@@jeepathecreepa well to be honest with you I lost my 21-year-old daughter and I don’t blame anyone. She made a bad choice. She made a conscious choice before she was high. We have to learn that people have to be responsible for they do as much as it hurts.
So the moral of this story, it's best to be a broke junkie, less chance of buying too much drugs. lol (just kidding of course) Sad that some people with all that wealth destroy their own lives.
Ehhhh, I'm not so sure there were people that didn't care. I would think he pushed all his loved ones away with his addiction. There's a point when loved ones have to take care of themselves and let the addict go.
When I first got clean in 1991, the first thing I heard in the 12 step meeting I made, "it doesn't matter how much or how little you used, but what you want to do about your problem and how we can help", They also said, in order for you to maintain staying clean, I MUST abstain from any and ALL mood and mind altering chemicals by staying away from people, places and things. That was 33 years ago. It's too bad, Matthew Perry was still on the search of a "safe way" to use. There is no "safe way". His death hurt my heart. Drug dealers, no matter what the license or lack thereof, will never care about your wellbeing.
Congratulations! 10 years here. I admire Perry for publicly talking about his struggles. I know on some level he really did want to maintain sobriety. But despite numerous attempts and $9 million invested in treatment (65 times in Detox and 15 stays in rehab sounds insane to me), he never seemed to stay sober for very long. Maybe there're a lot of pill-pusher types in Hollywood that make it more difficult for a multi-millionaire, I don't know, but it's a shame, given his many blessings, he didn't make it to recovery.
Congratulations on over 30 years sober!🎉 👏 I believe your acceptance of reality contributed to your success. Addiction is an illness, when you have a serious illness it is important to closely follow your treatment plan. A type 1 diabetic ( insulin dependant due to autoimmune disease) cannot say "I feel I'm not diabetic today , I'm not taking my insulin " or a person with kidney failure cannot say " I feel I can handle a week without dialysis " No! Vigilance is key! I have a genetic disease that progressed in recent years, it is not fair but it is my reality and I adapt. Some children are born with a heart defect or cerebral palsy, it's not fair but they live the best life they can with the situation they are in. You have a propensity for Addiction but you adapted and are living your best life within your circumstance. I wish Matthew Perry could have had that kind of life too.😢 Such a talent and it seemed people in Hollywood liked him so probably also a nice person. Gone too soon.
I think he had real friends, but they didn't agree with his substance abuse, so he may have kept this away from them and looked for the bad friends to get support.
Dr Grande, you mention that Matthew Perry went through a lot of counselling: mental health counselling twice a week for 30 years, attended 6000 AA meetings, and went through detox 65 times. Could you make a show about the efficacy of substance abuse counselling, that is, which programs have scientifically showed to actually work?
AA meetings are not what makes a person sober, its the tvelwe steps of AA which are done outside of the meetings apart from the 12th step. The twelve steps are a cognitive process, and a spiritual process. Its about giving up, accepting ones failures, being honest to one self and finding a power greater than yourself. The sad part is most addicts never finish these steps or if they do they dont live in the steps. They just go to meetings and think thats going to magically heal them without doing the work that needs to be done. The success numbers in AA seem to be around 5% longterm sober
True. Some do the work others use support groups/therapy as yet another crutch. Some therapists don't mind having a fixed asset on their books. Sadly. My opinion
He pushed away & his from his plethora of real friends- incldg his fellow cast members He spoke about that btwn getting clean & dying after backsliding.
Damn that is harsh. I am sorry for your friend. I still don't understand why anyone would lace coke with fentanyl. That is actively trying to kill your customer.
@@lupo3694 yeah it was pathetic. He was very successful so his parents only cared about fighting over his money. I assume it gets contaminated on accident by morons.
@@mg-by7uu is that your argument for why no one should care about Perry? “If my friend didn’t get justice no one should” What are you inferring with your comment? Because I read it like that. I want justice for Perry and I want to see the Sackler family thrown in jail for all they have done and RIP my friend Steve siatkowski.
I don't understand how one horrific poor souls addiction and death needs to be compared. Matthew Perry was incredibly famous and perhaps this should best be viewed as a couple of very sad addictive lives and somewhat a cautionary tale. Sabrina from down under
I'm close to 3 years clean from cocaine. It's possible but for some people close to impossible. It becomes a whole lot harder to quit when you are worth $120 mill, let me tell you that.
Just because people fail doesn’t mean that the task is difficult. People fail to drive without crashing all the time but most people find driving easy. Rehab centres make money from treating people not from successfully fixing them. Just psychologists and others in the business of fixing people. We expect more from people washing cars. They are expected to provide results not just do an action.
We can thank actor Carroll O'Connor for this (the dad from the show All in the Family). His son was an addict and died from suicide. O'Connor lobbied to have drug dealers liable for sales resulting in death. It was approved and called the drug dealer liability act in 1997. Now Perry's dealers and Mac miller and all them will have their dealers go to prison for homicide.
That is a terrible, disgusting law that conveniently removes all the actual blame and bearing of responsibility off of the actual fool who caused a death; the person who decided to take lethal doses of drugs who may or may not have been in a body of water while doing so! No need to ruin additional lives because some sad fool doesn't have self-control or self-respect.
@@yamnjam Well when one can not understand the kingdom the universe exists within And seek pleasure sensations on the outside it leads to a disastrous life 🧬
This was well presented, concise, no bs, straight up. Much appreciated Dr. Grande. Addiction is devastating. It's just another story of an addict who overdosed and the people who enabled him and benefitted selfishly. RIP Matthew. May the offenders get the full strength of the law delivered to them.
His situation is really proving that you can't buy happiness. I'm grateful to be just an average guy, but with a carefree attitude, a wonderful bunch of people around me, friends and family, no money or fame can buy this.
Very intelligent, very clear and a no-nonsense, no excuses analysis of a drug addict’s death. A cautionary warning for anyone considering taking habituating drugs. Thank you.
Thank you. Indeed. I have 5 generations extending laterally through lines of 30 children and addiction hits randomly but is ever present. It always comes with the 1st drink in their teens. Why? Can we just ask that question? Like during COVID, we could ask why? But NO. So we stay a country subjected to the cartel. What a plan. Will anyone run for president to address this question?
FWITW....I don't believe that addiction is a "disease" but what problems one has emotionally and/or mentally that causes one to drink and drug extensively, all to soothe themselves.
@@Arlene-e2g "disease" is a figure of speech. Most people who are going through it don't want to have the problem and it affects all walks of life, but it's more complex issue than a cold or the flu.
Since when did a choice become a disease? Kids with cancer don't have a choice they have a disease. Matt had a choice and had the money to feed that choice! The saying no sympathy for self inflicted wounds applies here...
It’s funny how he was doing drugs and died and people say he needs justice but if it were anyone else he’d be a no good drug addict who deserves no justice….🤔🤔🤔
Thankyou exactly my thoughts. It's horrible he died and being a drug addict is soul destroying for all but if he were not famous no-one would care to investigate.
It happens with every family of a drug abuser. They try to blame the dealers instead of their family member addict...fentanyl docs are all over YT on this. However some of those are pills laced with fentanyl but still same reasoning...you bought an illegal drug, your fault unfortunately.
Actually Karol G, the famous colombian singer, goes by “La Bichota”, which is colombian slang for ‘chief drug dealer’, and she gets a lot of praise for making herself look ‘strong and empowered’
I'd guess he didn't want to be in pain. We know nothing about someone's private struggles. Not everything is the way it looks. And he was such a great comedian. Talk about hiding in plain sight. Make people laugh so that no one suspects you're suffering. Robin Williams anyone...
