So You Think You Have ADHD..What Now?🤔 (ADHD Help)
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:05 Should you see a therapist?
4:00 Who should you tell?
6:35 What does having ADHD now mean for you?
Thinking you have ADHD after you did an adhd test? Then you probably have questions like what this now means for you, if you should do therapy, take medication, tell your family and/or friends etc. In this video, I help answer those questions to better help you understand attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and provide some helpful tips.
DISCLAIMER: Please note that I am not a licensced therapist/psychologist and that I derive all of my recommendations from my own experiences with ADHD and/or publically available information. If you have ADHD please always consult with a therapist first.
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Hey my fellow like-minded friends! I hope you enjoyed the video. Whats you opinion on telling your friends and family about your diagnosis? Let me know!
Hey i told my mom that i have posible adhd but she thinks that i am just chaotic and i want to know if i have or not so when i am 18 i want to get myself diagnosed if i have adhd
They just said everyone is like that 🙄
I want to get a diagnosis, but I'm just afraid what if it comes out negative and everyone (including my parents and the doctor) would think that I was just making a fuss out of nothing.
I understand that. Overall, if you scored over 8 criteria from the self-test, I would definitelly recommend going to a therapist either way. Its always better to know for sure :)
@@adhdvision thanks! that's gonna take a lot of courage to bring that up to my parents lmao
Even if it does come out negative, if you're getting the diagnosis to better understand yourself and the things you do, etc. then either result is a good result. if it's negative. that means. that it's something else. not adhd, bringing you closer to understand yourself and things you do. and closer to getting help.
Same
Did u get ur diagnosis ?
I am 99% sure I have ADHD, but I haven't been officially diagnosed.
I tried a couple of times, but the institutions where I went were very uninterested in what I had to say and they charged way too much imo. My family and friends also never believed me when I brought it up.
The problem I think is that I'm very introverted and shy, so it doesn't look like I'm hyper at all... I was/am also suffering from depression (which I think is partly caused by the ADHD, but makes the diagnosis more difficult).
This year, at 27, I finally found a doctor who listened and I started a Ritalin trial, now the chaos in my mind is gone... and it's so peaceful 😭
I have the exact same situation but didnt find the right doctor yet, how did you convince your doctor?
What does it is like to feel the chaos in your mind leave?
"you can't have adhd, you're intelligent." "it's all about discipline." "you just need to be mindful all the time." "JUST FOCUS."
I got diagnosed at 29, and when I told my parents, they wouldn't believe me, especially when I mentioned the part genetics have a role in it. I grew up being criticized a lot for losing stuff, forgetting things, getting called out at school for being too hyper and "disruptive", and for being disorganized in all things in general. I did my best to educate them about ADHD and they stopped disagreeing, but that was probably just so I would shut up about it.
I only told the closest friends about my ADHD, because 1. It's tiring having to explain the condition to them and 2. I felt like they were the only ones who really cared. They reacted more appropriately than my family did.
big thanks mate :) . yuppp, ''Once you realise you have ADHD, your past life explains it self!''
My mother is like “omg you don’t have ADHD” every time I say that I would like to check if I have it
I literally brought it up just trying to be casual like “do you think I have adhd?” And she was like “no you don’t have it” I tried convincing but yeah no she kinda just made fun of me so idk what to do
I think i have adhd but i am scared to tell my parents that i want to do a test.
Since I’m a minor, I would probably have to ask my parents to get therapy, but I don’t like talking with my mom that much and I don’t with my dad either. My parents would probably think I’m over reacting. And my mom has constantly to me to pay attention but I get easily distracted and space out or try to tune others out depending on the person who is talking to me. I hate school because the kids laugh at my hyper activity and how easily I get distracted, AND my horrible memory. I told my friend I was workin up the courage to ask my mom to go to see if I have it though.
OH WAIT I FORGOT, UHHH, MY MOM SAYS THAT I LIE ABOUT FORGETTING THINGS OH I ALMOST FORGOT.
If you are in America schools have free program for this for you to be evaluated.
After overthinking whether or not I have adhd, this video finally convinced me to seek help. Ty :)
I'm overthinking too. 😅 did you have your appt yet? I'm still not entirely convinced lol, my brain is still trying to convince me I'm making it up
I’m 34 and just realizing I might have ADHD. It’s relieving to know why I am the way I am. Everybody just assumes I have bad qualities.
Well dang. I'm just realizing I have ADHD at the age of 26 , with two kids. I get good grades, but I struggle with things I'm not interested in. The inturpting, many projects but none finished , easily bored , restless. I literally ticked 13/14 of them. Thank you for your videos!!
