I'd love to see a video on the benefits of sodium in the everyday diet since there is a lot of conflicting research out there, I'm a little confused about what to believe
I am an endurance athlete and was excited to try LMNT but then disappointed when I went to their website and saw them bashing the US FDA and WHO. @abbeyskitchen Are their claims legit?
@abbeyskitchen I *really* wish I could find a hydration formula without stevia or monk fruit, neither of which I can tolerate. I loved Hydrant, which has just a small amount of sugar, but they've switched to monk fruit also, so I'm out of luck again.
I'm 41 and I also have a very strong setpoint weight. I've weighed the same... for thirty years! When I was a teenager, I knew that maybe I was not at a *fashionable* weight for a teen in the 90s, but I made a really mature decision for a very young person. I decided that while I wasn't the skinniest girl at school, I knew I wasn't doing anything special to stay the same weight. I decided to NEVER DIET and leave myself alone, and that when I was older, I'd be happy and healthy. It's one of the most important things I've ever done for my own health, just leaving myself alone and just letting my genetics express themselves the way they do.
Friends who perhaps are confused assuming I am suggesting you should stay the same weight for life. 1) I clearly stated at the top of the video that its normal and expected to gain weight with age, staying the same weight all your adult life should never be a goal. 2) These are not rules, I state that very clearly. These are simply gentle nutrition guidelines I generally follow intuitively bc they feel good to me based on data I have collected about my body for years. For example, drinking a lot of booze makes me constipated and disrupts my sleep, so I dont drink much. These behaviours happen to have the side effect of weight maitenance for ME. If I did NOT listen to my body and what felt good, i would gain weight. That's why these work for me. That's the entire point of the video. If you think I am suggesting anything else, you are not watching my videos critically or entirely. Please if youre going to comment here, at least do that much.
You can be defensive and claim to be misunderstood, or you can listen and acknowledge that there’s a conflicting message here. The thumbnail literally says HOW I MAINTAIN MY WEIGHt, not “how I eat what makes me feel good and not to try and manipulate my weight.”
@@annemarieanderson4824 yes I maintain my weight by listening to what feels best to it. This is the point of the video. I used to eat way more in my 20s, I now eat less bc I am less hungry bc I am listening to my body. I have not tracked or tried to reduce calories, this has naturally adjusted over time. Sorry the point of this being about set point weight was lost on you.
Weigh yourself regularly if you gain weight easily or used to be overweight. Abbey ‘s journey is different than us that used to be overweight (myself included). As a matter of fact this intuitive eating is not for me at all. I have to be mindful of what I eat most of the time.
For me, it's been very helpful to consume fat positive and body diverse content to really challenge the idea that thinness is the ideal, and its been helpful in becoming comfortable gaining weight because my body was made to be strong and take up space. It's all a journey and every day is different so
I don't know if this might help u, but in my case, my set point weight is not a super high bmi and it looks really nice and natural on my body (it'll look good on you too, mostly because it's sort of the perfect place for your body to function properly). It'll be hard to accept at first, but you also have to remember how much better you will physically feel, and how many things you'll be able to do once your body reaches an optimal state
I maintained my weight without trying for years, but then gained 20 pounds in grad school due to ordering out often, stress eating, and heavily relying on sugar to get me through all the work I had to do when I was depressed. Now I'm trying to lose that weight, I'm trying to get back to my old set point. Watching my calories is actually how I'm relearning about how to feed myself properly...it took me so long to re-learn the difference between "I'm hungry" "I'm sad and burned out" and "I'm craving chocolate". Those are all different feelings but for so long, they were the same to me, and they all meant that I should reach for something sweet.
I’m in the exact same boat (always the same weight and then gained 20lbs in my last year of an MSW program) and it has been game-changing to realize that it is TIREDNESS/burnout that has driven my eating. Anyway, sending good vibes for your journey, we’re in it together!~~~
ilysm abbey!! I’ve struggled with overeating bc the feeling of scarcity (growing up in poverty and never knowing when my next meal was coming!).it’s so validating to hear someone talk about that!! I’ve worked on my mental health, definitely associating to my body weight, and to finally reach a healthy weight is so incredulous, it takes a LONG arduous journey to reach a healthy relationship with any substance(whether that be food or drugs or WHATEVER) so anyone feeling shame about their substance use disorder (YES I MEAN FOOD TOO!) please just have some faith. Food addiction/eating disorders Is one of the most silent, ignored addictions. Binge eating is just as valid as anorexia. So I urge you to view your issues as an illness, and not a shame. Thank you. Never give up.
It’s not exactly the subject of your current video, but I just wanted to say that you really positively changed my relationship with satiety through the hunger crushing combo. I can’t believe that this isn’t taught in school (I’m Canadian too haha). Thank you very much, it really has been life changing for me.
if it helps at all i'm american and they rely on the bogus BS system of "generic" information that anyone with 2 cents realizes is false.... glade to see abby addressing the "set point" theory, ill keep the bro science there for simplicity lol (yes their a whole thing between calories/fat/insulin/carbs/inflammation but thats for another time)
@@jonsmith9728 I definitely believe you! I mean it took them so long to update the food guide in both countries (I hear the US one is still pretty bad). There’s a lot of conflicting interests going on, the food industry holds incredible sway over what we’re told is “good for us”. I don’t know much at all about set point theory, I tried to research it, it seems fairly controversial for now but I think Abbey specified that you can’t really figure it out when you’re trying to lose weight or are in a transition period.
@@DT-dh7ed Basically it’s the idea (fact really) that in order for a snack or a meal to be filling and for you to not be hungry an hour later, that meal/snack needs to have a good amount of protein and fiber and a bit of fat. You can have carbs as well, it’s not an issue, but it’s a bad idea to have them by themselves as you’ll get hungry very soon. I’ve experimented and it’s absolutely true, that PFF combo makes me feel satiated for way way longer than the carb heavy/only snacks or meals I used to eat.
The education you’ve provided for me has let me separate eating and my weightloss. As an addict, drug and obviously food, it’s rly hard for me to separate real hunger and the desire to binge. I’ve educated myself enough that I can recognize the difference and I’ve lost 30lbs! Not trying to show off, I’m trying to show that understanding your mental can help and change your physical! It rly is a relationship change in how you view food. Like I said I’m an ex-addict, hard drugs and food surprisingly have similar feelings when you overindulge. Flexing the mental muscle of self control spreads out to every aspect of your life. It showed me I am capable of taking control again. For any fellow addicts, I want you to know every tiny little push in the right direction helps change the outcome. Never give up! Keep trying!
This really resonates with me as I too am a recovering drug addict and find it difficult to not fall into addictive behaviors, for me especially its an addiction to exercise and to losing weight and even tracking food. Thanks for sharing though and well done!
I love everything about this. I'm 28 and just now finally starting to understand what self care actually is and how to pay attention to how my body reacts to foods, stress and sleep habits. This is what we should be teaching children at school.
My set point didn’t change for over 20 years. I gained 7 pounds in pregnancy. Gave birth to a 6lb 11oz baby. Left the hospital the exact same pre-pregnancy weight. Only problem was my set point was to be overweight. No amount of dieting changed this. For 5 years now I’ve worked with an endocrinologist. Healthier eating (HCC all the way). Slowly my weight is coming down (I’ve lost about 30 pounds in 5 years). But more importantly I’ve developed intuitive eating habits and my hormone markers are so much better. It’s why I don’t support calories in calories out for weight loss or weight maintenance. And why I love your content. Thanks Abbey.
This is true!! Simply being in a caloric deficit and exercising has done nothing for my weight! It doesn’t budge. So I’m working on not caring so much about the number on the scale, and caring more about how I look and feel. And learning to accept my body how it is now after having a child ❤
the gas gauge idea for fullness/hunger has changed my life! I used to see it more as an on/off - really hungry or really full - and being able to eat when I'm a bit hungry and stop when I'm moderately full is so liberating!
Thank you so much for thiss Abbey, you talked about everything that was needed in this video. As a spaniard who has struggled with an ed , i used to get so mad at my mom and at the nurses when I was inpatient at the hospital when they added olive oil TO ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING but now ive learned that its part of our culture and its so necesary for our health, and ive learnes so many healthy habits from you, so thank you for everything!
Olive oil is the reason we live longer, are healthier and thinner in Europe ! The Mediterranean region has an amazing culture and olive oil has always been fundamental. Also, it just tastes so good 😅
I’m two years in of taking a combination of your content and Stephanie buttermores and I too have stayed the same weight for about 1 year no dieting ect . I did gain weight in the beginning but I was starving my self for years i expected it . Life is so much better thank you 💛
Really appreciated this video. I'm 27 now and but for a brief stint with some pretty severe un-diagnosed and untreated PCOS I've been the same weight since I was 13!! I just have a very powerful set point!
No hate but I'm genuinely wondering, why did you mention a lot of weight loss/maintenance strategies while saying that you do them for other not weight-related reasons in a video about weight maintenance? It feels like these things are still at least unconsciously related to/motivated by maintaining your weight, not that there is anything wrong with that.
i suggest you watch until the end, I explain how these are things that intuitively feel best to me, bc if i wasnt eating intuitively, i would gain weight.
@@AbbeysKitchen I understand it when it comes to eating habits, and your ideas have reflected positively on my relationship with food. But these strategies are still associated with weight maintenance and I think saying them in this video says that you are aware of this association, and while you may naturally be someone who exercises every day, does not indulge too much in drinking, and doesn't like to eat out too much, a lot of people can't practice this lifestyle naturally and their take away would be that there is an association between this lifestyle and weight maintenance which is maybe okay with these general practices but maybe less so with the others like the salad dressing and not adding more oil to your dishes.
@@B_27 this video really shows that diet culture is insidious, we can be living it every day and be in denial. Abbey needs to do more work to divest from this mindset.
@@B_27 What is intuitive then? I think intuitive refers to connecting with the innate need for your physical body, eating to survive (primal) plus fulfilling the psychological desires (what 'feels' good) to keep the spirit alive. It's a tricky balance and there's no way to generalize it bc we're all individuals. Most people are using the tagline 'intuitive eating' as an excuse to give in to your unnecessary wants to overeat and become a victim obsessed with nostalgia. Mentally living in the past. Insane. Opposite of growth, which is the point of being here. We can learn from looking at trees and nature (growing), and then observing mainstream society with their eyes addicted to the screen and their brains becoming flabby, and their awareness of having a soul nonexistent. Creepy.
