You MUST hear this message! Trauma therapist REACTS to Disturbed Reason to Fight Official Live video
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- Опубліковано 9 жов 2023
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This is my first ever reaction to the band Disturbed and I loved this. Such a powerful song with such a powerful message!
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🙎🏻♂️ WHO AM I?
I am a BABCP accredited cognitive and behavioural psychotherapist living in the south of England. I specialise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and predominantly work with people who have experienced trauma to help them move forward with their lives. Its a job I absolutely love and connects with my own values and purpose.
On this UA-cam channel I try and make information more accessible by discussing psychological concepts through reacting to popular media.
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PhD (trauma informed services)- Ongoing - University of Chester
Master of Science (MSc) Psychology - Manchester Metropolitan University
Post Graduate Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (High Intensity Workers) - University of Birmingham
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) (Levels 1,2,3,4) - University of Worcester
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) Child and Adolescent Level 1 and 2) - Child Trauma Therapy Centre
Bachelor of Science (BSc) Mental Health Nursing - Розваги
Thank you for doing my request. Unfortunately, I think you're right that not much has changed. It is SO hard to get the words out, "I'm in crisis and I need help" AND who do you say it to because it does feel shameful and embarrassing. I try to get reactions to this song on as many different genres of shows as possible in hopes of reaching different audiences. Hopefully, someone who watches your reaction will feel like they CAN ask for help and they are not alone. I'm sure that by doing this video, you saved at least one life. Thank you again!!!
I saw Disturbed for the first time a few months ago and my crowd had the same reaction as the crowd in the video - just about every hand in the air. David Draiman was visibly upset at the end of the song. It must be hard for him and the band to see so much suffering in the audience members at all of the shows.
I do feel like the official music video would've been more impactful from a therapy standpoint, despite the obvious draw of recommending a more impressive live performance. The imagery in the music video is just an absolutely fantastic representation of the struggle of alcoholism (and addiction in general).
Edit: Nevermind. I didn't know about the testimonials and the speech. I do still think that it wouldn't be a bad idea to watch the music video first, and this second. That way you can have a bit of an idea of the lyrics, and that will help focus on the testimonials without wondering in the back of your mind what lyrics were in the background.
I do wish you heard more of the song in this version. I feel like the studio video focus is on addiction and my focus is on depression. You do miss most of the song though which is a shame.
David Draiman is a strong advocate for strengthening mental health.
I’m 63 and have survived 3 suicide attempts. Undiagnosed mental illness. 10 yrs meth addiction. Halloween is my 16 yr anniversary of getting clean. I was diagnosed bi-polar type-2 when I was 54. If it wasn’t for the love and support of my family, I probably wouldn’t be here right now. I’m now properly medicated but still have bad days. I have an awesome therapist and psychiatrist who work together. I thank god for them. Thank you for what you do. This video always makes me cry but in a cathartic way. What David and Disturbed are doing is beyond wonderful. I myself am an advocate for both addiction and mental disorders. My youngest daughter recently spent 2 weeks in a mental facility. She then entered rehab for adderall addiction. She is now living in a sober living house and doing amazing. It took her 2 yrs to finally come to me for help even though she knew I would understand having been through it myself. She said that she couldn’t because of how she treated me during my struggles. She told me that was unforgiving for a very long time and felt like a hypocrite. Greetings from Southern California. Once more THANK YOU.
You are NOT Alone! Big hug...
Of course you're still going to have bad days, every person does. 2 big things I've learned in the 15 years since being diagnosed: 1 - There is no such thing as "normal" because it is relative (and honestly, I hate the term. I'm not even the black sheep of the family, I'm tie-dyed with polka dots). 2- We are always learning about our diagnoses, however if you(general, not specific) know 1 person with bipolar, you know 1 person with Bipolar. It shows up different for me than it does for my cousin.
I checked myself into a psychiatric hospital, I was diagnosed bipolar 1. A year after all the trial and error, we found a medicine cocktail that worked. The psychiatrist I saw changed my dx after another 6 months, it's multi-tier: Rapid Cycling Bipolar 1 with Anxiety and PTSD. Some days it's a gigantic PITA, especially after I developed an allergy to Lamictal (Stevens-Johnson Syndrome ...mild case thankfully) so on the merry-go-round of medicine searching again I went.
But you aren't in the trenches alone.💞💚💙🧡🤍 from Oklahoma
I remember when Robin Williams died, and my FIL was like, “He has everything. What was there to be depressed about?” Depression doesn’t care about what you have. It doesn’t care if you have a loving family, people who adore you, or all the money you could ever want.