I personally don't want to use medication if I end up getting diagnosed. I like how I am, and from what I've heard, the pain points can be improved by other things, like getting good at making lists, getting good planing stuff out, psychotherapy, etc. Also, I want to stay far away from narcotics.
just got diagnosed yesterday thanks
Last month, I made a video about this same topic… but from a different angle.
I also added your channel to the list of ADHD UA-cam channels in that videos description. Hope ya don’t mind.
Hey, thanks! Just watched a part of your video, love the setup ;)
@@adhdvision Thanks! It only took me over 5 years to get the channel launched. Lol.
How do I contact a psychologist? Do I call and say « hi I want a ADHD test/diagnosis? » or would that make them biased?..
That’s what I did. I called them and said “I think I have ADHD”. Boom. Done. Scheduled the appointment and psychologist said my ADHD is off the charts. WHEEEEEE!
@@GoADHDGoplease can u tell us how it happened ? What the whole test looks like ?
I have trained myself quite well, but I am 65 now.
my biggest problem is that in my living environment, i'm willing to bet that 99% (and that's super generous) of the people I know never even heard the word ADHD before, so yeah.
I don't know if telling my parents because I'm afraid they'll say like "you're just spending too much time on internet" and I mean, yes I did, but to do many researches on ADHD, I had myself informed about the symptoms for like, half year, and I'm pretty sure, of course I can't totally be without a diagnosis, but I don't know where to start to ask them to see a doctor
A few years ago I realized I was Bi and I ended up learning that explaining what it is to everyone I mention it to is annoying, so I ended up just saying I was Gay unless it is someone close to me, or I had the time/motivation to explain it to them. So yeah, I get why telling it to everyone would be annoying.
Such an important topic. Thank you for sharing!
Really appreciate your videos. They've helped me out in my life as someone who also has ADHD.
Perfect choice of song 😎 Thank you for all your solid advice. Getting diagnosed helped me understand a lot about myself but I really didn't know what to do about it to help. Finding some strategies, giving myself some credit & compassion helps ❤
Oh God! That was really related.. just everything! I'm so glad you decided to make this chanelle and talk about It. Hope you keep on going and hope more people get the chance to watch your videos
I'm 18 and just found out that I have ADHD so I was really struggling with everything that you said like getting emotional after telling to my parents, should I describe this to my friends? Would it even be better and will they understand?!
I wish I could see your video even before going trough this
I was Officially diagnosed with ADHD the end of 2018 by a Neurologist/Psychologist,
It was pure luck & chance that I had gotten Doctor who is a Neurologist & Psychologist.
I had been to therapy before & I would always go because of my crippling anxiety,
Always feeling I didn't have control of my life, I knew something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it.
About 11 years ago, I had a Therapist who said you have ADHD, & I am going to see if we can work with your family Doctor for the medication & we will continue therapy.
I thought to myself, people mentioned it to me before & because ADHD had such a bad rap, people saying its not real, its just excuse for soccer moms to get their fix Etc.etc that I would bush it off, but maybe there is something to this, it sounds like what I have been struggling with, I should not brush it off this time & see what happens.
She called & followed it up with an detailed email, & time past & she said your doctor is not getting back to me, I told her that I happened to have an appointment in a couple of days & I will ask him about it.
I go to the appointment & I was made to feel so ashamed, I didn't even have to bring it up, as soon as I seen him he said my therapist keeps calling & sending me emails & said that he refuse to even talk to her because she said I had ADHD, which is made up &
That it is only for people to have an excuse to get speed Legally, & she probably on it herself, I hung my head down in sham & apologize, for what I was apologizing for, I dont know??? I even lied & said she told me she was calling you but she didn't tell me it was for ADHD.
Years later, still dealing with crippling anxiety, it was effecting my life more & more, to the point I only go out when I had to.
Then my family didn't ask told me that I was to be my grandmother's caregiver & then my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer & he refused hospice & only wanted me around besides my mom, my mom was in shock, she just sat beside him, while doctors where getting up set because we where refusing hospice, he looked at me & said this will be to much for you to handle, oh yes I am married but he couldn't help because my mother-in- law was Diagnosed with stage 4 cancer the month before & my grandmother had to get a hart surgery.
The doctor was right it was all to much & I felt like a huge failure.
After my dad passed, my mom just took all her fear, sadness & anger of my dad dieing out on me, always saying to me, what is wrong with you???? In disgust or my favor are you on something? When we would have to go out, she would tell me to change, that I am to fat for that & when I talk she would say under her breath shut up why did you say that, it sounded dumb.
