When your child thinks there is a monster in the closet, step into the closet close the door and loudly verbally chastise the monster while beating the wall. Then step out of the closet and tell the child you had a word with the monster and he said that he would leave you alone.
@@RobertWhite1 It helped teach bravery. That scared little boy talking back to the under-the-bed monster was probably the first time I stood up to something that badly scared me.
My best friend and her husband ignored their daughter's tantrums from the very beginning. They just let her cry, didn't acknowledge it and kept doing what they were doing. If it started to get really bad they have a 'tantrum sofa' in their bedroom where she would stay until she calmed down. Now let me tell you, she is five and I've seen her start to make a fit, her mother telling her over the shoulder 'less please' is usually enough for her to make this annoyed face and stop. I would say this is gentle parenting, they don't hit, don't scream, don't threaten her, they just say 'let her cry' and she knows she's getting nothing from her parents.
There's value in the simplicity of that. I can see a child not getting anything from a tantrum and maybe deciding it's not worth the effort. The way I did it was sort of like this except I'd let them have a fit and then later they might lose something because of it. It was very common for me to say they would get something if they were good. Going to the pool on the weekend if you're good for example. Then after a tantrum when they mention the pool I would remind them. "Remember I said if you were good we would go? That tantrum wasn't really good was it?" I would then say I'm really sorry I wanted to take them but it wouldn't be good if I didn't keep my word so we can't go. If they see you're not happy either instead of just radiating anger or something at them it changes the dynamic. It opens up the chance to say remember to be good so we can do the thing you wanted. Not like last time ok? They realize your on there side and want to make sure to make you both happy. Finally don't forget to praise them and reinforce the good behavior when it comes. It make it so much easier for later.
Apparently my mom did this with me and she said the one time i tried ti throw such a fit she just looked at me and walked away... i cried but then i noticed it was pointless and never did it again. So this works.
This actually tells a child that they can't come to their parents when they can't manage... And then as teenagers, THEY DON'T. Science is linking behaviours for life to very early childhood.
I do authoritative, gentle parenting with ABA techniques. I use communication as a form of discipline. I don't let my kid get away with bad behavior. I model what I teach. My kiddo is incredibly well-behaved. Not the way I grew up. I'm a millennial and I grew up getting smacked in the face, spanked out of anger, beaten with a wooden spoon and screamed at. Horrible way to parent. I love the way he ended it with this wife. That's hilarious🤣
What about a happy medium? You can’t “gentle parent” when kids are about to harm themselves...sometimes you just gotta yell at them to get their immediate attention so they don’t get run over and there’s not more than 2 seconds to have a long conversation about it. This gentle parenting seems like completely swinging the other way (maybe some one had a bad childhood and doesn’t want their kids to experience that), but this seems like way too much of an over correction IMO.
It's just another moronic parenting fad. They never work. Best method still includes establishing yourself as the authority figure and yes it requires some sort of discipline. Personally though I have found that being a good example and remembering to properly use positive reinforcement reduces the need for discipline. Kids will look up to you and crave your approval early on. Simply saying things like "you know how proud I am of you for being such an honest kid?" Rewarding and praising makes them feel good and they look for ways to live up to that. My kids are near grown and they make me confident this way works very well.
@@tardisrider25 yes! Spot on. It’s much the same with training animals. They need to know who is the boss (but in a loving way) and positive reinforcement and being consistent (so they know boundaries and feel safety in that) is very important. People that beat their kids or dogs/animals will not inspire a true secure love bond as this is fear-based. Likewise, if people don’t parent and let their kids walk all over them without proper boundaries and instructions/ramifications/discipline (which is what this gentle parenting thing looks like), that’s the recipe for a self-entitled brat.
Fewer things are more satisfying than the opportunity to use someone else's cherished tactics on them. I can't stand that method. It sounds like a shrink, and that's one particular collection of people that I will never trust on a professional level again. It also existed here and there during the early 50s. The family who lived next door to us had a father who lived for the chance to use it on his first-born, who could usually be heard screaming bloody murder as he pounded on his baby brother. This guy would tell the kid, "Now, you're just over-excited dear. Go up to your room until you can calm down". My father witnessed this just once; he came home muttering, "Now, you're just over-excited, dear," (vigorously slapping his hand back and forth in the air and exclaiming, "Pow!!"). It became family legend.