@@purplelove3666 my main problem was alcohol addiction, I thought ketamine would help with that, but I've been sober now for almost a year without drugs, therapists or meetings, but alcoholics are often desperate for a miracle cure
Some addicts have gotten clean by using ketamine therapy. It helps certain mental illnesses, etc. However, just like all medications, nobody knows how they work or if they will work for a specific person. We are living in the Dark Ages of drug therapy.
Thank you for your analysis Dr. Grande. I am 20 months sober from over 3 decades of alcoholism. One of the BEST decisions I’ve ever made. 😊 I was only able to do it because of Jesus Christ. He washed away all of my sins with his precious blood. ❤ I could have never done it on my own. One day at a time. Rest in peace Matthew Perry. 💟✝️💟☮️💟♎️💟
Excellent summation of this case. I will always wonder what could have been done to treat his addiction successfully. (I've seen far too many addicts like him. More research is needed in this field.)
Matthew chose to continue to use. I too am a recovering alcoholic and suffer from MDD. Now sober, my deepest regrets remain the loss of time and of opportunities. Mathew had a luxurious life and could afford the best therapist and Dr. for his dual diagnosis/addiction. He chose to use. Life has thrown the most challenging and heartbreaking moments at me during my sobriety. I refuse to drink in honor of the loved ones I’ve lost, the people I love who are still here and foremost my dignity. One caveat to ponder is the many “friends” and invitations that disappear once one becomes sober. All masks drop and ‘you’re persona non grata’ to gatherings and public events as well. You discover “Who is a NOT a true friend”. There’s always an unexpected surprise of some people you’d think would never vanish, but are gone. I’m still disturbed of how those “Dr’s”/dealers spoke of him; an easy mark, useless idiot or human ATM. Thank you Dr. Grande You state the facts and never temper a topic with euphemisms.
Matthew chose to continue to use. I too am a recovering alcoholic and suffer from MDD. Now sober, my deepest regrets remain the loss of time and of opportunities. Mathew had a luxurious life and could afford the best therapist and Dr. for his dual diagnosis/addiction. He chose to use. Life has thrown the most challenging and heartbreaking moments at me during my sobriety. I refuse to drink in honor of the loved ones I’ve lost, the people I love who are still here and foremost my dignity. One caveat to ponder is the many “friends” and invitations that disappear once one becomes sober. All masks drop and ‘you’re persona non grata’ to gatherings and public events as well. You discover “Who is a NOT a true friend”. There’s always an unexpected surprise of some people you’d think would never vanish, but are gone. I’m still disturbed of how those “Dr’s”/dealers spoke of him; an easy mark, useless idiot or human ATM. Thank you Dr. Grande You state the facts and never temper a topic with euphemisms.
I don't see why not - although I see the point you're making. I think it's just Perry's high profile that lets us know the process, not that the process wouldn't apply for any addict's death though.
He must’ve had kind of a shallow personality, Kind always had a privileged life and never done without, and sometimes doing without and family struggles, build character
Selling his soul to Satan for fame. Born into an uber elitist family.. Celebrity is bought by sin. (Unbelievable and incredulous Acts against God can leave a mark forever on ones conscience.)
He was an incurable addict who sought out drugs to the extent he was an easy target for others. If he was a guy who worked at Walmart, people would just call him a junkie who deserved what he got. He wasted space and resources in rehab centers, imo. He should have just been unrepentant in his addiction, because he truly was. As a recovering alcoholic and addict, I understand that.
Addiction is treatable, not curable. Sad story. I did ketamine assisted therapy (KAP). It helped a lot until it didn't. So I stopped. Plus, my Dr's office was shut down. I do think they're back in business.
I lost any interest in his career after he said he wished Keanu Reeves was dead instead of River Phoenix. Who thinks like this? He wasn’t a nice person. I think people confuse Matthew with Chandler.
@@hannahmitchell87 The context was he was an a$$hole. A normal person would say “It’s tragic River Phoenix died, I wish it hadn’t happened”. But instead he decided one of the nicest people in Hollywood deserved to die.
@robpolaris7272 I've looked into it & can't understand why he'd say that, unless they had history. Or maybe Matthew was jealous? I agree, it's not a nice thing to say. Very odd. “I said a stupid thing. It was a mean thing to do,” Perry said at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books in April 2023. “I pulled his name because I live on the same street. I’ve apologized publicly to him. Any future versions of the book will not have his name in it.” Damage control or a true apology? Guess we'll never know.
@@hannahmitchell87 After he got public backlash. This wasn’t a flippant comment to a friend. He wrote it down and chose to leave it after editing his book. He meant it and had time to consider it. Maybe he thought saying something like that would get more attention? But he wasn’t hurting for money, so I can only imagine he meant it. I really don’t think he was a very nice person. I don’t know if he was always like that or it was his drug use but either way, horrible thing to say about someone.
Never a big fan but sad the outcome. He was a terrible drug addict who couldn't stop, that's what happens in the illegal drug world, it happens to everyone. Yes ketamine dangerous if not monitored. If he weren't famous this wouldn't have been investigated perhaps? Great analysis always. Thanks Dr G😊💜💜
I dont 'adore' him because it's the classic example of KNOWING you have a moral problem and trying to be FAKE. Most of these NEPO adults KNOW they did not EARN their keep just like all the FREE labor that BUILT this declining c untry (yeah i spelled it right 🙄). I ask myself ALL the time if I didn't have a dime would ANYONE give me a morsel of bread? NO so I avoid 98% of so called HU MANS because MOST are 👹
Very true. He was an adult who made his own choices. If these people didn’t help him, he would have found others. Wealth and addictions are a terrible combination.
Love MP as well! Big piece missing here is two physicians were involved. I like to believe that we can still trust our doctors in America, but as corrupt as many are, thank God, that we can still trust most, at least, in my area.
On one hand it's good to see people being held accountable for their actions. On the other hand, I can't help but think about the 100's of people who die every day in the USA through the abuse of illicit substances. All they get a body bag and a free trip to the morgue. No one cares where the supply came from, and the dealers in the back alleys just go on to continue their trade. This is only being investigated because Matthew Perry was a famous and loved celebrity. There is one set of laws that apply to all, but many are only accessible if your are rich, famous or both. Is it only me that sees the moral bankruptcy here?
Honestly I think the fact that his stepfather was the voice of Dateline for ~20 years (Keith Morrison) has more to do with it than anything else. LAPD may not care about much but they probably want good PR and not to offend nationally known investigative journalists.
The reason that happens is because the eyes of the world are on them and answers are being demanded from media and news broadcasts. The truth is that this is a much bigger story than if Joe Smith down the road died in an alley. Let's be honest, if Joe Smith from the alley had died we wouldn't be watching a video about it and commenting, right? Is a team of ""50 detectives" your sarcastic jab? I'm sure there weren't 50 detectives! The world we live in worships celebrities.
I can recommend his book. It was insightful. I got the sense that he always thought he was going to perish through his use eventually but was intent on putting a up a good fight.
Perry's death was 100% on Perry If Perry's suppliers do not get him the drugs....Perry finds some other suppliers There are always other suppliers out there.
None of the suppliers are being charged with killing him. The charges against them are for supplying, distribution and possession which are illegal whether he died or not. They got caught because he died.
24 injections over a 4 day period. That's crazy. I wonder if MP was even aware what was going on at this point. Sad all the way around. Rip MP, no more pain.