About to have a nervous brake down, my life felt so out of control, I started feel hopless,
So back to a therapist I go & she said to me, you have ADHD, its pretty bad, you need to see a Psychologist.
I didn't show it but I was mad, after all that& still with this ADHD but I agreed to see a Psychologist, I just will not tell he or she what she said , because I can finally afford one because we finally got insurance to cover it.
I got a list of about 40 Psychologist, not one specialized in ADHD, I noticed & I called for 3 weeks & before I can even get to a reason, as soon as I said insurance, they couldn't get off the phone fast enough.
I called my insurance customer care, to whom I embarrassed myself by braking down & crying & I got very nice lady who seemed to give me a phone # to a doctor who she said wasn't on the list but he will take the insurance, he is also a Neurologist too. He is very serious about his work & he will only take people who are very serious about helping themselves & she thought I was.
I called & it almost felt like a job interview, he wasn't giving me an answer right away, he gave me what felt like a test over the phone, this last 4 calls.
He finally agreed to see me.
I walk in & yes he definitely had experience, he was 91 years old, another doctor told me he is very respected & looked up to as a Neurologist & he was surprised, he took on a patient (now you can see when I say it was luck & chance, I meant it)
He wanted to see me on a weekly basis, he gave me test After test & even had a brain scan done that I found out he didn't put into my insurance or charge me, 3 months later he tells me, you have ADHD, I couldn't believe he came up with the same as other therapists did but this time, I believed him,
He told me in detail what it is, he told me that even in just the past few years that they have discovered new things about ADHD, he even told me unfortunately a lot of doctors do not keep up with this information.
He told a month figuring out what was the best medicine for me, he told me yes he thinks that I would benefit from medication but it was my choice but it all ways have to go hand to hand with therapy, the medication is not a curse in any way, it is simply a tool to help me with my therapy.
I was doing so much better, I was full of hope, I was excited to keep learning in what I can do.
Then 2019 hits, meaning Covid hits, my amazing Doctor decided to retire & said to me you definitely need to continue therapy.
My husband had also started a new job as a boss in the dairy industry, people where not coming into work , he was working 7 days a week & I realized he hasn't ask me any questions since my Diagnose & I said to him, do you have any questions for me??
You can see I was happier, I actually slowed down, did things one thing at a time, I wasn't haveing anxiety attacks on daily basis, I actually went back to working,
So I thought he has to notice, thinking at least be happy I am not driving him nuts with my anxiety & I am working now, during this hard time, he must be happy about that, right? I mean he always been a loving & supportive husband.
What he said made me what to throw up right on the spot, he said that it is fake & I better not start taking that medication because then he will be mad, & I already had, was shocked the fact he didn't know that.
Now, I have no Psychologist, I am right back where I was before.
But I decided, I am going to help myself no matter what & find another Psychologist.
Easier said then done.
I found one who had 30 years experience, I told her everything & she agreed to take me on, great! Right? Nope, wrong, she must be good in other areas but not ADHD!
she would even talk about it, my sessions where for 45 minutes & she would be rushing me off the phone in 15 to 20 minutes, she only wanted to see me one a month & that was fine, but then I found out she was billing my insurance bi-weekly, so taking to double the payments per month & I wasn't even getting the full 45 minutes & she never brought up ADHD, so I dropped her.
Now I am back no Psychologist again.
I feel incredibly alone in all this.
I mean not even all doctors think to highly of it, let alone people in my life.
Forgive me for saying this but I think if I was Diagnosed with anything else & not ADHD,
I would have a better time, as far as finding the right help & my husband & (I didn't tell most) family being a lot more supportive.
I know I sound like I am playing my tiny 🎻,
& I know that giving up is Not an option but I keep hearing help is out there, just ask & in my opinion that is BS.
I still can't get my husband to even to not believe me but to do his own research.
hoping my opinion changes, I am just having a long tuff patch, & a long patch of bad luck.
I know this way to long, I don't expect anyone to read this, I think I just needed comment on it, just to make me feel better.
Sorry if you did read all of this🤪
but thanks
✌
Don't be sorry at all. I haven't been diagnosed yet because im afraid to go see a doctor, what if he tells me that adhd is some nonexistent bullshit? What i am gonna tell him in the 1st place? Im so confused. thanks for this comment i hope that you'll find ease
I know this is from a few months ago but just wanted to say that I hope things get better for you. MAKE your husband understand. This is a real problem that you're struggling with and he wouldn't tell you not to take cancer medication if you needed it. He's supposed to be your partner and he needs to make an effort to understand what you're going through. You deserve that much after struggling and being brushed off for so long, at the very least you deserve it from the person you married. Good luck to you
I used to do two or more things at a time
You are so COOL 🙂🤪. Keep doing what you do!
