Trauma therapist FIRST Time hearing NF Mansion | The BEST song about trauma I have ever heard!
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- NF Mansion - what a song! This is the best song I have heard that digs into what trauma is like.
I don't think I really convey just how good I think this track is, and how much people are likely to relate to it.
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I've realised that my audio editing isn't the best in this. I tried to remove my breathing sounds and I have taken a little bit too much off meaning some off silences! I have learned and hopefully my future videos sound better! Thanks to the people who pointed this out to me.
Mom's boyfriend beat him. Mom was an addict. Died of a drug overdose.
How could you leave us will explain his Mom, and you'll find some parallels to some of your younger patients. His journey has been amazing to be part of. There is HOPE as his most recent album shows.
I was about to say how its starting a bit late in the timeline
I can't watch that without crying
@@barnzee1 Anybody who could likely needs a therapist, so many feels there.
I was gonna suggest this one too.
There is an entire journey of NF from his first Mansion to Hope you can watch how hes grown emotionally and how hes dealing with things its amazing. NF has some of the most emotionally moving music I've ever heard. He is a fantastic artist, subbing, hoping for more NF!
More on the way very soon! Thanks for taking the time to comment.
@@TherapistReactsOfficial please watch the journey from the start to 'finish', you will get so much more out of the videos as he is a fantastic visual and verbal story teller, with brain tingling symbolism if watched in order. Not saying to watch them all, as some suggested journey lists are looong and not entirely necessary if you don't have the time/interest (you've really got to be invested for the whole shebang), but watching the key videos, from 'The search' onwards, in these lists will be worth it (especially 'Why did you leave" which you questioned in your video. its about his mum and her death) aaaand ADHD waffle essay over ha
NF Mansion - what a song! This is the best song I have heard that digs into what trauma is like. I did this very late at night after a long day and I don't think I really conveyed just how good I think this track is, and how much people are likely to relate to it. What's next, is there an NF rabbit hole to go down here?
Yes there is and I've only recently started, so if you're willing I'll go down it with you.
NF is so deep and emotional- He had never crying on every song. It's the best therapy I've had in 2 decades. Seriously!
I Love this guy as much as Ren ❤
@@SlippedGear I agree. The "NF Journey" is great but very long. The songs you listed will cover a lot of the background. There are also songs like "Paralyzed" that could fit into the content of this channel.
@SlippedGear I respectfully disagree. You have to include "Leave me alone" after" the search," as these go hand in hand. And songs like "paralyzed" and "notepad" add so much perspective.
His new song Hope makes me sad. He is positive until he is back in this mansion.
Childhood trauma made me a lifelong member of the Self-preservation Society. I can relate to this song on every level. Really enjoyed the breakdown.
Thanks for the comment Bedlam and sharing.
He never spoke about dissociation but the ideas of rooms in a mansion immediately made think about the compartmentalized traumatized parts of one self.
Yes there is a rabbit hole and yes you should go down it.
Think I’m going to have to….
@@TherapistReactsOfficialPlease do you won't regret it
Hi! Thank you for this. The follow up to this song is called Intro 3. I think you’d find it really interesting as it follows the same theme with the mansion but he has a conversation with Fear who he says has moved into the house xx
Oh wow that sounds really good. I’ll check it out. Thanks for sharing.
@@TherapistReactsOfficial Just echoing the recommendation for Intro III next. You'll likely see some parallels with Ren - Hi Ren.
You've got to listen to every album starting with The Mansion, Therapy Session, Perception, The Search, and his new album Hope. The story of his life and transformation is woven throughout the works. There are easter egg references to other songs, more pain and hurt revealed, resolutions, growth, all which ultimately lead to hope.
His body of work taken as whole is one of the loveliest artistic expressions I've ever witnessed. You could argue that, as artistry goes, in this day and age, his is work important. That doesn't happen very often.
Thanks for the order of albums, I’ll check them out.
I would suggest "How could you leave us" as it tells about his mom and "Nate". Of course if you want, The whole journey / rabbit hole is very great option too. Others have commented what it does include😄
Therapy session
How could you leave us
Intro 3
Nate
Let me go
Only
Hope
Mama
Mistake
Running
Will check them out thanks!
