THE NARCISSIST IS A FRAUD
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- Опубліковано 28 гру 2021
- #narcissist #narcissisticabuse The narcissist lives their entire life as a fraud. They are not only out of touch with their authentic selves, but are deeply ashamed and dissatisfied with anything about them that is real. It's important to know that this extends to their relationships and how they express their feelings and intentions to those closest to them.
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Bloody hell this is frightening.
Narcissists are empty soulless shells.
The lights are on but there is no one home.
The most crazymaking quote of a narcissist: “I DIDN’T SAY THAT!!!”
😜🤪😳😬☠️🥵🤬🤯😱
THEY'RE SO WORTHLESS, THEY HAS NOTHING TO OFFER !!!!
And what's even worse, they think everyone else is.
They need a plethora of human props around them to realistically validate the fraud.
This is the best version of what a Narcissist really is, A blank sheet of paper waiting to write its delusional story, the worst.
You nailed that!!
I had a narc ex who's best friend died. He went round to his dead friends mum's house as did everyone else. When I asked him how it went, he said that he wouldn't go back round there the next day with all his other friends. When I asked him why he replied because "everyone was crying." I asked him if he cried and he said no. Just by the look on his face I could tell that he did not feel what everyone else felt, their tears were an inconvenience for him. He basically was just going so he can spend time with all his friends, it was just a social event to him. The sad thing is his best friend that died thought so much of the narc that he even named his son after him. They are truly empty shells, and if they weren't so cruel we would feel really sorry for them.
I have seen the same thing
Was his name derek?
Mine said “ my mother better not die this weekend because I am going to a wedding no matter what!” It was stunning!
2 many people are just evil today. I can't deal with that. They have a aura that is toxic.
Literally The Twilight Zone
This is so absolutely true! Thanks for the tension releasing belly laughs 😂!! That’s what hearing the truth does: it uncovers lies and mocks the devil, who has no sense of humor.
The funny thing is they are reliant on the adulation of people that see as less than them.
Yes! It is funny how dependent they are on people they have no respect for.
Real talk that is needed, CMIK! A few too many people IMHO try to say that they are knowingly jealous inferiors who are trying to trick us into thinking they're superiors.
I think it's far worse than that. Those folks are completely delusional in exactly the way that you say.
Initially? Of course not. Then that mask slips and slips.
Clues to this false self? The way they're hypercritical of others in the idealization phase. Till they start doing it to me, their target all along
This is crazy. You just described my husband to a "t"
Years ago psychologists called this creating a shared fantasy. We become a character in their drama and you are in the end , replaceable. There is an absence that you feel when you see this dissonance about how they act. It made me blame myself because I felt this emptiness and I could not put my finger on it. They take a snap shot picture of you in their minds when you first meet them and that is who they relate to. My X had a decade long affair and also cheated on her, as well and when this came to light he said, " Oh , they were just balls in the air". If they put you in unrealistic dangerous situations, it is delving in psychopathy. You are very wise in your observations because I am a senior and I am impressed at your clarity.
Sam vaknin and Richard Grannon go into depth on it. Scary these people are out here running most businesses
The emptiness you speak of,M, feels like standing on the edge of a cliff, with a queezy stomach. It’s how we feel when we give someone a gift, and they don’t ever say thank you. We expect normal civility and courtesy in our daily interactions, and so wait for the thank you……but it doesn’t come. It’s a small form of silent treatment. Being ignored.
@@BigRebel0802 Yes. It is another opportunity for them to discount you and appear to get away with it. Stone walling you , as if to say " Do you really expect me to give?" They all do this power play.
How are they so expert at totally demolishing a marriage and family, and then make it look to everyone that they were the victim?? I can’t even fathom that level of twisted mind. 😜
I could give this a million thumbs up. Everything you said was my life with my ex narc/fiance for 7 years!
Mine too. Exactly. 20 years before the final discard at age 62. Truly mind blowing!
To a narcissist: Your facts are 'opinion'. Their opinions are 'facts'.
If a narcissist says 2 + 2 = 5, then it is 'true' as 'proven' because the narcissist said it. And if you disagree then you're 'wrong' because your facts do not match the narcissists opinion. That's the warped thinking of a narcissist.
Very well said.
They really think they are godlike. It's their world and we need to worship them.🙄
I think most of them know they are creating a facade for you, just playing a character they created just for you. But for them the relationship is something else, not what they present it to be to you. Because they are always juggling multiple relationships so it’s all fake and they know it. You are never the only one. There is always a back up plan that they are grooming just in case or trying to bring into the relationship.
Nailed it!
