This Is Why So Many People Are Chronically Single
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I'm having a migraine just watching this woman talk. That guy dodged a bullet.
I'm a woman--and I feel a headache coming on...
But he didn't though... He reached back out so it seems he's actively trying to be hit by this bullet for some weird reason
Amen
@@grizzyozz2992 They had one date. It's likely she didn't show this side of her, so he doesn't know yet. Hopefully he comes across her SM and sees this.
same
The entitlement and arrogance of some women is absolutely astonishing
Even the 5/10s
I dated a woman for 8 months, and after 5, it became clear I was the one planning everything, and I ended up being the one always initiating. It has to be two people putting forth,not one giving everything.
@@meddyven Yeah because you are weak male, who never give time for her to think about you. Since you were probably double texting like a stalker, always starting conservation. She got disgusted by you and went to Chad's arms.
@@nickfbaThis itch isn't even a 5. I'd put her in the 4 range.
they're destroying our society.
Poor woman, I feel for her. She is consigning herself to an unhappy life. She seems to be subconsciously sabotaging herself with manufactured outrage. Constantly looking for , or even manipulating situations so she can feel affronted.
Some people thrive on being offended.
Something so normal became toxic for her -_-
I mean, my guy can be indecisive in certain things and I end up sharing some places to hangout and I book it myself since I know he can be indecisive. He likes that I took the lead and not in a way to put him down.
He makes amazing pizzas for me and I plan and get the entire grocery/food items. Love is about giving the way you can. She had no love for him at all.
It's all about attention seeking and the outrage feeds into that.
She's heading down a path where the box of wine will be jealous of the cats when even they run away
Just watch her video recently about being turned down by a guy for her oral herpes. I'm wondering if she's a comedian.
Her posting her dating experience including the texts is such a major red flag, at least for me. What's wrong about being private about your dating life?
Anyways, love how eloquent and calm you are, just subscribed to your channel.
Not a red flag.... crazy common
Imagine whoring out every moment of your personal interactions for clicks.
Yes
@@Be1smaht "Not a red flag.... crazy common"
Red flags can't be "common"?
This women is living proof that it’s definitely better to be alone than settling with anyone’s bs just to avoid being lonely.
No. Not all women are like this. Don't red pill just because of a few difficult women like this on TikTok.
@@explorermike19 I’m well aware. I’m just saying it’s never ok to settle for someone who does not respect you or never reciprocates what you bring to the table. Never be anyone’s “Plan B” or especially anyone’s door mat just because you’re afraid of being lonely.
@@explorermike19True, these women are not serious about relationships. Good women are not found on TikTok, various social media, or in bars and clubs.
@@PatI-zg9gm fact
There was this guy who went into a spa and killed all the girls working there. Is that living proof that it's definitely better to avoid ever being around men? Or was it just one person not representative of their gender?
He probably missed out on a ton of headaches.
Right? Bullet Dodged achievement unlocked.
More like cleared all achievements
Nope he tried again a couple weeks later. Guessing he didn't get any new matches or just down that bad.
A fucking shame isn't it
@@bhart3321 i just can't even comprehend the stupidity of other men sometimes...
okayyyyy I came here directly after seeing the video of her getting rejected by a matchmaker and I have to say...that matchmaker is SO good at her job omg. To be able to see this amount of red flags in a single meeting. good for her. no wonder she's so expensive. I hope she's out there living her best life.
YES
I second this big time. This woman definitely rubbed me the wrong way after I watched the first video but as someone who is also quite strong minded and opinionated and can (problematically at times) resort to arrogance as a means of self defense, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt... or at least have a little empathy because I kind of understand where its coming from. but after watching this.... she's just awful. AWFUL.
and not only that, she was actually respectful: "I feel right now you are not ready"
What this woman understood: "you are not deserving of love as you are" 🤦🏾♂
@@cristian-bull yep if that's how she takes things from a matchmaker, imagine being in a relatinship with her. that shit 24/7. LIteral Hell.
@@cristian-bull Because it's true, she isn't deserving of love as she is. She's 38, her personality is revolting, literally what does she offer to a man? This woman would make a man with a lush set of hair go bald within a year.
Not everyone is worthy of love, nobody needs to go through all this with her. She needs to get better. Why do you people have such a difficult time telling women they need to get better? Men are constantly told how they need to improve to get results.
People. PLEASE stop trying to develop initial communications via text! You can't hear tone, inflection, emphasis and other things that help facilitate communication, clarification and understanding. Until you get to know someone and can better interpret their personal mannerisms... misunderstandings are inevitable. Use your (verbal) words!
agreed. major reason why I do not like texting.
Word
happened to me. It was a mess and we liked each other 😑
Imagine people called each other instead of texting. That'd be absolutely wild.
I agree. Texting sucks vs having an actual conversation.
I agree with you 100%. To me, too much texting is red flag. For many or most people, they use it as a means of avoidance.
LOL From where? a phon.... oh, wait a minute...
@@havi.1197 no from their foor!! Where do you think from?!
Are you expecting a VOICE AT THE OTHER END? 🤯🤯😅
The « I didn’t hear back from him » while showing her non-response sent me off 😂😂😂
Never her fault hahah
Unreal!!
SAME! I was literally thinking: she left him on read, and she thinks this is an own?
you can just feel her arrogance via insecurity in 30 seconds.
I’m a wife and mother to small children and I couldn’t handle the drama of meeting her as a friend for coffee.
Agreed. The stuff that set her off about her date would surely set her off from anyone in her life. It's like she intentionally makes her miserable so she can blame everyone else for the way things are.
When I met my wife for the first time in person after two months of talking online, the we ended up meeting up in Best Buy and going to a diner. Every year on the anniversary we met, we go to the diner and write about everything from the previous year on a napkin. I love how easy going she was and how willing she was to just go along with a simple plan.
