NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
"Don`t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask the fisherman" Edit: Lmao everyone taking this seriously in the comments. I wanted to put this here mostly for memes
My cousin taught me this early, women forget that the tips they give you if there not interested in a guy that same approach never works on them if they are not interested in that guy.
so, would you do the opposite of what she said, and cling to one girl like an orbiter, bombard her with boring messages, and kept liking her photos forever? Any dude would warn you from doing this.
@@kaz8297 Women say they don’t like a lot things but do the opposite. How many women tell there boyfriends that they don’t like certain dudes because they are azz holes, then end up getting there backs blown out by that same dude in the break room 🤷🏾♂️ if a female is not physically attracted to a guy then she’s chances are she’s not giving him the number, unless she doesn’t want to seem mean or he makes her laugh, women are emotional beings, she may not like something one day, tomorrow she loves it.
@@DAllanRixxTV I’m just asking are you gonna do the opposite of what she said in the video bcuz that’s what y’all are implying. Unless you comment before watching the videos
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages. Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation. And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc. I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes... So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa... It's to bad really.. Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣. This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
Online is lame as shit. Don’t see the point in trying really hard to stand out for a girl who doesn’t even barely try to have a decent conversation with you. Meeting in person is less time waisted cause you can get to the god dam point quickly instead of waiting for her to respond to the questions like when are you free or meet me at such and such. Plus you can rely on yourself instead of figuring out how not to turn her off by texting one word incorrectly during messaging all while distracting her from 1,000s of other messages from hotter guys. Fuck social media, I’m stepping out the god dam house. I live in Cali so there are women everywhere anyway
Great video Courtney... I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply. I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
Responding to her story will not assure you a conversation, it will only MIGHT assure you a response to your comment, and that's it. Instagram also has the "chat invitation" bullshit which means, you can only message once until she has the initiative to look at your comment and talk back.
Yea i just noticed that new update too. And if they post a story or post after you message them just assume they saw it and arent interested. Its hit or miss unfortunately with dating today
When I see these videos I always feel left out. I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps. I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions. Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number. She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
Pro tip: women who have their profile set to private tend to be a more serious type of woman, and less superficial, also women who don't post thirst traps and post less often, you'll have a better chance with!
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
I think she is on point with a couple things but then doesn’t really know how things are elsewhere. If you are trying to get the attention of a girl with 3k plus followers, most likely story response and direct messages are never going to get seen. I’m not sure there really is answer to getting someone’s attention with lots of followers without coming off a little strange. And I say this because there are so many people messaging these girls. Trying to engage in a simple conversation can seem like the hardest thing because you might get one reply but then they never respond again. So, it kind of stinks.
The best way to meet girls still remains in-person. Online, you are just one face among dozens or hundreds of other men looking for her attention. But in the real world, she is right there. You can get her attention just by talking to her.
The question is: should people that don't know how to connect and communicate be in a relationship? Wouldn't it come across as forced and unnatural, or just simply _be_ forced in the end of the day?
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
I tend to disagree. I feel like when you’re in different countries some girls feel safer replying cause there is no pressure in terms of meeting up or having a relationship
I do have a question, why does a girl accept your follow but won't followback? or she has a boyfriend but still will accept you and followback? I am just wondering cuz it's wierd
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Courtney you seem like someone who really cares. But lets be real women dont message guys on ig unless there attracted to you. i only add women i actually meet in person. I have had like 12 plus this year and not 1 has gotten back and when i see them again at the place i met them i just ignore them. I'm not going to hound a woman for her attention. I will dm them 1 time an if i get no reply she is in my rear view mirror. My time is valuable and to be respected
Message vs. Comment? Because, there's reasons they don't check DM. There's reason comment is better imo. And remember- no one knows someone over Insta. You only know people you have met, spent time with, and continue to establish a pattern of growth and increasing virtue. Otherwise, IG is not real life, so don't get confused. Have fun!
Also... sorry Courtney! I let stories run their course. I reply to stories I like, sometimes. Not one that keeps track, so... I had no idea I responded to.. a few of yours. Thankful for your videos!
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
Never had an Instagram, however I’m very curious about the long distance relationship situation. I can understand the issues with living in different states, but what about a situation when it comes to work? For example I served in the Army for 6 years, and now it’s a truck driver, I’m actually working in the oilfields in Oklahoma but I live in Texas, on my days off I go back home. Whenever you do make a video about the long distance situation, hopefully you don’t use your 1 bad experience to judge it. Most of the guys I work with have wife’s and kids and we are out several weeks at a time so it’s not impossible. I’m curious on what your take on the long distance situation.
