This is for me:(Thx Courtney btw) Tips on messaging girls: #1: Be more creative than just saying hey. #2: Try to find things in common. #3: Ask some questions ( have some interest in getting to know her) #4: Get her number and set up for meeting or a date.
A lot of women feel like they don’t need to put in effort. They probably still get responses even though all they say is hey - online dating is much easier for women unfortunately. As much as that sucks, it’s 100% true!
@@CourtneyRyan That’s very true, it depends on who I’m talking to as well. Becomes much easier when the other person is putting in effort as well! Yay, looking forward to it :)
I think the major problem with the apps is their cultured expectations for romance / sex "Find your flame". Dating is really about meeting new people you otherwise would not. So it's fun talking to people and sharing life stories. I've made great friends, but I've talked to lots of scared people afraid to be vulnerable for fear of feeling exploited again. My only gripe is with the economics of the app game. Males footing the bill. Prices being rather gouging and exploiting FOMO psychology.
Finally a guy in the comment section who gets it. Most of the men here turn into simps the minute they see Courtney. But taking dating advice from women in this day and age is like taking driving lessons from a blind man
@@oliverford5367 You wait it out. All you are doing is inflating their egos my man and wasting time. Try to level up yourself till the state you live in opens back up.
I know this is a bit off topic, but I feel like I owe you so much. You've helped me boost my self esteem, I was in a very dark place, got into drugs, thought about taking my own life several times. It was a struggle even at a young age, dealing with ADHD, feeling disrespected and down all the time, fights with family, getting mentally and physically abused by classmates. I can't even describe how thankful I am, your advice and help means so much and I wish I could meet you and say this in person, but everything still stands. I am much better now, it got to a point where I can finally sleep at night, without having thoughts, without any stress. Depression is in the past and it makes me proud saying I managed to overcome that phase, but I couldn't have done it without you. You deserve the best, keep grinding, this is just the beginning, I expect and wish much more in the near future. Once again, thank you so much, and I'm forever grateful for giving me the strength I didn't know I needed. I'm literally crying right now, appreciate you to the fullest and the world needs more people like you 🙂
🥲🥺 this is so special to me. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear this and what you’ve been able to overcome. I hope my channel always feels like a positive and uplifting place for you to keep being the best you that you can be! I am rooting for you and so happy you’re here! ❤️❤️❤️ hugs!!
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you for replying to him Courtney. That is sweet of you, and he feels special that you replied. Have a good weekend and Valentines Day! :)
@@sinjon Thank you so much, I keep repeating myself but it means everything to me. Glad to be able to share this story and maybe even inspire people to do something great. Stay blessed and have a nice day as well
Messaging girls is always a challenge, mostly miss than hits. So thanks for sending us good tips and guidance to use this technique wisely. It definitely helps when there is something in common like enjoying similar things, since that’s a great way to start up a conversation and getting to know one another. Keep up the good work! 👍
It's amazing how hard it is to keep a girl interested! Women don't care about men's struggles, they just hang at the finish line and pick the winner. Keep it up gentlemen and focus on yourselves and women will naturally come around.
Courtney should do a video where she creates a non-supermodel male profile and messages girls using these techniques. I would love to see her reaction to the response rate she will get even with all of these rules followed
Yeah, this is good basic advice. Dating apps have definitely created a problem in that we've developed the mentality that there's always someone better because you end up matching with so many people. It was easier when we set up dates with those in closest proximity.
Really appreciate the comment about us being able to be picky, we can so often put girls on a pedestal and forget that not every girl is going to be right for us. Thanks Courtney as usual for the great vid ❤️🇦🇺
The most frustrating part about all this is the W who hit you up because they’re interested but CANNOT have a conversation and respond with Short responses and then when you take it as them not being attracted and you leave them alone then they hit you up wondering what happened. 🤦🏽♂️
Really good video! Its really rare to actually get good advice from a woman on how to succesfully approach other woman. You find the right words to describe this kinda balanced way on how to show enough and honest interest without looking too needy.
Coffee and a a new video from Courtney, the perfect combination for chilling for 10mins. Also, would you make a video of clothes that you think that might be on trend on 2021? I've seen a lot of changes on the fit (more related to jeans) so it would be amazing. Keep going!