@@TherapistReactsOfficial try to go in order as they're meant to be chronological to understand the full story. There is a far bigger list that I can send you for the full journey if you're interested
@@TherapistReactsOfficial THE NF JOURNEY:
INTRO
MANSION
ALL I HAVE
WAKE UP
NOTEPAD
INTRO 2
THERAPY SESSION
I JUST WANNA KNOW
HOW COULD YOU LEAVE US
REAL
INTRO 3
OUTCAST
LET YOU DOWN
IF YOU WANT LOVE
REMEMBER THIS
KNOW
OUTRO
THE SEARCH
LEAVE ME ALONE
CHANGE
MY STRESS
NATE
TIME
WHEN I GROW UP
ONLY
LET ME GO
HATE MYSELF
I MISS THE DAYS
TRAUMA
WHY
JUST LIKE YOU
PRIDEFUL
LOST
DRIFTING
HOPE
MAMA
HAPPY
MISTAKE
RUNNING
Thank you for the analysis. You didn't come across as uncompassionate. As someone who was abused badly in childhood and struggling a lot with that as an adult, I appreciate the song and your commentary as well. You are right, it is beyond sad that this happens, but - because there are a lot of people suffering due to abuse - talking about it is important. Songs like this leave me in tears and ruins, and push me to dark places. But both the song and your comments are comforting as well. Thank you.
Thanks for taking the time to share Joyo
NF is for you if you like this type of subject. He jas helped countless number of people though depression etc..including me. Follow the whole journey. Worth it!!
I didn't experience physical abuse as a child, but I did grow up in a household where I very much and very often felt like an after thought, unnoticed and unwanted. I was a relatively quiet and self sufficient child, but made to feel like I was taking up someone else's space when I would talk, so a lot of times I chose not to. I say this because of your comments around the 19:00--19:11 mark where you speak on the difficulties of opening up.
Putting yourself out there, telling your truth, is terrifying. You get so used to the idea that no one's listening, that no one cares, and then when you finally do speak--whether for opening up or making a general comment about something--there are some (not all) of family and friends who make a big deal out of it, but in a way where you can't tell if it's genuine or sarcasm. Silence becomes safer. It is known and it is comfortable, but in the it's isolating. And that is not an easy wall to climb over. I'm almost 40, and I struggle with it a lot. Especially when someone says "tell me something about you".
When you've been conditioned your whole life to see yourself as unimportant, having that request presented to you often feels like some kind of pop quiz that you haven't prepared for. What if I say something wrong? What if it's not impressive enough? What if they're not actually paying attention, but they just don't want to be the ones talking? And so you offer something benign, inconsequential--like dipping your toe in the water to test the temperature--and you wait. And when whomever you're talking to switches to another subject entirely instead of asking something about what you said, or asking something else about you, it feels like a reinforcement of all you've been conditioned to believe already.
And while you may engage in discourse, very rare is it anything about yourself, who you are as a person, or your own experiences. And the pervasive thought remains--why talk about something no one is listening to? The cycle of this has often led down a strange and morbid rabbit hole to the thought of "when I die, and people come to my service, which of them will know the real me?" It creates a hollowness that can last for days until I--or something else--pulls me out of that dark space. And you don't tell anyone, because forming those words, saying them out loud, feels much like running down a hallway of swinging axes and hoping that you can time it right to make it through unscathed.
Edit. You have got to react to Sam Tompkins See Me ua-cam.com/video/kvDbMT3fLaY/v-deo.html
The therapy/psychology nerd things are part of what I enjoy most about your reactions! Thanks for sharing your expertise and experience ❤
I recently heard someone describe it as "trauma boxes" that could be kept closed or opened (intentionally or accidentally) and I think that was a helpful way of imagining how trauma occupies space in my mind and life. Now it's mostly just storage that is out of the way. Sometimes I take time to open a box and look at what's there and examine things or throw them away. Sometimes I trip over a box and end up a pained heap in the midst of a mess that's splattered all over everything.
That is a good way to look at things candid wings, thanks for sharing.
I appreciate the imagery/metaphors... so many of us are visual thinkers, it helps a lot to be able to understand and connect words to tangible ideas. I can't say I have a lot of trauma, or perhaps, I've got it tucked deep in a closet. But a similar metaphor that Jewel (Kilcher, the singer) talked about was how her grief over losing a friend is like a rock she carries in her pocket, it feels heavy and uncomfortable for awhile, then lightens a bit and feeling that rock can bring up fond memories, eventually that "grief rock" turns more into a diamond that you'd never want to lose (because it's what's left)... I added a little bit, but conceptually it tracks well.
