Released from the detox center, now what?

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  • Опубліковано 20 гру 2024

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  • @oblivionclouds
    @oblivionclouds 4 місяці тому +1

    Most relatable human ive ever come across we could be brothers. I wish I had a secret advice but I think we're battling this forever at least until we get too old to physically drink and not just puke and die for weeks. Just came from your video about withdrawal dreams, thought I was the only one besides DTs and stuff. The only way I don't drink is by having pain meds or by being broke and bridges burned with no one to enable me. Sorry for ranting love you brother not to be weird I'll be sticking around with you and the vida

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  4 місяці тому

      This is an awesome comment, thanks man. Love you too. You aren’t alone c we are in this together. 🙏

  • @Redsnapper123
    @Redsnapper123 5 місяців тому +3

    Good to see you back.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Redsnapper123 good to see you popcorn!!!

  • @_BatCountry
    @_BatCountry 5 місяців тому +9

    You're gonna beat this thing, I know it. Very happy to see you talking with such determination.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@_BatCountry thank you brother, you’re an inspiration for me man!! 🙏

  • @JCarm-LK785
    @JCarm-LK785 5 місяців тому +6

    Glad your back in the game bro! 💪...You a soldier..I've relapsed countless times..I'm 42 yrs old...been battling this disease 23 yrs! Detox..jail.failed relationships..etc..etc..etc....But! Never give up! Hell naw! 11 days sober...I respect you homie! Peace and love 💯🙏..In Jesus name..

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@JCarm-LK785 you are a soldier as well man!!! Congratulations on 11 days brother that’s amazing!!! If no one else has said it, I’m proud of you man. 💯💯
      Thank you for the support my friend, AMEN 🙏 🙏🙏

  • @chp6489
    @chp6489 5 місяців тому +10

    Thanks for the update date Slayer. Sometimes it one minute at a time! We are all struggling right now! We all need to dig deep & continue to heal & do the inner work! Thanks be to God that “one size” doesn’t fit all! Finding one’s path is a journey not a destination. You can do this Slayer❤! We all believe in you!❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@chp6489 hey thank you chp 🙏, I definitely have to take it one minute at a time sometimes. It’s like you said we are all struggling, we need to be here to help one another but as you said dig deep and do inner work. WE got this!
      Much love 🙏🖤

  • @debbieporter6581
    @debbieporter6581 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for taking the Time to post this and letting us know you're safe. You have courage, you will make it thru this. You are a truly good person. I will pray for you and think of you every day..
    please take care and you are loved by many.Always know that. You're not alone.
    Deb

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@debbieporter6581 🥺🙏🖤 this means more than you know, the prayers really mean a lot to me thank you deb, thank you. I’ll keep hanging in there 🙏

  • @lukebrown7340
    @lukebrown7340 5 місяців тому +3

    Bro don't ever quit still praying for you love you homie! Id love to join you in a one on one I know how it goes bro

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Hey brother 👋, love you too big dawg. We are in this together man. I won’t quit, I wish we could kick it honestly, talk about this stuff. Maybe we could do a phone call sometime brother, hope you’re doing well man. One day at a time, sending prayers back to you. 🙏

    • @lukebrown7340
      @lukebrown7340 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 yeah if you could send your email again LOL we can just chop it up homie

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@lukebrown7340 for sure man, @slayersober7@gmail.com

  • @j2626-u2g
    @j2626-u2g 5 місяців тому +9

    We Believe in You -- you're going to do GREAT ~~~!!!! you're NOT alone -- even though it might seem like that --- You are Strong

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@j2626-u2g 🥲thank you jenn, really thank you. We are in this together 🙏🖤

  • @lordflacko8232
    @lordflacko8232 5 місяців тому +5

    I never could've done it without aa, 12 steps, and a sponsor..I'm praying for you slayer wish nothing but the best

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@lordflacko8232 🙏🙏thank you brother, congratulations on the freedom as well from the Bondage of that demon alcohol. Prayers mean a lot to me i appreciate it more than you know.
      also I use to listen to a lot of asap back in the day just noticed your name not sure if it’s related or not. 🙏

    • @lordflacko8232
      @lordflacko8232 5 місяців тому

      @@Slayer-7373 appreciate the kind words and yes about the name lol

  • @onlyme7308
    @onlyme7308 5 місяців тому +8

    Welcome back. You got this 🙏🏽🌻

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@onlyme7308 🖤🙏 thank you onlyme, you’ve been nothing but positive and i appreciate that.

  • @Micru866
    @Micru866 5 місяців тому +4

    Hey Slay, I’m so glad you’re doing better and outlining your plan of action. You know, this brought me to tears but in a good way 🥹 because your dreams of having a good simple life is what we all strive for. It may also be a trigger as we tend to be critical of ourselves when the boxes aren’t all checked. I’ll say this, just work on you. The rest will come in due time. But for now just work on you as you’re fighting for your life. You’re worth it, let go of the past and focus on the things you have control to change. Nothing else matters believe me it doesn’t….
    Much love always from your friend in the sunshine state. 💜 💜

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Micru866 well micru this comment almost brought a tear to my eye 🙏🖤
      It’s kind of wild, I think addiction humbles us. Because like you said most addicts I meet just want the simple things, the things that are stripped away from you in active addiction.
      It’s hard, it really is but it’s 100% worth it. Lord willing I’m gonna fight this time and fight hard.
      You’re a true friend micru and I don’t just say that. Some of y’all that I’ve met on here I’ll never forget….. thank you 🙏 🖤

    • @Micru866
      @Micru866 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373it is hard but well worth it. Yeah me too I don’t say anything I don’t mean. My life has changed because of people like you. We will get through this together. You have to switch off from auto-pilot, I remind myself everyday.