@@thephotoandthestory I met my husband when he was hired at the school I worked at. We hit it off, and eventually (8 months later) he asked me out. We dated secretly for awhile because we were colleagues (and worked at a school). Our first pre-date was simply going to a trail to walk my dog (and the dog I was fostering). Then our first real date was a home-cooked meal at his apartment (small community and going "out" anywhere would have created gossip). By our third date we were in love. That was 9 years, one wedding, and two children ago! We only get to go out on a "date" maybe 2 or 3 times a year in this season of life. But every evening, after our children are asleep, we talk and laugh while doing our nightly chores (and sometimes bicker). Life is complicated enough, and marriage and parenthood comes with enough of their own challenges - why would anyone want a partner that is high-maintenance and uncooperative?! It sounds like a complete nightmare.
@@eray9934 the poor waiter
Oh....this woman again. I remember seeing this video somewhere else, and to say that she's the problem is an understatement. She's the type to start an argument for no reason just because there isn't any chaos in the relationship. She just gives off that energy.
Oh absolutely! She looks and sounds like a nightmare
BPD
Hoe math probably
Fear of being close to someone else because of earlier traumas. She may marry eventually, but will end up making both of them miserable within five years.
Better pack lots of Tylenol
She wanted him to read her mind, send her an itinerary and then fly up to her balcony on a magic carpet and show her the world. Is that too much to ask for on a second date? Jeez what’s wrong with that guy. 😂😂😂
😂
AHHAHAHAHAHA
I am right there with you. The nerve of this guy. Probably slept right through Mind Reading 101. LOL
This is the same girl that got rejected by a matchmaker. She griped about it, but even the professionals who had the means to milk her for thousands knew her only one true love in this world was herself.
@@gravityissues5210 100%
My wifes an excellent communicator, i really suck at it. I get upset when she asks detailed questions 😅, i am really tired by the end of the day, but you helped me realize i need to work on myself
It’s soo important and we understand but commuicate that to her. I’m sure yall can find a way around it. Like maybe at certain days or times
Try this solution? There is an implied duty of the person who implies asking a question or interrogatory to listen with the goal of understanding. Most women fail at this because they ask questions for a different reason. They do not care about your answer they just want control. There are four types of sentences in the English language. The Interrogatory is a demand for action, but has no obvious requirement for her to actually LISTEN.or understand the answer. I predict she will resolve this by keeping you responding to more and more questions for ultimate "triumph". Once you teach her your understanding of these questions, if she continues I would be ambivalent, obtuse and ignore her. This is what you do to control children who play the same game. Someday she might grow up to be an adult? One attitude ALL women hate is being ignored! They can NEVER control you when you are ambivalent. Men who are successful getting the attention of women use this same ploy. Ignore her and they will follow. I don't know why, but I speculate they like a challenge to control men. I'll never know because I do not care. There are plenty of them keeping me "busy".
Communication is overrated. 😮
My ex wife could never make up her damn mind. I would ask her what she is in the mood for and she couldn't make a damn clear decision like Mexican sounds good, or Thai or whatever. Details can be important depending on the situation will there be a boatload of traffic, do you have to pay for parking, do you want a sit down cafe or something quick. She would get so grumpy and pissed when she was hungry but wouldn't speak up I am really starving lets stop at the nearest restaurant. So details can be important.
Details are important. Like Who you marry! 😮
The proper dating technique:
Create plans for a definite date and general time (eg. Sunday afternoon) a few days or a week before. This lets the person get excited about the date, show you off to their friends, and generally give them something to look forward to during the week.
Touch base at least 16 hours before the date (6 pm Saturday for a noon Sunday date). This is to confirm the date when women are most flaky early on, and lets you judge their interest and how to approach the date, romantic, unserious, etc. Set a definite time and location. Women do not like making decisions so even if you are traveling to them, pick a restaurant local to them that has great reviews, and make a reservation.
Do not text again! Meet them inside the location exactly on time! You want them to have tiny expectant butterflies.
Oh ok, follow more instructions than those special Japanese boxes to get a woman like this who's gonna suck all your blood through a straw. Yes, we definitely need to be more methodical to get these insane women.
I think it is totally disrespectful to the guy for her to post his private text messages to her for thousands of other people to see. This is why men now check a woman's social media post before confirming any dates and then they ghost them when they see that they post all their dates on tik tok or instagram.
Beyond disrespectful. She is completely undateable.
Posing as someone looking for a genuine relationship as a way to procure cheap content for social media is way out of bounds.
Agreed and it’s personal and in the world today no privacy!!!
Vultures trying to build their careers off of other people’s feelings is sick!! 🤢
I avoid all/any women to constantly post to social media or has a shit ton of pictures of them in skimpy outfits or bakinis. Yea it’s nice to look at, but I’m not about to date someone that wants EVERYONE to see them online.
I love how soft spoken you are. Most UA-cam commentators are not, it’s refreshing
Most American woman sound so masculine, derisory and forceful.
Many do, unfortunately.
And no vocal fry!
I like that too. There's no SMASH THAT LIKE BUTTON!! or that weird aggressive pattern of talking where it's intended to make the speaker sound like an expert.
I used to watch a pottery channel and it was a soft spoken 50+ year old man and he'd talk about his process. His voice was a little feminine but not anything to be ashamed of. All of the comments were "I just put your videos on in the background to listen to you talk, I love your voice" and him replying to every comment "thanks, I used to hate my voice before I got all of these comments"
yes love her soft makeup colors too and her boobs look incredibly soft also, I was thinking the same things, how can I meet a woman as sweet as this ?
This reminds me how exhausting dating can be, and why I don't usually bother with it. Being single is a nightmare these days. And don't even get me started on dating apps. Such a waste of time and a killer of happiness.
