NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages. Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation. And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc. I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes... So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa... It's to bad really.. Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
She is just so soft spoken. A pure remodel on how a woman is supposed to look and act. Pure femininity that any man with true masculinity would find attractive.
When I see these videos I always feel left out. I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps. I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions. Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number. She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
"Don`t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask the fisherman" Edit: Lmao everyone taking this seriously in the comments. I wanted to put this here mostly for memes
My cousin taught me this early, women forget that the tips they give you if there not interested in a guy that same approach never works on them if they are not interested in that guy.
so, would you do the opposite of what she said, and cling to one girl like an orbiter, bombard her with boring messages, and kept liking her photos forever? Any dude would warn you from doing this.
@@kaz8297 Women say they don’t like a lot things but do the opposite. How many women tell there boyfriends that they don’t like certain dudes because they are azz holes, then end up getting there backs blown out by that same dude in the break room 🤷🏾♂️ if a female is not physically attracted to a guy then she’s chances are she’s not giving him the number, unless she doesn’t want to seem mean or he makes her laugh, women are emotional beings, she may not like something one day, tomorrow she loves it.
@@DAllanRixxTV I’m just asking are you gonna do the opposite of what she said in the video bcuz that’s what y’all are implying. Unless you comment before watching the videos
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me. Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
Pro tip: women who have their profile set to private tend to be a more serious type of woman, and less superficial, also women who don't post thirst traps and post less often, you'll have a better chance with!
The best way to meet girls still remains in-person. Online, you are just one face among dozens or hundreds of other men looking for her attention. But in the real world, she is right there. You can get her attention just by talking to her.
Online is lame as shit. Don’t see the point in trying really hard to stand out for a girl who doesn’t even barely try to have a decent conversation with you. Meeting in person is less time waisted cause you can get to the god dam point quickly instead of waiting for her to respond to the questions like when are you free or meet me at such and such. Plus you can rely on yourself instead of figuring out how not to turn her off by texting one word incorrectly during messaging all while distracting her from 1,000s of other messages from hotter guys. Fuck social media, I’m stepping out the god dam house. I live in Cali so there are women everywhere anyway
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
Great video Courtney... I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply. I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
Responding to her story will not assure you a conversation, it will only MIGHT assure you a response to your comment, and that's it. Instagram also has the "chat invitation" bullshit which means, you can only message once until she has the initiative to look at your comment and talk back.
Yea i just noticed that new update too. And if they post a story or post after you message them just assume they saw it and arent interested. Its hit or miss unfortunately with dating today
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣. This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
0:07-0:12 " So Instagram is one of the best places to meet people these days especially for someone that is not a fan of dating apps." 1. Instagram is a dating app 2. Girls get tons and tons of DMs from multiple dudes 3. They use Instagram for attention and validation from guys There is literally no point of going on Instagram if you're looking for a girl. And even if you did get a girlfriend chances are that she's looking for another guy on her DMs and is just using you for her time and then she'll make some excuse like "I'm bored" or whatever. This is one of many ways of how girls get high body counts. Do not take advice from this whatsoever guys. It's for your own good.
I tend to disagree. I feel like when you’re in different countries some girls feel safer replying cause there is no pressure in terms of meeting up or having a relationship
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
The question is: should people that don't know how to connect and communicate be in a relationship? Wouldn't it come across as forced and unnatural, or just simply _be_ forced in the end of the day?
I gotta ask you something Courtney. When a random girl who doesn't follow a guy on Insta suddenly pops up in his notifications and likes 3 of his last posts, does he have to respond to that? And if yes, what does he have to do? Is there anything the girl is trying to say or imply with those 3 likes or it's just likes with no hint? By the way, I did put some of what you said into practice and I got a reply! But of course, I was being genuine with my text and did not beat around the bush. I followed the girl, asked her a question that concerned something I saw in her bio and I got the most polite and respectful response! And please don't forget about the question I wrote above.
Message vs. Comment? Because, there's reasons they don't check DM. There's reason comment is better imo. And remember- no one knows someone over Insta. You only know people you have met, spent time with, and continue to establish a pattern of growth and increasing virtue. Otherwise, IG is not real life, so don't get confused. Have fun!
