"Marry young, build your fortress first. Because when you go through the experiences, when you look back, she's part of every experience. The hard times, the tough times, such that you leave no room to imagine a life without her." This hit me.
The description and the title is soo misleading. The video was way above and beyond my exception. Mashallah Tabrakallah. Dont let the title mislead you ppl.
MashaAllah TabarkAllah, this was so beautiful. I am in awe at how much this small clip has given me a new understanding and appreciation for marriage, particularly one where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is the pillar of the relationship. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala bless you and your family, dear brothers.
Ya Rab! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake. Do not place a burden on us like the one you placed on those before us. Do not burden us with what we cannot bear. Pardon us, forgive us, and have mercy on us. You are our ˹only˺ Guardian. (Quran 2:286) 🤍
@@abdulwakil2613 The very next verse: وَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفِ الَّذِيۡنَ لَا يَجِدُوۡنَ نِكَاحًا حَتّٰى يُغۡنِيَهُمُ اللّٰهُ مِنۡ فَضۡلِهٖؕ وَالَّذِيۡنَ يَبۡتَغُوۡنَ الۡـكِتٰبَ مِمَّا مَلَـكَتۡ اَيۡمَانُكُمۡ فَكَاتِبُوۡهُمۡ اِنۡ عَلِمۡتُمۡ فِيۡهِمۡ خَيۡرًا ۖ وَّاٰ تُوۡهُمۡ مِّنۡ مَّالِ اللّٰهِ الَّذِىۡۤ اٰتٰٮكُمۡ ؕ وَلَا تُكۡرِهُوۡا فَتَيٰتِكُمۡ عَلَى الۡبِغَآءِ اِنۡ اَرَدۡنَ تَحَصُّنًا لِّـتَبۡتَغُوۡا عَرَضَ الۡحَيٰوةِ الدُّنۡيَا ؕ وَمَنۡ يُّكۡرِهْهُّنَّ فَاِنَّ اللّٰهَ مِنۡۢ بَعۡدِ اِكۡرَاهِهِنَّ غَفُوۡرٌ رَّحِيۡمٌ (24:33) Let those who cannot afford to marry keep themselves chaste until Allah enriches them out of His Bounty. And write out a deed of manumission for such of your slaves that desire their freedom55 in lieu of payment - if you see any good in them - and give them out of the wealth that Allah has given you. And do not compel your slave-girls to prostitution for the sake of the benefits of worldly life the while they desire to remain chaste. And if anyone compels them to prostitution, Allah will be Most Pardoning, Much Merciful (to them) after their subjection to such compulsion. Added to this: Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400) from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Every case is specific. If you can afford by any means one should hasten to get married. However, if you cannot afford (at all, not even rent for example) you will be doing an injustice towards your wife. If you has a residence you won, or your parents bought for you or you inherited, then the accommodation part is sorted, making marriage much easier for example. Every case is specific.
I truly appreciate all that Yaqeen Institute does - you all are doing great work, ma sha Allah. Kindly, I want to point out that having a dream is NOT something that Islam/the Quran states will always follow an istikhara prayer. As a Muslim in this day and age, I see so many people expecting a dream and feeling lost/dependent on this. Please dispel this misconception. It would do so many of us a great favor. JazakAllah.
I think that's what he was doing when he mentioned he was not Sufi by any means, that he was not expecting a dream after istikhaara, but that is what he got.
These are unseen things and unseen knowledge which is always good when it's blurry, if you try to see crystal clear then it's not for you. The sufis were right
its simple.. when two people like each other and want to be together in the halal way and get parents involved.. now people have all sorts of intentions
Because nowadays parents have all sorts of intentions too when it comes to their children's marriage. Parents tend to think about themselves rather than their children, even though it's the children who are getting married not the parents.