I checked all your criteria. Like 100% and I've been trying to listen to podcast, watch videos and shorts about ADHD for almost a month now. And I am typing this while watching this video that Im just about to replay it because you're talking while Im typing and I dunno as to which one to focus on first. 😢
I'm pretty damn sure I have ADHD at this point, I've jumped into a crap ton of research about it in the last 3 days (which I should be spending on my dissertation, but oh well), and the vast majority of the time I'll hear/ read about a trait or explanation for an action it feels like a puzzle piece slotting into place and experiences I have on a daily basis to problems that have persisted as far back as when I started school just make sense.
The only thing in the ADHD test I didn't agree with was the 5th last one, I can do things calmly even if they absolutely piss me off and I'd want nothing else but to break or tear something apart. Mainly because I know how to vent frustration and anger through exercise and know how lashing out while angry can build dangerous habits that can negatively effect relationships and furniture.
I like your mindset. Its great how you can talk about ADHD and see the positive aspects. I struggle with ADD every day (didnt try medication yet). Its sometimes really annoying and Im sad because of it. But some days its good, I have that burst of creativity. I think meds can help to organize my dirty mind. Now Im doing these non-medication techniques and it helps little. So thank you for this videos, its helpfull )) Do you have some tips for relationships or how to find partner? I had many girls but it just didnt work xd Im 23 btw.
Ok so I went to a psychologist because I struggle with controlling my emotions such as stress and anger. At the end of the session she told me and my mom "Girl u have ADHD go get an official diagnosis. " Then I asked my mom what ADHD was cuz I did not know and she just told me that it is a condition where u cant stop moving and you cant focus no matter what. I did a little more research about it and I realised that my mom doesn't know what ADHD is. I told her if I can get a diagnosis but she said that there is no way I have it only because I get good grades. She also said that I am getting affected by the use of my phone and that the reason why I zone out all the time is because I have a big imagination. About my hyperactivity she said that I an just nervous all yhe time for some reason. In your test I got a 13 or 14/14 (I dont remember). So now idk what to do.
I've been thinking of first time therapy anyway... I was diagnosed with ptsd five years ago. Add this to the list of reasons I should try therapy I guess haha.
Great video! New sub here👋🏽 just recently diagnosed at 37. Binging on all adhd to learn more. Having huge epiphanies after believing all my life I was just weird or different. Things are clicking like crazy. After learning about all these ppl (particularly women) getting diagnosed in adulthood and all healing that goes with it, makes me want to share and educate ppl to help end stigma. And some women anxiety n depression groups I’m part of makes me wonder how many of those women too are struggling like me not realizing they have adhd, massively contributing to their anxiety and depression. But I’m not sure about being vocal and putting myself out there too much on social media because I’m super private about my personal life. But I do want to help educate incase there are others I know who struggle secretly like I was. I don’t know what I should do. Any suggestions appreciated!
Now im scared and actually excited, because i never looked at ADHD and now it seems that's my special condition. The movie thing its scary at best , even scares me sometimes because i dont put much thought on it ... ppl say i have watch the movie or the the scene before hand 😂
I was diagnosed in 2nd grade but got ticks from the only medication available then I'm now 44 and just use skills I have learned to get by
Yeah I think I might have adhd for various reasons including I said yes to most of the ones on the adhd quiz but I’m only 14 so if I wanted to go to get a diagnosis I’d have to ask my parents to take me somewhere or something but they are really judgy and never believe me about stuff especially stuff like this so I think they’d just think that I’m just saying it for attention :(
U came to know when ur 18yrs...but u came to know when I'm 40yrs...now what to do. I have struggled all my life... N now I feel my life was completely destroyed... Don't know how cod I do things better... Always have been dependent of other people to help since I'm. Uncapable if doing things alone... 😮😢😮😢
I'm a 20 year old guy who couldn't handle college at home so I failed a semester and dropped out from the stress and depression. I told my parents like 6 months ago now that I'm worried about not knowing if I have ADHD and my mam just defaulted to "you don't have that, don't worry about it". my dad looked into it rationally and said the diagnosis isn't necessary even if I did have it. It's a weirdly compelling argument since there's not too much known about adhd.
despite that, the diagnosis would give me peace of mind that these strategies I implement are worth it to move forwards... but now 6 months have passed... i think. I don't know how to approach my doctor about this, especially with my mam being how she is
Wasn't listening initially got distracted by the music😅 I was like thats the same music from the previous video,....I like it. Then I noticed that I hadn't heard anything you said. Wow! God help me. SQUIRREL!!!