What I don't really understand, is when a woman shows her interest first and write you a message, but after your reply, do not answer anymore. I had such situations several times. It cannot be true that I did something wrong. My communicational skills are not so bad based on my experience with other women. What is wrong with these ones?
Really practical video Courtney! Question: From what you’ve heard, how do girls view someone who doesn’t have a social media account? Does it make a guy seem strange, creepy, or secretive? Asking for a friend 😅
@@CourtneyRyan Well, I am that guy that does not have social media accounts To be honest, I would say that girls that think a guy is weird for not having social media accounts are too superficial, I am not saying it because I don’t have social media and I am trying to defend myself 😂 But if you think about it, from a logical point of view, it does not make any sense I believe they think that the guy is hiding something or the guy is insecure and does not have confidence, but at least on my case, I do not consider myself like that If a had a partner and she has social media I would respect it, so I would expect the same from her
I’ve been on Hinge for the last two weeks and have worked hard to craft each message to each individual woman I message, and still I haven’t gotten one single “like” since the first day I joined. Really want to believe that online dating is not all just garbage, but personal experience is leading me to that conclusion pretty fast.
It's not about the girls. It's all about you, become the best version of yourself (fitness, health, finances, emotional IQ, communication skills, hygiene, dressing, confidence); then they will be messaging you.
Thank you, Courtney for your statements. The combination of what you are saying and how you say it, gives me a good trigger to focus on the high quality woman, and avoid the LSE (low self esteem) woman.
You’re the best at giving fans the content they ask for. I, probably along with many others, asked for this type of video a couple weeks ago. I get matches on Tinder fairly often but a lot of them never reply to my messages. Hopefully your advice pays off!
Hoenslty I don’t like taking tips from girls and women because they genuinely don’t even know what they want themselves however I do wanna say that I like ur videos because u seem genuine, and I like ur voice because is relaxing, not to mention that u seem quite mature, most girls taht are young just want the bad boy and then cry when the bad boy leave them, I am glad I found ur channel
Commonly given advice but nice to hear it reaffirmed by you. Before I took a break from online dating, the toughest women to message were ones with no meaningful text in their profile and no pictures with any activity beyond posing for a picture. I'd still manage to come up with a general question to ask if the profile gave me nothing but I can see a lot of guys just giving up and saying "Hey."
Another tip would be to text her as though you already know her (not in a creepy way). Much of that will come from tips 2 & 3. You're doing awesomely @Courtney Ryan. Big fan of your channel. Bless you!
I actually hugely disagree. On dating apps, you can basically say nothing (as long as you’re super attractive) when you match and she will then try her best to start something. I know that from personal experience, I had really mediocre photos that only showed casual everyday stuff. Then, I put photos that showcased my body, status and whatnot, and matches went 20x and girls were the ones messaging me first (usually saying the dumbest shit). I also realised that attractive girls have no game of their own when THEY are pursuing you, which is funny but not so attractive. Good work Courtney, but this video could’ve clarified that a bit. Rant over
bingo! you can text all you want, if she isnt into you, nothing you can do. and i can confirm them having 0 game. some send a wave emoji, some ask stupid shit. None of that would fly if it was a guy. This video is useful if she is into you to begin with so guys dont fuck up with silly shit.
@@wowomah6194 it’s simple dog. Females never had to do anything to get male attention besides beauty. It is what is. We get baffled at how much work we do, and how bad they are when they try to initiate like a male 😂
@@mastermindwick7356 True, but then there are those women who are real go-getters who know how to initiate and it blows my mind when I meet them from time to time. They're very rare and when you meet them...of course they already have like 50 men who think they like them because they're such big flirts
Courtney has a good sense of humour!, it is smooth but hits correctly on our the brain cells correctly and sparks the mind up!😆 Ithink she persuade it from her father!🙏
Fellas, for getting her off the app, here's a message that's worked for me a couple of times: "Can we move this conversation to texts? Every time I open this app, it immediately shows me another girl's profile, and I would rather not have that happen when I'm just wanting to talk to you."
these definitely are very helpful and can be effective, but don't expect a response back, and if she does don't keep your hopes high. I've tried texting many girls with a message that isn't generic but most of them never opened it. the ones that responded ended up ghosting me even when I tried escalating the conversation. anyways... good luck everyone.
