Assalamu alaykum brother! We need your help to raise awareness about the hijab ban in Tajikistan 🇹🇯. The government has banned wearing the hijab, and they are fining and arresting women who wear it on the streets. They have been trying for a long time to secularize the public and make them less religious. Men under 18 are not allowed to go to the mosque, teaching Tajweed is illegal, and men are not allowed to have beards. They imprison anyone who speaks out, and we don’t know what to do. Please pray for us and help spread the word!
This is so heartbreaking I'm surprised none knows about this may Allah reward you and make you a light for the people of Tajikistan and the ummah ameen
My take away is: 1) focus on *being* the right person instead of on *finding* the right person, and 2) remember that marriage is ultimately about achieving success in the akhirah, so that every difficulty and annoyance becomes an opportunity to level up.
Preparation for marriage: 1. Self-introspection (muraqaba and muhasaba) 2. Focus on your own obligations, then you will your rights from Allah 3. Learning communication and listening skills, and understand the meaning 4. Recognize and working on the issue that arise 5. Know themselves, understamd who you are, and be a better self 6. Find somebody on taqwa (based on their behavior) 7. Know the vision and mission of your future spouse 8. Developing heart-to-heart connection, have empathy, 9. Embrace the conflict for healthy marriage and get closer to Allah
"you should be wanting to be with whoever Allah wants for you, not who YOU want for YOURSELF" - the line that brought the broken pieces of my heart together.
What prove you have that God wants you to be this girl or that girl What logical basis you have for this argument Unless you have a list Directly authored by God which mentions other girls name Its just nonsense meant to cope Do you think God cares for who you marry Really come on my bro that's nonsense
As a 24 year old Muslim man, do you think I should even consider marriage at this point? After checking out the infidelity rate it seems like I have to go into the marriage expecting that I would be cheated on in some point.
The best marriage lecture video I ever watched...so comprehensive, deep, insightful, beneficial in every way. Marriage is a great means through which one can have spiritual awakening ..that's why it's half of Deen.
Mash-Allah. Allah has gifted this Psychologist with the Hikmah and Eloquence. Him giving therapeutic advices in the light of Islam is so pleasing to watch. Jazak Allah ❤
Jazakallah khair .. that was very beneficial. Ironically I'm watching this after my divorce. Wish I'd seen this before but allahuallam ..Allah has a plan for me.
Same here, my first marriage endet up after a couple of weeks, because he didn't want to do the work and it was his second divorce, SubanAllah. He didn't learn it at the first time, so i guess he didn't get it this time either, with that mindset and delisional thinking of marriage he will properly go trough a lot of divorces, may Allah protect all sisters from men like that, Ameen. I am totally frighten from marriage thanks to him, but yes Allah has a plan for us and everything is in his wisdom. It was in our Qadr to go trough that, may Allah guide us all to be capable of fullfilling our duties. We always learn something about ourselves and one day we will be grateful for this painful experience.
@wata8096 you think it was solely his fault? I'm sure he thinks that it was your fault. The most important thing in our religion is to first recognize our own shortcomings and then focus on others. May Allah help is live up to that!
@wata8096 at the time I felt like a failure but now I realised it was from Allah and it was for my own good. I now look back and smile and thank Allah for looking after me and guiding me. Alhumdulliah. Whatever happens now till Allah decides to take me as long as he is pleased with me nothing else matters. This life is just a temporary abode....
As a 24 year old Muslim man, do you think I should even consider marriage at this point? After checking out the infidelity rate it seems like I have to go into the marriage expecting that I would be cheated on in some point.
MashaAllah this a talk is binshmark for every couple before, and after marriage. It simplified the true message of Marriage in Islam الحمدلله Alhamdulilah "Balance is 🔑" towards unity inshaAllah 🙌 Ameen
May Allah bless you and your family and grant you goodness always, Dr. Abdallah. Thank you OnePath Network for this interview. May Allah bless your work. Ameen
Allahumma Barik! By Allah's mercy, his calm demeanor was extremely beneficial in the delivery of this marriage life-saving catalyst to possible healthy, long-lasting, forever unions. Jazakum Allahu khairun katheerun 🌹I hope that all came across well.🙂
Brilliant and important advice mashAllah may Allah accept and may more people adhere to these teachings from the perfect Deen to benefit and find the sukoon and success of both worlds Aameen
SubhanAllah, some of the best marriage advice I’ve heard. BarakAllahu Feekum. I can imagine this man saves a lot of marriages and may Allah swt accept it all. Ameen.