Also... sorry Courtney! I let stories run their course. I reply to stories I like, sometimes. Not one that keeps track, so... I had no idea I responded to.. a few of yours. Thankful for your videos!
I think she is on point with a couple things but then doesn’t really know how things are elsewhere. If you are trying to get the attention of a girl with 3k plus followers, most likely story response and direct messages are never going to get seen. I’m not sure there really is answer to getting someone’s attention with lots of followers without coming off a little strange. And I say this because there are so many people messaging these girls. Trying to engage in a simple conversation can seem like the hardest thing because you might get one reply but then they never respond again. So, it kind of stinks.
Talk when? Initial approach? First date? Honestly, keeping it simple, direct, honest, respectful and with a touch of humor goes a long way. As an introvert myself the best advice I could give you is don't overthink it and be yourself. If she likes you and you like her it will be surprisingly easy.
this is great tips i got layed doing this :) change approch do not talk about sex ... dont send dp, Be real. be honst, communinate it will work out eventually
Messaging her story is a good idea. Is it weird to message their story if you not following her on instagram? Or follow, then message. May be discuss in a Part 2 or 3 of this topic.
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
Hey Courtney, great video. Could you please do a video about colour co-ordinating. How to match colours. Can I wear black denim with brown leather shoes, or why shouldn't we wear navy with black, or what colours are most versatile for summer?
Courtney I guess I am slow or I missed something entirely here b/c I had no idea Instagram was being used as a side dating/meeting app, this explains a lot of other thoughts I had about Instagram but I usually just use mine from time to time to post pictures. Thanks for the helpful info, definitely appreciated!
I have been reading the comments . Manys of you guys are saying that these advices will work only if you are a Chad or good-looking . Lets be real , If you look 100 kilos and ugly , how can you expect to even have a good-looking girl by your side ? I used to be morbidly Obese and depressed throughout my teenage years . So I worked my ass off and became a fucking monster . Both in the Gym and in my career . Hard work and consistency is key . Believe in yourself . Talking to girls comes later . Improve yourself , focus on your career . WORK WORK WORK . Take it easy , be slow , be steady, you will achieve your goals . Just take action . I changed my life . I'm so good-looking , even I didn't know (not being cocky) . People compliment me so often now . My confidence is at an all time high . Love yourself , women will love you too . Then wok on your social skills . Don't fucking be a lazy bastard . I play games , enjoy my life . But I develop essential skills as well . FIRST : CHANGE YOURSELF , BE A MONSTER THEN LEARN TO SOCIALIZE , OR THE OTHER WAY AROUND . TAKE FUCKING CONTROL MY SOLDIERS . THERE IS HOPE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS HELL . TRUST ME . p e a c e
Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.
Folks! just saying Hello to someone, is NOT desperate ok? and if you didnt get a respond, you have every right to ask to know why no respond. It is RUDE if you get a message and not respond back.... so if you got a message please RESPOND! thanks!
Hey courtney. recently ive been dm'ing a girl and she seems interested, i asked her out for a coffee and she said ''Yeah, seems fun!. But im very busy lately got exams soon but after that we can go.'' Is that a good sign or a bad sign. And she sends dry replies but in a good way, she is just a dry texter probably but she doesnt mean it that dry. She even sent me an happy birthday message today. She is interested right?
@@iElia don’t seem too needy , play it cool . Find out when exams are over don’t, text her too much and don’t put her as a top priority. Set up a date after the exam 🙂 Keep talking to other women , good luck
Well on Instagram I have so many follow me then like every post I have made, always some young woman and majority are just trying to scam me, so beware if a pretty woman or someone who famous DMs you on IG. I do appreciate your information.
I studied 4 years of Chemistry and Endocrinology at University and they were wayy easier than all.this dating and messaging instructions and rules to follow.
NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
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"if she doesn't respond" you mean, "they" because all of them never respond
Yes a simp does that
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
Girls have thousands of dm’s that they don’t even read while most guys have 0 dm’s and we’re just waiting for at least 1. Life ain’t fair
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
I think we all as a collective just want somone to love us and look at us the way we look at them
God i feel alone sometimes... i guess i'll keep play piano to cheere me up
Quality >> Quantity
At least that's what I keep telling myself
@@the12gage37 definitely but when you’re speaking to no one then it’s quantity over quality
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
basically you move on to being alone and talking to nobody, because that is how it happens
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88 Just chat to every girl and hope you hit one.