I really appreciate how correct you are about communication. No one can read another's mind
She's the epitome of she will be single for life. Too many try all these BS tactics, and then when they get the opportunity, they squander it because they've lost their minds. She's done a decade of therapy which kinda is painting therapy in a bad light. Therapy is not meant for life. Leave people like her alone
No ... therapy just doesn't work. Just because you talk about it non step, doesn't give it any validity
Not all therapy is equal. I went to a therapist for 3 years who didn’t make too much of a difference but then my insurance changed and I found a new therapist who called me on my sh*t and pushed me to actually be better. Sometimes people are frankly better off not going to therapy than a poor therapist. It’s why so many people who go to therapy are incredibly toxic.
@@grgryoceanI had to come to grips that therapy ain't for me a few years ago. That's speaking as a veteran with ptsd. That's even including being shuffled around too many times and I basically said "screw it"
Unfortunately not, she will find some simp to settle with, and then make his life miserable.
"decade of therapy" sounds like that therapist heard CA-CHING when this red faced clown walked in the door
What is with women posting everything and blasting everyone on social media these days? Such repulsive toxic behavior. I once had a girl from a certain social group I was in, ask me out, I politely declined. Later some mutual friends sent me a TikTok that she posted complaining about me, actually using my real name too. Couldn't be happier I said no.
She needs an audience to whine to for validation
Social media is a digital drug. Gives easily available but fake attention and validation. That's why they do it.
Yup, they want validation, and need to feel better about themselves by putting someone else down.
I'm just glad that they do that though. They're exposing themselves for the disgusting persons they are, and it gives us valuable information about people like them, so we can spot the red flags better.
That's some little kid type shit. No mames smh
wow. good for you. a simple no made her feel extremely insecure so she needed others to validate her because she couldn’t do it herself
This is the first time I have seen your channel. You are spot on. It is refreshing to see a sensible young woman. I would hate being young and dating in today’s dating climate. I am a 70 year old woman that has been married 45 years. I have watched decades of my kids and grandkids dating. It seems to have become more and more difficult to find the right person for many people.
Good video! I like how you really took apart the whole conversation and analyzed it, really made me think more about the subject.
I also find it refreshing from other channels that discuss dating and modern dating that you had a neutral view on the woman in the video wishing good for her despite her making mistakes because everyone does, regardless of if theyre a woman or a man.
Thank you so much for your kind comment 🥹❤️ this means a lot to me!
Amen!!! Growth is important
I am 58 and I am trying to date women in their 40s and 50s and I can attest that it doesn’t get any better, in fact it gets worse. Women as they get older, for some reason just cannot communicate their intentions, or even answer simple questions. It’s just horrible.
I hear you I'm in my 40s and dealing with women in there 30s and 40s are worse. Everyone just got out of a relationship and everyone wants to communicate sole on tex. When they nor by u
And forget at this age meeting women at the bar. They all think you go around getting women at the bar number. Even the bartenders think that if u wanna talk to them. I'm about to quit the bar. Because of this theory these women making up
PREACH! I retired (early) to a 55+ community in FL (NEVER do that). As women get older, they get nastier and nastier. I think that they no longer feel physically attractive, so they compensate by spewing hate at men. They greatly outnumber us, and hunt in packs. You would be stunned at how openly hateful they are. "You men are all trash!"
Plus older woman start to get mean as rattlesnakes. Not sure it's the menopause or post menopause thing or what but they can be difficult.
@@dat868 I think it's all the decades of built up anger and bitterness towards men and their failed relationships coming out. Any man they get involved with becomes a surrogate for all her past "jerks" and her father that she wished she had told off and said or did this and that too 🤣
This is why so many people are single. It's people like this that hurt people and change their minds about dating. Thanks for this video.
You mean the man who waited a week to contact her and then can't manage more than 3 words in a text? And asks her to plan the date, losing any respect she may have had? This is all on the man for being a beta. Men plan dates and a real man knows how to communicate properly. He failed miserably at both.
@@Swearengen1980it’s two people trying to plan a date with bad communication, you’re definitely reading too deeply into this and need to touch grass, lmao
It's people like this that have you believing this woman is for real.
Don't you love it when women who have no fathers go around telling what real men should be. A real women is in the kitchen 24/7. Lmao not so funny when the shoe is on the other foot all of a sudden
@@MikeyP109 😂
I am aging myself, but well over ten years ago, I tried some of these internet dating apps. Everyone one that met with was nuts. Then I said the hell with it, went about my own business, and I met several attractive women just being myself.
You know that you are giving incredible advice, even to me 2 years in a realtionship! You can read things in so many ways, so clear communication and comfirming what you think is said is so important!!!
There’s a 3rd update. She turned him down because she didn’t like what he came up with for a plan to meet up. I’m not lying.
Wow. That is crazy. I wonder if this woman is for real or if she's just doing it for TikTok views.
@@thepragmatist Her goal is validation from random people on the internet. That's why she's posting it. She doesn't give two bowel movements about a potential relationship.
@@cniht That could very well be...I have no idea. I don't think it's a great idea to do that.
If this woman is posting actual things that is happening and this isn't all made up for clout. The fact that he tried again after she when out of her way to make things so difficult with the Dutch situation, tells me he'll come back again even tho she threw a wrench in the plans again and this is why I have no hope anymore entirely. Online dating has broke people's brains and no one learns anything about the dynamic (each other/themselves/the sexes/red and green flags, etc) as a whole.
So good luck, maybe they deserve each other?
I sure hope that poor guy sees this.
I see that self-sabotage a lot. My coworker puts it this way; nobody (or at least, not most people) wants to acknowledge their failings, so they either date abject losers or sabotage a relationship with somebody “better” then them. It’s a lot easier to say to yourself and everyone “s/he was a loser” than “man, I really screwed that one up.”
It's 1000% self sabotage. The only problem is that she gets so much positive affirmations from equally broken people on the internet when what she really needs is a friend who will put her in her place.
it's worrying how people abuse fake humility for the sake of not looking like "the bad guy". Grow some soddin' backbone people, it is ok not voice out if you don't like someone if they are asses.