Thank you for this beneficial lecture about marriage. The content of this lecture is precious, and it should be taken into consideration by couples and marriage. This video is very rich and information.
The Prophet pbuh never had great wealth to marry. Many have the wrong objectves, too much of the dunya. Marry a person that has high Regards for Allah, that person will aways try to do Right. Just to put to you, i myself can afford 3 houses in London, but to look at me going to work you would believe i require charity, may look as if i am homeless. I spend more on charity than myself. I told my sons pursue education but do not worship it, like those in West who pursue education to acquire wealth not knowlesge. I be happy if my sons end up as refuse men as long the most important thing is Allah, the deen.
Let’s make it obligatory for every Muslim couple to enroll into a course on understanding the rights and responsibilities of marriage before the wedding. That should be the real prep!
9:40 Jazakallah khair. This is really a good point and it hits me more than before in this moment, it just makes so much sense and makes much clear now. How can we know how we will be as a partner if we don't know ourselves, our strengths and weaknesses? What we need to work on and develop, what the other person needs to be patient in and what they should counsel you in or work on together.
One phsycological session for unmarried but engaged people who love each their and how to overcome so much talking before marriage and to make our selves emotionally strong and mentally strong
Dont delay marriage. Its a hadith, 3 things you shouldn't delay. Marriage, burying of a body and salah. 3-6 months should be enough for engagement period?
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's advise for both of you to look for your own thought patterns, reactions and behaviours when you are married to a spouse who is serious about deen. Not to justify any behaviour from someone who's completely blind to their flaws and uninterested in becoming better. If you BOTH do that there's so much potential for growth within the marriage and it can improve your union in the best ways.
I'm scared of getting married, all people around me including my family are bad examples, they mix and match Religion and cultural norms (often bad than good) as they please And force it upon the next generation. I really want to know and study what an "Allah cantered" marriage is!, i want to be psychologically balanced and ready for it as i want my potential husband to be so.
Learn about healthy marriages and relationships through psychology, work on understanding and overcoming your own traumas, and then work on being a cycle breaker. Take what's good from your family and people around you and release all the negativity and what doesn't work for you. Stay close to Allah and things will fall into place.
Forget about what ur family does and wants and ask Allah for guidance. Submit and tell Him that you're helpless and beg Him to help you. Allah will open paths for you from nothing. Trust.
Selam aleykum, don't be scared of getting married. When people around you are bad examples you should ask yourself, what would I do in this situation? Would I react the same? Would I do the same as the bad example person? If no then why are you scared 😊, pray to Allah because Allah knows you better than yourself and Allah knows what good for you. 1. Don't surround yourself too much with bad examples and 2. If you would act or think differently than those bad examples than you would't have the same outcome inshallah. May Allah make it easy for us all.
All of these suggestions are ideal scenarios There no way we can see how much taqwa they have by just talking You can never know some person to this extent by purely observing or whateva ways, they can be lying or pretending or genuine only Allah knows No matter how much of a self aware of a person you are if your partner is not willing to make amends or think about working on the conflicts or on themselves it's not gonna work which is majority of the times You cannot run the marriage single handedly
Sobhanallah i was i wanna get married I wanna get married, this video tells me youre not ready yet, may Allah guide us to the path of our prophet SAAWS
Masha'Allah ❤ I've been following your Sudanese wife Isra' for years on IG, i do really love your dedication towards maintaining a good-healthy family. الله يحفظكم!
*If one has a narcissist as a partner n if you focus on improving yourself n just doing for them they the narcissist partner will just use n abuse you.* Everything else you say is true.
How exactly can we be sure, that this is the Person Allah swt wants for us ? (3:00min) what are the remarks or how ist this situated in our life ? I’ve met a person, getting to know eachother. He was a religious person parallel balanced with my way of practicing my deen, however at the end it didn’t work out!!
