Women are not dating men to be treated like prostitutes, a man should never expect sex in exchange for a meal, that's just pathetic I'm afraid. It's a sad world we are living in.
Jesus fed 5000 people for free... these men want sex after just one plate of meal.😂😅🤣😂😁😆.... I think 1st date should be at a park at least there is no expenses.
Exactly but unfortunately too many women have condition men to behave like this so when they meet someone with sense they do not understand why we have the stance we have.
This is a KEY REASON why I've completely stopped dating men anymore. I'm going on 3 years strong now and no man in my life because I do not want ANY part of these stupid problems or extra stress in my life. Hell, it's funny how men are suddenly complaining about BEING USED. For decades, women have been being used for our bodies and men don't see anything wrong with that!! They are reaping what they sow. Good riddance to these street dogs. (And yes, when I say I'm committee to never dating men again, that automatically means being celibate without question!).
what happened to holding hands, kissing, making out? why does it have to be sex IMMEDIATELY (and sometimes aggressively) to show you they’re interested in you? what happened to expressing sexual or romantic interest with words? why do the majority of men not know how to do this anymore? or know how to be romantic or express themselves romantically? it doesn’t have to be explicitly sexual and if it is, it doesn’t have to be disrespectful. i don’t understand what’s happened to humanity. why is it so hard for them to communicate or go to therapy to learn these skills and more importantly, HEAL and stop bleeding on and hurting so many women. gah. i’m so tired of this.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw i’m sure some do but i haven’t encountered them yet. i know there are many great men out there! but im expressing my frustrating of talking to 30 year olds who are emotionally still 10 years old and don’t go to therapy because it’s not “logical” yet…they can’t commit and so many other issues i won’t get into.
I really like this young man channel, I have to say this because it hit my spirit Adorable 🥰Stephan.The Human being has lost ways to LOVE!😢😮love is taking your time, love is getting to know 1/another, it’s a magical feeling that U don’t know why it TIES&BINDS😮Many people want things in a New York minute! all true feelings are gone music, pornography (🤢🤮woman who do this for$)TV adds all sexual No romanticism🥹The love aspect is doomed😞😢
Earlier this month, a man ghosted me after three months of a situationship. He did not want to go out on dates. He explained that he is a homebody, so we did things at his house, like watch T.V. and eat home-cooked meals. After one month of dating, he asked me for sex. When I asked him to take an STD test, he refused. He explained that he prefers to use a condom. Maybe that is why he ghosted me. I am so glad that I never slept with him. As a matter of fact, I should have been the one to ghost him after he refused to take the test.
The problem is lack of communication on both ends and being truthful about each others intentions on the first date. Honesty is the key. Don’t try and mislead a woman. Be honest and truthful. Discuss on the phone or text email what you are looking for. If you only want sex just say it. If you want a relationship with sex and no commitment just say it. If you want a marriage but you are not having sex but are still sexually attracted to her but still respects her until she’s ready then LET HER KNOW!!!!! JUST SAY IT!!!
The audacity of men expecting sex as showing ‘interest’. We already basically risk our lives being alone with them and spending money on our appearance. Maybe we need to bring back the Bridgerton days with chaperones to see how they like it 😂
@@Strawberryfreeze3000 sex is a skill. It can be learned with patience, openess, humility, and communication. All of which I'd want in a marriage anyway. If I didn't have a serious case of Wendy Syndrome caring for little lost art boys lol
@@kathleen-mariefoley780 I don’t think so .. I have dated a guy that could never get it right ..no matter what ..it was horrible ..the thing is everything else was perfect : no kids, never married, great career , home owner ..nice ..but I could not get pass the bad se c…it was horrible!….what would be your advice to that …great provider but extremely horrible in bed …what a girl supposed to do? Cheat ?
1. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are too easy so he puts in less effort. 2. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are worth the investment. WHICH ONE IS IT?!!😭😭😭
Mature individuals often prioritize emotional intimacy, mutual respect, and shared values over mere physical desires. In many cases, seeing relationships solely through the lens of physical attraction can lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities for meaningful connections. IMO
Yes. The guy I’m seeing doesn’t expose himself at all. He’s a “gentleman”. Wants to do anything I want to do, can follow me in conversation on things I really care about, but it doesn’t take me into really feeling close with him. We’re still on the friend level. We can only go deeper when he goes deeper. But he is walled up, I can feel the wall. And if I sense that, there is no way I can be physically intimate with you, cause WHO is this person with me. Sure you’re trying hard to impress me, but you ain’t giving me anything I can feel, something that will open my heart towards you romantically
Often as a women I feel the way to break the walls is the physical intimacy but is that really the case for men. Sex is supposed to be the glue that holds you but surely it can only do that if you both are fully invested together in every way
@@CatherineHart.hh3vwthat is not the case for many ppl. Sex is an act. The reasons for the act vary. Some place more emphasis on the engagement than others.
Set a boundary with them and you’ll soon see where you stand. They either... disappear for good....are genuine, wanting to get to know you and let things develop naturally or they disappear and circle back around after a few months like nothing happened. But, which ever happens, you have your dignity in tact and won’t regret it.
Exactly 💯 percent! Women have to allow themselves to be used sexually by these "Low-Value Men" who have zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!! 🙏❤✝️
Its crazy how there are too many men acting like entitled to a woman’s body. If a man has the what can I get back in return then just be upfront. I can’t stand the ones who play games.
He should have chosen better. If he got used for food, he should have chosen better. He should have taken the time to vet her and get to know her. A few PROBING and SUBSTANTIVE questions would have let him know of the mindset and level of interest of the woman. There are PLENTY of date ideas that don’t cost much of anything, if anything at all. Effort and creativity, would make money irrelevant. Many women would actually prefer an activity or event over a dinner. The men should vet, and not be lazy and unimaginative.
Food is something I can even buy for a girlfriend for free. Who is raising these kinds of men. Sheesh so mannerless and lacking in class. Ladies standards work
@@norelle8705ify non negotiable. Do not sit alone in a car with a man, drive anywhere with him at all, or step through the door of his pad. The man has to earn even that. This is the only way. I stayed abstinent for a very long time. It was so painful. I think I had physical pain over it. I lived alone in the mountains. You can do it. The Holy Spirit enables it. Through Jesus. He will give you the power. 💪🏻
Men should not be using going too fast as an excuse based on their fear of being used. Cross that bridge when you notice the red flags that a woman is using you by releasing that person. Very simple.