I suppose. They act like they already are married with the dude under lock and key, balls hanging at the coat rack and getting warmed up to be divorced soon. But give it to her, Courtney seems to read her very quickly intuitively where most guys need an explanation from Courtney and would have no clue.
I don't think it's self sabotage in the least. It's pure entitlement. She sees herself as a prize that she should put all of his effort in to dazzling her with his time, attention and money. When he didn't live up to her lofty expectation she made other plans when she knew full well she already had plans with him. He should have moved on. She is not a prize.
@@frotobaggins7169 Luckily for the world and any single men who live near her, she's well past her physical prime and the more attractive men will be looking elsewhere. Seriously, imagine this lady 10-15 yrs ago. She probably ghosted so many guys she didn't bother saving any numbers
Very good video, with a very good approach to communication. You are so well-balanced in commenting on that video, summarizing things, and stressing out each side of it. I believe a little bit of humbleness on each side (he and she, men and women), an open attitude to clarify things ("The Dutch" misunderstanding), and a lesser attitude of jumping to conclusions/rejection would be constructive - giving the fact that the first date was appreciated as nice. Of course, if there are gut feelings that something is not right, rejection is a survival necessary thing, but this wasn't the case.
Your kind approach of both parts is filled with calm, equilibrium, sincerity, and charm, thank you.
I've been through this crap with women. I was talking to a gal, but had not met her yet, and didn't text her a few days because I was slammed at work and she refused to talk to me AND I was the last one to text before that, she hasn't made any attempt to text me so I didn't know anything was up. She just completely broke off talking to me because I didn't text her a couple of days. Mental!
Gotta move faster buddy. You let her get bored and irritated.
There was a third update from her as well. She cut the guy off. He suggested a hockey game for their date, presumably to gauge interest, and she decided he didn't have a concrete enough plan detailed in his text. Like, I guess he was supposed to buy tickets and call an Uber before he knew if she wanted to go, LOL.
On the plus side, the comments on her videos restored my faith a little bit. Plenty of people, mostly women, trying to call out the absurdity. So that's something, at least.
Could you send link?
the girl is quite hideous anyway. waste of time
oh, so beiing left on read is not now "basic etiquette"? :D
Those same women calling her out probably act the same way irl
U didn't answer the question or give a link out.
I confirmed a date for Saturday with a girl on Friday afternoon when I was in college. She said no, when she agreed before. I'm grateful to have known the day before rather than be stood up on the day of
Dude the number of times I've been cancelled on an hour before hand or just ghosted day of 😂. She sounds like a saint
I just want to know who is raising these women.
If I ever have a daughter and found out she was agreeing to dates and then cancelling or ghosting, her behind would be black and blue.
Disgusting behavior, and it unfortunately seems to be the majority of girls doing it.
@@nathansawicky6333Happend to me as well. Girl phoned me the day after and apologized because she felt bad about it. I said: Have a nice life.
A Cincy lady!!! ❤🥂. Great video and using this as an example as bad communication and an area she needs to work on! Love it! Turns!
Thanks for the educated adult and civilized approach you demonstrated in this video. So many things should be commonsense but unfortunately society is shaped differently. Only if we could all be respectful and considerate, without games, sense of entitlement and superiority...
He handled that a lot more politely than I would have.
Don't do that. Don't give her the chaos that she's craving. Best course of action is to just walk and forget she ever existed.
@@sleazybtdYes. Move on.
I don’t have a Valentine this year, so I was feeling a little down…. Then I saw this video and realized that it’s probably a blessing in disguise being single in this dating landscape
Dating apps are scary...😅
My godmother once gave me this valuable saying:
“There are worse things than being single - like wishing you were.”
So true.
Dating apps give this perspective, I didn’t meet a single woman with hobbies when I was on them and got ghosted far too many times.
But real life dating is so damn easy. Met a girl not even trying but just by working with horses. Real life dating opportunities are just a different breed and I won’t settle for less.
This is very true. I came to this realization years ago.
It's much better to be single these days than to ruin your mental health with the damaged people that floods todays dating market.
Enjoy your life where you are buddy!
YOU are so sweet to make this helpful video for her. YOU also have this classic look and voice so I feel like I"m watching Jane Austin in real time with today's modern relationship issues. Love this.
One thing that has always sticked with me is when one of my female friends said she went on alote of dates just to eat which is probably very prevalent. Because we live in a world of social media and girls love sharing where they are what they are doing the girls get there free meals and content for their insta. I dated 2 women who I felt did what my friend did as they never seemed interested but always were interested in going out.
I am a doctor: Pick up the phone and talk. texting is confusing, leave out information and leads to confusion. A person can tell more by sound of the other person's voice. With the tone of her voice, I would have told her: "My mistake, have a great live." Second date, I going to the dog fights, care to join me? LOL
I hate talking on the phone myself. Texting can be an effective communications tool for something this simple. The woman just put 0 effort into it because she got mad the guy had the "audacity" to make her pick a restaurant. If you are talking about a complex or emotional subject I agree with y our statement, but a phone call is not needed to go to lunch with someone.
IMO, The "laziness" and blame she is projecting onto him, is actually a clear description of her OWN behaviour and lack of accountability, since she:
1. Used minimal words to convey her meanings
2. Didn't reply to his text.
3. Avoided seeking further clarification on the already-minimal communications on the table
... and 4: She did him a favour and took her 'bullet' elsewhere ... helping him dodge it.
That woman reminds me of my ex & I wish She wasn’t real but it was a miserable two years lol Insufferable attitude of people like this
You can never imagine how horrible this situation is in real time face to face. To carry an entire conversation for 1-2 words responses god damn! It definitely did not work out for me, and I am happy that it didn't!😅
This is one thing that frustrates me when it comes to modern dating. A lot of people are quite lazy and don't want to work with the person instead expect them to do everything. And on top of that the bad communication makes it 10x worse.