That's exactly the sign.. with the right person Allah makes the matter so smooth. The key, however, is to surrender yourself to Allah and say that, oh Allah, I am happy with whatever you give me, and I know you'll give me the best. Indeed, you are the all-knowever and not us. When things flow and you yourself are unable to process how everything is so smooth , know that that is what Allah has chosen for you. From there on, the test of your faith begins.
He says get to know yourself better, understand yourself and work towards being a better muslim for Allah, for you and your partner. He also say marriage is not perfect, its not a fairytale and you should go into for the purpose that it gets you closer to Allah. By doing what Allah asks of us plus understanding yourself, getting better at communication and learning more about deen will definitely make you a better partner. Who are you and how does that align with islam? Do you hold yourself accountable for your actions? What do you think makes you a good person or what do you think you need to do be a good person? Is Allah the main focus in your life? Do you trust Him? Do you have blind faith in Him? All the best in whatever you are doing. May Allah grant you health and peace in this life.
Honesty the amount of people in marriages that are just the kind he is talking about - random, with random problems, random amount of beliefs... The more i study this problem od marriage the more i am convinced its pure luck or baraka... That it. You can stand on your head, walk a thousand miles, pray, beg,... What ever, if you are not ment to be in a marriage you wont be.
If you have a brother who is ambitionend just like you and you both have mohabba between one another marrying within this bond (meaning one marries from the family of the other) there will be much more effort put into working things out. Thats what we call brotherhood which we dont have at the moment but I think it is coming
His advice is on point but I don’t know why, somehow after hearing him I felt that marriage is more like a serious business. I want comfort from my better half. Not like a business partner asking me how I am feeling. Somehow he was demotivating a romantic aspect in marriage. At least I felt that way. I've seen many Muslim scholars act as if romance is a taboo. If my partner is 10/10 but he acts like we are doing some business, I don't think I'll ever find any fulfilment in that marriage.
Selamu aleikum my dear brothers and sisters. Ultimately it comes down to what you pray for to Allah. I have witnessed so many people saying stuff like: I only want him to be like this that's enough. No, please you should be describing your ideal partner to the allmighty creator of everything Allah. Make dua, go into detail, even eye color height whatever you like. I met so many people that say they did this and their partner turned out exactly like their dua😊. Finally: be patient with your Dua, Our beloved prophet Musa aleyhisselam prayed for the downfall of the pharao and it happened after 40 years. If you are patient and trust in Allah you will get what you want, 100% guaranteed.
Dear Women, you need to know red flags in a relationship. You need to know your future husband whether is a red flag or not. And please control your histrionic personality if you have symptoms. Marriage is not like Bollywood or Hollywood movies.
I think if late teens or 20 yr old wait to "sort themselves out", they'll be waiting till their 50s. That's usually when most males realise what life's about.
4 minutes of saying a whole lot of nothing. Essentially marriage is about building and developing yourself, along with someone else willing to work with you and working on themselves. Reflect on your flaws and weaknesses and you both become a garment for one another, guarding one another's honor and chastity while also counseling one another and overcoming your faults. The issue is that typically in a relationship people focus on the qualities and characteristics of the other person that they love. Except this often happens blindly, while ignoring the flaws. They only see the good side and they don't see what this person is truly like, what their character is like. How do they react when they are angry? What makes them angry? What are they passionate about? Where do they stand psychologically and in their deen, what are their priorities? Then after some time or when the honeymoon and sweet lovey dovey phase wears out, all they focus on or care about are the flaws and faults, everything that bothers them. So they become unhappy with the other person and lose their peace, when in reality they should be focused on their own flaws instead and correcting them. People are also not mind readers, if something upsets you then you have to communicate that in a way that is approachable and appropriate, and work to an understanding between both of you. If two people are focused on each other's flaws and not their own, they begin to paint a bad picture of the other person, "oh you are this this and that", you are lazy ungrateful dirty etc. If a person is accustomed to correcting themselves already and they marry someone in that regard as well or who is willing to put up with all these changes in her life, then marriage is a team effort that works in sha Allah.
He's not a shaykh at all. And psychology is an occultist ideology. Muslims are sold on absolute garbage and have allowed the west to reformulate their religion
Why is he talking just half of everything. It's not about finding the perfect match. Where is the aspect of different personalities. Where is the aspect that all souls don't get along well.