1. dont just say hey 2. find the commonality 3. ask a question (if you just say hey you are hot, what'd she reply? nothing) 4. be direct, get her off the app, she's constantly getting msg, she is more likely to talk to you if you waive. get her phone number to ask for a date or set an appointment. Claim the first date
I don't have time to craft messages to each girl when half of them don't reply anyway, no matter if I just say hi or I come up with something the response rate is about the same, if she sends hi back then I craft something, much more efficent IMO
Or just ask: do you want kids, sex before relationship, knowing others when you gonna know and want work with the one and look how men looks outside not the personality first. If she say yes, that's wrong answer and say then next to her this was here, good luck to your life
I’m not on dating apps lol I was speaking from experience from when I was on them a couple years ago but even now guys will message me on instagram and just say “hey” haha
Courtney was right. I thought maybe trying yo have a dialogue on hinder would make me look too thirsty verses the short and sweet… hey, pizza Thursday? But because I asked a question about her profile we are talking and have traction and something to talk about when we meet up for the first time. Thank you Courtney.
“Hey” or “hi” problem is guys are normally sending out like a bazillion messages a day in hopes to get a catch, so they’re not gonna spend a whole lot of time on a single profile.
I find dating apps easy cause its short term messaging and not too hard. Texting over a week or throughout your day is much more stressful haha. Can you do a video about texting?
Until superficiality and physical attraction is removed as primary instinctual requirement, all the words in a text or email means crud for most (like you said your advice applies to "some" not most).
The key is exposure. Putting yourself in a position to be around a lot of females your own age. used to be very very easy to find "dateable" ladies. Not so much anymore. We all know why but no will say it
If you want to debunk the theories that Courtney has put here, simply put up a PSEUDO profile with a guy that is VERY good looking. One pic, and no words. First day, you'll have 788 likes and 433 emails. No words. They're the ones that will email you. While some of this advice is sound, I'm curious as to how you get the girl to actually READ your message. I've sent some of the wittiest emails (when they say they have a sense of humor), and the message goes completely unread. Period.
What do you think about sending a voice message first because it's hard to get someones personality without their voice for some if that makes sense. Thanks Courtney happy Valentine's Day!
ask 1 queastion either get ignored or abused. for not knowing already. yet you got put down. you then have to be polite. in answering. after rejected/ and if stand off get more abuse. im 44 im more than happy alone saving for my retirement. living a life i can afford.. all be it alone.. easier than justifying myself just to say hello
Also don't forget fellas be attractive looking ;) or....at least make yourself look like you are with high quality resolution interesting photos lol or none this advice will get you anywhere.
Hello Courtney, I have watched several clips and just noticed I haven’t subscribed so I just did. I do enjoy listening to you. You give great advice. Your voice is intoxicating.
They never give any example of open question that would lead a long conversation because that type of questions never exist And if u find that question u would ask her then she would end up with yes or no if they are not interested in you...🙂
Hey @Courtney Ryan, could you give some tips on getting someone's number without coming off as needy or desperate, any contact for that matter not just number🤗
Courtney rocks. Thank you lady for all of your sage advice. I will say though, anytime I get a first message from a girl, it’s 99% always “hey” or “hey there”
I just never manage to even get off the app, Ive uninstalled all the dating apps because I'm legit that sick of having to use 9 pictures and a paragraph to prove my worth to someone
Translation: 1: Don't be like Pat and say, "Heyyyy." 2: Find common ground through shared interests. 3: Questions, but don't kill attraction. Keep it simple. 4: Get Some Digits, be the reason she deletes the app and set up an date.
I never say Hey I worked hard to provide for someone by 30 I'm average-looking I have lots of interests and conversational topics I've been unsuccessful for 6 years straight now I want to give up and die. All the effort wasn't worth it. I should've saved myself some time and cut it short years ago. The allure of a belt around my neck feels comforting at this stage.
If she is not interested in you no matter how much of a COOL , funny, unique message you share with her she will not care.. These so called dating experts never hit it on the nail... best way to put these so called experts on the spot is doing LIVE podcast.. Share your screen and see how its DONE LIVE.. Too much BS on social media! Be you , never out the P - on the pedestal ... treat them like a star and they will treat u like a fan and see how fast you will get ghosted!
Don't try to get HER attention.... Just be yourself, be kind and respectful. If it doesn't work, dont waste your time on the "little princess" and move on! This new dating era is so crazy and fake.....