Ms. Ryan, you are doing a great service to civilization by your video critiques of the verdant, adolescent behaviors of twenty-first women. I am married 51 years in June of 2024, and cannot wrap my mind around the attitudes and behaviors of these twenty-first century women, or their "requirements" for finding a life partner. Men are human beings and have never (at least in my lifetime) been a "build-to-print" commodity. Please keep publishing. My wife, the psychiatrist, laughs at the women in your videos.
100% agree with you Courtney. Wish there was more like you. Plus you have a lovely voice
the 1st women is what I hate bout online dating... people overthinking the situation and assuming this stranger knows what you want
No, the woman expected the man to act like a damn man. They're both in the wrong here, as is Courtney. Man waited a week to even text her and all he can muster up is a few words? Everything that guy texted was 2-3 words. Loser with no communication skills. And he does basically ask her to plan the date = weak. Women don't respect that. You don't get the kind of woman you people expect by asking her everything she wants because she'll think you're a bitch and find a real man. Real men make the date, make sure the time works, and tells her where to be if he's not picking her up. She wants a dominant man and she found a beta. Once you're in a relationship or past the initial dating stage, then you can ask her what she's in the mood for. Both of those people suck and neither can communicate well.
It’s the same woman in both vids
Agree.
I agree. This is why I sometimes overexplain myself to people because I'm afraid of a misunderstanding.
1st woman what are you taliking about? What did you watch! Its the same woman. Are you that dumb!
Man if this guy saw any of her viral videos about her thought process, he'd be running for the hills screaming.
Run,man. Far...
The fact that she will be single forever its actually good for humanity.
She is literally a human public service announcement!! I’m so glad she’s getting the exposure of being *that* woman
Courtney is so surprised but being in that guy’s position is 90% of dating for men. The other 10% is girl flaking, not over her ex, using you for validation, or worst of all, thinking things went well after a first date only to get ghosted. And we men go through all that just for the “reward” of potentially getting married which basically means we lose half our shit if she gets bored.
Since I stopped dating I completed my car audio build. Time for other projects. Dating is such a waste of time
Most of them are just looking for a man to pay for everything. Nothing more.
@@BrianWaller-qe7gr it's really like that. I mean just enjoy the good convos and learning people. Drop the dating shit 😆 If she wants something I think she must make a turn.
Summed it up pretty well my guy. It's rough out here.
That’s a no from me 👍
You analyzed the video perfectly! 👍🏻 I can’t count anymore how often I had similar experiences with women.
These women will be single for the rest of their lives and they don’t even get it. They’re so narcissistic they just can’t think that they’re maybe a little bit the problem.
Sadly NPD or narcissistic persons will never change and it’s always everyone else! They are miserable and want everyone else that way too!!!! This lady was annoying and that guy…what did he see!??????
This video cured half my trauma and self-gaslighting I put myself through thinking I'm the problem.. 😭😭😭 thank goodness this exists and I crossed it
I hope her matchmaker watches this and feels 100% confident in her career path. That matchmaker has a gift!
I'm the type of woman to overcommunicate plans. I'll always ask my boyfriend to clarify in case I misunderstood because the times I assumed I knew he what he was talking about, I ended up at the wrong Chick Fil A or late for church because I thought he was coming to my house first lol 🤣
I can't believe she gives the guy options for a restaurant, he picks the restaurant, and then she just leaves him on read! After only 1 date, he's obviously not going to try to put too much effort in at once above basic manners, but she couldn't have the simple decency to respond with: "Sounds great! What time?" that's how planning works!
And sorry, but if that first date really went that well to where she was excited about it, she does know she has the ability to ask him out too, right? My boyfriend and i - after our first date and after he messaged me the next morning, I just went straight on in to "would you like to meet again this week?" and we've been together now for 14 months. Like obviously, don't start picking out your wedding dress or sleeping together, but the games of "he needs to do x, y, and z" kind of become moot after you both realize you really like each other.
You hit the nail on the head. People act like this girl because they want to stay single. It’s sociopathic to act like that girl. These are the types of people that are chronically single and they go on tons of dates and are never in relationships. She’s even sabotaging her dating life by going on TikTok and talking about/bashing guys she’s dating. If you are a guy and find a girl who is on TikTok bashing guys she’s dating, you would never want to date her.
Everyone who is on TikTok is not socially compatible with the world just saying. They're full of Chinese propaganda AND socially destroyed. Also, people who are far too active for non-business reasons on Social Media, should be avoided at all.
Its not sociopathic its solipsistic
She wants attention, not affection.
These are the ones that accuse people of things they didn’t do -
She’s living her best life getting all those butt-pats on TikTok. Never been happier I’m sure.
This is exactly what happened with one of my dates. I offered to drive her way, asked if she knew a good spot, we decided on a spot. When I texted to confirm the date the day before I got ghosted. I assume she found someone else, whatever, but I didn't even get the courtesy of "no I'm not available." I stopped dating completely because being constantly ghosted was taking a toll on my mental health.
I would say don’t give up! I used to get pretty hurt by ghosting but then I reframed and internalized it not as a woman rejecting me but rejecting herself. She doesn’t believe in her ability to communicate nor is she aware that ghosting is immature and can be harmful. The best thing is to take things slow and focus on yourself.