Not adding extra oil when it's not needed is not necessarily scarcity. It can also be a taste preference. Let me tell you something: as a French-Algerian who lived in several countries in Europe, I'm 100% with her there: people tend to overuse oil and sugar, just because their tastebuds are used to a lot of sugar and oil. For example in Germany, people tend to eat cheese with an extra dose of butter or margarine, because they like to spread it over their bread (and because they tend to eat cheese that taste mild). Or they drink coffee with milk after food, which makes me nauseous just by thinking of it. Even my mom who grew up in a north Africa (and couldn't care less about weight management) has stopped adding extra sugar and oil in everything, because it is often not needed and tastes more delicate, which is what she learned from living all these years in France. I remember that Abbey sometimes recommend using butter instead of coconut oil or other fancy oil source whenever she thinks butter would simply taste better. When I watched her do her vinaigrette I actually thought "the maple syrup is not needed", and not because of the calories but because French people rarely add honey nor anything sweet in their vinaigrette, and they are the best. Walnuts can be nice though. I believe Abbey has not only healed her relationship with food but she is also a foodie. It's not because you are eating intuitively that you cannot question food recipes or food culture. I'm not trying to be snob here, I've just made this experience because of living in so many different countries (currently I live in Cyprus for example and I find the food quality pretty low here). Lobbying has led us to stop trusting our tastebuds, I'm convinced of that. Also, it's been proven that taste change with age, in that sense that we tend to enjoy more delicate taste as we age. Since a couple of years for example, I only eat high quality chocolate because I am lucky enough to be able to afford it, and let me tell you: you don't eat so much of it when the taste is so rich. On the contrary, the other day I had some Milka chocolate and felt so bad afterwards because it was way too sweet. In a way I wanted more because of the sugar rush but felt also really bad, almost dizzy and like my tongue was coated with sugar for hours afterwards. I was stuck in a conflicting state: do I want more or do I want to change that taste in my mouth?! This is so interesting to me. I noticed the same with fashion and beauty standards: we would never tell you because we know it sounds snob, but a lot of time, North American fashion appears pretty vulgar to a French person 🙊🙈🙉
Abbey, thank you so much for this video. It really grounded me and reminded me that weight and health management is so much more than what you eat. I'm in my late 20s and gained a noticeable amount of weight during covid, im guessing mostly due to stress, lack of sleep, poor mental health and lack of physical activity and socialization. This was a good reminder to not just give myself some grace, but also to think more holistically about how to take care of myself. Thank you ❤
This really resonated me as I experienced exactly the same! Thank you for expressing and I hope you're on your way to developing some enjoyable self care habits
Loved this video. I gained a lot of weight this past year due to stress. A lot of these tips are things I am doing to get back to a happier healthy weight.
Set point theory is great and all, but it completely ignores the effect of hormones. I was very slim until I developed severe PCOS and gained 56 lbs in a year. I lost 35 lbs but could never get back to my (technically naturally underweight) original weight. I had the same experience when I went off my medication and my body reset to the higher weight even when I went back on the medication. I think people whose set point remains stable over time simply don't have severe insulin resistance or other severe hormonal abnormalities.
Thank you so much for this video Abbey. I’ve teetered higher than my weight set point as I was confused by advice on the internet to eat whatever I want when I want it (which led to be ignoring hunger cues unfortunately) and felt like there was something I was missing. So thank you for making this video. I’m currently working on listening to my hunger cues, getting more movement, and eating more protein and I’m already feeling more balanced! 🥰
Thank you so much for all you share, Abbey! It’s hard to be in a body. Period. For all of us. We all have anxieties and struggles. And to be honest, focusing on opportunity instead of restriction is surely the key to a lot more peace around the topic of eating and body management. Your kind words offer valuable perspective, and your attitude towards these topics helps take the unhelpful pressure off! Much love from Colorado, USA! ❤
A good example of combining expert knowledge with individual-specific information. Although I do wish that you would've put in a stronger disclaimer about differing weight set points. Watching your channel has done more for healing my relationship with food vis-à-vis my body & "appearance" than any other measure I've taken to heal from two eating disorders and a mind-body disconnect.
I don't whether it's because i sit all day and work from home, but nowadays if I don't eat leafy vegetables at least once a day, my bowel movements change and I get constipated. And I normally eat whole foods like beans, grains, tubers, squash, pumpkin, fruits etc.
I'm going to come back to rewatch to help reiterate to myself the things I should be keeping in mind to make sure I have a healthy and not reactive relationship with food! thanks so much!
I would love to learn more about when and how body weight shifts throughout our lives. There's a belief that it's not supposed to happen in our adult years. All I knew is that after menopause body composition can totally change.
Agree about dressing on the side. Controlling the gloop of my salad is critical unless I am positive the kitchen does dressing exactly to my preference. (I can think of exactly one restaurant location/salad I've eaten enough to trust them enough to order the salad dressed).
I love LMNT too!! My seizures meds depleted me of sodium and caused hyponatremia, which caused me to have multiple seizures in a day…and most of them were on days of exercise. Adding LMNT to my daily routine definitely helped!!
Hi Abbey. This video was thoughtful and done extremely well. I have some of the same habits which has allowed me to maintain my health and weight. Also I've noticed that you seem like you are in a much better place! You've really gotten into your groove again and you are glowing✨️✨️! I'm happy for you❤
I maintained my weight during my 20s, 30s and into my 40s. Healthy eating, lots of walking, and I was never a drinker. I thought I had it down; I was not going to be a statistic. Then came menopause. Game changer. Now its two meals and a snack. Strength training helps. Even at the same weight, I couldn’t stop that “meno pot” from showing up. It’s frustrating to feel like a spectator in your own body. I’m still going to keep to these healthy habits, but once menopause hit, the weight goes where it goes. I look heavier now than I did in my 40s and I’m literally the same number on the scale.
This is incredibly helpful thanks for sharing. I myself have stayed roughly within the same weight range since my 20’s (I’m 48 now), this is to say, I DO tend to swing about 20-25 pounds in either direction (& I certainly had an ED in my 20’s). I learned from your work that that range is normal & finding a healthy relationship with food is what matters (well it matters to me!). I’m definitely on the heavier end of my set point, but your work helps me trust my body and feel good about myself, so thank you!!
I've maintained my weight of 150-160 for 10 years...no amount of exercise/weight lifting/keto/running or nutrionists or trainers change it/the only thing that seems to change is my body fat percentage which is what I am really concerned about//just want low body fat//I am 5'7 and very muscular/most people would think I'm skinny or 130 if they saw me
Great video! I feel like we are kindred spirits in this regard. I am a registered dietitian in the States and everything you said is right on point with how my relationship with food has evolved. Knowing certain things about yourself and what is important to you makes all the difference (like I would rather chew my calories rather than drink them. Soda has no draw to me at all.) My weight has also been very consistent throughout my adult life.
TW: dieting and weight loss After dieting off and on for my whole life, I’m really trying to heal my relationship with food. But I also need to lose weight. Can you PLEEEASE do a video on how to lose weight without reverting back to an ed or submitting to diet culture? So far I’ve just been prepping a lot of stuff at the beginning of the week so I eat at home. I’ve been trying to make myself eat at least a little of what I feel are the “scarier” foods like carbs or candy and feel okay about it. I’m really glad to hear you say that you only drink water and coffee. I’ve been doing that too, but I keep getting worried about being too restrictive. I quit drinking alcohol for the most part around 6 months ago, so that’s not a problem. I really want to do this right this time around and just do something I can stick to forever. I’m very all or nothing, not just with food, but everything in my life, but I’m really trying to practice moderation with everything. I’d just love some advice on the subject in general and also some behaviors to keep an eye on. Thank you for everything you do Abbey!
I would suggest you work one on one with a weight inclusive eating disorder RD if you have that type of access. You’ll never truly heal your relationship with food if weight is always at the back of your mind.
@Kate Clark I can tell you what worked for me in that departament. I was in the same position, obese and suffering from binge eating disorder. I started intermittent fasting after watching Huberman Lab's podcast about the science behind it. Studies show that people are loosing weight if they eat within 8h window, without changing their diet. So I decided to do that. It's a simple enough principale for me to stick to. I also purposfully decided to not focus on what I eat, just eat whatever I want but it has to be eaten within one of three meals. No snacks inbetween. I also made a promise to myself to stick to 8 hour feeding window, because I suspected I might be tempted to shorten it. It works suprisingly great for me, I'm never tempted to eat outside this eating window and I have very few cravings, as opposed to before. Haven't binged at all during this time and maybe only ate a snack impulsively once or twice out of emotional hunger and have lost 7 kg over the period of a month and a half. I can see myself easily folowing that regiment until I reach a healthy weight. When I noticed it's really working for me I started to carefully incorporate cookies and icecream into my meals at least 1or 2 times a week. But I eat them mindfully, focusing all my attention to the taste, eating slowly, etc. Before all this I was really miserible for years, feeling non stop emotional hunter, strong cravings almost non stop, lack of feeling satiated, snacking all the time, binging at least a few times a week and coping with all my emotions through food and social media consumption. Plus 35kg overweight and feeling awfull physically. I'm shocked at how different I feel now and how rapid the changes were visible and how easy this process was. I feel free now. Forgot to add I have insulin resistance, hashimoto's, hypothyroidism and pcos. I was prescribed Saxenda, the weight loss drug, but decided not to take it and try this instead. And it worked!
For your sleep what I would recommend well I’m 18 so I don’t know but what works for me is to create a regular sleep schedule, have most of you meals earlier in the day and most high intensity exercise in the morning is your best friend, from afternoon to evening keep exercising to talking or gentle Pilates and things like that,
i live for your transparency and your tips! it took me a really long time to understand that it’s more than okay and normal for my weight to fluctuate as i grow. i used to beat myself up during the pandemic bc i gained weight and i would always eat very terribly (i worked late hours at a restaurant so you can imagine) and i would always beat myself up and hated the way i looked. but i started looking into intuitive eating and that’s when i really began to feel comfortable in my own skin regardless of how much weight i’ve gained/lost! it’s taken me maybe until the beginning of this year for me to realize that i shouldn’t be scared of wearing bikinis or crop tops, there’s no “perfect” body and your videos have definitely helped me with this. thank you for everything that you do! you help and inspire more people than you think!! ❤
But intuitive eating doesn't work when you are overeating ultra processed foods. It literally breaks the body by killing insulin sensitivity and destroying normal hunger cues. With a return to eating predominately unprocessed foods (it doesn't have to be 100%) and appropriate movement, natural satiety signals return, insulin sensitivity improves, and the body resettles into whatever set point range is normal for a given body.