I love your content. Trauma is a very powerful thing, and I've never had the luxury of getting any therapy and it's people like you who keep me going. Thank you.
Thanks for the comment Jacob
I have PTSD from childhood trauma, this song and many other performed and written by Nate are super relatable. He's a great artist to get into imo. Subbed for the potential journey!
Thanks for sharing John. I recorded Wake up earlier today so should get that uploaded over the next day or so.
NF sounds like a 30-something year old jaded Veteran with multiple deployments and a severe case of PTSD. Unlike a lot of Veterans he puts it into words perfectly. This is exactly what it's like. Great breakdown mate. Love your work👊
As a multi tour vet in iraq and afghanistan i have delt with my share of trauma. I promise the more you talk about it the easier it gets. finding the strength to talk about it saved my life.
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Fantastic video. I think your analytical approach to the video makes for a much better reaction to the song than casually listening and just repeating that you feel bad or sad. Most people who see you are a therapist are going to want your insight on coping, healthy habits, etc. The lyrics already paint the picture vividly and project his sadness to the audience. Your Analytical analysis adds a whole new layer that other reaction channels cannot provide.
Thanks for the kind words and glad you liked it!
NF songs really help relate to your kids, teens especially, in our house at least. Your analysis is spot on, thanks!
Thanks for the comment Sky Dancing.
I didn't feel you were coming across unempathetic whatsoever. In fact, I'm bawling my eyes out over here. I'm experiencing loads of feelings related mostly to the realization that my own childhood traumas STILL affect me and I'm not necessarily coping with it all that well. I'm so grateful that seemingly kind and understanding humans are creating a platform for those like myself ( that have no insurance, in the U.S.) who walk ( often stumble) through daily life wondering when it's all just going to end...it reminds me (us) that we're not alone and life goes on 😞...it's a daily struggle and some days are better than others.
Thank you for your insights and helpful words.
PLEASE listen to his latest album (NF) he seems to have grown through and past much of his trauma. Not only that... MANY of the songs on the album are BEAUTIFUL.
Thanks for sharing LouAnn
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I cannot explain how impactful your words are. Even though I’ve never struggled with any of the issues described in the song, it was so soothing? therapeutic? to hear you justify things such as trust issues and explaining how they are a perfectly reasonable response to negative experiences. I’ve always looked at anything negative or not the supposed “normal” mentality as something bad that needs to be fixed. Hearing someone else say that these responses are there for a reason, and are entirely normal healed something. I needed a reminder that it’s perfectly fine and valid to not be ok.
Thanks for kind words. I think its important to have some understanding of how people's experiences have impacted them in terms of how they view the world. I've started the NF journey now and just uploaded my reaction to Intro so plenty more to come!
It’s funny, I think people like me and possibly NF totally get struggling to find who you could have been, would have been before the abuse.
Thanks for the analysis I think you’re a kind person.
As a young girl I remember listening to a mother and her young daughter through a fence one day.
She was asking her daughter what she wanted for lunch and sweetly asking what games she wanted to play. I wanted to destroy them as I never had that. I learned to hide my anger inside as well.
We all cover our pain, and it doesn’t come out until we try to love and trust another.
Your last line is so true! Thanks for sharing and taking the time to comment.
Great reaction ! I recommend watching how could you leave us, the search, hope and happy from NF !
Thanks Florian. Is there a certain order for these as I want to try and do them fresh.
NF is an incredible musician. I am very glad that he is aware of his issues and where they come from. He explains it himself very well. I hope he keeps making progress 🙏🏻❤️
I would do anything to have a therapist as knowledgeable and kind as you. You are amazing
Ah thanks for the kind words. There’s loads of us out there! I’ve got an 8 week video series coming soon which will be free on UA-cam so hopefully that will help people a little bit. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment.
You asked for some backstory on NF. From what I understand, Nate's parents were divorced and he and his 2 younger sisters were raised by their mom until it became known that NF and at least one of his sisters were being abused by his mom's boyfriend. His mother was an addict (he mentions pills). When he was 18 she overdosed on opioids while he was at school.