  • @andreflavell3453
    @andreflavell3453 5 місяців тому +3

    you are loved

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      🖤🥹🙏y’all are the best…..

    • @andreflavell3453
      @andreflavell3453 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 well update . she is still drinking living in her car . she wants to come to me to be on my boat to get off drinking. i said unless you are alcohol free for weeks i can’t take the risk . she won’t make that promise but says she wants to off it . i feel bad but i’m on a small island and community and can’t afford to have unwanted attention

  • @amandaflaherty7528
    @amandaflaherty7528 5 місяців тому +3

    Hey Slayer!! This is all part of your journey. I never turn up my nose at any of my history, the good or the bad. This is how we learn if we can see the lesson. This is how we practice humility, and this is how we stay humble. I like what Back Country said. It's similar to when LD said that we can't quit drinking for others, and it sounds like, at times, you felt responsible to stay sober because of this channel. So don't worry about us or what we think of you, know that we think very fondly of you. Keep using this channel for yourself and know that you're inadvertently helping others. And yes, please forgive yourself. You deserve the world. And don't worry about your relationship with God. It's rock solid. Dont worry about the simple things you want in life, because I have faith that you'll get them. Love you, friend!!I'm veryy glad to see you're doing well, and I love the energy. God bless you ❤❤😊❤❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@amandaflaherty7528 Amanda…. 🥲🖤🙏 thank you so much, my friend. I mean that you really have become a friend, an ally in battle and I just can’t thank you enough. You’ve been here pretty much since the beginning lifting me up. We’ve helped one another, talked about our emotions and inner thoughts and it’s just beautiful. Again, thank you 🙏🖤 I hope you’ve had a fantastic night because you deserve it. 🖤

    • @amandaflaherty7528
      @amandaflaherty7528 5 місяців тому +1

      @Slayer-7373 I hope you did, too, for the same reasons!! I appreciate you greatly, and I feel the same way. It is so amazing that a number of us found such good friends and comrades on UA-cam of all places. I think about it sometimes and I'm blown away. I'm endlessly grateful for the faith in humanity you and everyone here provide me. Have a wonderful day, my friend 😊❤️😊❤️

  • @natsnikkii
    @natsnikkii 5 місяців тому +1

    So good to see you doing better Slay!!! I’ve been thinking about you and praying for you and will continue to do so🙏🏽 a decade later of struggling with alcoholism too, I also recently came to terms and accept that those few hours of bliss are just not worth the aftermath of hell and misery. Thank you for your videos and for sharing your journey with us. You got this!! 💪🏽 Sending you a big ol welcome back hug!! 🖤🖤🖤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@natsnikkii hey nat 🥲🖤🙏 thank you so much. It usually takes a while it seems like for us to finally start to realize this just isn’t the life we want….. we are in this together and WE got this. Much love and a huge hug back to you!!!! 🫂

    • @natsnikkii
      @natsnikkii 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 thank you Slay, means a lot!! 🖤🖤🖤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@natsnikkii of course 🙏🖤

  • @jeanrookes2387
    @jeanrookes2387 5 місяців тому +3

    Keep going! It sounds like you have a plan in place. So happy to come on here and see your face. You got this!! ❤🤗

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@jeanrookes2387 🖤🙏🥲thank u so much. WE got this. :)

  • @Thelma7361
    @Thelma7361 5 місяців тому +1

    Dude, best of luck from the UK. This is a battle. We are really in this together. You will get the sobriety ball rolling, I will as well, it’s hard but we’ll do it. Massive respect to you for documenting your journey. It helps me.x

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Thelma7361 thank you so much thelma 🖤🙏, we got this. 💪

  • @jackwarren5883
    @jackwarren5883 5 місяців тому +2

    Stay safe there, you can do it, Slayer. Don't give up. You guys like you, Bat Country etc. motivate me and i think once i moved to my new home, maybe i'll start my own channel, but there are enough around about alcohol, so i'll go for my former heroin addiction with how to deal with it, how to get and stay clean, which kinds of programs are there etc.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@jackwarren5883 will do brother and thanks man. I’m glad I’m helping, that’s my mission on this channel and it’s beautiful to see it does truly help people. Y’all help me just as much to be honest.
      100% start a channel dude!!!! I’ll be your first subscriber. It’s very therapeutic man. 🙏

    • @jackwarren5883
      @jackwarren5883 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 Thanks for all, also the motivation.

  • @andrewbenbow8100
    @andrewbenbow8100 4 місяці тому +1

    I drank myself into horrendous health problems including losing use of my left leg i got to 58, i left hospital after a nine month stay eventually got home and decided to sort myself out and have been sober now for eleven years and can now walk again and have gone from strength to strength .
    I hope you dont ruin your health like i did .
    Its definitely better to deal with life sober .keep strong young man.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  4 місяці тому

      @@andrewbenbow8100 congratulations on your sobriety my friend. I know how hard it is and that’s amazing that you put it down. God bless you, thank you. 🙏

  • @kathrynminnick8986
    @kathrynminnick8986 5 місяців тому +4

    You’re looking well. Sounds like you have a good plan. Just don’t beat yourself up at setbacks. Give yourself grace in this process. Wishing you the best on your journey!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@kathrynminnick8986 thank you Kathryn 🙏🖤 I will, you’ve been here for a while helping and supporting. Means a lot!