Yes! I’m getting a Barium Swallow done end month not fun in the sun kidos.😂 if they cannot find why the issue I may need sooner than later la dreaded colonoscopy….. as she fell to the floor”🕊️🕊️🕊️🌹🌹🌹🌹🫶🫶🫶
Different life factors can actually manipulate your dna gene expression. Many of those who have experienced childhood trauma, specifically chronic trauma have likely noticed this. Don't sweat it if you haven't noticed a "set-point" that feels comfortable for you because it may not be the best explanation for your unique body and experience.
my exercise intensity hasn't decreased but rather increased in intensity and I'm a level of healthy with food as i like to be but my life has probably elevated my cortisol to near record levels causing weight gain so I'm being kind to myself until my stresses are gone
I’d be interested to hear your opinion on how birth control effects the way bodies hold fat. I used to be the same weight before starting birth control, and gained about 20 lbs after starting. I want to get off bc, but am scared of the side effects. I have heard you can use food and supplements to ease off birth control, but I’m a huge skeptic.
I went off bc for the first time (other than pregnancy) in 20 years just 2 months ago. I guess you could say “cold turkey” because I didn’t do anything special other than stop taking it. The only side effects have been adjusting to the mood swings 😂 for me at least, it hasn’t affected my weight.
@@katiefoster2169 I used to be on hormonal birth control for acne, basically from age 16-26. When I was 26 I switched to a copper IUD and I didn't experience much of a difference with my skin. I was getting acne even while on the pill, and stopping didn't change it at all. I did notice some hair thinning after quitting the pill, but nothing extreme. I think this is what my hair would have been "normally". On the flip side, I experienced huge improvements to my libido and mood. Overall I'm glad I made the switch, but of course everyone's experience is different!
I would speak to your doctor, not a UA-cam comment section tbh. I honestly wouldn't trust comments trying to help me medically cause what works for one person could not work for another. The only comment I would mostly trust is from Abbey herself cause she is registered. Talk to your doctor...
I have to be honest. This whole video seems very like fiet culture to me. Even the premise of the video "ways how i kept my weight stable" sounds disordered to me. Bodys are allowed to change. There's a lot of calorie talk in a video that's supposedly deticaded to intuitive eating and in my opinion the approach to food and movement is too heavily focussed on what it is doing to your body and how it is keeping your weight stable instead of how much enjoyment you get from these activities.
Thank you for posting helpful content like this! It’s great to see examples of how you personally have learned to listen to your body and makes you feel your best ❤
Spaniard here...so probably the kings and queens of olive oil along with italians. We dont put more olive oil into things that have already been cooked.... we use it as a dressing for salads, we put a bit into gazpacho or salmorejo, or if we do the typical breakfast of toasts with olive oil and tomato.... but allways over uncooked fresh stuff. I am trying to find an instance of an already cooked meal where we pour more olive oil on top and none comes to mind...
Just starting the video, but I would love to learn more in depth about set weight. I feel like mine is very overweight, I've had a great relationship with food for awhile now and I'm not sedentary. Can someone's set weight be over what is considered "healthy" and still be healthy?? Ive tried everything over my life and just always stay between 170-190. To get under 170 I have to eat under 1400-1600 calories a day and feel tired grumpy and sore 24/7.
Why I am skeptical about set weight theory is that I have been in recovery for for close to 4 years. It's so unfair because I have only been under restriction for about 3 months (as compared to years) and I feel so unfair that I have gained all this weight and health issues related to this i.e. eczema, gastric issues, higher blood cholesterol and I am wondering if it's worth it. I am scared the next thing will be diabetes and heart related issues (it runs in my family). I feel heavier and more sweaty. I know people are like oh it will get by or the health issues ain't a thing but now I can feel like my health is literally poorer because of the overshoot weight. I have always been on the thinner side until I had restrictions when I was 23 so I thought I would just lose the overshoot weight and go back to my normal pre ed weight. I have overshot by 20 kg past my pre ed weight when I was 23 (where most people's set weight has stabilized) and I am still gaining. I am convinced that my body is broken or I have raised my set weight indefinitely and I am constantly depressed as I do not feel full satiation (I know I sound negative but this is how I am feeling atm). I thought it wasn't that bad probably because I have only been under restriction for 3 months, not years but the repercussions I suffered are so much more. I feel like my life has came to a halt because of my weight gain, I felt ashamed to go out to date (I am convinced that no one likes chubby girls - I live in asia btw). What was triggering was that I had met up with a friend after 1.5 years (that was the period of time when I started gaining weight after ed) and she commented that I look heavier than before which was literally my nightmare. I am depressed by the success stories, how everyone is like oh even though I was in ed for 10 years, I managed to gain and lose all that overshoot weight and be normal after like one or two years in recovery...
How would you suggest losing 10 pounds in a healthy way to get BACK to your natural weight? I’ve been a bit stressed and gained some weight and now my motivation has severely decreased.
Weight is such a strange thing. I've weight the same since puberty. I know my body mass composition of fat and mussle has changed, but that is about it. I know it is purely genetic because I have a very fast metabolism. To me this video this video show a still very complicated approach to food and drinks (I eat and drink whatever I want when ever I want), but I don't have any medical problems or any food issues, so I get why you would want to pay more attention to you specific food intake.
Stephen Guyanet, PhD, has written extensively about set point. Its not genetic and can most certainly be changed. His book The Hungry Brain discusses this in depth. It's difficult but can be done.
My set point was always the same….until I reached peri-menopausal age. I am 41 years old and despite all efforts, I have been 10-12 pounds heavier with a drastic change in body composition despite my constant efforts. I am so unhappy. 😢
Yep. Same weight since my freshman year of college. I’m 50. When I turned 43 it was as if I was absolutely unable to stop the weight gain despite some pretty strong efforts with trainers and dietitians helping. It has been the single handedly most frustrating issue to date. I’m not a millionaire that can just go buy all new clothes.
@@allisonfalin8854 I hear ya. It really gets me down and makes me feel like crap about myself. Docs are like, take some anti-depressants. That’s not the problem. So I’m working with a hormone specialist. We got the hot flashes under control but the weight gain still won’t budge. I want to see how she does when she gets a little older.
My problem is that if set point weight is real, then it appears mine is 235 lbs which puts me at a 43 BMI. My genetics will require me to be on a controlled low calorie diet forever.
I think what Abby fails to mention is that you have to heal your relationship with food to even begin to understand your satiety cues, let alone know what your body set point is. If I was still experiencing low blood sugar spikes and craving sugary foods all the time, I would think my set point was around 170lbs at 5'1 because genetically I'm curvier and was not really eating "too much". Now that I have healed my body cues, my body set point is 130 lbs and even though that sounds high for my height, it is a size 2 for me and I'm very tiny looking. Like Abby I do not weigh myself and only know due to physical exams. So, just to throw that out there!
@@TeaSipperEsq. yes EXACTLY. i didnt get into the scienfe of set point in this video (i have in others), but you cant know your set point if youre still dieting
Don’t despair quite yet. My set point was 240 lbs and I carried that amount for over 20 years. About 5 years ago I started working with an endocrinologist. He gave me some nutrition advice saying that moving my set point might not be possible, but it would help balance my hormones. Since then I’ve lost 30 pounds. Which is an average of 6 pounds a year. Very slow progress. But no longer carrying the burden of dieting (the doctor explained diets can’t change your set point though nutrition choices may help, there’s a difference), I’ve since transitioned to intuitive eating. Abbey is one of my favourite channels because her advice is the same than the doctor but she’s giving food demos.
I really think ditching most alcohol has been really helpful in my getting back into consistent fitness and getting back to a weight I feel comfortable at. I really internalized the WHO's message about no safe amount of alcohol to consume and so I went from consuming 2-3 drinks nearly daily to where I am now, which is aiming for less than once a week. I also really love wine, but I've ditched beer and hard alcohol without much of an issue. I try to save wine for more special occasions rather than just a random Tuesday. Ideally, I'd like to be consuming even less alcohol than this, but it's a process for me. But the benefits are REAL -- I didn't really realize how many empty calories I was consuming daily, how much those calories were displacing better nutrients, how my hunger cues could get messed up from alcohol, and how much I was ditching my fitness goals because I just didn't feel good. I'd plan to go for a run or hit the gym, but if I woke up feeling crummy from drinking, I'd sleep instead. Since ditching alcohol, I've been SO MUCH more consistent with my fitness and have made good progress on fitness goals. It's not something I wanted to hear, as a habitual social drinker, but it's been a bit of a revelation to see the benefits of not drinking so much. I think the patterns you describe make a lot of sense from a gentle nutrition angle. A way to mindfully feed and move your body!
Trying to recover from a decade+ long ED is hard without an actual dietician who doesn't just hand out weight loss diet plans. It's just so hard to find the right one. Hopefully I can figure this out by myself. As a fat anorexic (I became fat when I began recovery), it's so embarrassing to even talk about it, and triple that because I'm also a man. So I appreciate these videos. Thanks.
Don't fear olive oil 😉It's so good. If you are ever in Italy, go to this area of Cilento in the south (a bit further south than the Amalfi Coast). The olive oils there are locally produced, usually don't even end up in supermarkets. And they're so good. The region is also known for its amazing food and has been studied for the mediterranean diet because people have such an amazing way of eating and dealing with food in general in Cilento. So if you like food and you dare to use olive oil for real. This is the place to be. (Also, prices are relatively low there)
Love this!! My best tip is to only keep good food in the house, and ready to eat options. I keep wasa bread and ready made low calorie dips and cooked protein in the fridge. No high fat low volume things. If you don't have it you can't book eat it!
Hi Abbey😊 would you consider creating a series (here or on IG) where you suggest meals that combined can help you reach 100g of daily protein? Being mostly plant based, I struggle with that
wow this is something to brag about. I feel like most people's metabolism changes, which causes people to just be heavier even if they do the same things. Not sure if that's backed up with science, but just something I've observed.
Absolutely. I’m still young, as I mentioned, my weight will change! We shouldn’t expect to stay the same weight . But I eat less now than I did 10 yrs ago BECAUSE I listen to my body
I had a very strong weight set point for 30 years until late peri menopause/ my early 50s. Then everything went haywire! Health issues that had never even been a consideration (like obesity and pre diabetes) kicked in out of nowhere. The years of regular exercise and healthful eating didn’t seem apparent in this progression. Thankfully, a handful of months after the date marking the menopause transition, my weight is naturally lowering again (and the pre diabetes is reversing) just as mysteriously as it came on.
Abbey, can you talk about how to eat intuitively when you naturally have a small appetite. I’m 5’2 and my lowest weight was 85 pounds because eating is such a chore for me. I’m always eating passed what feels satisfying to me bc if I don’t then I get very underweight. I’m 106 pounds now
Ive been working on BED recovery for the last year, best advice from my nutritionist was get rid of the scale!! For the first time in my life i have been listening to my body and feel the best i have felt in years! Love that you acknowledge you only know your weight because of the doctors!