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88it’s a number game
Wise words
I think a good general rule of thumb is to avoid messaging girls you haven’t met and interacted with in person. As always, great tips Courtney.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
@@GEORGIOARCADE Yeah I’m not a fan of online dating because your first interact is virtual through messaging. But I know it works for some people.
What about us dudes trapped in lockdown then?
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
If she doesn’t respond to your dm, you go for her friends. Stay toxic kings 👑👑👑
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Then unsend the message you sent to the previous girl, evidence erased 😈
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
😂😂😂
@@mharrtj6350 😂
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages.
Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation.
And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
@Carlos The Boss don't resent anyone, it's not healthy
wwooo u sound wise!!!!
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc.
I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes...
So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa...
It's to bad really..
Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
I also noticed women who have their profile set to private tend to me more of a serious type of woman.
@@joaquin67 ↑This is 157% TRUE!
You have been posting like a champ! Congratulations on the channel’s growth and thanks for helping us knuckleheads.
Thank you so much! Happy to help 🥰
Don’t self-deprecate man, if you’re a knucklehead, we aren’t. Be confident and embrace learning.
@@y_p7 overconfidence
@@y_p7 bro a knucklehead isn’t a bad thing 😂😂 your just emotionally soft
@@y_p7 self depreciation is key
Me slides in her DM's: "Hi"
Her: "Sorry do I know you?"
You see the message notification and you get all happy only to read the message and be put down so hard 😂😂😂
@@jaysibiri yoooo😯☠️
She probably gets thousands of dms saying “hi“ be different
Just respond "Would u want to? I would"
Then I’d just reply with “ ofcourse not... but I’m tryna get to know you though “ see what happens then
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
Seems like a lot of effort for a low probability of reward. You're better off just cold approaching 100 women.
@@Jukeboxster what? It's like 3 seconds. You make a joke and wait. After she messages you it's the same as texting any other girl.
@@Teamshmo if it's working for you, more power to you
Seems cool , imma try it.
The rizzler
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
100% smesh rate
@@alnuedling1519 brother i was driving when I read your comment and almost crushed my car laughing. Hahahaha
Time to smash! Lol
@@Lucasllns tyramisu time
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- The guy who sent over 500 messages rn:
“Yeah I got finally noticed” 😂
thanks for not being a shittalker like many other “dating” channels out there
I've been smiling while watching this knowing that Im doing it right. The Courtney style. Hahaha
Great video!
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
It’s definitely easier with an in person connection lol
@@CourtneyRyan only if the guy is tall and white. If he is short and not white, he is better off not trying.
@@Mogamishu No.
@@Mogamishu A reasonable judgement...
Something I don't agree/sort of agree on!
"with females" immediate red flags
It’s really rare that I message on social media, excited to hear your thoughts on this! ☺️
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@@CourtneyRyan 👏🏻👏🏻
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
@@selfconflicteddating6117 I am agree with you
@@selfconflicteddating6117 Bro wtf? What's that bad about Instagram, lol?
cant believe im watching this
Ikr!!
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Yeah that's a smart move. We call it the sniper method
You make a good point about being obsessive. But why do some girls say they want an obsessed guy?
Good one! I’m always messaging women (not “girls”) I’m attracted to on IG. It’s hit & miss. Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I don’t.
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
you didint get it... Just dont talk to them
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
I took this advice and got a date set up.. thank you Courtney
How you do it and is the women very attractive?
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
She is just so soft spoken. A pure remodel on how a woman is supposed to look and act. Pure femininity that any man with true masculinity would find attractive.
When I see these videos I always feel left out.
I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps.
I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions.
Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number.
She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
"Don`t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask the fisherman"
Edit: Lmao everyone taking this seriously in the comments. I wanted to put this here mostly for memes
My cousin taught me this early, women forget that the tips they give you if there not interested in a guy that same approach never works on them if they are not interested in that guy.