Having struggled with depression myself Robins death was the first celebraty to really hit me. The fact that someone that could make the world laugh could could fall to such a thing really hurt.
Being at their concert, hearing those words from David, being one of the many to raise my hand, i have to say it was an emotional and powerful moment that had me in tears.
If just one person asked me 'How can I help?', I would fall to the floor in tears. No one believes me anymore. Their disbelief does not negate my pain, but it does limit the people that care about me. It's so hard to stay positive.
i realise i will probably never see you in person, i’m just a person on the internet. but if there’s anything i can do, i will. we’re all in this together. i believe you, and i believe in you💜
Another really good one by them is "Inside the Fire" although the video does come with a viewer discretion advised warning for good reason. The song and video basically cover survivors guilt and the thoughts and feelings of those left behind by someone that ended themselves. The video especially is brutal and on the nose but as a survivor myself, I think these sort of conversations need to be brutal and on the nose.
You've got my interest with that one. Going to check it out...
@@TherapistReactsOfficial CAREFUL!!! This video depicts a dramatized suicide including a hanging body with heavy dramatic make-up to make it look real. You may want someone to pre-watch it and let you know if it's appropriate. I guess you can always do a reaction and not post it if it's too much.
A good Linkin Park song to really understand what Chester was going through in 2017 is Heavy. The first single released from One More Light album. The music video for Heavy is the last Linkin Park music video he did before he died.
If you enjoy this song for it's emotional weight I highly suggest also checking out "The Light" from Disturbed as well. It's one of the best uplifting and empowering songs i've ever connected with anyway.
This is an EXTREMELY powerful song. I cry every time. In answer to your question of would I talk to someone if I was in that kind of pain, my answer is no. Not even the anonymous phone lines. When I'm in that space, I don't want to be talked out of it. Even if I might be terribly lonesome, I don't want to have my mind changed. And that's because I know this is a cycle and I will go through it again and again and again. It never stops.
PLEASE do MORE reactions to Disturbed!!
They are an amazing band musically and in their messages.
David Draiman and the rest of the band are completely open about their battles with addiction and mental health.
The Light
Hold on to the Memories
Into The Fire
Are all emotionally powerful.
Ten Thousand Fists
Indestructible
and the list goes on are more heavy metal sounds
In every one of the videos, you will find comment after comment that these songs have helped SAVE their lives.
I use their music as just music but sometimes to access deeper emotions that need to be released.
I have been a firefighter for 25 years and through professional and personal tragedies I have some issues that can be overwhelming at certain times especially.
Over the last year I've made two friends that I now have a deeper connection that maybe anyone else in my life.
They are the first people I've ever let in completely. The relief that gives me is indescribable.
Yes, too many times we seek to say to others that it's ok to struggle and ask for help but when it comes to ourselves we downplay it or just don't recognize how much we are struggling.
There are few things that hit me emotionaly but this song is one that always make me cry. I am a survivor of 2 suicide attempts and i still suffer from depression every day
I'm a social worker suffering from depression and anxiety. I am in a good head space right now. I haven't talked about this at work, because I feel like I'd be judged. As in how can she work with these people, when she is struggling with the same things as they are. I think that makes me a great social worker. Because there are no THEM and US. There are only people. Fragile and strong. ❤
Another Disturbed song that brings me hope, when I'm feeling bad is The Light. It is an amazing fight song. 👌🏻
Thanks for your insightful reactions.
Thank you for your wonderful and emotional reaction. I saw Disturbed in July and after this song David said that back in April he almost joined his friends who are now gone. It was extremely powerful. His raw emotions scream so loud and go straight into my heart.
Thanks again for your insights.
As a member of the armed forces and having struggled with a lot of these issues thank you for sharing this with others
This is an awesome song. I just wept throughout. Depression (and addiction as well) make it so difficult to ask for help, to feel like a burden to the ones we love. And in my experience, we also try to hide the worst feelings behind smiles. I’m so glad that I’ve found a support system that looks behind the smiles and really checks in. And I have learned to check in with others. ❤️
I am a alcoholic
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Hang in there. Help is available if you're ready for it. I care.
Hi,ive been fighting depression for over 5 years now & 18 months ago i had to help my son whos depression almost took him (he was 12) He now lives with his dad & is doing soooo much better 👍👍
This is one of my favourite songs ever,the music,the message, the lyrics are just brilliant 💖🎶💖🎶
I'd love to see a reaction to Linkin Park's One More Light - either the official video or the live version immediately after Chris Cornell's passing. LP has countless amazing tracks, but that one is something else. Life saving words. And overwhelmingly painful to know how close it was released to Chester's passing. But the message, hearing that even if no one else cares about a stranger's life, or just that you BELIEVE no one does, he does. "Who cares if one more light goes out, well I do."