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.
I'm starting to realize pursuing women online is not really worth it. It's easier to hit on them, but because it's easier, everyone else is also doing it. I guess I have a couple of rule of thumbs as of recently. Only add her if you've RECENTLY met her in person. And this one is more from my personal opinion, if she also has her profile set to private and doesn't have more than a few hundred followers.
I dm'd her a repost of one of her own posts mentioning a spot I've never seen in all the years I've been living in the same city, but, that was it. Other than that, I introduced myself appropriately. Whether she's seen them or not, she hasn't responded, and I haven't been bombarding her with more messages. I've been liking some of her present posts and she's been responding back pretty well. Her email is already provided in her bio. Do you think emailing her would be a good idea? I'm really fond of her.
Hi Courtney, I currently use Tiege Hanley for my skincare routine and follow it very closely. Is this a good brand to use or is there something else you would suggest?
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
I'm fairly certain girls are the broken ones. Jokes aside, it really does feel like this ridiculous charade to get a girl to like you simply doesn't work as nature appears to intend-particularly in modern society. Of course, we (men) shouldn't be trying to convince women to like us; we should have the frame of mind where she needs to convince us to like her. My suspicion is that social media has granted far too many men the pleasures of instant gratification and easy access to images of women with the effect of diminishing our own inward value. "I'm already good enough to see these things; why won't women like me?" Perhaps a bit hyperbolic, but no doubt that has played an effect. What irritates me most, however, is that the hard work that is important to a lot of men is frequently not appreciated by women. I have put in many, many hours of weight lifting and training in hopes or competing in body building (all natural, too). Girls don't openly appreciate it. I literally get more compliments from straight men than women. sometimes the same dudes will compliment my physique twice, back-to-back (borderline gay, if you ask me).
This isn't as difficult as people think it is. Really. It goes like this:"Hi. This is Henry Cavill." The ONLY setback to this is if you're NOT Henry Cavill.
I know the girl and she has message me before she hasn't seen it but its been a bit before we talked she has a boyfriend but wanted to be friends she fallows me but I don't know why she hasn't looked at it I hope she isn't mad or ignoring me maybe she's busy.but I had to delete the ones she hasn't seen
I do all the stuff you said to do and ya I do get responses from girls sometime but I struggle to lead the conversation from there. Do make video on that too.
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
Well on Instagram I have so many follow me then like every post I have made, always some young woman and majority are just trying to scam me, so beware if a pretty woman or someone who famous DMs you on IG. I do appreciate your information.
Don't wanna offend you, but you totally give tips from a female point of view and these tips will only get the guys friendzoned. That's not how's done. P.S. the only reason I am here it is because I found it interesting to see what a female thinks they actually want.
But @courtney , no matter how creatively we respond to her story to gain attention girls always judge you on basis of number of your followers too ! So you need to be popular too according to them ! Girls want everything more in life 🤨😏
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me. Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
I just stopped messaging women all together, it’s get to their head too much, even the average at best chicks think they’re doing better, too many simps making them think they’re better than they really are.
NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
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"if she doesn't respond" you mean, "they" because all of them never respond
Yes a simp does that
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
Exactly
Girls have thousands of dm’s that they don’t even read while most guys have 0 dm’s and we’re just waiting for at least 1. Life ain’t fair
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
I think we all as a collective just want somone to love us and look at us the way we look at them
God i feel alone sometimes... i guess i'll keep play piano to cheere me up
Quality >> Quantity
At least that's what I keep telling myself
@@the12gage37 definitely but when you’re speaking to no one then it’s quantity over quality
If she doesn’t respond to your dm, you go for her friends. Stay toxic kings 👑👑👑
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Then unsend the message you sent to the previous girl, evidence erased 😈
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
😂😂😂
@@mharrtj6350 😂
I think a good general rule of thumb is to avoid messaging girls you haven’t met and interacted with in person. As always, great tips Courtney.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
@@GEORGIOARCADE Yeah I’m not a fan of online dating because your first interact is virtual through messaging. But I know it works for some people.
What about us dudes trapped in lockdown then?
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
basically you move on to being alone and talking to nobody, because that is how it happens
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88 Just chat to every girl and hope you hit one.
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88it’s a number game
Wise words
You have been posting like a champ! Congratulations on the channel’s growth and thanks for helping us knuckleheads.
Thank you so much! Happy to help 🥰
Don’t self-deprecate man, if you’re a knucklehead, we aren’t. Be confident and embrace learning.