  • @afterhourscinema782
    @afterhourscinema782 5 місяців тому +7

    It's alright man. At the end of the day, sobriety is not a destination, it's a journey. Hell, I have a confession to make myself. Past couple weeks have been abysmal and I've fallen off the wagon. Regardless, I still watch all of your videos. I know that's hypocritical but the reason I do that is so that I never forget what my actual goal is. And that's to quit this poison once and for all. I know you can do it too 👍🏾

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +3

      Hey brother what you just said is 100% true, it’s not about the destination it’s about the journey.
      I want to say I’m proud of you brother for admitting that 🙏🖤, you’re not a hypocrite at all you’re just like the rest of us, struggling tryna figure it out. Don’t beat yourself up, keep coming back to the videos, keep commenting it will stick one of these days.
      That’s why we have to stick together 🙏🙏this journey has mountains and ogres and goblins we must face, like tracking to mount doom and back but we’ve got this, one day at a time.
      Keep your head up brother

  • @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p
    @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p 5 місяців тому +3

    I get it Slayer. Life is hard. Sometimes unbearable. But life brings mounds of joy as well. Keep on fighting.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p highs tides and low tides, ups and downs it’s just how you navigate those waters. Thanks rons mom 🖤🖤🙏🙏 I will keep fighting, one day at a time.

  • @ritacooke3175
    @ritacooke3175 5 місяців тому +1

    Prayers to you Salyer! Staying on track is imperative. My daughter works for a morgue and there are so many young, very young people losing their lives from alcohol and drug abuse. People your age and even younger are dying senselessly. It's a disease that can be conquered, please don't wait. I can sense that you have it within you to succeed, you're so handsome and have so much to offer the world.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Rita I’m fighting hard 🖤🥺 I don’t want to pass away from this disease, I haven’t felt good at all these last couple days, the anxiety has been awful but I WILL NOT go back to drinking. I need to be done!
      Much love to you 🖤🙏thank you.

    • @ritacooke3175
      @ritacooke3175 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 We all love you so much!!!!! I know how hard it must be for you, just keep up the fight!

  • @paulkeene4
    @paulkeene4 5 місяців тому +3

    You got this man. Good on you for taking some solid steps forward.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      💪 appreciate this brother, thank you.

  • @trippyseedsindeedz
    @trippyseedsindeedz 5 місяців тому +3

    glad to see your ok, you look better. Bat country is a man of wisdom, forgive yourself, we all beat ourselfs up and it never solves anything. Hope you get some good rest at home, eat some good food and hopefully sleep well

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@trippyseedsindeedz hey thanks trippy 🙏🖤, bat is definitely a man of wisdom and also a super cool guy, I definitely need to forgive myself and move forward in a multitude of different ways and for a multitude of different reasons.
      I’ll try my best to take it easy brother, be easy 🙏

  • @PleaseForgiveYourself
    @PleaseForgiveYourself 5 місяців тому +2

    Look so much better brother, dive deep into the word man.
    I need to go further in my understanding of the scriptures we've been blessed with...
    God bless ya buddy, stay strong in prayer.
    Peace be with you, You're gonna make it.
    🙏 🫂

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@PleaseForgiveYourself thank you brother 🙏🙏 I plan to sit with my mom tonight and go over some scripture, it helped me feel better in the detox center and I’m hoping it will tonight as well since I’m still not feeling so great. Like you said I’ll make it, anything is possible through Christ Jesus who strengthens me.
      You’re a really good person man, god bless you as well 🙏 WE got this.

    • @PleaseForgiveYourself
      @PleaseForgiveYourself 5 місяців тому

      I am the furthest from good my brother, i appreciate that. I am a sinner and i only try to be good to folks when I'm not stucks in the midst of wrath and confusion.
      Love ya buddy, blessings everyday and night.
      🙏​@@Slayer-7373

  • @MonaYY_Rig
    @MonaYY_Rig 5 місяців тому +2

    Slayer. I know you got this if you apply yourself completely! Ty for your honesty and updates. I will be praying for you constantly continuously. Big hugs big hugs.❤🎉

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@MonaYY_Rig 🖤🙏thank you mona!!! Much love to you always.

  • @GraceAn3
    @GraceAn3 5 місяців тому +3

    I’m glad you are getting back to the IOP, and that you are planning to get a sponsor. And most important I’m glad you said you want to live. I remember LD once said that when he really realized he wanted to live, it made all the difference.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@GraceAn3 I think those things will be really good for me grace 🙏 and absolutely….. it gets to that point for a lot of us…… the difference between quitting and using is life or death.
      Much love to you grace, I always appreciate your comments 🙏

  • @joshchapman3515
    @joshchapman3515 4 місяці тому +1

    Best of luck buddy!!!! Keep going for the positive in life! I’m here for you man!!!!