Right! Here’s a wild idea-maybe instead of trying to escalate physically, they could try being honest and telling you if they like you?!?! You know, use words. Is that too much to ask for?! 😭 I’ve been brave and expressed my feelings before. I would love to find someone willing to do the same.
People need to express there feeling and what they need in a relationship. Having sex clouds your judgment, you need to get to know the person and connect.
I can agree, although sometimes males need to know u approached her… she may not connect with you on the date…. Males are not checking for women who are serious… Their going for an easy lay type of chick… the males role the dice to see if she will F for a meal…
Men getting sexual too soon is the #1 biggest turn off to me. Smoking a a close 2nd. 😂 Honestly though my initial thought when men start right off with the bs I’m out! Complete flip of the switch. Because in my eyes it’s about another notch on the bedpost. Especially in today’s society!
Agree 💯 percent! It's obvious these types of "Low-Value Men" are used to getting what they want. And to use the excuse that they don't want to spend $$$ on women who "play" them is just ridiculous!!! 🙄👎
Tips for men : Why trying to have sex to soon to show that u are interested guys?? How about being affectionate, romantic, kisses and cuddles (out of the room of course ) that will definitely show that you are into women and also are a quality guy 😺😽💘
Agree, but that would be "High-value" Man behavior. The type of guys being talked about on this video are just guys with zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!!
Men need to understand that women need time for attraction to come online. We’re biologically sexually selective. I went out with a handful of men last year (wasn’t intimate) and didn’t feel any attraction for any of them. I would not have felt comfortable being intimate. I was open and willing to see if the attraction could come online, but men usually aren’t if you’re not willing to sleep with them.
One thing I think men should consider is that women spend a LOT to look good in general, to feel good and attract you in the first place, AND to provide you with a top version of ourselves when you take us out. Ladies, I know you have my back here. Hair, nails/toes, all the the ongoing regular maintenance, the new money suck: lashes , clothes in general and possibly a new outfit for the date. Maybe a babysitter if you’re a mom. It adds up to wayyyyyy more than dinner! You guys need to be aware of that and stop feeling that women OWE you something in return. We are giving it on the front end. Respect that, appreciate that, compliment that, and you will be well on your way to feeling appreciated in return. Show masculine romantic behavior and reap the rewards! 💋
So you’re going to stop doing all of this for yourself if a man isn’t involved?? It’s not like we have to buy this stuff new everytime we go on a date. It last for multiple uses and occasions, far longer than a one time $100 dinner. This is not a valid excuse And if you can’t afford a babysitter once in a while, don’t date. It’s not his kid or his responsibility to take care of or even offer up something you made a choice about long before he stepped on the scene.
@@wkpo4107 I don’t disagree with you. Great points. But we should spend more money on quality food and gym memberships we use rather than fake eyelashes and hair dye.
@@vanessabeckett5614 You also make good points….good points everyone. It’s all true at the same time. That is a paradox. Not a contradiction. Look up the word. It’s my favorite word.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw I think many of us do, and I agree on lashes. I should have added gym, yoga and Pilates sessions. My bad. But I’m still going to get highlights! ;)
I was the one that moved fast.. I was married 45 years saved myself. I was so busy with business’s, I’m widowed now and let me tell you I can’t get enough.. I’m 73 and my wonderful man is 66 thinking older women don’t have sex. He said “was I wrong”🤣🤣🤣
@@threecats1605 hi there,I just wanted to take a moment of yourto thank you for sharing, I m sooo happy to hear of how U & you’re partner have found beautiful love for each other in later years🥰adorable🤭
Don’t go on dates expecting anything, let alone anything in return. You’re going on dates to find a connection. Go on small dates, like coffee shops. If she wants more than that, then you have your answer.
I’m not paying for anything and I don’t have premarital sex and get marriage proposals often. True I’ve been married twice without having sex first and it didn’t work out but I have no regrets and no shame. I did not sin. Stop giving yourself to men. Stop sinning because it ages you much faster. I’m 50 and people think I’m 28! Worship God. Stay out of men’s beds!
Now I see why a lot of women end up giving up. If both sides are in for the fun then who cares but for some of us sex can’t just happen without any sign of effort/commitment.
Make a move but be respectful about it, know how and learn to read you date, get it into your head gentlemen that making a move doesn't have to mean sex. Try learning to court, kiss, talk, touch ,,cuddles , etc. If you're interested seriously you will benefit from talking and taking it slow in the long run. It's worth it.
Don't go to any person house that your dating. Hangout outside the house. If the person is interested show it by actions and not sexually. Be honest in how you feel.
Where I come from words are used to communicate with people and express what you want or don’t want. Additionally, sex is for married people. This is part of the reasons why we have so many children raised by single parents, abortions etc. The purpose for dating is to get to know a person. Why would anyone take someone on an expensive date early on? Perhaps go on more expensive dates after you learn more about them and wouldn’t mind spending more money at that time.
I think reason number 5 is sex has been his most familiar path to intimacy in general-not just physical intimacy. And this is true for some men and women. This is the only way they know how to “break the ice” to connection.
All women/men are not the same, but communication is VERY IMPORTANT!!! You can communicate that you are interested in a relationship and/or don't want to be friend zoned, etc. without sex having to be the only way.
If I am supposed to go dutch, I can stay home by myself and cook… The way people start off is normally how they finish. I’m am too old to play those games. ✌🏾
You also didn’t answer the question. The question was why is sex the first expectation on a date? Why are so many men pursuing this and not a relationship? Why are so many men focused on sex and not simply having a good time with the women they go out with?
For the first 2 minutes of this I was angry but it makes sense later. Although “some men” are the key words here. I find it really off putting for men to use “dates” to get sex and women to use “dates” to use men for free meals 😢 dating, should be spent with the intent to genuinely get to know the other persons wants, needs & goals etc..
If he's really interested in you he'll respect your boundaries. You can just tell him. Hey I'm interested in you. Can we see if we have a connection in an emotional and outgoing way first.
