Aaww good Daddy he is you can tell by the way he don't care to wipe her nose on his T Shirt and calls her his princess but his words are the most true words I've ever heard
I know, right?? I have seen videos where the mom will get in a huge debate with a 3 year old and I’m like, 😬🙄 What are you honestly teaching them by doing that?? This man was totally fair with her.
He blamed himself for his daughter's tantrums saying that parents are to be blamed for spoilt kids, and then he went on and taught his child a lesson. Love it.
When you care.....it shows, it is what parenting is about,be an adult first....when you pass THAT TEST....then be a parent....not the other way around.
And is the real true..... we give them everything as we think it will make them happier then you were when you were younger .... but is the biggest mistake as they climb the mountain and god knows how to put them down. The worst is when one parent spoils them and the other parent is strict ( what happened,,,, child gets confused 😐)
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the “way” (singular) he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his SOUL FORM HELL GOD
@@trbrm6319 is it because you'd rather not talk. Most of the explanation was to us, as to what he was doing. However that man can dialogue with his child the entire shopping time if needed be. With all due respect.
Love how you took the time to let your little girl know that her attitude was not OK. Most parents don't have the patience or the will to discipline like you did. She will grow to respect or love you accordingly. Pray many will learn from your example.
Some people who have children weren't raised correctly themselves so they are practically freestyling parenting without any solid sources, or knowledge on how to properly raise their children. The same goes for knowing how to properly be a spouse.
@@daveyjoseph6058 He said this is what happens when you spoil your child which is apparently what he's admitting to have done with his child, but then gives a contradicting lecture on how he's not raising his child to be spoiled. In other words I think you have a strong point here.
@@theartoffactz6845 if it needs spelling out, he's explaining himself and teaching her at the same time without losing his shit. Many parents just bark orders, seriously
Not at all. Everyone these days likes to view children as just adults in small bodies. Children do not have that same reasoning abillities. Which is why reasoning with small children rarely works.
@@williamallen7836 I think you may be right and wrong. Kids don't learn anything if you model your parenting behaviour after them. They do need a parent who is willing to teach from an adult perspective otherwise, there is little cognitive development. You are correct that a child's ability to process things like an adult is lacking, but guiding their behaviour as an adult and treating their decisions as though they have consequences is very important.
The thing is, yelling or hitting only teaches them to fear you, they will not respect you as a person, only perhaps as an authority figure (although this involves a lot of self-brainwashing on their part). You shouldn't make your child feel like they are less than you, and they shouldn't feel weak and vulnerable in your presence
Yes. This isn't perfection, but it is certainly better than how the overwhelming majority of people handle their kids, and more than enough for any parent to do. He has the right attitude and demeanor in response to the kid's outburst. Being unnecessarily harsh isn't good, showing you are not fazed by the displays inspires a lot more respect. Timeout can be very effective when used well, but it needs to be clear that it is a timeout until they calm down and things are put back in order, and the parent needs to actively interact with their kid, try to get through to them in witty and calm ways. It's not a punishment, it's for calming down, kids need to relax too, the world can be overwhelming for them, they don't have the level of emotional control an adult has, thus it should be taught kindly but making it clear that they do not have the authority to overstep boundaries. The fact that he is present in this moment with her is important. Grounding achieves much less positive and reliable results in comparisons, especially if you don't offer them a way to make up for it. Here it's simple, you stop the tantrum, the timeout ends and you can go back into the store, meeting halfway usually works well. You have to be both firm and relaxed, and still keep a fair dialogue open. The better a kid understand why you can't afford to put up with their behaviour, the better of a reponse you will get. Unfortunately "because i'm your parent" isn't the most compelling argument, but i suppose at that age it makes enough sense.
She is just a typical healthy child testing her boundaries. But the father dealt with it so well, unlike many parents today. You can tell her cry was a fake cry. But she is still a cutie.
@Tabora Exactly. My daughter tried exactly 4 times when she was around 1 year old. As I didn't nudge at all with her antics and as she discovered that it was only drawbacks, i.e. it didn't advance her "want", she realized quickly that it was better not to do tantrums: smart child. My older son, now 22, still hasn't completely understood the lesson: not so smart child.
@Soft Breezy Day She is crying to test the boundaries and to get her will through, only way to properly learn kids that this doesn’t help is just this way. There was absolutely no publicly humiliation in this fathers actions. Totally correct behaviour. And saying that he is breaking his daughter down or similar is just unfortunately the kind of nonsense some people of today use. That’s why we have so many adults even that totally lack manners since they don’t know the boundaries. Your children will love you if you are a good parent and this is being a good parent, loving, caring and can also able to discipline the child.
@Soft Breezy Day honestly I stopped reading when you mentioned too much on what YOU did but I took a second round and you're still basically doing what the man did. In no way that was feeding his ego but the way you're bragging about what you did sent a diff message tbh
He talks to her like a person and not a little child. He’s teaching the lesson of a child to a child but he’s doing it in a way that doesn’t baby her. What a great man and dad. Edit: Yes, I am aware that children are people. I guess I should’ve used the word “puppy” instead to make that clear. But there _is_ a difference in how little children are spoken to in comparison to everyone else. It’s called “baby talk.”
IIn Love11 I never said it was (back and forth). And definitely not at that age. The guy said it himself; they need to know who’s boss. However, if it’s with an older child, like late teenager ... In my experience, seeing their side of things might be best depending on the situation. When my mom was teaching me how to drive, at one point we were on a busy road and I’d accidentally missed a turn. I then made a right turn when she told me to take a left, and she started yelling at me for not listening to her. When I tried to explain my side, she interrupted and started yelling for talking back to her, naturally making me upset. However, after she’d gone inside the store and come back, she’d apologized to me for not letting me get my piece in. She let me explain. New driver jitters plus being scatterbrained plus the mistake caused me to start freaking out, so I made the nearest and safest turn in a lot so I could catch my breath. I didn’t understand how to make that left turn because I’d never done it in that situation before. She’d always told me that if I got too emotional or nervous to drive, I needed to find somewhere safe to stop so I could regroup. She ended up apologizing and saying that I was right and did the right thing. One could say that’s not a good way to teach a teenager discipline, but I disagree because it depends on the situation. That moment taught me how to make up and get over an argument with someone calmly and without yelling. Talking things over maturely. I love my mom very much ❤️
that’s really hard to do bruh. i’m not even a parent, but i hv an annoying stubborn ass little brother who don’t listen to anyone but himself. one day he’s jesus the next day he’s satan, and when he’s satan, it’s really hard to swallow your pride and deal with him in a mature way. i raise my voice a lot less than i used to, but at times, it’s just so hard.
As a teacher, I get so sick of dealing with kids who never hear "no" at home and then expect to get away with whatever they want in the classroom. I've talked to soooo many parents who let their kids run the show. This guy is doing it right.
I am not a teacher but I have come across this numerous times as a nanny. What I found to be most effective, was to make clear what your expectations are. You could probably write them down on a large poster board and display it in the classroom. If a student breaks a rule you can refer them to the classroom rules and ask them what rule they broke. Tell them that this is their last chance and if they do it again the punishment will be X? Insert disciplinary action. From the very first day of school talk with them, explain the rules and consequence for misbehaving. As you are going through the rules ask the student why each rule is important. I would also make it clear that your approach to discipline is different from what happens. Simply say that their parents aren’t here, you are in my classroom and therefore responsible for following class rules.
Totally not trying to be rude but you see he has a mixed child? I feel that black men don't love their black children as much as these "mixed" kids. I see more black babies with no father's but the mixed ones with them and the mothers way more often..... Like .... That shit makes me sad af.
Lifeless Love: Not my experience from friends and exes in Sweden that are mixed. But their fathers were from different African countries and not settled in Sweden like a couple in America might be already settled in America so that might make it different though. But their fathers often left too.
@MindYour OwnBusiness I mean there's a lot of other races that do this ya know don't get me wrong I don't want to offend anyone if I indeed did. It just seems like the black man is ashamed to have their own. Are white people trophie tokens to claim or any other races than bkack?? What makes someone not love what they created regardless of hardships that are happening to one's self?? And I'm just asking in general as a thought. There's also mothers out there doing the same thing ya know!?? Like. Why are people sooooooo.....fucked up. This was indeed a good video though but unfortunately someone is going to watch this and do the complete opposite.
Yes totally true. Kids need both parents. I raised myself and I was lucky I raised myself right. My kids dad have been in and out their life and now since their grown he wants to be in their life. Kids need both parents and they need to be taught respect, manors and love. Not being spoiled is a must. Too many spoiled kids. I grew up in the ghetto and homeless and I wanted to give my kids what I never got to have but sometimes they get spoiled and they need to learn right from wrong. I agree with this guy 100%
No. It isn't the absent fathers that are the problem. It is the mothers blaming everything on the absent fathers that's the problem. Mothers in this situation need to step it up and teach those kids right from wrong. Period. I had an absent father and it changed nothing in my Mothers eyes on her expectations of me. I thank her every day for that. Now that I'm an adult....haha.
@Romeo ThePLUG Mostly true, however, the cycle of abuse has to end somewhere. I had a very abusive mother, father. Verbally, physically, emotionally. My mother would sometimes keep me home from school long enough for the welts, bruises & cuts to heal. My father finally stopped beating me when I was 16, grabbed ahold of his belt from his hand, hit him in the face with the buckle. 16 stitches on his face. He never tried to hit me, again once he got a taste of his own disciplinary technique. My mother would "discipline me" by withholding food & water. I was so skinny because of this.
@Romeo ThePLUG The cycle of abuse CAN be broken. I got some intense counseling & broke the cycle of abuse. My 4 kiddos got firm, loving discipline without spankings. Without even time outs. They wrote sentences, often. If they were fighting, I would sit them both down to discuss, talk it out, calmly, with thought, with reason. With both refraining from name calling, accusations or "making faces." All 4 are grown adults, happily married, educated, doing what they love in their careers.
I was just thinking that, also reinstalling responsibilities that some kids fight against as a privilege will also help them grow up to be more responsible. I know some kids I grew up with that would throw tantrums because they had to go to the store. This man is a perfect parental role model. His children's futures are bright.