  • @jennifermulholland9412
    @jennifermulholland9412 5 місяців тому +4

    So happy to see you out. Keep fighting! ❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@jennifermulholland9412 🥲🖤 thank you jen, I will! One day at a time. 🙏

  • @msrd2015
    @msrd2015 5 місяців тому +1

    Hi Slayer yes please change everything. Let go of toxic “friends” and family. I remember watching your Fourth of July video … trust me you don’t have to go to gatherings with family if you internally feel they don’t benefit you. You can start making your own traditions for the sake of having a healthy mind and body. When you spend time with people make sure you feel fulfilled in the time spent together. If you don’t, you need to start reevaluating. I’ve never been a heavy drinker but I have made plenty of mistakes throughout my life and sometime they stem from being with the wrong people who trigger my insecurities or feelings of abandonment. Identify your triggers and stay away from them at least until you’re able to build healthy coping mechanisms. Best of luck to you and you got this!!!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@msrd2015 you’re 100% right Liz, it’s time to crest my own path because the old one isn’t working. I can relate to being around people who trigger negative thoughts…. It’s too dangerous. No more of that, it’s time to listen to people like yourself who have told me time and time again to change. Much love, thank you 🙏

  • @seg6629
    @seg6629 5 місяців тому +1

    You are fabulous xx
    I'm always here for you

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Awe seg thank you, always 🙏🖤

  • @CMoore8539
    @CMoore8539 5 місяців тому +2

    Thumbs Up 👍 and shared out.❤ Good to see you Slay!!!🙏💞

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Much love to you Cindy 🙏🖤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Good to see you as well!!

  • @Brandon77745
    @Brandon77745 5 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely love your game plan man. You’re a strong individual, it spews from you. And you have GOD. You’re already far ahead of the game.
    Brother I lapsed last night. Day 26. Family doesn’t know and I don’t have the strength to tell them right now. This is smothering man. I woke up this morning with some insidious thoughts. I’ll be oraying for you on my treks bro.
    There’s really no excuse, even though I have everything to be GRATEFUL for. Literally more than I even deserve and God knows!! I still chose to drink. Because I felt dull, bored and wanted that rush. What I should have done is got out for some more CARDIO. Selfish brother, now I get to write off another 26 days.
    I’m here for you Brother, I get it every ounce of what you say in your videos. Ignore the negative comments dude, in all honesty I get some of them are coming from a genuine place but only you, understand and KNOW you.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Brandon77745 hey man 🙏 first off 100% without god we have NOTHING. I appreciate your awesome comments brother.
      Also man hey, I’ve been there so many times please don’t beat yourself up. Imma send a prayer your way right now.
      I can relate a ton to this comment and how you’re feeling man. Keep your head up, we will make it through. Keep me updated 🙏

  • @bulletproofair
    @bulletproofair 5 місяців тому +2

    So happy to see you looking and sounding healthy for the next step forward!
    I am good now but when I was trudging through the mud I thought I was such a burden to everyone around me that getting a sponsor would just mean I would be bringing 1 more person into my life to just end up being a disappointment to.
    I'm happy you're taking it more seriously than I did. But have you ever felt something like this concerning a sponsor? I feel like this train of thought is something that prevents people from being as successful as we could be, for sure. *And I think it's something that doesn't get talked about, ever.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@bulletproofair hey thanks brother 🙏🖤.
      Also 1000% that’s me that you just described lol, I know you described yourself but yes I can totally relate. It’s something that we’ve got to learn to drop and understand that it’s really holding us back. It’s an evil thought in my opinion just trying to hold ourselves back from never truly getting free from the booze.
      We can do it man, keep one another updated. I feel like we’ve at least gotta give it a try right? It’s free after all.
      Much love man, be easy

  • @temprary580
    @temprary580 5 місяців тому +2

    You look young man, hopefully you don't have to put many more years into active addiction. I'm coming up on 2 years. Finally at 35 got sober. Wish I would have done it sooner, I knew I had a problem at 21; 14 years before I finally gave sobriety I real try. Trying to reconcile with all the people I hurt and time I wasted. It sucks. The sooner you get it the better but I get it, everyone has their path hopefully yours doesn't lead to a prison sentence or early grave. God bless.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@temprary580 I don’t want to man, I really want to stay sober. This sh*t keeps getting worse and I really don’t want my path to be either of the two you named. I can definitely relate to the reconcile and time wasted….. lord willing I’ll make it through fully this time and it will stick. I don’t want to pass away from this and I’m not going to allow myself that!!!
      God bless you my friend, thank you 🙏

    • @temprary580
      @temprary580 5 місяців тому +1

      @Slayer-7373 Good to hear man, because being in addiction addiction is truly corrosive to the soul. You just need the clean time, you NEED to stack up some days, build a routine for yourself and a support system. You'll get to the point where you can choose whether or not you wanna use. It won't be a compulsion or an overwhelming craving. You'll still have to make that choice not to use when it comes up tho. I still do.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@temprary580 this was beautifully put man and I think 100% accurate to my situation. 🙏 god bless.

  • @jeff67788
    @jeff67788 5 місяців тому +3

    Good to see you out, looking good slayer

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@jeff67788 thanks brother, much love man 🙏

  • @newkingdom6750
    @newkingdom6750 5 місяців тому +2

    So glad you're doing better, friend ❤ God bless you

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@newkingdom6750 thank you 🙏 god bless you as well 🖤

  • @johannhenderson5670
    @johannhenderson5670 5 місяців тому +2

    You got this. Keep going one day at a time. 🙏🏻

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@johannhenderson5670 one day at a time my friend 🙏, thank you.