Involved with my partner for 14 years, yet he’s always speaking sexual with me- about me. Yes, it’s a plus that he’s still into me but why talk sexual EVERY CONVERSATION and touchy feelly it’s nerve wrecking.. is this normal? Please reply
He Doesn’t want to get played. Well they play with women. And abt the free meal. I don’t think women are asking for a free meal. They are the ones that choose to men don’t want to put effort in nothing now a days
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think that is just an excuse that "Low-Value Men" use who are not even looking for a relationship, just what they can get for as low of an investment as possible! 👎👎
The American culture is way too fast. People sleeping together within the first month is a no no in many other cultures especially with women over 40. The issue with the examples you gave is that there was not enough verbal communication on what each person was expecting out of the relationship. They were just trying to read body language. Especially with Christian women, we have to let the men know up front what we are about and if they can't wait, then they are free to go
I get that. I have gone out bc I was bored. I don't play the guys tho. I usually let them know the outcome before we even go out. A friend is a friend, no sex. Just chilling, if that isn't what he wants I don't go out with him. Playing games or just playing someone is not me. I don't want to get played, so I don't play them
For me I am too kind to pat on the back, or looking too long into a man's eyes & smile, I compliment left, right & center. It's just part of my nature - but I will be trying to do that less.
I do think that closing the gap between knowing if both are interested is just to have an honest conversation. We assume too quickly through actions without knowing what's going on in each other's thoughts...
One thing not being said in these examples is that the men did not clearly communicate. Teach men to use their words! A man who can’t effectively communicate is not an attractive potential mate. The burden should not be on the woman for some men’s lack of basic communication skills.
No 3 I have to say works both ways. If a woman makes the first move guys sometimes say no and still feel some type of way especially when a woman tries to respect them wanting to wait. Some can be fickle and flip the script. Yet don’t understand when a woman decides after all that then she wants to wait. Men wanting to have sex so soon is part of the reason I haven’t had sex in years especially those using the strong attraction as an excuse. I’m older and wiser so I don’t fall for that anymore. They just want sex.
It's BS to say women won't know you're interested because you didn't try to have sex with her. For centuries men and women didn't have premarital sex, how did the woman know the man was interested? Because he told her, courted her, brought her flowers, etc. It's not difficult, but romance seems to be a dead art. It doesn't have to be expensive. Pick her some flowers, send her a card, plan a picnic and make some sandwiches. Even if you actually try to get to know her, ask about her goals and what she's looking for in a partner, etc. That conveys to a woman that you're serious and interested. And if she only expects expensive dinners and gifts, she's either using you or shallow.
I like the part you said its confusing, the fact that we're different people also makes the view and perspective of situations different. Sound teachings like this should help change people's orientation for the better though. Thank you Stephan.
Her time is an equivalent to his investment friend.. our time to procreate cannot be earned by working more hours. Women get the short end of the stick anyway you look at it. Either we give it up to soon and he dips, or we hold out and he dips. So since men hold the power of a relationship all we have is our chastity to ensure we won’t be run through. Periodt.
I appreciate the video explaining, but its such a turn off for me. It gives high school vibes. I agree with the comment on here... It doesn't have to be all sexual. You can can flirt, kiss etc to show interest. It doesn't take all that aggression. (I like the setting boundaries advice).
Dating rules are not the same as courtship rules not the same as engagement rules not the same as marriage rules...Unhealthy women and men will always try to put marriage things into dating area due to unresolved childhood trauma and not understanding or living in environment with emotionally mature humans.
The whole "making a move" is a very slippery slope. Some men interpret making moves as being sexually aggressive and that can be very off-putting to a woman. A man can make the proverbial move on a woman that does not involve any vulgar language or lascivious behavior.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Stephan, I hope I am not asking too much, can you make a content all about “how should a woman tell a good man to wait until the right time before having sex”…. I don’t want to say it the wrong way, I would like to learn it from a man’s perspective. 🙏
1 Corinthians 7 KJV - King James Version It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
@ange2122 God forgave me of all my sins when I asked him to come into my life. You don't need to give me scripture. I am a widow. Been there and done it.
@@loisclark1883 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 in the Bible states: "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God"
There r ways ppl show romantic interest without diving into sex. Open communication and taking time in getting to know ppl is key. These reasons are ridiculous lol
There's no fear in love, perfect love casts out fear because fear comes with punishment. If a man is fearful of being used for money, dinner, or more, his wanting to have sex too soon is simply an act of lust, not love, it is just a lustful way to validate the fear of being used, because with most men who aren't in love yet, once sex is exchanged for validation of not being used, the man is no longer fearful of being used, but may not be as interested in that particular woman anymore once he has sex with her, because it wasn't love, it was lust, because there's no fear in love. When a man truly loves a woman he doesn't need sex to validate his time spent with her or his money spent on her, without fear of being used or hurt and feeling like he's going to be punished for being a good man to the right woman. When it's the right woman she'll only want to do you good all the days of your life and never harm you in any way. Sex is fun, God created sex for our pleasure, but if it's used the wrong way and for the wrong reasons it can blow up in our faces, and even be physically dangerous to our health when used casually. Sex in a relationship is great fun, and it should be, but relationships without marriage usually don't last. So if people want different results, they'll have to do something different to get better results. Abstaining from sex until marriage can invigorate, stimulate, energize, amp up, spike, jump start, and fire up a deep passion and desire to be with that one person, because you know that you can trust that person, without fear of loving them because you've gotten to know each other without sexual lust blurring your mind from seeing and knowing who they are. I enjoy having sex, but if I'm not in a trustworthy, lasting relationship, I keep my cookies in my cookie jar, and the thing I'm doing differently for better results is allowing my future husband to open my cookie jar only. People can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results.
@@1986Glory That's just a ridiculous excuse low-value men use! They should just hire a prostitute, so they'll be sure and get their "money's worth", right?? 🙄
@@4EverGr8ful1so you justifying some of these gold diggers doing this mess come on now two wrongs don’t make unless you one these women out here that’s doing this crap
Great video, some new perspective about men’s behavior in those early days of dating! I also feel like a lot of men who do this are the same that will tell you not to let your past experiences with other men affect this new potential relationship. Pretty hypocritical, and to some degree all of our current behaviors are colored by our experiences!
100%. they don’t want you to treat them like past guys but will treat you as if you’re their exes. smh. they want a chance and the benefit of the doubt but don’t give you that.
Stephan, I always appreciated your advice. But by calling sex an "investment" several times you've turned my stomach! I HAVE never and WILL never trade my sexuality merely for a dinner!!! How disgusting does it get here???