And yet he said right out of his own mouth that his own mother beat the sh|t out of him. So yes, "honour" the mothers....the world's most perfect beings. 🙄
The main thing is that he didn’t spoil her by giving her a treat... or he didn’t pamper her. He just talked to her like she’s just another person. Good job man!
Actually... when my toddler brother was crying... I tried this, and when I said “are you done?” He quickly changed his mood. Cause I was asking him a question instead of pampering him. And then he said “with what?” And I said “with crying. I’m not gonna put up with you crying for no reason anymore”. and he was like “yea. I’m done” and got back to playing😂 I swear I’m not lying!
@@bigchunkyhuman3769 when we were kids in the 70’s most mums used to say If you don’t shut up I’ll give you something to cry about. Worked every time 🤣🤣
Sure right lord knows I’m a living witness!!! Live and learn do things different they respect you better with discipline, it’s ok to say No, too many yes is a bad setup and if u want it earn it!!!
It should be parenting, both parents doing this. Doesn't need to involve yelling, whooping, cursing, cuz that's all lazy parenting. This dad took the time to put in the work.
The little girl is really cute , the father is talking to her and not yelling at her , there is a difference , he’s respectful the whole time and he is funny 😄
I understand what you mean, but he does not respect her feelings and manipulates her as if she was an object that he has the control of. He does not show love to her but tells her, that if she does not cut down her feelings, she will not be recognized. Her sad feelings dont bother him. Even though we as adults also sometimes have sad feelings and just need somebody who understand. Great is that he does not yell at or hurt her, that he got her out of the situation and talks to her like with an aduld and does not spoil her. But the signal he teaches is not what i would like to teach my child, like "if you dont act like i want, i dont love you"
kuddelkate Here’s the thing though. He didn’t manipulate her. If he manipulated her than all Parenting tactics are manipulative. Throw a tantrum in Walmart? >> We’re gonna sit outside until you calm down. It’s teaching her that he will not tolerate that behavior and when she acts that way she will have a consequence. Letting her cry it out helps her with emotional control. “Are you done?” It’s the same thing as letting her cry it out. He didn’t “cut down her feelings” she was throwing a tantrum in Walmart. Which is never cute. What was he supposed to do?
Some day that young lady is going to be realize how lucky she was to have had a dad loved her enough to be her parent instead of always trying to be her friend.
@@randyholli2258 There is some truth in that. I was also spoiled, but I was made aware of the fact and, as much as I was able to at my young age, always tried to keep it in mind. Not as a shaming tactic but simply to try and maintain a sense of perspective. My parents were very lenient overall, but they also respected me as an individual and always put their foot down if I was misbehaving or acting out. As soon as I was old enough to understand, they wouldn't just punish me, they'd ask me if I understood why. Children may not be adults, but they are still people. At least in my case, the dialogue was important and valuable.
HOORAY!!!! A real man teaching and speaking wise words. Great job dad!!! You have laid down a great foundation and I know you are going to be so proud of the fine, well behaved, well mannered people they will become. It was very nice to see this video. Thank you.
I am so proud of the ''fathers '' that are really taking care of their ''children'' and not abandoning them or leaving it all up to the mom-- OR just being a part time dad..I am so happy to see them RULE FATHERHOOD and doing a fantastic job.. amen to that~~~!!!!..-- hope more follow-- too many guys were just leaving their offsprings to the world or some other person and hell was beating down on those babies HARD... Please -- if you have a baby -- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY... GOD BLESS...
She's happy because her wise father has set boundaries, made her aware that she is powerful by deciding to get control of her emotions, and therefore feels both loved and good about herself.
This is how I parent my kids when they were younger but I gave them whoopings 2! I was very strict as they were growing up, now I’m like a hippy parent now.. give them freedom, they are independent and self sufficient. I get compliments on how well behaved my children are. I also parent them different as they were growing up because of their different personalities. You have to do what works for the child. You do want them to be adults who are emotionally balanced.
@@juliestarks1279 any advice? I want to be strict but not have to rely on whooping all the time. I'm nowhere near ready to be a parent but it's good to know for the future
@@angelstarfire Do not yell or create a negative relationship with a kid first off. You should find a healthy way of making the rules clear and understood. Also like when you promise something, do it and don't fail your kid. Teach them proper sex-ed if you are American and make it clear that you will give some cash for protection when they get to that age. Like "Take the trash out and you get XX amount of money" and you do it. Teach them how to manage money (helpful). Let them socialise and advice on how to be a good friend. If you notice a friendship is not healthy anymore, talk to your kid and explain the situation in a respectfull manner. Do not force your own beliefs on a kids, if you cannot do that then you should not be a parent. *DO NOT* set up cameras in their rooms or take their phones away for the night (the phone thing is fine, but there is a time when we start dating and getting crushes and late night talks are very nice bonding time if it has turned into an addiction, try solve what has cause it and correct the behavior in a healthy way. I am addicted to my phone, because currently it is the thing to help me cope with my depression and anxiety. I can stay away from it and be fine, but having it means that I have an escape route. Thus I can function better.). Setting up cameras is borderline nearing controlling and abusive parent behavior. It makes us hate you more. This is all from the point of someone from a "strict" family that never had official rules. I have never really had a time to come home because I never went out. In the cases I did go out, I informed my parents and they would call me when I needed to come home. If I was late, I would not be screamed at, but talked to. (Be calm when doing the talking, yelling makes it worse) My parents would explain that I needed to be home on time and after that I would just continue on with my day. Do not have a karen-freak out. My mom is known as a helicopter parent and mentally abusive. She chose what I would wear until I was 13 and would force me into a religion (christianity, I am atheist). I had to grow up when I was 5. I was never truly a child. I knew the rules and expectations and just went on about existing. I never went out because I did not have friends. The last time I hung out with a friend was in december of 2018, because my strict mother never lets me out. She gives me no privacy. I was 14 when I spent time with friends. I'm 16 now. Severe depression, suicide ideation, undiagnosed ED and anxiety proplems later I know I can never be a fully fuctioning adult. Both of my parents come from physically and mentally abusive households and they never hit me and try to be as good parents as possible, but they have proplems too. Like my mom hoards newspapers and her being a not so good parent comes from the trauma she experienced. My dad tries not to yell, because he was yelled at. He tries his best to provide for me and stay in my life because his own father got a divorce and his mother started sleeping around with highly abusive men (one of them almost beat her to death when my dad was younger). If you really want to be the good type of strict parent, please go find videos of teens who have unhealthy strict/abusive parents. Tiktok compilations have good examples and there are plenty on UA-cam. Hear the kids out and try understand what they feel like and how the parents may be in the wrong. Thus you can prevent being the abusive type of strict and your kids will actually like you. Strict parents think being stricts makes good children and adults. Truth is, strict parents make the most skilled liars. There is a very fine line you need to master for them to be healthy adults and not liars. We know we can live our own life when we lie and our parents never let us be free. We always have to watch our every step or we can be locked inside our house and our food can be taken away if be disobey. Do not hit your kids. Ever. No matter what the reason, never hit them.
@@myribunt5261 that garbage blew your mind?! 🤣🤣🤣 Your gonna have so many baby daddy's in the future. Just know when they say they love you..they mean it 🤣
Not only he teaches her to stop without any whoopings or yelling. He waited outside the place until she stopped. Most parents would still roam the store without even trying to calm them down the right way. He waited patiently where there arent people to get annoyed and mad about a baby crying all the time. This is a pure man with a beautiful child. Literally has the true gift of patience and taught me something to use when im older and ready for kids. Cause i dont believe in whooping kids
Yeah very considerate to others. I remember once while shopping at wallmart there was a kid yelling his head off because his mom wouldn't buy him a cereal box. The mom just didn't agree to buy it and let the boy scream like crazy for half an hour. So unacceptable and annoying for everyone who was there.
Katya, It’s unacceptable for you, but it’s not aboutyou or anyone else in the store. You deal with kids on an individual basis. I used to ignore everyone else and deal with my child the way that works for them. It’s called parenting.
@@can.du.8116 your right they didn’t use the right words parenting is not easy for everyone and they do the best way they know how in that moment and I’m not even a parent to have to understand that
"I'm not going to argue with a 3 year-old, I'm the adult, I'm the dad!" Finally someone with good sense and not afraid of loving discipline. Good on you!!
@@pinco40 ok not with a 3 year old but somewhere at 6-10 you start having some valid arguments and "I am the adult and you obey what I say" isn't nice.
BEST DAD EVER!! He is calm, he is articulated everything…. She knows and you can tell she is calming down and realizing her bullying of “crying/yelling” isn’t going to make the parent just give in DONT GIVE IN!! He did an amazing job, took her for a time out and until she calms down and behaves they don’t go anywhere!! WELL DONE SIR!! You’re a wonderful father! And she is a lucky 🍀 kid to have you take that time to show her the proper way!
She’s SO LUCKY to have him. She’ll feel safe with him when she gets older and it matters. I wish I had had a dad who cared about me like he cares about her.
You are like me but we do have a father who cares and his name is God and his son and our saviour is Jesus just call on him and he will answer you. God bless 🙏🇺🇸❤
💯 I firmly believe that a loving, caring, supportive dad, who makes a little girl feel safe and loved, is HUGELY connected to how that girl develops as a woman, and how confident she feels about herself, among other things (like the kind of partner they choose). Of course NOT ALWAYS....but A LOT of the time this is so true. ❤️ I was one of the lucky ones who had an amazing father..I’m sorry you didn’t have that experience 😔 but you can always make your kids feel like that ❤️
Its easier to teach them without pyshical punishment not going to lie, it takes way less emotion and less energy. That being said the parents that cams before best not enforce that on me because they started that and then make laws to prevent it, which is hipocrasy at its finest
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He’s very confident. He handled that beautifully. He didn’t hit his child. He was just firm. No need to hit kids. You can still be firm and confident in raising your children. He did so well.
@@annagitana1 I disagree. This was not a situation where the child needed a spanking. Depending on the age of the child and the severity of what the child did, a spanking can be completely necessary.
This is a great example that demonstrates that kids aren't the problem today, it's the parents. We need more parents like this guy, he's patient but tough, and he loves his kid.
