Sign Number 1 1. He Tells you Upfront, he wants sex, and when you turn him down, he will hang out without getting to know the Real You. 2. He Doesn’t talk about himself, at all- yet when he does it’s about something Sexual. 2. He keeps his life a Secret, and keeps all conversations, on the Surface. 3. Doesn’t Initiate, nor Engage in Meaningful Conversations. 4. His Body Language faces you, but he’s Quiet the Majority of the time. 5. He Doesn’t call to check on you unless it’s that Hour.
I have more respect for a guy who just wants sex and is clear about his intentions than the one who takes you on a dates, sends you sweet text messages, you develop feelings and then he cheats or pulls away and never takes accountability for making you fall for him.
Just dealt with a guy like this last Friday he ended it we didn’t end up having sex but I caught feelings and he got scared and fked off he’s gone back on apps to find more girls and I’m here with my heart hurt
But do the absolute most with the side...bring the germs back home, gets the vacays, and the truth. See why side chick's love it? They get ALL the benefits, and don't ever have to know the bad side. Too many man are comfortable doing this...being the maintenance man too several dirty whores, and leaves zero incentive to get married. He knows someone gotta fill his void. Karma comes back hard and never forgets. Smh
It's a definite "red flag" and deal breaker if a man doesn't want to take me out or doesn't want to be seen in public with me, because date nights are important me, I'm a romantic at heart 🚩💯🚫💔
We are sexual beings that's how we got hear hello but people will bran wash u with the body n they doing this to gain power me as a man love be with a grown respectful woman that's funny n not selfish n will cook
Thes people turn you against women n nex thang u now she's dating the milk man lol facks just like they sisteim take your children n whit people adopt your children hello
So true Stephan. Test them, and you will find out. Stand your ground ladies, keep your body clean for the right man who should be your husband, and wait for God to send him. 🙌🏽🤷🏽♀️
I had a fun boy, just visited each other’s apartments. It went on for years, all the while I dated other men with the intention of finding a LTR. Finally, found a great guy, told my fun boy I am not visiting him anymore. He was butt hurt and accused me of being a user! I laughed and went on with my life.
*It's important to be aware of the red flags that indicate someone may only be interested in a physical relationship. Recognizing these signs can help us make informed decisions about the type of relationships we want to pursue. We deserve someone who values us for more than just our physical connection.*
God - I really needed to hear this video tonight. Just got back into the dating scene after 4 years solo. Had a major surgery and just couldn't deal with the reality of my body and scars after a life threatening surgery. Got back on the dating site and met a Narcissist right off the bat. Thank you for posting. I truly needed to hear this tonight! God Bless!
Most men are not even trying; they are into your house or mine, some ain’t even coming to yours but want you to keep coming to them! Meeting in the middle is too much stress to them; less than minimum effort!!
I wish I’d found this video before I faced my demise, so spot on. 💯 I was so naive and just so focused on wanting to be around him that I made excuses for his shit, even the ones that were obvious about him, and boy were the red flags obvious lol 🤦🏾♀️😭
I had a man from work think for months that I was a godly church mouse. The minute he found out that i masturbate to relieve my pain and stress, every conversatiin became very sexual afterward. It was like that made the switch go on in his head. He is very attracted to me now but wants nothing more than sex Needless to say I have not given in to him and keep him at arms length.
I just recently been through a bad breakup. It was 100% my fault. I've involved myself in a relationship without being healed and now I am suffering from a soul-tie. Whenever you can may you do a video on, "Ways to break a soul-tie with someone you love"? I really hope you see this comment. Like it is very bad I am not okay.
Haven't watched the video yet...but I truly love what you are doing for the Black community. Always providing much needed clarity to issues that are never really discussed.
This was a brave but honest comment about periods! 👏 a lot of the times we know all of these things you have mentioned ☝️ but we tell ourselves another story and make things “ok” in our own minds, even though we know deep down we’re not ok with it 🤷♀️
I've seen your videos and others alike many times but sometimes certain messages meet people at the right time. That mug has got to go! Thanks for caring so much and pouring your heart into making sure we have that voice to bring us to our senses. I appreciate you!
Trurh is you dont really know if a man just want sax until you have sax. Alot of men have zero issues going on several dates for sax. You truly dont know until you have it and see his reaction
If women were more open to have sex in a libertine way, less men would fake to want have a relationship just to have sex. The fact is, most women want to have sex just in a romantic reletionship when they're in a relationship while man just want to have sex independently if they're in a relationship or not.
Lied to a guy that I was on my period..he told me to stil come out let's hang out.. since we can't lodge in a hotel bacause of my period.. well we actually started dating..
These ones are not hard ladies, they are all pretty simple signs. You just need to decide if he is worth sleeping with and beating yourself up over it later- because one way or the other you will regret it at some point.