I don't blame you. Same exact thing happened to me. And I try to take calculated chances on asking someone out and I still get ghosted. So it's just tiring and starting to be pointless to attempt anymore
@@grgryoceanthey don't care about being immature because they all feel this is the thing to do. I had a fine looking Asian woman do that to me and she was ten years plus older than me. And she was giving me the eye in the bar. So they don't seem Nothing wrong with ghosting us
Been ghosted practically everytime bro don’t sweat it average chicks nowadays have 30 dudes hitting them up at a time they just pick what their fetish is for the week and don’t bother responding to the rest 😂 my dog is 10x better than these women much less maintenance as well
@@grgryocean They are 100% aware how harmful ghosting is, have you not seen the videos of them crying over getting ghosted by guys for arbitrary reasons? They just don't care. Any woman who does stuff like that has become desensitized or was likely hurt in the past so uses that to justify future poor behaviour
I love your analysis of this! So much misunderstood communications via text. Why can't we just pick up the phone and talk like adults anymore? (sigh)
I've been on dating apps for about a year. The exchanges I've had with women mirror the above very closely, but the typical exchange begins with a woman matching with me (I don't match with them), continues with me writing to them (if they meet my criteria), and ends there - no comment, no acknowledgement, no sign that I'm dealing with anything other than a bot.
I've spoken to some female friends of mine and they're adamant these women do exist. They're just looking for validation from random men whom they never plan to meet. Imagine being so painfully insecure that you feel compelled to reach out to complete strangers to gain their attention. Then ask yourself this: why would you do this and not actually meet up? I'll tell you why: these women are *already in relationships* and are using the dating apps to keep their options permanently open. They have no honour, no integrity, and no future with a self-respecting man.
Edit: I just this minute got a message from a woman who reached out to me in early January. I wrote back to her at the time but she never responded. Six weeks passes and she decides to write (I quote): 'Sorry, I had a busy January'. So busy, apparently, that she couldn't spare 30 seconds to write to me to explain she's busy. And now she thinks I'm going to welcome the opportunity of dating her. I am objectively better-looking than her and a lot more successful in terms of my career. On what planet do these bird brains live?
@@davesmith826 she was busy trying the other guy for 6 weeks, tell her to kick rocks
I’ve been with some women who were unfortunately very egocentric and left me in shambles for a bit, but I am blessed to have had other women who were truly inspiring in the way they carried themselves and cared for me. Plenty of great ones out there! Patience!
Plenty? Nope.
It's a question of math. Math doesn't lie or have an agenda.
If the majority of women act like this, and empirical data seem to suggest so, then logic dictates that there can't be "plenty" since we're now dealing with miniscule numbers compared to the vast majority.
@@dritzzdarkwood4727 I’m gonna need you to cite your sources. Also, you need to clearly elaborate what you mean by “act like this” and then share with me the data spreadsheets since according to you the math is very clear. Ironically enough, you seem to just be doling out an emotional argument, which is what women are stereotyped as doing. I think what’s happening here is you’ve never been in a relationship and would rather appeal to some elusive, ghostly “empirical data” than look yourself in the mirror and acknowledge that you’re the problem.
could you describe more details on how her being egocentric affected you? i have the feeling that my ex was also like that and im trying to figure it out
A lot of women are egocentric because of how most men treat them. I made an online profile once for a female friend and before I passed it over to her - some of the ridiculous simping messages from guys were incredible. Also most messages just said "Hey" or "hey babe x". Some guys try too hard, some do nothing...
In my opinion, in the case of the above-mentioned story, neither side was sincerely and realistically interested in each other. After the first date, there's a week of silence and then the tiring arranging for the second date. This TikTok woman may be tiring in places, but I think she had a good sense that the guy wasn't interested. He spoke out of boredom and lack of other options.
He was definitely interested, but he wasn't infatuated. And he shouldn't have been infatuated either, they went on all of one date, and she didn't pull her weight at all, to the point that she couldn't even respond to texts like a normal person.
the way I see it with women who expect immediate understanding about things who seem like they want you to read their minds is they're looking for people who are already on their wavelength instead of making the effort to get someone they like on their wavelength.
Men and women like this are straight up narcissists, where their ego is the only things that matters. Everything revolves around protecting it and that means you have to bend to them.
Another tip: *Call on the phone*. Voices carry 100x more information than texts, and get instant feedback with 100x more. There'd have been no misunderstanding about the second date if they'd talked. The "call" button is right there next to the "text" button. I've seen countless misunderstandings about texts leading to fights and worse that would never have occurred if someone had bothered to hit the "call" button instead. The two of them actually could have had a pleasant conversation they both enjoyed while planning the second date. Why is everyone so addicted to texting instead of calling when trying to communicate with someone else?
bc texting is easier to manipulate than talking hence why women prefer it, woment talk a big game about wanting a good communicator but they SUCK at it
Good point, in various areas of life I see people picking the wrong form of communication. The multiplicity of modern methods doesn't help, of course. But picking up the phone rather than using texts or email, is rarely the wrong choice !!
so true!!
Yeah right she wouldve just gotten bichy over the phone lmaoo i get your point tho
Firming up the date is important to prevent showing up when the other person doesn't. A quick phone call would have been a much more effective way to communicate than a barrage of texts.
i love your voice srly. thankn you for these videos!
One thing i have realised from these videos and conversations is "texting is not a good option when you want to go out with some, i mean social media " as you cannot express your emotions or how you perceive something in text or with words so they can use either video messages or voice messages or just a direct call 🤙.
Honestly, there is no way I would date someone if I found out they were making videos about me texting them. That's an invasion of privacy...OMG. She lives in Philly. I live here as well - born and raised. I promise you we are not all like this.
So anyway, mostly all I care about is: how _is_ The Dutch? Is it all that?
@@gravityissues5210 I've never been to The Dutch but it looks like a great restaurant. It's in a great area. Def worth checking out.
I told my date back than I was relatively new to the city so if she knows good places or want to try out one she hasn't tried yet we can go there for a date. She was looking at me weird at first but she knew I was genuine and she liked that she can be a tour guide sometimes and explain the city to me. Now she is my girlfriend and happy to show me around. I take care of her and she takes care of me. It's not that difficult.
You didn't get to know your new city first? I date the city before I start dating the women.