@@candace6893 Prov. 3 Verses 5 to 6 [5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Good dad! Plus she’ll see she can’t push your buttons and get her way. She will know she can talk to you without you flipping out every time and that’s important for a little girl to know she can go to daddy and talk. Great job dad!!!
@@NanaD-ve9tt👍👏 Take AMEN, Donna! This young father reminded me of my Daddy. He had the same opinion that encouraged me to NOT settle for 2nd best & instilled in me to KNOW that I had great worth, 1st as a child & then as a woman. I could tell him ANYTHING & never face ridicule or judgement. That made me see my worth to the Lord & how much He loved me! It also instilled respect in me for Him, God & authority, something in great need of these days. I'm so proud of this young Daddy who possesses such wisdom & common sense! He needs to give classes to today's parents, DESPERATELY! God Bless this wonderful young Father & his precious family. Take care of yourself & family & stay healthy & safe, Donna.
"I'm the Daddy. I'm grown." There are so many parents out there that do not parent their children. She is so very lucky to have a REAL Daddy in her life.
My best-friend who is like a brother to me, disciplines his kids the same way, and that is also I was raised. My brother, you are not raising a Little Princess, you are turning her into a respectable human being with common sense. 👏👏👏
As a dad and a public school teacher, I applaud you. Learning the word “No” is best lesson ever. We all are told No, even Bill Gates knows the word No. Keep it up.
Much like Dr. Phil, this guy is exploiting a minor for entertainment/to feed his superiority complex. Someone with supposed impeccable parenting skills sure as hell hasn't thought of his daughters privacy and future implications of this
My dad was abusive (all three of the forms...)... Some of these kids just do not have a clue how blessed they are to have a dad like this. I'd give anything to have a dad just like this man! But God is enough, at least He adopted me as His daughter.
Adorable daddy. Us teachers appreciate you! I was in the grocery store and this father was there with his 2 boys-maybe 12 or 13. Those boys did NOT take their eyes off of him. Literally! Wow!
When he said "Are you done?" She realizes the fake crying is not working. Then he tells her it is not acceptable behavior. She is only three but she understood the gist of what he was saying. He is teaching her responsibility for her own behavior. Much respect to you sir.
Not that it was fake crying, I believe she genuinely felt horrible. But his calm voice made her realize that it's not a big deal and that her tantrum is not a solution. Many parents who react drasticaly give the signal that the kid is fighting for something, that it is a big deal. Why else would the parents react so strong?! With this calm demeanor and serious talk, he gives her the reality check that it is nothing to cry about and Then even gives here the solution how to get what she wants.
She wasn’t fake crying, she was genuinely sad and hurt. You can tell by the heaving in her breath. I’m 63 and remember crying and trying to to stop . Bless them the dad is good
I love how at the end of the speech, he uplifted his daughter saying “aren’t you a big girl” and “you’re tough”. Discipline your kids when they aren’t acting right, and when they get themselves together praise them and build their self esteem the right way.
I probably would’ve chosen some different ‘uplifting’ words like.. ‘I love you now let’s have a good rest of the day’. Sometimes little girls aren’t in the mood to feel tough, so reassuring ur love for them lets them know they’re loved even when they get in trouble or misbehave.
He not only talked to her like an adult, he talked to her with respect, addressed her with Mrs., pumped her up and made her feel good. That was some smooth, classy Jedi shit.
I laughed at 3 things from this. How dad said, "Uhh, I'm still cute, but still." How the daughter quickly looked into the camera when dad asked "you do know what happens again when you lie?" And lastly, the Jedi reference you made!
OMG!!! This is absolutely incredible!!! Great job dad!!! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!! Being stern does not mean abuse!!! This needs to be shared/shown to the world!!! C’mon people…pass it on!!!
She will also be able to talk her way out of anything. :) Speaking from experience. Thanks Dad (Rip 1953-2006). You raised me right in our short 26 years together. I have never stopped loving you, the life lessons you taught me, the straight up education, and being able to never "need a man" to get anything done. Oh!!
FANTASTIC!!! SIR!! CAN we commission YOU to conduct parenting classes to 99 percent of the parents in this country?? That is THE best form of parenting I have seen in a LONG time. We must have gone to different schools together. And it works man. That child LOVES and respects YOU!!a Wonderful!! I am so happy she has a DADDY and a Father figure. (they are different) Keep it up man. You are the most important influence in her life. AND, I hope, you may influence some of her peers. Bless you man. Bless you
Uh i hope my little sister would actually listen to me like this little girl here. For me as her big brother even if i try to communicating with her in a calm way she just keep yelling and say "NO!" And she just keep crying and make me feel guilty always. I just want her to be listening to me when i try to communicating with her but no she just doesn't want to listen and throw a tantrum over and my parents keeps spoil her ugh!
I don't even have kids but I would still.attend his glasses just to listen to a sensible man talking about how to raise a kid calmly but with a stern.voice. this is how you'll get a child being a good one, ofc.. it's normal that they will grow tantrums or get sad and angry but don't let them use it as a rewarding-game as like *the more I scream and cries the more stuff I'll get to be quite* :)
No thanks, ahh maybe in public school, he can teach this Speaking-to-the-camera, instead of understanding Child psycology, public school s dont care bout that either 🙄😉
He dropping knowledge, Kids don't hear the word NO often and that's exactly what's wrong with them. I work at a daycare I see it ALL the time. Man you get hella props from me you handled that like a KING.
Deidera Williams Thats so true. I’m 22 and I teach toddlers at a little mom and pops developmental center. Your heart has to be in it for it to be successful.
@@annisakazumi5019 or super big. I watched a mom the other day, tryna make her son (that looked around 8 or 9yrs old), leave Target. He was almost as big as she was & acting a fool...didn't work. She must not have realized that one day she wouldn't be able to physically carry him out to the car anymore 😁
Parents of young children can feel powerless and make bad choices. They don’t understand that this is the only time of absolute power. Strength with kindness wrapped in love!
I liked that a lot. Threatening to beat your child when they act up can cause them to fear getting in trouble, which usually leads to not having the best relationship with their parents. In worse situations, the kid acts up when they dont have parental supervision because the only thing they learned from the beating was that they shouldn't get caught, not getting caught means not getting punished.
He wasn't wrong or right! He was right for not yelling or hitting a small child. He was wrong in the delivery. All he did was calm the child down by making her curious after she has cried for a while and has been removed from the public(the stressor). He used too many words and didn't focus on the child. He also didn't teach her how to control it. He didn't really do much in the video. I was a preK teacher. If this was the way to do it, our life as PreK teachers would've been much easier. Meaning that she will do it again and they will keep on doing this until she is older(it depends on when that area of the brain develops. Normally closer to 8 years old. ) Kids at this age will often act out in public for so many reasons. If you do not want them to ever act out, do not take them out or be prepared to walk outside to calm them down. Just don't pull out a camera and start delivering speech to your followers instead of teaching your kid how to deal with their emotions. Oh and you MUST use touch in these situation. Don't sit there and talk. It's a 2 year old, not a 12 year old. She probably forgot his speech 5 minutes later, she probably also forgot why she was upset.
It's a pleasure to see a DAD being a FATHER that teaches HIS child how to behave . like the MAN said , too many parents tolerant or spoil their children .
Yup, my thoughts exactly. "Crying makes mom and dad feel bad for me, and then I get what I want! Is it still working?" That can be remedied without any whoopings, this man is showing an excellent example!
@Google Hub Yeah well....that wasn't the case here was it? She was doing things that he as a parent had already set a rule over and she was not obeying that rule. Just because they are a toddler doesn't mean you let them act how they want because they are "emotionally undeveloped". Its not like there was an explosion or loud noise that scared her. She was throwing a fit because she didn't get what she wanted.
As a teacher, also thank you, father. And moms, please stop interrupting while the dads are disciplining the kids. Way too many moms give dads, and us teachers a hard time doing our job, making excuses etc for your damn kids. No, they are not way too young and yes, they need discipline. Just becoz your damn nurturing nature is kicking in, does not mean nurturing is the only thing kids need
Respect to this guy. That’s why kids act a fool these days, parents are too afraid to correct and discipline their kids young. They don’t want to be the “bad guy”
Ikr, honestly this generation has grown up to think what this guy is doing, is abuse. People want parents to just to talk to them, and be like, “Oh honey, it’s okay, it’s okay, let’s just go back to the store and everything will be fine” they are basically teaching their kid it is okay to act like that. I love the fact he never tried to be rude to the girl, he just waited until she stopped crying. This is a great dad. I wish mine was like that. My dad just yelled at me, and and angry. He never tried to hit me, but he does emotionally hurt me. This did make me into an anxious-freak whenever I just talk to him. So, never be like my dad, be like this dad in the video. Mad props to him.
My parents raised me right, and they are still raising me. I'm not making a fool of myself out there in public stores. If they tell me I can't get something then I can't get it, not such a big deal. Rather than other kids being mommy's and daddy's little girl and them crying and their parents giving it to them because they said mommy and daddy please. We need this world to change for the better guys. ❤
@@jen-dot-net9281 Or like how my dad was. He would tempt me to do things like skip school then call the cops on me to appear as the hero dad. It really helped my trust issues .🙄
What an amazing dad..not losing his temper..realises his child is spoilt and teaches them a fair and right lesson .he obviously adores her..great dad you have there little girl..
It's not being spoilt. I grew up in a strict military family and me and my brother done the same thing. This is something ALL kids do. Just like when they become teens they'll have their own kind of rebellious streak. This is why it's called "life". Something we all go through.
@@christins.1481 I don't know what kind of military household you grew up in darling but I can tell you one thing my brothers and sisters would have never acted like that!!! It was yes sir no sir yes mam no mam and when he told you to do something you did it, period!!! So no, NOT ALL KIDS ACT LIKE THAT!!!
He did not raise his voice. But he was very aggressively toned. He also judged her very very negatively. She is a child. She’s not a fool. She’s not whining. We can have the same boundaries and be non-aggressive Her desires and feelings are valid. That doesn’t always mean she will get what she wants. Processing feelings in a healthy way will allow her to let go and except more quickly. His response to her and his words to her might be taken ass he doesn’t care about her. Or he may not be someone she is comfortable opening up to in the future.