I'm on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge... But I'm already thinking about quitting. It's weird. I'm confident in myself. I have high IQ/EQ. I'm a homeowner. I feel like I am a catch. But 10 years of being single tells me that women are just not interested in anything I have to offer. I feel like I have to completely change who I am as a person just to get a date. I realize this attitude is a turn-off, but I don't know how to proceed.
A few random things I've noticed: 1. Lots of women take horrible pictures of themselves and actually look better in person. 2. Lots of women use the same things in their profile as men do. 3. Some women really love cows. 4. Group photos she is almost always the least attractive one. 5. There is a good chance you'll get her number quite easy if you get her talking about herself.
Thanks Courtney, really liking the Perfect Sunday morning question. It’s quite original, not pushy and suggest one has enough IQ to hold an intelligent conversation should a first date get arranged. :)
This is for me:(Thx Courtney btw)
Tips on messaging girls:
#1: Be more creative than just saying hey.
#2: Try to find things in common.
#3: Ask some questions ( have some interest in getting to know her)
#4: Get her number and set up for meeting or a date.
the legend has arrived
Better if you do not text random girls. Just meet them in real life.
*Never use dating apps*
*NEVER!*
Appreciate it. Saved me some blah blah time
Bro if she isn't already into it doesn't matter what you have in common.
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First rule: She must be physically attracted to you, if not, next rules will not apply because she Will see you just like a friend.
For some girls that’s true!
*physically
lol I thought he meant "fiscally" at first , as in she's into you because you're well off.
@@johngonzalez4298 corrected
@@gerardoa9179 👍🏻
The funny part about "hey" is thats all I get from women... and they want us to be creative ??!!
Great point. Thoughts Courtney?
@@berrybestlifestyle9188 women definitely have the upper hand in online dating
@@nicke2307 dating in general I would say
A lot of women feel like they don’t need to put in effort. They probably still get responses even though all they say is hey - online dating is much easier for women unfortunately. As much as that sucks, it’s 100% true!
@@CourtneyRyan so if we shouldn’t just say hey, what should we say? You didn’t give any tips on that
Women should take this advice also. From my experience majority of the time women message with "hey".
almost every single time
Or you get their number, have some amazing dates yet they ditch you cause their still swiping right.
@@jerrystirpe yup
@Jerry stripe my thoughts exactly this video should be a two way street ironically women suck at dating apps as much as guys do!
@@waynekarst7315 I agree. Honestly I get a "hey" I sometimes respond. But if their second message is just as pathetic their deleted.
Man courtney helping us out is much appreciated. Keep it up Courtney.
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I’m looking forward to seeing this, I feel like I struggle a lot more over texts/messages to showcase my personality than in person
It can be really difficult. Especially when girls are getting so many messages. I’m going to do more videos like this in the future too!
@@CourtneyRyan That’s very true, it depends on who I’m talking to as well. Becomes much easier when the other person is putting in effort as well! Yay, looking forward to it :)
@@CourtneyRyan Looking forward to it!
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I got a better idea.
How about not being on dating apps.
Recycled goods fellas, and nothing more than an ego booster for women.
Exactly
Where do you meet girls then, particularly if you're under lockdown?
I think the major problem with the apps is their cultured expectations for romance / sex "Find your flame".
Dating is really about meeting new people you otherwise would not. So it's fun talking to people and sharing life stories.
I've made great friends, but I've talked to lots of scared people afraid to be vulnerable for fear of feeling exploited again.
My only gripe is with the economics of the app game. Males footing the bill. Prices being rather gouging and exploiting FOMO psychology.
Finally a guy in the comment section who gets it. Most of the men here turn into simps the minute they see Courtney. But taking dating advice from women in this day and age is like taking driving lessons from a blind man
@@oliverford5367 You wait it out.
All you are doing is inflating their egos my man and wasting time. Try to level up yourself till the state you live in opens back up.