Thanks for sharing that summary - gives a good overview. He’s had a tough time hasn’t he! I’m going to check out some more of his work.
As someone who completely hit rock bottom, and decided to get up and accept the help I needed to get out. I finally accepted the help I needed, took my life back in my own hands, rather than feeling like my body was holding my soul back, and making me hurt the people I loved. And I was powerless to stop it. But, that was 12-13 years ago, I'm still not in a 'perfect' pace. I still struggle quite a bit. But I feel like I have more to live for, now.
Thanks for sharing your experience and I’m glad you have found some way to move forward.
@@TherapistReactsOfficial Paradoxically to most, I consider that one of the best thing that ever happened to me.
“HOPE”. Seriously put that song on repeat.
Nf also has a songcalled therapy session.
You hit a gold mine with nf when it comes to your profession I'm looking forward to this please make a separate plalist for nf reactions
Making a separate playlist is a great idea!
Great reaction! He has multiple albums of conversations with fear, discussing trauma, rabbit holes in his mind,etc. So much there.
His recently released album Hope appears to turn a new leaf now that he is a father, husband, and has let some of that past trauma go.
Either way it’s really interesting to look back at Mansion all those years ago till now.
Thanks Terrence, I’ll check out Hope
@@TherapistReactsOfficial It will have more context if you hear more of the earlier stuff first. Besides knowing where he is coming from, the songs and videos of Hope have a lot of references to the earlier songs. For instance, the song Mama is very good, but it is SO much more impactful after hearing How Could You Leave Us?
Therapy almost drove me to ending my life. Thankfully, songs like these helped me when therapists didn't.
You're in for quite a rabbit hole with NF. Luckily for Nate, he's not the same traumatized and angry young man he was in 2015 when he wrote the mansion album. This album has helped millions of people process their own trauma including me.
I’m going to be taking another look at NF over the next few weeks now. I’ve googled the NF journey and have an idea of track order so I might do something in order of that, but not decided yet. There’s some track names like trauma and treatment room which I’m really interested in. But there’s definitely more to come !
So much NF for you to get into 🖤
Can’t wait !
I've been a fan of NF for years, it was great watching and hearing your reaction. It might sound odd or stupid, but, thank you. I spent 10 years in the army, it seemed like the therapists just kept digging and tossing and we just kept going in circles. I stopped going, I'm doing good, I've learned to put those things in a closet in a healthy way. I've never heard a therapist say it's ok to put things away. Thank you
I believe his story is his mum got a boyfriend who physically abused him until his dad had to take him away, and then his mum died at 29 of an overdose.
Oh boy is there a rabbit hole for NF? YES! I would recommend the following songs, in this order:
- all I have
- (this is where Mansion would go)
- intro 2
- therapy session
- how could you leave us
- let you down
- the search
- leave me alone
- hope
- mama
- happy
The personal journey NF shares over almost 10 years of his music is incredible. How could you leave us is the most emotionally wrenching song and video I’ve ever seen and tells the story of what happened to his mom. Mama will then rip you apart all over again but for the complete flip reason. It’s an incredible oeuvre of personal growth with wonderful talent.
It’s cool to have an order - thank you.
You’d have to include Running in this list as closure to all of his trauma. It’s an amazing song.
Don't forget Paralyzed. :>
"Is there an NF rabbit hole to go down?" ooooh boy, I'm strapping in for this ride
Ha yeah - I didn’t realise the NF journey was a thing at the time. Got my fifth (Notepad) on the way next week !
This song hits hard, loved the analysis 👍🏻
Your reaction is the most compassionate I've ever seen of this song. There's a lot of them too. lol. I really wish there were more therapists and doctors like you. Thank you!
His music speaks to so many people and watching his music evolve along with him has not only been a form of therapy to himself but to a lot of his fans. I've always considered his style to be "cinematic rap" the way it paints pictures and tells a story in a way few artists have been able to do with their entire discography is something special. He's created this unique lane in music that sure, other artists have dipped their toes into, but he's dived right in and embodied it making it his own.
I had a boss that saw me full force punch a brick wall several times after I had some stuff happen in my life that hurt me pretty badly emotionally and he said that I need to control my anger better and that acting out physically was a sign of aggression and I should seek help. He didn't understand that I wasn't angry at anyone, I was heart broken and the emotion was overwhelming.