You made a great point when you said there’s nothing real for the narcissist to present anyway. That is so true. They have to keep a façade going because there’s nothing but emptiness underneath the mask. My ex narc was so crazy. They would repeat lines from movies in real life, and also depict actions of scenes of movies and put it into real life. Talk about running out of narcissistic supply. They always needed new material and didn’t care where they got it. When I called them out on it, they acted like I was insane.
to me the problem is not them. It is me. I have trouble standing firm in my beliefs as they come at me.
Yes, my narcissistic mother was a fraud/hypocrite !!
Yes, he is a fraud. I am still wondering why only so less people are saying this !
I am amazed every time I listen to your videos. You may not have professional training or degrees, yet you NAIL it all down with such specificity, accuracy, and truth! There are some great pros out there with very educational info, but your videos help me feel so validated in precisely what I witnessed and what I am now understanding if a 20 year relationship with a covert narc who ripped me and my life to shreds. It is as if you had a relationship with the same guy!
It hurts like hell but it is the reality. I wish I had understood the red flags I saw early on for what they really were. I hope that his new supply in Utah does not suffer the way I have. This man can never actually love or emotionally connect with anyone, and he has been this way his entire life. It can never change.
When all the whirlwind vacations and adventures calm down, and the love bombing ends, she will learn who he really is, and it isn’t anything she thinks.
Thank you for these videos!! They help!
Yes I had to discard my ex narcissist! I noticed his patterns became more frequent and then came the future faking and hovering! I had enough cause clearly he didn't care about my feelings and just disregard everything that we've talked about! I did everything for him to try and keep him happy! But the fact that he could walk away so easily from a two year relationship without trying to work on things or himself, is enough confirmation for me to stay away and never look back!! It's sad that these relationships means absolutely nothing to them!! They are truly cruel pathetic creatures!! The hardest pill to swallow for me is that for the first time in my life I was in a fake relationship! Its really hard to grasp!
I totally agree with you !
That’s the sad truth, to even think about it the relationship which meant so is important to me, was just a fake relationship.
All my creativity was taken away for a few days,I couldn't think,at first I thought it was just a short spell but it continued for days. I began to panic but at the same time I realized that everyone still saw me to be the same person,so not to lead them on, I started to pretend to be me and really felt like I had no choice, there was nobody there (inside). I felt like I might never get back myself. It was at this point that i realized how a narcissist felt EVERYDAY OF THEIR LIVES. It turned out I was coming down with the flu, after recovering everything came back to normal,but the lesson learnt was invaluable. Now I understand,now when I pray I make intercessions for all narcissist, actually I pray for all those that lost their way. One have to experience existing without an anchor to relate,and I give thanks for that experience.
Jeez Louise you’ve got this down to a science! I feel so validated listening to this
So many great insights…thank you!
YOU ARE SO ARTICULATE AT DESCRIBING THE NARCISSISTIC CONDITION AND HOW IT AFFECTS US. SO GLAD TO LEARN FROM YOUR CHANNEL.
Thank you! This is one of the very best videos on this craziness we've been through. It perfectly describes my four years spent with my sneaky conniving ex-girlfriend. She truly wanted me to give up everything in the hopes it would all work out with her....after she left her husband and nuked their 10 year marriage to run off and marry me. it actually started to scare me with the thought of starting my life over at 46 years old all the while dealing with her psychotic behavior i saw the whole time. she turned out to be a true rat-snake stealing $1200 from me before the discard for the new guy in the end. A total waste of four years of my life. Lesson learned.
So sounds like you were having an affair with her behind her husbands back? I’m not sure you’re the “good” character in this storyline either. Sounds like you two 💩 are meant to be together.
I just think you blew off a bunch of good hearted, decent women in your league to be in hot pursuit of some really pretty unavailable girl who was out of your league physically and you jumped at the opportunity to white knight your way into being with her because under any other circumstances she never would have given you the time of day if she was solid in her marriage, and emotionally and financially stable. You purposefully positioned yourself to get close to an out of your league hot girl with emotional, relationship, and financial problems.
Meanwhile there's a woman or women out there who are emotionally and financially stable who have probably tried to date you multiple times and express their desire to marry you but you overlooked them because maybe they weren't the prettiest or skinniest or most charming woman in the room but they would have loved you unconditionally and pulled their weight financially and would have always been dependable and loyal. So your loss buddy.
You are right on!
Whatever your name is, Ms. BehindtheMirror, it just hit me that with your simple truths and authentic personality, without personal animosity, you are exactly like the boy who TOLD THE EMPEROR THAT HE WAS WEARING NO CLOTHES!! It breaks the dam of pretense and deceit and releases pentup apprehensions of telling the truth. No more. No more.
Absolutely! 💯
Yes...im so happy i left him and his night crawlers alone... honestly
Nice c2c blanket on the couch. Great video too.