@@y_p7 overconfidence
@@y_p7 bro a knucklehead isn’t a bad thing 😂😂 your just emotionally soft
@@y_p7 self depreciation is key
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
Me slides in her DM's: "Hi"
Her: "Sorry do I know you?"
You see the message notification and you get all happy only to read the message and be put down so hard 😂😂😂
@@jaysibiri yoooo😯☠️
She probably gets thousands of dms saying “hi“ be different
Just respond "Would u want to? I would"
Then I’d just reply with “ ofcourse not... but I’m tryna get to know you though “ see what happens then
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
"Don`t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask the fisherman"
Edit: Lmao everyone taking this seriously in the comments. I wanted to put this here mostly for memes
My cousin taught me this early, women forget that the tips they give you if there not interested in a guy that same approach never works on them if they are not interested in that guy.
@@DAllanRixxTV lol she litterally told you what she doesn’t like???
so, would you do the opposite of what she said, and cling to one girl like an orbiter, bombard her with boring messages, and kept liking her photos forever?
Any dude would warn you from doing this.
@@kaz8297 Women say they don’t like a lot things but do the opposite. How many women tell there boyfriends that they don’t like certain dudes because they are azz holes, then end up getting there backs blown out by that same dude in the break room 🤷🏾♂️ if a female is not physically attracted to a guy then she’s chances are she’s not giving him the number, unless she doesn’t want to seem mean or he makes her laugh, women are emotional beings, she may not like something one day, tomorrow she loves it.
@@DAllanRixxTV I’m just asking are you gonna do the opposite of what she said in the video bcuz that’s what y’all are implying. Unless you comment before watching the videos
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages.
Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation.
And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
@Carlos The Boss don't resent anyone, it's not healthy
wwooo u sound wise!!!!
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc.
I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes...
So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa...
It's to bad really..
Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
I also noticed women who have their profile set to private tend to me more of a serious type of woman.
@@joaquin67 ↑This is 157% TRUE!
Oh wow, I can't believe you even had to tell guys not to send a D pic.
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
100% smesh rate
@@alnuedling1519 brother i was driving when I read your comment and almost crushed my car laughing. Hahahaha
Time to smash! Lol
@@Lucasllns tyramisu time
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The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
Seems like a lot of effort for a low probability of reward. You're better off just cold approaching 100 women.
@@Jukeboxster what? It's like 3 seconds. You make a joke and wait. After she messages you it's the same as texting any other girl.
@@Teamshmo if it's working for you, more power to you
Seems cool , imma try it.
The rizzler
thanks for not being a shittalker like many other “dating” channels out there
cant believe im watching this
Ikr!!
I've been smiling while watching this knowing that Im doing it right. The Courtney style. Hahaha
Great video!
- The guy who sent over 500 messages rn:
“Yeah I got finally noticed” 😂
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
It’s definitely easier with an in person connection lol
@@CourtneyRyan only if the guy is tall and white. If he is short and not white, he is better off not trying.
@@Mogamishu No.
@@Mogamishu A reasonable judgement...
Something I don't agree/sort of agree on!
"with females" immediate red flags
Will you make a dating tips video for people with social disabilities (like autism) or people who are naturally very awkward?
It’s really rare that I message on social media, excited to hear your thoughts on this! ☺️
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@@CourtneyRyan 👏🏻👏🏻
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
@@selfconflicteddating6117 I am agree with you
@@selfconflicteddating6117 Bro wtf? What's that bad about Instagram, lol?
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
Good one! I’m always messaging women (not “girls”) I’m attracted to on IG. It’s hit & miss. Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I don’t.
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣.
This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
Online is lame as shit. Don’t see the point in trying really hard to stand out for a girl who doesn’t even barely try to have a decent conversation with you. Meeting in person is less time waisted cause you can get to the god dam point quickly instead of waiting for her to respond to the questions like when are you free or meet me at such and such. Plus you can rely on yourself instead of figuring out how not to turn her off by texting one word incorrectly during messaging all while distracting her from 1,000s of other messages from hotter guys. Fuck social media, I’m stepping out the god dam house. I live in Cali so there are women everywhere anyway
I get that girls LOVE social media, thing is most guys HATE social media.
Totally understandable lol
Great video Courtney...
I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply.
I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
Courtney is on a mission for the guys to make a gf online keep it going
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
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Your hair is always so symmetrical.
😂😂😂 thank you!
@@CourtneyRyan meaning, that's the nerdiest compliment I've ever received but thanks
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
you didint get it... Just dont talk to them
Responding to her story will not assure you a conversation, it will only MIGHT assure you a response to your comment, and that's it.
Instagram also has the "chat invitation" bullshit which means, you can only message once until she has the initiative to look at your comment and talk back.