Kourtney's calm and composed voice is soo relaxing and Untra Alpha at the same time, Love all the help you provide
Thank You
I know this is a bit off topic, but I feel like I owe you so much. You've helped me boost my self esteem, I was in a very dark place, got into drugs, thought about taking my own life several times. It was a struggle even at a young age, dealing with ADHD, feeling disrespected and down all the time, fights with family, getting mentally and physically abused by classmates. I can't even describe how thankful I am, your advice and help means so much and I wish I could meet you and say this in person, but everything still stands. I am much better now, it got to a point where I can finally sleep at night, without having thoughts, without any stress. Depression is in the past and it makes me proud saying I managed to overcome that phase, but I couldn't have done it without you. You deserve the best, keep grinding, this is just the beginning, I expect and wish much more in the near future. Once again, thank you so much, and I'm forever grateful for giving me the strength I didn't know I needed. I'm literally crying right now, appreciate you to the fullest and the world needs more people like you 🙂
🥲🥺 this is so special to me. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear this and what you’ve been able to overcome. I hope my channel always feels like a positive and uplifting place for you to keep being the best you that you can be! I am rooting for you and so happy you’re here! ❤️❤️❤️ hugs!!
This is the absolute best comment. Glad you are feeling better about yourself, Addy. Have a nice day
Just know I'm rooting for u addy! I know dark places Bro
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you for replying to him Courtney. That is sweet of you, and he feels special that you replied. Have a good weekend and Valentines Day! :)
@@sinjon Thank you so much, I keep repeating myself but it means everything to me. Glad to be able to share this story and maybe even inspire people to do something great. Stay blessed and have a nice day as well
Messaging girls is always a challenge, mostly miss than hits. So thanks for sending us good tips and guidance to use this technique wisely. It definitely helps when there is something in common like enjoying similar things, since that’s a great way to start up a conversation and getting to know one another.
Keep up the good work! 👍
It's amazing how hard it is to keep a girl interested! Women don't care about men's struggles, they just hang at the finish line and pick the winner. Keep it up gentlemen and focus on yourselves and women will naturally come around.
That's right.
Rich coopers words 😂
Absolutely they all run away after saying your problems but when they say theirs your willing to help
Courtney should do a video where she creates a non-supermodel male profile and messages girls using these techniques. I would love to see her reaction to the response rate she will get even with all of these rules followed
About 1 to 2 percent response rate.
Holy shit that would be amazing
Non-supermodel profiles don't get matches tho.
Yeah, this is good basic advice.
Dating apps have definitely created a problem in that we've developed the mentality that there's always someone better because you end up matching with so many people. It was easier when we set up dates with those in closest proximity.
I’m all the way from Trinidad and Tobago. I wish there was more girls like you in Trinidad yes gyal 🤦🏼♂️☝🏻
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Don't disrespect those queens in T&T
@@SkidCudi how is that disrespect? I’m just saying that I think Courtney is great an it’ll get good to have more like her.
@@mehulmaharaj5015 Alright I gotcha my bad.
" Hi, I am a millionaire" all it takes.
L O fucking L! 🤣
😁😁😁
"I dunno... How did you make the million? 🤔"
yep a man with money will ALWAYS get the girl
Why is this sadly true lmao
But all the women that hit me up say 'hey'. Please comment on this?
That’s because “hey” does work for women in that they always get a reply back. It just doesn’t work for men.
Really appreciate the comment about us being able to be picky, we can so often put girls on a pedestal and forget that not every girl is going to be right for us. Thanks Courtney as usual for the great vid ❤️🇦🇺
The most frustrating part about all this is the W who hit you up because they’re interested but CANNOT have a conversation and respond with Short responses and then when you take it as them not being attracted and you leave them alone then they hit you up wondering what happened. 🤦🏽♂️
Really good video! Its really rare to actually get good advice from a woman on how to succesfully approach other woman. You find the right words to describe this kinda balanced way on how to show enough and honest interest without looking too needy.
Coffee and a a new video from Courtney, the perfect combination for chilling for 10mins. Also, would you make a video of clothes that you think that might be on trend on 2021? I've seen a lot of changes on the fit (more related to jeans) so it would be amazing. Keep going!
What I don't really understand, is when a woman shows her interest first and write you a message, but after your reply, do not answer anymore. I had such situations several times. It cannot be true that I did something wrong. My communicational skills are not so bad based on my experience with other women. What is wrong with these ones?
Really practical video Courtney!