These videos and coaching has helped me to understand the male person a bit better than I can imagine. I never looked at a man as having emotions and affections about anything but what they needed. Maybe I was looking at the wrong role models, but your videos have helped a lot keep them coming. Bless.
I'm a firm believer in exploring my mind 1st. Men know that they aren't the only guy who want to sleep with you. Therefore, if you're not attempting to separate yourself from the many...why are we even conversing?
Had to subscribe thanks for the diamonds of knowledge 🙏🏾💎Some of us weren’t blessed to have positive male romodels so this is a blessing. If I’m not worth his time is he worth mine? Nahhhh fam🏄🏾♀️
I agree 100 percent with you ! However I know 2 scenarios where a guy took a woman on lavish dates and started very hot and heavy and showed interest and said he wanted something serious and once he got what he want he told her he didn’t want commitment and he started moving differently and would only contact her about sex moving forward. Then another dude had sex instantly with a woman and was inconsistent but would take her on dates here and there and told her want a wife but he not ready for commitment. So why these two dudes took these women out on dates ? It’s wild to me lol
To be honest, this is great! Most men LIE because they’re trying to get the 🍪. If men are straightforward, I have more respect because we’re not wasting each other’s time.
he treats me like a princes and i love how he talk with me but he also talk about sex or joke about sexual things a lot and he said that he want serious relatonship
Everything you said are FACTS! 😳 True Happiness, before marriage is this…Single, Total Celibacy, Disease free, Happy & Blessed.💯Rushing in to have sex, with strangers is Deadly! ✅🔥😱
Thank you so much Stephen I really needed to here another man say this so that way I could cut and clearly see the signs he is giving "manipulation" if you will.
I had a guy who kept canceling out on me when he would tell me we were going out. Funny thing was WE NEVER HAD SEX! He was just a liar! One time he told me he wanted to take me to the movies. Something told me not to get ready. 15 minutes before it was time for him to pick me up...he calls and cancels. Reason being: His daughter fell off a her bike and injured her knee really bad and she had to be rushed to the hospital. I told him go on and call me later. An hour later, one of my homegirls sent me a picture message of the guy and another female standing at the concession stand at the movie theater. He called me the next day. I asked him how was his daughter. He starts lying through his teeth. I saved the pic my friend sent me. While he was talking, I sent him the pic. When he opened it up and saw the pic of him and the female....I swear you could hear a pin drop. I hung up on him. He never called me anymore after that, but sometimes I would see him, and he would be looking at me so he could get my attention. 👋🏾 negro 😂
I’ve been married to a narcissist for 10 years. I found out over this past summer he’s been cheated on me. Although he never would admit it, after him staying out all night a lot I made him confess. Now he stays with her. I’m so glad it’s over because I didn’t wanna be with him no more because his narcissistic ways, but now he don’t know where to begin to trust another man even if I think he really does like me. I’m so done
I watched a video that explained that men will have sex with women they dislike, find UNattractive/fat etc...because he is just looking for a feel good experience of sex. so basically ANY woman with a pulse. I've known this but it was heartbreaking and disgusting to hear. the sad part is, some women don't care about this fact & will perform any sex act thinking it's going to keep dude around.
Just went thru this with someone I thought wanted to be serious, Had some recent bad storms come thru n power out, he asks did I want company! In a house with no power, lighting or water 💦 😢
H doesn’t take you anywhere; he always busy and never taken to his home! He said he can’t make you happy and you are the one responsible for your happiness; he only meets you in the midnight; he doesn’t want to hear your feelings or concerns;
What I'f he asked me to go to a place for his buisness to pick stuff up its a ride so we ride down n back what is that kind of situation im confused never went out on a date just drives to his work places
All this video did was make me feel bad…but in a good way…a way of growth. I’ve always said and ex is an ex for a reason (I’m 51, we Gen X ppl were just figuring shit out. Anyway…I’m still cautions with going for round 2 with my ex. But : long story short I went into a situationship, during COVID, with a guy 17 yrs younger than me. Basically I had been celibate for 20yrs, wanted a fling, he for the fling criteria (willing). It lasted for 2.5 yrs. We had our ups and downs, basically I made assumptions. Anyone, I ended up wanting more, he said he didn’t. But we spent so much time together outside of sex: hiking, hanging out with his family & friends (I’m a traveling healthcare worker so was stuck in his area during COVID). Spent holidays with his family & friends. When on my period we watched movie or series together. One time it started unexpectedly on a hiking day, he told me exercise was good for cramps, and when I got in his car he set up the heated seats and massage while we drove to the hiking spot. When we did have sex (the best sex of my life every time) he got me in the habit of staying and cuddling. (I hate to