I have to say, I can't believe someone with an education would imply that Kenneth didn't know how dangerous Ketamine was. It's a convenient response because the authorities want the others involved to testify against the bigger fish.
In all of the reporting about Matthews death the lack of accountability for his own decisions is very disappointing. In spite of his fame he is no different to the thousands of drug addicts who overdose every year.
Just goes to show that for some people, these rehabilitation programmes are a complete waste of time. The only complete cure is to not taking illegal drugs in the first place. Nobody starts out addicted, so never take the risk.
A lot of people will listen to online meetings on the app all day at work now. Some people do 30 meetings in 30 days when they're first in, some people try and do more than that. If you're in treatment sometimes local AA or NA chapters will go to a facility and run meetings there. So someone could be doing group therapy twice a day plus a 12 step meeting. Some people have to basically swap one addiction (support groups) for another (drugs). There's a church near me that runs AA from 9-5, there are a lot of homeless addicts in that neighborhood. A lot of places have marathon meetings on Xmas or Thanksgiving, if your family triggers you you can drop in and stay as long as you need. Recovery culture, if you have any family members with addictions, it's a whole thing. My guess is that's how Perry got any sober time he did have, by sitting in meetings literally most of the day.
I don’t think 12 Step works for certain people. I’m not knocking the program, I have friends who go and it keeps them sober. However, it’s not for everyone. Maybe he should have tried a different method.
When I read Perry’s book, when I got to the end where he explained he was now clean and helping other addicts and I thought, “this guy is full of it” His book was like we knew of Mathew, self effacing and humorous even while discussing what seemed like an astronomical level of addiction/rehab/treatments. But to me it all rang hollow, I felt like I was being manipulated by his gut wrenching “honesty.” Maybe because I had a dear close friend who was an alcoholic, and just got used to being lied to and was able to read between the lines. He also seemed to have a prosperous, charmed upbringing although his Mom worked quite a bit like many Moms do, it seemed his whole excuse for being an addict is because his Mom wasn’t around as much as he wanted. And then the interviews after his book came out, people really thought he was sober at that point?
These doctors should definitely face justice as they are held to a higher standard. The others involved should be held accountable. An addict with money will always find someone willing to supply their addiction for such a heartbreaking affliction.
When he found Ketamine, it was a class of drugs different from all the previous drugs he used, therefor it was a new high for him, to which he had no tolerance. So he dove in head first because he hadn't had a high like that since he developed tolerance to the previous drugs
No actually it's entirely in their control and their their control alone. The only time a drug addict ever stops using drugs is when they decide to stop.
@@steveballzack1409 That's incredibly ignorant. You have to first ask "why" they turn to drugs. A lot of people use drugs to self-medicate underlying issues. Do you realize how hard it is for people to get professional help with things like mental illness? Even in a country with access to health care, it's still difficult to find any psychiatrist. Your take has the same energy as telling depressed people to "just be happy". Addiction is an illness. And the illness is combined with other illnesses. It's a vicious cycle.
@@everlynevins So what's your point? Are you saying that I'm incorrect and that it's up to somebody else to make drug addicts quit? That it isn't up to them to help themselves? Have you known any drug addicts? Or are you just an ignorant idealist with no real world experience with drugs and drug addicts? All the "professional help" in the world doesn't help one bit unless the user has made the decision to stop. You don't know what you're talking about. It's not an illness it's the result of conscious decisions and calling it a disease is an insult to people who have actual diseases. The cure is literally just stopping your destructive behavior. You can't simply decide to stop having cancer but you can certainly make the conscious decision to stop taking ketamine and many people have successfully quit using drugs, and every one of them will tell you that nothing will work untill the addict decides to help themselves.
At what point in this century are WE accountable for our own actions? At this point we are ALL aware of the reasons not to imbibe random crap and illicit drugs, blaming everything ...except, personal behavior.
Everyone including the addict. But the difference is that an addict harms himself and not others. EDIT: for the less intellectually gifted among us, "harm" refers to the point to which it is a criminal offence. No one here is on trial for causing mental pain.
@Vasilia4 the addict harms himself and not others? As someone who had lived with addicts of various kinds (family) I'd argue the people around the addicts are harmed worse. The amount of damage an addict can do on the quest to feed their addiction knows no bounds. The people surrounded by the addict are hurt worse IMO because this is not their choice. They live with this and deal with this due to the choices the addicts make. They see that person suffer in their quest to ultimately off themselves, and are helpless. Even when you try to get away, they find you. Addicts don't just hurt themselves. Not to mention an addict is usually past the point of caring about anything but the drug when they Starr hurting others, those around the addict are left hurt by an addict who just doesn't gaf what they do and that adds to the pain.
I think it’s right to hold dealers accountable if they somehow willingly engage in a higher than usual risk (like selling pills with different than advertised drugs inside) However the double standard feels strong, so often you hear of stories where teens pass from a laced pill and the parents even have the direct phone contacts and names of the supplier but police just writes it off as “their own fault” and does not invent the same time of investigation as with this famous person. It should be the same standard as here.
We have a dear friend been a career Rx drug & alcoholic. Over years we have rode the roller coaster of rehabs & failed marriages. Currently he has zero relationships with his children. A superficial family dynamic. There is so much family wealth there will never be a rock bottom. While we still hear from him, what we have noticed that all that surround him is paid employees or horrible girlfriends/. I suspect many of Hollywood share this scenario.
@@elijahwilliams3728 you hit the nail on the head. Addicts with money won't keep an entourage member who says "no." They'll always find someone else to say "yes." And I always loved Matthew Perry. I wish he'd been able to stop what he was doing
I learned my lesson about terrible friends in high school. The nicer I was the worse they were in return. Between hearsay and ego people are insanely dangerous.
Matthew was an adult made his own decisions. He chose to take the drugs. They werent forced on him and he couldve went to any treatment center in the world.
It was easy for Perry to let himself go. He convinced himself that he was a helpless victim of an incurable disease, instead of facing the fact that he was addicted to alcohol, drugs and sugar and had low self discipline. And now post mortem, it's still not his fault. We live in an age now where accountability doesn't seem to exist anymore. Our problems are always something or someone else's fault.
I read his book and wish I hadn't. it ended up making me dislike him. It was almost like he was bragging about his tolerance for drugs and alcohol, not to mention how rich and successful he was. And as you said - took no responsibility for his problems and played the victim. Pathetic
Wasn't his fault he became an addict. It would have been his responsibility to do something about it. I guess his personality, as well as his massive wealth, stood in the way.
Those responsible should be held accountable.. Especially those that have sworn to do no harm.. Matty is gone.. How much more responsible can he be held?
He was extremely lucky to have lived as long as he did. He was on death’s door numerous times. He’s been making these choices almost his whole life. He spent millions on rehab. MILLIONS!!!! What a shame. All I can think of is all the good he could have done with his influence and money. He made this choice.
Everyone's different. Some people are meant to fight addiction their whole lives while others of us can take or leave any of it on a dime. That's not fair, but life's not fair.
I remember watching Perry being interviewed once, and being struck by the notion that his greatest addiction was for being in front of a camera. 110,000 people die of drug overdoses in the US annually. How many of these deaths are so thoroughly investigated? Mr Perry's desire for being the centre of attention seems to stretch past the grave.
Thanks Dr Grande. So terribly sad. All those millions of dollars but no peace or happiness within himself - that you cannot buy. There’s a lesson in that for all of us.
Could you imagine being one of those dealers when the news hit? Just in their PJ’s, chilling with a bag of chips, mindlessly flipping through channels till they see the headline. Not to mention the assistant. Living the high life for 30+ years, mansions and nice cars, rubbing shoulders with the elite in society. Now he’s sitting on his bunk, hoping his cell mate leaves their cell soon just so he can poop in private. The whole thing is just bleak.