I'm the same age and also have more or less the same weight as when I was many years younger. I still use clothes from 15 years ago. It's genetics 100 percent for me.
Thank you for acknowledging your genetics! So tired of influencers who are genetically built long and lean to begin with pretending like it’s 100% their diet and fitness routine that keeps them that way. Of course both of these things are important but we are not all starting in the same place!!
This was very helpful for me! I think I know my natural set point by now, but having unfortunately had the experience of my weight yo-yo-ing a lot over the course of my life (the binge/restrict cycle, mostly), during hard times I still end up losing my hard-won ability to eat intuitively. And whenever I try to restrict, it feels like I gain weight! I've made progress by deleting MFP and Chronometer, and getting rid of my scale, but sometimes I still need to re-orient myself toward honouring hunger and respecting fullness. This video helped a lot!
i kept the same weight for over 20 years also / also after two pregnancies -but gained 10 lbs after menopause and nothing i used to do works anymore- would love you to do a video on that topic
You stated that these gentle nutrition behaviors work for you and your body based on collected data over the years. However, the title of your video specifies weight maintenance tips which may lead people to believe these are tips that can be implemented that may lead to similar results. That’s just not the case. You’re straddling the line between being weight centered and weight inclusive and that’s a weird place to be. No way did you not consider that a video like this might cause harm to some people - especially ED/recovering folks.
Hey Abby, so basically I went through an Eating disorder and the doctors gave me a minimal weight I should be, but I‘ve been eating whatever I want and how much I want but my weight won’t go up. Could It be that my set point weight is less than the minimal weight the doctors gave me?
I HATE that our bodies choose a set point. I've worked really really hard to lose weight twice (lost 60 pounds the first time and 45 pounds the second time) and my body just decides "nope, get back to that original weight." Society and people view me negatively because I'm obese, my doctor blames everything on my weight, and I know that my joints aren't going to be in top shape by the time I'm in my 50s (my mom and aunts have all had knee problems and they're all around my weight). I hate it but it feels impossible to fight against the set point that my body has chosen.
Sis you are probably eating highly processed food and being sedentary to get obese. Neither of those are natural. That means something is wrong and u need to get it under control. This is why i hate "set point" theory. Skinny ppl can claim their "natural set point" is just low, meanwhile their diet and activities are what keep them skinny. And they pander to bigger people and make them suffer the consequences of misinformation
I follow a lot of these rules, but my weight has fluctuated a lot as an adult. I need to stop watching because this video is making me sad. I wish my body's natural "set point" was conventional and thin.
Honestly, me too. I’m not sure it’s even possible for a conventionally thin dietician influencer to convincingly embrace HAES or intuitive eating. It just has that air of “I did it, so can you” no matter the attitude of the influencer. Like I love Colleen Christensen’s approach but her body size makes everything she says come across as a teeny bit smug. Also, I think it’s misleading for Abbey to say “here’s how I do it.” Abbey the truth is you have no idea “how” your body maintains the weight you are at. It’s possible that if you ate quite a bit more, you’d be the same size. None of us can fully take credit for what our bodies do in response to how we act. And you’re only one illness or hormonal shift away from being a lot heavier or thinner despite your best efforts. So I guess I’d like to hear a lot more inclusion in what you promote, or if anyone has a suggestion for entertaining nutrition content that comes from a non-straight-sized person, I would love to hear it. I already listen to and adore Maintenance Phase and would love to know about anything along those lines. Humor is a MUST, btw.
@@annemarieanderson4824 I agree. I’m a soon to be RD who is classified as “overweight” but still live in a straight sized body and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing body image with people in larger bodies. I cringe at the content that straight sized RD’s put out regarding body image and healing - and they do it with a straight face. There are a ton of great RD’s out there who have lived experience. I always suggest following those types of accounts 🤍
I totally understand that longing to be in a smaller body. Remember these are not rules, they’re just what worked well for me bc they are what feel best to me which in turn tends to maintain my set point (the weight ur body maintains when you’re honouring it). But I am sorry it has made you sad. Of course not everyone’s journey will look like mine
Can't wait to watch this one! Your videos have helped me so much❤ Can you maybe do a video on erythritol safety since that new study came out😬 it has me freaked out as my husband eats some erythritol foods since he can't have any sugar at all because of gout.
I also had SIBO. I was getting terrible stomachaches and other digestion issues not knowing why. Multiple tests and a series of antibiotics later, I still have to watch what I eat but those deliberating stomach pains are gone.
Intuitive eating works for only those who are not suffering from anxiety otherwise they will not "hear" their cues and will do just the opposite to what is right.The rest of the advice is pretty much " just" healthy eating which also help you to control to sugar level (eg. not drinking calories). Good info for those who are not familiar with these. :-)
Mm I can eat intuitively just fine when I’m not having an anxiety or panic episode. And I can still feel hunger at that point, just can’t physically eat. Anxiety doesn’t effect everybody the same way and it cerainly isn’t an obsticle for intuitive eating (altough might be for someone, it’s very individualized).
@@nellivilhelmiina yes very individualized indeed. and IE isnt just "eat when youre hungry, stop when youre full". dont forget, I had an ED and wasnt able to hear my cues either. this was a LONG road to get here but it started with rejecting dieting
It is a myth that IE will not work for those with anxiety. IE works for anyone and everyone if they are gentle with themselves and don't expect overnight miracles. It's a way of life and decades of over- or under-eating does not turn around overnight. I started working with an ED therapist, then added a dietician, then started practicing IE and writing in the IE workbook, then attending Eating Disorders Anonymous meetings and connecting with fellow travelers. It's working slowly but surely and I never thought the food behaviors would lessen but here we are. Now it's about accepting my changing body with love and respect--THAT'S the hard part.
@@AbbeysKitchen yes exactly! IE can work for anyone, but might require a ton of work plus a level of truly understanding how certain food/drink makes you feel. And I think it also requires a basic knowledge of nutrition.
well, i like black coffee hehe.... just fyi, dry red wine, straight liqour, and fermented beers are actually fine (the fermentation kills the phytoestrogens, won't bore you with the bro-science unless you would like the details), but of course keep things proper for you (btw glade you brought up the set-point theory, so few know about these things)
My gut doesn’t even work anymore. Seriously. My gastro suggested fiber supplements and such but none work. Sadly, I have to take dulcolax every 7 + days or nothing at all happens. I have IBS-C. I can’t afford Linzess anymore, but when I took it, it helped a lot.
I love your channel. I have been looking for a health channel that is health without guilt. You live and promote listening to body cues and 80-85% healthy (lean proteins, vegetables, fruits, healthy fats) 20-15% fun food
I’m so pleased to see you’ve got an ADHD diagnosis. I’ve contemplated PM’ing you a few times to point you in that direction but didn’t want to insult you 🙈 (I have ADHD myself so don’t see it as a negative but ya know 😉). I’d love to hear you thoughts on ADHD and gut health. My gut health has been so much better since I started to live my life knowing I have ADHD…our body keeps the score!
I've also stayed the Same Weight Since my 20s (18). I'm now 55, but I don't have much of a food Journey because I found fruit-based eating (Half my calories comes from fruit. I also eat low-fat because fat clashes with carbs. I've been able to stick with that for 28 years. I now call this diet the Carboraider Diet.
Great video as always!! But I wish the Hunger scale didn’t label starving/empty as green and stuffed as red. Both really should be in the red/danger zone IMO.
I appreciate you. And I really appreciate how you’ve evolved in how you educate about set point weight. In the past I had the impression that I was just at will to whatever my body wanted to be. This was in part because of how you explained setpoint weight works and how diets make you gain weight. I have still watched your videos despite experiencing something different. As I’ve become a young adult, I’ve lost about 30 pounds. I live my life a bit differently now and have found that this is my new set point. (I believe that hormones played a role in this as well. Before birth control, I was the weight I am now.) I would love to know what you think about the role hormones play in weight setpoint. I found that I lost a ton of weight once I got off birth control. While I was on the pill, i was 30 pounds heavier and found that to be my setpoint. Then when I got off the pill- the weight just fell off. I lost five pounds in the first week of being off it, and my eating didn’t change. I really wonder what my natural set point actually is- and how hormones play a role in that.
I am surprised (but maybe I shouldn't have, neglect and women health seems to be a thing :(), but if being on the pill made you put on that much weight, your doctor should change it. I didn't gain a pound. But well, I was tested before going on pill - it was less of a birth control for me, more like a remedium for very heavy periods. It worked wonders. But if you've gained so much weight, it should be tested! Have no one checked your hormon levels etc.?
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I'm gonna need the recipe for that salad you were making in the video! 😋👀
I'd love to see a video on the benefits of sodium in the everyday diet since there is a lot of conflicting research out there, I'm a little confused about what to believe
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I'm 41 and I also have a very strong setpoint weight. I've weighed the same... for thirty years! When I was a teenager, I knew that maybe I was not at a *fashionable* weight for a teen in the 90s, but I made a really mature decision for a very young person. I decided that while I wasn't the skinniest girl at school, I knew I wasn't doing anything special to stay the same weight. I decided to NEVER DIET and leave myself alone, and that when I was older, I'd be happy and healthy. It's one of the most important things I've ever done for my own health, just leaving myself alone and just letting my genetics express themselves the way they do.
Love this
Hi, Miss Washburn.
Thanks for including the fact that genetics plays a part in weight.
Of course! It's so important
Its not genetics. Calories matter and also eating an excess of dietary fat makes you fat.
It does, but overeating causes people to become obese. Stop with the nonsense.
Friends who perhaps are confused assuming I am suggesting you should stay the same weight for life. 1) I clearly stated at the top of the video that its normal and expected to gain weight with age, staying the same weight all your adult life should never be a goal. 2) These are not rules, I state that very clearly. These are simply gentle nutrition guidelines I generally follow intuitively bc they feel good to me based on data I have collected about my body for years. For example, drinking a lot of booze makes me constipated and disrupts my sleep, so I dont drink much. These behaviours happen to have the side effect of weight maitenance for ME. If I did NOT listen to my body and what felt good, i would gain weight. That's why these work for me. That's the entire point of the video. If you think I am suggesting anything else, you are not watching my videos critically or entirely. Please if youre going to comment here, at least do that much.
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Thanks for clarifying!! Love that these guidelines work for you
I liked hearing what works for you! I agree alcohol really messes up my sleep so I try to limit it too
You can be defensive and claim to be misunderstood, or you can listen and acknowledge that there’s a conflicting message here. The thumbnail literally says HOW I MAINTAIN MY WEIGHt, not “how I eat what makes me feel good and not to try and manipulate my weight.”