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think you need to maybe stop hearing from "Low-Value Men" and talk about those with integrity and good moral values!! You're making reputable men look bad with these kind of videos! 👎👎
I hope my Simba knows where we stand on the intimate subject because we have already had that discussion, and I made sure I was balanced, went through my healing from past trauma. So that should not be in question to him..
There are so many different scenarios that's why it's important to express ourselves verbally & ask questions. I like Steve Harvey's book, Think like a man act like a lady. He suggests a woman wait at least 3 months before having intimate relations. However, open lines of communication are key. I'm going to read some of your books too. Thank you Stephan.
Yes that happens too. Not attempting is definitely a sign for me. I let them know if I'm interested bf they tell me. I don't think he has to make a move just show interest
If a man expects sex for a meal it says a lot about his character. And it's just disgusting. He should do everybody a favour and just pay for a prostitute. But a meal is less expensive. So he tries it that way 😅
It’s never ok to give something only because you expect something in return. Either do this because you want to or don’t do it. This expectation show a lack of values and character.
So he’s saying because he pay for dinner she’s expected to give her whole entire body. Wow what an exchange 😂. So if he spends $40 on my meal then I’m only worth $40 to him? And he spends $1000 on my meal then I’m worth $1000 to him? Make it make sense.
No really, excuse me! If he misunderstands, he can try GENTLY. But if she is hesitant, he should stop. Or AT LEAST make sure that she is okay. It doesn't seem he liked her that much anyway. If you like so the most important thing should be to know that they are happy, which includes being happy with the situation and happy with you. And at the end of the day there is also verbal communication if people are so confused all the time.
An investment is not a date , sorry that’s just pathetic. Your body is not something you can just give away because someone spent money on you . If a woman wants to wait until she’s married and he doesn’t then he doesn’t love her enough .
Women are not dating men to be treated like prostitutes, a man should never expect sex in exchange for a meal, that's just pathetic I'm afraid. It's a sad world we are living in.
Jesus fed 5000 people for free... these men want sex after just one plate of meal.😂😅🤣😂😁😆.... I think 1st date should be at a park at least there is no expenses.
Exactly but unfortunately too many women have condition men to behave like this so when they meet someone with sense they do not understand why we have the stance we have.
Women are the ones responsible for allowing this behavior for so long. Sad truth.
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This is a KEY REASON why I've completely stopped dating men anymore. I'm going on 3 years strong now and no man in my life because I do not want ANY part of these stupid problems or extra stress in my life. Hell, it's funny how men are suddenly complaining about BEING USED. For decades, women have been being used for our bodies and men don't see anything wrong with that!! They are reaping what they sow. Good riddance to these street dogs. (And yes, when I say I'm committee to never dating men again, that automatically means being celibate without question!).
"Do you feel that men are just a bunch of horny bastards?" Best opening ever😂😂😂
lol 😂😁
Oh yeah😊
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I never noticed. 😂
Sometimes the women are horny ones
what happened to holding hands, kissing, making out? why does it have to be sex IMMEDIATELY (and sometimes aggressively) to show you they’re interested in you? what happened to expressing sexual or romantic interest with words? why do the majority of men not know how to do this anymore? or know how to be romantic or express themselves romantically? it doesn’t have to be explicitly sexual and if it is, it doesn’t have to be disrespectful. i don’t understand what’s happened to humanity. why is it so hard for them to communicate or go to therapy to learn these skills and more importantly, HEAL and stop bleeding on and hurting so many women. gah. i’m so tired of this.
They do. I don’t know what kind of men you guys are experiencing. There are many great men out there!
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw i’m sure some do but i haven’t encountered them yet. i know there are many great men out there! but im expressing my frustrating of talking to 30 year olds who are emotionally still 10 years old and don’t go to therapy because it’s not “logical” yet…they can’t commit and so many other issues i won’t get into.
I agree 💯💯💯💯💯
Because no romantic music! 😂
I really like this young man channel, I have to say this because it hit my spirit Adorable 🥰Stephan.The Human being has lost ways to LOVE!😢😮love is taking your time, love is getting to know 1/another, it’s a magical feeling that U don’t know why it TIES&BINDS😮Many people want things in a New York minute! all true feelings are gone music, pornography (🤢🤮woman who do this for$)TV adds all sexual No romanticism🥹The love aspect is doomed😞😢
Earlier this month, a man ghosted me after three months of a situationship. He did not want to go out on dates. He explained that he is a homebody, so we did things at his house, like watch T.V. and eat home-cooked meals.
After one month of dating, he asked me for sex. When I asked him to take an STD test, he refused. He explained that he prefers to use a condom.
Maybe that is why he ghosted me. I am so glad that I never slept with him. As a matter of fact, I should have been the one to ghost him after he refused to take the test.
You should have blocked him at house “dates”.
@@Anna-st5dmperiod. Should have never got that far to begin with.
@@Anna-st5dm You are right. I should have known better.
@@Jovialjay86 Now I know how to proceed with the next man who shows signs that he is not that into me.
U should have left the minute he invited u to his house
The problem is lack of communication on both ends and being truthful about each others intentions on the first date. Honesty is the key. Don’t try and mislead a woman. Be honest and truthful. Discuss on the phone or text email what you are looking for. If you only want sex just say it. If you want a relationship with sex and no commitment just say it. If you want a marriage but you are not having sex but are still sexually attracted to her but still respects her until she’s ready then LET HER KNOW!!!!! JUST SAY IT!!!
The problem is also women with low moral standards and lacking self worth who allow these type of Low-Value Men to use them sexually! 🙄👎
Couldn't agree with you more...some men are pathological liers...
The audacity of men expecting sex as showing ‘interest’. We already basically risk our lives being alone with them and spending money on our appearance. Maybe we need to bring back the Bridgerton days with chaperones to see how they like it 😂
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I tell you!! The audacity is out of this world
No sex before marriage is the best thing ever 🙌
Can’t disagree with that
I’m on the fence with that one ..bc what if it’s wack s ec…would if he is terrible in bed ..I need to know before I commit my life …
@@Strawberryfreeze3000 sex is a skill. It can be learned with patience, openess, humility, and communication. All of which I'd want in a marriage anyway. If I didn't have a serious case of Wendy Syndrome caring for little lost art boys lol
@@kathleen-mariefoley780 I don’t think so .. I have dated a guy that could never get it right ..no matter what ..it was horrible ..the thing is everything else was perfect : no kids, never married, great career , home owner ..nice ..but I could not get pass the bad se c…it was horrible!….what would be your advice to that …great provider but extremely horrible in bed …what a girl supposed to do? Cheat ?