Similarly, the song "Sara" by We Three would be powerful and broach the uncomfortable topics - esp knowing your young clientele and your reactions to songs like Dominoes. The tale of a teen just trying to get by and everyone looking away bc she's a lil too rough around the edges and somewhat written off as a lost cause by adults. Only for her to take drastic measures and he then counts down some minutes. It's painful, but also a voice calling to the kids in her shoes that someone does see them, even if their immediate surroundings don't. It's powerful.
This I. Concert was so powerful this is the anthem I turn to when I am low and hurting it gives me strength
Such a powerful song and performance. Gives me chills every time I watch this. Thanks for reacting to this one ❤
Dayum almost 15K SUBS you deserve it 🔥🔥🔥
Yes ! Its growing pretty quick. Quicker than I ever thought it would! Thanks so much for the support.
The day a medical professional said "I believe you" ie the day my life changed, I'm 34 and have attempted my life 20+ times..... once upon a time I hated that I failed but I'm learning to enjoy life one day at a time. To anyone struggling, you can get through it, you can survive and the world is better with you in it ❤
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I found disturbed and love their underlying messages. The tears fall freely whenever I hear or view them. My mum was diagnosed with dementia in 2019. I'm her primary carer, left my job, and have been living in since the beginning of 2023, the hardest heartbreaking rollercoaster of emotions I finely asked NHS for help ..... I've never seen a brick wall built so quickly ongoing at the moment this I do know that if I'm diagnosed, I will not put my husband through this constant struggle
I lost my nephew to suicide and I've watched this about 10 times tonight and left comments on a couple. I just want to say i love you and miss you Jaime!!.. Uncle Shawn
Thank you for this. First time hearing it. Love your reaction and insights.
Thank you for the work you do. 💖🙋♀️
Thank you! I feel like the Rabbit in the fox's mouth. I freeze to get the words out. My sister committed suicide in Jan of 2020. I feel no shame in how she ended her life. She did have so much to live for, but I do feel guilty for not seeing it coming. My other siblings hide and shut me out. They don't want to talk to me about it and even my family doctor pushed me away. I will always love my sister, Nora, who was and always will be my big sister. I miss her dearly. 💔 Part of me is forever broken.💔 Rest in peace, Nora! I will always love you.
Thank you. As always your words are so meaningful. I wish more therapists had your mindset. I’m in my early 50’s and had my first contact with the mental health field at 15 or 16. I think it was during sick boi, you said “where does it hurt. And how can I help?” Not once has someone said anything like that to me. It brings me to tears. I can only hope things are shifting. I was made to feel broken, a problem, wrong to feel the way I did. My mental state is more stable but now I have chronic illness, so maybe it just shifted. Anyhow. Pls keep this going.
This song is absolutely amazing, I had a really close friend a number of years ago take is own life due to depression. It was a horrible time, there’s not a day I don’t think about him or miss him.
I just found your video by accident(now subscribed) I am a huge Disturbed fan so wanted to hear your reaction! I have fought Mental Health issues for 39yrs Bipolar with Psychotic Tendencies, Severe PTSD, IED, Disasocciative Disorder, and Emotional OCD I have been hospitalized(psych unit) 14times attempted self-extermination 6times and for a peroid of time was addicted to drugs and alcohol! This song has been a saving grace as the last couple yrs been having allot of Mental Health relapsing as long as I stay loyal to my meds I'm ok, but with some things been going through lately even with meds been rough! This song reminds me it's ok to speak about it, ask for help, it's not a shame, but something many people deal with daily and it's ok! Then it helps me to focus, to remember the positives in my life! Like you said we tend to loose focus! I don't have many people in my life support wise, but the ones I do know me well enough they can see when I am falling off track💖 Having a great support system is Very important even if it's just 1 or 2 thatcanmake a difference! Thank You for this video gonna go back check out your others!
Another great reaction! Killing it ♥️
Just found this channel. I love it, both in concept and execution. Keep up the great vids, you definitely need more subs man
Thanks for the support and kind words Layne
Wow. I'm in tears. Thank you.
getting goosebumps every time i hear this...and see how everybody gets their hands up... wow
thanks for yor thoughts on this and sharing this... its more than music
Unfortunately the 22 number often cited for veterans is a low estimate. There are grassroots support systems for them where people are available 24/7 to chat. Fortunately this is one issue I don't have, but I have spent hours and hours on the phone with veterans at risk. Working for every minute I can get and keep them talking. Everything in this video is so important.