The search by nf is so beautiful, his songs are so on point to the things your mind, emotions, body goes through. Why did you leave us, hope, all fabulous lyrics
Great reaction and analysis.
Hope you do more NF. His journey is all about real music and emotion. I hope you react to Therapy Session.
I'll sub hoping for more.
Your words helped...
Do the journey!!!
Thanks S Bizarro, I’ll check out therapy session I think.
Go one the NF journey!! All of his music is so real and raw!! It’s just soo good!
Yes, there is a rabbit hole, and yes you should go down it. Would love to watch your reaction to the NF Journey. It’s right up your alley and I really appreciated your technical perspective on Mansion. Thanks!
Subbed for more NF. I would suggest you listen to the song "Nate" next which is a song about him talking to his younger self. It is a great way to hear more about his back story. After that, either The Search or do the NF Journey, but is is about 60 songs.
I appreciate this reaction. I love NF and mansion is one of my fav songs from him. I have Ptsd and relate to every word. And, it was interesting to listen to you. I recently did ketamine therapy and during i actually had to make peace with my trauma. I had to face it and let it go. Ive been doing so much better but it was painful to go thru. If wasnt fun and it took strength . I used to have racing thoughts of my worst trauma at night and have tremors. All this is now gone. As well as my depression and anxiety
So This song hits home for me. I am processing some trauma so this is very helpful
Ooooo I'm invested in the NF rabbit hole you're about to go down!
Great reaction, I hope you react to more NF! His music and your comments are therapy for so many people, including myself, and I'm subscribed for it.
Thanks so much for the kind words. Definitely more to come.
I relate to his songs on so many levels but I still can't figure out why his songs make people cry
He has a song Therapy Session. That could align with what you do. Also "How Could You Leav Us" "The Search" "Happy"
Great reaction. Thanks for what you do to help others 🙏🇺🇸
New Sub sir!
I keep telling my therapist to react to this so I’m glad you are! 😂
NF has seemingly had therapy and as you hear more you can hear verbiage that points to that but his music shows his healing journey and it has recently landed with his last song hope. Others have posted the order to go through and I hope you do! I also can’t wait for you to hear the journey and then experience the song. It is SO beautiful, painful and a journey, but beautiful when considering how his music is SO real and SO human.
Great video. Take the NF journey!!
Thanks Chris
Love NF has so many good songs. Loved your reaction to. :)
Thanks Jaden. Got some more NF on the way too.
I haven’t been through this, but it still tears me up. Cut to ribbons
Thanks for your thoughtful review.
Stuart, I'm glad you've found NF. I really love your videos, and your view on these creative outlets from your experience.
Thanks Mike
NF has grown so much. He had gine on ah ealign journey from this. I hope you can go down this hole and once you get to his most recent album you can see his growth
I’m struggling with this right now, I thought I was ready to deal with my trauma but since I never did before it wrecked me…I fell into a spiral of depression, feeling numb, etc. I had to take a step back and realize I’m not ready to deal with my emotions this way.
Having an interest in trauma, you’re going to faaalllllll down the nf rabbit hole, I look forward to it
I think most of NF's previous albums cover a lot more than just content similar to this. He seems to cover every aspect of his life; which is why I believe he is so relatable to so many, especially people that have experienced similar trauma.
First time on your channel--great reaction. I subbed to see you take this NF journey, which I know you won't regret. NF's music is a tremendous source for discussion of mental health & trauma issues; he is very in touch with his emotions & great at putting them into words--to the extent that anyone who has suffered can find something relatable in his songs, and those who haven't can understand just a little better.
Regarding your question at the end on whether there was an official music video for this song (his videos are top notch, btw)--no, there isn't, and I can almost guarantee that yes, it's by design. NF is a perfectionist with OCD--everything he does with his art is very well thought out, fussed over, planned & calculated.
Thanks D Moon. Like you say its a great way to bring discussion around these issues. Thanks for the comment and for the sub.
He put my entire life so far, all 40 years, into one song. I didn't think this pain, fear and all that comes with it could be summarized in just a few minutes.