MašaAllah..Great video Yaqeen institute..This video need to see every married men and women and also single muslims.. So much to learn..May Allah reward you with Jannah.. Selam from Bosnia and Herzegovina.😊
Such a wonderful video, filled with amazing advice. One of the things that stood out to me is this part: “For the next three weeks I tried to make conversations, but she never really gave me the time of day” As a woman currently studying at university, I’ve had some of my male classmates come up to chat with me… I’m quite modest, & I try to avoid conversations. This has made many become bitter and resentful. There’s this notion nowadays among some muslim brothers that in order for them to make a move, she has to show interest. If the woman doesn’t show interest they become bitter & leave. I can’t be interested in someone I’m not formally tied to. To me, interest partly occurs after engagement & fully after marriage. So I hope muslim brothers don’t get discouraged when muslim women avoid their advances (that are not aligned with the teachings of Islam), & that they don’t take that as rejection. We’re just trying to protect ourselves & are looking for a formal approach. I’m not criticizing muslim men, but trying to clarify why we avoid conversations.
You don’t have to clarify anything. If anyone wants you for the right reasons they should come through the proper channel or simply ask about your family/ father/brother/uncle or ask someone
SubhanAllah these are the kind of talks we need to hear more of as an ummah. The home is truly a foundation for deen. May Allah reward the brothers on this show and may Allah grant us and our children aafiya (happy homes in this world and the next). Aameen ❤
Amin and everyone in marriage, and I pray Allah help everyone struggling in their marriage ,give them Takwa and Patient that is required to have a happy home
Not all of us are that fortunate to marry young and have successful marriage. Some of us are in our 40s and not married . Sometimes the fortress has to be built by yourself.
My whole like I’ve dreamt and fantasised about having a wife and making her feel like the most special woman in the world. Being romantic, talking to her gently, holding her hands and lovingly being there for her in her difficult times. Sadly I don’t think it’s written for me.
Do you know how many women wish for a man with a mindset like yours? But making the effort to be that man is the real challenge because you MUST be consistent. In’sha’Allah you’ll find the perfect girl ❤
@@samiyahmaham I was wondering why don’t you get to know the brother? Marry him perhaps? See if you guys are a good fit? Unless you’re already married. In that case maybe hook him up with a friend of yours who also wants to get married?
@@mrjoe9545 Aww haha I’m flattered but I already got a man! And my best friend recently got married too😂 I’m all out of options for the guy I’m afraid; I would suggest meeting someone in real life by attending a social event or class etc. I’ll keep him in my prayers 🥹
Assalaam. Ince again the natural integrity and honesty of Sami by the guidance of the Almighty has expressed the simplicity and values of a Muslim proposal and the true blessings Allah rewards us with it. It’s the religion of Islam at its most beautiful. May Allah make us aware and appreciate these wonderful attributes and qualities we were given. Algamdolilah for small Mercies. 💕
Masha Allah & Allahumma-Barik brothers and their wives, this kind of marriage is beautiful and made me emotional, may Allah SWT bless the ummah more of this type of marriages
Brother Sami.. I agree with you completely. Beautifully said. But it’s all about the mindset! People want to marry young but there is so much resistance in the society specially in the family. Everyone searching for the right one.. Allahu Akbar. Last but not the least, people are scared of marrying different ethnicity, I don’t know why (Racism maybe). May Allah guide us all to the right path.. Allahuma Ameen 🤲🏼
I was married twice spanning 18 years. Never felt what you boys are talking about. May Allah forgive us all and grant us wisdom. May Allah give us better companions. Ameen.
Love is deceptive. People confuse lust and esthetics for love and that is where it gets dangerous. You shouldn't marry for love - that is a fleeting sensation. You should marry for compatibility in life and companionship.
I wish Sami realities could be applied to many, unfortunately as moeslem who studied many religions, and suddenly encountered with judaism and christians approach when it comes to courting.. I must said they were more thoughtful when it comes to selection process, to make sure each partner choosing right. Because kindnesss alone wont be enough if both have different views in what kind of life they want to live, and other important perspectives to make sure u are in same page as a team. Sorry to say, we as moeslems need to learn more from others as well and not oversimplify things in this current world situations where the socio dynamics and many things has evolve so much. Divorce is expensive and require difficult process which impact the whole family unit, therefore we should not take it lightly just because it's allowed. Different situations might require different approaches, however I do agree with Sami that any relationship needs to be based on kindness, consideration and mutual respects.
@@scarlettkhan9667 The discret and thoughtful selection process, what things u need to considered, the importance of respect towards each other genders and placing them at utmost comfortable place, entering marriage with real practical skills, and so on. U need to do ur own research, fella. Goodluck
@@iluvmelatoningummies u didnt get the context. I’m exploring many religions perspectives and best practices, it’s different thing with looking guidance from different religion.
