Ive been praying and begging for mercy for a long time,you have to trust that God has a plan for you but i dont like this one very much but i still am grateful to Him everyday for He does see that my needs are provided
Avoiding anxiety is like plugging a sink from the flowing tap water: eventually, you have to unplug the sink, and let all the water flow through. You may get temporary relief from plugging the water, but once it flows over (and you unplug), it will come down all at once.
I'm wondering if Narcissism, or anti-social disorders alike, are in part self-defensive mechanisms that have been learned to continually distract oneself from a hyper sense of one's anxiety ?
Recently I drove during a storm I guess that triggered my anxiety and now I can’t sleep I’m feeling so nervous and my blood pressure went up. But I knew I had to drive son I’m not avoiding the situation. Thank you for your help, I’ll put in practice your advice. Years back I had panic attacks and learned to identify and feel the feeling of the event in order to learn how to get out of it and it worked now this constant stress-anxiety is affecting my body but I can learn how to deal with it.
With my ADHD and particular brand of anxiety mindfulness is tricky for me. I've found ways of doing it that help me, but they are my own version, nothing that I ever learned from anyone. For example, instead of closing my eyes, I keep my eyes open and I look at things. Inside I might look at a painting.Outside I might look at flowers blowing in the breeze or bees flying from flower to flower and think about how each flower is creating nectar as the bees pass by. Most recommendations have this sort of empty mind kind of thing but I find it much better to have an active mind, but active without a specific purpose or direction. A sort of pointless, neutral thinking that keeps me from spiralling into non helpful thinking. It's replacing a behavior rather than stopping a behavior. Doing something that requires focus, like painting is also helpful, or just going out and having a fun day of mini golf with my husband. Or using a TV show story to replace the bad story loops in my head and get me out of my own stories and into another story. It depends on whether it's just a temporary state of anxiety from something upsetting that I can get over if I can just stop thinking about it or if it's a long term thing that temporarily distractions won't help because it will just come back. One thing that never helps is social media scrolling. Controversially though, I would say that when it's a health anxiety... because I have a rare disease and I have a legitimate reason for health anxiety, learning is one of my most powerful tools. And for that, I often turn to Google. But I am well educated, particularly in science and medical related areas. So I know how to Google medical stuff without getting myself in trouble. Also I try to avoid medical Googling after dark. LOL. I constantly have to switch up my night time distraction techniques to help me sleep. It started out with me counting backwards from 100. But then I got to good at it. Currently I am listening categories of things alphabetically. Fruits, plants, rocks and minerals, etc. But hands down, one of the best tools in my box for snapping me out of a state of anxiety is saying out loud that I am anxious about whatever. "Oh, I'm worried about money." It seems so basic and that's why I think it's very overlooked. We think "well of course I know what I'm feeling", but we don't take the time to acknowledge the anxiety out loud. It's is super powerful for such a seemingly simple act. Sometimes it can stop anxiety right in it's tracks. And another level of this is acknowledging it out loud to a friend or family member. Most of the time we are really good at hiding our anxiety until it comes out in very unhelpful ways. I tend to blow up relationships. But lately I've tried to stop myself from starting those little passive aggressive attempts to "fix" things that usually end in destroying friendships, and replacing that with just telling the person that I'm anxious and why. So often those people don't even know what's going on in our heads because we are so good at masking. By being upfront and naming feelings this gives people time to be supportive and caring before everyone's backs are up and damage is done.
@@angelaschnettler5013 you're welcome. I'm a bit of a chatter box so I sometimes feel self conscious about writing long winded posts. But I have a lot of health and wellness issues and I decided a long time ago to always share as much of my experience as possible to hopefully help others avoid problems, or not take so long to find solutions.
I have panic,anxiety,agoragoraphobia,ptsd,depression,and i want to thank you,im learning so much from tour videos.ive been living with this for almosr five years,and its killing me,i cant eat half the time,i either dont sleep or like the last two days all i could do was sleep.Im so tired of not living,im on oxygen 24/7so its an ordeal to go anywhere,i have hope now that betwen you and my great therapist who comes to my apt .My bedroom and bathroom are what triggers the anxiety nd using it i come out panicked cant breathe gasping for air,even thinking about going in the bedroom to get to the bathroom starts it,sometimes i wake up in full panic cause i know i hve to go to the bathroom,and i havent had a shower in months i have to have someone stand at the door and thats only if i cn gt myself in there for a shower.Im a mess and really need to rest my brain ive learned from you.
