Purpose, Moving Forward and Male Mental Health ft.
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
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"If something scares you but isn't dangerous, you have to do it"
Insane quote. Thanks Charlie.
Fuck roller coasters, though!
Always do what you are afraid to do.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Timeline?
It's also empty as hell, not to mention dorky.
45:59 - "To a certain degree, we are responsible for our partner's feelings and it's our job to help make them feel better. But it can quickly cross into toxicity if you become solely responsible for their feelings."
Love Dr. K's perspective on codependency. So many other UA-camrs proclaim that you should never, ever be even the tiniest bit responsible for your partner's feelings, or else all hell will break loose.
It’s always good to be empathetic
Great book all hell let loose. And yep definitely not responsible for our partners feelings but needing them to feel safe and able to choose what they want within the relationship is essential.
legendary collab
Nuf said
Truly
One I never would have dreamed of. Love both of these men.
Legendary indeed!
Finally, Dr K can learn some charisma and how to pick up girls
The man is literally married
@@RFingaz69 my brother, if the comment is stupid enough, it's probably a joke
@@RFingaz69 so figuratively he isnt?
@@LOLHAXGUN LMAO
Almost felt like I just came out of therapy after watching this. Amazing conversation. I commend Charlie on opening up like this. Just a couple legends talking.
WOW HOW AMAZING!
I CAN'T WAIT TO BE CHADSPLAINED!
@@JoeMama-gi1so That's not the goal. The goal is to sell courses and all these are sales pitch.
@@Damesanglante psychology isn’t real libtards
@@Damesanglante guess you didn't watch any of it and are just lashing out?
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As an autistic high schooler, charisma on command videos were the best thing i ever found on youtube, and now healthy gamer gg is the thing that's helping me right now. Thank you both of you, despite the struggles my life is way better than what i was expecting it to be and became so well equipped in social interactions that I'm studying to became a therapist too.
Wow, keep it up g
Huge W
Absolute unit
Similar story but I'm also autistic and charisma on command really helped me back then and Dr K is helping me now as my latest special interest. I'm training to be a teacher instead though. I have a theory that charisma on command must help a lot of autistic people. I like to think of it as the empathy and compassion is there with autistic people, these youtube channels taught me better ways to show it.
amazing bro keep it up fr
Discussion starts 8:20
Bless you
Love u bro
Saint
Hope tou have a great day dude
Hope you smile today dude
He really made Charlie open right up. Dr. K's a real pro. Hats off to Charlie being so vulnerable. He's so much more relatable now than just watching him in his Charisma on Command videos. Guess you just never know what kind of pain people are just walking around with.
I mean, no knock on Dr. K but Charlie just starts that open.
Yeah I wouldn't put that on Dr. K. All props to to Charlie for opening up on his own.
It blows my mind how I have learned so much from listening to these two men just sitting and having a casual conversation. Amazing.
It's inspiring to see two articulate, compassionate men working together and showing each other brotherly love like this
this is insane these two goats have helped me be myself more than any other influences in my life
Please please please can we do more long form interviews, this is what made me fall in love with the channel and its what keeps me coming back. ❤
Same
Same
This has to be one of the most intelligent and insightful guests you've had. Nothing but respect for that guy.
I've been listening to Charlie's podcast for over 3 years and I can't recommend it enough. It's opened me up to so many ideas and ways of thinking and really helped me better understand myself and others. Everyone reading this should go check it out.
It was awesome to see Charlie pop up in a Dr K video and see such a raw and vulnerable conversation like this. This is probably my favourite video I've seen from either of them.
I've watched this conversation/interview a few times already and I just noticed, in maybe my 5th watch, how Charlie active listens very well. He reviews and repeats what he just heard, sometimes with his own input. It is something easy to see Dr K doing all the time, but it's my first time noticing the interviewee doing the same! Amazing talk!