This doesnt make sense. Quran and Islam is enough for us. We do not need to look into the practices of other religions as we have the best example in the Prophet and his companions and the righteous early muslims which we can follow likewise we have living muslim scholars which we can take as a reference
Time wasters Say you are looking to chat and meet quite early and get family involvement eaRLY. The time wasters won’t like that and they will keep away.
It’s not every guy. Just as it’s not every woman that wants a 6 figure mahr and a host of other unrealistic material expectations from a potential before even considering him. Men and women both face challenges trying to get married in today’s day and age, but that doesn’t mean we can generalize about genders like that.
I am 22 and want to get married within 2 years, but whould prefer within the next 12/13 months. I really like a women but she is not ready yet to commit to anyone. To anyone reading this, please pray for me that Allah puts love in her heart for me🥺🥺
Tried the same thing brother. But unfortunately became successful before finding the right partner in the west. May Allah helps us feel like a new start with the new partner
These stories wallahi really make me depressed. As a 31 year old single man, I’ve been rejected by every sister I’ve approached. Even I was in a situation like this, I saw a pious sister I really liked, had a positive dream, prayed istikhaarah Tahajjud and cried in sujud and all I got was rejection. Why does it happen to others and not me?
😢 I think when you find the right woman then the ones who rejected you won’t matter. Looking for the one is about rejection too. You could ask the girl for feedback on why she said no. And it might help in your search.
Keep grinding my bro.. keep building your garden and eventually a butterfly will want to come to it.. Allah only gives you when it's good for you at the right time.. Just don't get negative and start playing the "why" them not me game !!
Both my husband and I took ten years to find each other. It took away our confidence and it kept feeling like everyone got married except me. Alhamdulillah by the grace of Allah SWT now we're married we can't even remember any of those bad experiences before, they're so trivial and those people meant nothing. Just some warning, I thought after 10 years of pain in being single our married life would finally be so easy, but there's more challenges for us!! But maybe cos it took so long to find each other, we are more committed to seeing those difficulties through and not quickly go for divorce. So there is wisdom in Allah SWT timing, but in mean time you still have to keep trying otherwise the opportunity for marriage won't just materialise out of nothing. Praying the best and most pious, sweet wife is waiting for you soon ameen
@@yasmin8609may Allah bless your marriage and keep your love everlasting. As for me, I’ve lost hope. My confidence is shattered, too many heartbreaks have left me broken, and I’ve decided I need to force myself to accept the reality that whatever it is that women want in a man… I simply don’t have it. Everywhere I go, people like and enjoy my personality, but that’s where it stops; I’m never seen as a romantic option. Being 5’2 also doesn’t help. I don’t blame women in the least for not being attracted to me.
It’s good. Just say let’s go see a movie, let’s go get icecream. But sometimes your wife does need to know that you know how to use the word sorry. Because she just need the communication. Be a man and use the word sorry.
Ma sha Allah barakallahu fiik... I wish most daees with big names talks like this about women... But they don't they just Make women feel unworthy and second class creatures
Asc what do think about someone who does UA-cam and does date for content creators for fun and have who don’t pray and drink but they say they better person what should I do
It is one thing you have so ridicolously low standards you would entertain someone who exhibit such ill actions and character, but your future children have rights of a righteous, practicing muslim parent. You do not have the right to play around with the choice of a spouse. They have to be practicing. So, only approach someone who prays, adheres to the pillars of islam, stays away from major sins. Work on elevating your standards, for yourself and future children. May Ar-Razzaq bless you with a most beneficial and enjoyable righteous spouse, and may you be the same for your spouse, ameen.
Marriage is serious, so serious that if you marry the wrong person, it will damage your life, it will mess you up, it will bring great difficulties. So listen good because Allah does help you. He does show you this person is really bad for you, really evil, to stay far away from such person. The problem is are we ourselves faithful, are we ourselves marrying for the right reasons, are we ourselves following the sunnah and the true way Allah prescribed for us. Now I get we get tests, I understand this but this here is about red flags. You got that red flag and so stay away from such people, choose someone who has beautiful Imaan, who is respectful to you, respectful to your parents, has very good manners and isn't an idiot, or a woman trying to act like a man or a woman sht testing you. Be careful. Do not rush it. I would never recommend anyone to ruch marry, trying to get married in 4 weeks. When you feel after you asked Allah for help even one red flag, one, move on, don't even marry this person. That maybe a small red flag but it can lead to huge problems. The person you explained should be easily identifiable for you to stay away from but what is concerning is you had to...ask...what you should do when it is very clear their behaviour is lacking big time.