Yea i just noticed that new update too. And if they post a story or post after you message them just assume they saw it and arent interested. Its hit or miss unfortunately with dating today
I was scrolling looking for this comment
When I see these videos I always feel left out.
I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps.
I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions.
Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number.
She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
I'd say its just better to not even message girls on social media unless you have actually met them in person already.
keep them on sMS for one year, if they do not trust, send them to shit
Yep. Women treat their IG followers like fans. And no one hooks up with their fans.
good luck with that lol
Hard
Pro tip: women who have their profile set to private tend to be a more serious type of woman, and less superficial, also women who don't post thirst traps and post less often, you'll have a better chance with!
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
I think she is on point with a couple things but then doesn’t really know how things are elsewhere. If you are trying to get the attention of a girl with 3k plus followers, most likely story response and direct messages are never going to get seen. I’m not sure there really is answer to getting someone’s attention with lots of followers without coming off a little strange. And I say this because there are so many people messaging these girls. Trying to engage in a simple conversation can seem like the hardest thing because you might get one reply but then they never respond again. So, it kind of stinks.
Happy Saturday Courtney! I don't have Instagram. I rather go meet women out there in real life
I don’t blame you! That’s the best way to do it!
@@CourtneyRyan I only have UA-cam and LinkedIn for social media related but I'm more old fashioned
The best way to meet girls still remains in-person. Online, you are just one face among dozens or hundreds of other men looking for her attention.
But in the real world, she is right there. You can get her attention just by talking to her.
The question is: should people that don't know how to connect and communicate be in a relationship? Wouldn't it come across as forced and unnatural, or just simply _be_ forced in the end of the day?
Wow! I really needed this.
👏🏼👏🏼
Though I'm not on Instagram nor will I ever be, I was definitely curious.
Uninstall IG. There. Fixed.
never talk to girls on instagram! period. Don’t text girls unless it’s for setting a date. Keep it short and factual!
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
I tend to disagree. I feel like when you’re in different countries some girls feel safer replying cause there is no pressure in terms of meeting up or having a relationship
For everyone reading this comment, I wish you endless happiness and success. May all your wishes come true. GOD BLESS and Stay Strong 💪🏼 🙏🏼 ❤️
You are so cool and honest, thanks for the video
Never ever comment on her photos . 🙏🏻.
Rather compliment her in DM ...
You make a good point about being obsessive. But why do some girls say they want an obsessed guy?
I can’t believe I clicked on this video
I do have a question, why does a girl accept your follow but won't followback? or she has a boyfriend but still will accept you and followback? I am just wondering cuz it's wierd
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Yeah that's a smart move. We call it the sniper method
What should my Instagram profile look like if she looks at it? Or should I basically consider it my dating profile for the most part?
Totally up to you! Make it your own. It should be a reflection of who you are and what you’re into :)
@ 5:50 all the men are sliding in! It's a catalog for you!😂
Courtney you seem like someone who really cares. But lets be real women dont message guys on ig unless there attracted to you. i only add women i actually meet in person. I have had like 12 plus this year and not 1 has gotten back and when i see them again at the place i met them i just ignore them. I'm not going to hound a woman for her attention. I will dm them 1 time an if i get no reply she is in my rear view mirror. My time is valuable and to be respected
I don't know why my girl don't reply me she sometimes reply after a very long time of that message
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish!!
I took this advice and got a date set up.. thank you Courtney
How you do it and is the women very attractive?
Message vs. Comment? Because, there's reasons they don't check DM. There's reason comment is better imo. And remember- no one knows someone over Insta. You only know people you have met, spent time with, and continue to establish a pattern of growth and increasing virtue.
Otherwise, IG is not real life, so don't get confused. Have fun!
Also... sorry Courtney!
I let stories run their course. I reply to stories I like, sometimes. Not one that keeps track, so... I had no idea I responded to.. a few of yours.
Thankful for your videos!
And no... I'm NOT the one she mentioned. She blocked that person.
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
COURTNEY🌹🐞🐙🏆=LADY C__G.O.A.T.🐐___BLACC🌘🌘CAT#))
I don't use social media or dating apps. They are a waste of time, and if you have to shell out money for it, then that's a waste as well.
I hate how people live virtual lives on their phone in modern times.
Courtney with another banger vid 👍
Found this video after I texted a girl on insta. Funny.