I agree that there hasn't been a huge shift. Mental health terms are almost like the word "cancer". It makes people uncomfortable the second it's uttered, and then no one knows how to respond. Now people are more aware of it, accepting of it, AND still don't know how to react when presented with it. I feel that's where we're lacking. I fully disclose my diagnosis, and often follow up with a joke to ease the pressure on the person(s) I'm speaking with. Thankfully I am not at risk of self harm, but for people who are I can see this uncomfortable reaction being very discouraging.
Great reaction, and thank you for your humanness in both the discomfort, and the empathy that you show.
REMEMBER: "YOU ARE NOT ALONE"
Thank you. As someone that has suffered in silence for years, I shared this video with my wife. You basically described what I'm going through in words that I've never been able to put together when given the opportunity to talk about it. I think that beyond telling us to share and ask for help, it would be great if there was some guidance on how to talk about it.
Hi Jerry, thanks for taking the time to comment on my video and I am pleased that it was in some way helpful, that is entirely the point of my channel. I agree, there should be easily accessible guidance on how to facilitate these conversations because they could make a huge difference to people. I might think about doing something like that on my other therapy channel. Thanks again for sharing and take care.
If you haven't reacted to "Into the Fire"-Disturbed and "Coming Down"-Five Finger Death Punch. They are power, rough and good
100% AGREED!!!!
I feel like I’m being personally attacked. I never thought of things like what was discussed in the video but I’m glad I heard it.
I'm curious why this triggered you so much. I care.
Inside the fire is especially moving/heartbreaking
you are so correct in that more conversation needs to be done
Thank you for your reaction and kind heart.❤
I think that we have to start questioning our shared and reinforced narrative that pain equals shame and burden and must be stopped or numbed at all costs immediately. After my own deep painful out-of-any-control experience I've started questioning a lot of things especially our priming about pain. I know that it's human instinct to avoid pain but unfortunately (or fortunately) pain is very important part of our development and day-to-day life. We never understand it because as children we mostly are not allowed to experience it and be guided through it (avoided, distracted, minimized, dissmissed, ignored). There were few types of responses that I've met from people around in my experience - minimising (there is nothing really to be hurt), analyzing (of my own guilt in it) solution making what I have to do to get rid of pain or numb it), dissmissing (you are strong and it's easy for you to get through this), ignoring (my condition and me overall), avoiding (to avoid discomfort of witnessing pain), fear and hurt themselves (which brings lots of shame and guilt). But now I know what I needed most and didn't get - human warmth and love. Very simple without offering solutions or distractions or reasons. A kind of a parent loving hug and just being with me in it here and now. When we are in deep pain we need it not to become a trauma and it depends on how we are supported through this experience.
We buy into narrative of obligation of being happy and effective at all times no matter what the same way as we buy into narratives of success and beauty and emotional pain is stigmatized more than physical.
There is no life without pain and it would be horrible without it but our resilience and emotional capacity to tolerate it depends on how we frame it and on people around us from the first days of our lives. We don't need anyone to experience it instead of us or solve it for us, we need love and feeling of safety to be able to work it out and be more loving humans ourselves.
Such wise words and resonates well with everything that I believe and trying to share. Thanks for sharing.
Another great one, among many, is The Light. Equally as powerful.
Maybe, even when you just talk about passive sui..ide, it could be that a friend or familymember don't take it serious, or even pushes you verbaly away. Not because of being bad persons. I think it's also some kind of coping for them. If it's because they never fehlt like this and can't imagine or it would be to hard to handle.
Wow, I’ve never heard of this one before. Very powerful. Thanks for your reaction and your thoughts on mental illness at the end
Thanks Jeff. Was a first for me too and found it very moving as you could probably see.
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This song helps me to continue living with ms, while grieving that I know that I will end up dead before I should.
This is tough to watch. We've probably all lost a loved one to it.
But it's so powerful. I didn't know how bad this is. All over the world
And I need to add, I had no idea Disturbed represent awareness for this massive problem. And they are doing everything in their power too. I absolutely love it.
They have saved a lot of people.
I'm speechless really. Hearing all these peoples stories.
Music is medicine
You should watch "Reason to live" by "Citizen Soldier".