We can talk all day say ebeeything but if the women aint ready to be women and men act manly then all we have is two grown ups living and stayihg together.
*The title of the video is so misleading it made me laugh.* *Come on brothers and be serious, most "Muslims" in the West despise Islamic marriage.* *I haven't seen any of the "Online scholars" talk about the rise of Zina in the community.*
I don’t think most of us despise it. I think most of us want it and it’s just difficult due to culture or location or unrealistic expectations or society or family etc. but fr they should talk about this huge issue, when Zina is easy and nikkah is super difficult.
@@quranaffirmations all women are the same , they are humain being they have basical need ... like man have stop thinking that because a girl is religious that she dont want a handsome or rich man.... we all want the best
Br Sami said it! Women want to be valued, not in charge, just valued and considered in decisions.
Agreed.
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Agreed 💯
But then woman need to do their part in the marriage too
@@talhamalik6658 That doesn't excuse the man from needing to make her feel valued and considered.
"Marry young, build your fortress first. Because when you go through the experiences, when you look back, she's part of every experience. The hard times, the tough times, such that you leave no room to imagine a life without her." This hit me.
Marry young doesn't work anymore tbh unless your parents can support you.
Wallahi me too
It can if she’s attracted to you enough that that becomes a secondary thing
His intention and path was halal so Allah made it easy for him❤
Oh! Their names are Sami and Sumaiyah (and their children's names begin with 's' as well). That's sweet. May Allah preserve and grow their bond.
I noticed it too, allahumma barik. Ameen to your du'aa 🌸
Aameen
Aameen
Thank you brother, for teaching other men how being kind to your wife makes you a happy man
The way he speaks with passion tells you so much .
The description and the title is soo misleading. The video was way above and beyond my exception. Mashallah Tabrakallah. Dont let the title mislead you ppl.
May Allah grant us all marriage and love between spouses like the Prophet's marriage, Ameen
MashaAllah TabarkAllah, this was so beautiful. I am in awe at how much this small clip has given me a new understanding and appreciation for marriage, particularly one where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is the pillar of the relationship. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala bless you and your family, dear brothers.
Ya Rab! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake. Do not place a burden on us like the one you placed on those before us. Do not burden us with what we cannot bear. Pardon us, forgive us, and have mercy on us. You are our ˹only˺ Guardian. (Quran 2:286) 🤍
Ameen
This is the type of men's podcast I would listen to/ watch. Positive and uplifting ❤ Great Job Men ❤
These kind of videos are very much needed which muslim men need to learn from.
And women lol
How beautifully he was speaking, this 10m passed like 1m.
I watched it yesterday. I'm rewatching it today🥹
Mashallah tears came down my eyes ♥️ Allahuma Barik and may Allah grant us pious husbands who fear Allah SUbhanou
aameen
me too
😭
Ameen .love from Bangladesh
This is perfect. However, I don't know how many 20 years old can afford to get married. This brother was blessed.