Heyo I'm happy I found youu
Happy u found me too ;)
Great information!
Thank you!
This video was hard to follow. Could you make it verticle and split the video with footage of subway surfer?
i think i have it cuz i said yes to all the questions on ur video and i have related to a lot of other symptoms that iv learned about but my parents won’t believe me or take me seriously and i just want them to understand me and help me. what do i do ahghghg?
That High School Musical clip! :'D
I clicked because i lately got diagnosed
How do they test you for ADHD? Do they use any special instruments or ask questions?
They ask questions and they also sometimes will ask ur parents and teachers :)
@@nicolearefjeva9251 My 18 year old son just had an ADHD test yesterday. It’s only 30
minutes thru computer & it’s not covered by our insurance. He said it’s questions & about how you react to it. I think watching videos about ADHD he’s most likely.
Hi, okay I watched this late at about 3am don't feel like I can watch this video, I for some reason found the subject too unsettling. And the adhd test video, it's made me uncomfortable due to how much it sounded like my life. I couldn't believe it but I'm scared I have had to get up and put the TV on to get me out of my thoughts. I dont want to seem like I am making an excuse and I worry it will stop me from getting a job If I was to get diagnosed. I am kind of panicking. Do I need to do something, I feel like I do. Oh man I hate this.
The worse response is the no response... Completely dismissed auto or the "Ahh" (ahh means I'm misunderstanding what you're saying and there's nothing you can do about it)
Ahh also means this conversation is over and it's not a discussion. The info you gave me is behind your back now.
This is where social skills, designing your own environment and water off ducks back become helpful.
Cool
Hi I’ve had the thought that I have adhd and other stuff for a long time but I’m a minor and I’m not sure what to do or how to get diagnosed can someone help me on what I should do
Same I don’t know what to do
:( too me.
What about ADD? 🤔
I did one 3 online tests and the all said moderate so now idk what to do lol
I also did 3 and all of them showed high possibilities. My parents are pretty unaware of ADHD or whatsoever
I ddon't want a shirt or a hoodie. I want a coffee mug. Coffee mug. Coffee Mug. Coffee Mug. Gotta have the Coffee Mug.
Im just wondering bc my ucle has adhd and my mates and they all say i have symtoms and i got a 8 on the test and its making me really nevous to do it and i asked my mum if i could be tested for it and she just said "dont be stuipid u dont have i and u dont nedd the the test so just go away ." And now my dads trying to get me tested .
And just saying im 11
I just don't want to be medicated on anything
Is there any hope to become a good currency trader if you have ADD ?
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Hey, sorry about that. Just search adhdvision_ and it should come up :)
"getting diagnosed" means getting a label for a neurotype.
Nothing more. And an excuse to get drugged up.
Best to find solutions without a "label."
just my humble opinion.
US: Sorry I didn’t get to finish. I am struggling with my ADHD. THEM: ADHD?! That’s not real, that’s just an excuse. You are lazy! US: 😂🤣 HAHAHA…Ah! That’s one of my FAVORITES! THEM: Excuse me? US: That’s what the most ignorant people on the subject of ADHD say. So Congratulations. You’re in the top tier.👍🏼
him: talks
me: aggressively folding the paper i made tallies on from the other quiz for no reason
So I think I have adhd and I want to get diagnosed but my parents and siblings think I’m just making a big deal out of nothing. And my mom has a mental illness called MS (multiple sclerosis) and it’s very extreme and so I feel like she thinks that some mental disorders aren’t very serious do to her very extreme illness.
I have toxic people like that in my family too, they use every opportunity to invalidate your concerns and find blame in you, but never give encouragement or praise. You need to realize that they have a very depressing way to see the world and will always be unhappy
ignore me, just puttting a tictac on your face and calling you tictac face and then writing a comment a
I went on UA-cam to get myself ADHD focus music and now I'm over here.
I'm woman who only at 39 realised thanks to quarantine and tiktok that i have ADHD (15 positive on your test).
Should i tell my parents? Not a question for me. My dad is dead (i think he gave me that) and my mom got eaten by dementia. And my husband isnt very supportive.
ado max dum?