  • @Mmoose712
    @Mmoose712 5 місяців тому +1

    This is all good news Slayer! I'm praying your success. The program sounds positive and counseling too. You're so young and you have so much to look forward to!❤❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Mmoose712 🖤🙏god bless you angela, thank you. 🥲

  • @angelmiller241
    @angelmiller241 5 місяців тому +1

    Hey Slayer! Just checking in . The day is winding down (at least on the east coast) and you have added more hours of sobriety under your belt. Stay strong! When you wake up tomorrow you will feel so good about not drinking. I’m saying this to myself too! You’re not alone✌️🙏🏻

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@angelmiller241 🙏🖤🫂

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@angelmiller241 I’m struggling I won’t lie, not with wanting to drink but with not feeling well…. I’ll be alright though 🙏

    • @angelmiller241
      @angelmiller241 5 місяців тому

      Hugs to you, I pray you will feel better.

  • @JackiePena-h4z
    @JackiePena-h4z 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for the update Slayer , hang in there friend .. prayers for you!! ❤❤❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Thank you 🥲🖤🙏, you guys are just amazing idk what to say…. 🥺

  • @danhemsworth7488
    @danhemsworth7488 5 місяців тому +2

    You're stuck in a pattern. I've been stuck in it myself, relapse about once a month , soldiered through I'm on about 7 weeks now it gets easier just gotta destroy that pattern. It's like a loup in your mind you gotta smash through it.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      100% man, you hit the nail on the head. People don’t understand patterns can extend months even years for some, time for us to smash that pattern and start a new.
      We got this man, one day at a time. 🙏

  • @Kristen10-22
    @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому +9

    I was always told 90 meetings in 90 days….go every single day find a mtg
    I did
    I even made a silly sheet of paper to hold myself accountable ❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@Kristen10-22 🖤🙏 this is a fantastic idea Kristen!!

    • @Kristen10-22
      @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 I had to do that… the person who took it looked at me like “this isn’t a court paper why are you doing this!” Lol
      It worked for me

    • @LevelupJay
      @LevelupJay 5 місяців тому

      I got court ordered to do that years ago but I went back to drinking doing drugs cuz I didn't put in the work.

    • @Kristen10-22
      @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому

      @@LevelupJay yep courts usually make us get a sheet signed. I hope and pray you wake up one day, get sick & tired of being sick & tired & join us. Praying for you and all those who still suffer. Hugs 🥰

    • @LevelupJay
      @LevelupJay 5 місяців тому

      @Kristen10-22 yea im always telling my self tomorrow is the day but forces of nature always brings booze to me ready and available to drink and I always give in.

  • @tyrobgaming5423
    @tyrobgaming5423 5 місяців тому +1

    I couldn't stop until I became physically sick, I can't do a lot of the activities now that I used to love cuz of my drinking slayer, you're a young handsome dude slayer! Please don't wait until you're too sick to enjoy the rest of your life my friend!!!

  • @cute7g467
    @cute7g467 5 місяців тому +3

    I believe in you I’m going to do my best to change, I’m done especially with the spirits

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@cute7g467 I believe in you too cute7g!!!!! We will do this together!! 🙏

    • @cute7g467
      @cute7g467 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 thank you God keeps giving us chances

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@cute7g467 if not for god, I wouldn’t be here right now 🙏🙏

  • @CraigFox-lt6lt
    @CraigFox-lt6lt 5 місяців тому +2

    Wonderful news !! Thanks for the update😊

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@CraigFox-lt6lt thank you Craig!!!! 🙏🖤

  • @chant.v
    @chant.v 5 місяців тому +1

    Hi Slayer, you do not look as bad as after your first relapse. Happy to ear you are going to work out, it will surely make you feal more alive, strong and empoter you. You are very sweet, I hope you soon meet your loveone !

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@chant.v awe thanks chant, this was a really sweet comment. Some of y’all are just so nice 🙏🙏

  • @ASIF_M1934
    @ASIF_M1934 5 місяців тому +1

    Hang in, brother. You have to change things up to prevent further slips Slayer. I'm rooting for you, brother. BC is right. Forgive yourself and get back in the fight.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@ASIF_M1934 🙏thank you brother, also 100% it’s time for change. Much love

  • @donc.123
    @donc.123 5 місяців тому +1

    _Have no words of wisdom to give that you don't already know. Just good to see you._

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Appreciate you don, my friend. 🙏🙏

  • @GabeHornne
    @GabeHornne 5 місяців тому

    I cant even count how many times i have relapsed bro. Its the hardest thing I have had to struggle with. You dont know me at all but im proud of you for getting your focus back on sobreity. Subbed, here for you, and anyone else if you ever need someone to talk to. Hardest part for me is not having anyone to really reach out to when im struggling

    • @TheSaival
      @TheSaival 5 місяців тому +1

      my therapist said to me that I have relapsed so often I treat it like a normal occurence and it doesnt really matter for me anymore. Like im not afraid of relapsing enough. Dude might have been right.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Hey brother we are here for you too man, I know how lonely this disease is. You got a whole community here man 🙏

    • @GabeHornne
      @GabeHornne 5 місяців тому

      @@TheSaival sounds like my therapist. It sucks cause part of me wants to use it as an excuse just to get high. I know that wasn't her intention and that she was only being honest but damn it's hard.