cuddle because I am a hot sleeper, I sweat at night, but he eventually ware me down to allow cuddling. We had a falling out, as he started dating someone else yet was still trying to be with me. I am not under any elusión that he wants more with me…the age difference and the lack of ability to give him kids, makes me keep pushing him away. But now that we are back in touch and slowly navigating our friendship back to where is was, I am having to realise that we just may have been more than sex….we were a situationship. I don’t know what is in store for us, we have a connection, not just physical. But as someone who has been notorious for giving guys between 6 to 9 months before I run because I felt like all they wanted was sex. And to now have a guy in my life that has been here since May 2020, I’m questioning or realising he was probably right when he called me a runner….and I realise, even though he is young, he has taught, made me face and feel a lot. This video makes me realise he wasn’t just wanting sex…but I still don’t know what is in store. I do realise I have to drop my guard and fine out…even if it doesn’t go anywhere else besides more great sex and …
It's really difficult to give you an advice only based on what you wrote is that you really seem to be a avoidant relationship type. We tend to attract (unconscious) what's meets our relationship type. And you seem to attract and be attracted by guys who only want sex. So now it's difficult to say if or if not your situationship guy wants more or not. Maybe he's the same relationship type as you?! First question is, what do you truly desire? Is that enough what you had in the past and if not and you really want a real relationship than set your boundaries and ask. Sometimes you must take risks to get what you want and sometimes even suffer, but it doesn't help to extend things which are not the real deal... Maybe he's fine not having kids with you... and it's enough for him to be with you. But you can only find out if you ask him what he wants in life... and if it's not the same things as you than move on... I was avoidant relationship type in the past and only attracted to guys who run away and I could chase them... lying, cheated on me etc... now I happy married with 38 years and by the way my husband is 5 years younger, so age is just a number... Take care ❤
Dang I needed to see this. I so badly want a relationship buuuut man is giving me all these red flags. But I won’t hold myself to that low of value. Clearly he got the wrong one. But dang
I hv one who has been with me for 5 year and counting without commitment. No problem. I now take so much money from him. I hv 2 kids from my previous marriage and his money is helping my kids a lot. Let him keep thinking he is wasting my time. I pity him.
They can take you out even on a trip just to sex you sooo ! Safer to just put it out there that’s not your intention on giving it up so soon or never ! trust they’ll leave or wait still get and possibly still get it leave , basically is a war dating Ohh trust they also put much effort into just trying to get the 🐱
I was seeing a guy who was in an open relationship. He said that I was the only girl he ever thought about having a relationship with. Everyone else he had prior was an fwb. He says he's terrible at communication. He also said he wanted to slowly build something with me. Maybe consider becoming poly because he should be allowed to love more than one person. A month goes by and I am sitting here doing the evaluation of us. I really care for this guy. I have given him my time, resources because my love language is to serve and give. I only hear from him when he is not around his girlfriend. I have to initiate communication and the sex. And I know she's married to a different man, seeing another man, the one I'm willing to make the one, I make priority. But no. He comes over at night, and now he has reasons he can't text or come over. I just woke up and realized maybe he could be a friend but even friends don't treat each other this way. If your gut feels confused it'd a sign. But he was everything I was looking for. But I deserve better. So does everyone. We all deserve to be not number one but the only one. I thank God for this lesson. I feel stronger for it and sad that I was of no value. I wasn't the one. I pray God sends me the one, I hate feeling like my time to find the one is running out. When you're a single mom. Options are limited and there is pee in the dating pool. Much love to everyone ❤
No disrespect but u made the decision getting into this relationship with this man & he told u #1 I’m in an open relationship #2 I’m not a good communicator. I think ur expectations of him was to high being that he has two major red flags waving them in ur face.
I fully read everything. The fact that you knew things up front, decided to still engage in a penetrationship with a man who is sharing his raw body with his wife, you hop on it too, fall for him, accepts his soul ties into your body...then expect God to send you your own man. The issue is that you chose to commit adultery. Not for one second thinking about how does the wife feel. Her body is telling her all about you. Your vagina secretions has been put on the SAME tool he uses to penetrate his wife. Her PH is off. Yours gotta be off. It becomes a cesspool of germs, emotional anguish, demons haunting her and you. Listen. Tell God that you have fallen short n do better. He seen everything n He do not play about what He has created as a bonding opportunity for husband and wife. None of that nasty poly stuff.