Question: From what you’ve heard, how do girls view someone who doesn’t have a social media account? Does it make a guy seem strange, creepy, or secretive? Asking for a friend 😅
Hmmm it depends on the girl. A lot of girls actually love when their s/o don’t have social media 😂
@@CourtneyRyan Well, I am that guy that does not have social media accounts
To be honest, I would say that girls that think a guy is weird for not having social media accounts are too superficial, I am not saying it because I don’t have social media and I am trying to defend myself 😂
But if you think about it, from a logical point of view, it does not make any sense
I believe they think that the guy is hiding something or the guy is insecure and does not have confidence, but at least on my case, I do not consider myself like that
If a had a partner and she has social media I would respect it, so I would expect the same from her
I’ve been on Hinge for the last two weeks and have worked hard to craft each message to each individual woman I message, and still I haven’t gotten one single “like” since the first day I joined. Really want to believe that online dating is not all just garbage, but personal experience is leading me to that conclusion pretty fast.
I've been on pretty much every app there is and I have never had a match.
Do everything opposite of what she said
It's not about the girls. It's all about you, become the best version of yourself (fitness, health, finances, emotional IQ, communication skills, hygiene, dressing, confidence); then they will be messaging you.
There are two rules of online dating: "be hot", and "don't be ugly"
Thank you, Courtney for your statements. The combination of what you are saying and how you say it, gives me a good trigger to focus on the high quality woman, and avoid the LSE (low self esteem) woman.
Teddy is so lucky to have u. Such a kind person!
You’re the best at giving fans the content they ask for. I, probably along with many others, asked for this type of video a couple weeks ago. I get matches on Tinder fairly often but a lot of them never reply to my messages. Hopefully your advice pays off!
Hoenslty I don’t like taking tips from girls and women because they genuinely don’t even know what they want themselves however I do wanna say that I like ur videos because u seem genuine, and I like ur voice because is relaxing, not to mention that u seem quite mature, most girls taht are young just want the bad boy and then cry when the bad boy leave them, I am glad I found ur channel
you always look so presentable lol, much respect
Haha only on the days I film videos! Thank you 😂❤️
Commonly given advice but nice to hear it reaffirmed by you. Before I took a break from online dating, the toughest women to message were ones with no meaningful text in their profile and no pictures with any activity beyond posing for a picture. I'd still manage to come up with a general question to ask if the profile gave me nothing but I can see a lot of guys just giving up and saying "Hey."
Another tip would be to text her as though you already know her (not in a creepy way).
Much of that will come from tips 2 & 3.
You're doing awesomely @Courtney Ryan.
Big fan of your channel. Bless you!
I actually hugely disagree. On dating apps, you can basically say nothing (as long as you’re super attractive) when you match and she will then try her best to start something. I know that from personal experience, I had really mediocre photos that only showed casual everyday stuff. Then, I put photos that showcased my body, status and whatnot, and matches went 20x and girls were the ones messaging me first (usually saying the dumbest shit). I also realised that attractive girls have no game of their own when THEY are pursuing you, which is funny but not so attractive. Good work Courtney, but this video could’ve clarified that a bit. Rant over
bingo! you can text all you want, if she isnt into you, nothing you can do. and i can confirm them having 0 game. some send a wave emoji, some ask stupid shit. None of that would fly if it was a guy. This video is useful if she is into you to begin with so guys dont fuck up with silly shit.
@@mastermindwick7356 Most of the time if it isn't just the wave emoji it's just "hello." or "hey". I'm like JESUS really?!
@@wowomah6194 it’s simple dog. Females never had to do anything to get male attention besides beauty. It is what is. We get baffled at how much work we do, and how bad they are when they try to initiate like a male 😂
@@mastermindwick7356 True, but then there are those women who are real go-getters who know how to initiate and it blows my mind when I meet them from time to time. They're very rare and when you meet them...of course they already have like 50 men who think they like them because they're such big flirts
Girl 'game' is identical to creep game
Its pathetic and offputting
I once said it and I'll say it again, Courtney Ryan is the girl bestfriend that every guy needs in his life
I just sent a message to a girl through a dating app and here comes Courtney with a new informative video. Always coming on clutch 🙌🏻
what did she say?
Courtney is such a pro! She should be with the top relationship coaches bouncing ideas and perfecting the dating world.