@@abdulwakil2613 The very next verse:
وَلۡيَسۡتَعۡفِفِ الَّذِيۡنَ لَا يَجِدُوۡنَ نِكَاحًا حَتّٰى يُغۡنِيَهُمُ اللّٰهُ مِنۡ فَضۡلِهٖؕ وَالَّذِيۡنَ يَبۡتَغُوۡنَ الۡـكِتٰبَ مِمَّا مَلَـكَتۡ اَيۡمَانُكُمۡ فَكَاتِبُوۡهُمۡ اِنۡ عَلِمۡتُمۡ فِيۡهِمۡ خَيۡرًا ۖ وَّاٰ تُوۡهُمۡ مِّنۡ مَّالِ اللّٰهِ الَّذِىۡۤ اٰتٰٮكُمۡ ؕ وَلَا تُكۡرِهُوۡا فَتَيٰتِكُمۡ عَلَى الۡبِغَآءِ اِنۡ اَرَدۡنَ تَحَصُّنًا لِّـتَبۡتَغُوۡا عَرَضَ الۡحَيٰوةِ الدُّنۡيَا ؕ وَمَنۡ يُّكۡرِهْهُّنَّ فَاِنَّ اللّٰهَ مِنۡۢ بَعۡدِ اِكۡرَاهِهِنَّ غَفُوۡرٌ رَّحِيۡمٌ
(24:33) Let those who cannot afford to marry keep themselves chaste until Allah enriches them out of His Bounty. And write out a deed of manumission for such of your slaves that desire their freedom55 in lieu of payment - if you see any good in them - and give them out of the wealth that Allah has given you. And do not compel your slave-girls to prostitution for the sake of the benefits of worldly life the while they desire to remain chaste. And if anyone compels them to prostitution, Allah will be Most Pardoning, Much Merciful (to them) after their subjection to such compulsion.
Added to this:
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400) from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.”
Every case is specific. If you can afford by any means one should hasten to get married. However, if you cannot afford (at all, not even rent for example) you will be doing an injustice towards your wife.
If you has a residence you won, or your parents bought for you or you inherited, then the accommodation part is sorted, making marriage much easier for example. Every case is specific.
Befriend with fathers who have daughters or brothers who have sisters
@@incogniftoar3943That’s not a good advice. All men specifically hate the type who use their friendship for their women
Depends on what both can live on. You don’t have to move together on day one. Just make the relationship halal.
@@incogniftoar3943 this long time ago bro, unless she is willing it's not gonna happen.
I truly appreciate all that Yaqeen Institute does - you all are doing great work, ma sha Allah. Kindly, I want to point out that having a dream is NOT something that Islam/the Quran states will always follow an istikhara prayer. As a Muslim in this day and age, I see so many people expecting a dream and feeling lost/dependent on this. Please dispel this misconception. It would do so many of us a great favor. JazakAllah.
I think that's what he was doing when he mentioned he was not Sufi by any means, that he was not expecting a dream after istikhaara, but that is what he got.
These are unseen things and unseen knowledge which is always good when it's blurry, if you try to see crystal clear then it's not for you. The sufis were right
@@AudibleQuran ?
The sign of following through with your decision is that things are made easy for you after doing istikhara
Stay away from yaqeen institute they have their problems
I'm loving this episode 😊 Jazakumu'Allahu Khairan.
its simple.. when two people like each other and want to be together in the halal way and get parents involved.. now people have all sorts of intentions
Because nowadays parents have all sorts of intentions too when it comes to their children's marriage. Parents tend to think about themselves rather than their children, even though it's the children who are getting married not the parents.
Social status is a HUGE factor in producing hindrance for marriages.
MašaAllah..Great video Yaqeen institute..This video need to see every married men and women and also single muslims.. So much to learn..May Allah reward you with Jannah.. Selam from Bosnia and Herzegovina.😊
Such a wonderful video, filled with amazing advice.
One of the things that stood out to me is this part:
“For the next three weeks I tried to make conversations, but she never really gave me the time of day”
As a woman currently studying at university, I’ve had some of my male classmates come up to chat with me… I’m quite modest, & I try to avoid conversations. This has made many become bitter and resentful. There’s this notion nowadays among some muslim brothers that in order for them to make a move, she has to show interest. If the woman doesn’t show interest they become bitter & leave.
I can’t be interested in someone I’m not formally tied to. To me, interest partly occurs after engagement & fully after marriage.
So I hope muslim brothers don’t get discouraged when muslim women avoid their advances (that are not aligned with the teachings of Islam), & that they don’t take that as rejection. We’re just trying to protect ourselves & are looking for a formal approach.
I’m not criticizing muslim men, but trying to clarify why we avoid conversations.
You don’t have to clarify anything.
If anyone wants you for the right reasons they should come through the proper channel or simply ask about your family/ father/brother/uncle or ask someone
I'm crying now because you said everything I wanted in marriage and a husband😢 ...اللهم ارزقنا
Bruh it’s a good story and you making it about yourself being negative for ?
Easy to want. What about what to give?