There is a good middle ground like telling your child when they're throwing a fit affect yes I understand in your feelings But you can't have what you want and that is OK.
I think sticking to a single parenting style will not suit most, if any child. We are all unique & will need different things. I don’t agree with spanking, but you don’t need to do that to discipline your child. Time outs, taking certain items away for certain periods of time, & grounding all work. But teaching your child about their feelings & how to express them in positive ways is always a must
Theres no absolutely right way to discipline your kids. The value lies more in what you teach them, and less in how you punish them. The results are the only way to know if your way worked. If your kid is hard working, intelligent, social, kind, loving, strong, able to express themselves and maintian relationships, you did good. If they arent or cant do those things...you did bad.
I asked my daughter once (who is very smart, talented and well thought of by everyone) if she thought it was a bad thing I had spanked her a few times. She swore up and down I had never spanked her. She never even remembered it. If the majority of a child’s life is about yelling, screaming and hitting, yeah, it’s going to do some damage.
Turns out the "rod" is wrongfully translated. It was supposed to be staff-- as in shepherd's staff-- as in "if you spare the gentle prodding and nuturing, spoil the child." But thanks to religious agenda and the sheeples that follow it (pardon the pun), you get parents being blessed to beat and hurt their kids to teach and train them to be great adults.... We need a certain generation to pass on...get some fresh air in here.
Big tip for those dating, if you have Arguments all the time with your girlfriend or boyfriend then leave them, if they are difficult leave them, if they do not upgrade or bring new benefits to your life then leave them.... that is all.
Seems like she it talking non-coercive parenting. Gentle Parents do use some coercion, including using distraction, and logical consequences. However, he’s still hilarious.
@@juliafraa6419 nope, that is actually called non-coercive. Unfortunately, most non-coercive parents say they are gentle parents. Gentle parenting uses natural and logical consequences in their parenting, which is inherently coercive. You don’t have to believe me, you can actually read the literature around gentle parenting. It all teaches about age expected behaviors and how to think through a logical consequence.
I'm from India and god, this world is a fucked up place and why can't we be nice to our children? Even the military does not physically hurt its soldiers, they usually make you do PT or in the US, yell at you. It's your 5 year old kid, not the 35 year old drunk armed man/woman trying to rob you.
Who said "non-gentle" parenting wasn't nice? And since when does non-gentle mean physical abuse? Just because a parent isn't very gentle does not in any way mean they are physically hurting their children. I am NOT a gentle parent, I have spanked all of my kids when they were little, & sometimes I am not nice - BUT I am firm, consistent (I really try), I am very direct, I am transparent, up-front truthful & honest, I rarely raise my voice, I WILL enforce expectations with logical & firm consequences, I often offer validation of feelings, I am compassionate, I apologize when I am wrong, I communicate on important subjects, I use teachable moments, I do activities with my kids, I prioritize emotional connection over material goods, I maintain a neutral stance, I am not AFRAID of my children, I look beyond their behavior of the moment to what they may really be thinking or feeling & I will allow them to suffer consequences of their choices (legally, financially, morally, socially, etc). BTW, all my kids from 14-25yo are great human beings. And no, I am still NOT a "gentle" parent.
I think we're doing better now that we have new information. I think there will be less adults recovering from their childhoods in the future. Most parents around my age don't spank their kids and don't chastise them for mistakes/accidents. There is no such thing as a perfect parent but I think everyone is more mindful of how constant corporal punishment affects brain development.
@@lindseybarthel3599 so is setting boundaries that when broken have accountability & consequences. The tools that kids need to cope in the real world vs. unicorns & cotton candy parenting.
My children are grown and gentle spanking worked ages 2-5 and was rarely needed because they knew who was in charge. During school age years it changed this loss of privileges like watching TV or DVDs.
There are plenty of studies that show spanking does little good, and if anything can cause more harm than good for long term behaviour. Gentle parenting doesn't mean being walked all over.. in fact it's an authoritative style. You still set boundaries, and expectations, you just don't hit or shame your child. You build a connection based on understanding not fear. That doesn't mean there are no consequences, though. I think people hear the term "gentle" and they fill in their own blanks for what that means.
