I Moved On, And Now They Are Back!!
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- Опубліковано 9 сер 2023
- I moved on, and now they are back. Many times you think your ex has moved on and won't ever come back... but they do! Every situation is different, but one thing is clear... staying obsessed on personal growth is the giving you the best chance to get them back. And if they don't come back, you will still come out ahead!
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For those of you wondering… Margaret always printed her research and often came with a small stack. She was notorious for dropping paperclips all around the house. We used to laugh about it… and I still find them ❤️
Aww she's still with you Coach Craig 🕊🪽🤍📎
Plus there’s her paperclip metaphor of how recent losses bring up all the other losses like paperclips on a magnet.
what a sweet reminder ❤
She will always be with you Craig
RIP Coach Margaret.❤
Never go back to someone who chose another person over you. You will always know that you were the back up plan or the secondary because their first choice didn’t pan out.
Agreed 1000%
Or they could realize you were the better option
@@user-xf2dn2oi2d She probably will realize it… but there’s no way you should wait around while she goes through her pump & dump rotation.
@@JFBalz no but replacements not easy to find
I lived on this channel for about a year after I lost my fiance. She left me after she got cancer and realized that we would not have children together, and she knew how much I wanted that in my life (she had kids from a previous marriage). At the time I felt abandoned because I was by her side through the treatments. It was really rough. To anybody out there reading this is going through a breakup and suffering, I'm so sorry. It really is so shitty. Your feelings are valid. All the same, try to treat yourself well. Get out and live life. I know that getting out of bed and out the door can feel like you're lifting a million pounds, but do it. My only regret during that time is not acting a bit more dignified. I'm a little wiser for what I went through, and I love the people who are still in my life all the more for hanging with me through all of that. Sending love to you all.
No regrets- what you did came from love, connection, commitment and passion. You’re only human. Expressing yourself and being vulnerable is as strong as maintaining composure.
Just a note from my own experience- don’t take an ex back multiple times who are perfectly ok with leaving you high and dry. Moving forward quite easily without you. Going on to do what they want without you. Dating other people and not caring about you. Doing what’s best for themselves. Take my advice, just move on. There may be extremely rare cases that it can work out again and again…but it’s not worth having to go through yet another break-up. Then they know you’ll always be there waiting for them if they want to return again and again. You’re just an option. Proceed with caution.
Stay away from people who leave you high and dry. They don't make good partners. I learned from my experience.
It NEVER happened for me. He never reached out or came back since the breakup over a year and a half ago. It really sucked at the time because it came out of nowhere after 5 years together. Fast forward I need to send him a big Ole thank you note for doing it. I've never been happier 😊
@@Xxxxxrrr6464 it was a figure of speech
Mine came back after two years!! I was moved on by then, but it was still gratifying to hear him beg me and tell me he never forgot me and messed up etc.
About to hit 2 years and I'm in the same boat. I am not 1000% over them sadly, but I am quite close now. Every day is progress
Never go back to someone who was okay with leaving you. Find someone who knows your value.
• Yesterday was my birthday. She didn’t reach out to say even a simple “Happy Birthday” after 80 days of No Contact…
For me that was too disrespectful, so I put the last nail in my coffin of hope and today I put my Viber in “Offline” mode, I went to the gym again for the first time after our breakup, and I let myself feel the gazes of other women for the first time since the day I met her..
I think it's time to move on, even though I still love her like crazy !!! Stay strong. Greetings from GREECE.
Guys that are hurt by the lack of birthday wishes; i know it's hard & it hurts. My guy ignored 2 birthdays since the breakup. Hard as this is, we have to let go of having expectations of them now. I told myself he wouldn't reach out but of course I'd be happy if he did but I didn't *expect* it. Ironically it was HIS birthday I struggled more with; I wanted to send an anonymous gift, but I took Coach Craig's advice & did not, although i did donate to causes he cherished in secret on his day. Let go of wanting or needing things from them guys. Find something you love (for me it's writing) & pour your heart into it. Who knows what could happen.
I always recommend coach craigs channel to anyone with relationship issues. Besides the fact of it being valid and helpful advice, it has just been an extremely easy way to fulfill those conversations where I tend to not know what to say.
Absolutely
Thank you coach craig ! Your videos have been a huge support for me!!
I think that if communication has been reestablished but they are still uncertain and are in a dynamic of bread crumbling, letting them know you're moving on is something that will shake their ground. But this has to be sincere and not a power play, and it has to be communicated in a loving and respectful way.
I just had this conversation with my ex and she seemed disappointed, then told me the next day we should try to date other people
Caught me off guard
@@goodlord420 seriously, just let her do the dating with others. She will not follow you if you drag your head into the mud for her. I've been in the same dynamic for years with an ex. Finally I said that if she wanted so much freedom she could have it, and that it was also my time to move on... and I really meant it, because I was feeling like a slave. Somehow such honesty from my side triggered her to reconsider things. But this is not the best way, if you have to do power plays to keep them it is also the best for you to go on. So bring yourself to the point that you really enjoy your own company and the rest will follow.