I know a guy marry a woman the woman marry him but she dont even know why it happen, She don't know is a narcissistic man she married to she think is real love but he married her to use her for his gain and guess what she's living 3 quarter hour from him and he's living by him self , in the week & weekends you could see a new💃🏽 face stepping in & out So the woman married a narcissist ,u only c her once in a while what ever lies he be telling her like she believe everything he tell her He manipulate her and married to use her As well as some women do the same too , I pray God give them the uncommon eyes to see clearly in the spirit realm to know what is real from fake 🙏🏾👏🏽
No I'm not . I am Spiritual wise with the wisdom knowledge and the understanding from God I'm mature enough now . from a young age growing up , back then I couldn't understand what's real love from fake love but i learn from my experience every stages in life , so no devil's demons witches wizards & warlocks can't come around me with foolishness to control manipulate my spirit for their gain , it have loyal honest true men and women out there but some people can't identify them, woo be unto them who tell they self they would rod & use these kind of honest people & get off no way . I'm sorry for the young girls & boys coming up now in this evil times all the advantage will take on them , all the clowns take church the word of God & the worship out from schools all over the world so the young people get strayed away with the lawless music they dont want hear but church & God word is like rat poison for them ,God , word , church Prophets Bishop come to save & snatch their lives out the demons hand , while pastors prophets saving souls for christ the demons lucifer & his agents on the other hand competing with God to take down plenty life , check see how many people dying losing their life stupid living in ignorance every day cause the following the wrong things Why some men & women live & living to 99 98 100 106 105 102 104 think about it 🙏🏽Have a bless wkn 👏🏽
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😂 the title of the book sounds so hilarious 😂
Sign Number 1
1. He Tells you Upfront, he wants sex, and when you turn him down, he will hang out without getting to know the Real You.
2. He Doesn’t talk about himself, at all- yet when he does it’s about something Sexual.
2. He keeps his life a Secret, and keeps all conversations, on the Surface.
3. Doesn’t Initiate, nor Engage in Meaningful Conversations.
4. His Body Language faces you, but he’s Quiet the Majority of the time.
5. He Doesn’t call to check on you unless it’s that Hour.
I have more respect for a guy who just wants sex and is clear about his intentions than the one who takes you on a dates, sends you sweet text messages, you develop feelings and then he cheats or pulls away and never takes accountability for making you fall for him.
I dealt with that type of guy before. They are the worse.
So true 😢
This is sad, and the 100+ likes too.
Just dealt with a guy like this last Friday he ended it we didn’t end up having sex but I caught feelings and he got scared and fked off he’s gone back on apps to find more girls and I’m here with my heart hurt
Yeah but if he does that then u wont sleep with him it's better to pay couple dates than have a higher chance of sex
Keep it simple, make them wait. Communicate your standards and intentions. It weeds them out so quick.
Absolutely!
Yes, you are absolutely correct.
Absolutely true
Bingo
Facts 💯
I’d like to add:
He doesn’t show you on social media and he keeps his emotional distance/never asks you questions about yourself to that list.
True
I agree.
A guy will show you off online and still f*ck other women in his messages
Trust they don’t care about your selfies
Yep 👍
Been there, done that. Never gonna let myself be used again.....
Another reason why
he won’t take you out is because he’s married
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Most definitely!
But do the absolute most with the side...bring the germs back home, gets the vacays, and the truth. See why side chick's love it? They get ALL the benefits, and don't ever have to know the bad side. Too many man are comfortable doing this...being the maintenance man too several dirty whores, and leaves zero incentive to get married. He knows someone gotta fill his void. Karma comes back hard and never forgets. Smh
Not true in all cases. Some married men WILL definitely take you out in public. Some are bold and don’t give af.
@@Erica-cf1xb I couldn’t agree more. You hit the nail on the head
It's a definite "red flag" and deal breaker if a man doesn't want to take me out or doesn't want to be seen in public with me, because date nights are important me, I'm a romantic at heart 🚩💯🚫💔
Sex conversations is my number one red flag
We are sexual beings that's how we got hear hello but people will bran wash u with the body n they doing this to gain power me as a man love be with a grown respectful woman that's funny n not selfish n will cook
Thes people turn you against women n nex thang u now she's dating the milk man lol facks just like they sisteim take your children n whit people adopt your children hello
So true Stephan. Test them, and you will find out. Stand your ground ladies, keep your body clean for the right man who should be your husband, and wait for God to send him. 🙌🏽🤷🏽♀️
AMEN
Agreed
Amen and that's what I'm intend on doing
@@lisacobb6986 yes!!!🙏🏽
Amen and Amen..
I'm here for the short, straight to the point videos....
Well you need to go somewhere else. I'm always scanning the comments for the list of answers
I had a fun boy, just visited each other’s apartments. It went on for years, all the while I dated other men with the intention of finding a LTR. Finally, found a great guy, told my fun boy I am not visiting him anymore. He was butt hurt and accused me of being a user! I laughed and went on with my life.
When you say dating, you weren’t being intimate with these men, right? Also, were you using protection with your "fun boy"?