@@nuonical22 Old school raised good people. Since idiots today started following such drivel studies the society gone down. A gentle spanking is not child abuse, it is not punishment or harsh in any way. I do not know why I even bother to respond to people like you that are hard brainwashed.
The problem is - it doesn't. All humans have the capacity for alot of good & ALOT of bad. Refusing to acknowledge the capacity for bad/evil/wrong & refusing to use negative consequences essentially ignores the other side of the equation. Ignoring this reality is idiocy. Gentle parenting only works with a small % of kids who are born amiable, phlegmatic, introverted, sweet-tempered, guileless, & then are home-schooled only-children. Take it from my mom who cursed me with kids like me - "gentle" parents WILL be driven over rough-shod by kids who aren't gentle (strong-willed, persistent, choleric personalities). And no amount of gentleness with them will MAKE them be gentle. They don't see gentleness as kindness, they see it as WEAKNESS. PS. It is entirely possible however in parenting to communicate a very hard line with direct firmness and compassion. That may not be gentle, but it will be effective on 99.9% of kids (unlike gentle parenting which serves about 1% of kids).
@@grumpyoldguy584 Hahaha it was my father that taught me my reasons. You make it clearer every time you make a statement, why you chose to be a grumpy old geezer
I'm having a hard time listening to the jokes because I'm watching his hair! I've never seen hair that high... it's like I want to put some gel in my hands and run it through there or I want to put barrettes in it to keep it down
Why do I feel like this guy has another side gig as a magician?
The hair and the energy
@@meshaerobinson8316 Definitely!
he's probably in a rock band
It's the hair color, height, and texture😅
Trust me, if I was a magician; I'd be duplicating $100s right now!
When your child thinks there is a monster in the closet, step into the closet close the door and loudly verbally chastise the monster while beating the wall. Then step out of the closet and tell the child you had a word with the monster and he said that he would leave you alone.
@@RobertWhite1
Y y y you better ask the closet monster about my dad.
@@RobertWhite1
The worst part was when dad said. "Are we going to have to have a word about your behavior when we get home?"
@@RobertWhite1
It helped teach bravery. That scared little boy talking back to the under-the-bed monster was probably the first time I stood up to something that badly scared me.
Awesome. Fresh, new, funny material. I'd not seen this guy before but if love to see lots more of him. Thanks Drybar.
I second that
I third that 👍🙂
My best friend and her husband ignored their daughter's tantrums from the very beginning. They just let her cry, didn't acknowledge it and kept doing what they were doing. If it started to get really bad they have a 'tantrum sofa' in their bedroom where she would stay until she calmed down. Now let me tell you, she is five and I've seen her start to make a fit, her mother telling her over the shoulder 'less please' is usually enough for her to make this annoyed face and stop. I would say this is gentle parenting, they don't hit, don't scream, don't threaten her, they just say 'let her cry' and she knows she's getting nothing from her parents.
There's value in the simplicity of that. I can see a child not getting anything from a tantrum and maybe deciding it's not worth the effort. The way I did it was sort of like this except I'd let them have a fit and then later they might lose something because of it. It was very common for me to say they would get something if they were good. Going to the pool on the weekend if you're good for example. Then after a tantrum when they mention the pool I would remind them. "Remember I said if you were good we would go? That tantrum wasn't really good was it?" I would then say I'm really sorry I wanted to take them but it wouldn't be good if I didn't keep my word so we can't go. If they see you're not happy either instead of just radiating anger or something at them it changes the dynamic. It opens up the chance to say remember to be good so we can do the thing you wanted. Not like last time ok? They realize your on there side and want to make sure to make you both happy. Finally don't forget to praise them and reinforce the good behavior when it comes. It make it so much easier for later.
Apparently my mom did this with me and she said the one time i tried ti throw such a fit she just looked at me and walked away... i cried but then i noticed it was pointless and never did it again. So this works.
This actually tells a child that they can't come to their parents when they can't manage... And then as teenagers, THEY DON'T. Science is linking behaviours for life to very early childhood.