@@DAllanRixxTV lol she litterally told you what she doesn’t like???
so, would you do the opposite of what she said, and cling to one girl like an orbiter, bombard her with boring messages, and kept liking her photos forever?
Any dude would warn you from doing this.
@@kaz8297 Women say they don’t like a lot things but do the opposite. How many women tell there boyfriends that they don’t like certain dudes because they are azz holes, then end up getting there backs blown out by that same dude in the break room 🤷🏾♂️ if a female is not physically attracted to a guy then she’s chances are she’s not giving him the number, unless she doesn’t want to seem mean or he makes her laugh, women are emotional beings, she may not like something one day, tomorrow she loves it.
@@DAllanRixxTV I’m just asking are you gonna do the opposite of what she said in the video bcuz that’s what y’all are implying. Unless you comment before watching the videos
She doesn’t miss!! 👏
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Happy Saturday Courtney! I don't have Instagram. I rather go meet women out there in real life
I don’t blame you! That’s the best way to do it!
@@CourtneyRyan I only have UA-cam and LinkedIn for social media related but I'm more old fashioned
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
Will you make a dating tips video for people with social disabilities (like autism) or people who are naturally very awkward?
Courtney is on a mission for the guys to make a gf online keep it going
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
Unfortunately my women viewers is only 2.6% 😂
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta
Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
Once again our friend Courtney is absolutely right. Even tho I don't care use social media.
Never ask a fish how to fish💯
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me.
Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
Pro tip: women who have their profile set to private tend to be a more serious type of woman, and less superficial, also women who don't post thirst traps and post less often, you'll have a better chance with!
The best way to meet girls still remains in-person. Online, you are just one face among dozens or hundreds of other men looking for her attention.
But in the real world, she is right there. You can get her attention just by talking to her.
Your voice made my anxiety go down, and my game level up. Congratulations🎉 (and thanks)
Hey Courtney, I love your whole vibe & energy 😊🤞🏽
Online is lame as shit. Don’t see the point in trying really hard to stand out for a girl who doesn’t even barely try to have a decent conversation with you. Meeting in person is less time waisted cause you can get to the god dam point quickly instead of waiting for her to respond to the questions like when are you free or meet me at such and such. Plus you can rely on yourself instead of figuring out how not to turn her off by texting one word incorrectly during messaging all while distracting her from 1,000s of other messages from hotter guys. Fuck social media, I’m stepping out the god dam house. I live in Cali so there are women everywhere anyway
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
Great video Courtney...
I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply.
I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
Write a comment that stands out... OK...
Your hair is always so symmetrical.
😂😂😂 thank you!
@@CourtneyRyan meaning, that's the nerdiest compliment I've ever received but thanks
Responding to her story will not assure you a conversation, it will only MIGHT assure you a response to your comment, and that's it.
Instagram also has the "chat invitation" bullshit which means, you can only message once until she has the initiative to look at your comment and talk back.
Yea i just noticed that new update too. And if they post a story or post after you message them just assume they saw it and arent interested. Its hit or miss unfortunately with dating today
I was scrolling looking for this comment
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣.
This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
Oh wow, I can't believe you even had to tell guys not to send a D pic.
Wow! I really needed this.
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thank you courtney!!!!["oh lets try to be diffrent"]
boys,"iam bowing to courtney who is helps out us as an elder sister",iam greatfull to u.
0:07-0:12 " So Instagram is one of the best places to meet people these days especially for someone that is not a fan of dating apps."
1. Instagram is a dating app
2. Girls get tons and tons of DMs from multiple dudes
3. They use Instagram for attention and validation from guys
There is literally no point of going on Instagram if you're looking for a girl. And even if you did get a girlfriend chances are that she's looking for another guy on her DMs and is just using you for her time and then she'll make some excuse like "I'm bored" or whatever. This is one of many ways of how girls get high body counts. Do not take advice from this whatsoever guys. It's for your own good.
Well, Instagram is not a place to look for relationships, but maybe it works for a hook up.
@@giannisms1861 yeah exactly. That’s all it is!
