Growing Up in Dysfunction: How it Effects Our Ability to Have Healthy Relationships & How to Heal

Have you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you’ve been through some sh*t?
Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, our 12-step work in an Adult Child of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) program, and how we finally learned to reparent our inner parts so that we could be able to experience healthy relationships.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- The life experience that Tammy had which was the catalyst for her to dive into her generational trauma work
- What being a people-pleaser ACTUALLY means, and how to shift away from it
- Our top tips for women who are starting to acknowledge the depth of their trauma so you can move through it with grace
▶️ Tune in for a vulnerable conversation about trauma and how to take back control of the impacts it has on your life and ability to securely attach in relationships.
MENTIONED:
- Surviving Alcoholic Parents: A Teens Guide to Thriving in a World of Chaos by Tammy Vincent: ⁠www.tammyvincent.com/shop/p/s...
- Tammy’s website: ⁠www.tammyvincent.com⁠ , use code PODCAST for discounted 8-week course
- Relationship Reset Guide: ⁠www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:
❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠
- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty
- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach
- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you
🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠
In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.
00:00 Introduction
16:26 The life event that was Tammy's catalyst for change
23:12 What being a people-pleaser ACTUALLY means, and how to shift away from it
27:15 Our top tips for women who are starting to acknowledge the depth of their trauma so you can move through it with grace