He is putting his child's socialization _before_ the rest of his life. If you take 2 hours to shop, but you teach your kid something real, it is worth it.
The role of parents is to ensure your children can successfully integrate into society, becoming functional members. Otherwise, your child will grow up recognizing that everyone around them doesn't like them, because no one likes a whiny child - and then, you have bigger problems than just a whiny kid. The child not accepted by the village will burn it down to feel it's warmth. Jordan Peterson puts this type of parenting into really good words.
This man is a wise father. He has emotional restraint and maturity. He knows his daughter isn't just a child, but a future adult. His daughter will grow into a very strong person with his wisdom.
This girl is so lucky to have a father like this. He remained in total control and achieved his aim (of calming the child) without having to yell or smack. Teaches children emotional intelligence and emotional regulation as well. So cool 😎
I don't agree. My mother treated me this way whenever I was upset because she just like this man did not wanna "spoil me". As if consouling your kid is spoiling. I remember how it made me feel. I felt alone and like nobody understood me and my feelings. Well it did made me resillient thats for sure, I'm very self sufficient now as an adult. But at what cost?
They learn if you’re consistent and mean what you say. My preschoolers used to whine and beg until I asked them “What was my answer before?” and they realized I wasn’t going to cave in to their tantrums.
Chrstna Mari wow. Props for that response. I’m sorry you had to deal with your parents anger like that, I get what’s that’s like. Kids shouldn’t have to be the ones acting like the mature, reasonable adults in a relationship.
If you raise your children, you can spoil your grandkids
If you spoil your kids, you’ll have to raise the grandkids...
The gospel truth 🙌
Yes ma’am
Whoa..
Facts!!!!
I like this!
"I ain't going to argue with a kid" that's probably the best point of this. He made a lot of good points, but that was my favorite.
Have you seen the video of a mom and her kid arguing? Its crazy whats going on
The world needs more dads like this!!!! Great job daddy 👏
Aaww good Daddy he is you can tell by the way he don't care to wipe her nose on his T Shirt and calls her his princess but his words are the most true words I've ever heard
I know, right?? I have seen videos where the mom will get in a huge debate with a 3 year old and I’m like, 😬🙄 What are you honestly teaching them by doing that?? This man was totally fair with her.
He's an awesome dad and she is adorable
Much easier to teach a child than fix an adult.
Well said and pointed out. Can you imagine an adult behaving like that. They need to understand NO. 👍🇬🇧
@Teresa Calarie seriously?...my mom disagrees with you...lol
preach
TRUTH!!!
@@lydiapetra1211 your mom, have, the arma secreta, right?
She knows exactly what she's doing - she's testing boundaries and it's up to parents to establish them. Good job👍
100%
That’s why the dad looks so unfazed
He blamed himself for his daughter's tantrums saying that parents are to be blamed for spoilt kids, and then he went on and taught his child a lesson. Love it.
Good. I was just thinking that. I always blame the parents or people who are caring for the child for the child’s learnt behavior. 🤷🏻♀️
When you care.....it shows, it is what parenting is about,be an adult first....when you pass THAT TEST....then be a parent....not the other way around.
He blames other parents for letting their children get away with bad behavior.
And is the real true..... we give them everything as we think it will make them happier then you were when you were younger .... but is the biggest mistake as they climb the mountain and god knows how to put them down.
The worst is when one parent spoils them and the other parent is strict ( what happened,,,, child gets confused 😐)
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the “way” (singular) he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his SOUL FORM HELL
GOD
Take notes. This man loves his child. And he's teaching his child.
THIS is how to PARENT!
Amen!
👏🏾👏🏾
K...
YEP
Amen
The tone is gentle but firm. The meaning is clear. Best dad ever!
Agreed sistah..🇯🇲🇨🇦👋🏾
But with due respect I just feel that the lecture is a little bit too long...oh well...whatever...what do I know!!??
That's a dad who was strong enough to raise kids without Supernanny's help.
That nose cleaning, love this!!
@@trbrm6319 is it because you'd rather not talk. Most of the explanation was to us, as to what he was doing. However that man can dialogue with his child the entire shopping time if needed be. With all due respect.
Love how you took the time to let your little girl know that her attitude was not OK. Most parents don't have the patience or the will to discipline like you did. She will grow to respect or love you accordingly. Pray many will learn from your example.
Some people who have children weren't raised correctly themselves so they are practically freestyling parenting without any solid sources, or knowledge on how to properly raise their children. The same goes for knowing how to properly be a spouse.
Nah this is weird, dude wanted to flex his parental authority for UA-cam. Imagine yourself making this video. What would motivate YOU to record this?
@@daveyjoseph6058 He said this is what happens when you spoil your child which is apparently what he's admitting to have done with his child, but then gives a contradicting lecture on how he's not raising his child to be spoiled. In other words I think you have a strong point here.
I like how he talks to her like a person and not a child, they respect that
Absolutely!!!!!!👍🏻big thumbs up
What??? Bro that is a child how he talks to her is just his way of being a father
@@theartoffactz6845 if it needs spelling out, he's explaining himself and teaching her at the same time without losing his shit. Many parents just bark orders, seriously
Not at all. Everyone these days likes to view children as just adults in small bodies. Children do not have that same reasoning abillities. Which is why reasoning with small children rarely works.
@@williamallen7836 I think you may be right and wrong. Kids don't learn anything if you model your parenting behaviour after them. They do need a parent who is willing to teach from an adult perspective otherwise, there is little cognitive development. You are correct that a child's ability to process things like an adult is lacking, but guiding their behaviour as an adult and treating their decisions as though they have consequences is very important.
THANK YOU!! Finally, a parent who understands how to teach boundaries to their child without yelling or hitting.
The thing is, yelling or hitting only teaches them to fear you, they will not respect you as a person, only perhaps as an authority figure (although this involves a lot of self-brainwashing on their part). You shouldn't make your child feel like they are less than you, and they shouldn't feel weak and vulnerable in your presence
Good work dad. Keep it up.
That is not true in any way shape or form. @@TextbookSadass
Distraction and reward.
Yes. This isn't perfection, but it is certainly better than how the overwhelming majority of people handle their kids, and more than enough for any parent to do. He has the right attitude and demeanor in response to the kid's outburst. Being unnecessarily harsh isn't good, showing you are not fazed by the displays inspires a lot more respect. Timeout can be very effective when used well, but it needs to be clear that it is a timeout until they calm down and things are put back in order, and the parent needs to actively interact with their kid, try to get through to them in witty and calm ways. It's not a punishment, it's for calming down, kids need to relax too, the world can be overwhelming for them, they don't have the level of emotional control an adult has, thus it should be taught kindly but making it clear that they do not have the authority to overstep boundaries.
The fact that he is present in this moment with her is important. Grounding achieves much less positive and reliable results in comparisons, especially if you don't offer them a way to make up for it. Here it's simple, you stop the tantrum, the timeout ends and you can go back into the store, meeting halfway usually works well. You have to be both firm and relaxed, and still keep a fair dialogue open. The better a kid understand why you can't afford to put up with their behaviour, the better of a reponse you will get. Unfortunately "because i'm your parent" isn't the most compelling argument, but i suppose at that age it makes enough sense.
She is just a typical healthy child testing her boundaries. But the father dealt with it so well, unlike many parents today. You can tell her cry was a fake cry. But she is still a cutie.
screamqueen,,,,,,, ONE LOVELY, REAL FATHER AND MAN...... AND YES , SHE'S BEAUTIFUL.....
@Tabora Exactly. My daughter tried exactly 4 times when she was around 1 year old. As I didn't nudge at all with her antics and as she discovered that it was only drawbacks, i.e. it didn't advance her "want", she realized quickly that it was better not to do tantrums: smart child. My older son, now 22, still hasn't completely understood the lesson: not so smart child.
@Soft Breezy Day
She is crying to test the boundaries and to get her will through, only way to properly learn kids that this doesn’t help is just this way.
There was absolutely no publicly humiliation in this fathers actions. Totally correct behaviour. And saying that he is breaking his daughter down or similar is just unfortunately the kind of nonsense some people of today use. That’s why we have so many adults even that totally lack manners since they don’t know the boundaries.
Your children will love you if you are a good parent and this is being a good parent, loving, caring and can also able to discipline the child.
@Soft Breezy Day who tf are you to them?
Their aunt?
It doesn't in the slightest feel like you're a parent with the shit you said.
@Soft Breezy Day honestly I stopped reading when you mentioned too much on what YOU did but I took a second round and you're still basically doing what the man did. In no way that was feeding his ego but the way you're bragging about what you did sent a diff message tbh
Thank you Dad. This is good for family and society. We respect you Sir.
He talks to her like a person and not a little child. He’s teaching the lesson of a child to a child but he’s doing it in a way that doesn’t baby her. What a great man and dad.
Edit: Yes, I am aware that children are people. I guess I should’ve used the word “puppy” instead to make that clear. But there _is_ a difference in how little children are spoken to in comparison to everyone else. It’s called “baby talk.”
💯💯💯💯👍😍
I grew up with this type of upbringing. and I turned out well.....
Ok that baby talk is unnecessary , back and forth talk is not good when you want to discipline your children.
IIn Love11 I never said it was (back and forth). And definitely not at that age. The guy said it himself; they need to know who’s boss.
However, if it’s with an older child, like late teenager ... In my experience, seeing their side of things might be best depending on the situation. When my mom was teaching me how to drive, at one point we were on a busy road and I’d accidentally missed a turn. I then made a right turn when she told me to take a left, and she started yelling at me for not listening to her. When I tried to explain my side, she interrupted and started yelling for talking back to her, naturally making me upset.
However, after she’d gone inside the store and come back, she’d apologized to me for not letting me get my piece in. She let me explain. New driver jitters plus being scatterbrained plus the mistake caused me to start freaking out, so I made the nearest and safest turn in a lot so I could catch my breath. I didn’t understand how to make that left turn because I’d never done it in that situation before. She’d always told me that if I got too emotional or nervous to drive, I needed to find somewhere safe to stop so I could regroup. She ended up apologizing and saying that I was right and did the right thing. One could say that’s not a good way to teach a teenager discipline, but I disagree because it depends on the situation. That moment taught me how to make up and get over an argument with someone calmly and without yelling. Talking things over maturely. I love my mom very much ❤️
I agree. Sometimes spanking is not the answer.