Love your content courtney, so honest and helpful
Love to hear it. Thank you 😊
I'd say its just better to not even message girls on social media unless you have actually met them in person already.
keep them on sMS for one year, if they do not trust, send them to shit
Yep. Women treat their IG followers like fans. And no one hooks up with their fans.
good luck with that lol
Hard
I tend to disagree. I feel like when you’re in different countries some girls feel safer replying cause there is no pressure in terms of meeting up or having a relationship
watched this for the first time and i'm into it! love your style, way of talking and voice! I becomes your a huge big fan! from korea
You were honest throughout the video .. thats great. Very well made video, looking professional!
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
The question is: should people that don't know how to connect and communicate be in a relationship? Wouldn't it come across as forced and unnatural, or just simply _be_ forced in the end of the day?
Your voice is soothing
I didn’t watch because I have a wonderful wife, but always happy to see your face Courtney. SEIKO IS KING !!!
I N V I C T A ! ! !
Though I'm not on Instagram nor will I ever be, I was definitely curious.
I gotta ask you something Courtney. When a random girl who doesn't follow a guy on Insta suddenly pops up in his notifications and likes 3 of his last posts, does he have to respond to that? And if yes, what does he have to do? Is there anything the girl is trying to say or imply with those 3 likes or it's just likes with no hint?
By the way, I did put some of what you said into practice and I got a reply! But of course, I was being genuine with my text and did not beat around the bush. I followed the girl, asked her a question that concerned something I saw in her bio and I got the most polite and respectful response! And please don't forget about the question I wrote above.
Courtney your skin is glowing. In April I'm jealous
Message vs. Comment? Because, there's reasons they don't check DM. There's reason comment is better imo. And remember- no one knows someone over Insta. You only know people you have met, spent time with, and continue to establish a pattern of growth and increasing virtue.
Otherwise, IG is not real life, so don't get confused. Have fun!
Also... sorry Courtney!
I let stories run their course. I reply to stories I like, sometimes. Not one that keeps track, so... I had no idea I responded to.. a few of yours.
Thankful for your videos!
And no... I'm NOT the one she mentioned. She blocked that person.
You said it, you won't get shit as a man unless you're famous.
I think she is on point with a couple things but then doesn’t really know how things are elsewhere. If you are trying to get the attention of a girl with 3k plus followers, most likely story response and direct messages are never going to get seen. I’m not sure there really is answer to getting someone’s attention with lots of followers without coming off a little strange. And I say this because there are so many people messaging these girls. Trying to engage in a simple conversation can seem like the hardest thing because you might get one reply but then they never respond again. So, it kind of stinks.
I like how Courtney advices to move on if the girl is not interested on us.
Hope you make someday a video of how to talk with women for introvert men.
Talk when? Initial approach? First date?
Honestly, keeping it simple, direct, honest, respectful and with a touch of humor goes a long way. As an introvert myself the best advice I could give you is don't overthink it and be yourself. If she likes you and you like her it will be surprisingly easy.
How would she know? You'd be better off talking to an introverted guy that talks to a lot of women, right?
@@Jukeboxster agreed. Women will never get how it is, why would they? What do you want to know’? Introverted guy game 101?
this is great tips i got layed doing this :) change approch do not talk about sex ... dont send dp, Be real. be honst, communinate it will work out eventually
Messaging her story is a good idea. Is it weird to message their story if you not following her on instagram? Or follow, then message. May be discuss in a Part 2 or 3 of this topic.
@ 5:50 all the men are sliding in! It's a catalog for you!😂
Courtney with another banger vid 👍
COURTNEY RYAN A CLASS ACT IN HER FIELD !
What should my Instagram profile look like if she looks at it? Or should I basically consider it my dating profile for the most part?
Totally up to you! Make it your own. It should be a reflection of who you are and what you’re into :)
I get that girls LOVE social media, thing is most guys HATE social media.
Totally understandable lol
Another daily vido! Wow Ryan
Wooo!
Courtney I saved this video thanks Courtney I was having trouble messaging girls but with this advice I can improve 😎 thanks Courtney your the best 😎🔥
Hope this helps ☺️
Haha proper cringe, get a life. She’s too polite to say it but I’ll do it for her
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
Thanks, Courtney, I've been watching your vids since December time last year and they've been very helpful. So thank you very much! :D
Yay! Glad to hear it ❤️
Courtney, do more people message on instagram than on dating apps nowadays ?