Haha. Thanks!
Having a narcicistic father has prevented me from having a life and has gotten me to the worst stages of life and I feel like it doesnt represent me. It's like bad luck all over. I'm always desperate
Gosh!!! The part about them just leaving you so unexpectedly and cruelly is exactly what happened to me! And she didn’t blink an eye. No feelings or remorse at all!! evil
Thank you for opening my eyes.
Thank you for the info. I'm not crazy at all,he is. I need more videos.
More videos are coming! Thanks for watching. I’m glad it’s helpful. ❤️
This is so accurate.👏👏👏💥 Well done💕
Thanks 4 the bulletin
My brother WAS Robert DeNiro, from the movie Goodfellas, for several years. So weird! 😂
Yes, this all feels so accurate (and even specific!) to my experience. Thank you!
Can you please do a video about how they turn blame and accountability upside down? They cause what they accuse us of doing? I’m actually afraid of thinking through how they do that, because I’m afraid it’s contagious 😷.
Love from India
Incredibly brilliant, thank you!
All well said ty
Awesome video!
It’s so bizarre how the narcissist in my life was my female doctor, MARRIED mother of FOUR.
I _never_ expected her to be anything but my doctor, but then one day she coerced me into undergoing a physical where she molested me against my will.
I didn’t realize that when she had prescribed me Prozac for my depression and anxiety, it would become a psychological LEASH by which she could coerce me into things against my will.
It’s so hard fighting back against someone like this. At least 25% of the people I tell this story to think I’m crazy because “you’re SUPPOSED to get your nuts fondled during a physical.”
Yeah. If you KNEW ahead of time that’s what was going to happen AND you agreed to it!
I filmed one saying something and they said,"That is not me. I am sorry you think it is . I never said that." that person never said what they said,,,,,,,,,,,,ever,,,,,ruined my life,they can be high achieving in a way,but respond like they are insane to make you insane.
happy new year my friend.....looking forward to watch your videos in 2022
Spot on.
Talented mr rippley
Look behind the mirror
I'm a content creator and hundreds if not thousands constantly and consistently steal my material. I can rest well knowing hell awaits them
Right on great insight ty❤😊
A lion can tell you they want to be a zebra like you and make it sound sweet but at the end of the day it's still going to eat you and you're going to be left for dead while they are fueled up for their next hunt and kill another just like that.
Wise old birds.
Thank you 🙏
Tell me about it. (eye-rolls) My husband's narcissistic SIL spent years telling us about how "great" she is at work, and how much work everyone dumps on her, so she's the victim (projection). She was certain that she would get a job promotion when her supervisor retires. Fast forward to the present and yes, her supervisor has retired, but she's doing all the extra work without a promotion attached. This is also the same person who told everyone that she already knows how to parent, when she was only pregnant with her first, and she does not touch nor interact with my kids.... Narcissists are definitely frauds.
You forgot 'values'.
Conartist
They are the “salt sucker” creature as depicted in the original 1967 Star Trek series.
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“You got this lion, he’s the king of the jungle. Huge mane out to here. He’s laying down under a tree, in the middle of Africa, he’s so big, it's so hot! He doesn’t wanna move. Now, the little lion cubs they start messin’ with him, bitin’ his tail, bitin’ his ears, he doesn’t do anything. The lioness, she starts messing with him, coming over making trouble, still nothing. Now the other animals, they notice this, and they start to move in. The jackals, hyenas, they’re barking at him, laughing at him. They nip his toes and eat the food that’s in his domain. They do this and they get closer and closer and bolder and bolder, till one day…that lion gets up and tears the shit outta everybody, runs like the wind, eats everything in his path, ’cause every once in a while, the lion has to show the jackals who he is.” -Poolhall Junkies
If you want to be a lion trainer don't be surprised if it rips off your arm one day despite years of "bonding". You can still like or love lions but you need to know what they are. No need to hate lions for being lions. Just stay away from them if you like having limbs or staying alive and if you want to work with lions at a zoo then just know the risks and what to expect.
Name them. I can. Can you.
UA-camr batel skater said narcissists don’t even have a soul.
I personally think it’s more accurate to say that they are completely detached from their authentic identity. The idea of a soul means very different things to different people.
“Evil comes from a failure to think. It defies thought for as soon as thought tries to engage itself with evil and examine the premises and principles from which it originates, it is frustrated because it finds nothing there. That is the banality of evil.”
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Hannah Arendt, Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil
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“The Banality of Evil”
“Evil comes from a failure to think. It defies thought for as soon as thought tries to engage itself with evil and examine the premises and principles from which it originates, it is frustrated because it finds nothing there. That is the banality of evil.”
Hannah Arendt, Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil
Tags: banality-of-evil, eichmann