Never ONCE did he raise his voice. That’s something right there.
@Galaxi an earring? Idk I didnt see anything besides that
@Galaxi i think its a tattoo
Like he would raise his voice when filimhg hisself
But it's actually off frame
that’s really hard to do bruh. i’m not even a parent, but i hv an annoying stubborn ass little brother who don’t listen to anyone but himself. one day he’s jesus the next day he’s satan, and when he’s satan, it’s really hard to swallow your pride and deal with him in a mature way. i raise my voice a lot less than i used to, but at times, it’s just so hard.
As a teacher, I get so sick of dealing with kids who never hear "no" at home and then expect to get away with whatever they want in the classroom. I've talked to soooo many parents who let their kids run the show. This guy is doing it right.
I'm a teacher an get this always! It's like you're teaching them rules they've never come across before
Wow!!
Yesh S what a nightmare. So you basically clean up other parents mess daily! I would lose it! Hats off to you 💕🙌✊👏👍🏼
I am not a teacher but I have come across this numerous times as a nanny. What I found to be most effective, was to make clear what your expectations are. You could probably write them down on a large poster board and display it in the classroom. If a student breaks a rule you can refer them to the classroom rules and ask them what rule they broke. Tell them that this is their last chance and if they do it again the punishment will be X? Insert disciplinary action. From the very first day of school talk with them, explain the rules and consequence for misbehaving. As you are going through the rules ask the student why each rule is important. I would also make it clear that your approach to discipline is different from what happens. Simply say that their parents aren’t here, you are in my classroom and therefore responsible for following class rules.
@@dreshany1345 yes great idea! I do this, setting expectations and sticking to consequences!
This child is blessed to have such a fatherly father.
This is why absent fathers are such a problem we need more dads like this guy.
Totally not trying to be rude but you see he has a mixed child? I feel that black men don't love their black children as much as these "mixed" kids. I see more black babies with no father's but the mixed ones with them and the mothers way more often..... Like ....
That shit makes me sad af.
Lifeless Love: Not my experience from friends and exes in Sweden that are mixed. But their fathers were from different African countries and not settled in Sweden like a couple in America might be already settled in America so that might make it different though. But their fathers often left too.
@MindYour OwnBusiness I mean there's a lot of other races that do this ya know don't get me wrong I don't want to offend anyone if I indeed did. It just seems like the black man is ashamed to have their own. Are white people trophie tokens to claim or any other races than bkack?? What makes someone not love what they created regardless of hardships that are happening to one's self?? And I'm just asking in general as a thought. There's also mothers out there doing the same thing ya know!?? Like. Why are people sooooooo.....fucked up. This was indeed a good video though but unfortunately someone is going to watch this and do the complete opposite.
Yes totally true. Kids need both parents. I raised myself and I was lucky I raised myself right. My kids dad have been in and out their life and now since their grown he wants to be in their life. Kids need both parents and they need to be taught respect, manors and love. Not being spoiled is a must. Too many spoiled kids. I grew up in the ghetto and homeless and I wanted to give my kids what I never got to have but sometimes they get spoiled and they need to learn right from wrong. I agree with this guy 100%
No. It isn't the absent fathers that are the problem. It is the mothers blaming everything on the absent fathers that's the problem. Mothers in this situation need to step it up and teach those kids right from wrong. Period. I had an absent father and it changed nothing in my Mothers eyes on her expectations of me. I thank her every day for that. Now that I'm an adult....haha.
This is a wise, patient, measured and strong parent. No yelling, screaming or hitting, just no nonsense, loving discipline. Kudos to this dad.
@Romeo ThePLUG Mostly true, however, the cycle of abuse has to end somewhere. I had a very abusive mother, father. Verbally, physically, emotionally. My mother would sometimes keep me home from school long enough for the welts, bruises & cuts to heal. My father finally stopped beating me when I was 16, grabbed ahold of his belt from his hand, hit him in the face with the buckle. 16 stitches on his face. He never tried to hit me, again once he got a taste of his own disciplinary technique. My mother would "discipline me" by withholding food & water. I was so skinny because of this.
@Romeo ThePLUG The cycle of abuse CAN be broken. I got some intense counseling & broke the cycle of abuse. My 4 kiddos got firm, loving discipline without spankings. Without even time outs. They wrote sentences, often. If they were fighting, I would sit them both down to discuss, talk it out, calmly, with thought, with reason. With both refraining from name calling, accusations or "making faces." All 4 are grown adults, happily married, educated, doing what they love in their careers.
@@FreeSpirit47 😢
I love how you didn’t say crying because no matter gender and sex they are allowed to cry but other things like screaming and hitting are not it.
Kudos
She understood every single word he was saying to her. It all up to how the parents first react.
Indeed 💪
That's right sister
You will not want to see how my parents would react in this situation
I don’t think that she understood the term suck it up.
That’s what I was thinking. She knows she was wrong and she’s ok about it!!
What is great dad! This girl will be a successful adult because of this father’s maturity.
"Walking with your Mom is a privilege". Thank you Dad, for honoring your daughter's Mother.
I was just thinking that, also reinstalling responsibilities that some kids fight against as a privilege will also help them grow up to be more responsible.
I know some kids I grew up with that would throw tantrums because they had to go to the store.
This man is a perfect parental role model. His children's futures are bright.
Wow🥺 how he honors the mother
Thank you so much!
And yet he said right out of his own mouth that his own mother beat the sh|t out of him. So yes, "honour" the mothers....the world's most perfect beings. 🙄
@@ACS402010 did he say that? Hmmmm..🤔🤔🙄
The main thing is that he didn’t spoil her by giving her a treat... or he didn’t pamper her. He just talked to her like she’s just another person. Good job man!
Yep, you can’t reward children to not misbehave.
Big Chungy Human: And he didn't spank or yell at her.
Actually... when my toddler brother was crying... I tried this, and when I said “are you done?” He quickly changed his mood. Cause I was asking him a question instead of pampering him. And then he said “with what?” And I said “with crying. I’m not gonna put up with you crying for no reason anymore”. and he was like “yea. I’m done” and got back to playing😂 I swear I’m not lying!
@@bigchunkyhuman3769 when we were kids in the 70’s most mums used to say If you don’t shut up I’ll give you something to cry about. Worked every time 🤣🤣
Thank you Lord for THIS parent who is doing things EXACTLY right! Awesome job sir!
he told the truth. many parents are too busy trying to be friends to their children instead of teaching and disciplining them. good job dad
Or they want youtube to raise them and give them the bare minimum of attention.
They shouldn't be mutually exclusive
You can be friends with your child while also being stern enough.
Sure right lord knows I’m a living witness!!! Live and learn do things different they respect you better with discipline, it’s ok to say No, too many yes is a bad setup and if u want it earn it!!!
And it helps to have both parents in the household.
This is one reason why fathers are important in a childs life! Great parenting dad!
He keeps his voice calm yet stern. This is fathering.
Or weed 😂jking
Exactly. Not yelling
It should be parenting, both parents doing this. Doesn't need to involve yelling, whooping, cursing, cuz that's all lazy parenting. This dad took the time to put in the work.
@@randomuser5914 I think spanking is needed tho. Not always. And if you're angry...calm down before you spank them. Both are needed for good balance.
Exactly
The little girl is really cute , the father is talking to her and not yelling at her , there is a difference , he’s respectful the whole time and he is funny 😄
I understand what you mean, but he does not respect her feelings and manipulates her as if she was an object that he has the control of. He does not show love to her but tells her, that if she does not cut down her feelings, she will not be recognized. Her sad feelings dont bother him. Even though we as adults also sometimes have sad feelings and just need somebody who understand.
Great is that he does not yell at or hurt her, that he got her out of the situation and talks to her like with an aduld and does not spoil her. But the signal he teaches is not what i would like to teach my child, like "if you dont act like i want, i dont love you"
Different races shouldn't mix wtbs all children aren't cute
kuddelkate Here’s the thing though. He didn’t manipulate her. If he manipulated her than all
Parenting tactics are manipulative.
Throw a tantrum in Walmart? >> We’re gonna sit outside until you calm down.
It’s teaching her that he will not tolerate that behavior and when she acts that way she will have a consequence. Letting her cry it out helps her with emotional control. “Are you done?” It’s the same thing as letting her cry it out.
He didn’t “cut down her feelings” she was throwing a tantrum in Walmart. Which is never cute.
What was he supposed to do?
aderline johnson different races shouldn’t mix? Lol get offline and go read a book.
@@kuddelkate how would you do it if your kid start acting out in walmart? and in a situation where they don't stop just because you tell them to.
Some day that young lady is going to be realize how lucky she was to have had a dad loved her enough to be her parent instead of always trying to be her friend.
Well done, Dad. You need your own parenting show, Man! We need more daddies like you.
Well said.
You got that right!
i was spoiled but when my parents said there not goin to buy me sumthing i was fine with that sum kids just hav different personalities
@@randyholli2258 There is some truth in that. I was also spoiled, but I was made aware of the fact and, as much as I was able to at my young age, always tried to keep it in mind. Not as a shaming tactic but simply to try and maintain a sense of perspective. My parents were very lenient overall, but they also respected me as an individual and always put their foot down if I was misbehaving or acting out. As soon as I was old enough to understand, they wouldn't just punish me, they'd ask me if I understood why. Children may not be adults, but they are still people. At least in my case, the dialogue was important and valuable.
HOORAY!!!! A real man teaching and speaking wise words. Great job dad!!! You have laid down a great foundation and I know you are going to be so proud of the fine, well behaved, well mannered people they will become. It was very nice to see this video. Thank you.
One day, many years from now, I hope your precious daughter sees this video and sees just how much she was loved and wanted. Well done, Sir!!
This country needs more parents like this. That is a good dad.
And then his girl will cheat on him
Joel Jeremy you good bro?
Joel Jeremy tf...
My hero!! If only more parents would take this kind of responsibility with their children our society would be able to move forward.