Hey Courtney, great video. Could you please do a video about colour co-ordinating. How to match colours. Can I wear black denim with brown leather shoes, or why shouldn't we wear navy with black, or what colours are most versatile for summer?
You are so cool and honest, thanks for the video
Courtney I guess I am slow or I missed something entirely here b/c I had no idea Instagram was being used as a side dating/meeting app, this explains a lot of other thoughts I had about Instagram but I usually just use mine from time to time to post pictures. Thanks for the helpful info, definitely appreciated!
Love that expression : "southern region" (must be an American thing ... lol :)
I was trying to keep it classy 😂
@@CourtneyRyan Another version is "south of the Equator".
For everyone reading this comment, I wish you endless happiness and success. May all your wishes come true. GOD BLESS and Stay Strong 💪🏼 🙏🏼 ❤️
Found this video after I texted a girl on insta. Funny.
Courtney Ryan giving the secret sauce, I need some of that yhhhh
I have been reading the comments . Manys of you guys are saying that these advices will work only if you are a Chad or good-looking .
Lets be real , If you look 100 kilos and ugly , how can you expect to even have a good-looking girl by your side ?
I used to be morbidly Obese and depressed throughout my teenage years . So I worked my ass off and became a fucking monster . Both in the Gym and in my career . Hard work and consistency is key . Believe in yourself .
Talking to girls comes later . Improve yourself , focus on your career . WORK WORK WORK .
Take it easy , be slow , be steady, you will achieve your goals . Just take action .
I changed my life . I'm so good-looking , even I didn't know (not being cocky) . People compliment me so often now . My confidence is at an all time high .
Love yourself , women will love you too .
Then wok on your social skills . Don't fucking be a lazy bastard . I play games , enjoy my life . But I develop essential skills as well .
FIRST : CHANGE YOURSELF , BE A MONSTER
THEN LEARN TO SOCIALIZE , OR THE OTHER WAY AROUND .
TAKE FUCKING CONTROL MY SOLDIERS . THERE IS HOPE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS HELL . TRUST ME .
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On Instagram she ignore simps but reply to me in seconds , she has to trust you and know you to be interested in you
It worked for me I slid in the DMs asked to get coffee and now have a girlfriend of 4 years!
How you do it? Was she very attractive? And did she live in your city?
@@zziz6137 same hometown actually went to high school together but had both been away at college for a while. So knew each other but not super well
Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.
Thanks for this. Appreciate your content.
Folks! just saying Hello to someone, is NOT desperate ok? and if you didnt get a respond, you have every right to ask to know why no respond.
It is RUDE if you get a message and not respond back.... so if you got a message please RESPOND! thanks!
Hey courtney. recently ive been dm'ing a girl and she seems interested, i asked her out for a coffee and she said ''Yeah, seems fun!. But im very busy lately got exams soon but after that we can go.'' Is that a good sign or a bad sign. And she sends dry replies but in a good way, she is just a dry texter probably but she doesnt mean it that dry. She even sent me an happy birthday message today. She is interested right?
She’s into you, play it cool yo
@@Intelligent_Ministry aightt what should i do, any tips?
@@iElia don’t seem too needy , play it cool . Find out when exams are over don’t, text her too much and don’t put her as a top priority. Set up a date after the exam 🙂 Keep talking to other women , good luck
@@Intelligent_Ministry aight, so I should stop texting her? Till we go to the date?
@@iElia I would say you don’t need to text her every day but keep the momentum if it’s already rolling ! Check out based zues on youtube
Your voice is lovely 😌
Courtney Ryan is 🔥.
Well on Instagram I have so many follow me then like every post I have made, always some young woman and majority are just trying to scam me, so beware if a pretty woman or someone who famous DMs you on IG. I do appreciate your information.
Step 1: HAVE an Instagram.
Step 2: Listen to Courtney
Step 3: Repeat first two steps.
Conditions apply.
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I studied 4 years of Chemistry and Endocrinology at University and they were wayy easier than all.this dating and messaging instructions and rules to follow.
Much needed video, thank you so much Courtney!!