I've returned here after I was told that I am avoident type by a guy who wants while I don't. I have told him I am not interested in more than a friendship. When I discovered this channel, more than 2 years ago, I was an anxious type, lol. So, I am fine the way I am and I struggle to tell this, a very good friend, repeatedly, that I don't want them :) Briana, thank you very much for all that you do.
Lol it's the new cool dating line I guess " ohh no no you actually want me, you don't know that because you're avoidant I took the quizz for you, it's your attachment style, so just listen and do as I say because you don't know yourself but I do " 😅😅
My mind is literally blown lol 🤯 I need a dictionary 😳 I struggled with that video, there is so much to digest with such intellectual wording. I am fairly bright but did not understand many areas of this video, and feel it needs to be explained in more detail and broken down more in layman’s terms. Thank you though for the parts I did understand 🤔
Deploy (make use, deployed my intuitive vocabulary btw) the pause button and the Transcript. Take your time, it’s ok to feel overwhelmed by both content density (i.e. lots of information without unnecessary fillers, gaps) and its succinct delivery. I can follow but it’s challenging to take in and process. It’s an art and extremely skilful to be able to convey such complex matters without deviation (going off piste).
I would rather someone use the intellect with me to help me deactivate. They actually understand what's happening, whereas "oh no, let's sit here while you feel your feelings" always comes across like a blanket dismissive statement
"We are not our emotions. We are not our thoughts. We are the part that reflects on our emotions and thoughts and decides which of those aligns with my values and my priorities and my beliefs and my principles." Emotions and thoughts are information on how well waking life aligns with personal values and all. This has been revelatory for me, thank you! Now, how to think of these things in the moment when facing someone...
Hey sister!I'm in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person.my partner is so avoidant and insecure as a person.He was broken from his past relationship.And when we starts a relationship he prioritised me enough and also given me effort.But now he doesn’t do with me as before.Now I have to initiate first for connection.Recently He told me that I'll leave him one day and he cannot be able to be a good husband.he also told me for just be a friend.He also afraid to investing anything on me.what can I do so that he'll be serious and focus about me and the relationship.How can I make him fall in love with me?I'm struggling for him and making relation work.I also want him to committed with me only.Is it possible to get Princess treatment from him?
Thank you for posting this inquiry. I understand it can be a painful and confusing experience. What you describe it sounds like it may be an “anxious avoidant trap” situation. These videos might offer some insight. When to Leave A Toxic Relationship, According to Your Chakras ua-cam.com/video/604gZk4iIFQ/v-deo.html The Anxious-Avoidant Trap or Divine Timing? How Can You Tell? ua-cam.com/video/kEYJqOb0JJw/v-deo.html Avoidant and Anxious Relationship Struggles: How to Spot the Trap ua-cam.com/video/C9Mr3R_Ykbg/v-deo.html [1 of 5] The Anxious Avoidant Trap: A Case of Like Sees Like ua-cam.com/video/yMOpdJM3Ot4/v-deo.html [2 of 5] 6 Signs of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap ua-cam.com/video/Kw0YMwKb6xo/v-deo.html Am I Anxious, or Are They My SoulMate? ua-cam.com/video/vNoxPtQdAIM/v-deo.html
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I've returned here after I was told that I am avoident type by a guy who wants while I don't. I have told him I am not interested in more than a friendship. When I discovered this channel, more than 2 years ago, I was an anxious type, lol. So, I am fine the way I am and I struggle to tell this, a very good friend, repeatedly, that I don't want them :) Briana, thank you very much for all that you do.
Lol it's the new cool dating line I guess " ohh no no you actually want me, you don't know that because you're avoidant I took the quizz for you, it's your attachment style, so just listen and do as I say because you don't know yourself but I do " 😅😅
My mind is literally blown lol 🤯 I need a dictionary 😳 I struggled with that video, there is so much to digest with such intellectual wording. I am fairly bright but did not understand many areas of this video, and feel it needs to be explained in more detail and broken down more in layman’s terms. Thank you though for the parts I did understand 🤔
Brooke Marchant Thank you for commenting. I’m glad the content has been helpful!
Deploy (make use, deployed my intuitive vocabulary btw) the pause button and the Transcript. Take your time, it’s ok to feel overwhelmed by both content density (i.e. lots of information without unnecessary fillers, gaps) and its succinct delivery. I can follow but it’s challenging to take in and process. It’s an art and extremely skilful to be able to convey such complex matters without deviation (going off piste).
Thank you! this is prefect! This is right where I am. I love the real life examples you give.
I would rather someone use the intellect with me to help me deactivate. They actually understand what's happening, whereas "oh no, let's sit here while you feel your feelings" always comes across like a blanket dismissive statement
This is pure gold
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Thank you for watching in for commenting! I’m glad you like the video.
Thank you!! So perfect! exactly where i am right now
How do you work with repressed feeling of helplessness pls?
"We are not our emotions. We are not our thoughts. We are the part that reflects on our emotions and thoughts and decides which of those aligns with my values and my priorities and my beliefs and my principles." Emotions and thoughts are information on how well waking life aligns with personal values and all. This has been revelatory for me, thank you! Now, how to think of these things in the moment when facing someone...
Hey sister!I'm in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person.my partner is so avoidant and insecure as a person.He was broken from his past relationship.And when we starts a relationship he prioritised me enough and also given me effort.But now he doesn’t do with me as before.Now I have to initiate first for connection.Recently He told me that I'll leave him one day and he cannot be able to be a good husband.he also told me for just be a friend.He also afraid to investing anything on me.what can I do so that he'll be serious and focus about me and the relationship.How can I make him fall in love with me?I'm struggling for him and making relation work.I also want him to committed with me only.Is it possible to get Princess treatment from him?
Thank you for posting this inquiry. I understand it can be a painful and confusing experience.
What you describe it sounds like it may be an “anxious avoidant trap” situation.
These videos might offer some insight.
When to Leave A Toxic Relationship, According to Your Chakras ua-cam.com/video/604gZk4iIFQ/v-deo.html
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap or Divine Timing? How Can You Tell? ua-cam.com/video/kEYJqOb0JJw/v-deo.html
Avoidant and Anxious Relationship Struggles: How to Spot the Trap ua-cam.com/video/C9Mr3R_Ykbg/v-deo.html
[1 of 5] The Anxious Avoidant Trap: A Case of Like Sees Like ua-cam.com/video/yMOpdJM3Ot4/v-deo.html
[2 of 5] 6 Signs of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap ua-cam.com/video/Kw0YMwKb6xo/v-deo.html
Am I Anxious, or Are They My SoulMate? ua-cam.com/video/vNoxPtQdAIM/v-deo.html
Sounds like me.
Part 2?
It is out