Shes got a father. God bless.
Too many kids don’t have a dad and that’s one of the biggest reasons so many people are out of control.
I am so proud of the ''fathers '' that are really taking care of their ''children'' and not abandoning them or leaving it all up to the mom-- OR just being a part time dad..I am so happy to see them RULE FATHERHOOD and doing a fantastic job.. amen to that~~~!!!!..-- hope more follow-- too many guys were just leaving their offsprings to the world or some other person and hell was beating down on those babies HARD... Please -- if you have a baby -- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY... GOD BLESS...
She's got a great father and because of him she has a future.
My dad got lost at a gas station
@@karenkaren3189 Yes! They have to stick around long enough to do this. They don't and that is why we have the problems. I agree.
Thank you for making a better future for EVERYONE.
She's happy because her wise father has set boundaries, made her aware that she is powerful by deciding to get control of her emotions, and therefore feels both loved and good about herself.
Wow, what a deep and insightful remark.
This is how I parent my kids when they were younger but I gave them whoopings 2! I was very strict as they were growing up, now I’m like a hippy parent now.. give them freedom, they are independent and self sufficient. I get compliments on how well behaved my children are. I also parent them different as they were growing up because of their different personalities. You have to do what works for the child. You do want them to be adults who are emotionally balanced.
@@juliestarks1279 any advice? I want to be strict but not have to rely on whooping all the time. I'm nowhere near ready to be a parent but it's good to know for the future
@@angelstarfire Do not yell or create a negative relationship with a kid first off.
You should find a healthy way of making the rules clear and understood.
Also like when you promise something, do it and don't fail your kid. Teach them proper sex-ed if you are American and make it clear that you will give some cash for protection when they get to that age.
Like "Take the trash out and you get XX amount of money" and you do it. Teach them how to manage money (helpful).
Let them socialise and advice on how to be a good friend. If you notice a friendship is not healthy anymore, talk to your kid and explain the situation in a respectfull manner.
Do not force your own beliefs on a kids, if you cannot do that then you should not be a parent.
*DO NOT* set up cameras in their rooms or take their phones away for the night (the phone thing is fine, but there is a time when we start dating and getting crushes and late night talks are very nice bonding time if it has turned into an addiction, try solve what has cause it and correct the behavior in a healthy way. I am addicted to my phone, because currently it is the thing to help me cope with my depression and anxiety. I can stay away from it and be fine, but having it means that I have an escape route. Thus I can function better.). Setting up cameras is borderline nearing controlling and abusive parent behavior. It makes us hate you more.
This is all from the point of someone from a "strict" family that never had official rules. I have never really had a time to come home because I never went out. In the cases I did go out, I informed my parents and they would call me when I needed to come home. If I was late, I would not be screamed at, but talked to. (Be calm when doing the talking, yelling makes it worse) My parents would explain that I needed to be home on time and after that I would just continue on with my day. Do not have a karen-freak out.
My mom is known as a helicopter parent and mentally abusive. She chose what I would wear until I was 13 and would force me into a religion (christianity, I am atheist).
I had to grow up when I was 5. I was never truly a child. I knew the rules and expectations and just went on about existing. I never went out because I did not have friends. The last time I hung out with a friend was in december of 2018, because my strict mother never lets me out. She gives me no privacy. I was 14 when I spent time with friends. I'm 16 now. Severe depression, suicide ideation, undiagnosed ED and anxiety proplems later I know I can never be a fully fuctioning adult.
Both of my parents come from physically and mentally abusive households and they never hit me and try to be as good parents as possible, but they have proplems too. Like my mom hoards newspapers and her being a not so good parent comes from the trauma she experienced.
My dad tries not to yell, because he was yelled at. He tries his best to provide for me and stay in my life because his own father got a divorce and his mother started sleeping around with highly abusive men (one of them almost beat her to death when my dad was younger).
If you really want to be the good type of strict parent, please go find videos of teens who have unhealthy strict/abusive parents. Tiktok compilations have good examples and there are plenty on UA-cam. Hear the kids out and try understand what they feel like and how the parents may be in the wrong.
Thus you can prevent being the abusive type of strict and your kids will actually like you.
Strict parents think being stricts makes good children and adults.
Truth is, strict parents make the most skilled liars.
There is a very fine line you need to master for them to be healthy adults and not liars. We know we can live our own life when we lie and our parents never let us be free. We always have to watch our every step or we can be locked inside our house and our food can be taken away if be disobey.
Do not hit your kids. Ever. No matter what the reason, never hit them.
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I nominate this guy to be the moderator of the next presidential debate.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! GOOD ONE!!!
I second that
You know you need to teach an on-line class!😁
I strongly agree. That debate was the worst thing I’ve ever watched
Please. Run for office or principal of a school. We need him!
This is a man who not only loves his daughter today, but helping her to be a success in her future.
Amen!
I love your calmness.
We're not raising kids, we're raising adults.
This is an amazing quote!
some ppl r just kids in adult bodies
Simple but Deep.
@@myribunt5261 that garbage blew your mind?! 🤣🤣🤣 Your gonna have so many baby daddy's in the future. Just know when they say they love you..they mean it 🤣
@@op8995 in where in that sentence did she say it blew her mind
Not only he teaches her to stop without any whoopings or yelling. He waited outside the place until she stopped. Most parents would still roam the store without even trying to calm them down the right way. He waited patiently where there arent people to get annoyed and mad about a baby crying all the time. This is a pure man with a beautiful child. Literally has the true gift of patience and taught me something to use when im older and ready for kids. Cause i dont believe in whooping kids
Yeah very considerate to others. I remember once while shopping at wallmart there was a kid yelling his head off because his mom wouldn't buy him a cereal box. The mom just didn't agree to buy it and let the boy scream like crazy for half an hour. So unacceptable and annoying for everyone who was there.
For real my mum used to pull me by my ear but that was probably just because I was a crazy kid
Same
Katya, It’s unacceptable for you, but it’s not aboutyou or anyone else in the store. You deal with kids on an individual basis. I used to ignore everyone else and deal with my child the way that works for them. It’s called parenting.
@@can.du.8116 your right they didn’t use the right words parenting is not easy for everyone and they do the best way they know how in that moment and I’m not even a parent to have to understand that
"I'm not going to argue with a 3 year-old, I'm the adult, I'm the dad!" Finally someone with good sense and not afraid of loving discipline. Good on you!!
Exactly
I like the way you phrased that, "loving discipline"
there are civil ways to argue though
@@BankruptGreek with a 3 year old throwing a tantrum?!
@@pinco40 ok not with a 3 year old but somewhere at 6-10 you start having some valid arguments and "I am the adult and you obey what I say" isn't nice.
BEST DAD EVER!! He is calm, he is articulated everything…. She knows and you can tell she is calming down and realizing her bullying of “crying/yelling” isn’t going to make the parent just give in
DONT GIVE IN!! He did an amazing job, took her for a time out and until she calms down and behaves they don’t go anywhere!!
WELL DONE SIR!! You’re a wonderful father! And she is a lucky 🍀 kid to have you take that time to show her the proper way!
She’s SO LUCKY to have him. She’ll feel safe with him when she gets older and it matters. I wish I had had a dad who cared about me like he cares about her.
You are like me but we do have a father who cares and his name is God and his son and our saviour is Jesus just call on him and he will answer you. God bless 🙏🇺🇸❤
Michael Price For reall💀😭 I just let them have their moment tho😂🤷🏻♀️
Christina Walke What has this got to do with faith... fatherhood is shared by any man of any religion/background
💯 I firmly believe that a loving, caring, supportive dad, who makes a little girl feel safe and loved, is HUGELY connected to how that girl develops as a woman, and how confident she feels about herself, among other things (like the kind of partner they choose). Of course NOT ALWAYS....but A LOT of the time this is so true. ❤️ I was one of the lucky ones who had an amazing father..I’m sorry you didn’t have that experience 😔 but you can always make your kids feel like that ❤️
same.. I grew up with neither of my parents being emotionally supportive and always belittled me
Kids are smart. Talk to them, no need to beat them.
Clearance Couponing Deals & More This! I would never beat my kids
Tell that to an African mom😂😂😂
African cake - lol, same!! 😂😂😂
There's a difference between Spanking & beating your kids.
Its easier to teach them without pyshical punishment not going to lie, it takes way less emotion and less energy. That being said the parents that cams before best not enforce that on me because they started that and then make laws to prevent it, which is hipocrasy at its finest
" But baby, she's just 2 years old "
Yep ! And the perfect age to learn how to behave.
Exatly !👶
Oh yes i hateeeeee when people say that, particularly those little old ladies who think because the child is "cute" it needs to be spoiled rotten 🙄
There’s a reason they call it the terrible twos
PERIODT!
Parents teach self-regulation to young children by helping them to calm their nervous system when they are upset. This is called, "co-regulation". It is a way to maintain emotional connection and trust between parent and child while helping the child to get better at self-regulating.
Neuroscience shows that humans develop their abilities for emotional self-regulation through connections with reliable caregivers who soothe and model in a process called “co-regulation.” Since many troubled young people have not experienced a reliable, comforting presence, they have difficulty regulating their emotions and impulses. Co-regulation provides a practical model for helping young people learn to manage immediate emotions and develop long term self-control.
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Now that’s how you you do it Parenting at its finest Hats off to you dad
The calmness in his voice is what really does the trick.
Yeah it’s something about his voice that’s calming but you know he means business lol
He’s very confident. He handled that beautifully. He didn’t hit his child. He was just firm. No need to hit kids. You can still be firm and confident in raising your children. He did so well.
@@annagitana1 I disagree. This was not a situation where the child needed a spanking. Depending on the age of the child and the severity of what the child did, a spanking can be completely necessary.
My kids knew when my voice got low there could be a problem.But when I gave the 👀s there was peace on earth.(No spankings involved)
@@TheRibofJESUS what? Y'all saying the same thing pretty much?
This is a great example that demonstrates that kids aren't the problem today, it's the parents. We need more parents like this guy, he's patient but tough, and he loves his kid.
Yesssss!!!
Trump needed a dad like this.
@@SandraSealySeawomanBDSApparently his father had psychopathy, I read it in the book...So not wired for empathy.