Fact
1. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are too easy so he puts in less effort.
2. When you sleep with him, he thinks you are worth the investment.
WHICH ONE IS IT?!!😭😭😭
Men say number 2. But subconsciously it's number 1.
Too many of them think “date” stands for d*ck at the end😂
lol this is true
@@flora91161 IKR
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SICK as HELL..
Our investment is our time spent with them. They really don’t value us at all if they haven’t figured this out.
Mature individuals often prioritize emotional intimacy, mutual respect, and shared values over mere physical desires. In many cases, seeing relationships solely through the lens of physical attraction can lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities for meaningful connections. IMO
Exactly...and good ole fashioned community
I . interested in continuing to get to know you. I. Dating you... courting you etc
This is true! That's why we have to get back into TEACHING RELATIONSHIPS CORRECTLY like you.
Yes indeed 🙏
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You have it wrong...Sex is used to avoid emotional intimacy...
In some cases true but not only
For some this is true, but there is more to it for others
They don’t want to invest emotion just want the physical and that’s it
In many cases this is true
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I see it a lot and it’s hard to know how to break the barriers down.
Yes. The guy I’m seeing doesn’t expose himself at all. He’s a “gentleman”. Wants to do anything I want to do, can follow me in conversation on things I really care about, but it doesn’t take me into really feeling close with him. We’re still on the friend level. We can only go deeper when he goes deeper. But he is walled up, I can feel the wall. And if I sense that, there is no way I can be physically intimate with you, cause WHO is this person with me. Sure you’re trying hard to impress me, but you ain’t giving me anything I can feel, something that will open my heart towards you romantically
Often as a women I feel the way to break the walls is the physical intimacy but is that really the case for men. Sex is supposed to be the glue that holds you but surely it can only do that if you both are fully invested together in every way
@@CatherineHart.hh3vwthat is not the case for many ppl. Sex is an act. The reasons for the act vary. Some place more emphasis on the engagement than others.
Set a boundary with them and you’ll soon see where you stand. They either... disappear for good....are genuine, wanting to get to know you and let things develop naturally or they disappear and circle back around after a few months like nothing happened. But, which ever happens, you have your dignity in tact and won’t regret it.
I totally agree.
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Exactly 💯 percent! Women have to allow themselves to be used sexually by these "Low-Value Men" who have zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!! 🙏❤✝️
If he can’t afford dinner, he can’t afford to date.
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And definitely not sex!
Its crazy how there are too many men acting like entitled to a woman’s body. If a man has the what can I get back in return then just be upfront. I can’t stand the ones who play games.
And these are the same men that will label you a hoe when they get you in the sheets early
Nothing to do with affording. Why assume it's the man's duty to pay? Sounds like sexist entitlement to me.
He should have chosen better. If he got used for food, he should have chosen better. He should have taken the time to vet her and get to know her. A few PROBING and SUBSTANTIVE questions would have let him know of the mindset and level of interest of the woman.
There are PLENTY of date ideas that don’t cost much of anything, if anything at all. Effort and creativity, would make money irrelevant. Many women would actually prefer an activity or event over a dinner. The men should vet, and not be lazy and unimaginative.
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Food is something I can even buy for a girlfriend for free. Who is raising these kinds of men. Sheesh so mannerless and lacking in class. Ladies standards work
I’m not giving it up for a plate!
@@norelle8705ify non negotiable. Do not sit alone in a car with a man, drive anywhere with him at all, or step through the door of his pad. The man has to earn even that. This is the only way. I stayed abstinent for a very long time. It was so painful. I think I had physical pain over it. I lived alone in the mountains. You can do it. The Holy Spirit enables it. Through Jesus. He will give you the power. 💪🏻
Period.
Men should not be using going too fast as an excuse based on their fear of being used. Cross that bridge when you notice the red flags that a woman is using you by releasing that person. Very simple.
Right! Here’s a wild idea-maybe instead of trying to escalate physically, they could try being honest and telling you if they like you?!?! You know, use words. Is that too much to ask for?! 😭 I’ve been brave and expressed my feelings before. I would love to find someone willing to do the same.
People need to express there feeling and what they need in a relationship. Having sex clouds your judgment, you need to get to know the person and connect.
I can agree, although sometimes males need to know u approached her… she may not connect with you on the date….
Males are not checking for women who are serious…
Their going for an easy lay type of chick… the males role the dice to see if she will F for a meal…
Men getting sexual too soon is the #1 biggest turn off to me. Smoking a a close 2nd. 😂
Honestly though my initial thought when men start right off with the bs I’m out! Complete flip of the switch. Because in my eyes it’s about another notch on the bedpost. Especially in today’s society!
Big turn off im out too i start dodging and eventually they go away 😂
Agree 💯 percent! It's obvious these types of "Low-Value Men" are used to getting what they want. And to use the excuse that they don't want to spend $$$ on women who "play" them is just ridiculous!!! 🙄👎
Tips for men : Why trying to have sex to soon to show that u are interested guys?? How about being affectionate, romantic, kisses and cuddles (out of the room of course ) that will definitely show that you are into women and also are a quality guy 😺😽💘
Bloop! 👍💯🤔🤷👌🥂💝🎉🥳
Agree, but that would be "High-value" Man behavior. The type of guys being talked about on this video are just guys with zero integrity or moral standards... No thanks!!
Men need to understand that women need time for attraction to come online. We’re biologically sexually selective. I went out with a handful of men last year (wasn’t intimate) and didn’t feel any attraction for any of them. I would not have felt comfortable being intimate. I was open and willing to see if the attraction could come online, but men usually aren’t if you’re not willing to sleep with them.