Courtney has a good sense of humour!, it is smooth but hits correctly on our the brain cells correctly and sparks the mind up!😆 Ithink she persuade it from her father!🙏
Fellas, for getting her off the app, here's a message that's worked for me a couple of times:
"Can we move this conversation to texts? Every time I open this app, it immediately shows me another girl's profile, and I would rather not have that happen when I'm just wanting to talk to you."
these definitely are very helpful and can be effective, but don't expect a response back, and if she does don't keep your hopes high. I've tried texting many girls with a message that isn't generic but most of them never opened it. the ones that responded ended up ghosting me even when I tried escalating the conversation. anyways... good luck everyone.
1. dont just say hey
2. find the commonality
3. ask a question (if you just say hey you are hot, what'd she reply? nothing)
4. be direct, get her off the app, she's constantly getting msg, she is more likely to talk to you if you waive. get her phone number to ask for a date or set an appointment. Claim the first date
I don't have time to craft messages to each girl when half of them don't reply anyway, no matter if I just say hi or I come up with something the response rate is about the same, if she sends hi back then I craft something, much more efficent IMO
"& If she hates crepes she's probably not good for you anyway" 👏🏻FACTS👏🏻🤣
Tried that and didnt even get a message back
Or just ask: do you want kids, sex before relationship, knowing others when you gonna know and want work with the one and look how men looks outside not the personality first. If she say yes, that's wrong answer and say then next to her this was here, good luck to your life
Open ended questions is always a good idea
Courtney you are a saint amongst men
She's right gentlemen. The times I've been successful on dms where through direct questions and more of what she mentioned on this video
Loving this channel for its practical content!
It warms my heart to hear that you are getting messages from dating apps.Teddy must be delighted.
I’m not on dating apps lol I was speaking from experience from when I was on them a couple years ago but even now guys will message me on instagram and just say “hey” haha
@@CourtneyRyan Hi!
Courtney was right. I thought maybe trying yo have a dialogue on hinder would make me look too thirsty verses the short and sweet… hey, pizza Thursday? But because I asked a question about her profile we are talking and have traction and something to talk about when we meet up for the first time. Thank you Courtney.
Thanks. I started using an app and I'm getting likes more than I thought and I have no idea what to say.
Fantastic work Courtney! Keep it up!
Thank you, Daniel! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan This guy managed to get the attention of Courtney 😂
“Hey” or “hi” problem is guys are normally sending out like a bazillion messages a day in hopes to get a catch, so they’re not gonna spend a whole lot of time on a single profile.
I find dating apps easy cause its short term messaging and not too hard. Texting over a week or throughout your day is much more stressful haha. Can you do a video about texting?
You're the perfect wingwoman, Ryan! Thanks for your help. Much appreciated. Keep up the good work!
"A state of war only serves as an excuse for domestic tyranny." Alexander Solzhenetzyn.
Man gets a hey from a girl, and he will be flying high.
Until superficiality and physical attraction is removed as primary instinctual requirement, all the words in a text or email means crud for most (like you said your advice applies to "some" not most).
The key is exposure. Putting yourself in a position to be around a lot of females your own age. used to be very very easy to find "dateable" ladies. Not so much anymore. We all know why but no will say it
I do it all. And you are right Courtney
Good advice, Courtney! Thanks!
Thanks Courtney I wish I could meet you in person and have you as a dating coach love your info and videos
Please do a video on mens hairstyles. Also, keep up the good content 👍🏽
Bravo!👏🏼 🙌🏼 Thanks for the advice! You’re awesome!😇🥳
If you want to debunk the theories that Courtney has put here, simply put up a PSEUDO profile with a guy that is VERY good looking. One pic, and no words. First day, you'll have 788 likes and 433 emails. No words. They're the ones that will email you. While some of this advice is sound, I'm curious as to how you get the girl to actually READ your message. I've sent some of the wittiest emails (when they say they have a sense of humor), and the message goes completely unread. Period.
I love you ♥️
Happy Valentine’s Day Courtney.💞
4:58 lol the guy better has to manage the conversation well once he knows
How about 'ho' instead of hi ..will that make me stand out?
Next can you do what’s the best jeans men should wear that suits there age/shape
What do you think about sending a voice message first because it's hard to get someones personality without their voice for some if that makes sense. Thanks Courtney happy Valentine's Day!
I would recommend just a regular message for the first one but you could send those later on! You make a good point though. Thank you, you too 💗💗
ask 1 queastion either get ignored or abused. for not knowing already. yet you got put down. you then have to be polite. in answering. after rejected/ and if stand off get more abuse. im 44 im more than happy alone saving for my retirement. living a life i can afford.. all be it alone.. easier than justifying myself just to say hello
Also don't forget fellas be attractive looking ;) or....at least make yourself look like you are with high quality resolution interesting photos lol or none this advice will get you anywhere.