I love the fact that he said he doesn’t need to beat his child like his mom did to get her to behave. I pray more people will get it!!!
This Father does not pray, this Father has begun to act. Stop praying and start doing something!
It's stupid ppl like u that's hurting the next gen
cali Recklezz how so? if we hit our children what will be the benefit? and does that put weight the cost?
cali Recklezz not everyone reads the bible yk..
@@candace6893 Prov. 3 Verses 5 to 6
[5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Nothing but respect for you, Sir.
Taaadaaaaa a parent that actualy cares how his childs current actions are going affect future actions.
Thank you! The stuff I’ve seen lately with people i know is crazy.
Good dad! Plus she’ll see she can’t push your buttons and get her way. She will know she can talk to you without you flipping out every time and that’s important for a little girl to know she can go to daddy and talk. Great job dad!!!
@@NanaD-ve9tt You make such a great point about the little girl being able to go to her Dad with anything.
@@NanaD-ve9tt👍👏
Take AMEN, Donna! This young father reminded me of my Daddy. He had the same opinion that encouraged me to NOT settle for 2nd best & instilled in me to KNOW that I had great worth, 1st as a child & then as a woman. I could tell him ANYTHING & never face ridicule or judgement. That made me see my worth to the Lord & how much He loved me! It also instilled respect in me for Him, God & authority, something in great need of these days. I'm so proud of this young Daddy who possesses such wisdom & common sense! He needs to give classes to today's parents, DESPERATELY! God Bless this wonderful young Father & his precious family.
Take care of yourself & family & stay healthy & safe, Donna.
Ruthanna Bauer 🕯☮️💟🙏🏽blessings to you and your family from your friend in New Jersey
This is the moderator we needed for the presidential debates.
Ok lol
😂😂😂
Omg yeah
yess😅
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"I'm the Daddy. I'm grown."
There are so many parents out there that do not parent their children. She is so very lucky to have a REAL Daddy in her life.
It makes me think of that meme where the little kid says I'm their daddy and I'm grown
My best-friend who is like a brother to me, disciplines his kids the same way, and that is also I was raised. My brother, you are not raising a Little Princess, you are turning her into a respectable human being with common sense. 👏👏👏
This is what a real father sounds like. Beautiful, kind and stern.
XDD LMAOOOO 😂
As a dad and a public school teacher, I applaud you.
Learning the word “No” is best lesson ever.
We all are told No, even Bill Gates knows the word No.
Keep it up.
Your forgetting the sound of LOVE.
Unfortunately, in the black community, there's very few "fathers" around raising their kids.
This reminds me of something Dr. Phil will say: You’re not raising children, you’re raising future adults.
Geo Dude which is a child ... just saying
Xavier Armstrong Which they turn into adults sooner, in a blink of an eye 👁.
Maria Lindell 💯
Much like Dr. Phil, this guy is exploiting a minor for entertainment/to feed his superiority complex. Someone with supposed impeccable parenting skills sure as hell hasn't thought of his daughters privacy and future implications of this
Phil's a fraud. Remember the catch me outside sorry episode? That was scripted and Phil was promoting that for them
He is a great dad. One day she will look back and realize how special he is.
And I hope she will do a video too :3
My dad was abusive (all three of the forms...)... Some of these kids just do not have a clue how blessed they are to have a dad like this. I'd give anything to have a dad just like this man! But God is enough, at least He adopted me as His daughter.
He's just parenting. Billions of us do it without shaming our children to the world.
Why dont he realize how special she is
Yeah, she will grow up with borderline personality and she will be so greatful
Adorable daddy. Us teachers appreciate you!
I was in the grocery store and this father was there with his 2 boys-maybe 12 or 13. Those boys did NOT take their eyes off of him. Literally! Wow!
Once the child has stopped the daddy moves on as if nothing has happened, no grudges, no lectures, just love! Blessings and peace to this young man.
A lot of parents could learn from this
When he said "Are you done?" She realizes the fake crying is not working. Then he tells her it is not acceptable behavior. She is only three but she understood the gist of what he was saying. He is teaching her responsibility for her own behavior. Much respect to you sir.
Not that it was fake crying, I believe she genuinely felt horrible. But his calm voice made her realize that it's not a big deal and that her tantrum is not a solution. Many parents who react drasticaly give the signal that the kid is fighting for something, that it is a big deal. Why else would the parents react so strong?! With this calm demeanor and serious talk, he gives her the reality check that it is nothing to cry about and Then even gives here the solution how to get what she wants.
She wasn’t fake crying, she was genuinely sad and hurt. You can tell by the heaving in her breath. I’m 63 and remember crying and trying to to stop . Bless them the dad is good
I appreciate this father more than most. He is absolutely right and his kids will be good people.
I was going to say something of the same sentiments. I’m the same way with my daughters. Good dad, very good dad.
Amen..need more fathers like this
0:35 she is naturally soothing herself by pulling on her ear. Activating the vagus nerve = calm.
This dad is a rock star. Seriously, this is how it's done.
My thoughts exactly he should teach parenting classes
This. Right. Here. This kid has no idea how lucky she is to have a parent like this....gonna save her a lifetime of problems...
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I've raised 4 kids and I totally disagree. The father looks resentful at his child. That is going to cause a lifetime of problems.
@@changingmyself oh ok Mr/Ms. Know all
@@nekobakaful okay mr/ms nosey.
“Wipe the stress off your face” I’m definitely using that one
I love that too 🤣🤣🤣
Use it in a plessent way. Never be like this man. How he is in the video thanks.
“They just a kid”
Me: and that’s the best time to teach them.
I love how at the end of the speech, he uplifted his daughter saying “aren’t you a big girl” and “you’re tough”. Discipline your kids when they aren’t acting right, and when they get themselves together praise them and build their self esteem the right way.
I probably would’ve chosen some different ‘uplifting’ words like.. ‘I love you now let’s have a good rest of the day’. Sometimes little girls aren’t in the mood to feel tough, so reassuring ur love for them lets them know they’re loved even when they get in trouble or misbehave.
@@modaciouslav4792 yeah
@Ray Pearl what’s wrong with the I love you now part?
@Ray Pearl yup ur right, I have to agree w/ that..
He not only talked to her like an adult, he talked to her with respect, addressed her with Mrs., pumped her up and made her feel good. That was some smooth, classy Jedi shit.
Ms/miss not Mrs lol Mrs is for married females
Awesome dad. She will remember him with love
I laughed at 3 things from this. How dad said, "Uhh, I'm still cute, but still." How the daughter quickly looked into the camera when dad asked "you do know what happens again when you lie?" And lastly, the Jedi reference you made!
Man mum used to call me Mr even sometimes she still does hahah
Ok
“Don’t give them what you never had, teach them what you wish you were taught.”
- I honestly forgot
good point because this is where so many of us parents have felled..
Bruce Lee was it
Thank you sir I honestly forgot
shouldn't it be " give them what you never had...?
I think it was Bruce Lee who quoted that
OMG!!! This is absolutely incredible!!! Great job dad!!!
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!! Being stern does not mean abuse!!!
This needs to be shared/shown to the world!!!
C’mon people…pass it on!!!
I felt like he was talking to me, too. I stopped crying.
dude xD
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Me too!
Same
Carolyn Walker!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 for real!! Me too!!
I like how calm he is & still sweet to her while being stern but all for her own good. She's a beautiful little girl. They're cute together.
His daughter is gonna grow up to be the smartest, most confident, most successful woman.
@@sarahgardner312 sometimes you win, sometimes you learn, appreciate mistakes
She will also be able to talk her way out of anything. :) Speaking from experience.
Thanks Dad (Rip 1953-2006). You raised me right in our short 26 years together. I have never stopped loving you, the life lessons you taught me, the straight up education, and being able to never "need a man" to get anything done. Oh!!
@@sarahgardner312 Dont Blame your Dad your Grown Now maybe you have trouble understanding why things are done as they are
Myxomatosis BEAUTIFUL, May He SIP🙏🏾😍
@@tinagriffiths4002 Thank you. I hope you are happy and healthy. :)
FANTASTIC!!! SIR!! CAN we commission YOU to conduct parenting classes to 99 percent of the parents in this country?? That is THE best form of parenting I have seen in a LONG time. We must have gone to different schools together. And it works man. That child LOVES and respects YOU!!a Wonderful!! I am so happy she has a DADDY and a Father figure. (they are different) Keep it up man. You are the most important influence in her life. AND, I hope, you may influence some of her peers. Bless you man. Bless you
I love that he’s actually communicating with his child in a very calm yet stern way without yelling at her, cussing at her, or threatening her.
ua-cam.com/video/1UV_G5xrEEA/v-deo.html.
Uh i hope my little sister would actually listen to me like this little girl here. For me as her big brother even if i try to communicating with her in a calm way she just keep yelling and say "NO!" And she just keep crying and make me feel guilty always. I just want her to be listening to me when i try to communicating with her but no she just doesn't want to listen and throw a tantrum over and my parents keeps spoil her ugh!
Yes I love it
@@naya4050 yeah, your parents being inconsistent is why. You will have to be more stubborn than her.
@@lixinxin ikr!
Maybe, this guy should teach parenting classes. He knows what he's talking about...
Fantastic Dad!!!!!
Maybe parenting classes should be a requirement.
I don't even have kids but I would still.attend his glasses just to listen to a sensible man talking about how to raise a kid calmly but with a stern.voice. this is how you'll get a child being a good one, ofc.. it's normal that they will grow tantrums or get sad and angry but don't let them use it as a rewarding-game as like *the more I scream and cries the more stuff I'll get to be quite* :)
Well, the more you share this video, the more people will learn. 👍
No thanks, ahh maybe in public school, he can teach this Speaking-to-the-camera, instead of understanding Child psycology, public school s dont care bout that either 🙄😉
He dropping knowledge, Kids don't hear the word NO often and that's exactly what's wrong with them. I work at a daycare I see it ALL the time. Man you get hella props from me you handled that like a KING.
This only works to some kids only. If youre kid superactive. It wont works🤣
deborah DeborahR oh piss off deborah, do you really think anything has changed? 🙄
Deidera Williams Thats so true. I’m 22 and I teach toddlers at a little mom and pops developmental center. Your heart has to be in it for it to be successful.