@@bety3017 May Allah bless them and grant you what you want, اللهم بارك لهم
Yes sis exactly May Allah grant us righteous spouses Aameen
@@EE-kt8sh why are you upset
This is so wholesome and heartwarming! Allahumma barik. Never heard such a discussion before!
SubhanAllah these are the kind of talks we need to hear more of as an ummah. The home is truly a foundation for deen.
May Allah reward the brothers on this show and may Allah grant us and our children aafiya (happy homes in this world and the next). Aameen ❤
Aameen
these guys are sucha breath of fresh air..
Word cannot describe how much I love this man even though it's the first time I've ever seen him talk, maaan what a character
This was beautiful. A great reminder
People want to be valued.
Because she feels valued she acts accordingly. Beautiful ❤
SubhanAllah this is so Beautiful
May ALLAH grant us a beautiful, religiuos, pious,caring , loving spouse who will be coolness to our eyes'
Maa sha ALLAH, this was so interesting, 10 minutes felt so short
MashaAllah Tabarakallah. May Allah protect your marriage until Jannahtul Firdaus.
Amin and everyone in marriage, and I pray Allah help everyone struggling in their marriage ,give them Takwa and Patient that is required to have a happy home
Allahumma Barik, Ya Allah grant us prosperous and peaceful home.
Let's make dua for one another. It's difficult for us brothers out there. :(
MaashaaAllah. Beautiful. Just beautiful clip. Allah bless all.
Second time watching this video. Love it!
Wow, thank you for this beautiful video 🙏
Not all of us are that fortunate to marry young and have successful marriage. Some of us are in our 40s and not married . Sometimes the fortress has to be built by yourself.
My whole like I’ve dreamt and fantasised about having a wife and making her feel like the most special woman in the world. Being romantic, talking to her gently, holding her hands and lovingly being there for her in her difficult times.
Sadly I don’t think it’s written for me.
Aww if you speak like this you will certainly find a lovely wife. Just pray and don’t be too fussy.
Do you know how many women wish for a man with a mindset like yours? But making the effort to be that man is the real challenge because you MUST be consistent. In’sha’Allah you’ll find the perfect girl ❤
Work hard to become better and better in your life and put trust in Allah
@@samiyahmaham I was wondering why don’t you get to know the brother? Marry him perhaps? See if you guys are a good fit? Unless you’re already married. In that case maybe hook him up with a friend of yours who also wants to get married?
@@mrjoe9545 Aww haha I’m flattered but I already got a man! And my best friend recently got married too😂 I’m all out of options for the guy I’m afraid; I would suggest meeting someone in real life by attending a social event or class etc. I’ll keep him in my prayers 🥹
She is so lucky to have as husband.
Assalaam. Ince again the natural integrity and honesty of Sami by the guidance of the Almighty has expressed the simplicity and values of a Muslim proposal and the true blessings Allah rewards us with it.
It’s the religion of Islam at its most beautiful. May Allah make us aware and appreciate these wonderful attributes and qualities we were given. Algamdolilah for small
Mercies. 💕
Barakallah!
Beauty of halal relationship ❤❤
Could you please add official subtitle? Thank you
Wow Masha Allah. It is very interesting episode wallah💖
MashaAllah. Jazakallahu khair.
Masha'Allah ❤
Masha Allah & Allahumma-Barik brothers and their wives, this kind of marriage is beautiful and made me emotional, may Allah SWT bless the ummah more of this type of marriages
Football is the correct term sir xD, thank you for sharing brother and may Allah bless you all !
Brother Sami.. I agree with you completely. Beautifully said.
But it’s all about the mindset! People want to marry young but there is so much resistance in the society specially in the family. Everyone searching for the right one.. Allahu Akbar. Last but not the least, people are scared of marrying different ethnicity, I don’t know why (Racism maybe). May Allah guide us all to the right path.. Allahuma Ameen 🤲🏼
I was married twice spanning 18 years. Never felt what you boys are talking about. May Allah forgive us all and grant us wisdom. May Allah give us better companions. Ameen.
bro if ur wife loves u , she will literally do everything for u.. the issue is yall are marrying people u don't love or like
Love is deceptive. People confuse lust and esthetics for love and that is where it gets dangerous. You shouldn't marry for love - that is a fleeting sensation. You should marry for compatibility in life and companionship.
What is y'all??