Such a real example of what happens so often tbh. In fact, this just happened to me, but we made plans twice I hadd tocancel once, then planned for next week, but I didn't confirm until the day before so she made plans wiith her mom, but II didn't take it negatively at all, and we are bothh busy with work anyway, soo postponinig plans is ok, ass lonng as we both sho intentioonn to meet. sorry keybboard is messes up haha
This happens to me a lot actually, where I'm trying to plan a date while making sure that it's something she wants to do and then women get mad at me or blow me off cause they think I want them to do the heavy lifting. I'm like, no I just want to make sure you're going to have a good time with what we do. I know for a fact that some things I find fun, others might not so I just want to make sure, especially if it's early in the dating scene, that both of us will enjoy ourselves. Anyway, those experiences have unfortunately made me less and less communicative because I'm afraid of getting tossed aside again for asking questions and trying to value her wants and needs. Being left on read is the absolute worst
It's a bullet dodged each and every time it happens. The absurd standards and expectations are a massive red flag, they won't stop with the first few dates
Just don’t do that. I think the same way you do, but you have to learn to override your natural manners.
Pick a generic upscale restaurant (nothing crazy fancy) that has a decent steak and pasta on the menu.
Ask her if she wants to go there on a saturday evening. If she can’t be free that time, and doesn’t offer to reschedule, she isn’t interested.
Maybe try one more time a week or two later.
After that, move on. Don’t let her pick anything about the first 3 dates.
I’m glad men have a sympathetic ally. Thank you for being so compassionate, reasonable, and understanding. 🎉
Yes, many men have a sympathetic ally. We’re here for you, as women. And yes, women can crush relationships as well as men. Both sexes can be destructive and it’s a case by case scenario.
@@bluetickbeagles116 that’s very reasonable thank you.
You mean empathy? Compassionate? You get sympathy when someone dies
Saddest thing about modern dating is almost everyone expects the other person to be a mind reader we’re not! Basic communication, understanding and good manners seem to be getting rare these days.
You mean ♀
I’ve given the Ick by asking a lady to suggest a location because I was not a take charge man and didn’t plan the date . It was a similar situation I lived in a more rural area over an hour away and was driving to a major metro area where I was not familiar with the area. She canceled on me because of this whole issue .
Dodged the bullet. I’ve had the other way around. I offer a location and they get all feminist on me.
Well, the girl was whining about to be one who need to figure out where to go.
And she's right.
Remember guys - be prepared. Know and research good spots where you can bring your dates.
Best to go yourselfs there and look for good table places, better as a couch, so you could sit together, not apart.
Dates are not interviews, so try not sitting opposed. You want to be able to sit together and hug.
Totallly agree - I am stunned he followed up! Some red flags in women you should never ignore.
There's your strong and independent woman right there as she expects him to do everything. He should just hit and run for the hills.
Forget it. Move on😮
"let me do all the heavy lifting for you buddy"
The sense of entitlement that it is his job to do all the planning to make their second date happen.
He invited her, so yeah, she's right on that though.
@@WhyUA-camWhy
He took the initiative to suggest they get together again.
Is that the way your life works? Whoever says "let's get together again" is expected to plan what you *both* will be doing? The second person has no say and no responsibility?
She describes herself as a leader with Alpha energy. Wouldn't a leader take charge and plan the date and do all the heavy lifting?
@@florianlaur5300 Not if she's not the one who asked for the date. She also said in her previous video that she didn't want to take charge all the time, that's why she also wants a guy who is also an A.
@@buybuydandavis He didn't say do you want to get together again, he precisely invited her for brunch.
Loooooooool you are saying it as it is giiiirl. The calm burns, I love it.
I agree with your last statement: his flexibility and interest in discovering her desires/needs is how he plans, I'm guessing. Maybe he doesn't worry about being "sexy" or being seen as "in control" on a first date. Maybe he knows way too many guys who NEED to be in control and then their partners end up wondering how they ended up in an abusive relationship with a narcissist or worse... and he doesn't want to be like that. Our society tries to train all men to be bosses and it's amazing to me that so many women seem to fall for this type, only to complain later how bossy the guy is!
But yeah, clear communication is what it's all about!!
Ya this one girl was telling me she was busy working. 6 hours later I get a text saying I guess you don't care to talk to me...
Like what the actual fudge popsicles??? 😂😂
texting is only for making plans anyway. don't "chat" unless in person
Then they say “I don’t want a pen pal. Women are such energy wasters just focus on other stuff
Western women are very odd creatures....
@@accesschilly which is already sick. Do you need a partner that never wants to chat? But yes I kinda enjoy when nobody is spamming me. 😆
Legit expecting you to chase on the chaotic nature of that
I’m so glad you bring up these types of interactions… I was left on “read”. Didn’t pursue or push. I’m not going to waste energy trying to convince someone 🤝🏼
I've been married for nearly 18 years (got married at 22), and man... has shit ever changed since I was dating. I hope like hell I never have to go through dating in this strange era of entitled women. Of course, not all women are like this, but it seems like SO MANY ARE. I had a friend who was sort of like this, but she was not nearly as bad. Yikes.
I also don't think I could date a girl who had an active TikTok account. No way would I trust that she wouldn't air our dirty laundry to the world, as if anybody but us should actually give a shit.
Text is the best way to miss communicate. I realize most people use it for a majority of interactions but it’s never been good in the beginning of getting to know someone in my experience.
The guy is obviously very experienced with flaky women; he (as do all men eventually) confirmed the date the previous day, and when she was ambivalent he tried one more time, then didn't worry about it anymore after a carefully neutral "ok cool" final text. An "ok cool" text can be interpreted in any way she wants to.
I do think so many things can go wrong on a 2nd date with ambivalent women, and that's actually a good thing. If she's not moving heaven and earth to get a second date with you, then you can't outspend and out-entertain your way into her interest.