Didn't watch the video, don't need to. If you want to get her attention, show her your bank statements. Thanks I am here all week.
I'm still on the edge with the whole dating app thing lol
Don’t waste your time on them. Me personally? Never been on one, never will, and no regret
Hello Courtney, I have watched several clips and just noticed I haven’t subscribed so I just did. I do enjoy listening to you. You give great advice. Your voice is intoxicating.
Quick tip:
The more effort it takes, the more valuable it is
Every guy needs a wigwoman like courtney
great advice courtney, your content has helped my confidence and self worth soo much i love it :)
They never give any example of open question that would lead a long conversation because that type of questions never exist
And if u find that question u would ask her then she would end up with yes or no if they are not interested in you...🙂
Girls on Tinder: Be creative guys, we don't like boring messages like "Hi" och "Hey"
Girls on Bumble: "Hey"
Another great advice from Courtney Ryan aka the lioness
Love you Courtney thanks for the help
Happy to help ❤️
Hey @Courtney Ryan, could you give some tips on getting someone's number without coming off as needy or desperate, any contact for that matter not just number🤗
Thank you Courtney for this great advice and especially from a girls perspective!
Courtney rocks. Thank you lady for all of your sage advice. I will say though, anytime I get a first message from a girl, it’s 99% always “hey” or “hey there”
I get her attention by ignoring her. Works wonders!!
Courtney is very beautiful
Like my coach used to say. If you don't shoot, you don't score 😉👍
So do you think its a good ideas to start a conversation with an open ended question?
I just never manage to even get off the app, Ive uninstalled all the dating apps because I'm legit that sick of having to use 9 pictures and a paragraph to prove my worth to someone
Message like a pro ? ... is there really a profession called ... er ... girl messenger or something like that ? ... how much does this job pay ?
“If you’re new here I’m Courtney Ryan”
“If you’re old here I’m also Courtney Ryan”
Translation:
1: Don't be like Pat and say, "Heyyyy."
2: Find common ground through shared interests.
3: Questions, but don't kill attraction. Keep it simple.
4: Get Some Digits, be the reason she deletes the app and set up an date.
I never say Hey
I worked hard to provide for someone by 30
I'm average-looking
I have lots of interests and conversational topics
I've been unsuccessful for 6 years straight now
I want to give up and die.
All the effort wasn't worth it.
I should've saved myself some time and cut it short years ago.
The allure of a belt around my neck feels comforting at this stage.
All that "messaging" should be STOPPED-- it s BS!!!! TALK to them-- no wonder this stupid world is in the SORRY shape it's in..
If she is not interested in you no matter how much of a COOL , funny, unique message you share with her she will not care..
These so called dating experts never hit it on the nail... best way to put these so called experts on the spot is doing LIVE podcast.. Share your screen and see how its DONE LIVE..
Too much BS on social media!
Be you , never out the P - on the pedestal ... treat them like a star and they will treat u like a fan and see how fast you will get ghosted!
Don't try to get HER attention.... Just be yourself, be kind and respectful. If it doesn't work, dont waste your time on the "little princess" and move on! This new dating era is so crazy and fake.....
I'm on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge... But I'm already thinking about quitting. It's weird. I'm confident in myself. I have high IQ/EQ. I'm a homeowner. I feel like I am a catch. But 10 years of being single tells me that women are just not interested in anything I have to offer. I feel like I have to completely change who I am as a person just to get a date. I realize this attitude is a turn-off, but I don't know how to proceed.
Texting a girl nowadays is harder than, solving a chess puzzle or climbing mount Everest...
A few random things I've noticed:
1. Lots of women take horrible pictures of themselves and actually look better in person.
2. Lots of women use the same things in their profile as men do.
3. Some women really love cows.
4. Group photos she is almost always the least attractive one.
5. There is a good chance you'll get her number quite easy if you get her talking about herself.
Thanks Courtney, really liking the Perfect Sunday morning question. It’s quite original, not pushy and suggest one has enough IQ to hold an intelligent conversation should a first date get arranged. :)
Imma use these advice on you, Courtney.