The best strategy is birth control.
That's great until it goes next level lol
My style was to ask, “Has that *ever* worked for you?” My follow-up was, “What happened last time you threw a fit? Did you get what you wanted?”
Thanks!
Highest hair and highest kick I’ve ever seen on a comedian . . . or anyone for that matter!
I do authoritative, gentle parenting with ABA techniques. I use communication as a form of discipline. I don't let my kid get away with bad behavior. I model what I teach. My kiddo is incredibly well-behaved. Not the way I grew up. I'm a millennial and I grew up getting smacked in the face, spanked out of anger, beaten with a wooden spoon and screamed at. Horrible way to parent.
I love the way he ended it with this wife. That's hilarious🤣
Ma’am authoritative parenting and gentle parenting are the exact same thing the only difference is the NAME BRAND literally a lot ppl do not know that
@@jessieholly825 incorrect.
@@juliafraa6419 girl hush u replied 4 months later
😂😂😂
My friend is a gentle parent. I am not. I will wait and see until our kids are in their 20s. I am really curious which method is more beneficial.
Yours, without a doubt i promise you!
What about a happy medium? You can’t “gentle parent” when kids are about to harm themselves...sometimes you just gotta yell at them to get their immediate attention so they don’t get run over and there’s not more than 2 seconds to have a long conversation about it. This gentle parenting seems like completely swinging the other way (maybe some one had a bad childhood and doesn’t want their kids to experience that), but this seems like way too much of an over correction IMO.
Honey trust me, you'll start seeing it the moment they start talking.
It's just another moronic parenting fad. They never work. Best method still includes establishing yourself as the authority figure and yes it requires some sort of discipline. Personally though I have found that being a good example and remembering to properly use positive reinforcement reduces the need for discipline. Kids will look up to you and crave your approval early on. Simply saying things like "you know how proud I am of you for being such an honest kid?" Rewarding and praising makes them feel good and they look for ways to live up to that. My kids are near grown and they make me confident this way works very well.
@@tardisrider25 yes! Spot on. It’s much the same with training animals. They need to know who is the boss (but in a loving way) and positive reinforcement and being consistent (so they know boundaries and feel safety in that) is very important. People that beat their kids or dogs/animals will not inspire a true secure love bond as this is fear-based. Likewise, if people don’t parent and let their kids walk all over them without proper boundaries and instructions/ramifications/discipline (which is what this gentle parenting thing looks like), that’s the recipe for a self-entitled brat.
Fewer things are more satisfying than the opportunity to use someone else's cherished tactics on them. I can't stand that method. It sounds like a shrink, and that's one particular collection of people that I will never trust on a professional level again. It also existed here and there during the early 50s. The family who lived next door to us had a father who lived for the chance to use it on his first-born, who could usually be heard screaming bloody murder as he pounded on his baby brother. This guy would tell the kid, "Now, you're just over-excited dear. Go up to your room until you can calm down". My father witnessed this just once; he came home muttering, "Now, you're just over-excited, dear," (vigorously slapping his hand back and forth in the air and exclaiming, "Pow!!"). It became family legend.
He’s the funniest pine cone I’ve ever seen!
There is a good middle ground like telling your child when they're throwing a fit affect yes I understand in your feelings But you can't have what you want and that is OK.
@@jacejohnson7113 I tell my kids to do what I say first and then if they dont see the why, they can ask and I would explain it to them.
@Jace Johnson: Yes exactly!
Saw him on a cruise and let me tell you he is HILARIOUS. And a really chill, amazing dude. Hope you get famous some day Claude. 🥰
I think sticking to a single parenting style will not suit most, if any child. We are all unique & will need different things.
I don’t agree with spanking, but you don’t need to do that to discipline your child. Time outs, taking certain items away for certain periods of time, & grounding all work. But teaching your child about their feelings & how to express them in positive ways is always a must
Theres no absolutely right way to discipline your kids. The value lies more in what you teach them, and less in how you punish them. The results are the only way to know if your way worked. If your kid is hard working, intelligent, social, kind, loving, strong, able to express themselves and maintian relationships, you did good. If they arent or cant do those things...you did bad.