Pretty sad someone he prob treated very generously. Let him live in his residence, kept him employed for decades.. someone who knows he has substance abuse issues.. sad that he would call him a moron and rip him off. Sounds like Mathew had unresolved childhood trauma and or mental illness that wasn’t properly addressed by professionals. Unfortunately you can buy “friends” but your really paying your enemies
@@jaketobias449 tell that to the girl who was roofied by her date. Or the guy who had back surgery. Or the patients who have bone cancer. It's not so simple.
The worst combination in the world, a drug habit and the money to support it !! Most times ends in a fatality
And the worst part of that you left out...the SJPPLIERS
Hollywood is rife with drugs.. we only see a glimpse when someone OD's
So true. Loads of money for an addict who is an active addiction is a Surefire a death sentence
@@jeepathecreepa well to be honest with you I lost my 21-year-old daughter and I don’t blame anyone. She made a bad choice. She made a conscious choice before she was high. We have to learn that people have to be responsible for they do as much as it hurts.
So the moral of this story, it's best to be a broke junkie, less chance of buying too much drugs. lol (just kidding of course) Sad that some people with all that wealth destroy their own lives.
I think it's sad that Matthew was surrounded by people who didn't genuinely care about him, including himself. What a waste.
not to be rude but he got lucky with the friends tv show. he probably would've ended up the same
He didn't care about himself
What a waste is correct, he had so much but did not want to get better. What else did he need?????
Ehhhh, I'm not so sure there were people that didn't care. I would think he pushed all his loved ones away with his addiction. There's a point when loved ones have to take care of themselves and let the addict go.
Sadly this is the painful truth@@lordvlygar2963
65 times in detox?! I thought my friend had it bad going 6 times. I am AMAZED he lived as long as he did!
That's obviously a lie.
@@Shadowman-1960he really did go to detox over and over
@@busayonycinstead of just stopping like a adult
@@dawnboese6613 his is not a success story
@@audie-cashstack-uk4881yes because it gives people an excuse to keep using because they’re going through the process. People do that with everything
Dr Grande really did a fantastic job of explaining Matthew's situation. It's so disgusting how these people took advantage of MP.
When I first got clean in 1991, the first thing I heard in the 12 step meeting I made, "it doesn't matter how much or how little you used, but what you want to do about your problem and how we can help", They also said, in order for you to maintain staying clean, I MUST abstain from any and ALL mood and mind altering chemicals by staying away from people, places and things.
That was 33 years ago. It's too bad, Matthew Perry was still on the search of a "safe way" to use. There is no "safe way". His death hurt my heart. Drug dealers, no matter what the license or lack thereof, will never care about your wellbeing.
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Glad you're well. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Big Congrats on your decison to get sober @MarabelleBlue ! Keep Well the Road.
Congratulations! 10 years here.
I admire Perry for publicly talking about his struggles. I know on some level he really did want to maintain sobriety. But despite numerous attempts and $9 million invested in treatment (65 times in Detox and 15 stays in rehab sounds insane to me), he never seemed to stay sober for very long.
Maybe there're a lot of pill-pusher types in Hollywood that make it more difficult for a multi-millionaire, I don't know, but it's a shame, given his many blessings, he didn't make it to recovery.
Congratulations on over 30 years sober!🎉 👏 I believe your acceptance of reality contributed to your success. Addiction is an illness, when you have a serious illness it is important to closely follow your treatment plan. A type 1 diabetic ( insulin dependant due to autoimmune disease) cannot say "I feel I'm not diabetic today , I'm not taking my insulin " or a person with kidney failure cannot say " I feel I can handle a week without dialysis " No! Vigilance is key! I have a genetic disease that progressed in recent years, it is not fair but it is my reality and I adapt. Some children are born with a heart defect or cerebral palsy, it's not fair but they live the best life they can with the situation they are in. You have a propensity for Addiction but you adapted and are living your best life within your circumstance. I wish Matthew Perry could have had that kind of life too.😢 Such a talent and it seemed people in Hollywood liked him so probably also a nice person. Gone too soon.
All the $ in the world and no real Friends. Sad
No pun intended
Trust the science they said. Trust doctors they said.
I think he had real friends, but they didn't agree with his substance abuse, so he may have kept this away from them and looked for the bad friends to get support.
It's hard to have friends when your life is 90% drugs and you're a zombie most of the time.
Being famous can be very very lonely
Dr Grande, you mention that Matthew Perry went through a lot of counselling: mental health counselling twice a week for 30 years, attended 6000 AA meetings, and went through detox 65 times.
Could you make a show about the efficacy of substance abuse counselling, that is, which programs have scientifically showed to actually work?
The only person who could get him sober was himself. Period.
It only works when someone is ready to work a program. Any program or modality.
I don’t think there’s a program on earth that will help an addict without addressing childhood/generational trauma.
AA meetings are not what makes a person sober, its the tvelwe steps of AA which are done outside of the meetings apart from the 12th step.
The twelve steps are a cognitive process, and a spiritual process.
Its about giving up, accepting ones failures, being honest to one self and finding a power greater than yourself.
The sad part is most addicts never finish these steps or if they do they dont live in the steps. They just go to meetings and think thats going to magically heal them without doing the work that needs to be done.
The success numbers in AA seem to be around 5% longterm sober
True. Some do the work others use support groups/therapy as yet another crutch.
Some therapists don't mind having a fixed asset on their books. Sadly. My opinion
With friends like these who needs enemies
With fiends like that who needs enemas...
Or should we say “Frenemies”
If you don't love yourself then why would friends. Only one person is responsible for his death and that's Matthew.
He pushed away & his from his plethora of real friends- incldg his fellow cast members
He spoke about that btwn getting clean & dying after backsliding.
@@TLR1988 yes. Apparently even Matthew wasn’t “Friends” with himself.
My friend died leaving a Vegas bar, he was given cocaine laced with fentanyl. No one batted an eye
Damn that is harsh. I am sorry for your friend. I still don't understand why anyone would lace coke with fentanyl. That is actively trying to kill your customer.
@@lupo3694 yeah it was pathetic. He was very successful so his parents only cared about fighting over his money. I assume it gets contaminated on accident by morons.
I have heard of people dying from fentanyl laced coke. Absolutely diabolical. RIP to your friend. 😢
@@mg-by7uu is that your argument for why no one should care about Perry? “If my friend didn’t get justice no one should” What are you inferring with your comment? Because I read it like that. I want justice for Perry and I want to see the Sackler family thrown in jail for all they have done and RIP my friend Steve siatkowski.
I don't understand how one horrific poor souls addiction and death needs to be compared. Matthew Perry was incredibly famous and perhaps this should best be viewed as a couple of very sad addictive lives and somewhat a cautionary tale. Sabrina from down under
This is a prime example of how you can't save people from themselves.
Sad, 6000 AA meetings, countless rehabs, therepy for 30 years. Drugs are tough to beat man. To anyone that has overcome an addiction God Bless.
I'm close to 3 years clean from cocaine. It's possible but for some people close to impossible. It becomes a whole lot harder to quit when you are worth $120 mill, let me tell you that.
@GlassOfWater87 I agree. Money helps you weasel out of things on the outside and inside.
He was obviously just putting on a show and didn't want to quit.
And he got upset in an interview when someone said he wasn’t blameless. He was actually a pompous jerk in the interview.