Don't have instagram and just deleted facebook. Social media is a waste of time imo
Never had an Instagram, however I’m very curious about the long distance relationship situation. I can understand the issues with living in different states, but what about a situation when it comes to work? For example I served in the Army for 6 years, and now it’s a truck driver, I’m actually working in the oilfields in Oklahoma but I live in Texas, on my days off I go back home. Whenever you do make a video about the long distance situation, hopefully you don’t use your 1 bad experience to judge it. Most of the guys I work with have wife’s and kids and we are out several weeks at a time so it’s not impossible. I’m curious on what your take on the long distance situation.
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.
You said it, you won't get shit as a man unless you're famous.
Who else here because don’t want to messed up 😭💀
Fr what if she knows where am going 😂
There is no right or wrong literally every girl is different don’t just send d pics or be dry responding with one word replies
@@firstdown3660 agreed.
The guy who sent all those messages watching this like >:( hahahaha
I'm starting to realize pursuing women online is not really worth it. It's easier to hit on them, but because it's easier, everyone else is also doing it. I guess I have a couple of rule of thumbs as of recently. Only add her if you've RECENTLY met her in person. And this one is more from my personal opinion, if she also has her profile set to private and doesn't have more than a few hundred followers.
Love your content courtney, so honest and helpful
Love to hear it. Thank you 😊
I dm'd her a repost of one of her own posts mentioning a spot I've never seen in all the years I've been living in the same city, but, that was it. Other than that, I introduced myself appropriately. Whether she's seen them or not, she hasn't responded, and I haven't been bombarding her with more messages. I've been liking some of her present posts and she's been responding back pretty well. Her email is already provided in her bio. Do you think emailing her would be a good idea? I'm really fond of her.
Your voice is soothing
Hi Courtney,
I currently use Tiege Hanley for my skincare routine and follow it very closely. Is this a good brand to use or is there something else you would suggest?
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
I'm fairly certain girls are the broken ones.
Jokes aside, it really does feel like this ridiculous charade to get a girl to like you simply doesn't work as nature appears to intend-particularly in modern society. Of course, we (men) shouldn't be trying to convince women to like us; we should have the frame of mind where she needs to convince us to like her.
My suspicion is that social media has granted far too many men the pleasures of instant gratification and easy access to images of women with the effect of diminishing our own inward value. "I'm already good enough to see these things; why won't women like me?"
Perhaps a bit hyperbolic, but no doubt that has played an effect.
What irritates me most, however, is that the hard work that is important to a lot of men is frequently not appreciated by women. I have put in many, many hours of weight lifting and training in hopes or competing in body building (all natural, too). Girls don't openly appreciate it. I literally get more compliments from straight men than women. sometimes the same dudes will compliment my physique twice, back-to-back (borderline gay, if you ask me).
Facts 😂😂 regardless fk them their loss!! Always value yourself
Best part.. She might reply to get money fr you 🤑🤑
Hey Courtney what is your favorite thing to da as a kid😅💙
This isn't as difficult as people think it is. Really. It goes like this:"Hi. This is Henry Cavill."
The ONLY setback to this is if you're NOT Henry Cavill.
Thanks for the advice❤️
Happy to help!
I know the girl and she has message me before she hasn't seen it but its been a bit before we talked she has a boyfriend but wanted to be friends she fallows me but I don't know why she hasn't looked at it I hope she isn't mad or ignoring me maybe she's busy.but I had to delete the ones she hasn't seen
I do all the stuff you said to do and ya I do get responses from girls sometime but I struggle to lead the conversation from there. Do make video on that too.
can't do IG. that's just me
I totally get it
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
Unfortunately my women viewers is only 2.6% 😂
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta
Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
Well on Instagram I have so many follow me then like every post I have made, always some young woman and majority are just trying to scam me, so beware if a pretty woman or someone who famous DMs you on IG. I do appreciate your information.
Don't wanna offend you, but you totally give tips from a female point of view and these tips will only get the guys friendzoned. That's not how's done. P.S. the only reason I am here it is because I found it interesting to see what a female thinks they actually want.
Another daily vido! Wow Ryan
Wooo!
But @courtney , no matter how creatively we respond to her story to gain attention girls always judge you on basis of number of your followers too ! So you need to be popular too according to them ! Girls want everything more in life 🤨😏
1.) How to talk to girls on Instagram
2.) Don’t
Guys best advice DON'T MESS WITH THESE INSTAGRAM GIRLS not every woman is on IG only the ones that seek attention
Is 584 to many followers?
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me.
Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
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elementary nerd! hahaha!
I just stopped messaging women all together, it’s get to their head too much, even the average at best chicks think they’re doing better, too many simps making them think they’re better than they really are.
Why not send a picture of yourself? Because she is gonna get evil with it???!!!!