YES!! Well said
True! In addition, because all kids are different, some (like those more disagreeable by nature) require a little more guidance than others.
I asked my daughter once (who is very smart, talented and well thought of by everyone) if she thought it was a bad thing I had spanked her a few times. She swore up and down I had never spanked her. She never even remembered it. If the majority of a child’s life is about yelling, screaming and hitting, yeah, it’s going to do some damage.
Standing ovation deserved!
That was great🤣
Spare the rod ... spoil the child!
Turns out the "rod" is wrongfully translated. It was supposed to be staff-- as in shepherd's staff-- as in "if you spare the gentle prodding and nuturing, spoil the child." But thanks to religious agenda and the sheeples that follow it (pardon the pun), you get parents being blessed to beat and hurt their kids to teach and train them to be great adults.... We need a certain generation to pass on...get some fresh air in here.
@@grumpyoldguy584 your tagname is literally my point
@@lh485 well said. we don't need anymore people recovering from their childhoods.
I'm sorry I just keep staring at that Jimmy Neutron hair.
I bet he - or -she, or anybody else for that matter, lol would not recognize that thing if that hair ever got wet😂😂😂
LMFAO!!!! Jimmy Neutron!! Oh my Gosh....that was great. I can't stop laughing.
that last line killed me LOL
Cant wait to be a parent....Just keeping to myself until then
He’s pretty funny but I’m mesmerized by his hair.
His hair is like Lloyd Bridges in the movie Airplane, when he was sniffing glue! 😀
Dude goes to the same barber shop as Son Goku. 😂
All of my friends that were spanked grew up to be good law abiding adults. The ones that weren't have legal and drug troubles.
Exactly! Parents have a job to do and, if they don't, the consequences can be devastating.
I was spanked and still became a drug addict. Best of both worlds baby!
If you can't think of any better alternatives to hurting a child, you're the problem.
*"That"* was funny.
😆👍
Big tip for those dating, if you have Arguments all the time with your girlfriend or boyfriend then leave them, if they are difficult leave them, if they do not upgrade or bring new benefits to your life then leave them.... that is all.
Absolutely hilarious!🤓❤️🤓❤️🤓
note to self, saw this one too.
Seems like she it talking non-coercive parenting. Gentle Parents do use some coercion, including using distraction, and logical consequences.
However, he’s still hilarious.
Yes, we do have a few more tools than he mentions. He is spot on with how it *feels* though. Oh my word 😂😎
Most gentle parents say they don't use coercion and solely talk to their kids as a "consequence"
@@juliafraa6419 nope, that is actually called non-coercive. Unfortunately, most non-coercive parents say they are gentle parents. Gentle parenting uses natural and logical consequences in their parenting, which is inherently coercive. You don’t have to believe me, you can actually read the literature around gentle parenting. It all teaches about age expected behaviors and how to think through a logical consequence.
He snapped into a Slimjim.
He LOOKS like a Slimjim!
LOL - Ya'll are killing me with these hair comparison comments.
OH, he is a riot! I love the motion with the ocean
Living this right now 😱🤣🤣🤣
Optimist prime is a great name
I'm from India and god, this world is a fucked up place and why can't we be nice to our children? Even the military does not physically hurt its soldiers, they usually make you do PT or in the US, yell at you. It's your 5 year old kid, not the 35 year old drunk armed man/woman trying to rob you.
Who said "non-gentle" parenting wasn't nice? And since when does non-gentle mean physical abuse? Just because a parent isn't very gentle does not in any way mean they are physically hurting their children. I am NOT a gentle parent, I have spanked all of my kids when they were little, & sometimes I am not nice - BUT I am firm, consistent (I really try), I am very direct, I am transparent, up-front truthful & honest, I rarely raise my voice, I WILL enforce expectations with logical & firm consequences, I often offer validation of feelings, I am compassionate, I apologize when I am wrong, I communicate on important subjects, I use teachable moments, I do activities with my kids, I prioritize emotional connection over material goods, I maintain a neutral stance, I am not AFRAID of my children, I look beyond their behavior of the moment to what they may really be thinking or feeling & I will allow them to suffer consequences of their choices (legally, financially, morally, socially, etc). BTW, all my kids from 14-25yo are great human beings. And no, I am still NOT a "gentle" parent.