@@annemarieanderson4824 yes I maintain my weight by listening to what feels best to it. This is the point of the video. I used to eat way more in my 20s, I now eat less bc I am less hungry bc I am listening to my body. I have not tracked or tried to reduce calories, this has naturally adjusted over time. Sorry the point of this being about set point weight was lost on you.
Weigh yourself regularly if you gain weight easily or used to be overweight. Abbey ‘s journey is different than us that used to be overweight (myself included). As a matter of fact this intuitive eating is not for me at all. I have to be mindful of what I eat most of the time.
I find it a lot easier to eat mindfully when I'm avoiding ultra processed food, those mess you up...
As I recover from an ED I’m really scared to be unhappy about my set point
For me, it's been very helpful to consume fat positive and body diverse content to really challenge the idea that thinness is the ideal, and its been helpful in becoming comfortable gaining weight because my body was made to be strong and take up space. It's all a journey and every day is different so
I don't know if this might help u, but in my case, my set point weight is not a super high bmi and it looks really nice and natural on my body (it'll look good on you too, mostly because it's sort of the perfect place for your body to function properly). It'll be hard to accept at first, but you also have to remember how much better you will physically feel, and how many things you'll be able to do once your body reaches an optimal state
I totally understand that. Part of recovery is coming to terms with your body's natural shape and size. It is absolutely a journey!!
@@blairalexander6686 any specific recommendations of who to check out?
I love Sierra Shultie. She and Abbey had a really good convo like a year ago. I think she’s technically body neutral but I love her content.
I maintained my weight without trying for years, but then gained 20 pounds in grad school due to ordering out often, stress eating, and heavily relying on sugar to get me through all the work I had to do when I was depressed. Now I'm trying to lose that weight, I'm trying to get back to my old set point. Watching my calories is actually how I'm relearning about how to feed myself properly...it took me so long to re-learn the difference between "I'm hungry" "I'm sad and burned out" and "I'm craving chocolate". Those are all different feelings but for so long, they were the same to me, and they all meant that I should reach for something sweet.
I’m in the exact same boat (always the same weight and then gained 20lbs in my last year of an MSW program) and it has been game-changing to realize that it is TIREDNESS/burnout that has driven my eating. Anyway, sending good vibes for your journey, we’re in it together!~~~
This is literally me
ilysm abbey!! I’ve struggled with overeating bc the feeling of scarcity (growing up in poverty and never knowing when my next meal was coming!).it’s so validating to hear someone talk about that!! I’ve worked on my mental health, definitely associating to my body weight, and to finally reach a healthy weight is so incredulous, it takes a LONG arduous journey to reach a healthy relationship with any substance(whether that be food or drugs or WHATEVER) so anyone feeling shame about their substance use disorder (YES I MEAN FOOD TOO!) please just have some faith. Food addiction/eating disorders
Is one of the most silent, ignored addictions. Binge eating is just as valid as anorexia. So I urge you to view your issues as an illness, and not a shame. Thank you. Never give up.
im glad it was helpful
It’s not exactly the subject of your current video, but I just wanted to say that you really positively changed my relationship with satiety through the hunger crushing combo. I can’t believe that this isn’t taught in school (I’m Canadian too haha). Thank you very much, it really has been life changing for me.
That is awesome!
What is the 'hunger crushing combo' ?
Sounds interesting!!!
if it helps at all i'm american and they rely on the bogus BS system of "generic" information that anyone with 2 cents realizes is false.... glade to see abby addressing the "set point" theory, ill keep the bro science there for simplicity lol (yes their a whole thing between calories/fat/insulin/carbs/inflammation but thats for another time)
@@jonsmith9728 I definitely believe you! I mean it took them so long to update the food guide in both countries (I hear the US one is still pretty bad). There’s a lot of conflicting interests going on, the food industry holds incredible sway over what we’re told is “good for us”. I don’t know much at all about set point theory, I tried to research it, it seems fairly controversial for now but I think Abbey specified that you can’t really figure it out when you’re trying to lose weight or are in a transition period.
@@DT-dh7ed Basically it’s the idea (fact really) that in order for a snack or a meal to be filling and for you to not be hungry an hour later, that meal/snack needs to have a good amount of protein and fiber and a bit of fat. You can have carbs as well, it’s not an issue, but it’s a bad idea to have them by themselves as you’ll get hungry very soon. I’ve experimented and it’s absolutely true, that PFF combo makes me feel satiated for way way longer than the carb heavy/only snacks or meals I used to eat.
The education you’ve provided for me has let me separate eating and my weightloss. As an addict, drug and obviously food, it’s rly hard for me to separate real hunger and the desire to binge. I’ve educated myself enough that I can recognize the difference and I’ve lost 30lbs! Not trying to show off, I’m trying to show that understanding your mental can help and change your physical! It rly is a relationship change in how you view food. Like I said I’m an ex-addict, hard drugs and food surprisingly have similar feelings when you overindulge. Flexing the mental muscle of self control spreads out to every aspect of your life. It showed me I am capable of taking control again. For any fellow addicts, I want you to know every tiny little push in the right direction helps change the outcome. Never give up! Keep trying!
This is incredible, thanks for sharing your story Sarah!
This really resonates with me as I too am a recovering drug addict and find it difficult to not fall into addictive behaviors, for me especially its an addiction to exercise and to losing weight and even tracking food. Thanks for sharing though and well done!
Thank you dude!!! You fucking rule!
Thank you dude!!! You fucking rule!
Thank you dude!!! You fucking rule!
I love everything about this. I'm 28 and just now finally starting to understand what self care actually is and how to pay attention to how my body reacts to foods, stress and sleep habits. This is what we should be teaching children at school.
My set point didn’t change for over 20 years. I gained 7 pounds in pregnancy. Gave birth to a 6lb 11oz baby. Left the hospital the exact same pre-pregnancy weight. Only problem was my set point was to be overweight. No amount of dieting changed this. For 5 years now I’ve worked with an endocrinologist. Healthier eating (HCC all the way). Slowly my weight is coming down (I’ve lost about 30 pounds in 5 years). But more importantly I’ve developed intuitive eating habits and my hormone markers are so much better. It’s why I don’t support calories in calories out for weight loss or weight maintenance. And why I love your content. Thanks Abbey.
yes, its so much more complex that calories in and out. i discuss that ad nauseum in another one of my videos
This is true!! Simply being in a caloric deficit and exercising has done nothing for my weight! It doesn’t budge. So I’m working on not caring so much about the number on the scale, and caring more about how I look and feel. And learning to accept my body how it is now after having a child ❤
the gas gauge idea for fullness/hunger has changed my life! I used to see it more as an on/off - really hungry or really full - and being able to eat when I'm a bit hungry and stop when I'm moderately full is so liberating!
Thank you so much for thiss Abbey, you talked about everything that was needed in this video. As a spaniard who has struggled with an ed , i used to get so mad at my mom and at the nurses when I was inpatient at the hospital when they added olive oil TO ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING but now ive learned that its part of our culture and its so necesary for our health, and ive learnes so many healthy habits from you, so thank you for everything!
Olive oil is the reason we live longer, are healthier and thinner in Europe ! The Mediterranean region has an amazing culture and olive oil has always been fundamental. Also, it just tastes so good 😅
SAME! My weight has stayed pretty consistent since my early 20s. I think that intuitive eating and knowing how to cook is key.
I’m two years in of taking a combination of your content and Stephanie buttermores and I too have stayed the same weight for about 1 year no dieting ect . I did gain weight in the beginning but I was starving my self for years i expected it . Life is so much better thank you 💛
Really appreciated this video. I'm 27 now and but for a brief stint with some pretty severe un-diagnosed and untreated PCOS I've been the same weight since I was 13!! I just have a very powerful set point!
No hate but I'm genuinely wondering, why did you mention a lot of weight loss/maintenance strategies while saying that you do them for other not weight-related reasons in a video about weight maintenance? It feels like these things are still at least unconsciously related to/motivated by maintaining your weight, not that there is anything wrong with that.
i suggest you watch until the end, I explain how these are things that intuitively feel best to me, bc if i wasnt eating intuitively, i would gain weight.
@@AbbeysKitchen I understand it when it comes to eating habits, and your ideas have reflected positively on my relationship with food. But these strategies are still associated with weight maintenance and I think saying them in this video says that you are aware of this association, and while you may naturally be someone who exercises every day, does not indulge too much in drinking, and doesn't like to eat out too much, a lot of people can't practice this lifestyle naturally and their take away would be that there is an association between this lifestyle and weight maintenance which is maybe okay with these general practices but maybe less so with the others like the salad dressing and not adding more oil to your dishes.
@@B_27 this video really shows that diet culture is insidious, we can be living it every day and be in denial. Abbey needs to do more work to divest from this mindset.
@@B_27 What is intuitive then? I think intuitive refers to connecting with the innate need for your physical body, eating to survive (primal) plus fulfilling the psychological desires (what 'feels' good) to keep the spirit alive. It's a tricky balance and there's no way to generalize it bc we're all individuals.
Most people are using the tagline 'intuitive eating' as an excuse to give in to your unnecessary wants to overeat and become a victim obsessed with nostalgia. Mentally living in the past. Insane. Opposite of growth, which is the point of being here.
We can learn from looking at trees and nature (growing), and then observing mainstream society with their eyes addicted to the screen and their brains becoming flabby, and their awareness of having a soul nonexistent. Creepy.
Not adding extra oil when it's not needed is not necessarily scarcity. It can also be a taste preference. Let me tell you something: as a French-Algerian who lived in several countries in Europe, I'm 100% with her there: people tend to overuse oil and sugar, just because their tastebuds are used to a lot of sugar and oil. For example in Germany, people tend to eat cheese with an extra dose of butter or margarine, because they like to spread it over their bread (and because they tend to eat cheese that taste mild). Or they drink coffee with milk after food, which makes me nauseous just by thinking of it. Even my mom who grew up in a north Africa (and couldn't care less about weight management) has stopped adding extra sugar and oil in everything, because it is often not needed and tastes more delicate, which is what she learned from living all these years in France. I remember that Abbey sometimes recommend using butter instead of coconut oil or other fancy oil source whenever she thinks butter would simply taste better. When I watched her do her vinaigrette I actually thought "the maple syrup is not needed", and not because of the calories but because French people rarely add honey nor anything sweet in their vinaigrette, and they are the best. Walnuts can be nice though. I believe Abbey has not only healed her relationship with food but she is also a foodie. It's not because you are eating intuitively that you cannot question food recipes or food culture. I'm not trying to be snob here, I've just made this experience because of living in so many different countries (currently I live in Cyprus for example and I find the food quality pretty low here). Lobbying has led us to stop trusting our tastebuds, I'm convinced of that. Also, it's been proven that taste change with age, in that sense that we tend to enjoy more delicate taste as we age. Since a couple of years for example, I only eat high quality chocolate because I am lucky enough to be able to afford it, and let me tell you: you don't eat so much of it when the taste is so rich. On the contrary, the other day I had some Milka chocolate and felt so bad afterwards because it was way too sweet. In a way I wanted more because of the sugar rush but felt also really bad, almost dizzy and like my tongue was coated with sugar for hours afterwards. I was stuck in a conflicting state: do I want more or do I want to change that taste in my mouth?! This is so interesting to me. I noticed the same with fashion and beauty standards: we would never tell you because we know it sounds snob, but a lot of time, North American fashion appears pretty vulgar to a French person 🙊🙈🙉
1- drink a lot of water
2- eat intuitively
3-eat large salad
4- eat protein with every meal
5- eat out twice a week
6-smart use oil
Abbey, thank you so much for this video. It really grounded me and reminded me that weight and health management is so much more than what you eat. I'm in my late 20s and gained a noticeable amount of weight during covid, im guessing mostly due to stress, lack of sleep, poor mental health and lack of physical activity and socialization. This was a good reminder to not just give myself some grace, but also to think more holistically about how to take care of myself. Thank you ❤
This really resonated me as I experienced exactly the same! Thank you for expressing and I hope you're on your way to developing some enjoyable self care habits
Loved this video. I gained a lot of weight this past year due to stress. A lot of these tips are things I am doing to get back to a happier healthy weight.