Already 25, I feel like crying.
Same
Same 🤷🏻♂️😂
Clocking is ticking but Allah is the best of planner
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Brother Sami is soooo right subhanAllah
he talks so much❤
Very special talk 👍🏻
May Allah be pleased with them all
Well said Sheik Sami... you nevertheless disappoint in your analyses
I wish Sami realities could be applied to many, unfortunately as moeslem who studied many religions, and suddenly encountered with judaism and christians approach when it comes to courting.. I must said they were more thoughtful when it comes to selection process, to make sure each partner choosing right. Because kindnesss alone wont be enough if both have different views in what kind of life they want to live, and other important perspectives to make sure u are in same page as a team.
Sorry to say, we as moeslems need to learn more from others as well and not oversimplify things in this current world situations where the socio dynamics and many things has evolve so much.
Divorce is expensive and require difficult process which impact the whole family unit, therefore we should not take it lightly just because it's allowed.
Different situations might require different approaches, however I do agree with Sami that any relationship needs to be based on kindness, consideration and mutual respects.
What has other faiths taught you on finding marriage?
@@scarlettkhan9667 The discret and thoughtful selection process, what things u need to considered, the importance of respect towards each other genders and placing them at utmost comfortable place, entering marriage with real practical skills, and so on. U need to do ur own research, fella. Goodluck
Brother, don't look to other religions to find a partner. Look to Allah, and you'll find He's already given you an answer.
@@iluvmelatoningummies u didnt get the context. I’m exploring many religions perspectives and best practices, it’s different thing with looking guidance from different religion.
This doesnt make sense. Quran and Islam is enough for us. We do not need to look into the practices of other religions as we have the best example in the Prophet and his companions and the righteous early muslims which we can follow likewise we have living muslim scholars which we can take as a reference
Allahuma Barik ❤☝🏽
Masa Allah 🙏🙏🙏
الهم بارك
Thank you.
Loved it.
say MashaALLAH guys... Allahuma barik
All of this 👏👏👏👏👏
Amazing.
Marriage is easy. We make it difficult.
Hard to find a man like this anymore. Now every guy just want to talk for 1-2 years and play around.
Same here. I'm facing the same problem. They don't wanna commit.
Time wasters
Say you are looking to chat and meet quite early and get family involvement eaRLY.
The time wasters won’t like that and they will keep away.
“Now every guy” well there must be some issues with women then and not just men
It’s not every guy. Just as it’s not every woman that wants a 6 figure mahr and a host of other unrealistic material expectations from a potential before even considering him. Men and women both face challenges trying to get married in today’s day and age, but that doesn’t mean we can generalize about genders like that.
Allahuma Barik
Allahumma Barik ❤
May Allah protect you
MachaAllah❤
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AlhamduLILLAH Nikah is a neehma
I am 22 and want to get married within 2 years, but whould prefer within the next 12/13 months. I really like a women but she is not ready yet to commit to anyone. To anyone reading this, please pray for me that Allah puts love in her heart for me🥺🥺
Great
Alhamdulilah
Tried the same thing brother. But unfortunately became successful before finding the right partner in the west. May Allah helps us feel like a new start with the new partner
Please pray for me also my marriage is delay no one willing to nikkah to me facing so many obstacles
May Allah make it easy for you ameen
May Allah make it easy.
Do lots of Istighfaar
These stories wallahi really make me depressed.
As a 31 year old single man, I’ve been rejected by every sister I’ve approached.
Even I was in a situation like this, I saw a pious sister I really liked, had a positive dream, prayed istikhaarah Tahajjud and cried in sujud and all I got was rejection.
Why does it happen to others and not me?
May Allah SWT reward you for your patience dear brother.
😢 I think when you find the right woman then the ones who rejected you won’t matter.
Looking for the one is about rejection too.
You could ask the girl for feedback on why she said no.
And it might help in your search.
Keep grinding my bro.. keep building your garden and eventually a butterfly will want to come to it.. Allah only gives you when it's good for you at the right time..
Just don't get negative and start playing the "why" them not me game !!
Both my husband and I took ten years to find each other. It took away our confidence and it kept feeling like everyone got married except me. Alhamdulillah by the grace of Allah SWT now we're married we can't even remember any of those bad experiences before, they're so trivial and those people meant nothing.