On the topic of women facing those problems: hi 👋🏻
I felt like my life was just described back to me. I've been on a VERY similar journey, be it in my experiences, the family structure or the journey towards a better understanding and healing. This was so incredibly helpful and I felt so seen. Thank you both so much for this talk 💜
@adventuretimedaily9335 bye
It’s dope to find these videos and seeing which ones resonate super deeply with others and leave a profound effect. Hope you’re living your best life though 😄
Wow, it was so surprising seeing this in my feed. Being a follower of both Charlie and Dr. K for a few years, it's the crossover I've always wanted to see! Thank you!
Thank you Charlie for sharing your experience. I’m going through similar introspection and exploration, though from a different path.
What Dr. K said is true, the specific details of your stories have incredible resonance, more than just reading psychological literature. I’m certain I’m not alone in that.
Being in a place where you can share this live, recorded, with an audience…ultimate charisma.
Truly next level stuff and a dynamic between guys that we should see more often.
This was a very lovely stream and it's so stuffed and rich with really good information. Loved it!
I've never seen this side of Charlie. this side is so thoroughly deep and authentic and good to hear and experience. i guess this is the effect dr. k has on people
He has a podcast full of this now. (Dropping in podcast)
I wish I could get alerts when conversations of this quality come through- thank you so much for making this available ❤
I coupve never expected how perfect of a pairing this would be, such an awesome convo
People have always said that i'm great with words and explaining myself, but after listening to the first 45 minutes, i am in awe. Charlie has expressed himself in such a great way, that i felt like he was telling my story. So many things he experienced and struggled with were mine as well. It's really incredible when i hear people so young and have already achieved so much. Things sound so easy, but to actually work with AND on your issues and struggles is quite demanding.
This was one of the best conversations I had ever the privilege of witnessing. Absolutely riveting. Thanks for doing this!
I feel grateful about this conversation. And I notice a huge relaxation in me. Seeing Charlie go to these stages and naming them brings so much acceptance for my own path. Looking back at my path I see many parallels. I have a lot of shame about the 'mistakes' I made, and watching this made me realize that those have beauty too. It's okay to figure things out. To not be perfect. That's what I take away.
I’m surprised at how Charlie has become this self-aware
Holy shit how did this video find me on my actual 30th birthday hahaha - this is just what I needed!
Happy birthday, bro! Apply something useful from that, and these changes might be your jubilee gift 😅
This is one of the best videos I've watched in a long time. Thank you everyone involved
Lot of spiritual growth coming from your content Dr K.
What you choose to focus your time on is something I will most likely love for you and support
i have watched a few of his videos before and it's amazing to hear more of his personality and experiences. love how genuine and well spoken he is so pairing him w dr.k made it such a treat to listen! i'll be on the lookout for charlie's pod w dr.k :))
Holy crap I relate to him trying to make others comfortable so much. I never knew how to put it into words but have always felt like I try too hard to make other's happy. It's as if it stretches beyond compassion and into a feeling of responsibility. And the amount of discomfort he feels is exactly how I feel in those moments. I can't physically relax until they are relaxed.
I definitely resonate with the issue of viewing my journey for mindfulness through my the lens of my strive for productivity. Wish that was touched on more
This is so incredibly good. Thank you 🙏
I could watch 1000 hours of this
I don't intend for this to be an insult, so I'm going to start by saying that Charlie is a handsome guy. However, his stare and grin would really make for a great bad guy in the movies. One of those sinister types that is smarter than everyone and uses it to his advantage for nefarious purposes.
Well, he more or less said that he’s a man who learned to smile.
the lighting makes it that way tbh
Was thinking exactly that, there's something uncanny and almost scary about people who express themselves with that sort of confidence. A bit too clean, smart and charismatic for me to perceive genuineness.
I guess it's a primal psychopath radar going off...
Edit: I admire his journey though. Not a psychopath at all, although he might have become one under different circumstances. Feels incredibily honest to me as it is.
Ooh thats an interesting image. Looking at him from that angle, he would remind me of Isabella from the promised neverland
Such a great talk. Unfortunately I've never heard of Charlie before but he was really great at expressing relatable things. Seeing Dr K smile so much just shows how well he expressed everything :)
Charlie is a beast and one of my favorite people in his space. Just a genuinely great dude.