I have had anxiety for 30 years. The last few years have been better and your explanation is spot on. I hope everyone who listens to this will take everything you said and practice and train your brain to get better. ❤️ Your explanation is perfectly said. Thank you
Would prayer, religion be magical thinking? I know that many people use it thinking that they will be protected; which, of course, isn't what always ends up happening.
How would you suggest overcoming terrible anxiety and upset due to husband’s porn addiction and indifference to me for years? He’s not watching it anymore and being wonderful to me ( been a year since discovery), yet I’m triggered at seeing anything romantic on tv, even seeing an ad for bathing suits will trigger me. Avoidance doesn’t work but neither does exposure. I would greatly appreciate your input. I love your videos!
This is an extremely comprehensive and concise description of almost every anxiety I have ever experienced. I can relate to all the coping strategies, and it is very useful to get opinions on their value. I'll be giving this another listen to two.
You've been helping me so much - thank you. I developed agoraphobia 3 years ago and didn't know it even had a name or that other people deal with it too I thought I was crazy. I'm just starting now to use exposure therapy. REALLY hard but I'm trying and using your suggestions ❤
There's a cycle I want to break. Often while I go to sleep, even if I am super sleepy, as soon as I close my eyes, my mind stops me from dozing off and craves a distraction. The habit of not soaking in the anxiety kicks in and I end up listening to a UA-cam podcast(with my eyes closed) or eating something( even if I am not hungry and that leads to gastric issues and weight gain) or watching porn. What suggestions would you make to break. this cycle?
Try not closing your eyes. Break the cycle at the ‘I’ that chooses to close the eyes/go to sleep. Look at one point whilst taking in everything in your peripheral vision, even if it’s dark. Remind yourself that you are not going to choose to close your eyes. You can do this while meditating on the breath or listening to UA-cam. Your eyes WILL close. Notice that your eyes have closed even though ‘you’ didn’t will them to close, and continue your breath mediation or listening to video etc. Your body is telling you it’s ready and is now entering a restful sleep. Sleep is an unconscious bodily process, your body knows when to sleep, what to do during sleep etc, so trust your body and keep your mind out of the way 😊
Your example of skiing makes sense to me. I don't ski, but I find driving very helpful as there are physical and mental components. Also, walking my dog is also helpful. I also take two yoga classes a week, and am learning centering and meditation. I am not where I would like to be, but I think I am making progress, and your videos are very helpful.
Hi: This video does mention things that can help. I also have a whole playlist on help for anxiety: ua-cam.com/video/3VIL1L_ypMg/v-deo.html . Wishing you the best!
I'm gonna have to have my tooth that had a root canal retreated. I was so anxious about it but I set all the appointments and started to feel okay again. Now suddenly my other root canal treated tooth from 10 years ago started hurting again as well. It feels like some kind of cruel joke and like I just can't get any rest. It's also the financial aspect causing me anxiety. As well as the uncertainty. I've been bingewatching these videos but my problems just seem to big to not be anxious about
I have many root canals.Yes they are painful But,once they are over,they are over.This is unlike a bad back which gives long term pain.I hope this helps you.
@@lindawatkin9667 thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately both these teeth have already had a root canal which failed and now need retreatment which is why I’m scared they are gonna fail again. But this time I am having the work done by an endodontologist instead of a general dentist so fingers crossed! Also ironically I also have been having back pain for 2 months now haha
I’d like to make a general comment about your video clips, not just this specific one. As a person with GAD, obsessive compulsive personality trait, and being an HSP-Empath (who is easily overwhelmed), I find your UA-cam clips so VERY useful. Your explanations are so very clear and have a logical flow that I can understand and follow so easily. This is simply to thank you for recording these enormously helpful clips. I’m immensely grateful.
Ive been praying and begging for mercy for a long time,you have to trust that God has a plan for you but i dont like this one very much but i still am grateful to Him everyday for He does see that my needs are provided
Avoiding anxiety is like plugging a sink from the flowing tap water: eventually, you have to unplug the sink, and let all the water flow through. You may get temporary relief from plugging the water, but once it flows over (and you unplug), it will come down all at once.
Perfect analogy
I'm wondering if Narcissism, or anti-social disorders alike, are in part self-defensive mechanisms that have been learned to continually distract oneself from a hyper sense of one's anxiety ?
Recently I drove during a storm I guess that triggered my anxiety and now I can’t sleep I’m feeling so nervous and my blood pressure went up. But I knew I had to drive son I’m not avoiding the situation. Thank you for your help, I’ll put in practice your advice. Years back I had panic attacks and learned to identify and feel the feeling of the event in order to learn how to get out of it and it worked now this constant stress-anxiety is affecting my body but I can learn how to deal with it.