Just some warning, I thought after 10 years of pain in being single our married life would finally be so easy, but there's more challenges for us!! But maybe cos it took so long to find each other, we are more committed to seeing those difficulties through and not quickly go for divorce. So there is wisdom in Allah SWT timing, but in mean time you still have to keep trying otherwise the opportunity for marriage won't just materialise out of nothing. Praying the best and most pious, sweet wife is waiting for you soon ameen
@@yasmin8609may Allah bless your marriage and keep your love everlasting.
As for me, I’ve lost hope. My confidence is shattered, too many heartbreaks have left me broken, and I’ve decided I need to force myself to accept the reality that whatever it is that women want in a man… I simply don’t have it.
Everywhere I go, people like and enjoy my personality, but that’s where it stops; I’m never seen as a romantic option.
Being 5’2 also doesn’t help. I don’t blame women in the least for not being attracted to me.
It’s good. Just say let’s go see a movie, let’s go get icecream. But sometimes your wife does need to know that you know how to use the word sorry. Because she just need the communication. Be a man and use the word sorry.
Soooo true
Awwn,Mā Shāa Allāh
Ameen 🤲🏾
Subhanallah
I have tried every app and event and can’t find anyone for 6 years because I’m divorced. Lol 😂 may not be meant to get married
Thank you Brother.
Marriage is really not a prison😅
Wow
What happened?
Ma sha Allah barakallahu fiik... I wish most daees with big names talks like this about women... But they don't they just Make women feel unworthy and second class creatures
Asc what do think about someone who does UA-cam and does date for content creators for fun and have who don’t pray and drink but they say they better person what should I do
It is one thing you have so ridicolously low standards you would entertain someone who exhibit such ill actions and character, but your future children have rights of a righteous, practicing muslim parent. You do not have the right to play around with the choice of a spouse. They have to be practicing.
So, only approach someone who prays, adheres to the pillars of islam, stays away from major sins. Work on elevating your standards, for yourself and future children.
May Ar-Razzaq bless you with a most beneficial and enjoyable righteous spouse, and may you be the same for your spouse, ameen.
Marriage is serious, so serious that if you marry the wrong person, it will damage your life, it will mess you up, it will bring great difficulties. So listen good because Allah does help you. He does show you this person is really bad for you, really evil, to stay far away from such person. The problem is are we ourselves faithful, are we ourselves marrying for the right reasons, are we ourselves following the sunnah and the true way Allah prescribed for us. Now I get we get tests, I understand this but this here is about red flags. You got that red flag and so stay away from such people, choose someone who has beautiful Imaan, who is respectful to you, respectful to your parents, has very good manners and isn't an idiot, or a woman trying to act like a man or a woman sht testing you. Be careful.
Do not rush it. I would never recommend anyone to ruch marry, trying to get married in 4 weeks. When you feel after you asked Allah for help even one red flag, one, move on, don't even marry this person. That maybe a small red flag but it can lead to huge problems. The person you explained should be easily identifiable for you to stay away from but what is concerning is you had to...ask...what you should do when it is very clear their behaviour is lacking big time.
The drinking part is not good.
Don’t pursue it.
Bro, most young men cant afford marriage. 4 weeks? more like 4 years after landing a good job
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We can talk all day say ebeeything but if the women aint ready to be women and men act manly then all we have is two grown ups living and stayihg together.
*The title of the video is so misleading it made me laugh.*
*Come on brothers and be serious, most "Muslims" in the West despise Islamic marriage.*
*I haven't seen any of the "Online scholars" talk about the rise of Zina in the community.*
Yeah it’s very sad how western Muslims have normalized so much haram 😢
I don’t think most of us despise it. I think most of us want it and it’s just difficult due to culture or location or unrealistic expectations or society or family etc. but fr they should talk about this huge issue, when Zina is easy and nikkah is super difficult.
im kinda confused watching this because i dont understand the Arabic parts 😭
To get married u need to be quite good looking and having a good job
This is not true AT ALL. Its only true if there is a certain type of woman you are after
@@quranaffirmations all women are the same , they are humain being they have basical need ... like man have stop thinking that because a girl is religious that she dont want a handsome or rich man.... we all want the best
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Not very simple for war torn poor countries...
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