Set point theory is great and all, but it completely ignores the effect of hormones. I was very slim until I developed severe PCOS and gained 56 lbs in a year. I lost 35 lbs but could never get back to my (technically naturally underweight) original weight. I had the same experience when I went off my medication and my body reset to the higher weight even when I went back on the medication.
I think people whose set point remains stable over time simply don't have severe insulin resistance or other severe hormonal abnormalities.
Thank you so much for this video Abbey. I’ve teetered higher than my weight set point as I was confused by advice on the internet to eat whatever I want when I want it (which led to be ignoring hunger cues unfortunately) and felt like there was something I was missing. So thank you for making this video. I’m currently working on listening to my hunger cues, getting more movement, and eating more protein and I’m already feeling more balanced! 🥰
Yay you got this
Thank you so much for all you share, Abbey! It’s hard to be in a body. Period. For all of us. We all have anxieties and struggles. And to be honest, focusing on opportunity instead of restriction is surely the key to a lot more peace around the topic of eating and body management. Your kind words offer valuable perspective, and your attitude towards these topics helps take the unhelpful pressure off! Much love from Colorado, USA! ❤
Aw thank you so much!!
A good example of combining expert knowledge with individual-specific information. Although I do wish that you would've put in a stronger disclaimer about differing weight set points. Watching your channel has done more for healing my relationship with food vis-à-vis my body & "appearance" than any other measure I've taken to heal from two eating disorders and a mind-body disconnect.
I don't whether it's because i sit all day and work from home, but nowadays if I don't eat leafy vegetables at least once a day, my bowel movements change and I get constipated. And I normally eat whole foods like beans, grains, tubers, squash, pumpkin, fruits etc.
Movement definitely helps, and water. In my case, my morning coffee does it:)
I'm going to come back to rewatch to help reiterate to myself the things I should be keeping in mind to make sure I have a healthy and not reactive relationship with food! thanks so much!
I would love to learn more about when and how body weight shifts throughout our lives. There's a belief that it's not supposed to happen in our adult years. All I knew is that after menopause body composition can totally change.
Agree about dressing on the side. Controlling the gloop of my salad is critical unless I am positive the kitchen does dressing exactly to my preference. (I can think of exactly one restaurant location/salad I've eaten enough to trust them enough to order the salad dressed).
I love LMNT too!! My seizures meds depleted me of sodium and caused hyponatremia, which caused me to have multiple seizures in a day…and most of them were on days of exercise. Adding LMNT to my daily routine definitely helped!!
Hi Abbey. This video was thoughtful and done extremely well. I have some of the same habits which has allowed me to maintain my health and weight. Also I've noticed that you seem like you are in a much better place! You've really gotten into your groove again and you are glowing✨️✨️! I'm happy for you❤
Aw this is so nice thank you!!
I maintained my weight during my 20s, 30s and into my 40s. Healthy eating, lots of walking, and I was never a drinker. I thought I had it down; I was not going to be a statistic. Then came menopause. Game changer. Now its two meals and a snack. Strength training helps. Even at the same weight, I couldn’t stop that “meno pot” from showing up. It’s frustrating to feel like a spectator in your own body. I’m still going to keep to these healthy habits, but once menopause hit, the weight goes where it goes. I look heavier now than I did in my 40s and I’m literally the same number on the scale.
This 💯
It is a real thing. Weight training is supposed to help a lot.
Love your videos Abbey. You’ve helped me so much with food choices and eating more for nutrition. Thank you!
aw i am so happy to hear
This is incredibly helpful thanks for sharing. I myself have stayed roughly within the same weight range since my 20’s (I’m 48 now), this is to say, I DO tend to swing about 20-25 pounds in either direction (& I certainly had an ED in my 20’s). I learned from your work that that range is normal & finding a healthy relationship with food is what matters (well it matters to me!). I’m definitely on the heavier end of my set point, but your work helps me trust my body and feel good about myself, so thank you!!
I enjoyed watching this. You were straight to the point and honest with your viewers!
I've maintained my weight of 150-160 for 10 years...no amount of exercise/weight lifting/keto/running or nutrionists or trainers change it/the only thing that seems to change is my body fat percentage which is what I am really concerned about//just want low body fat//I am 5'7 and very muscular/most people would think I'm skinny or 130 if they saw me
Great video! I feel like we are kindred spirits in this regard. I am a registered dietitian in the States and everything you said is right on point with how my relationship with food has evolved. Knowing certain things about yourself and what is important to you makes all the difference (like I would rather chew my calories rather than drink them. Soda has no draw to me at all.) My weight has also been very consistent throughout my adult life.
Love this!!
TW: dieting and weight loss
After dieting off and on for my whole life, I’m really trying to heal my relationship with food. But I also need to lose weight. Can you PLEEEASE do a video on how to lose weight without reverting back to an ed or submitting to diet culture?
So far I’ve just been prepping a lot of stuff at the beginning of the week so I eat at home. I’ve been trying to make myself eat at least a little of what I feel are the “scarier” foods like carbs or candy and feel okay about it.
I’m really glad to hear you say that you only drink water and coffee. I’ve been doing that too, but I keep getting worried about being too restrictive. I quit drinking alcohol for the most part around 6 months ago, so that’s not a problem.
I really want to do this right this time around and just do something I can stick to forever. I’m very all or nothing, not just with food, but everything in my life, but I’m really trying to practice moderation with everything. I’d just love some advice on the subject in general and also some behaviors to keep an eye on. Thank you for everything you do Abbey!
THIS!!!
i actually have another great video on weight loss that might be helpful ua-cam.com/video/lDNbBQAHKdg/v-deo.html
I would suggest you work one on one with a weight inclusive eating disorder RD if you have that type of access. You’ll never truly heal your relationship with food if weight is always at the back of your mind.
@Kate Clark I can tell you what worked for me in that departament. I was in the same position, obese and suffering from binge eating disorder. I started intermittent fasting after watching Huberman Lab's podcast about the science behind it. Studies show that people are loosing weight if they eat within 8h window, without changing their diet. So I decided to do that. It's a simple enough principale for me to stick to. I also purposfully decided to not focus on what I eat, just eat whatever I want but it has to be eaten within one of three meals. No snacks inbetween. I also made a promise to myself to stick to 8 hour feeding window, because I suspected I might be tempted to shorten it. It works suprisingly great for me, I'm never tempted to eat outside this eating window and I have very few cravings, as opposed to before. Haven't binged at all during this time and maybe only ate a snack impulsively once or twice out of emotional hunger and have lost 7 kg over the period of a month and a half. I can see myself easily folowing that regiment until I reach a healthy weight. When I noticed it's really working for me I started to carefully incorporate cookies and icecream into my meals at least 1or 2 times a week. But I eat them mindfully, focusing all my attention to the taste, eating slowly, etc. Before all this I was really miserible for years, feeling non stop emotional hunter, strong cravings almost non stop, lack of feeling satiated, snacking all the time, binging at least a few times a week and coping with all my emotions through food and social media consumption. Plus 35kg overweight and feeling awfull physically. I'm shocked at how different I feel now and how rapid the changes were visible and how easy this process was. I feel free now. Forgot to add I have insulin resistance, hashimoto's, hypothyroidism and pcos. I was prescribed Saxenda, the weight loss drug, but decided not to take it and try this instead. And it worked!
For your sleep what I would recommend well I’m 18 so I don’t know but what works for me is to create a regular sleep schedule, have most of you meals earlier in the day and most high intensity exercise in the morning is your best friend, from afternoon to evening keep exercising to talking or gentle Pilates and things like that,
i live for your transparency and your tips! it took me a really long time to understand that it’s more than okay and normal for my weight to fluctuate as i grow. i used to beat myself up during the pandemic bc i gained weight and i would always eat very terribly (i worked late hours at a restaurant so you can imagine) and i would always beat myself up and hated the way i looked.
but i started looking into intuitive eating and that’s when i really began to feel comfortable in my own skin regardless of how much weight i’ve gained/lost! it’s taken me maybe until the beginning of this year for me to realize that i shouldn’t be scared of wearing bikinis or crop tops, there’s no “perfect” body and your videos have definitely helped me with this.
thank you for everything that you do! you help and inspire more people than you think!! ❤
But intuitive eating doesn't work when you are overeating ultra processed foods. It literally breaks the body by killing insulin sensitivity and destroying normal hunger cues. With a return to eating predominately unprocessed foods (it doesn't have to be 100%) and appropriate movement, natural satiety signals return, insulin sensitivity improves, and the body resettles into whatever set point range is normal for a given body.
Can you do a video on how you healed your SIBO?
Yes! I’m getting a Barium Swallow done end month not fun in the sun kidos.😂 if they cannot find why the issue I may need sooner than later la dreaded colonoscopy…..
as she fell to the floor”🕊️🕊️🕊️🌹🌹🌹🌹🫶🫶🫶
Different life factors can actually manipulate your dna gene expression. Many of those who have experienced childhood trauma, specifically chronic trauma have likely noticed this. Don't sweat it if you haven't noticed a "set-point" that feels comfortable for you because it may not be the best explanation for your unique body and experience.
my exercise intensity hasn't decreased but rather increased in intensity and I'm a level of healthy with food as i like to be but my life has probably elevated my cortisol to near record levels causing weight gain so I'm being kind to myself until my stresses are gone
Great tips! Can you do a video on curing your SIBO? I have had several rounds of antibiotics and am still struggling
I’d be interested to hear your opinion on how birth control effects the way bodies hold fat. I used to be the same weight before starting birth control, and gained about 20 lbs after starting. I want to get off bc, but am scared of the side effects. I have heard you can use food and supplements to ease off birth control, but I’m a huge skeptic.