I think we're doing better now that we have new information. I think there will be less adults recovering from their childhoods in the future. Most parents around my age don't spank their kids and don't chastise them for mistakes/accidents. There is no such thing as a perfect parent but I think everyone is more mindful of how constant corporal punishment affects brain development.
Gentle parenting is the reason why we have so many overly entitled snow flakes running around.
Not to mention school shooters & future serial killers.
Also, it isn't just young ppl. Only yesterday I had a 60 yr old man ask me for $ & got mad I wouldn't give him any!
Hahhaha this comment and thread is BS. Get with the science, sheeples!
Gentle parenting is knowing and doing better for your children but go off Kristi 🤢
@@lindseybarthel3599 so is setting boundaries that when broken have accountability & consequences. The tools that kids need to cope in the real world vs. unicorns & cotton candy parenting.
Gentle parenting? Way too much of an over-correction in the complete opposite way. There has to be a happy medium as they say.
LOlz... Right on!
He reminds me of Tom Kenny when he did stand up way back when..
Snap into a Slim Jiiiim!
This man gives me youth pastor vibes and I'm not here for it.
My children are grown and gentle spanking worked ages 2-5 and was rarely needed because they knew who was in charge. During school age years it changed this loss of privileges like watching TV or DVDs.
There are plenty of studies that show spanking does little good, and if anything can cause more harm than good for long term behaviour. Gentle parenting doesn't mean being walked all over.. in fact it's an authoritative style. You still set boundaries, and expectations, you just don't hit or shame your child. You build a connection based on understanding not fear. That doesn't mean there are no consequences, though.
I think people hear the term "gentle" and they fill in their own blanks for what that means.
@@nuonical22 Old school raised good people. Since idiots today started following such drivel studies the society gone down. A gentle spanking is not child abuse, it is not punishment or harsh in any way. I do not know why I even bother to respond to people like you that are hard brainwashed.
She'll get over it. 😏
His hair was having big feelings… good set tho
What’s this comedians name? 😂😂
Gentle parenting is why kids have no respect
When would gentle parenting ever create a decent human being?
@A Laputa Sure. And what do you do next when pleasant conversation still doesn't nudge a kid onto the right path?
The problem is - it doesn't. All humans have the capacity for alot of good & ALOT of bad. Refusing to acknowledge the capacity for bad/evil/wrong & refusing to use negative consequences essentially ignores the other side of the equation. Ignoring this reality is idiocy. Gentle parenting only works with a small % of kids who are born amiable, phlegmatic, introverted, sweet-tempered, guileless, & then are home-schooled only-children. Take it from my mom who cursed me with kids like me - "gentle" parents WILL be driven over rough-shod by kids who aren't gentle (strong-willed, persistent, choleric personalities). And no amount of gentleness with them will MAKE them be gentle. They don't see gentleness as kindness, they see it as WEAKNESS. PS. It is entirely possible however in parenting to communicate a very hard line with direct firmness and compassion. That may not be gentle, but it will be effective on 99.9% of kids (unlike gentle parenting which serves about 1% of kids).
This dude looks like a slim jim
It’s clear he doesn’t know what gentle parenting is
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First like means high confidence that if it’s on this channel it will be good!
cute
😄😄😄😄😄
Part of this guy's comedy is his hair style. Not funny; merely ridiculous.
Yeaaaaah,.... divorce your wife. I bet she's got blue hair huh.
Divorce her.
This thing should just stay in the closet🤮
@@grumpyoldguy584 Hahaha it was my father that taught me my reasons. You make it clearer every time you make a statement, why you chose to be a grumpy old geezer
I'm having a hard time listening to the jokes because I'm watching his hair! I've never seen hair that high... it's like I want to put some gel in my hands and run it through there or I want to put barrettes in it to keep it down
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@@grumpyoldguy584 you're a grumpy old guy
@@grumpyoldguy584 grumpy
@@grumpyoldguy584 lol I'm in a great mood. Just being honest. 😉
@@grumpyoldguy584 Why so Grumpy, Old Guy?