*It's important to be aware of the red flags that indicate someone may only be interested in a physical relationship. Recognizing these signs can help us make informed decisions about the type of relationships we want to pursue. We deserve someone who values us for more than just our physical connection.*
You're absolutely right!
It’s so degrading to a great woman to treat us this way!!! Would rather he just be honest and move on to a woman that only wants sex from you.
God - I really needed to hear this video tonight. Just got back into the dating scene after 4 years solo. Had a major surgery and just couldn't deal with the reality of my body and scars after a life threatening surgery. Got back on the dating site and met a Narcissist right off the bat. Thank you for posting. I truly needed to hear this tonight! God Bless!
All of this is so true! I had a guy that did me this way. I cut him off. I really enjoyed your book. He is lying sis! A great book. 😊
I'm going to get the whole set, lol
Most men are not even trying; they are into your house or mine, some ain’t even coming to yours but want you to keep coming to them! Meeting in the middle is too much stress to them; less than minimum effort!!
Shidd my legs staying closed
Right! Me too I'm over it. 😂
@@BxAngee😂😂😂😂😂😂
I wish I’d found this video before I faced my demise, so spot on. 💯 I was so naive and just so focused on wanting to be around him that I made excuses for his shit, even the ones that were obvious about him, and boy were the red flags obvious lol 🤦🏾♀️😭
I know the feeling when they use you 😭
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️
Oh yes I’ve definitely been in this situation unfortunately
I have binned him off now and now he hasn’t heard from me in months he keeps txting!! 😳
I had a man from work think for months that I was a godly church mouse. The minute he found out that i masturbate to relieve my pain and stress, every conversatiin became very sexual afterward. It was like that made the switch go on in his head. He is very attracted to me now but wants nothing more than sex Needless to say I have not given in to him and keep him at arms length.
How sad that relationships have become so carnal… The convent looks more and more appealing😅
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You ain't lying! 😂😂😂
I just recently been through a bad breakup. It was 100% my fault. I've involved myself in a relationship without being healed and now I am suffering from a soul-tie. Whenever you can may you do a video on, "Ways to break a soul-tie with someone you love"? I really hope you see this comment. Like it is very bad I am not okay.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith. I will add it to my list to get it done!
I know what I want. Not settling for less.
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I do you know what you want?!
Perioddttt sis,,I love that for you.
Haven't watched the video yet...but I truly love what you are doing for the Black community. Always providing much needed clarity to issues that are never really discussed.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
For the white community too. You’re the best!
Also the Hispanic community 🫶
It's for humans so, include every single community.
@@inaee2661She can include who she wants. Stop being sensitive.
This was a brave but honest comment about periods! 👏 a lot of the times we know all of these things you have mentioned ☝️ but we tell ourselves another story and make things “ok” in our own minds, even though we know deep down we’re not ok with it 🤷♀️
Blocked one today. Happy to know that I do better and better :)
I've seen your videos and others alike many times but sometimes certain messages meet people at the right time. That mug has got to go! Thanks for caring so much and pouring your heart into making sure we have that voice to bring us to our senses. I appreciate you!
Trurh is you dont really know if a man just want sax until you have sax. Alot of men have zero issues going on several dates for sax. You truly dont know until you have it and see his reaction
If women were more open to have sex in a libertine way, less men would fake to want have a relationship just to have sex.
The fact is, most women want to have sex just in a romantic reletionship when they're in a relationship while man just want to have sex independently if they're in a relationship or not.
@LoscoX it's plenty of women that want that. Their called prostitutes. Easy fix.
Lied to a guy that I was on my period..he told me to stil come out let's hang out.. since we can't lodge in a hotel bacause of my period.. well we actually started dating..
These ones are not hard ladies, they are all pretty simple signs. You just need to decide if he is worth sleeping with and beating yourself up over it later- because one way or the other you will regret it at some point.
This is so true 💯💯
These videos and coaching has helped me to understand the male person a bit better than I can imagine. I never looked at a man as having emotions and affections about anything but what they needed. Maybe I was looking at the wrong role models, but your videos have helped a lot keep them coming. Bless.
We can lie and say we're menstruating if we want to test, the right man wont trip.
That's my strategy all the time and true it works for me.❤ tired of being used by this cow's
Some men still will want it while menstruating, it’s nasty but some get down like that.
Wish I could “like” more than once.
❤️❤️❤️. Thank you Stephan!
My pleasure ❤️
You are absolutely right
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Hmmmm these tips are very insightful 😊😊! The minute I notice any of these signs when I meet someone deuces!!
Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate hearing from you 🙏
I'm a firm believer in exploring my mind 1st. Men know that they aren't the only guy who want to sleep with you. Therefore, if you're not attempting to separate yourself from the many...why are we even conversing?