Those are "Low-Value Men" who usually aren't looking for a long-term relationship in the first place. 🙄👎
One thing I think men should consider is that women spend a LOT to look good in general, to feel good and attract you in the first place, AND to provide you with a top version of ourselves when you take us out. Ladies, I know you have my back here. Hair, nails/toes, all the the ongoing regular maintenance, the new money suck: lashes , clothes in general and possibly a new outfit for the date. Maybe a babysitter if you’re a mom. It adds up to wayyyyyy more than dinner! You guys need to be aware of that and stop feeling that women OWE you something in return. We are giving it on the front end. Respect that, appreciate that, compliment that, and you will be well on your way to feeling appreciated in return. Show masculine romantic behavior and reap the rewards! 💋
@@wkpo4107 yeah but they also feel we owe them adherence to the beauty standards anyway so I don't know that we can get sympathy for that lol
So you’re going to stop doing all of this for yourself if a man isn’t involved?? It’s not like we have to buy this stuff new everytime we go on a date. It last for multiple uses and occasions, far longer than a one time $100 dinner.
This is not a valid excuse
And if you can’t afford a babysitter once in a while, don’t date. It’s not his kid or his responsibility to take care of or even offer up something you made a choice about long before he stepped on the scene.
@@wkpo4107 I don’t disagree with you. Great points. But we should spend more money on quality food and gym memberships we use rather than fake eyelashes and hair dye.
@@vanessabeckett5614 You also make good points….good points everyone. It’s all true at the same time. That is a paradox. Not a contradiction. Look up the word. It’s my favorite word.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw I think many of us do, and I agree on lashes. I should have added gym, yoga and Pilates sessions. My bad. But I’m still going to get highlights! ;)
I was the one that moved fast.. I was married 45 years saved myself. I was so busy with business’s, I’m widowed now and let me tell you I can’t get enough.. I’m 73 and my wonderful man is 66 thinking older women don’t have sex. He said “was I wrong”🤣🤣🤣
Beautiful. I love hearing it
Ha ha 🤣🤣 woman power turn up that heat keep him busy
@@threecats1605 hi there,I just wanted to take a moment of yourto thank you for sharing, I m sooo happy to hear of how U & you’re partner have found beautiful love for each other in later years🥰adorable🤭
I'm 81, but only want my special man...
Women give signals like sitting closer, smiling and touching that indicate interest. Intelligent men pick up on and respond to these signals.
Exactly
Don’t go on dates expecting anything, let alone anything in return. You’re going on dates to find a connection. Go on small dates, like coffee shops. If she wants more than that, then you have your answer.
@@raygunbobcat or like okay, we'll have a meal but it's a picnic :)
I’m not paying for anything and I don’t have premarital sex and get marriage proposals often. True I’ve been married twice without having sex first and it didn’t work out but I have no regrets and no shame. I did not sin. Stop giving yourself to men. Stop sinning because it ages you much faster. I’m 50 and people think I’m 28! Worship God. Stay out of men’s beds!
Amen xxx
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All great advice! Glad to know there are still women with Godly principles and moral values in this corrupt culture! Be blessed! 🙏❤✝️
Thank you 🙏🏾 ❤
They can't get none from me. Not unless they're the REAL deal.☀️
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Some will pretend to be real deal until they get it...
@@Beyondme7700 THAT PART
@@Beyondme7700I don't even let pretenders smell it.☀🤣️
@@ORANGELILY4UI know that's right😅 good one! Lol
Now I see why a lot of women end up giving up. If both sides are in for the fun then who cares but for some of us sex can’t just happen without any sign of effort/commitment.
Make a move but be respectful about it, know how and learn to read you date, get it into your head gentlemen that making a move doesn't have to mean sex. Try learning to court, kiss, talk, touch ,,cuddles , etc. If you're interested seriously you will benefit from talking and taking it slow in the long run. It's worth it.
Don't go to any person house that your dating. Hangout outside the house. If the person is interested show it by actions and not sexually. Be honest in how you feel.
What happen to the way dating used to be??????? Date for years without sex!!!!!!! In order to get to know the person better…..
Culture has rejected God & made ALL of this crap acceptable that's why. 🙏❤✝️
If grown people just communicated their intentions, there would be no issues.
You can communicate. But sometimes they don't want to hear you.
I just don’t know how to have a relationship with a man anymore I don’t get them
Me neither
For real
It's tiring
@@jacsgxbxb so exhausting. I hear you
We're all confused right now.
Dang
Where I come from words are used to communicate with people and express what you want or don’t want. Additionally, sex is for married people. This is part of the reasons why we have so many children raised by single parents, abortions etc. The purpose for dating is to get to know a person. Why would anyone take someone on an expensive date early on? Perhaps go on more expensive dates after you learn more about them and wouldn’t mind spending more money at that time.
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@@twin719 yessss
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Glad that you talked about this topic, because I have experience this with Men.
You're welcome 🙏
Ya, Stephan basically exposed their "Sorry A**!" 😜🤣
It's so crazy. I'm dealing with this right now and had to set some boundaries. This video has so much clarity!❤
I’m glad it was helpful to you
Good for you for setting boundaries and having self respect! 🙏👍
I think reason number 5 is sex has been his most familiar path to intimacy in general-not just physical intimacy. And this is true for some men and women. This is the only way they know how to “break the ice” to connection.
All women/men are not the same, but communication is VERY IMPORTANT!!! You can communicate that you are interested in a relationship and/or don't want to be friend zoned, etc. without sex having to be the only way.
If I am supposed to go dutch, I can stay home by myself and cook…
The way people start off is normally how they finish. I’m am too old to play those games. ✌🏾
This video /clip couldn’t be more important. I am so sick and tired of men jumping on me for a date
You also didn’t answer the question. The question was why is sex the first expectation on a date? Why are so many men pursuing this and not a relationship? Why are so many men focused on sex and not simply having a good time with the women they go out with?
Im not spreading my Margarine TILL MARRIAGE 😂❤
lol that’s the first time I’ve heard it referred to as that 😂
I was thinking the same thing! I think that is her personal preference!😄🤦🏽♀️@@MeetStephanSpeaks
Come on now! MARGARINE!🤮 I am sure there's a much more delightful type of spread out there...😄
Margarine just sent me 😂😭💀
Excellent comment!! Someone asked me if I was single, yes, why because He hasn't found me yet😂 He said good answer. God did it
For the first 2 minutes of this I was angry but it makes sense later. Although “some men” are the key words here. I find it really off putting for men to use “dates” to get sex and women to use “dates” to use men for free meals 😢 dating, should be spent with the intent to genuinely get to know the other persons wants, needs & goals etc..
What I get here is just lack of communication. Just communicate for clarity..
What I get from this... Lack of moral values and boundaries!!