That was amazing! And Charlie's way of describing things is really cool!
Love both of these guys, amazing to see them together
2:20
"will it hurt if i get stabbed" that's such a twitch question
What an insightful conversation! Thank u both so much
I really enjoyed this. It was somehow both inspiring and calming at the same time. And you both seemed very genuine. So many people on social media give me the feeling that they are just trying to say what they think is viewed as correct without really believing it and sharing it as a part of themselves. This conversation was a genuinely open flow of ideas in both directions.
I learned a lot from the Cha. on Com. channel because of my curiousity (honestly not to remake myself) and I'm so stoked from listening to this conversation. Yall are so good. Thank you for making this collab happen.
Wow. Towards the end, when Charlie said that the joy that will come from being a dad is just watching his kids be themselves, I teared up. That was so powerful to me, especially as a kid whose parents always had high expectations. They definitely weren't as strict as lots of other parents but hearing Charlie say that just gave me a completely different perspective on how my parents view me ❤️ thank you
That’s weird…😮
When Doctor K mentioned spinning around and then lying down outside to feel grounded… I used to do that all the time.
Used to pretend I was feeling the rotation of the earth while my cerebellum was doing cartwheels
I've been watching Charismaoncommand since Charlie only did the videos by himself and had like 100k subs. I've learned a lot from his and Ben's videos and ofc i learned a tremendous amount from Dr K too :) Thanks guys!
Been a long time watcher of charisma on command. Proud of Charlie for being so honest and open about his experiences.
Love hearing Charlie's thoughts from his podcast and love HG - best collab yet!!
I’m here for it! CC has helped me a TON in my life
Dont worry, you can abreviate it as CoC
@@TheNostalgiaJunkie lmaoo
@@TheNostalgiaJunkie 💀
@@TheNostalgiaJunkieclash of clans???
¡Don't be yourself, create yourself ! Was Charlie' mantra at his 20's definetly is developmentary healthy , I'll try
Don't try, don't strive. Be who you are, met yourself where you're at, be ok with that :)
PD: If where you're at is too attached to trying to let go, then that's ok too.
I mean a big part of where he is now is accepting yourself, not creating or changing yourself. Sure it can put you in situations that you will discover yourself and that was why it was healthy for him in his 20's. Just make sure you do what feels right for you and don't look for pleasing your ego through external means. Or else you might find yourself somewhere you didn't want to end up (but it is never too late to take a different path).
Holy crap I relate to trying to make others comfortable so much. I never knew how to put in to words but have always felt like I try to hard to make other's happy. Like not in a compassionate way, but in a feeling of responsibility way. And the amount of discomfort he feels is exactly how I feel in those moments.
What an incredibly articulate and intelligent guy. Describing almost exactly my life course and journey through it and where it's going.
Thank you for this interview.
I'd also like to add that I'd love for Dr. K to do a deep dive into co-dependency. That would be incredibly helpful.
Such an awesome interview (collaboration)
Love seeing these two together
I'm never getting therapy in my old-traditional ass country, so going through all the Dr. K sessions is basically my therapy and I love it
I AM SO HERE FOR THIS, AWESOME. Love u charlie. Hope ben is doing well too.
The "Mindfulness can lead to better productivity!" thing- I've heard that referred to as McMindfulness :)
Literally one of the channels that changed my life a lot. Charlie youre the best. Dr.k is up there too! Glad to see this
I probably should have actually taken his videos more seriously when I was in my 20s.
Loving watching these streams after they air
Phenomenal conversation. The supposed simplicity of sharing your life story, your transformation, resonates very much with me and others. Thank you Charlie and Dr. K for this experience.
What I appreciate about Charlie is that his awareness and experience is firmly rooted in established things. His reasoning is sound rather than delusional, which is rare amongst people who delve this deeply into themselves.
I’m sitting at home watching this while I’m high..this made me feel so seen and warm.
Wow...this guy knows himself really deeply. This is a fantastic interview.
