's been gone 11. We sure saved ourselves grief. And adored each other to the end.
yes me & mine also
Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship! I'm so sorry for your loss♡
My condolences
This is beautiful. This is a healthy relationship. Sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your love and best friend.
The black husband was insecure about his wife's accomplishments and tried to cut her down to size by criticizing her as a wife and mother. This was to make himself feel better bout his self-perceived professional mediocrity. Who knows, she probably belittled him about his professional ineptitude, compared to hers. But he was really trying to down her to make himself feel more like a man. He smirked when she spoke on how deep the motherhood comment stung her. Like he was savouring the moment all over again.
Absolutely hands down you got it.
I agree. He's overcompensating.
This the comment I was looking for 👏🏽
I have said it before and I will say it again. Thank you so much 😊 for posting ful episodes we very much appreciate it
VCR days 😅😅😅❤❤❤.. I used to watch Dr. PHIL 30 years ago. Glad to revisit it again on UA-cam 😊😊
Dr Phil and Oprah, wow, double whammy. My idea of heaven 😍.
Keeping peace, is more important than to be right.
Yes! That’s the definition of winning. Dr. Phil is right. The stupidest thing people do in a relationship is compete with their partner. A relationship is a partnership. What benefits you benefits me and vice versa.
@Tony Malveaux and a win, all of it in one thing. Competition is the dumbest thing you can do. It is as dumb as thinking of any team competing against each other 😒
These episodes with Dr. Phil..they made me put pieces together for many of my personal questions. Especially the one “How to heal a broken heart.” Thank you Dr. and thank You Oprah.
Gosh this taking me back to my high school days 🥹 Oprah at 4 right after school.
This generation has no clue the contribution she made to peoples life with these impactful shows 5 days a week.
Same! Especially the music when the show starts. I even remember the after school snacks i used to eat while watching the show ❤
Ya, it brings back a lot of memories. Classic Oprah is d best!
NEVER use the word divorce to hurt or pressure your spouse. The only time that should be mentioned is when you genuinely mean it as an ultimatum.
He's insecure about his wife's job. He's very inadequate. Once she became a lawyer, he felt out of her league
Who takes a doily stain personally? If its so special frame it and hang it on the wall behind protective glass.
🎉🎉stil relevant even today....I used to watch 20yrs ago...stil love to watch them again❤
Eric is simply extremely insecure that his wife is, by the world's standards, extremely successful so he tries to put her down so that he can feel better about himself.He needs to be reassured that he is still the man in this relationship and that he is the head of the family despite his wife's success.
Yes! He’s not upset about how she loads the dishwasher, he’s hurt that she doesn’t do it the way he says she should, because in his eyes, that translates to: “she doesn’t value my advice or opinion”. But when you’re constantly criticizing someone, they shut down and don’t even want to listen to you anymore.
Psychology
Psychology 101
@Amyx x I would never refer to my husband as "head of the house". My parents taught me that. They worked like a team in all matters. I earn far more money than my man. We each put the same amount of money into
a joint account, to cover all the household bills and purchases, eating out, cinema tickets etc. I have savings and investments
Imagine how these couples would feel if after insulting and screaming at each other, one of them walked out the door and got into a car accident or something? How would they feel if that person died and the last thing you said to them was something awful and hurtful? I make sure that every time I leave the house I tell my husband, “I love you” because you never know what might happen.
That actually happened to a friend of ours, he got into a fight with his pregnant fiancé and she got into the car to leave and 3 miles down the road she crashed speeding head on into an electrical pole and was killed. About 6 years later he had a massive heart attack in the car on the way home from work and died, he was only 39, I don’t think he ever spiritually recovered.
@@drawingdownlaluna Oh my gosh I’m so sorry 😞
Wow I’m watching this alone now but making my husband watch it but every couple should watch this
Hi OWN It's Me Jae! I Remember Seeing This Episode! Thank You! You Can't Beat Classic Episodes of The Oprah Winfrey Show!