When you do muraqaba, when you know yourself as much as you can, you don't get into situations or align with anyone that doesn't fit in the first place. And if you make a mistake, that's also part of the learning. We are not here other than to be in Ibada and that doesn't mean prayer, fast, etc etc Ibada is much wider than that-- you become a channel, a smooth path for the baraka that's sent down
@@ayeshapowell3296ibada is also knowing Allah, no? Ihsan. The worship Allah as if we see Him. If not then know that He sees us. Hadith Jibreel. Its the final stage as we have islam (5 pillars), faith (imaan, inner belief) and ihsan.
Yes, of course. The purpose of everything is to know Allah, as only Allah exists. There is nothing else. Our reflection and our experiences ,either in our solitude or in relationship, all lead us to deeper knowledge of Allah, whether we are conscious of it or not. Intimate relationship offers a sometimes harder but often profound awareness of our connection with the One. Thank you for your insight.
What about a husband that is telling you are the wrong constantly gaslighting and he is just finding wrong with one even if there isnt and he on top all of that he is talking with his mother and family behind ones back in 12 years of marriage it feels like he is unfaitfull. and planing with them how to make one belive that i am the crazy one. What to do with such a husband narcisisst husband and family how to deal with them. Because i have beg him to treat me Well in 12 years and he told me that i am the problem which caused depression and anxit trauma bonding. What to do about there munafiqun behaviour
Assalamu alaykum brother! We need your help to raise awareness about the hijab ban in Tajikistan 🇹🇯. The government has banned wearing the hijab, and they are fining and arresting women who wear it on the streets. They have been trying for a long time to secularize the public and make them less religious. Men under 18 are not allowed to go to the mosque, teaching Tajweed is illegal, and men are not allowed to have beards. They imprison anyone who speaks out, and we don’t know what to do. Please pray for us and help spread the word!
May Allah grant you freedom and guide your leaders and you all and give victory to all the oppressed!
if you can’t make hijrah, make dua and be patient brother, do your best
@@3boys1family ameen
@@user-ze9tj9yj4t yes, truly Allah is with the patient.
This is so heartbreaking I'm surprised none knows about this may Allah reward you and make you a light for the people of Tajikistan and the ummah ameen
My take away is:
1) focus on *being* the right person instead of on *finding* the right person, and
2) remember that marriage is ultimately about achieving success in the akhirah, so that every difficulty and annoyance becomes an opportunity to level up.
Needs to work both ways
Easier said than done. Good luck to you
3) learn to communicate yourself to your partner well.
4) embrace conflicts instead of avoiding it.
Can someone explain how every difficulty/ annoyance becomes an opportunity to level up for akhira?? Like I'm confused
learn more and more about yourself not them
Preparation for marriage:
1. Self-introspection (muraqaba and muhasaba)
2. Focus on your own obligations, then you will your rights from Allah
3. Learning communication and listening skills, and understand the meaning
4. Recognize and working on the issue that arise
5. Know themselves, understamd who you are, and be a better self
6. Find somebody on taqwa (based on their behavior)
7. Know the vision and mission of your future spouse
8. Developing heart-to-heart connection, have empathy,
9. Embrace the conflict for healthy marriage and get closer to Allah
Thank you for the resumee, I think he said to chose somebody with taqwa but actually he said that behaviour is not necessary a manifestation of taqwa
"you should be wanting to be with whoever Allah wants for you, not who YOU want for YOURSELF" - the line that brought the broken pieces of my heart together.
What prove you have that God wants you to be this girl or that girl
What logical basis you have for this argument
Unless you have a list Directly authored by God which mentions other girls name
Its just nonsense meant to cope
Do you think
God cares for who you marry
Really come on my bro that's nonsense
As a 24 year old Muslim man, do you think I should even consider marriage at this point? After checking out the infidelity rate it seems like I have to go into the marriage expecting that I would be cheated on in some point.
The best marriage lecture video I ever watched...so comprehensive, deep, insightful, beneficial in every way. Marriage is a great means through which one can have spiritual awakening ..that's why it's half of Deen.
Mash-Allah. Allah has gifted this Psychologist with the Hikmah and Eloquence. Him giving therapeutic advices in the light of Islam is so pleasing to watch. Jazak Allah ❤
Please do more of this. A lot of us do not have enough good guidance so this was very helpful and insightful.