Exactly. The lack of effort should be a clear sign! 😌
That’s why i been single a while learning
LOL, that book plug was so smooth. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I comment on this video before anyone else did fear me now
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Hello Stephan, I always found your relationship videos informative. 😊 Keep on uploading more empowering relationship advice videos. 👍
I'm happy the videos are helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Hope you have a wonderful week, Stephan. 😊
And I let go, and it FELT FREEING🥂🍾💋
I love the way you laught in your videos when talking facts 😁always makes me laugh😂love your content! You are one of a kind ❤️👏🏽
Lots of tell tell signs! You just mentioned the first one!
I FOUND THAT OUT ABOUT THE LAST GUY! HE DIDN'T WANT ANYTHING BUT SEX....I TOLD HIM I'M NOT A SEX TOY!
Period
Love this information.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I never experience that messy things in men because friendship is definitely what I demand if not he could go about his life ladies know your worth
I am nobody's object!
This is all legit. Truth.
💯 yes!
Had to subscribe thanks for the diamonds of knowledge 🙏🏾💎Some of us weren’t blessed to have positive male romodels so this is a blessing. If I’m not worth his time is he worth mine? Nahhhh fam🏄🏾♀️
And some guys only take you out to show u off
Hi I really like your channel is very honest and no bulshit 😂, new subscriber, I watched all your interviews and loved it 😂😅no bulshit sis 😂❤
I agree 100 percent with you ! However I know 2 scenarios where a guy took a woman on lavish dates and started very hot and heavy and showed interest and said he wanted something serious and once he got what he want he told her he didn’t want commitment and he started moving differently and would only contact her about sex moving forward. Then another dude had sex instantly with a woman and was inconsistent but would take her on dates here and there and told her want a wife but he not ready for commitment. So why these two dudes took these women out on dates ? It’s wild to me lol
Excellent 👏
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A man is not honest or truthful about their intentions.
Thank you mr stephan for this video , really made my vision clear 🙏😇
I had a man to be very up front that there was no intentions and he only wanted sex! 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
At least he was honest with you from the jump. Saved you a lot of time.
So? You saved him time and be saved you time. Most guys go on 3 dates get sax then ghost. Most men have no issue going on 5-10 dates just for sax,
I had that happen to me too and respected the h3ll out his honesty! 😂 He went his way....I went my way in peace. On to the next one!
To be honest, this is great! Most men LIE because they’re trying to get the 🍪. If men are straightforward, I have more respect because we’re not wasting each other’s time.
Hope you didn't give it to him sis.
he treats me like a princes and i love how he talk with me but he also talk about sex or joke about sexual things a lot and he said that he want serious relatonship
Red flag
Right on stephan
Everything you said are FACTS! 😳 True Happiness, before marriage is this…Single, Total Celibacy, Disease free, Happy & Blessed.💯Rushing in to have sex, with strangers is Deadly! ✅🔥😱
Thank you. You are so right.
Thankyou for this!!!
Thank you so much Stephen I really needed to here another man say this so that way I could cut and clearly see the signs he is giving "manipulation" if you will.
I had a guy who kept canceling out on me when he would tell me we were going out. Funny thing was WE NEVER HAD SEX! He was just a liar!
One time he told me he wanted to take me to the movies. Something told me not to get ready. 15 minutes before it was time for him to pick me up...he calls and cancels. Reason being: His daughter fell off a her bike and injured her knee really bad and she had to be rushed to the hospital. I told him go on and call me later.
An hour later, one of my homegirls sent me a picture message of the guy and another female standing at the concession stand at the movie theater.
He called me the next day. I asked him how was his daughter. He starts lying through his teeth. I saved the pic my friend sent me. While he was talking, I sent him the pic. When he opened it up and saw the pic of him and the female....I swear you could hear a pin drop. I hung up on him. He never called me anymore after that, but sometimes I would see him, and he would be looking at me so he could get my attention.
👋🏾 negro 😂
Good for you, call him out on his BS behavior.
Does a man take it slow with someone they are truly interested because r afraid of being hurt again?
I’ve been married to a narcissist for 10 years. I found out over this past summer he’s been cheated on me. Although he never would admit it, after him staying out all night a lot I made him confess. Now he stays with her. I’m so glad it’s over because I didn’t wanna be with him no more because his narcissistic ways, but now he don’t know where to begin to trust another man even if I think he really does like me. I’m so done
I watched a video that explained that men will have sex with women they dislike, find UNattractive/fat etc...because he is just looking for a feel good experience of sex. so basically ANY woman with a pulse. I've known this but it was heartbreaking and disgusting to hear. the sad part is, some women don't care about this fact & will perform any sex act thinking it's going to keep dude around.
I totally agree
Let him go tell him goodbye
Hey, thank you!