    • @GabeHornne
      @GabeHornne 5 місяців тому

      @@Slayer-7373 I appreciate that. Once I stopped doing two group therapy sessions every week I have just been alone in my head about it. I do have an extremely understanding wife who is willing to listen, but it's especially hard to admit to her that I relapsed again and again. Talking to others who know exactly what it's like, who don't judge, but who also call you on your bullshit is absolutely helpful. By by 6

  • @ShadesOClarity
    @ShadesOClarity 5 місяців тому +3

    How do you get into those places where you live? It seems like you can just walk on in. Around here the only way to get treatment is go to the ER and see what they say. Or call a mobile crisis unit that comes out and facilitates your getting in. Glad you feel better. Forgive yourself moving forward.

    • @Kristen10-22
      @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому

      Really??
      I’ve always done self admission even with depression

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@ShadesOClarity so I went into the ER like 4 days ago and they said they didn’t have room to keep me, there is a detox center right by the hospital though. Usually most times the detox beds are taken and you have to wait several days to get in but thank god they happened to have a bed open and I went straight over there.
      Thanks as always shades 🙏🙏

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 That's what I figured. Most of the time around here people either go toward Wilmington or near Raleigh. I had kicked around going back somewhere near Wilmington, but now they don't take my BLUE CROSS. That's unheard of. So, I went back to a decent place in Raleigh I've been to before. I did a lot of thinking while I was in there - mostly that I hadn't put work the A.A. work in and just hadn't hit my bottom.

  • @DATONEGAMER25
    @DATONEGAMER25 5 місяців тому +2

    Hang in there man. You got this ❤🙏

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@DATONEGAMER25 🖤🙏 we got this brother. Thanks as always datone.

  • @bryanthomas6063
    @bryanthomas6063 5 місяців тому +1

    I believe in you brother

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@bryanthomas6063 thank you Bryan, i appreciate that brother. One day at a time, 🙏with god all things are possible.

  • @llllllllllllll8576
    @llllllllllllll8576 5 місяців тому +1

    First thing I would like to do is send my condolences on your relapse. Im glad you made it out alive. The hardest thing about sobriety is the world doesnt stop. It keeps going. It hits you harder due to the fact that you no longer have your reserves, if that makes sense. You have to find a new way to cope. Lets face it. Life is hard dude. Its uncomfortable. Its scary. Its chaotic. Its taxing.
    I honestly dont think im going to make it to next year. Im pretty much taking it one day at a time at this point. Life is so unpredictable. Life hits you like a sledgehammer. I am not speaking above everything. I have had many relapses since my last comment.
    Its fucking hard dude. Have you ever considered working the 12 steps? Maybe you should find a sponsor to mold yourself after. Yet then again, what do I know? Im drowning in it too. Im the last person who should be giving advice. All I have to say is, nobody has given up on you. Dont give up on yourself. Be True.
    Be Well

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Man…….. 😓 I’m gonna send a prayer right now for you brother…….amen.
      Brother first off I can totally relate to everything you just said, it is extremely HARD and it gets harder each time we relapse. Each time we go back a little more of ourselves is lost, I’ve cried multiple times these last few days including today, BUT!!!!! I’ve met 100’s of people brother who were in our exact same shoes and CHANGED their life around.
      YOU DESERVE LIFE, DONT SAY THAT YOU WONT BE AROUND. You have the gift of life brother, you HAVE A PURPOSE. TAKE ACTION WHATEVER IT MUST BE, WHATEVER just take action!!! Start with me man, I’m gonna be putting in massive work this go around, come with me on the journey. Let’s KICK this things a$$ together!!!!
      Please keep me updated, please be safe and PLEASE DONT GIVE UP. 🙏🙏

  • @nidiaborge
    @nidiaborge 5 місяців тому +1

    I know you're going to shine throught thise one 🎉🥳 look how strong your are!!

  • @karensioux1244
    @karensioux1244 5 місяців тому +2

    🙏❤️

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@karensioux1244 🙏🖤 thanks Karen. 🥲

    • @karensioux1244
      @karensioux1244 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 You’re welcome 😊

  • @bonnielizarraga7941
    @bonnielizarraga7941 5 місяців тому +2

    Thank you go to AA and do get a sponcer it will help and your videos help. Us you can do this don’t beat your self up just get into Action

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      🙏🖤will do Bonnie. Thank you

  • @shauncrosier4569
    @shauncrosier4569 5 місяців тому +1

    Good luck with thee AA, you will be a different person for sure!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Hey thanks Shaun, appreciate that brother I hope so 🙏🙏

  • @Devilsreject1997
    @Devilsreject1997 4 місяці тому +1

    Hey man, thinking of you all the time. It keeps me humble because I know how some words from a total stranger (you) can make me feel so much and be so so uplifting. We really do all need to stick together through this bullshit. I am such a loner but I also know there is power in numbers. It would be amazing if you did a meet up somewhere like a non alcoholic bar or a park and we could all bring our 0 alcohol drinks and all talk and make friends and shit... only thing is I'm in the UK and I will cry if you did that and I missed it xD but yeah, appreciate you so much sending all the positive energy to you because you deserve it always x

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  4 місяці тому +1

      Comments like these are exactly why I make these videos. Thank you so much Robyn 🖤🙏, we are in this together 100%.
      A meet up would be so awesome!!!! Maybe one day!!! If I do we need to figure out a way to get you down here!!! God bless 😌🙏

  • @emeryjones8050
    @emeryjones8050 5 місяців тому +1

    You got this fam ❤ the gym will change your life

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@emeryjones8050 🙏🖤thank you my friend.