Jazakallah khair .. that was very beneficial. Ironically I'm watching this after my divorce. Wish I'd seen this before but allahuallam ..Allah has a plan for me.
Same here, my first marriage endet up after a couple of weeks, because he didn't want to do the work and it was his second divorce, SubanAllah. He didn't learn it at the first time, so i guess he didn't get it this time either, with that mindset and delisional thinking of marriage he will properly go trough a lot of divorces, may Allah protect all sisters from men like that, Ameen.
I am totally frighten from marriage thanks to him, but yes Allah has a plan for us and everything is in his wisdom. It was in our Qadr to go trough that, may Allah guide us all to be capable of fullfilling our duties. We always learn something about ourselves and one day we will be grateful for this painful experience.
@@wata8096getting nikkah soon, may Allah make my wife as introspective as you.
@wata8096 you think it was solely his fault? I'm sure he thinks that it was your fault. The most important thing in our religion is to first recognize our own shortcomings and then focus on others. May Allah help is live up to that!
@wata8096 at the time I felt like a failure but now I realised it was from Allah and it was for my own good. I now look back and smile and thank Allah for looking after me and guiding me. Alhumdulliah. Whatever happens now till Allah decides to take me as long as he is pleased with me nothing else matters. This life is just a temporary abode....
As a 24 year old Muslim man, do you think I should even consider marriage at this point? After checking out the infidelity rate it seems like I have to go into the marriage expecting that I would be cheated on in some point.
Empathy is so important in a marriage!
Empathy comes from knowledge of what affects oneself and not projecting ones feelings onto the other partner... Very important distinction to make
So accurate and insightful for Muslim couples. i would love to hear more from this doctor, so incredibly smart allahuma barik
Marriage is a big unit that creates a family that changes to community and next world
MashaAllah this a talk is binshmark for every couple before, and after marriage. It simplified the true message of Marriage in Islam الحمدلله Alhamdulilah "Balance is 🔑" towards unity inshaAllah 🙌 Ameen
Powerful words mashaAllah:
Avoiding conflict is avoiding opportunity to get closer to Allah swt
May Allah bless you and your family and grant you goodness always, Dr. Abdallah. Thank you OnePath Network for this interview. May Allah bless your work. Ameen
It is good to chose someone you would love to be with, that would love to be with you that Allah accepts for you in marriage.
From who would be halal to be with that is from your choice, and her or his choice.
Allahumma Barik! By Allah's mercy, his calm demeanor was extremely beneficial in the delivery of this marriage life-saving catalyst to possible healthy, long-lasting, forever unions. Jazakum Allahu khairun katheerun 🌹I hope that all came across well.🙂
Brilliant and important advice mashAllah may Allah accept and may more people adhere to these teachings from the perfect Deen to benefit and find the sukoon and success of both worlds Aameen
SubhanAllah, some of the best marriage advice I’ve heard. BarakAllahu Feekum. I can imagine this man saves a lot of marriages and may Allah swt accept it all. Ameen.
Thank you for this beneficial lecture about marriage. The content of this lecture is precious, and it should be taken into consideration by couples and marriage. This video is very rich and information.
Masha Allah I never thought id feel so good getting marriage advice from Muslim Ron Perlman!! 😂
😂😂😂😂
May Allah bless each and every one with halal wealth that will allow them to marry so that they don’t end up committing zina, Aameen🤲🙏
Amee
Ameen
Ameen
Aameen yaa rab yalwahhaab
The Prophet pbuh never had great wealth to marry. Many have the wrong objectves, too much of the dunya. Marry a person that has high Regards for Allah, that person will aways try to do Right. Just to put to you, i myself can afford 3 houses in London, but to look at me going to work you would believe i require charity, may look as if i am homeless. I spend more on charity than myself. I told my sons pursue education but do not worship it, like those in West who pursue education to acquire wealth not knowlesge. I be happy if my sons end up as refuse men as long the most important thing is Allah, the deen.
Let’s make it obligatory for every Muslim couple to enroll into a course on understanding the rights and responsibilities of marriage before the wedding. That should be the real prep!