Just went thru this with someone I thought wanted to be serious, Had some recent bad storms come thru n power out, he asks did I want company! In a house with no power, lighting or water 💦 😢
Sis,I do not know what to say😮.The audacity of this guy.
@@Wonderwoman79G He had intentions because of his birthday, even know he is just a friend, but I know he’d like to be friends with benefits.
I am actually going through this right now and it's annoying cuz that's all that is on his mind and it's getting on my nerves
H doesn’t take you anywhere; he always busy and never taken to his home! He said he can’t make you happy and you are the one responsible for your happiness; he only meets you in the midnight; he doesn’t want to hear your feelings or concerns;
My sister read your book and gave it to me yeah use real the hardest part is for us to as being females is to believe it
You better start believing it. It's a real game changer.
What if he is always saying he can’t afford to go do anything? I have so many questions.
The batman signal 😂😂😂
What I'f he asked me to go to a place for his buisness to pick stuff up its a ride so we ride down n back what is that kind of situation im confused never went out on a date just drives to his work places
He only texts when he wants to get together he foxes things for me idk what is what
All this video did was make me feel bad…but in a good way…a way of growth.
I’ve always said and ex is an ex for a reason (I’m 51, we Gen X ppl were just figuring shit out.
Anyway…I’m still cautions with going for round 2 with my ex. But : long story short I went into a situationship, during COVID, with a guy 17 yrs younger than me. Basically I had been celibate for 20yrs, wanted a fling, he for the fling criteria (willing). It lasted for 2.5 yrs. We had our ups and downs, basically I made assumptions.
Anyone, I ended up wanting more, he said he didn’t.
But we spent so much time together outside of sex: hiking, hanging out with his family & friends (I’m a traveling healthcare worker so was stuck in his area during COVID). Spent holidays with his family & friends. When on my period we watched movie or series together. One time it started unexpectedly on a hiking day, he told me exercise was good for cramps, and when I got in his car he set up the heated seats and massage while we drove to the hiking spot.
When we did have sex (the best sex of my life every time) he got me in the habit of staying and cuddling. (I hate to cuddle because I am a hot sleeper, I sweat at night, but he eventually ware me down to allow cuddling.
We had a falling out, as he started dating someone else yet was still trying to be with me.
I am not under any elusión that he wants more with me…the age difference and the lack of ability to give him kids, makes me keep pushing him away.
But now that we are back in touch and slowly navigating our friendship back to where is was, I am having to realise that we just may have been more than sex….we were a situationship.
I don’t know what is in store for us, we have a connection, not just physical.
But as someone who has been notorious for giving guys between 6 to 9 months before I run because I felt like all they wanted was sex. And to now have a guy in my life that has been here since May 2020, I’m questioning or realising he was probably right when he called me a runner….and I realise, even though he is young, he has taught, made me face and feel a lot.
This video makes me realise he wasn’t just wanting sex…but I still don’t know what is in store.
I do realise I have to drop my guard and fine out…even if it doesn’t go anywhere else besides more great sex and …
It's really difficult to give you an advice only based on what you wrote is that you really seem to be a avoidant relationship type. We tend to attract (unconscious) what's meets our relationship type. And you seem to attract and be attracted by guys who only want sex. So now it's difficult to say if or if not your situationship guy wants more or not. Maybe he's the same relationship type as you?! First question is, what do you truly desire? Is that enough what you had in the past and if not and you really want a real relationship than set your boundaries and ask. Sometimes you must take risks to get what you want and sometimes even suffer, but it doesn't help to extend things which are not the real deal... Maybe he's fine not having kids with you... and it's enough for him to be with you. But you can only find out if you ask him what he wants in life... and if it's not the same things as you than move on... I was avoidant relationship type in the past and only attracted to guys who run away and I could chase them... lying, cheated on me etc... now I happy married with 38 years and by the way my husband is 5 years younger, so age is just a number... Take care ❤
What if the drive is high??
Dang I needed to see this. I so badly want a relationship buuuut man is giving me all these red flags. But I won’t hold myself to that low of value. Clearly he got the wrong one. But dang
If that's the case why when I offered to pay for his hotel didn't he stay with me
Am letting him go
I hv one who has been with me for 5 year and counting without commitment. No problem. I now take so much money from him. I hv 2 kids from my previous marriage and his money is helping my kids a lot. Let him keep thinking he is wasting my time. I pity him.
Smart🎉
Whew I know those men be in your inbox like “Brah” but thank you lol
🫡Salute Stephan!🏆
🤜🏾🤛🏾Thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
He's wants a Quickie ! It's usually not good either..The worst waste of time.. 2:27
Thank you for your feedback🙏
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the beginning tho😂
They can take you out even on a trip just to sex you sooo ! Safer to just put it out there that’s not your intention on giving it up so soon or never ! trust they’ll leave or wait still get and possibly still get it leave , basically is a war dating Ohh trust they also put much effort into just trying to get the 🐱
THANK YOU
Well, girls! At least you’ll get to cross him off if it’s bad sex. Next!