With my ADHD and particular brand of anxiety mindfulness is tricky for me. I've found ways of doing it that help me, but they are my own version, nothing that I ever learned from anyone. For example, instead of closing my eyes, I keep my eyes open and I look at things. Inside I might look at a painting.Outside I might look at flowers blowing in the breeze or bees flying from flower to flower and think about how each flower is creating nectar as the bees pass by. Most recommendations have this sort of empty mind kind of thing but I find it much better to have an active mind, but active without a specific purpose or direction. A sort of pointless, neutral thinking that keeps me from spiralling into non helpful thinking. It's replacing a behavior rather than stopping a behavior. Doing something that requires focus, like painting is also helpful, or just going out and having a fun day of mini golf with my husband. Or using a TV show story to replace the bad story loops in my head and get me out of my own stories and into another story. It depends on whether it's just a temporary state of anxiety from something upsetting that I can get over if I can just stop thinking about it or if it's a long term thing that temporarily distractions won't help because it will just come back. One thing that never helps is social media scrolling. Controversially though, I would say that when it's a health anxiety... because I have a rare disease and I have a legitimate reason for health anxiety, learning is one of my most powerful tools. And for that, I often turn to Google. But I am well educated, particularly in science and medical related areas. So I know how to Google medical stuff without getting myself in trouble. Also I try to avoid medical Googling after dark. LOL.
I constantly have to switch up my night time distraction techniques to help me sleep. It started out with me counting backwards from 100. But then I got to good at it. Currently I am listening categories of things alphabetically. Fruits, plants, rocks and minerals, etc.
But hands down, one of the best tools in my box for snapping me out of a state of anxiety is saying out loud that I am anxious about whatever. "Oh, I'm worried about money." It seems so basic and that's why I think it's very overlooked. We think "well of course I know what I'm feeling", but we don't take the time to acknowledge the anxiety out loud. It's is super powerful for such a seemingly simple act. Sometimes it can stop anxiety right in it's tracks. And another level of this is acknowledging it out loud to a friend or family member. Most of the time we are really good at hiding our anxiety until it comes out in very unhelpful ways. I tend to blow up relationships. But lately I've tried to stop myself from starting those little passive aggressive attempts to "fix" things that usually end in destroying friendships, and replacing that with just telling the person that I'm anxious and why. So often those people don't even know what's going on in our heads because we are so good at masking. By being upfront and naming feelings this gives people time to be supportive and caring before everyone's backs are up and damage is done.
This really is a great help to me 🎉 ... you made the effort to write such a long contribution to this very stressful topic ❕️Thank you 👏
@@angelaschnettler5013 you're welcome. I'm a bit of a chatter box so I sometimes feel self conscious about writing long winded posts. But I have a lot of health and wellness issues and I decided a long time ago to always share as much of my experience as possible to hopefully help others avoid problems, or not take so long to find solutions.
... keep on writing, Amanda 🤗@@AmandaJuneHagarty
I have panic,anxiety,agoragoraphobia,ptsd,depression,and i want to thank you,im learning so much from tour videos.ive been living with this for almosr five years,and its killing me,i cant eat half the time,i either dont sleep or like the last two days all i could do was sleep.Im so tired of not living,im on oxygen 24/7so its an ordeal to go anywhere,i have hope now that betwen you and my great therapist who comes to my apt .My bedroom and bathroom are what triggers the anxiety nd using it i come out panicked cant breathe gasping for air,even thinking about going in the bedroom to get to the bathroom starts it,sometimes i wake up in full panic cause i know i hve to go to the bathroom,and i havent had a shower in months i have to have someone stand at the door and thats only if i cn gt myself in there for a shower.Im a mess and really need to rest my brain ive learned from you.
I have had anxiety for 30 years. The last few years have been better and your explanation is spot on. I hope everyone who listens to this will take everything you said and practice and train your brain to get better. ❤️
Your explanation is perfectly said. Thank you
Thank you for letting me know :)
I felt the sane watching. So spot on.
Would prayer, religion be magical thinking? I know that many people use it thinking that they will be protected; which, of course, isn't what always ends up happening.
Wow, this was such a good video about anxiety and what to do. Thanks!
How would you suggest overcoming terrible anxiety and upset due to husband’s porn addiction and indifference to me for years? He’s not watching it anymore and being wonderful to me ( been a year since discovery), yet I’m triggered at seeing anything romantic on tv, even seeing an ad for bathing suits will trigger me. Avoidance doesn’t work but neither does exposure. I would greatly appreciate your input. I love your videos!