  • @mollycrue1045
    @mollycrue1045 5 місяців тому +2

    Dude I've always struggled with drugs and alcohol I'm not full blown alcoholic but i drink beer every evening and I often smoke weed but I recently developed a meth addiction. Wish u luck dude ❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Hey Molly thank you so much 🖤.
      I want to say this, you’re not alone, if you want to take this step on this journey with me you can. Even if it’s just giving up one thing, m3th was my brothers doc, im very sorry to hear that. Working out has kind of saved his life, maybe try some healthy alternatives. We all get there at our own time, as you see since I’m starting over again for the 100th time, but it is possible just read the comments. I wish you luck as well 🙏🙏keep me updated

    • @mollycrue1045
      @mollycrue1045 5 місяців тому +1

      12 3.5% 440ml cans in case ur wondering. Probs rookie numbers compared to u but still

    • @mollycrue1045
      @mollycrue1045 5 місяців тому +1

      The meth is the real issue

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@mollycrue1045 hey we are all different, be glad you don’t get up to the amount I drink haha.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@mollycrue1045 if you would like I could ask my brother for some advice since that’s his addiction and I could copy paste it to this comment?? Just let me know 🙏

  • @robertivers4200
    @robertivers4200 5 місяців тому +2

    Love you❤❤❤

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@robertivers4200 love you too brother 🙏🙏🙏

  • @chrismorel2576
    @chrismorel2576 5 місяців тому +1

    Keep going. You deserve happiness and care. Also, I love your hair

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Appreciate this Chris, one day at a time brother. 🙏

  • @Lololeelee
    @Lololeelee 5 місяців тому +1

    Take care of yourself, you are worth it!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Lololeelee awe thank you, so are you. 🙏

    • @Lololeelee
      @Lololeelee 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 Thank you

  • @pannitalmadge7464
    @pannitalmadge7464 5 місяців тому +1

    Yep every angel

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      It has to be that way 🙏🖤

  • @Thagy1973
    @Thagy1973 5 місяців тому +1

    Dont be too hard on yourself Slayer. It may have started out as a choice, but it does become a disease IMO. You got this. It doesnt matter how many times you fall. What matters is that you keep getting up. And you are doing that!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Hey man, thank you and I really mean that. You’ve been here for a minute brother showing love and support, encouragement and it means more than you know. Tough times make even tougher men right? We got this bro.
      Bless 🙏

    • @Thagy1973
      @Thagy1973 5 місяців тому +1

      @Slayer-7373 I am struggling so bad right now financially that it is severely affecting my mental health. It is soo difficult these days to stay 100% sober. It's a battle every single day bro. I don't drink like I used to anymore but I do still have to take kratom every single day and I absolutely hate it!! If I stop taking it I will be too sick with withdrawals to work and I am barely able stay afloat even working overtime. And now I am in an extremely toxic relationship with my exgf. We have broken up numerous times and at this point we are together just for financial reasons. So yeah, a lot of shit going on. But no storm lasts forever and we got this man!!!

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Thagy1973 hey man I just prayed for you, I’m sorry brother that you’re going through this. In the past I’ve used w33d to replace the liquor and even tho it’s not physically addictive like kratom I can relate to feeling trapped. Check out Adam from psychedsubstance, look up that and kratom. If I’m not mistaken we was heavily addicted to it and eventually came free from it, so I’d give it a look.
      Just try to keep your head up brother and know we are in this together. We gon be alright 🙏

  • @Onelethalangel69
    @Onelethalangel69 5 місяців тому +1

    Stay on top of GETTING YOUR SPONSOR. Imma keep asking bruh 😂🎉🎉❤ Keep focused on what you seek because it is seeking you! 💯 keeping moving forward XoXoX melissa

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Will do, so much love sent your way 🙏🖤 thank you.

  • @paulh2126
    @paulh2126 4 місяці тому +1

    Only the very lucky stop drinking on the first attempt - it takes time and persistence.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  4 місяці тому

      100% man, it’s a journey.

  • @strategicavocado
    @strategicavocado 5 місяців тому +8

    "When you focus on the threat, you'll experience fear; when you focus on Jesus, you'll experience faith!"
    Don't focus on the problem. Focus on the solution.
    Don't focus on the darkness, focus on the light that shreds it.
    Keep going brother ♥

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      @@strategicavocado beautiful comment man, Awesome way of putting it. I’ll keep pushing forward brother 🙏🙏, thank you.

    • @ericar2856
      @ericar2856 5 місяців тому +2

      Love this

  • @archimedes8276
    @archimedes8276 5 місяців тому +1

    Remember the disease is super tricky, it wants you dead and never takes a day off, it really is life and death

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      It’s leech that sucks the life and soul out of your body, you are spot on!!!
      God bless 🙏

  • @JohnJohnson-wy6fk
    @JohnJohnson-wy6fk 3 місяці тому +1

    Why do you drink slayer? Finding the real answer may be difficult or maybe difficult to face, but that is what helped me to finally quite after hundreds of failures.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  3 місяці тому

      This is what I’m currently working on brother, it’s deep and dark and scary but I’m facing it. God bless

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  3 місяці тому

      And thank you 🙏

  • @CornBeefinthePassengerSeat
    @CornBeefinthePassengerSeat 5 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤

  • @DemonEdge82
    @DemonEdge82 4 місяці тому +1

    Bro your skin looks way improved.