I have been a listener of both Charlie’s podcast and Dr K for years now, so I can’t explain how happy this collab makes me🎉🎉🎉
Same! I saw that they were collaborating and I couldn't believe my eyes, so exciting!
Same here, was a ecstatic moment
Same, I was so happy to see this finally happening!
The collab of collabs! This was amazing!
46:07 Wow look at Charles resting thinking face! 😅
Charisma on command, oh the nostalgia! That channel really helped me make sense of the social world as an autistic. I didn't follow all of their advice as that would be masking, but being told how people tend to interpret x or y behaviors and what they mean when they do a and b was really useful
So I legitimately developed charisma as a defense mechanism after high school.
Had a super embarrassing and public humiliation in front of friends and family. Vowed never again and literally studied up on emotions, facial cues, the 2009 hit show Lie to Me. I transferred and moved halfway across the country to be someone else. Obvi I developed burnout quickly. Only recently found out I have OCD too. Weird.
@@Dimitris_Balf friends yes relationships no. In a much better headspace now though. Handling the OCD seems to help w everything else
@@ZacharyDangerStewart Glad to hear that you are figuring things out. good luck!
Thank you for sharing your understandings
bro has got the warmest smile
im so excited for this
This wasn't at all what I expected. Fantastic!
Years ago. You taught me how to get laid Charisma on command. Most of the tips you used for personality I used to enjoy life. The best dating advice out there.
I’m in love. This conversation is phenomenal. 😊
Loving the podcasts you have been attending and hosting lately. Awesome stuff. My dream episode is Dr. K and Andrew Huberman.
No it will never happen
@@dr.j3685 why?
@@reallivebluescatte they are enemies and compete in psychiatrist competition. Hubermanwdies not like Dr K he steal his audience and he bitter about loss of money and viewership joenrogan more likely than Hubbberman
@@dr.j3685 not with that attitude
Very interesting, I used to watch his videos 7 years ago and that was a mine of valuable info and techniques !
This is the best video you have put out to date.
This was so tremendously useful
58:45 Point on emotions are just emotions, neither positive nor negative
Thank youuu for commenting the time line! This is my favorite part but I didn’t have a pen with me when I listened to it!
Amazing stuff guys ,this is a delight
It's kinda weird seeing this story of Charlie. Charlie has always had the biggest smiles I've ever seen. I watched his videos religously a couple of years ago, until I got to a point that I felt he was just just another dude reurgitating books he's read. It's not that he ever said or claimed something I knew to be false, but I just felt like I wasn't the right recipient
I listened to this video, and I'm not done, but wow, this must be one of Dr. K's best videos. I feel more connected to charlie than ever, and I have more respect of him than I ever had. We all have our battles, some smaller, some greater. I'm sad for what charlie has experienced, no one should experience that. But the path Charlie has taken, deserves commends. Alexander Solshenitzyn spoke of how a group of people will split and behave increasingly different, after a traumatizing event. One group will be cynical bullys that want to "Push the pain forward", one group will be the non-cynical people who resolves the pain.
Charlie in my book is a great dude. This video is like naruto vs Sasuke, or Son goku vs vegeta, the guest this time overshines the host, and if you are reading this Dr. K, I want to assure I mean this in the most possible way, Charlie is Vegeta, he just make you go "fuck, I understimated you, huh?"
I saw his videos recommended, and I always kind of overlooked it because it seemed a little far fetched and click-baity, and I dismissed selling "charisma" as a fake way to be in contact with people...
Now I realize I've been prejudiced and a little silly, this was profound, Charlie's path is relatable and went further than I expected, and this was a very stimulating discussion! I'm gonna watch some of his videos. The part about finding out what really hits the spot in the job you're doing really resonated, I think it's an important question to ask yourself!
I love Charlie! My son introduced me to him and we bought Charisma on Command. And his amazing plus your amazing…..😘 Thanks for this ❤
I have to be honest, the first ~2/3 of the video I was not connecting with this person. It really felt like Charlie was very performative and not really being open. this may have been a result of his anxiety and desire to be "valuable". I have never seen any of his streams or videos, but in the last 20 minutes or so, it really felt like the conversation became more real and connected. I appreciate the whole experience.