If he's really interested in you he'll respect your boundaries. You can just tell him. Hey I'm interested in you. Can we see if we have a connection in an emotional and outgoing way first.
Women get used too..
Absolutely!
They get used way more than men get used.
Women (and men) have to allow themselves to be used, right?? 😉😉
@@mukaniwatkins2598 *"You Teach People How To Treat You !"* ~Dr. Phil 💡💡💡
@@4EverGr8ful1 Not really..Sometimes it happens when trying to trust someone.
Involved with my partner for 14 years, yet he’s always speaking sexual with me- about me. Yes, it’s a plus that he’s still into me but why talk sexual EVERY CONVERSATION and touchy feelly it’s nerve wrecking.. is this normal? Please reply
Pound for Pound 😂😂😂😂 Pun intended?
Lol 🙏
@joyricherson4570 😂 I was waiting for him to say, "Not that kind of pound. Get your mind out of the gutter."
Your comment at the beginning had me roll’n 😂
Great video 💯
lol 😂 I’m glad you enjoyed it
He Doesn’t want to get played. Well they play with women. And abt the free meal. I don’t think women are asking for a free meal. They are the ones that choose to men don’t want to put effort in nothing now a days
Not all men play women, and not all women play men. But both sides have fears of getting played
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think that is just an excuse that "Low-Value Men" use who are not even looking for a relationship, just what they can get for as low of an investment as possible! 👎👎
The American culture is way too fast. People sleeping together within the first month is a no no in many other cultures especially with women over 40. The issue with the examples you gave is that there was not enough verbal communication on what each person was expecting out of the relationship. They were just trying to read body language. Especially with Christian women, we have to let the men know up front what we are about and if they can't wait, then they are free to go
Amen! 🙏❤✝️
I get that. I have gone out bc I was bored. I don't play the guys tho. I usually let them know the outcome before we even go out. A friend is a friend, no sex. Just chilling, if that isn't what he wants I don't go out with him. Playing games or just playing someone is not me. I don't want to get played, so I don't play them
For me I am too kind to pat on the back, or looking too long into a man's eyes & smile, I compliment left, right & center. It's just part of my nature - but I will be trying to do that less.
I do think that closing the gap between knowing if both are interested is just to have an honest conversation. We assume too quickly through actions without knowing what's going on in each other's thoughts...
It’s normal for a man to try or make an attempt or a move towards a lady, it’s now less for her to decline or accept it
Thank you for your feedback
Important video for the people keep it up Stephan !
Thank you! I will. 🙏
One thing not being said in these examples is that the men did not clearly communicate. Teach men to use their words! A man who can’t effectively communicate is not an attractive potential mate. The burden should not be on the woman for some men’s lack of basic communication skills.
No 3 I have to say works both ways. If a woman makes the first move guys sometimes say no and still feel some type of way especially when a woman tries to respect them wanting to wait. Some can be fickle and flip the script. Yet don’t understand when a woman decides after all that then she wants to wait. Men wanting to have sex so soon is part of the reason I haven’t had sex in years especially those using the strong attraction as an excuse. I’m older and wiser so I don’t fall for that anymore. They just want sex.
It's BS to say women won't know you're interested because you didn't try to have sex with her. For centuries men and women didn't have premarital sex, how did the woman know the man was interested? Because he told her, courted her, brought her flowers, etc. It's not difficult, but romance seems to be a dead art. It doesn't have to be expensive. Pick her some flowers, send her a card, plan a picnic and make some sandwiches. Even if you actually try to get to know her, ask about her goals and what she's looking for in a partner, etc. That conveys to a woman that you're serious and interested. And if she only expects expensive dinners and gifts, she's either using you or shallow.
I like the part you said its confusing, the fact that we're different people also makes the view and perspective of situations different.
Sound teachings like this should help change people's orientation for the better though.
Thank you Stephan.
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Her time is an equivalent to his investment friend.. our time to procreate cannot be earned by working more hours. Women get the short end of the stick anyway you look at it. Either we give it up to soon and he dips, or we hold out and he dips. So since men hold the power of a relationship all we have is our chastity to ensure we won’t be run through.
Periodt.
Then he needs to adjust his approach as to not trying to spend a lot while he's trying to see if he/she really likes each other
Your laughs be making me smile in between your videos 😂
I’m glad to hear that 🙂
I appreciate the video explaining, but its such a turn off for me. It gives high school vibes. I agree with the comment on here... It doesn't have to be all sexual. You can can flirt, kiss etc to show interest. It doesn't take all that aggression. (I like the setting boundaries advice).
Stephan is always right on time!
🙂 thank you very much
Ya, Stephan exposed their "Sorry A**!" 😜🤣
Dating rules are not the same as courtship rules not the same as engagement rules not the same as marriage rules...Unhealthy women and men will always try to put marriage things into dating area due to unresolved childhood trauma and not understanding or living in environment with emotionally mature humans.
The whole "making a move" is a very slippery slope. Some men interpret making moves as being sexually aggressive and that can be very off-putting to a woman. A man can make the proverbial move on a woman that does not involve any vulgar language or lascivious behavior.
Hi I love your content. I’ve been following you for quite some time ❤️
Thank you so much, I appreciate your support
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Stephan, I hope I am not asking too much, can you make a content all about “how should a woman tell a good man to wait until the right time before having sex”…. I don’t want to say it the wrong way, I would like to learn it from a man’s perspective. 🙏
That high level attraction is still chemistry. Especially when you can't keep your hands away from each other.
1 Corinthians 7 KJV - King James Version
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
@ange2122 God forgave me of all my sins when I asked him to come into my life. You don't need to give me scripture. I am a widow. Been there and done it.
@@loisclark1883 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 in the Bible states:
"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God"
@@loisclark1883 Hebrews 12:6-7 KJV - For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth
@loisclark1883 (Hebrews12:6-7 KJV-For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth)
There r ways ppl show romantic interest without diving into sex. Open communication and taking time in getting to know ppl is key. These reasons are ridiculous lol
They clearly aren't "Reasons," they are EXCUSES used by Low-Value Men to get what they want... Yuck!! 🤢👎
There's no fear in love, perfect love casts out fear because fear comes with punishment.
If a man is fearful of being used for money, dinner, or more, his wanting to have sex too soon is simply an act of lust, not love, it is just a lustful way to validate the fear of being used, because with most men who aren't in love yet, once sex is exchanged for validation of not being used, the man is no longer fearful of being used, but may not be as interested in that particular woman anymore once he has sex with her, because it wasn't love, it was lust, because there's no fear in love.