Exactly. She failed to land her dream man, and she is too clueless to know better! When she fails, instead of learning how to do better next time, she makes a video teaching the sought after men she craves how to stop her from continuing to fail. Thirsty men (losers) then line up to tell her how wonderful she is. Meanwhile another woman is busy landing the man she missed.
After an “ok cool” text, he most likely views her as a backup plan/recreational only kind of woman. She’s proving she’s not to be taken seriously.
OK cool is just a gentlemen's way of saying YOU BELONG TO THE STREETS
When will there be a college major in deciphering dating text messages to take student loans for?
That would still be more practical knowledge than some of the electives I took in college.😂
@@michaelstein7510 Why is your degree program allowing electives?
My University: you will take and pass these courses.
My man dodged a bullet. She doesn't deserve him.
I thought the "day before" was confirming earlier agreed upon plans. He was on the edge of needy - contacting her 3 seperate days (in addion to the first date) in no way was this situation as the woman percieved.
Courtney looking into the camera concerned lol
This is the issue with communicating via text message instead of verbally whether by telephone or in person. In person is best because you also get the body language. This miscommunication could have all been avoided.
Ugh yes. I honestly hate text these days. There's way too much room to misinterpret words, tone, lacks any emotional depth. Whatever thoughts/ feels the receiver gets is just what they project onto the screen. You can cover so much more ground & make a better connection over a 15 min call compared to an entire day consumed with distracted texting.
@@justacoginthefkeryI agree so much this is the main reason I was stopping online dating. Because I'm not from that error but ppl from my generation started to be on that. And it just leaves you frustrated. So I think that and fake profiles killed online dating atleast with me
Thankfully, this miscommunication did happen. LOL
Communicating online suits women better than it probably suits guys. Not man bashing here but I always found I could be bullied a little bit in person. I know you say you get the body language but guys will often hear what they want to hear and I struggled with guys who were pushy and with saying no. That's obviously on me, but it's a big reason why a lot of us prefer chatting online. We have more control of the situation and there's more time to respond. Again I think free flowing conversation probably suits guys better, but women have to be a bit more careful what we say, especially in the early stages, so as not to give off the wrong signals and things. So having that time to check the response is better as well and causes less miscommunication in the long term. But yeah, always a danger of misunderstanding when texting.
@@MySimDied You are truly delusional. When you are online you give away all your female power. Your personal presence, in front of a man, is more powerful than anything you can say in a text message. Men are hard wired to respond to your physical presence. Why give away any advantage you have?
Just so ppl know bc I didn't.. a boundary is something you tell someone you're going to do and it requires the other person to do nothing.. still trying to figure this out. I heard a therapist say this so if anyone could shed light on examples of this, that's great.
"You missed out, sorry."
Lady, he didn't miss out. He lucked out by avoiding you.
I like how this was uploaded on Valentine day lol.
😂❤️
“he missed out”. Oh absolutely. He missed out on a traumatic life experience. Somebody somewhere was really looking out for this guy.
I get having a plan but I am spontaneous. I like a woman who can be spontaneous as well. I work in music industry. I live by schedules half the year while working. Being grown and having curfews because we have bus calls and such. So I love being able to just do things random. Not always but it’s nice to sometimes just be spontaneous.
Kids insist on texting which is the worst way to have a conversation. You miss so much information when texting. I’m surprised they even know how to talk anymore. This is sad.
Haha, I would NEVER 100% plan anything for a date. I may layout a framework but I never ever did 100% of the work. If she wont put anything in, then she isnt really interested...
Im happily married for 15 years btw... So it works...
If she does not want to make any effort, she's not into you anyway.
Smart man, you got the early pickings when younger
@jonw999999 facts I played to much when I was young in my life it's about 6 girls I wish I was smart enough to stop playing around. But I didn't and I gotta pick from leftovers that others didn't want. So I rather be single until a opportunity shows up. BTW I'm in my late 30s
Dude, I hear you. I don't plan dates anyway. I'll pick you up, let's do something fun. Who said the universe requires planning? It's just a choice. Some people love planning, more power to them. Some people love spontaneity, this is also allowed. I'm married 20 years too, my wife and I may plan to go downtown to a cafe we love, we didn't make reservations and if they are closed when we arrive, we do something else. It works for us. I mean we found that cafe by wondering around, and probably showing up too late for a concert anyway.
He saw where this was headed and pulled the eject handle. Well done.
Get out early.
You and I thought the samething. I immediately called it self sabotage she didn't want to be disappointed later, or felt she didn't deserve this guy. I had a few dates where women called me "to good to be true" statement. Setting expectations high doomed for failure, They make person sound like they are the greatest thing since slice cheese or something. Yeah, you're going to be disappointed.
He seen the video realized there was some miscommunication as to what the issue was.
I understand you want help. I think my HUGE RED FLAG, is putting those texts on social media and judging him in front of everyone. Sometimes, I shiver to think that's what the dating market is like...
yes this is and how it's been for at least 15 years
Courtney, you are a real sweetheart. Thanks for being a voice of reason and sanity.
I watch this channel because your perspective and personality are a breath of fresh air :)
This dude can't even imagine the bullet he dodged LOL
This is why I hate texting. It's too easy to read into a text message. One word can get the other person triggered, especially if that person always assumes the worst in people. I understand that people are busy and can't talk on the phone all the time, but taking the time to talk can immediately squash out any misunderstandings and assumptions.
Omg I'm slightly feeling sorry for myself since I'm single on valentine's. As I'm watching this I'm thinking about my ex who recently dumped me over text on new years eve. And this is the kind of crap she would pull right around 4:05. She would say I haven't heard from you...when I was the last one to text!!! I'm laughing so hard right now because Courtney is my conscience when she pauses the video around the 4min mark because these were my exact thoughts going through it and watching the vid. I am no longer feeling sorry for myself, I'd rather be single than deal with that anymore lol.
Just remember that not all people are like this :)