WHY TO NEVER GIVE AN ABUSIVE NARCISSIST ANOTHER CHANCE
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- Опубліковано 27 кві 2024
- #narcissismawareness #narcissisticabuse It's nice to give people a chance to redeem themselves and make things right, but when you're dealing with an abusive narcissist, that is exactly the wrong thing to do. Narcissists do not see second chances the same way that most people do, and will only punish the people that show them grace.
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They DO NOT get better. They only get worse as they age.
“I never said that!”
“I didn’t say that!”
I gave him another chance. He got 10x worse in less than 3 weeks. It’s a psychological whiplash. You can’t come back from that.
I left my narc “adult “ daughter alone for a month. When I called her then, she exploded at me in one of the worst vitriolic tirades I’ve ever been subject to. Nice daughter 🧙♀️
"I'm not doing anything wrong". "I only did it once and I didn't mean it".
“Wise Quote of the Day:
"Don't blame a clown for acting like a clown. Blame yourself for going to the circus." -unknown 😁🥵🤔
Don't waste your life on these people.
You're right, taking them back is telling them that there are no real consequences for what they've done. They get worse if you go back and they aren't satisfied or done with you until they end up kicking you to the curb.
Thank you! ⚘️☀️🙏🏻
The person you fell in love with never existed!! In facing this reality you will begin to heal. The narcissist has no true identity. God bless you all on this journey
Her apology, " I only slept with 2 guys". My jaw hit the floor.
“Why are you worried about some 22 year old guy? It’s only sex.”
Hurt so bad at the time . Now I just laugh .
Damn bro 😢
I follow many channells about toxicity and narcissism, and i find yours to be super informative and proffesional. Thank u
ThankYou! Bless all of us who have had to deal with this horror we’ve been put through in our lives by these monsters 💔
"I never meant to hurt you"
Yes. Yes they DID mean to hurt you. They did. They meant to hurt you. That was the goal. That was the mission. To hurt YOU.
Never let them back. The chances are that you don't know what had been going on behind your back at the hands of someone who is a morally redundant, dangerous and manipulative liar. That's what I'm only now starting to find out fours YEARS after the end of my marriage to a woman who on the surface was smart, sweet and innocent but also a typical poor me, damsel in distress. I had no idea.
Love Marshall!
Marshall!
A handsome boy!
This is so true. I love the term different realities. It helps me to understand how they function. I love Marshall. I have two little buddies Basil and Sage! Thank you for this video 🙏🙏🙏
The depth and breadth of this lady's knowledge is as impressive as her ability to impart this knowledge.
28:37 they don’t even think of you as a human being. You are an appliance, something to be used for their convenience and then replaced if you stop working. With the same level of thought and emotion as throwing away a toaster that is broken and buying another one off the shelf.
The "sorry, not sorry" story. Fifteen years ago, I made the mistake of accepting the I'm sorry story. I looked back at the "apology" email. He wrote he was sorry and that he behaved badly, BUT I was not doing things that make him feel like he was loved. It was the faux apology by blaming me. Unfortunately, I gave him a second chance because I didn't want to be the one to end his family. I believed he had seen the light of his bad behavior and assumed he would change. Four years ago, I ended our 35 year marriage because he never changed and had continued the same bad behavior. In fact it was deja vu. Great video!
Congratulations on leaving! I am sure your life changed--for the better.
30:57 you are holding on to a trauma bond. There is no relationship. You are are on full blown dopamine, oxytocin withdrawal. This is harder to quit than a heroin addiction! Please remember that the kinds of abuse they use on you are actually the exact same ones used on prisoners of war. So show yourself some grace. Find out who YOU are. You are not meant to live like this! Put yourself first. And if it feels difficult putting yourself first. That is all the more proof that you have been abused. Set boundaries for EVERYONE in your life.
Two weeks after we got engaged: “she’s the one that made a pass at me, I didnt go looking for it”
Three conditions for entry. Cover charge if you will….
1. Therapy for Narcissistic Personality Disorder for 3 Years (no missed appointments).
2. Couples Therapy for Betrayal Trauma and Infidelity (minimum 1 year)
3. Born Again through Baptism and Church twice weekly.
4. Full Access Keyloggers on all devices.
Any violation is the permanent end. Good faith on my part is I will pay half of couples therapy.
This is just for access. To get into your life. No kissing, sex, courting. Friends and exclusivity (no dating or chatting up others).
Too controlling? All the best.
On the 29th of May I will be celebrating 2 years without that demon! Life only gets sweeter! 🌷🍇🥂🍾💃🏾❤💕🏖❤️
My absolute fav statement:
It wasn’t that bad, because if it was you wouldn’t still be here!
Narcissistic person
“We were mad at each other “
That was his perspective of me cutting him off for some extreme disrespect! We were mad at each other ? 😳😳😳
I cannot tell you how much you are helping me. You are such a blessing to all the people who are being abused in this toxicity. I have listened to a lot of professionals and you say you aren’t a professional but you explain things in such a way that shines light in my darkness. I have been in a fog of second guessing, thinking I don’t forgive enough, wondering if I am mean to say finally after almost 30 years that I can’t do this anymore. My soul is broken. Your video on how Narcissists see you was such a revelation to me. It cleared some of my fog and helped to see. Bless you, God Bless you is all I can say. Please keep doing these videos, you have a gift of explaining things and I don’t even know if that addresses it enough. You are just a blessing ❤
Hey 🐈😺!
Have you done any videos on why narcissists come back after years? You haven't had any contact with them in 10 years or more and all of a sudden they're trying to reconnect with you, why do they come back after years, are they hoping you'll just have forgotten everything they did?
We are all supply. They can hoover for one reason only. You are supply. They're always searching for someone, anyone, anytime, any place anywhere.
#GREYROCK
#BLOCK
#DELETE
#NOCONTACT
#IMDONE 😅
Mine ex came back after 5 yrs. But what I didn't know was that he got a child with another. At that point I suppose that she discarded him. I was only old supply.
I like how you get to the point! One of the few channels on narcs I always go to immediately when a new video pops up.
Thank you for this video ❤ this subject matter really gets to me because I have had so many remorseful breakups with narcissist, but I always knew if this man had treated me right, hell even treated me human i would never have broken up with him, I'm not a flighty person who takes relationships mildly, I only enter into passionate loyal relationships, not to mention I am a good character analyst. I love your kitty 🐈❤😇
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You are so awesome, sooo insightful, and articulate!!! you are so helpful, I wonder if you would ever collaborate with Dr. Ramani? You should get 1000 Nobel prizes! Thank you so much !!!! 👍❤❤❤
This is so helpful. To know they have a different reality!! I really appreciate your videos!
You are wonderful and such a beautiful person, I appreciate all you have shared. I've been through a lot , it's amazing how it all comes down me and recognize my growing up background. It takes so long to get here, to admit personally how we all live in a certain amount of denial, or self coping, or self protection...this is a huge topic and needs to be respected, it has become a buzz word now days.... thanks for all your doing
Mine cheated and literally said to my face that it was my fault bc he’s been waiting for me to be women enough to leave him.. and that he was just using me for my energy
I’m sorry, you deserve better. If he won’t apologize for that I will! I hope you have moved on.
👍❤️😻
and then i call her on the how many men she has and i am the bad guy lol got rid of her tho