Just because people fail doesn’t mean that the task is difficult. People fail to drive without crashing all the time but most people find driving easy.
Rehab centres make money from treating people not from successfully fixing them. Just psychologists and others in the business of fixing people.
We expect more from people washing cars. They are expected to provide results not just do an action.
Your analysises always cut through all the headlines and noise. Thank you ❤
@@nerd55120 what would we do without our celebrities, lol
We can thank actor Carroll O'Connor for this (the dad from the show All in the Family). His son was an addict and died from suicide. O'Connor lobbied to have drug dealers liable for sales resulting in death. It was approved and called the drug dealer liability act in 1997. Now Perry's dealers and Mac miller and all them will have their dealers go to prison for homicide.
Good to know. Thank you🎉
I disagree with doing that. Dealers are mostly addicts themselves.
I remember that and also remember Bill Maher chastising him on Politically Incorrect back in 1997. I guess Bill's next...
@@nebbiolo702 I think he should receive the least leniency. Drug dealers are just meeting a demand. The assistant should’ve put a stop to it.
That is a terrible, disgusting law that conveniently removes all the actual blame and bearing of responsibility off of the actual fool who caused a death; the person who decided to take lethal doses of drugs who may or may not have been in a body of water while doing so!
No need to ruin additional lives because some sad fool doesn't have self-control or self-respect.
Unfortunately, a tale as old as time. RIP Matthew Perry, may his case help other addicts.
Agree hopefully this does help others.
Matthew is one of the few celebrities I truly feel sorry for. RIP.
❤🕊
Even with money, he was a poor guy.
Scarcity amidst abundance
I'm sure he felt that way.
He had “friends” in low places, while going to “high” places
This also made me think of all the kids who were smoking and drinking in middle school, and how I am so glad I never got into that.
@@yamnjam
Well when one can not understand the kingdom the universe exists within
And seek pleasure sensations on the outside it leads to a disastrous life 🧬
This was well presented, concise, no bs, straight up. Much appreciated Dr. Grande. Addiction is devastating. It's just another story of an addict who overdosed and the people who enabled him and benefitted selfishly. RIP Matthew. May the offenders get the full strength of the law delivered to them.
Ironic that Matthew needed real friends.
His situation is really proving that you can't buy happiness. I'm grateful to be just an average guy, but with a carefree attitude, a wonderful bunch of people around me, friends and family, no money or fame can buy this.
Money doesn't buy happiness but it sure as hell can pay for things that make you happy.
You are rich, my friend.
@@SurnaturalM Me too ! ❤️
If what you have provides all you need, Your in a good place.
I bet he could have had a much better and more 'real' life anywhere in Ohio or in Europe.
Very intelligent, very clear and a no-nonsense, no excuses analysis of a drug addict’s death. A cautionary warning for anyone considering taking habituating drugs. Thank you.
Addiction is such a real disease. So much more research and resolution needs to be done in this field. Prayers to anyone who is struggling. ❤
Thank you. Indeed. I have 5 generations extending laterally through lines of 30 children and addiction hits randomly but is ever present. It always comes with the 1st drink in their teens. Why? Can we just ask that question? Like during COVID, we could ask why? But NO. So we stay a country subjected to the cartel. What a plan. Will anyone run for president to address this question?
FWITW....I don't believe that addiction is a "disease" but what problems one has emotionally and/or mentally that causes one to drink and drug extensively, all to soothe themselves.
Addiction is not a disease. Cancer is a disease. You choose to do drugs, and alcohol. No one choses to have cancer.
@@Arlene-e2g "disease" is a figure of speech.
Most people who are going through it don't want to have the problem and it affects all walks of life, but it's more complex issue than a cold or the flu.
Since when did a choice become a disease?
Kids with cancer don't have a choice they have a disease.
Matt had a choice and had the money to feed that choice!
The saying no sympathy for self inflicted wounds applies here...
"Enablers are critical to drug dealers having job security." That statement is deeper than the sea.
yeah and the gov is the biggest enabler of all to protect big pharma and the prison industrial complex
Perry's entitlement got him into this sh*t.
Perry was given a million chances, I became sober, for Christs sake!
@@luluruckus55 Drug dealers are critical to the rehab and private prison industry. Cartels even invest in rehab chains.
Dealers are enablers....
It’s funny how he was doing drugs and died and people say he needs justice but if it were anyone else he’d be a no good drug addict who deserves no justice….🤔🤔🤔
Yuuuuuuuup
Thankyou exactly my thoughts. It's horrible he died and being a drug addict is soul destroying for all but if he were not famous no-one would care to investigate.
It is actually a common thing. People can develop a type of vicarious relationship with celebrities they like, everyone else would be a stranger.
Yeah. Because cops never arrest drug dealers unless a Celeb ODs 🙄
It happens with every family of a drug abuser. They try to blame the dealers instead of their family member addict...fentanyl docs are all over YT on this. However some of those are pills laced with fentanyl but still same reasoning...you bought an illegal drug, your fault unfortunately.
After hearning all of these injections, his death was inevitable... His adddiction involved so many participants.
Matthew didn't want to live a normal life. The drug rehabs were forced on him so he could continue to work.
Yes. He couldn’t be insured otherwise.
I appreciate your analysis, Dr. Grande.
Why would you call yourself the "ketamine queen?" Its like introducing yourself to the public and law enforcement as "chief drug dealer."
"Hello, I am the Emperor of crime. Nice to meet you"
Actually Karol G, the famous colombian singer, goes by “La Bichota”, which is colombian slang for ‘chief drug dealer’, and she gets a lot of praise for making herself look ‘strong and empowered’
It's a play off the song "Caribbean Queen" by Billy Ocean.
@@patricklapointe4979 Hey nice to meet you Emperor, I'm the stolen car Czar.
@@CoolHand273 narcissist personality speculation?
If only every drug overdose was as investigated as this celebrity's.
With 12 years of sobriety….you Dr. Grande, are again, right on.
Congratulations on 12 years!!❤
Congratulations! 💜
They did this stuff for years, and it all caught up to them. Lessons to be learned.
I like to do my own research thru the media and discover, Dr. Todd Grande always gives me the full story.
Same
Matthew Perry did not care about Matthew Perry either
Self love is often the greatest, most difficult life lesson. Yes, that was 100% the core problem but I certainly can’t judge him for that.
@@supernova11711 I wasn't judging him
I'd guess he didn't want to be in pain. We know nothing about someone's private struggles. Not everything is the way it looks.
And he was such a great comedian. Talk about hiding in plain sight. Make people laugh so that no one suspects you're suffering. Robin Williams anyone...
Maybe Mathew Perry took care of Matthew Perry best he could...it got out of control.
@@supernova11711I agree. What you said is empathy and understanding.
I almost got sucked into ketamine, cause I thought it would help me, but my daughter knew about it, and told me to stay away from that stuff
How do you expect a drug to help you? Did you have surgery?
As a Registered Nurse, I can tell you that you are wise to never touch that stuff.
@@purplelove3666 my main problem was alcohol addiction, I thought ketamine would help with that, but I've been sober now for almost a year without drugs, therapists or meetings, but alcoholics are often desperate for a miracle cure
@@purplelove3666it’s given for depression
Some addicts have gotten clean by using ketamine therapy. It helps certain mental illnesses, etc. However, just like all medications, nobody knows how they work or if they will work for a specific person. We are living in the Dark Ages of drug therapy.
Always liking Dr. Grande's videos and making sure I'm still subscribed!