I've been in no contact since June 5th. Wasn't the greatest ending. I was threatened with a contact order which was totally unwarranted. Anyway I totally stepped back after that and been non contact since. At this moment I'm happy with my personal progress the last few months. Gyming every day and getting on with life. I'm still in love with her and part of me in this moment does want to reach out to her. However she didn't even wish me a happy birthday the other day so I need to remind myself of that as it shows she doesn't give a shit and is not right for me. I'll be fine but it is tough
NGL that paperclip bit got me crying 🖇
This is really cool 👌 Yes dear Margaret is watching
I'm in this exact same situation. 3 months since the breakup. I started the workbooks & completed the first one. I'm focusing more on healing & moving forward, unlike before where I was basically waiting for that person to come back. She's reached out & still has some stuff at my house. Thinking back, it hurts how things were once so nice & now it's like this. I guess in a way I'm stuck in the past & everything reminds me of her. When I think of how things once were between us, it gives me hope, but also I feel like it's hopeless. The only thing I can do is move forward & better myself in every way that I can.
@DanielGodspower-yh8om
Is that the correct spelling?
I’ve deleted all social media, taking at least a month to myself. She went into a sleeping with anyone and everyone phase after our breakup and I waited for a while to initiate no contact. I’m not gonna ask if she’ll be back because that’s something only time and God can let happen. I just hope my absence begins to stick out one day.
Single and ready to mingle... but this behavior should tell you of the quality of the person. The very same happened to me, and though I was initially open to reunite, this shot such intentions to the ground.
@@edusam666 she’s using alcohol, sleeping around, and doing anything she can to avoid encountering her problems. This behavior is unlike anything she’s ever done, even her family has reached out to me saying they miss me around because she didn’t do this stuff when I was there supporting her. I really hope she does come back some day but I’m done pursuing her, if it’s meant to be it’ll be.
@@Xxxxxrrr6464 absolutely. For the first month and a half after the breakup we communicated daily, but it got to the point where she was telling my her sexual experience with new guys. I tried going no contact a few times and couldn’t follow through. This most recent time I told her I can’t be friends with her and that if she ever wants to try again some day she can reach out. Now I’m in the gym, following a meal plan, working on myself. I’ll either be a better person for her or for someone else:)
@@04evanI hope your healing gets you to a point where you don’t wish for her back. It hurts to watch someone you love self destruct. You are working on yourself and she is self destructing. If she comes back; she will set you back because you will have outgrown her and would be required to shrink back down to accommodate her😢
@@nbee6217 I won’t let myself stoop down to the level I was at, insecure and no sense of self love. She made me happy, but I ruined myself trying to work things out between us. If she comes back she needs to have matured and realized that people have their faults and ending things because you’re not willing to help someone through them is sad. I hope she realizes she messed up and is willing to work on herself so we can see eye to eye.
Listen to Coach ❤
important topic !
He wouldnt have the guts to even think about coming back to me
Great story very hopeful 💯💪🏽❤️🙏🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Good on you for relayig Margaret words
5 months no contact he broke contact I will see how it go and he is a avodent so whatever they tell you do it it works. I am now stronger and if we get back together good if not I'm still good because I worked on me.
Thank you for sharing my story coach! Such a great video and so happy to hear Margaret in this too ❤ glad it got to reach some people who needed it!
Its also my second breakup, he said he can’t concentrate at that moment so we had to stop. The fact that he doesn’t even watch my ig stories just makes me crazy. It feels like he’s never gonna come back and your story gave me the hope. Thank you
Never, never, never take back an ex who have dumped you multiple times. You're just a backup. They will dump you again when someone better comes along. This is my experience. Don't get recycle over and over again.
@@LaoSoftware he didn’t left me for someone else, every situation is different
is he dated or went relationship in between of the breakup?
Just wanted to say, love your videos and your work Dr. CRAIG.
Important Question. In your experience, can avoidants and anxious work out a healthy relationship together?
It resonates…. 2nd breakup
For me it’s a friend, not an ex. There was too much drama coming from me & she blocked me off a month ago. Pretty sure she’s never coming back since she said she was done with me.
Oh. My ex was a borderline to 💯 degree certainty. Huge abandonment fears, manipulation, emotional abuse, one incident of physical abuse, cutting, threats of suicide if she felt I was going to leave, self sabotage, and sabotage me, my health and my career, punishing behaviors, disassociation, freak sex at the beginning, which tailed off into almost nothing, withholding affection, silent treatments, devaluation, idealization, brutal discard right after a death in my family, jumped on social media blasting new person in my face within weeks.
I don’t want her back, but she was a borderline all right.
Wow! yes
I havent even entered the relationship stage and we already broke up 😂
1 week no contact now and she couldnt care less. We see each other everyday at work.