What happens if you suddenly stop? There are side effects for being on it or trying to go off it??
I went off bc for the first time (other than pregnancy) in 20 years just 2 months ago. I guess you could say “cold turkey” because I didn’t do anything special other than stop taking it. The only side effects have been adjusting to the mood swings 😂 for me at least, it hasn’t affected my weight.
For reference I started taking bc because of acne, and I am terrified of going through that again. But I don’t like my hormones being messed with.
@@katiefoster2169 I used to be on hormonal birth control for acne, basically from age 16-26. When I was 26 I switched to a copper IUD and I didn't experience much of a difference with my skin. I was getting acne even while on the pill, and stopping didn't change it at all. I did notice some hair thinning after quitting the pill, but nothing extreme. I think this is what my hair would have been "normally". On the flip side, I experienced huge improvements to my libido and mood. Overall I'm glad I made the switch, but of course everyone's experience is different!
I would speak to your doctor, not a UA-cam comment section tbh. I honestly wouldn't trust comments trying to help me medically cause what works for one person could not work for another. The only comment I would mostly trust is from Abbey herself cause she is registered. Talk to your doctor...
Love this video! Simple and straight to the point with no fluff
I have to be honest. This whole video seems very like fiet culture to me.
Even the premise of the video "ways how i kept my weight stable" sounds disordered to me.
Bodys are allowed to change.
There's a lot of calorie talk in a video that's supposedly deticaded to intuitive eating and in my opinion the approach to food and movement is too heavily focussed on what it is doing to your body and how it is keeping your weight stable instead of how much enjoyment you get from these activities.
Thank you for posting helpful content like this! It’s great to see examples of how you personally have learned to listen to your body and makes you feel your best ❤
Spaniard here...so probably the kings and queens of olive oil along with italians. We dont put more olive oil into things that have already been cooked.... we use it as a dressing for salads, we put a bit into gazpacho or salmorejo, or if we do the typical breakfast of toasts with olive oil and tomato.... but allways over uncooked fresh stuff. I am trying to find an instance of an already cooked meal where we pour more olive oil on top and none comes to mind...
Just starting the video, but I would love to learn more in depth about set weight. I feel like mine is very overweight, I've had a great relationship with food for awhile now and I'm not sedentary. Can someone's set weight be over what is considered "healthy" and still be healthy?? Ive tried everything over my life and just always stay between 170-190. To get under 170 I have to eat under 1400-1600 calories a day and feel tired grumpy and sore 24/7.
Why I am skeptical about set weight theory is that I have been in recovery for for close to 4 years. It's so unfair because I have only been under restriction for about 3 months (as compared to years) and I feel so unfair that I have gained all this weight and health issues related to this i.e. eczema, gastric issues, higher blood cholesterol and I am wondering if it's worth it. I am scared the next thing will be diabetes and heart related issues (it runs in my family). I feel heavier and more sweaty. I know people are like oh it will get by or the health issues ain't a thing but now I can feel like my health is literally poorer because of the overshoot weight. I have always been on the thinner side until I had restrictions when I was 23 so I thought I would just lose the overshoot weight and go back to my normal pre ed weight. I have overshot by 20 kg past my pre ed weight when I was 23 (where most people's set weight has stabilized) and I am still gaining. I am convinced that my body is broken or I have raised my set weight indefinitely and I am constantly depressed as I do not feel full satiation (I know I sound negative but this is how I am feeling atm). I thought it wasn't that bad probably because I have only been under restriction for 3 months, not years but the repercussions I suffered are so much more. I feel like my life has came to a halt because of my weight gain, I felt ashamed to go out to date (I am convinced that no one likes chubby girls - I live in asia btw). What was triggering was that I had met up with a friend after 1.5 years (that was the period of time when I started gaining weight after ed) and she commented that I look heavier than before which was literally my nightmare. I am depressed by the success stories, how everyone is like oh even though I was in ed for 10 years, I managed to gain and lose all that overshoot weight and be normal after like one or two years in recovery...
How would you suggest losing 10 pounds in a healthy way to get BACK to your natural weight? I’ve been a bit stressed and gained some weight and now my motivation has severely decreased.
Weight is such a strange thing. I've weight the same since puberty. I know my body mass composition of fat and mussle has changed, but that is about it. I know it is purely genetic because I have a very fast metabolism. To me this video this video show a still very complicated approach to food and drinks (I eat and drink whatever I want when ever I want), but I don't have any medical problems or any food issues, so I get why you would want to pay more attention to you specific food intake.
Hi abbey i have a suggestion if you can make a video of tips for teens who struggle with stress ,eating ,body image etc
The editing, and education in this video is top tier. Thank you. I learned a lot!
Aw so glad
Stephen Guyanet, PhD, has written extensively about set point. Its not genetic and can most certainly be changed. His book The Hungry Brain discusses this in depth. It's difficult but can be done.
My set point was always the same….until I reached peri-menopausal age. I am 41 years old and despite all efforts, I have been 10-12 pounds heavier with a drastic change in body composition despite my constant efforts. I am so unhappy. 😢
Yep. Same weight since my freshman year of college. I’m 50. When I turned 43 it was as if I was absolutely unable to stop the weight gain despite some pretty strong efforts with trainers and dietitians helping. It has been the single handedly most frustrating issue to date. I’m not a millionaire that can just go buy all new clothes.
@@allisonfalin8854 I hear ya. It really gets me down and makes me feel like crap about myself. Docs are like, take some anti-depressants. That’s not the problem. So I’m working with a hormone specialist. We got the hot flashes under control but the weight gain still won’t budge.
I want to see how she does when she gets a little older.
My problem is that if set point weight is real, then it appears mine is 235 lbs which puts me at a 43 BMI. My genetics will require me to be on a controlled low calorie diet forever.
I think what Abby fails to mention is that you have to heal your relationship with food to even begin to understand your satiety cues, let alone know what your body set point is. If I was still experiencing low blood sugar spikes and craving sugary foods all the time, I would think my set point was around 170lbs at 5'1 because genetically I'm curvier and was not really eating "too much". Now that I have healed my body cues, my body set point is 130 lbs and even though that sounds high for my height, it is a size 2 for me and I'm very tiny looking. Like Abby I do not weigh myself and only know due to physical exams. So, just to throw that out there!
@@TeaSipperEsq. yes EXACTLY. i didnt get into the scienfe of set point in this video (i have in others), but you cant know your set point if youre still dieting
Don’t despair quite yet. My set point was 240 lbs and I carried that amount for over 20 years. About 5 years ago I started working with an endocrinologist. He gave me some nutrition advice saying that moving my set point might not be possible, but it would help balance my hormones. Since then I’ve lost 30 pounds. Which is an average of 6 pounds a year. Very slow progress. But no longer carrying the burden of dieting (the doctor explained diets can’t change your set point though nutrition choices may help, there’s a difference), I’ve since transitioned to intuitive eating. Abbey is one of my favourite channels because her advice is the same than the doctor but she’s giving food demos.
How did you learn about these spikes and how did you fix them?
@@AbbeysKitchen I was not dieting or restricting during the nearly 20 years I was about 235 lbs.
I really think ditching most alcohol has been really helpful in my getting back into consistent fitness and getting back to a weight I feel comfortable at. I really internalized the WHO's message about no safe amount of alcohol to consume and so I went from consuming 2-3 drinks nearly daily to where I am now, which is aiming for less than once a week. I also really love wine, but I've ditched beer and hard alcohol without much of an issue. I try to save wine for more special occasions rather than just a random Tuesday. Ideally, I'd like to be consuming even less alcohol than this, but it's a process for me. But the benefits are REAL -- I didn't really realize how many empty calories I was consuming daily, how much those calories were displacing better nutrients, how my hunger cues could get messed up from alcohol, and how much I was ditching my fitness goals because I just didn't feel good. I'd plan to go for a run or hit the gym, but if I woke up feeling crummy from drinking, I'd sleep instead. Since ditching alcohol, I've been SO MUCH more consistent with my fitness and have made good progress on fitness goals. It's not something I wanted to hear, as a habitual social drinker, but it's been a bit of a revelation to see the benefits of not drinking so much.
I think the patterns you describe make a lot of sense from a gentle nutrition angle. A way to mindfully feed and move your body!
yes thats definitely the point!! it has to feel enjoyable
This makes sense. I think my fiance and I are heading this route
Abbey so happy you posted this video! I always wondered what are the things that you follow that work for you! Yay to eating lots of plants!
Trying to recover from a decade+ long ED is hard without an actual dietician who doesn't just hand out weight loss diet plans. It's just so hard to find the right one. Hopefully I can figure this out by myself. As a fat anorexic (I became fat when I began recovery), it's so embarrassing to even talk about it, and triple that because I'm also a man. So I appreciate these videos. Thanks.
Did you ever make a video about how you finally got rid of SIBO?
Don't fear olive oil 😉It's so good. If you are ever in Italy, go to this area of Cilento in the south (a bit further south than the Amalfi Coast). The olive oils there are locally produced, usually don't even end up in supermarkets. And they're so good. The region is also known for its amazing food and has been studied for the mediterranean diet because people have such an amazing way of eating and dealing with food in general in Cilento. So if you like food and you dare to use olive oil for real. This is the place to be. (Also, prices are relatively low there)
Love this!! My best tip is to only keep good food in the house, and ready to eat options. I keep wasa bread and ready made low calorie dips and cooked protein in the fridge. No high fat low volume things. If you don't have it you can't book eat it!
This is the essence of diet culture. Which I thought Abbey was against. This video and her responses make me think otherwise.
Do you think the cool sculpting affected your weight long term?
not my weight no, bc coolsculpting doesnt cause any weight loss. but my body shape? absolutely. and not for the better as my video describes
Hi Abbey😊 would you consider creating a series (here or on IG) where you suggest meals that combined can help you reach 100g of daily protein? Being mostly plant based, I struggle with that
wow this is something to brag about. I feel like most people's metabolism changes, which causes people to just be heavier even if they do the same things. Not sure if that's backed up with science, but just something I've observed.
Absolutely. I’m still young, as I mentioned, my weight will change! We shouldn’t expect to stay the same weight . But I eat less now than I did 10 yrs ago BECAUSE I listen to my body
I had a very strong weight set point for 30 years until late peri menopause/ my early 50s. Then everything went haywire! Health issues that had never even been a consideration (like obesity and pre diabetes) kicked in out of nowhere. The years of regular exercise and healthful eating didn’t seem apparent in this progression. Thankfully, a handful of months after the date marking the menopause transition, my weight is naturally lowering again (and the pre diabetes is reversing) just as mysteriously as it came on.