To me it seems like the classic conflict between sanguine versus melancholic personalities. The two are hell when together, but when they grow up and work together their different ways of doing things, they are really power couple
Method in my madness, I believe that the universe provides what I need, not always necessarily what I want. I believe 🙏
And you’re correct
this dr phil i can watch. the 2021 and 2022 dr phil is not watchable.... bring old dr phil back please
Dr Phil gives good advice, and Oprah once again, shows her true self.
She is actually uncaring and without compassion...She tries to hog the spotlight/look like 'an expert' when she has never even been married or raised children. Very telling, and easy to see now that the Years have Passed! Glad to see Phil got away from her and now has his own channel on Utube, where he is no longer muzzled!
My husband is my best friend and we can talk about everything. With the years toxic masculinity is not as common as it was and it shows.
Pigs are actually one of the most intellegent animals !!! LOL*
The 3rd couple can frame the doily, in a nice frame, and hang it, on a wall, in the dining area. A small picture of the woman, who crochet the doily, can be added either in the frame next to the doily or in a separate matching frame hanging next to the framed doily.
It would make a great conversational piece, it would look very nice, and it would illuminate some arguments.
Hello, doily couple here, Oprah actually had the doily framed and matted for us. It is very beautiful and now protected.
Not winning but argue in such a way with a purpose for both to be ok with it
4:55 mins into this and I'm contemplating staying single for the rest of my life
I’ve been through it all, over the years. I’m a very happy and healthy senior without a man. 🥰😊
You won’t miss much trust me.
I'm 67 and single. I love it. This show reminded me how lucky I am. 😻
Hi universe, I shush, get quiet, get calm 😌 and feel the universe whispering to me.
I love Dr. Phil!
Dr Phil gives good advice, and Oprah shows her true self, that is actually uncaring and without compassion...She tries to hog the spotlight/look like 'an expert' when she has never even been married or raised children. Very telling, and easy to see now that the years have passed. Glad to see Phil got away from her and now has his own channel on Utube, where he is no longer muzzled!
Highlight of the entire video..”set your VCR…” lol my my how technology has evolved
😂
And over a relatively short time!
I'm crying while I haven't even got married yet.
Absolutely, Oprah.
That is true cause the only Time my husband and I talk is when we argue
and we just got done arguing and angry at each other
I’m sorry y’all should go to marriage counseling or something.
That second dude is totally checked out and regretting marrying her and having all those babies. But he knows he would be destroyed financially if he left.
My dad was allways a slob about THE dishes so My Mom let him DO hes thing and after he was done she went in to THE kitchen and redid it No arguments they were toghtere until My dad died and now she dont wanna meet anybody new becuse they had a real special bond
There is a proper way to load the dishwasher…. Fill it and don’t run it half empty. Don’t put in items that take up too much real estate or get used everyday.
Here’s the thing, what’s more important to you, having the dishwasher loaded ‘correctly’ or having a happy home. If it’s the dishwasher, that’s fine, you’ll soon have it all to yourself!
I ain’t buying what Eric is selling.
Bom dia Opraha Winfrey eu só Victoria Deus ti a bênção todos os dias da sua vida e sua família também 👸👍❤❤❤
The second couple needs to find 2 hours a week for a date night. Most important, no work talk, no mention of children from the time you leave for the date, to the time you walk back in the door at home.
Put the doily in a picture frame with velvet behind it.
It makes a beautiful showpiece. And label the back: Grannie jones made this 1852....it went thru the civil war....ta da ta da ta da.
Like that !!!
Hello, doily couple here, Oprah actually had the doily framed and matted for us. It is very beautiful and now protected.
@@christyelkins hooray !!! Thanks for telling me!🖐🏻☺️
My husband used to tell me that he will take care of our kids so I could go out with my girl friends
You were married to an angel
I mean, that's what good parents do.
Why did they have another child?????
It's crazy to think I was three when this aired.