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Right!!!!😂😂😂
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😂😂😂 LORD forgive Mr Stephen .😂😂but Sir ! that is the honest truth .Thank you Mr Stephen 😂
Facts ‼️
💯 yes!
I will play en listen to this..coz it's time is out of this world..😂 it ain't everyday that this guy does a video for 12 minutes..😂
I was seeing a guy who was in an open relationship. He said that I was the only girl he ever thought about having a relationship with. Everyone else he had prior was an fwb. He says he's terrible at communication. He also said he wanted to slowly build something with me. Maybe consider becoming poly because he should be allowed to love more than one person. A month goes by and I am sitting here doing the evaluation of us. I really care for this guy. I have given him my time, resources because my love language is to serve and give. I only hear from him when he is not around his girlfriend. I have to initiate communication and the sex. And I know she's married to a different man, seeing another man, the one I'm willing to make the one, I make priority. But no. He comes over at night, and now he has reasons he can't text or come over. I just woke up and realized maybe he could be a friend but even friends don't treat each other this way. If your gut feels confused it'd a sign. But he was everything I was looking for. But I deserve better. So does everyone. We all deserve to be not number one but the only one. I thank God for this lesson. I feel stronger for it and sad that I was of no value. I wasn't the one. I pray God sends me the one, I hate feeling like my time to find the one is running out. When you're a single mom. Options are limited and there is pee in the dating pool. Much love to everyone ❤
Whaaaaat???
@@ButterCookie1984 lol 😆 I love your reaction. My story sounds silly doesn't it?
No disrespect but u made the decision getting into this relationship with this man & he told u #1 I’m in an open relationship #2 I’m not a good communicator. I think ur expectations of him was to high being that he has two major red flags waving them in ur face.
@courtneyfranklin3593 no disrespect taken. I completely agree and you're probably right. 🤗 lesson learnt.
I fully read everything. The fact that you knew things up front, decided to still engage in a penetrationship with a man who is sharing his raw body with his wife, you hop on it too, fall for him, accepts his soul ties into your body...then expect God to send you your own man. The issue is that you chose to commit adultery. Not for one second thinking about how does the wife feel. Her body is telling her all about you. Your vagina secretions has been put on the SAME tool he uses to penetrate his wife. Her PH is off. Yours gotta be off. It becomes a cesspool of germs, emotional anguish, demons haunting her and you. Listen. Tell God that you have fallen short n do better. He seen everything n He do not play about what He has created as a bonding opportunity for husband and wife. None of that nasty poly stuff.
Now I clear about this thing
But What if he take me out and we do also other things but after we go to his house (I mean I want too) 🧐
Batman signal 😝😝😝 Appropo! Turn around and the masked stranger is on your back porch 😂
Im am so confused
He probably married
I know a guy marry a woman the woman marry him but she dont even know why it happen,
She don't know is a narcissistic man she married to she think is real love but he married her to use her for his gain and guess what she's living 3 quarter hour from him and he's living by him self , in the week & weekends you could see a new💃🏽 face stepping in & out
So the woman married a narcissist ,u only c her once in a while what ever lies he be telling her like she believe everything he tell her
He manipulate her and married to use her
As well as some women do the same too ,
I pray God give them the uncommon eyes to see clearly in the spirit realm to know what is real from fake 🙏🏾👏🏽
Are you "the woman"?
No I'm not .
I am Spiritual wise with the wisdom knowledge and the understanding from God I'm mature enough now . from a young age growing up , back then I couldn't understand what's real love from fake love but i learn from my experience every stages in life , so no devil's demons witches wizards & warlocks can't come around me with foolishness to control manipulate my spirit for their gain , it have loyal honest true men and women out there but some people can't identify them, woo be unto them who tell they self they would rod & use these kind of honest people & get off no way . I'm sorry for the young girls & boys coming up now in this evil times all the advantage will take on them , all the clowns take church the word of God & the worship out from schools all over the world so the young people get strayed away with the lawless music they dont want hear but church & God word is like rat poison for them ,God , word , church Prophets Bishop come to save & snatch their lives out the demons hand , while pastors prophets saving souls for christ the demons lucifer & his agents on the other hand competing with God to take down plenty life , check see how many people dying losing their life stupid living in ignorance every day cause the following the wrong things
Why some men & women live & living to 99 98 100 106 105 102 104 think about it 🙏🏽Have a bless wkn 👏🏽
@@ButterCookie1984
I reply to you ok , have a bless wkn 🙏🏽👏🏽
What it means when a guy tells me I am the one that only wants sex?