When a man truly loves a woman he doesn't need sex to validate his time spent with her or his money spent on her, without fear of being used or hurt and feeling like he's going to be punished for being a good man to the right woman. When it's the right woman she'll only want to do you good all the days of your life and never harm you in any way.
Sex is fun, God created sex for our pleasure, but if it's used the wrong way and for the wrong reasons it can blow up in our faces, and even be physically dangerous to our health when used casually.
Sex in a relationship is great fun, and it should be, but relationships without marriage usually don't last. So if people want different results, they'll have to do something different to get better results. Abstaining from sex until marriage can invigorate, stimulate, energize, amp up, spike, jump start, and fire up a deep passion and desire to be with that one person, because you know that you can trust that person, without fear of loving them because you've gotten to know each other without sexual lust blurring your mind from seeing and knowing who they are.
I enjoy having sex, but if I'm not in a trustworthy, lasting relationship, I keep my cookies in my cookie jar, and the thing I'm doing differently for better results is allowing my future husband to open my cookie jar only. People can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results.
If I have to pay on our first date, he can do it to himself. He is not a man.
A he right some women will play the men just to get free meals so I agree with him
@@1986Glory I prefer paid myself than invest in that type of men.
@@aelitastone5629 I mean some guys won’t to do right but when play you for free stuff it’s just being careful
@@1986Glory That's just a ridiculous excuse low-value men use! They should just hire a prostitute, so they'll be sure and get their "money's worth", right?? 🙄
@@4EverGr8ful1so you justifying some of these gold diggers doing this mess come on now two wrongs don’t make unless you one these women out here that’s doing this crap
Great video, some new perspective about men’s behavior in those early days of dating!
I also feel like a lot of men who do this are the same that will tell you not to let your past experiences with other men affect this new potential relationship. Pretty hypocritical, and to some degree all of our current behaviors are colored by our experiences!
100%. they don’t want you to treat them like past guys but will treat you as if you’re their exes. smh. they want a chance and the benefit of the doubt but don’t give you that.
Stephan, I always appreciated your advice. But by calling sex an "investment" several times you've turned my stomach!
I HAVE never and WILL never trade my sexuality merely for a dinner!!! How disgusting does it get here???
I’m explaining how some men view it, I stated from the beginning that doesn’t mean I’m validating it or agreeing with it, but I am explaining it
But that is you. There are people who play into the dynamic, he is discussing. I fall into your category but understand the explanation.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I think you need to maybe stop hearing from "Low-Value Men" and talk about those with integrity and good moral values!! You're making reputable men look bad with these kind of videos! 👎👎
Nonsense for men to think if they don’t make a move they are less of a man!!!!!!!!
It’s so funny because for us it’s the opposite, we feel when a man wants sex that this is all he wants
No marriage, no sex
Amen! 🙏❤✝️
These are all positive reasons in my opinion and very helpful. Thank you.
Positive reasons?? More like Excuses for bad behavior from Low-Value Men!! 🙄👎
@@4EverGr8ful1 your profile pic is a duck lol have it your way sis. I’ll have it mine 🩵
Your whole video leaves me asking "what happened to communication?".
❤😂 best, most hysterical honest opening ever. 🎉
lol 😂 🙂
I hope my Simba knows where we stand on the intimate subject because we have already had that discussion, and I made sure I was balanced, went through my healing from past trauma. So that should not be in question to him..
There are so many different scenarios that's why it's important to express ourselves verbally & ask questions. I like Steve Harvey's book, Think like a man act like a lady. He suggests a woman wait at least 3 months before having intimate relations.
However, open lines of communication are key. I'm going to read some of your books too. Thank you Stephan.
Yes that happens too. Not attempting is definitely a sign for me. I let them know if I'm interested bf they tell me. I don't think he has to make a move just show interest
This is not always true, and if a woman doesn't want it, then all she has to do is say NO.
Exactly! You can't be used without your consent! 💡💡💡
@@4EverGr8ful1That is mostly true, but people do get raped though. I have once, which I did not agree to..
The opening statement Stephan is 1000% on the spot..phww
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Thanks to our society rejecting God and people with ZERO morals and integrity!! 🙏❤✝️
Men don't have to make a move, but tell her how he feels and what is wrong with using words.
I said no living together no premarital sex and now he wants to marry me. Ladies it does work.
Bravo!! 🙏👍
With the right person it works
I'm glad I'm living a life of celibacy.
I appreciate the knowledge
My pleasure
I'm free spirited and open-minded. I don't take take hints well all the time. 😂. It's only funny to me cause I just let some stuff go over my head 😌
Lol 🙏
That cartoon is saying men are dogs
lol 😂
Many are!! 🤢👎
Hi Stephan.. thanks for the insight
If a man expects sex for a meal it says a lot about his character. And it's just disgusting. He should do everybody a favour and just pay for a prostitute. But a meal is less expensive. So he tries it that way 😅
Sex is not an investment. Your explanation is just proof of how misled some men are.
Our sick, Godless culture has sadly reinforced this idea!
Some women too
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It’s never ok to give something only because you expect something in return. Either do this because you want to or don’t do it. This expectation show a lack of values and character.
So he’s saying because he pay for dinner she’s expected to give her whole entire body. Wow what an exchange 😂. So if he spends $40 on my meal then I’m only worth $40 to him? And he spends $1000 on my meal then I’m worth $1000 to him? Make it make sense.
Might as well hire a prostitute and get his money's worth, right?? 😳👎
No really, excuse me! If he misunderstands, he can try GENTLY. But if she is hesitant, he should stop. Or AT LEAST make sure that she is okay. It doesn't seem he liked her that much anyway. If you like so the most important thing should be to know that they are happy, which includes being happy with the situation and happy with you. And at the end of the day there is also verbal communication if people are so confused all the time.
An investment is not a date , sorry that’s just pathetic. Your body is not something you can just give away because someone spent money on you . If a woman wants to wait until she’s married and he doesn’t then he doesn’t love her enough .
What about men that are the opposite ? That after months and even years don't try to make a move 😔
I hope people communicate their wants better 🙏
WHAT ?? That's an iceberg 🤣🤣🤣🤣 boring man