Thank you for your analysis Dr. Grande. I am 20 months sober from over 3 decades of alcoholism. One of the BEST decisions I’ve ever made. 😊 I was only able to do it because of Jesus Christ. He washed away all of my sins with his precious blood. ❤ I could have never done it on my own. One day at a time. Rest in peace Matthew Perry.
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Congratulations on 20 months, and many more to come!❤
@@77andsunny THANK YOU ❤️😊
Are you kidding, Dr G? Kenneth had to have known how dangerous ketamine is, and for that matter, Perry, too.
Excellent summation of this case. I will always wonder what could have been done to treat his addiction successfully. (I've seen far too many addicts like him. More research is needed in this field.)
I wonder if subconsciously Matthew wanted to die? He certainly never truly lived what most of us would say is a satisfying and meaningful life
I would guess, yes.
Yeah he was depressed.
It sounds like he committed suicide, with assistance. At least it was inevitable death.
Matthew chose to continue to use.
I too am a recovering alcoholic and suffer from MDD. Now sober, my deepest regrets remain the loss of time and of opportunities.
Mathew had a luxurious life and could afford the best therapist and Dr. for his dual diagnosis/addiction.
He chose to use.
Life has thrown the most challenging and heartbreaking moments at me during my sobriety.
I refuse to drink in honor of the loved ones I’ve lost, the people I love who are still here and foremost my dignity.
One caveat to ponder is the many “friends” and invitations that disappear once one becomes sober.
All masks drop and ‘you’re persona non grata’ to gatherings and public events as well.
You discover “Who is a NOT a true friend”.
There’s always an unexpected surprise of some people you’d think would never vanish, but are gone.
I’m still disturbed of how those “Dr’s”/dealers spoke of him; an easy mark, useless idiot or human ATM.
Thank you Dr. Grande
You state the facts and never temper a topic with euphemisms.
Matthew chose to continue to use.
I too am a recovering alcoholic and suffer from MDD. Now sober, my deepest regrets remain the loss of time and of opportunities.
Mathew had a luxurious life and could afford the best therapist and Dr. for his dual diagnosis/addiction.
He chose to use.
Life has thrown the most challenging and heartbreaking moments at me during my sobriety.
I refuse to drink in honor of the loved ones I’ve lost, the people I love who are still here and foremost my dignity.
One caveat to ponder is the many “friends” and invitations that disappear once one becomes sober.
All masks drop and ‘you’re persona non grata’ to gatherings and public events as well.
You discover “Who is a NOT a true friend”.
There’s always an unexpected surprise of some people you’d think would never vanish, but are gone.
I’m still disturbed of how those “Dr’s”/dealers spoke of him; an easy mark, useless idiot or human ATM.
Thank you Dr. Grande
You state the facts and never temper a topic with euphemisms.
Remember, he allowed injections. Not discounting their criminal activity but he wasn’t mugged
Fame is the worst drug of all.
Tim Dillion had a GREAT take on this yesterday on his Saturday show. Fame and money are indeed BIG time drugs
Fame didn't afflict the other five in such a way. So much for your theory.
And was a drug that Matthew craved
Would they go through this effort for a homeless addict?
I don't see why not - although I see the point you're making. I think it's just Perry's high profile that lets us know the process, not that the process wouldn't apply for any addict's death though.
Have they?
Ever?
@@paulaunger3061they don’t do a single thing
No.
What do you do for homeless?
Perry seemed to want to avoid consciousness completely, what kind of agony was he going through that he needed to be high all the time?
He must’ve had kind of a shallow personality, Kind always had a privileged life and never done without, and sometimes doing without and family struggles, build character
I read his book and it seems like he had a lot of emotional pain and self esteem issues.
mind of an addict bud
Selling his soul to Satan for fame.
Born into an uber elitist family..
Celebrity is bought by sin. (Unbelievable and incredulous Acts against God can leave a mark forever on ones conscience.)
He just liked it
He was an incurable addict who sought out drugs to the extent he was an easy target for others. If he was a guy who worked at Walmart, people would just call him a junkie who deserved what he got. He wasted space and resources in rehab centers, imo. He should have just been unrepentant in his addiction, because he truly was. As a recovering alcoholic and addict, I understand that.
This! 💯💯
Rehabs don't let poor people attend for free, and he wasn't doing Medicaid-funded rehabs.
Addiction is treatable, not curable. Sad story. I did ketamine assisted therapy (KAP). It helped a lot until it didn't. So I stopped. Plus, my Dr's office was shut down. I do think they're back in business.
He probably brought people to the centers
He liked the attention in rehab
I lost any interest in his career after he said he wished Keanu Reeves was dead instead of River Phoenix. Who thinks like this? He wasn’t a nice person. I think people confuse Matthew with Chandler.
from what rag did you gather that pile of whalecrap
what was the context behind him saying that?
@@hannahmitchell87 The context was he was an a$$hole.
A normal person would say “It’s tragic River Phoenix died, I wish it hadn’t happened”. But instead he decided one of the nicest people in Hollywood deserved to die.
@robpolaris7272 I've looked into it & can't understand why he'd say that, unless they had history. Or maybe Matthew was jealous?
I agree, it's not a nice thing to say. Very odd.
“I said a stupid thing. It was a mean thing to do,” Perry said at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books in April 2023. “I pulled his name because I live on the same street. I’ve apologized publicly to him. Any future versions of the book will not have his name in it.”
Damage control or a true apology? Guess we'll never know.
@@hannahmitchell87 After he got public backlash. This wasn’t a flippant comment to a friend. He wrote it down and chose to leave it after editing his book. He meant it and had time to consider it.
Maybe he thought saying something like that would get more attention? But he wasn’t hurting for money, so I can only imagine he meant it.
I really don’t think he was a very nice person. I don’t know if he was always like that or it was his drug use but either way, horrible thing to say about someone.
Rest Peacefully Mattman. You were loved by so many, and you are missed.
Never a big fan but sad the outcome. He was a terrible drug addict who couldn't stop, that's what happens in the illegal drug world, it happens to everyone. Yes ketamine dangerous if not monitored. If he weren't famous this wouldn't have been investigated perhaps? Great analysis always. Thanks Dr G😊💜💜
I absolutely adore Mathew Perry, but the objective truth here is he chose the manner of his own demise . 💔
So sad but true 💔
I dont 'adore' him because it's the classic example of KNOWING you have a moral problem and trying to be FAKE. Most of these NEPO adults KNOW they did not EARN their keep just like all the FREE labor that BUILT this declining c untry (yeah i spelled it right 🙄). I ask myself ALL the time if I didn't have a dime would ANYONE give me a morsel of bread? NO so I avoid 98% of so called HU MANS because MOST are 👹
Very true. He was an adult who made his own choices. If these people didn’t help him, he would have found others. Wealth and addictions are a terrible combination.
He was an adult and knew what he was doing
Love MP as well! Big piece missing here is two physicians were involved. I like to believe that we can still trust our doctors in America, but as corrupt as many are, thank God, that we can still trust most, at least, in my area.
Stupid people, stupid games, stupid prizes! All very sad!!
On one hand it's good to see people being held accountable for their actions. On the other hand, I can't help but think about the 100's of people who die every day in the USA through the abuse of illicit substances. All they get a body bag and a free trip to the morgue. No one cares where the supply came from, and the dealers in the back alleys just go on to continue their trade. This is only being investigated because Matthew Perry was a famous and loved celebrity. There is one set of laws that apply to all, but many are only accessible if your are rich, famous or both. Is it only me that sees the moral bankruptcy here?
Thats like blaming the liquor store for alcohol related deaths.
your kind of thinking IS a problem.
drug addiction is NOT A CHOICE to millions of people.