9:40 Jazakallah khair. This is really a good point and it hits me more than before in this moment, it just makes so much sense and makes much clear now. How can we know how we will be as a partner if we don't know ourselves, our strengths and weaknesses? What we need to work on and develop, what the other person needs to be patient in and what they should counsel you in or work on together.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته.
بارك الله فيك وفي علمك يا أخي 🤲 جزاكم الله خيرا على هذا المحتوى الطيب🤲
One phsycological session for unmarried but engaged people who love each their and how to overcome so much talking before marriage and to make our selves emotionally strong and mentally strong
Dont delay marriage. Its a hadith, 3 things you shouldn't delay. Marriage, burying of a body and salah. 3-6 months should be enough for engagement period?
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Hello Shanie, I sincerely hope that Allah is going to help you. Make dua to Allah, perhaps this is your prime chance to make that change!
So deeeeeeep and insightful. JazakAllah Khair
Thanks!
Alhamdolillah for sharing your knowledge and spiritual wisdom about marriage 🤲
Subhan’Allāh. This was powerful learnt a lot of lessons.
That lack of commincations destroys millions lifes across the globe. He really is a good pacticioner
Exactly
The best and extremely accurate advice 👌
2:39 perfectly said
Very impressive. Good to hear the speech. Zajakallah for sharing.
Zaja nahi, not zaja, it's, JazakAllah khairaa or JazakAllah
Amazing macha Allah !we all need this in all aspects of life
Maashaa2Allah. This man is wonderful.
Jazakum Allahu khairan
It's advise for both of you to look for your own thought patterns, reactions and behaviours when you are married to a spouse who is serious about deen. Not to justify any behaviour from someone who's completely blind to their flaws and uninterested in becoming better. If you BOTH do that there's so much potential for growth within the marriage and it can improve your union in the best ways.
JazakAllohu xoyr
Allahuma barik.. Allahuma enlight us
I'm scared of getting married, all people around me including my family are bad examples, they mix and match Religion and cultural norms (often bad than good) as they please And force it upon the next generation. I really want to know and study what an "Allah cantered" marriage is!, i want to be psychologically balanced and ready for it as i want my potential husband to be so.
Learn about healthy marriages and relationships through psychology, work on understanding and overcoming your own traumas, and then work on being a cycle breaker. Take what's good from your family and people around you and release all the negativity and what doesn't work for you.
Stay close to Allah and things will fall into place.
Do a night prayer, even if it's 2 rakaat before the fajr athan and talk to Allah and ask him to suprise you with the best husband ever.
Don't listen to them. Be brave and make your own mind and decisions
Forget about what ur family does and wants and ask Allah for guidance. Submit and tell Him that you're helpless and beg Him to help you. Allah will open paths for you from nothing. Trust.
Selam aleykum, don't be scared of getting married. When people around you are bad examples you should ask yourself, what would I do in this situation? Would I react the same? Would I do the same as the bad example person? If no then why are you scared 😊, pray to Allah because Allah knows you better than yourself and Allah knows what good for you. 1. Don't surround yourself too much with bad examples and 2. If you would act or think differently than those bad examples than you would't have the same outcome inshallah. May Allah make it easy for us all.
If it's Abdallah Rothman I know it's a good content ma shaa Allah 👏👏👏
All of these suggestions are ideal scenarios
There no way we can see how much taqwa they have by just talking
You can never know some person to this extent by purely observing or whateva ways, they can be lying or pretending or genuine only Allah knows
No matter how much of a self aware of a person you are if your partner is not willing to make amends or think about working on the conflicts or on themselves it's not gonna work which is majority of the times
You cannot run the marriage single handedly
Excellent advice MashaAllah
Sobhanallah i was i wanna get married I wanna get married, this video tells me youre not ready yet, may Allah guide us to the path of our prophet SAAWS
Masha'Allah ❤
I've been following your Sudanese wife Isra' for years on IG, i do really love your dedication towards maintaining a good-healthy family.
الله يحفظكم!
Best advice for marriage! Allahuma barek ❤️
3:04 absolutely right
MashaAllah.Thank you for the correct information
*If one has a narcissist as a partner n if you focus on improving yourself n just doing for them they the narcissist partner will just use n abuse you.*
Everything else you say is true.
Actually at some point where you keep on improving either they follow you and improve or will lose you.
Amazing work 🥰
Zazakhallah Khairan...