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4 attempts to end myself. 7 mental health teams/groups. 3 of my attempts were halted by the police detaining me for a section. Supposedly, that's now been removed. That past attempt, i walked for hours until I passed out (still dealimg with infections to my feet today after less than a year). People recognise that There's a lack of support and yet funding is being cut. I'm unfortunate enough to live in Bristol. Most if not all support is shipped outward fo another town or city. Usually Keynsham. No offers for support. Just another damn pamphlet
I have nothing left inside. I have no-one to talk to. I think about suicide every day but carry on because of my cats. I am in constant physical and mental pain but I can’t abandon my animals.
Hang in there. Animals are wonderful companions. Hopefully yours are nice cats (LOL) because they have such diverse personalities. If you work, your company probably has a confidential EAP program where you can usually get free confidential therapy sessions. I'm glad you have something to hang on to. Know that there is at least one person out here that cares and hurts that you hurt. As a 5 time suicide survivor, I can tell you that things can get better. Hang in there.
@@ToadsNewMania Thank you for your lovely reply and support. Yeah my cats are great lol, they like to cuddle up with me (especially when the weather is cold, I’m sure it’s because they want to make sure I’m warm enough 😉). They lie on my chest sleeping for hours while I struggle to use my iPad. It’s amazing how much small cats can suddenly become huge when they’re stretched across your body, they can completely cut off movement in both arms at the same time. I’m glad you’re still here, you seem like a good person. Take care of yourself.
Stuart, you mentioned that we just talk around the issue and don't have the difficult conversations. I'd love to see a follow up video on what you think those conversations should be. I realize it might not be possible on UA-cam since I get the impression you can't even spell out the word sui(lde. But maybe you can talk around it a bit to get us headed in the right direction or just your thoughts on those deep conversations that need to happen.
Your comments about depressions blocking out the good memories, enhancing the bad and then sending you into freeze mode was very interesting and relevant to me.
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I have plenty of people I can talk to and they will listen and give their feedback on things.
You are lucky to have a good network.
d[-__,-]b Imagine waking up on a sunny sunday morning, watching out the window still laying in bed, without anything going through your mind, not being able to get out of bed. Then 40 minutes passing by, you finally are able to sit straight on the edge of the bed, starring on the floor, for maybe another half an hour, only finally standing up, because you realise you need to pee and otherwise you would wet the whole bed. Then sitting on the toilet for a far to long time although you have peed half an hour ago and you're only standing up, 'cause your legs getting numb of the uncomfortable sitting position and realising that you need a favourite song and a lot of coffee, otherwise you are not able to accomplish anything that day and would go right back to sleep, because its then 10 PM and you have to go to bed because monday is working day again. These are not simple emotions, these are holes, you're falling in and cannot crawl out or crawling out of these holes is such a heavy burden, that one day you have enough! I know for sure, that he (for example Chester Bennington especially) was playing "happy go lucky" for everyone around him, not wanting anyone around him to know how in a bad shape, mentally, he was, so everyone stays happy around him. It was all an act and maybe some pills or supplements got him in a normal state for the time, those "meds" were working.
Here's the thing. I am a bad father, I know that, to hell with the rest of those relathionships. I'm doing my best but sometimes your best just isn't good enough. Ain't that a bitch. So if youre where I am, what then? What do you do if you're not doing good enough for the literal most important person in your life? When giving up isn't an option but neither is keeping going? I don't know, anyone else got any ideas?
Hang in there. I'm a parent who made a very serious attempt to end it all. I damaged my children. You may think you're a bad father, but a dead father is far worse. Hang in there. If you work, your company might have an EAP program where you can usually get free therapy sessions.
I'm so sorry you're in pain. I care.
@@ToadsNewMania Thanks for caring, that's probably the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me.
@@briancaster2876 Came back to check on you. I hope you're still hanging in there.
@@ToadsNewMania I'm still here, thanks for checking on me. Coasting and doing the best I can.
Hi ya
Please do “PTSD” from DAX
Could you possibly to PTSD by G Herbo Lil Uzi Vert Juice WRLD and Chance the Rapper
You should buy a lottery ticket if you can predict the future that well……….
It’s coming up very soon…..
whoever censored my factual message, your time will come too. 30k layoffs today is just the start, enjoy.
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David breaks me every time, probably even more so since he almost lost the battle not too long ago. The whole song/concert is unbelievably sad in the way that we are so failing in Mental Health help. The stigmas are being broken a little more, but it is flipping difficult to find help.
I do have diagnoses, but it was years and a voluntary psychiatric hospital stay before it was figured out.
I don't know if you've seen this but it's beautiful too. Papa Roach - Leave A Light On (Talk Away The Dark)
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