Did not expect to come across such an insightful conversation. Guess i had my own pre conceptual judgements about Charlie based on his channel’s content but I’m glad i gave it a shot. Guess ive got more work to do on passing judgement before listening to perspectives
His channel’s content? You mean useful behavioral and psychological information?
Love these!
Charlie is very smart and self aware so the conversation was great
It's interesting watching the chat replay. There were a couple guys back and forwarding the entire time about how this guys is rich and privileged and were telling everyone to disregard what he's saying because it doesn't apply to people that don't look like him. Think Dr.K needs to run a seminar on Jealously and how it drives everyone around you away.
man there's no way i can find a group of friends like he did
It must be exceptionally difficult for Dr K to have a personal life with his job.
Seems like his friends were his biggest support in his journey and seems like they all were genuine healthy good people. He also is very insightful of himself and his surroundings.
That talk about "Rotating sensory" when it comes to relieving chronic pain, it does unfortunately make me think of a recent car accident my wife and I got in. It didn't hurt in the moment, but later that night I had a bruise found on my chest where my seatbelt was. I do, however, remember feeling a huge rush of adrenaline when I saw we were about to hit the rear of a truck at 40mph. Same thing happens when I work out, or I'm laboring at work: I don't feel the soreness in my body until after I'm done and get to relax
1:08:00 this is something I have come to realise recently. My partner for example always wants to do stuff and is really quick to make plans for us with friends or family or something. However what I need in my life is to have space to be impulsive or get the chance to start to want to do something. We have started to plan for having an empty schedule and that has helped some but it is hard, especially since I also want to please my partner by making plans.
It's always a balancing act, producing, being a good partner and having me time. But also you should be able to cancel plans or say stuff like "please go ahead without me this time" or just have a flexible time slot for whatever without it being an issue. I'm in a similar situation.
This feels like some hitherto unheard of perfect alliance
Best collab yet.
01:55:25 I haaate hearing this "oh I wish you have financial success so you realise thats not the answer"😒
They aren't saying that you don't need food or rent money (in this economy lul) Everyone deserves that! It's the wild dreams, success of various kinds not just financial, that they are wishing for us to achieve both for our own enjoyment and for us to understand their limitations. Also I don't believe it is disingenuous, you might take it as "I'm so many levels above you my goals are incomprehensible to your puny brain" but I don't think it was at all related to bragging or trying to put people down.
Superb!!!
I just watched another podcast with Charlie in it and the host was sort of squirmy when it came to vulnerability, so it personally left a lot to be desired. This podcast honest and authenticity filled that gap!
Great live stream. Related to some of the stuff he said
1:10:00 maybe they will say this but I interpret it as "staying on the path". Having a break or giving some space for new thoughts to arrive will not detour you off the path, you will tread it just the same as if you would be occupying yourself with productive tasks.
This is eye opening. Tbh I’ve never engaged with Charisma on Demand, always thought he was one of those red pill pua guys. It’s interesting to see how he’s matured over the years and how self aware he is now.
I find that often we think of an Internet personality as static and unchanging, either toxic or wholesome, but a lot of channels are run by real people living and improving themselves, trial and error, driven by their own dreams and demons.
That's good to hear! I remember being turned off way in the past because he posted examples of Tywin in Game of Thrones dominating and intimidating others as a good thing.
His Clickbaitey Titels and Thumbnails with like JP, Tate, Heisenberg, Peaky Blinders and such are just an army of red (pill) Flag to me.
But after skimming through a couple of videos, the advice they give is oftentimes really solid and stuff that I already learned in other ways.
He was never really red pill. All he talked about (atleast at the beginning) was how to behave interpersonally. He talked about it from male or female perspectives. Talked about dynamics in a group settings. How to stand out appropriately. Basically overcoming hurdles in conversation and overcoming the nerves.
COC could be considered PUA. But redpill these days talk a lot about statistics and systemic things.
charlie and drk talking about being in the "now", me with undiagnosed ADHD, yeah the "NOW" i know what that is xD