It's crazy to think I was 45! 😆
if the second couple where divorced and it is his time with the children all for himself. I wonder how many times that will take place, until he throws the towel! I think he only stay in the marriage for her to take care of the children for him to have eirs and escape to his bar!
Jeez, I use 5000 words a day just commenting on Dr Phil!
Okay, and that last supposedly grown man, who can only yell when he gets upset- jesus christ how UNATTRACTIVE. How unconscious can one be, and remain. I would be surprised if those 3 sentences from Dr. Phil made him change. I don't care what he went through to have anger issues. Get therapy and be better.
I am actually the wife in that couple, how grown of you to judge another human as being UNATTRACTIVE. It is so easy to sit behind a keyboard while you judge and bully others. For the record he has changed and 20 years later we are still together and have a great marriage.
@@christyelkins good for you he got better. And anyone is UNATTRACTIVE who needs to yell around! And then also, why do you defend this behavior? You don’t even get it that my comment was pro you.
@@christyelkins No offense, but you went on the show and put it out there in front of everyone and so people will have opinions. And we only get to see about 5 minutes of your lives, so it isn't always an accurate depiction.
I also agree with you that people can be harsh and there's no reason to be. But its easier to have an opinion because it's not personal for us, but it is for you. And obviously YOU didn't like the behavior either or you wouldn't be on The Oprah Winfrey Show.
But having said all that, so happy to hear you're doing so well!! To many more years of happiness. 🥂
Argueing is not discussing.
we talk laugh..disagree &..always i love you..
If there is a proper way to load the dishwasher, let the husband do it 💯. He just wants to make himself feel better.
My son doesn’t permit me to load his dishwasher. Lol. He told me it drives him insane if things aren’t placed as he thinks they should be. My ex husband same way.
My ex woke me up at 2am one time, absolutely furious because, once again, I had loaded the dishwasher ‘wrongly’ , that’s why he ended up being my ex
Seen it way back. Why would you upload it again. Please upload tanya’s kitchen table episodes, patti LaBelle making potato saLad with oprah, Brandy’s entire interview and oprahs legend ball.
I've never seen it before.
No we like the old Oprah episodes. We need a lot more.
The old school years are over! The from the 1950s and back are over
And that’s the problem
I wonder if there still together
Doily couple here!!!! We are still together and better than ever!
Erica and Eric's relationship didn't work because Eric is a queen.
He don't even look interested,he look bored!
It seems like the husband in the 2nd couple is just done! He's probably having an affair!
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Hes cute ......but what does he do for a living.....it takes a really strong man to live happily w a really brilliant woman........he's cute.....but he's NOT your equal mentally......😏
I dont bélière him. He is jalouse of her succès.
It seems like couple #2 husband is not paying to much attention on his family cause he already has them! Secondly, nobody wants a wife who is yapping all the private family business with friends! So, he taking it to easy on that part! When Dr. Phil told him, he could call his wife, that he’s able to come home earlier and take the children, the husband seems to get afraid to actually handle the children!
We don’t use cush words
What are you saying underneath what you're saying? Bottom line.
Sorry, Dr. Phil missed the mark especially on couple 2,
"Dr" Phil is very misogynistic!
I never thought this man was a good therapist. Even in his own show he never resolves anything.
That's too bad. I disagree. I've applied a lot I've learned over the years to my own life.
Cool cause his amazing career says otherwise. Also, he’s a doctor, not a therapist. Stay mad
Dr. Phil always blames the husband more than the wife, ALWAYS.
That's not true at all. As soon as he started talking about what to fix with the husband, he looked at the wife and said "I'm not just picking on you I'm sure she does this too"
Loving Mayberry no one always does always
I don’t think he does. But what he does have is experience of being a husband and a very strong idea of how to be a good husband. If it was me I’d see each person’s point of view, but I’d have a little more to say to the woman about being a good mother because that’s where my experience and passion is.
The husband is the head of the family. So yes, they have a responsibility.
Dr. Phil gives the worst advice to men.