So coach I started listening to you back in 2017 and you changed my life and I’ve now been in a successful relationship for almost 6 years. Also, during that time my ex before my current relationship did try many indirect direct approaches that I just ignored because by that point I was just in a healthier place, and wanted nothing to do with her. With that being said, I’ve been away from the channel for a couple years, and I just heard you say when Margaret WAS around, is she still with us? 😢……I sincerely hope so…
No she passed last year
@@kimsmith1750 fuck , that hurts 😔 😢 thanks for letting me know
Margaret passed away. Look at his previous videos talking about the passing if her.
@@LaoSoftware thank you 🙏🏾
Who was Margaret to him?
Good morning,
I really needed to see this video.
My ex girlfriend friend and I have broken up for 18 months, and she has been in new relationship for over a year.
However since March, my ex girlfriend and I have been texting and talking on the phone. Matter of fact she has reached out to me on Father's Day and 4th July. On one occasion she asked me, have I thought about her during the break up. She also agreed to meet me for coffee, but she postponed the coffee meet.
As I mentioned she reached out to me on Father's Day and the 4th July. However my birthday was in July, but she didn't reach out. Matter of fact I haven't heard from her in over 2 weeks.
Why would she reach out on every holiday but ghost me on my birthday.
Oh well it doesn't matter!!
I'm so over her!! I've blocked her!! She is so immature!!
If i've met a man only once but is the love of my heart, thinking non-stop about him 1 year already, what are the chances that he feels the same towards me and thinks about my image as well?
Who is/was Margaret?
Margaret and I would tell my ex to F off
what to do when avoidant ex comes back. I went no contact for 2 weeks. he used the direct-indirect approach. but I stood my ground and just responded casually.
we talked on the phone and argued. then the second time we talked over the phone we were calm and fine. I still want to continue my single life, and wished him well.
because we both need it. Plus, I am not sure if I still want him back after 6yrs of going on and off. I am focused on healing my anxious attachment style. And he has not initiated that he wants to get back with me. Should we continue to connect or talk every once in a while?
No. Move on
just wondering if this also happens to women?
An ex from ten years ago reached out to me amidst my most recent breakup... I manifested the wrong ex! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lives with his parents? They are just kids. This is pointless.
Mid twenties is young adult, just because we're younger than the majority of Coaches audience doesn't mean the story doesn't matter
Basically every "success" story is a guy going back to a girl he dumped. Never the other way around. It really shows how hopeless everything is for men
Is margaret not w is anymore?😢
See. What do you mean could? Even you are saying theres a possibility they wont come back. How can i let go of someone but not give up on the situation?
My ex just texted me “hey how are you?” The other day and it was when I least expected it! It didn’t really go anywhere, seemed more like a “check-in”. What should I make of that?
I was a check-in if someone wants to see you they see you! Don’t reach out until they do again first I made that mistake if it doesn’t go your way you won’t like the feeling trust me!
Don’t reach out until she begins to beg make her go thru what you went thru
boys often come back, girls move on. well my ex was a girl, a young girl in her early twenties, she was a dismissive avoidant and had narcissistic tendencies.also she was unhappy with my anxious behavior for a few months before the break up. what are my chances? below zero? lol I know...
Wrong. All of my female ex’s have come back
@@Bloodsport1337, i said often, not always! the truth is girls have a lot more options than boys do! and that's because there are millions of simps out there who will do anything to get with a girl,any girl! and if your female ex wants to move on with a different person, all she has to do is to show up! and hundreds of boys would want her! but as a man,you need to be successful, you need to look good and know how to flirt,and even then it's not guaranteed you'll get women...
I follow the no contact rule and my ex calling me every night...but i never call him or text him....if i got a call from him i respond. Should i keep doing the no contact rules?? We broke up after 8 years of long distance relationship
how long it took him to reach to u?
@@StarReact001 after 6 days. Till last night.
📎 ❤
I pretend I have moved on, and he still hates me! 😪
He wouldnt miss me if you paid him 5 billion dollars.
I work on myself every single day.
Do they come back after 1 yr and a few months?
They can come back at anypoint just keep watching the videos and learn from other situations
Yes they can.
Yes. Ex from my friends came back after 1-4 years.
Yes. As soon as you no longer like them, they reappear.
They can come back at any time any year or not at all.
Work on yourself by watching all of the videos by Craig, Margaret & Victoria. Not just the get your ex back stuff.
Do the Workbooks too, I highly recommend those.
Once you focus on yourself you will find yourself one day not focusing on your ex so much & this is a good thing.
It has been 1 year & 8 months since my split & I had an indirect, direct from her a few months ago near my birthday. I didn't respond to it.
It wasn't to punish her but it is because I know my worth & if she really wanted to reconcile she would have to grow a pair & message me outright.
I'm done with the breadcrumbs & anyone who wants to date me will have to show up & I won't accept anything less.
This is what I have realised & worked on since the break up.
Hope this helps 😊
So if he reached out once is it possible he will again? 💔
Anything is possible.
@@goldenlifelove7251 i hopeee so thank you 😭
Yes
He will
What is this marriage, He has the wife in his house and big family he spread rumers about my family. He has the children of another women. Why I contact with him on the social media .
Didn’t know that about Margaret 🦮🐕🦺🐕🐩