Abbey, can you talk about how to eat intuitively when you naturally have a small appetite. I’m 5’2 and my lowest weight was 85 pounds because eating is such a chore for me. I’m always eating passed what feels satisfying to me bc if I don’t then I get very underweight. I’m 106 pounds now
Ive been working on BED recovery for the last year, best advice from my nutritionist was get rid of the scale!! For the first time in my life i have been listening to my body and feel the best i have felt in years! Love that you acknowledge you only know your weight because of the doctors!
Being FODMAP free and exercising daily (walking and jumping jacks), makes me feel good. It's an added benefit that it helps maintain weight.
I'm the same age and also have more or less the same weight as when I was many years younger. I still use clothes from 15 years ago. It's genetics 100 percent for me.
Thank you for acknowledging your genetics! So tired of influencers who are genetically built long and lean to begin with pretending like it’s 100% their diet and fitness routine that keeps them that way. Of course both of these things are important but we are not all starting in the same place!!
This was very helpful for me! I think I know my natural set point by now, but having unfortunately had the experience of my weight yo-yo-ing a lot over the course of my life (the binge/restrict cycle, mostly), during hard times I still end up losing my hard-won ability to eat intuitively. And whenever I try to restrict, it feels like I gain weight! I've made progress by deleting MFP and Chronometer, and getting rid of my scale, but sometimes I still need to re-orient myself toward honouring hunger and respecting fullness. This video helped a lot!
My set point was fhe same until i started taking antidepressants 😬
i kept the same weight for over 20 years also / also after two pregnancies -but gained 10 lbs after menopause and nothing i used to do works anymore- would love you to do a video on that topic
Your videos have helped my recovery so much!
I'm so glad!
You stated that these gentle nutrition behaviors work for you and your body based on collected data over the years. However, the title of your video specifies weight maintenance tips which may lead people to believe these are tips that can be implemented that may lead to similar results. That’s just not the case. You’re straddling the line between being weight centered and weight inclusive and that’s a weird place to be. No way did you not consider that a video like this might cause harm to some people - especially ED/recovering folks.
Thanks for the feedback, my team has already updated the title at my request
Hey Abby, so basically I went through an Eating disorder and the doctors gave me a minimal weight I should be, but I‘ve been eating whatever I want and how much I want but my weight won’t go up. Could It be that my set point weight is less than the minimal weight the doctors gave me?
I HATE that our bodies choose a set point. I've worked really really hard to lose weight twice (lost 60 pounds the first time and 45 pounds the second time) and my body just decides "nope, get back to that original weight." Society and people view me negatively because I'm obese, my doctor blames everything on my weight, and I know that my joints aren't going to be in top shape by the time I'm in my 50s (my mom and aunts have all had knee problems and they're all around my weight). I hate it but it feels impossible to fight against the set point that my body has chosen.
Sis you are probably eating highly processed food and being sedentary to get obese. Neither of those are natural. That means something is wrong and u need to get it under control.
This is why i hate "set point" theory. Skinny ppl can claim their "natural set point" is just low, meanwhile their diet and activities are what keep them skinny. And they pander to bigger people and make them suffer the consequences of misinformation
I follow a lot of these rules, but my weight has fluctuated a lot as an adult. I need to stop watching because this video is making me sad. I wish my body's natural "set point" was conventional and thin.
Honestly, me too. I’m not sure it’s even possible for a conventionally thin dietician influencer to convincingly embrace HAES or intuitive eating. It just has that air of “I did it, so can you” no matter the attitude of the influencer. Like I love Colleen Christensen’s approach but her body size makes everything she says come across as a teeny bit smug. Also, I think it’s misleading for Abbey to say “here’s how I do it.” Abbey the truth is you have no idea “how” your body maintains the weight you are at. It’s possible that if you ate quite a bit more, you’d be the same size. None of us can fully take credit for what our bodies do in response to how we act. And you’re only one illness or hormonal shift away from being a lot heavier or thinner despite your best efforts. So I guess I’d like to hear a lot more inclusion in what you promote, or if anyone has a suggestion for entertaining nutrition content that comes from a non-straight-sized person, I would love to hear it. I already listen to and adore Maintenance Phase and would love to know about anything along those lines. Humor is a MUST, btw.
I agree completely.
Same, she is very lucky to be naturally thin.
@@annemarieanderson4824 I agree. I’m a soon to be RD who is classified as “overweight” but still live in a straight sized body and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing body image with people in larger bodies. I cringe at the content that straight sized RD’s put out regarding body image and healing - and they do it with a straight face. There are a ton of great RD’s out there who have lived experience. I always suggest following those types of accounts 🤍
I totally understand that longing to be in a smaller body. Remember these are not rules, they’re just what worked well for me bc they are what feel best to me which in turn tends to maintain my set point (the weight ur body maintains when you’re honouring it). But I am sorry it has made you sad. Of course not everyone’s journey will look like mine
Can't wait to watch this one! Your videos have helped me so much❤
Can you maybe do a video on erythritol safety since that new study came out😬 it has me freaked out as my husband eats some erythritol foods since he can't have any sugar at all because of gout.
I also had SIBO. I was getting terrible stomachaches and other digestion issues not knowing why. Multiple tests and a series of antibiotics later, I still have to watch what I eat but those deliberating stomach pains are gone.
Was your pain in the upper stomach?
@@lynncrf It started in the upper stomach but the worse it would get, the more it would spread through the entire abdomen area and the sides.
Intuitive eating works for only those who are not suffering from anxiety otherwise they will not "hear" their cues and will do just the opposite to what is right.The rest of the advice is pretty much " just" healthy eating which also help you to control to sugar level (eg. not drinking calories). Good info for those who are not familiar with these. :-)
Mm I can eat intuitively just fine when I’m not having an anxiety or panic episode. And I can still feel hunger at that point, just can’t physically eat. Anxiety doesn’t effect everybody the same way and it cerainly isn’t an obsticle for intuitive eating (altough might be for someone, it’s very individualized).
@@nellivilhelmiina yes very individualized indeed. and IE isnt just "eat when youre hungry, stop when youre full". dont forget, I had an ED and wasnt able to hear my cues either. this was a LONG road to get here but it started with rejecting dieting
It is a myth that IE will not work for those with anxiety. IE works for anyone and everyone if they are gentle with themselves and don't expect overnight miracles. It's a way of life and decades of over- or under-eating does not turn around overnight. I started working with an ED therapist, then added a dietician, then started practicing IE and writing in the IE workbook, then attending Eating Disorders Anonymous meetings and connecting with fellow travelers. It's working slowly but surely and I never thought the food behaviors would lessen but here we are. Now it's about accepting my changing body with love and respect--THAT'S the hard part.
@@AbbeysKitchen yes exactly! IE can work for anyone, but might require a ton of work plus a level of truly understanding how certain food/drink makes you feel. And I think it also requires a basic knowledge of nutrition.
Black coffee for life 🖤
well, i like black coffee hehe.... just fyi, dry red wine, straight liqour, and fermented beers are actually fine (the fermentation kills the phytoestrogens, won't bore you with the bro-science unless you would like the details), but of course keep things proper for you (btw glade you brought up the set-point theory, so few know about these things)
Respect
Do you have any videos of your healing of sibo? And how you went about that?
My gut doesn’t even work anymore. Seriously. My gastro suggested fiber supplements and such but none work. Sadly, I have to take dulcolax every 7 + days or nothing at all happens. I have IBS-C. I can’t afford Linzess anymore, but when I took it, it helped a lot.
Abbey- this is the best video on this subject matter ever. Thank you so much.
I love your channel. I have been looking for a health channel that is health without guilt. You live and promote listening to body cues and 80-85% healthy (lean proteins, vegetables, fruits, healthy fats) 20-15% fun food
Can you do another updated video on how you completely got rid of your SIBO, please?
I’m so pleased to see you’ve got an ADHD diagnosis. I’ve contemplated PM’ing you a few times to point you in that direction but didn’t want to insult you 🙈 (I have ADHD myself so don’t see it as a negative but ya know 😉).
I’d love to hear you thoughts on ADHD and gut health. My gut health has been so much better since I started to live my life knowing I have ADHD…our body keeps the score!
Wow this is incredibly insightful. Thank you Abbey ❤️
I've also stayed the Same Weight Since my 20s (18). I'm now 55, but I don't have much of a food Journey because I found fruit-based eating (Half my calories comes from fruit. I also eat low-fat because fat clashes with carbs. I've been able to stick with that for 28 years. I now call this diet the Carboraider Diet.
So you only eat fruits? 😮
@@soulkiss1013 Half my calories are fruit. I also eat low-fat because fat clashes with carbs.
Great video as always!! But I wish the Hunger scale didn’t label starving/empty as green and stuffed as red. Both really should be in the red/danger zone IMO.
I love your approach to nutrition, lots of positive messages❤
Glad you like them!
Honestly I thought the photo of you in the skirt was the younger photo! You are gorg, this video cured my Ed lol
I appreciate you. And I really appreciate how you’ve evolved in how you educate about set point weight. In the past I had the impression that I was just at will to whatever my body wanted to be. This was in part because of how you explained setpoint weight works and how diets make you gain weight. I have still watched your videos despite experiencing something different. As I’ve become a young adult, I’ve lost about 30 pounds. I live my life a bit differently now and have found that this is my new set point. (I believe that hormones played a role in this as well. Before birth control, I was the weight I am now.)
I would love to know what you think about the role hormones play in weight setpoint. I found that I lost a ton of weight once I got off birth control. While I was on the pill, i was 30 pounds heavier and found that to be my setpoint. Then when I got off the pill- the weight just fell off. I lost five pounds in the first week of being off it, and my eating didn’t change. I really wonder what my natural set point actually is- and how hormones play a role in that.
We have to give it time without manipulation
I am surprised (but maybe I shouldn't have, neglect and women health seems to be a thing :(), but if being on the pill made you put on that much weight, your doctor should change it. I didn't gain a pound. But well, I was tested before going on pill - it was less of a birth control for me, more like a remedium for very heavy periods. It worked wonders. But if you've gained so much weight, it should be tested! Have no one checked your hormon levels etc.?
Birth control is known to cause weight fluctuations. Different ones in different amounts.
-a med student
Hi Abbey! If you had to lose 100 pounds, how would you do it?
My set point has moved up 15 to 20 pounds after every serious diet I’ve ever gone on. Makes me wish I’d never dieted.