How can we know that someone has Taqwa or not I mean if someone is praying it's external so . how can we know he/ she is pious from inside ?
No successful marriage without God. No happiness without God.
Is there any way to contact with Dr.Abdullah Morthan for consultation?
How exactly can we be sure, that this is the Person Allah swt wants for us ? (3:00min) what are the remarks or how ist this situated in our life ? I’ve met a person, getting to know eachother. He was a religious person parallel balanced with my way of practicing my deen, however at the end it didn’t work out!!
That's exactly the sign.. with the right person Allah makes the matter so smooth. The key, however, is to surrender yourself to Allah and say that, oh Allah, I am happy with whatever you give me, and I know you'll give me the best. Indeed, you are the all-knowever and not us.
When things flow and you yourself are unable to process how everything is so smooth , know that that is what Allah has chosen for you. From there on, the test of your faith begins.
Wow..i wish it is longer..some his answer kind a like needs more explanation as I am not sure what he is referencing is same as what I think
He says get to know yourself better, understand yourself and work towards being a better muslim for Allah, for you and your partner.
He also say marriage is not perfect, its not a fairytale and you should go into for the purpose that it gets you closer to Allah. By doing what Allah asks of us plus understanding yourself, getting better at communication and learning more about deen will definitely make you a better partner.
Who are you and how does that align with islam? Do you hold yourself accountable for your actions? What do you think makes you a good person or what do you think you need to do be a good person? Is Allah the main focus in your life? Do you trust Him? Do you have blind faith in Him?
All the best in whatever you are doing. May Allah grant you health and peace in this life.
Honesty the amount of people in marriages that are just the kind he is talking about - random, with random problems, random amount of beliefs... The more i study this problem od marriage the more i am convinced its pure luck or baraka... That it. You can stand on your head, walk a thousand miles, pray, beg,... What ever, if you are not ment to be in a marriage you wont be.
One Path is awesome
Thank you
Masha Allah... Very beautiful
Jazakallahu khair
جزاک اللہ خیر
Brilliant words : marry one who Allah wants you to marry, meaning let things take it's natural course of action
You are putting a lot of emphasis on fix yourself , and having more patience, you can’t change people unless they are convinced.
Interesting conversation, thank you. Also, please stop the logo animation on the top left corner, it’s a bit distracting. Other than that great video.
How do we teach self reflection?? Its something that younger people have a hard time dealing with or comprehending
If you have a brother who is ambitionend just like you and you both have mohabba between one another marrying within this bond (meaning one marries from the family of the other) there will be much more effort put into working things out. Thats what we call brotherhood which we dont have at the moment but I think it is coming
His advice is on point but I don’t know why, somehow after hearing him I felt that marriage is more like a serious business. I want comfort from my better half. Not like a business partner asking me how I am feeling. Somehow he was demotivating a romantic aspect in marriage. At least I felt that way. I've seen many Muslim scholars act as if romance is a taboo. If my partner is 10/10 but he acts like we are doing some business, I don't think I'll ever find any fulfilment in that marriage.
جَزَاكُمُ اللهُ خَيْرًا
Selamu aleikum my dear brothers and sisters. Ultimately it comes down to what you pray for to Allah. I have witnessed so many people saying stuff like: I only want him to be like this that's enough.
No, please you should be describing your ideal partner to the allmighty creator of everything Allah. Make dua, go into detail, even eye color height whatever you like.
I met so many people that say they did this and their partner turned out exactly like their dua😊. Finally: be patient with your Dua, Our beloved prophet Musa aleyhisselam prayed for the downfall of the pharao and it happened after 40 years.
If you are patient and trust in Allah you will get what you want, 100% guaranteed.
Dear Women, you need to know red flags in a relationship. You need to know your future husband whether is a red flag or not. And please control your histrionic personality if you have symptoms. Marriage is not like Bollywood or Hollywood movies.
Thanks
Ummah in turmoil,
Today’s Muslim couples say we are going to have two kids, a career and a house; everything else is not that important.
amazing
Great personal opinion. Would be great to add wisdom from the Quran and Sunnah. May Allah guide the Ummah.
Mash'Allah
marriage is holy in islam ❤️
We neeed a video how to know the person is right for us to marry him or her
You dont know 100% before marriage.