@@darthvirgin7157 An addict, any addict can lose the desire to use and find a new to live. Addiction is a choice in 2024.
@@darthvirgin7157the first and the second hit is a choice
When a celebrity dies I'm just glad we dedicate a team of 50 detectives and forensic scientists for 6 months. Hope others get the same treatment 😂
Trust the science they said. Trust doctors they said.
Amen
Honestly I think the fact that his stepfather was the voice of Dateline for ~20 years (Keith Morrison) has more to do with it than anything else. LAPD may not care about much but they probably want good PR and not to offend nationally known investigative journalists.
The reason that happens is because the eyes of the world are on them and answers are being demanded from media and news broadcasts. The truth is that this is a much bigger story than if Joe Smith down the road died in an alley. Let's be honest, if Joe Smith from the alley had died we wouldn't be watching a video about it and commenting, right? Is a team of ""50 detectives" your sarcastic jab? I'm sure there weren't 50 detectives! The world we live in worships celebrities.
I think that's because so many doctors were involved.
I can recommend his book. It was insightful. I got the sense that he always thought he was going to perish through his use eventually but was intent on putting a up a good fight.
Perry's death was 100% on Perry
If Perry's suppliers do not get him the drugs....Perry finds some other suppliers
There are always other suppliers out there.
cute.
The suppliers in this case happened to have medical licenses, not random street dealers.
@@adoral.libertucci2647If we could all only have such dealers
None of the suppliers are being charged with killing him. The charges against them are for supplying, distribution and possession which are illegal whether he died or not. They got caught because he died.
Supply and demand with out the supply there would be no demand
24 injections over a 4 day period. That's crazy. I wonder if MP was even aware what was going on at this point. Sad all the way around. Rip MP, no more pain.
I have to say, I can't believe someone with an education would imply that Kenneth didn't know how dangerous Ketamine was.
It's a convenient response because the authorities want the others involved to testify against the bigger fish.
In all of the reporting about Matthews death the lack of accountability for his own decisions is very disappointing. In spite of his fame he is no different to the thousands of drug addicts who overdose every year.
no one thinks it's not his responsibility, cope with ur own relationship with addiction privately.
So you’re saying his death/ any other addicts death isn’t a tragedy because it’s their own fault???? Is that what you’re implying?
I agree. But these people also had no problem enabling his addiction. It's all about the money to them, nothing more.
💯Yeah, I'm so over this.
@Snakesnarl it's a tragedy that he did to himself.
When “do no harm” becomes “get that bag” 💰 not uncommon
edit~spelling
The oath really states, "Do no Haim."
@@andrews527 And yet, there's always another interpretation for those who want to find one.
6,000 AA Meetings? That’s five times a week for 23 years.
Just goes to show that for some people, these rehabilitation programmes are a complete waste of time. The only complete cure is to not taking illegal drugs in the first place. Nobody starts out addicted, so never take the risk.
He wasn’t working the program just enjoying the attention
Where do you think addicts go to find their network for hook ups? 😢
A lot of people will listen to online meetings on the app all day at work now. Some people do 30 meetings in 30 days when they're first in, some people try and do more than that. If you're in treatment sometimes local AA or NA chapters will go to a facility and run meetings there. So someone could be doing group therapy twice a day plus a 12 step meeting. Some people have to basically swap one addiction (support groups) for another (drugs). There's a church near me that runs AA from 9-5, there are a lot of homeless addicts in that neighborhood. A lot of places have marathon meetings on Xmas or Thanksgiving, if your family triggers you you can drop in and stay as long as you need. Recovery culture, if you have any family members with addictions, it's a whole thing.
My guess is that's how Perry got any sober time he did have, by sitting in meetings literally most of the day.
I don’t think 12 Step works for certain people. I’m not knocking the program, I have friends who go and it keeps them sober. However, it’s not for everyone. Maybe he should have tried a different method.
When I read Perry’s book, when I got to the end where he explained he was now clean and helping other addicts and I thought, “this guy is full of it” His book was like we knew of Mathew, self effacing and humorous even while discussing what seemed like an astronomical level of addiction/rehab/treatments. But to me it all rang hollow, I felt like I was being manipulated by his gut wrenching “honesty.” Maybe because I had a dear close friend who was an alcoholic, and just got used to being lied to and was able to read between the lines. He also seemed to have a prosperous, charmed upbringing although his Mom worked quite a bit like many Moms do, it seemed his whole excuse for being an addict is because his Mom wasn’t around as much as he wanted. And then the interviews after his book came out, people really thought he was sober at that point?
OMG. Those would have been my exact words. Felt the same way. Full of it.
These doctors should definitely face justice as they are held to a higher standard. The others involved should be held accountable. An addict with money will always find someone willing to supply their addiction for such a heartbreaking affliction.
When he found Ketamine, it was a class of drugs different from all the previous drugs he used, therefor it was a new high for him, to which he had no tolerance. So he dove in head first because he hadn't had a high like that since he developed tolerance to the previous drugs
The tolerance happens super fast though. I used to get the lozenges from a naturopathic doctor
He never got clean and never surrendered.
Ketamine is being used by treatment centers for severe depression.
@@BabyShark-kd9jl he was using way more than therapeutic doses
@@sarahjaye4117Ketamine lozenges ? Lmao
The sentences sound a bit harsh 120 years … I don’t think child rapist even get that…
Exactly. It makes me think the us justice system is a dystopian nightmare.
drug dealers always get more years than rapists or murderers. it’s always been that way
Disgusting, no?
Our corporate government doesn't like competition.
@@LK-em1bv Correct! We could call it 2-tiered.
It’s just shocking how bad drug addiction is, I pray for these people. It’s beyond their control
No actually it's entirely in their control and their their control alone. The only time a drug addict ever stops using drugs is when they decide to stop.
@@steveballzack1409 That's incredibly ignorant. You have to first ask "why" they turn to drugs.
A lot of people use drugs to self-medicate underlying issues. Do you realize how hard it is for people to get professional help with things like mental illness?
Even in a country with access to health care, it's still difficult to find any psychiatrist. Your take has the same energy as telling depressed people to "just be happy". Addiction is an illness. And the illness is combined with other illnesses. It's a vicious cycle.
You sound like the typical liberal. Someone else’s fault. Don’t take responsibility for YOUR actions.
Geez
@@everlynevins So what's your point? Are you saying that I'm incorrect and that it's up to somebody else to make drug addicts quit? That it isn't up to them to help themselves? Have you known any drug addicts? Or are you just an ignorant idealist with no real world experience with drugs and drug addicts? All the "professional help" in the world doesn't help one bit unless the user has made the decision to stop. You don't know what you're talking about. It's not an illness it's the result of conscious decisions and calling it a disease is an insult to people who have actual diseases. The cure is literally just stopping your destructive behavior. You can't simply decide to stop having cancer but you can certainly make the conscious decision to stop taking ketamine and many people have successfully quit using drugs, and every one of them will tell you that nothing will work untill the addict decides to help themselves.
You don't understand the power of addiction in some cases.
At what point in this century are WE accountable for our own actions? At this point we are ALL aware of the reasons not to imbibe random crap and illicit drugs, blaming everything ...except, personal behavior.
The wave of people at the time that said he was sober was insane. He was a junkie.
Dr Grande is working haaaard!! 👏
Its great that when someone famous dies of a drug overdose, everyone is to blame except the addict himself.
Everyone including the addict. But the difference is that an addict harms himself and not others.
EDIT: for the less intellectually gifted among us, "harm" refers to the point to which it is a criminal offence. No one here is on trial for causing mental pain.