@@annisakazumi5019 or super big. I watched a mom the other day, tryna make her son (that looked around 8 or 9yrs old), leave Target. He was almost as big as she was & acting a fool...didn't work. She must not have realized that one day she wouldn't be able to physically carry him out to the car anymore 😁
@@maisies515 for the most part, no. We still eat and shit.
But, people are more sluty, and parents are like kids.
Good man, great father.
Parents of young children can feel powerless and make bad choices. They don’t understand that this is the only time of absolute power. Strength with kindness wrapped in love!
Love your parenting Bro Stay with it
Please do more videos 🤓
“Cuz you’re a big girl” he uses good positive language to reinforce it when she stopped crying, makes all the difference, what a good father
I liked that a lot. Threatening to beat your child when they act up can cause them to fear getting in trouble, which usually leads to not having the best relationship with their parents. In worse situations, the kid acts up when they dont have parental supervision because the only thing they learned from the beating was that they shouldn't get caught, not getting caught means not getting punished.
motivate your kids that they are better than that.
This is the most mature parent I have ever seen. His kids are lucky to have such a great father.
@@Yazhash you meant if they were raised properly you dont just stop being a certain way
@@NewAgeSlaves It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks...
He wasn't wrong or right! He was right for not yelling or hitting a small child. He was wrong in the delivery. All he did was calm the child down by making her curious after she has cried for a while and has been removed from the public(the stressor). He used too many words and didn't focus on the child. He also didn't teach her how to control it. He didn't really do much in the video. I was a preK teacher. If this was the way to do it, our life as PreK teachers would've been much easier. Meaning that she will do it again and they will keep on doing this until she is older(it depends on when that area of the brain develops. Normally closer to 8 years old. ) Kids at this age will often act out in public for so many reasons. If you do not want them to ever act out, do not take them out or be prepared to walk outside to calm them down. Just don't pull out a camera and start delivering speech to your followers instead of teaching your kid how to deal with their emotions. Oh and you MUST use touch in these situation. Don't sit there and talk. It's a 2 year old, not a 12 year old. She probably forgot his speech 5 minutes later, she probably also forgot why she was upset.
@@cottoncandiez8872 Not sure what that means. I am sharing info from all the stuff I was luckily forced to learn.
Wish someone would say this to me. I get sooooo many terrible comments or looks ‘you’re heartless’. I’m being their MOM.
THANK YOU for posting sir
This is why kids need fathers
That’s a level headed calm man parenting his child the right way and he loves his child.
I love this!! Good job dad 👍
She will turn out great because he loves her and disciplines properly.
It's a pleasure to see a DAD being a FATHER that teaches HIS child how to behave . like the MAN said , too many parents tolerant or spoil their children .
AMEN to THAT!!!!
What's with all the WORDS being CAPITALIZED all over your SENTENCES?
@@shirin8609 They THINK it makes their point more VALID and IMPACTFUL or SOME shit, it's annoying as fuck.
@@shirin8609 good dads aren't highlighted in media all too often, people should be proud of being a good father
One day you will meet the true Father, Man, and Holy Spirit and everything negative you just spewed on this forum will be vomited back in your face
I like that the kid is looking at him to see if her crying is working.
Yup, my thoughts exactly. "Crying makes mom and dad feel bad for me, and then I get what I want! Is it still working?"
That can be remedied without any whoopings, this man is showing an excellent example!
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@Google Hub Yeah well....that wasn't the case here was it? She was doing things that he as a parent had already set a rule over and she was not obeying that rule. Just because they are a toddler doesn't mean you let them act how they want because they are "emotionally undeveloped". Its not like there was an explosion or loud noise that scared her. She was throwing a fit because she didn't get what she wanted.
That's one very lucky little girl! She has a loving, caring & strong Daddy.
I love how he says that he's not going to argue with a kid. So right!! Go dad!
As a retired teacher -- THANK YOU, FATHER, FOR BEING FIRM AND FAIR WITH YOUR PARENTING AND DISCIPLINE METHODS!!
As a teacher, also thank you, father.
And moms, please stop interrupting while the dads are disciplining the kids. Way too many moms give dads, and us teachers a hard time doing our job, making excuses etc for your damn kids. No, they are not way too young and yes, they need discipline. Just becoz your damn nurturing nature is kicking in, does not mean nurturing is the only thing kids need
The father whisperer. 👍
You talking to Yahweh? 🙏
@@birdieculture +
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Respect to this guy. That’s why kids act a fool these days, parents are too afraid to correct and discipline their kids young. They don’t want to be the “bad guy”
Ikr, honestly this generation has grown up to think what this guy is doing, is abuse. People want parents to just to talk to them, and be like, “Oh honey, it’s okay, it’s okay, let’s just go back to the store and everything will be fine” they are basically teaching their kid it is okay to act like that.
I love the fact he never tried to be rude to the girl, he just waited until she stopped crying. This is a great dad. I wish mine was like that.
My dad just yelled at me, and and angry. He never tried to hit me, but he does emotionally hurt me. This did make me into an anxious-freak whenever I just talk to him.
So, never be like my dad, be like this dad in the video. Mad props to him.
They are too busy being their kids "best friend" thats why kids these days have no manners smh
Also there are parents who just don't want to deal with their kids. They'll either never tell them to stop, or they threaten them to stop.
My parents raised me right, and they are still raising me. I'm not making a fool of myself out there in public stores. If they tell me I can't get something then I can't get it, not such a big deal. Rather than other kids being mommy's and daddy's little girl and them crying and their parents giving it to them because they said mommy and daddy please. We need this world to change for the better guys. ❤
@@jen-dot-net9281 Or like how my dad was. He would tempt me to do things like skip school then call the cops on me to appear as the hero dad. It really helped my trust issues .🙄
And this is just 1 more reason we need good fathers in our families
What an amazing dad..not losing his temper..realises his child is spoilt and teaches them a fair and right lesson
.he obviously adores her..great dad you have there little girl..
It's not being spoilt. I grew up in a strict military family and me and my brother done the same thing. This is something ALL kids do. Just like when they become teens they'll have their own kind of rebellious streak.
This is why it's called "life". Something we all go through.
@@christins.1481 I don't know what kind of military household you grew up in darling but I can tell you one thing my brothers and sisters would have never acted like that!!! It was yes sir no sir yes mam no mam and when he told you to do something you did it, period!!!
So no, NOT ALL KIDS ACT LIKE THAT!!!
@@joyicechase2418 and you remember how you acted when you were 3 years old?
"They don't learn by you teaching them, who they gonna learn by?"
Gold.
You know they ain't gonna learn from the justice system. If they get to that point, you've failed.
A beautiful father who loves his daughter. God Bless him. She is adorable.
I wish this guy was in charge of raising 97% of the "adults" we got in the US right now
Can we acknowledge how this man never once raised his voice
Your name confused me for a moment 😂
@@multifandom_comfort_charac6894 sameeeee
Yes as someone who has confict problems i cant stand raised voices it scares me. So i really appreciate that.
He said he raised his voice in his house but not in public
He did not raise his voice. But he was very aggressively toned. He also judged her very very negatively. She is a child. She’s not a fool. She’s not whining. We can have the same boundaries and be non-aggressive Her desires and feelings are valid. That doesn’t always mean she will get what she wants. Processing feelings in a healthy way will allow her to let go and except more quickly. His response to her and his words to her might be taken ass he doesn’t care about her. Or he may not be someone she is comfortable opening up to in the future.
She's so lucky to have such a great Dad. Too many parents can't be bothered.
He is putting his child's socialization _before_ the rest of his life. If you take 2 hours to shop, but you teach your kid something real, it is worth it.
Well said
All 👏 the 👏 time 👏
The role of parents is to ensure your children can successfully integrate into society, becoming functional members. Otherwise, your child will grow up recognizing that everyone around them doesn't like them, because no one likes a whiny child - and then, you have bigger problems than just a whiny kid. The child not accepted by the village will burn it down to feel it's warmth. Jordan Peterson puts this type of parenting into really good words.
it's very useful having a stay at home parent for this very reason.
hell yes NOW THIS IS THE TRUTH!!
Best dad of the Year! 🥇
He let her know who's in charge in a loving gentle way. She'll respect him the rest of her life!
Well done Dad! 🎉
Dad did a great job calming her down without yelling. She’s just adorable!
Watching her in the background “:,o” all confused about what he is saying and somehow also listening, so cute
Adorable is so true. Beautiful little girl, and God bless her daddy for doing a good job.
This man is a wise father. He has emotional restraint and maturity. He knows his daughter isn't just a child, but a future adult. His daughter will grow into a very strong person with his wisdom.
This girl is so lucky to have a father like this. He remained in total control and achieved his aim (of calming the child) without having to yell or smack. Teaches children emotional intelligence and emotional regulation as well. So cool 😎
I don't agree. My mother treated me this way whenever I was upset because she just like this man did not wanna "spoil me". As if consouling your kid is spoiling. I remember how it made me feel. I felt alone and like nobody understood me and my feelings. Well it did made me resillient thats for sure, I'm very self sufficient now as an adult. But at what cost?
@@RE-xv9fp stop wining. Some of us didn't even get what you had
@@solomonalpha7846 She’s not whining
She can grow into a strong woman but not 2 strong. Pushes men away. Read Proverbs on how a woman must be.
Just brilliant. We also used to ask our daughter "Has doing this ever gotten you anywhere?" She'd say "No." End of tantrum.
@JBL what was the point in commenting that
They learn if you’re consistent and mean what you say. My preschoolers used to whine and beg until I asked them “What was my answer before?” and they realized I wasn’t going to cave in to their tantrums.
Chrstna Mari wow. Props for that response. I’m sorry you had to deal with your parents anger like that, I get what’s that’s like. Kids shouldn’t have to be the ones acting like the mature, reasonable adults in a relationship.
@@liaavery1748 Ah, tell me about it. 16 and feeling like a goddamn boomer with Einstein hair.
Chrstna Mari why was she raging tho?
A REAL MAN...A REAL FATHER ❤❤❤