Thats part of the risk of marriage
Alhamdulillah
is there some sort of destination or an end goal to this?
Yes, your work.
He just mentioned that the goal is coming closer to Allah.
Jannah
You improve if you got to a point where your life is well you need to work to improve yourself (your weaknesses and your negative traits)
Allah is the reason for our existence and our purpose and goal. This is why we ask the guidance of Siratal Mustaqeem in every rakah of prayer.
The book brother mention can you name the book please
I think it is called "al-ghazali on vigilance and self-examination: kitab al-muraqaba wa'l-muhasaba (ihya ulum al-din)"
What is the full name of the counselor please?
Its in the desc look properly before commenting.
Dr. Abdalla rothman
Nice
I regret to marry someone who doesn’t do the prayer 😢😢
Idk why I’m watching this. I’m not even married or planning to get married lol
Easier to essentially get married, harder to stay married !
I think if late teens or 20 yr old wait to "sort themselves out", they'll be waiting till their 50s. That's usually when most males realise what life's about.
4 minutes of saying a whole lot of nothing. Essentially marriage is about building and developing yourself, along with someone else willing to work with you and working on themselves. Reflect on your flaws and weaknesses and you both become a garment for one another, guarding one another's honor and chastity while also counseling one another and overcoming your faults. The issue is that typically in a relationship people focus on the qualities and characteristics of the other person that they love. Except this often happens blindly, while ignoring the flaws. They only see the good side and they don't see what this person is truly like, what their character is like. How do they react when they are angry? What makes them angry? What are they passionate about? Where do they stand psychologically and in their deen, what are their priorities?
Then after some time or when the honeymoon and sweet lovey dovey phase wears out, all they focus on or care about are the flaws and faults, everything that bothers them. So they become unhappy with the other person and lose their peace, when in reality they should be focused on their own flaws instead and correcting them. People are also not mind readers, if something upsets you then you have to communicate that in a way that is approachable and appropriate, and work to an understanding between both of you. If two people are focused on each other's flaws and not their own, they begin to paint a bad picture of the other person, "oh you are this this and that", you are lazy ungrateful dirty etc.
If a person is accustomed to correcting themselves already and they marry someone in that regard as well or who is willing to put up with all these changes in her life, then marriage is a team effort that works in sha Allah.
Look for the red flags of Narcissism
Mashallah
When sheikh rothman speaks about psychology then you listen.
Another outstanding insight
He's not a shaykh at all. And psychology is an occultist ideology. Muslims are sold on absolute garbage and have allowed the west to reformulate their religion
Marriage is where the husband/wife is makig an oath to Allah that he/she gives all rights deserved islamically to the husband/wife.
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لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله
Pre nuptial agreement
Why is he talking just half of everything. It's not about finding the perfect match. Where is the aspect of different personalities. Where is the aspect that all souls don't get along well.
When you do muraqaba, when you know yourself as much as you can, you don't get into situations or align with anyone that doesn't fit in the first place. And if you make a mistake, that's also part of the learning. We are not here other than to be in Ibada and that doesn't mean prayer, fast, etc etc Ibada is much wider than that-- you become a channel, a smooth path for the baraka that's sent down
@@ayeshapowell3296ibada is also knowing Allah, no? Ihsan. The worship Allah as if we see Him. If not then know that He sees us. Hadith Jibreel. Its the final stage as we have islam (5 pillars), faith (imaan, inner belief) and ihsan.
Yes, of course. The purpose of everything is to know Allah, as only Allah exists. There is nothing else. Our reflection and our experiences ,either in our solitude or in relationship, all lead us to deeper knowledge of Allah, whether we are conscious of it or not. Intimate relationship offers a sometimes harder but often profound awareness of our connection with the One. Thank you for your insight.
What about a husband that is telling you are the wrong constantly gaslighting and he is just finding wrong with one even if there isnt and he on top all of that he is talking with his mother and family behind ones back in 12 years of marriage it feels like he is unfaitfull. and planing with them how to make one belive that i am the crazy one. What to do with such a husband narcisisst husband and family how to deal with them. Because i have beg him to treat me Well in 12 years and he told me that i am the problem which caused depression and anxit trauma bonding. What to do about there munafiqun behaviour