@@Vasilia4exactly!! There’s a big difference!
@Vasilia4 the addict harms himself and not others? As someone who had lived with addicts of various kinds (family) I'd argue the people around the addicts are harmed worse. The amount of damage an addict can do on the quest to feed their addiction knows no bounds. The people surrounded by the addict are hurt worse IMO because this is not their choice. They live with this and deal with this due to the choices the addicts make. They see that person suffer in their quest to ultimately off themselves, and are helpless. Even when you try to get away, they find you. Addicts don't just hurt themselves. Not to mention an addict is usually past the point of caring about anything but the drug when they Starr hurting others, those around the addict are left hurt by an addict who just doesn't gaf what they do and that adds to the pain.
Why do you say that? It's not even true. He would blame himself.
I don’t think that’s the case here. Everyone knows Perry brought this on himself. That doesn’t mean the people who enabled him are blameless.
I come for the information and stay for the snarky comments delivered with a straight face.
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I think it’s right to hold dealers accountable if they somehow willingly engage in a higher than usual risk (like selling pills with different than advertised drugs inside)
However the double standard feels strong, so often you hear of stories where teens pass from a laced pill and the parents even have the direct phone contacts and names of the supplier but police just writes it off as “their own fault” and does not invent the same time of investigation as with this famous person. It should be the same standard as here.
Always love seeing a new Dr.Grande video pop up 😊 always a great analysis
We have a dear friend been a career
Rx drug & alcoholic. Over years we have rode the roller coaster of rehabs & failed marriages. Currently he has zero relationships with his children.
A superficial family dynamic. There is so much family wealth there will never be a rock bottom. While we still hear from him, what we have noticed that all that surround him is paid employees or horrible girlfriends/. I suspect many of Hollywood share this scenario.
I think the assistant was the reason he couldn't come clean- not just an enabler, a supplier.
Sure, but I think Matt Perry knew that.
And probably one of the reasons he kept the assistant....
He wouldn't be hired as an assistant if he wasn't doing everything that he said. I guarantee it.
@@elijahwilliams3728 you hit the nail on the head. Addicts with money won't keep an entourage member who says "no." They'll always find someone else to say "yes." And I always loved Matthew Perry. I wish he'd been able to stop what he was doing
A hired "yes-man" who says "no, man" is a guy looking for a new job.
With friends like these...... everyone was taking advantage of his addictions to line their own pockets. Just horrific
How unbelievably tragic in every way.
I learned my lesson about terrible friends in high school. The nicer I was the worse they were in return. Between hearsay and ego people are insanely dangerous.
These people are only being charged because they sold stuff to someone famous that was worth 100 million.
Yuuuuup
...that died as a result.
That's ridiculous. I see local drug dealers being arrested all the time. They are being charged because someone died from their illegal activity.
nope thats why itsmaking the news,,low profile dealers are arrested daily
No, that's not true. Dealers get arrested and charged all the time for supplying drugs to obscure people.
Matthew was an adult made his own decisions. He chose to take the drugs. They werent forced on him and he couldve went to any treatment center in the world.
your kind of thinking IS a problem.
drug addiction is NOT A CHOICE to millions of people.
Careful what you say. Maybe you're not addicted to drugs, but it could happen to a loved one. Nobody chooses to be an addict.
@@darthvirgin7157I agree, wholeheartedly.
It was easy for Perry to let himself go. He convinced himself that he was a helpless victim of an incurable disease, instead of facing the fact that he was addicted to alcohol, drugs and sugar and had low self discipline.
And now post mortem, it's still not his fault.
We live in an age now where accountability doesn't seem to exist anymore. Our problems are always something or someone else's fault.
How do you know that?
I read his book and wish I hadn't. it ended up making me dislike him. It was almost like he was bragging about his tolerance for drugs and alcohol, not to mention how rich and successful he was. And as you said - took no responsibility for his problems and played the victim. Pathetic
Wasn't his fault he became an addict. It would have been his responsibility to do something about it. I guess his personality, as well as his massive wealth, stood in the way.
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Those responsible should be held accountable..
Especially those that have sworn to do no harm..
Matty is gone.. How much more responsible can he be held?
Dr Grande has the dryers sense of humor I’ve ever seen and it certainly helps make many of these awful stories palatable.
The way they callously berated him in their emails while poisoning him was especially sad.
each time Dr Grande uploads it makes me smile :)
This is about a tragic death you weirdo.
He started using illicit drugs at the age of fourteen…his outcome was not unexpected.
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
Whoa... 6000 AA meetings? Might try something else after say 5000.
Because he wanted to look like he was trying, as opposed to actually trying
Another great episode, Dr Big. Keep it up!
He was extremely lucky to have lived as long as he did. He was on death’s door numerous times. He’s been making these choices almost his whole life. He spent millions on rehab. MILLIONS!!!! What a shame. All I can think of is all the good he could have done with his influence and money. He made this choice.
Addiction is not a choice.
@@Zimmy123I think what’s she’s saying is, by choosing to do drugs in the first place was his choice.
@@Zimmy123 As a former heroin addict, I can assure you- addiction is a choice.
Everyone's different. Some people are meant to fight addiction their whole lives while others of us can take or leave any of it on a dime. That's not fair, but life's not fair.
@@Apradavra Just because someone is an addict, doesn´t necessarily mean they fully understand what addiction is.
You can tell just by the look in his face that he was already half dead months before his actual death.
I remember watching Perry being interviewed once, and being struck by the notion that his greatest addiction was for being in front of a camera. 110,000 people die of drug overdoses in the US annually. How many of these deaths are so thoroughly investigated? Mr Perry's desire for being the centre of attention seems to stretch past the grave.
Thanks Dr Grande. So terribly sad. All those millions of dollars but no peace or happiness within himself - that you cannot buy. There’s a lesson in that for all of us.
An excellent summary of the entire story... I had no idea so many people were involved!
Thank you for your usual thorough research.
if anybody was in need of a friend in that hottub..
So sad. Poor Matthew Perry. Even his 30 year relationship with his assistant was worthless. No one cared. Surrounded by ruthless opportunists.
The only thing worse than a poor junkie is a rich junkie.
A very rich junkie, I would say.
This episode was very well done. I always enjoy your videos.
i love de grande because he's always speculating
Seems like the doctors missed the “do no harm” part of their oath.
Could you imagine being one of those dealers when the news hit? Just in their PJ’s, chilling with a bag of chips, mindlessly flipping through channels till they see the headline.
Not to mention the assistant. Living the high life for 30+ years, mansions and nice cars, rubbing shoulders with the elite in society. Now he’s sitting on his bunk, hoping his cell mate leaves their cell soon just so he can poop in private. The whole thing is just bleak.
Pretty sad someone he prob treated very generously. Let him live in his residence, kept him employed for decades.. someone who knows he has substance abuse issues.. sad that he would call him a moron and rip him off. Sounds like Mathew had unresolved childhood trauma and or mental illness that wasn’t properly addressed by professionals. Unfortunately you can buy “friends” but your really paying your enemies
As usual an excellent analysis . I believe the addict must be held responsible
Say no to drugs, my friends.
@@jaketobias449 tell that to the girl who was roofied by her date. Or the guy who had back surgery. Or the patients who have bone cancer. It's not so simple.
Ah, if it were only that easy. Remember the 'Just say no,' campaign of Nancy Reagan's? That was a flop.
Say no to drugs, my F.R.I.E.N.D.S *
@@teacherexplained853 I'll be there for you! 🎼🎵🎶