Wow…thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge in all this. You have really helped me so much ❤ Because of your profession I would say NF is absolutely a catalog of music that will be incredibly relevant. You have only just scratched the surface with Mansion. If you are ready for another NF I would recommend the Search. It’s very much a mental battle we can all relate with. Buckle up friend 😊 This rabbit hole goes very deep…
Thanks for taking the time to recommend the Search - I’ll check that out.
Amazing insight into childhood trauma and "typical" coping or habitual adulthood mannerisms. I, myself, was abused in childhood and now have a better understanding of myself.
Also, NF has been my "go-to" artist since Mansion Album... He's grown so much and so happy for him!!
Thanks for commenting Christina. I do think having a better understanding of yourself can be really helpful, might not take away the pain of what happened but can certainly help in moving forward with life. thanks for sharing.
I’ve been listening to NF for years, but only recently have realized, through one of his songs, that I have buried trauma(nothing compared to NF) that has been effecting my current relationships. His journey has helped me open up those old wounds in myself and start cleaning those out to allow a healing to begin.
Oh this is exciting! 🎉
Subbed bc of Hi Ren . You put NF on here and all of the fans are coming. His albums are sequential in telling his story, you’ve fallen in a rabbit hole now and we’re going to be begging you to follow the NF Journey. Anyone who has lost someone to drugs (I have and also have an 18 year old son that has 18 months of sobriety now) and abuse (I was abused, molested and then raped), his music resonates so much.-- wish I knew of a good trauma therapist or that the one I have could see me more than every three months. Sigh. Hoping you dig into NF
Yep, definitely going on an NF journey soon!
It felt very emotional, to hear his pain, and the darkest room inside us that we ofcourse doesn't want to open, but in order to heal it is needed.
It's a tough spot and some things we are probably best off not knowing, but at the same time the pain is still there because underneath it all the body still remembers. Subconciously we remember it all. But still the question is wether or not we want or manage to go down there when it is emotionally dead dark.
Maybe it is too much too handle? But somehow some things is just seeping out, and the longing to break free. I love freedom, but the pain of being locked up inside is too much too handle too. That is all loneliness and hard to breathe in there.
Life is as perplex as humanity.
I just came across your channel and instant subcribed. You make 1000% more than my psychologist and psychiatrist. Hooefully youll say something that will help me.
Thanks for the sub and I’m sure they’ll be some helpful stuff for you coming up. I’m going to be mixing in reactions with video series about improving mental health. I’m guessing you are vet - thanks for your service. I did my initial mental health degree when I was serving in the British QARANC and working as a trauma therapist.
@@TherapistReactsOfficial yeah I have a lot of issues dealing things that happened during Iraq. My life's currently a mess. Music helps me get through the rough time. There are songs I still avoid though
I love your reactions! I think "Nate" would be a great one for you to react to after this. In that song, he's talking to his younger self and it's very powerful ❤
That sounds great I’ll check it out
If I'm right, "Nate" was also the song his therapists told he should do?🤔
I think a therapist asked him what he would say to his younger self if he had the chance, and he decided to write a song inspired by that.
@@kristinpugmire-cr4kv That can be very possible. I just know that his therapist has something to do with that song😂
I just wanted to say that it's interesting how you mentioned the downstairs leading to the basement. I live in the UK and my initial reaction was that it relates to the idea of safety as with me and people like me often don't congregate in a living room area. Like for most their living space is the living room, dining room kitchen etc but for me I feel more uncomfortable and vunerable in that area of the house. So I took it to mean he's walking to his uncomfortable side and showing his house, to then later go back upstairs and show the true contrast of what his bedroom means. Because while it's also the place he feels most afraid, it's also the place he feels the most secure to let himself feel his fear and regrets
when i was younger and caught up in the bad crowd, the basement was the place you took everyone to hang out and do drugs
Something unrelated to the NF video but I think you'll find interesting. You said at 0:26 that this song would be "right up my street." In the US, we say, "right up my alley." And it amused me because I would have thought, firstly, that people living in London where it tends to be quite cramped would associate with an alleyway versus an avenue. The second point of amusement is how I visualize both of those terms. The immediate imagery I get from "right up my alley" is a funneling, a niche thing finding my niche interests and being funneled into my line of vision. Whereas, "right up my street," evokes a sense of homecoming, of bright lit familiarity meeting with a stranger in dapper clothing. Just thought you'd find that interesting.