  • @vaytrin-w9d
    @vaytrin-w9d 5 місяців тому +1

    kudos to all of and and all . im a pisshead, aka a drunk sober person

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      That was me about 5 days ago brother, don’t beat yourself up. We all get there at our own pace 🙏

  • @Baresark
    @Baresark 5 місяців тому +1

    Keep trying bro. I'm sobering up as I type this. Had far more days sober than drunk in the last 2 years. Keep getting weeks, months up and then busting. All part of the curve.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      I love this comment man, thank you. Let’s take this journey together man 🙏

    • @Baresark
      @Baresark 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 thanks bro, we talked a while ago. I hit 45 recently stayed sober for my birthday. Fell over again a week ago. Just got ta pick yourself up dust yourself off and carry on. Thanks for the response. Stay strong.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Baresark trust me brother I understand the struggle, new video coming tomorrow which is just crazy….. ended up back in the ER tonight, but not because I drank thank god. I’ll explain more tomorrow, keep your head up man. Bless 🙏

    • @Baresark
      @Baresark 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373 Thanks mate. Keep marching forward. Cheers from Brisbane, Australia. Eat when you're hungry, sleep when you need to.

  • @caesar349
    @caesar349 5 місяців тому +1

    Thinkin of you bro. Always strong 💪🏻
    Hit me up anytime. I’m praying and sending you support. My best.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      💪my brother….. thank you, I can’t thank y’all enough. Some really amazing people out there and you are one of them my friend.
      God bless 🙏🙏, prayers mean a ton to me, I believe they really do have power.

  • @Ah__ah__ah__ah.
    @Ah__ah__ah__ah. 5 місяців тому +1

    dude im so curious man how long are you relapsing? is it like a whole month??

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Ah__ah__ah__ah. hey brother it’s actually two different relapses, I’ve been sober over a week now. UA-cam deleted my old shirt about my first relapse for whatever reason!! I’ll try to get it back up so people aren’t confused

  • @richardkerr6091
    @richardkerr6091 5 місяців тому +1

    Get yourself a sponsor and close friend from my experience you can’t talk your way into recovery. It’s a program of action. This is not a judgment. This is truth.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      You’re 100% right man, it’s time for action, enough talk. Talk is cheap. You are just speaking the truth and i appreciate it 🙏

  • @lolly1405
    @lolly1405 5 місяців тому +2

    Figure out how you’re going to spend your time. What are you going to do. You need to keep as busy as possible. I’m not really religious but the bible quotes that….. idle hands are the devils workshop….. those are very true words.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      Absolutely they are true words, being isolated all the time is just one step away from massive relapse.
      Thanks for the comments my friend 🙏

  • @1-suewop-132
    @1-suewop-132 5 місяців тому +1

    How old are you

  • @Kristen10-22
    @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому +1

    Take your sobriety seriously not u tube however if using u tube keeps you sober rock it out.
    I can a tell a difference in your sober vids. Keep it up ❤
    Member Proverbs 16:27-29

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +1

      @@Kristen10-22 🖤🙏 will do Kristen.
      Also that’s some powerful scripture!

    • @Kristen10-22
      @Kristen10-22 5 місяців тому

      @@Slayer-7373 rehab kept us so busy we didn’t have time to think about anything else from 5A-9p

  • @DebraReule
    @DebraReule 5 місяців тому +1

    🫂🙏♥️

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      Thank you Debra for the love 🙏🙏

  • @HelliMatero
    @HelliMatero 5 місяців тому +1

    keep on fighting and stay sober. Find something new to do. A hobby

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@HelliMatero will do brother 🙏, a new hobby would be great.

  • @tyrobgaming5423
    @tyrobgaming5423 5 місяців тому +1

    What's happening just at the moment you take that first drink?? What going through your mind? What are your surroundings at the moment?? Sorry, no judgement here... Just curious what happens at that critical moment??

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      I should make an entire video on this brother, this is a complex question, but a great one!! Thank you 🙏

  • @fredcraven1699
    @fredcraven1699 4 місяці тому +1

    stay away from getting irritated the cousin of anger

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  4 місяці тому

      Agreed Fred, I’ll try my best man.

  • @dfuk66
    @dfuk66 5 місяців тому +1

    Is your name really Slayer??

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому +2

      Don’t tell anyone……. But my names actually…….. Metallica

    • @Micru866
      @Micru866 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373hahahaha good 1️⃣

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Micru866 ;)

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@Micru866 gotta try to laugh through the pain right?

    • @Micru866
      @Micru866 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Slayer-7373absolutely don’t ever forget to laugh because today is better than yesterday and it only gets better. Also, laughter is great for the soul. I always say dance like no one is watching and just have fun no matter what. Make it fun!! Hope today you’re feeling better.

  • @allenpearce4754
    @allenpearce4754 5 місяців тому +1

    So Get Up. Dust Yourself Off. Try Again.

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      @@allenpearce4754 🙏💪💯

  • @shauncrosier4569
    @shauncrosier4569 5 місяців тому +1

    Do you think you also might have ADHD bro?

    • @Slayer-7373
      @Slayer-7373  5 місяців тому

      I 100% think I do, I don’t know if I had it before all the alcohol abuse but now I believe I do.

  • @oldsaggyorcsacs1630
    @oldsaggyorcsacs1630 5 місяців тому +1

    I’m a hapa who drinks to cope as well