This is an extremely comprehensive and concise description of almost every anxiety I have ever experienced. I can relate to all the coping strategies, and it is very useful to get opinions on their value. I'll be giving this another listen to two.
So pleased you found a lot of useful information in this one! I truly hope it helps and I wish you health and healing!
You've been helping me so much - thank you. I developed agoraphobia 3 years ago and didn't know it even had a name or that other people deal with it too I thought I was crazy. I'm just starting now to use exposure therapy. REALLY hard but I'm trying and using your suggestions ❤
I woke up from a lovely dream.I opened my eyes anxiety began .Barbara, can I have a therapy session with you?
There's a cycle I want to break. Often while I go to sleep, even if I am super sleepy, as soon as I close my eyes, my mind stops me from dozing off and craves a distraction. The habit of not soaking in the anxiety kicks in and I end up listening to a UA-cam podcast(with my eyes closed) or eating something( even if I am not hungry and that leads to gastric issues and weight gain) or watching porn. What suggestions would you make to break. this cycle?
Try not closing your eyes. Break the cycle at the ‘I’ that chooses to close the eyes/go to sleep. Look at one point whilst taking in everything in your peripheral vision, even if it’s dark. Remind yourself that you are not going to choose to close your eyes. You can do this while meditating on the breath or listening to UA-cam.
Your eyes WILL close.
Notice that your eyes have closed even though ‘you’ didn’t will them to close, and continue your breath mediation or listening to video etc. Your body is telling you it’s ready and is now entering a restful sleep. Sleep is an unconscious bodily process, your body knows when to sleep, what to do during sleep etc, so trust your body and keep your mind out of the way 😊
Your example of skiing makes sense to me. I don't ski, but I find driving very helpful as there are physical and mental components. Also, walking my dog is also helpful. I also take two yoga classes a week, and am learning centering and meditation. I am not where I would like to be, but I think I am making progress, and your videos are very helpful.
My anxiety is so bad only meds have been able to help it. I do mindfulness meditation but i don’t find it helpful.
Gaming always was my way of coping with stuff but i also workout and love to go mountain biking
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ur videos are awesome ..full of wisdom
4:43 why is it always a saber tooth tiger? 😂 why do all counselors say this? What about a bear or an alligator 😂😂😂
Our son, 25 is suffering from OCD from age of 14-15. Is it possible to help him ?
OCD is treatable. I would look for someone who specializes in it. Wishing you and your family the best.
This is fabulous news. What can I do to distract myself from anxiety. It was my coping mechanism
Hi: This video does mention things that can help. I also have a whole playlist on help for anxiety: ua-cam.com/video/3VIL1L_ypMg/v-deo.html . Wishing you the best!
Are anxiety disorders getting worse as you age or become easier to bear?
I know schizophrenia becomes worse as you age, unfortunately.
I think it depends if people get help for their anxiety or not - whether professional or self-help.. Anxiety is treatable!
I'm gonna have to have my tooth that had a root canal retreated. I was so anxious about it but I set all the appointments and started to feel okay again. Now suddenly my other root canal treated tooth from 10 years ago started hurting again as well. It feels like some kind of cruel joke and like I just can't get any rest. It's also the financial aspect causing me anxiety. As well as the uncertainty. I've been bingewatching these videos but my problems just seem to big to not be anxious about
I have many root canals.Yes they are painful But,once they are over,they are over.This is unlike a bad back which gives long term pain.I hope this helps you.
@@lindawatkin9667 thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately both these teeth have already had a root canal which failed and now need retreatment which is why I’m scared they are gonna fail again. But this time I am having the work done by an endodontologist instead of a general dentist so fingers crossed! Also ironically I also have been having back pain for 2 months now haha
I’d like to make a general comment about your video clips, not just this specific one.
As a person with GAD, obsessive compulsive personality trait, and being an HSP-Empath (who is easily overwhelmed), I find your UA-cam clips so VERY useful. Your explanations are so very clear and have a logical flow that I can understand and follow so easily.
This is simply to thank you for recording these enormously helpful clips. I’m immensely grateful.
Indeed barbara
Yes Yes
Where would you put reading fiction?
Reading fiction is great! I suppose this might fall into how often (whether you're neglecting other duties..) but relaxing with a book is wonderful!
Yes,concentrating on a good book is very helpful
Thank you so much!
You're welcome!