Yes that is interesting, and seeing that the therapy I specialise in (ACT) has its theoretical framework grounded in something called RFT (relational frame theory) which is how we relate to different words that we use (I.e alley and street) I find it even more thought provoking. Thanks for sharing!
NF is amazing!! I have been following him for years. So relatable, he has a huge following. His videos will give you tons of material to discuss with your followers. My favorites are: Wake Up (the first I ever heard.), Intro 3, Therapy Session, How Could You Leave Us ( most popular and gut wrenching) Leave me Alone, If You Want Love, Let You Down, Hope, and Happy I suffer from PTSD and I had gone through a lot of different therapy the best thing I found that worked for me is EMDR. I would encourage anyone who suffers from PTSD to never give up and keep seeking help. If at first you don't succeed then try again and again until you find something that works. A there are a lot of options and each person is unique. What works for one may not work for another. I went through years of therapy and many different therapists before I found what worked for me. But thank God I finally found what worked for me. Yes, go down the NF rabbit hole. PLEASE,PLEASE, PLEASE!! ( I found you when you reacted to Ren and then saw NF) I subscribed! #NF
Subscribed, would love to see you react to more NF.
Definitely coming! Thanks for the sub.
Welcome to the NF rabbit hole. All of his songs & videos link to another in some way or another. It's brilliant.
You go down this rabbit hole get ready to grow in a massive way. The outcast following is loyal as hell
NF also does a song called "Nate" where he talks to his younger self
Backstory of this song is that his dad used to torture him and beat them as a kid that's why he loved visiting his grandparents while he was growing up and when his mom passed when he was almost 19 his dad try to get custody of him and his siblings but NF was closer to his grandparents so he has been living with his grandparents since his mom passed alot of NF's music tells a story
Tack!
Amazing! My first ever one thanks soooooo much! Tack!
@@TherapistReactsOfficial haha oh wow! You deserve waaay more of those!! Though you had plenty, now I feel embarrassed by that tiny amount 🙈 Well, there will be more I promise. Your work here really matters and is super important for me and many others! You are one of a kind, so thank YOU Stuart ❤️
I’ve just realised I can filter my comments by superthanks and just seen your reply. No need to feel embarrassed at all, I’m really grateful and there is absolutely no expectation for anyone to donate anything! If you reply with an artist and track I’ll check it out - if you want to of course !
Great reaction! I think enough of the back story has already been said in other comments. Tracks I think you should listen to / watch in order are Therapy session, How could you leave us, outcast, The search, Hope, Running. Or for a more in depth story, do an Internet search for "the nf journey" and you'll get a list of all the relevant ones in order
Handy to have it in order - thanks.
"How could you leave us" talks about what happened to his mother, if you do review that song, its heavy
Definitely recommend how could you leave us and therapy session
Thanks! Hard one to get through for me.
Thanks so much invisiblegirl - certainly not invisible to me! Much much appreciated. If you are an NF fan then I am uploading my reaction to Paralyzed tomorrow where I talk a bit about NFs response to his trauma. Thanks again, Stu.
I feel like nf really pulled my own childhood out of me to write this one. I've been there in that corner. It's taken me years of therapy, self reflection, and meditation to get anywhere near having any level of self worth. I'm still trying to find reasons to ascribe value to my life, and I think I always will.
If you listen to intro 3 it’s like a sequel to mansion and talks a lot ab the “fear” character at the end
He has a few albums out therapy session also explains some of his life
Every military therapist I have ever been to just wants you to talk about it over and over again
i actually did my nurse training through the Military (I was in the QARANC) and my first experience of working with people who have experienced trauma happened there. I think the issue is a lot of services used something called Prolonged Exposure (PE) which is where you get the person to recall the trauma over and over again at an attempt to process it. I have to be honest, it seemed pretty horrendous at the time for the person so i stopped working that way and looking for alternatives pretty quickly. There is far more to trauma therapy than just trying to recall what happened over and over again!
You should check out “Therapy Session” and “How Could You Leave Us” by NF
You should listen to how could you leave us for the backstory of his mom.
Will do.
I really like The Search from NF :)
Listen to How could you leave us? by NF. It explains why he brought up his mom.
Will do, thanks
Intro III, the song is basically the conversation between him and his fear..
You should react to that one too..