Brutally honest advice for my 20 year old self
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- As of this video, I'm a 25 year old management consultant and former investment banker living in New York. Over the last 5 years I've learned a lot of hard truths about work and life. If I could go back in time and talk to college-aged Matt, this is what I would tell him.
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0:00 Intro
0:18 Lesson 1: You get what you deserve, not what you want
2:19 Lesson 2: Don't tell other people about your goals
6:02 Lesson 3: Develop a bias for action
7:47 Lesson 4: Don't place 100% of your identity in any 1 thing
9:05 Lesson 5: Shifting your self identity is THE KEY to lasting change
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The brutally honest advice I subscribed for, thanks Matt
Thanks Sean! Hope you are enjoying the end of the semester!
Yes I deserve it so now I have to carry out my personal goals.
Thank you Matt, these devices are really valuable!
Glad you found the video helpful!
awesome video man!
I've realized all the advice you gave in the video, which was so true. It is really helpful to better navigate life by combining understanding with action.
Hey Jane, I’m so glad to hear it! Thanks for stopping by
Agree with you👍🏻 thank you for this video! Keep it going💎
Thanks, stay tuned!
a 29y/o listening to this and still feel so relevant to my life right now, thanks Matt! subscribed.
Hey William! I'm so glad you resonated
You deserve alot more subscribers man! Keep going!
You got a new subscriber!
Thanks you! This means a lot to me
Great video Matt. Keep the content going man.
Thanks Sean, hope wrapping up the semester is going well!
@@matthuang21 yes indeed about to finish tomorrow looking forward to summer.
Well said advice!
Hey Patrick! Glad you liked the video 🙏
Hi Matt, I found you through your video explaining all the different consulting firms since I'm also a consultant! I really liked your analogy with the rubber band here, never heard of that before. It's a cool perspective shift to move where your rubber band is rather than just stretching it. And also I agree with you about bias to action - we can't just research and think, at some point we have to move.
Hey! Love to hear from a fellow consultant - glad you found the rubber band analogy insightful!
Great advice!
Thanks Wiktoria!
Top quality of its kind, great job as usual Matt 😎
Haha thanks man! Was great catching up in person last week!
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Amazing video 💪🏻👍🏻
Thank you 🙌
Great video.
Thanks, appreciate the support!
Hello sir Matt,
Thank you for this video, it really hit me🖤
Hoping we could be friends someday if i'm already there in NYC.
Thanks Jomari! I hope so too!
@@matthuang21 thanks buddy,
Very impressive video
Thanks!
This is why I dislike LinkedIn because the points you’ve mentioned. You’re defining yourself by your job, and it creates a false sense of camaraderie where strangers just post generic comments so that they feel they’ve had a positive impact on your success. You also get dopamine hits which lower your resilience, imposter syndrome from comparison which fuels doom scrolling and increases LinkedIn’s revenue
Agreed, LinkedIn is cancer these days. Too much humble bragging imo.
You deserve sub bro.
Thanks boss!
Here is how you can become successful at an early age: 1- Become an advanced tennis player; 2- Become an advanced golfer; 3- graduate college one year early in Computer Science so that you can take that gap year and become the best version of yourself physically and mentally; 4- Go to the gym everyday but not just every gym, become member at Equinox gym so that you can run into shakers and movers there. You can use the money you saved from graduating college early to pay for the gym membership; 5- have the discipline to play tennis and golf everyday and force yourself to meet at least five new people everyday, either on the tennis or golf course. Tennis and golf people want to play and hang out with you if you're good on the tennis or golf course. That's where you build relationship and networking. If you've read the book "never eat alone", you would know the power of networking. Most decision makers play golf or tennis, if you're not good with either, your path to success becomes much harder. My 2c.
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Lol you dont even lift pal
You prob the creep at the gym that benches the empty bar and curls 5 pounds 😆
Such arrogance
Nice blanket statement faulty generalizaing solipsism
Subbed from singapore
I mean f*ck me that advice is actually very wise
Hey Madison! Thanks for the kind comment!
Hey thanks for the consulting video
Of course, glad you were able to get a lot of value from it
lets be honest. Advice number 1 is true in the sense that victim mentality is not usefull for success, but there are many things that escape our control. So, for example, your parents dying in a car crash and growing without them is 'bad luck' and it will determine who you are and who you become. that being said, there is always something you can do. i feel it is 50/50 work/luck.
by the way, starting my consulting job (first job) next week!! thanks for the tips:)
Valid point, there’s definitely an element of luck involved with everything. A lot of these lessons are nuanced, I used to have a much stronger victim mentality so I would attribute my failures to just being “unlucky” when in reality there were things I could have done better. My goal is to push people to develop an ownership mindset earlier vs complaining about their misfortunes. Best of luck with your consulting job!
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Nice video! I would push back a bit on "Don't tell other people about your goals" though. It's a bit more "Don't tell the wrong people about your goals". If you are telling them because you know they could give you constructive feedback on your current approach I think you can get a lot out of it. If you are telling them because you want them to validate your choice in goals then thats perhaps a bit vain.
The types of goals you’re referring to are a bit different than his
Thanks for the comment! I agree that accountability as outside feedback can be very constructive, which is why I mentioned it’s ok to tell a small set of folks who will support you and give honest feedback. I do however think a lot of people tend to try and get some form of validation often through social media, and while for some this may not affect their achievement if that goal, my younger self was guilty of this.
I have to disagree with most points. I just have a totally different mindset and philosophy. Here are some of my viewpoints 1. There is no such thing as deserving something. The world is neutral, you get what you get. Some people work very hard and never archive success or get hit by a car and die. Thinking the world owes you for any work will set you up for failure. 2. Telling people your goals should be fine, but americans hype way to much up. If you get cheers and praise for saying your goals thats retarded. Here in germany we will say if we think your goals are unrealistic, you dont get a dopamine hit, you get an honest opinion. 4. Placing 100% of your identity in grades or career is so asian. How about looking inside of oneself and learning what your passions, principles and convictions are. That is what makes you. No job or infact any other activity. 5. How about learning who you are and develop that instead of trying to change your entire personality like some programmable robot. Does your personality really have no substance so that you can change everything about you? Im sorry if im harsh, im just being honest. I enjoy your videos.
Thanks for voicing your disagreements, I take no offense and appreciate your honesty! A few thoughts here:
1. I agree black swan events and accidents are out of our control, but when it comes to accomplishments/goals I don't prescribe to the belief that we have zero influence - if that is true, then why should anyone try to work hard at all? The sentiment I'm trying to convey is for people to take greater ownership of their life situation and is targeted towards folks who complain vs take action, not so much telling a disabled person that they "deserve" to be disabled.
2. My audience is majority American, but your point is valid.
4. Placing 100% of your identity on any 1 thing is not just an Asian thing, I'd argue any ambitious person who spends most of their time working / thinking about something would be susceptible to this. Looking within oneself is easier said than done - as a student you often don't have the necessary life experience to decide for yourself what your passions and principles are, and so you look at what society prescribes to guide your thinking.
5. "Learning who you are and developing that" is a bit vague and I think is another way of saying that people should just decide what they truly want and focus on growing (i.e. changing) that aspect of themselves. What if I grew up overweight and decided at 18 that I wanted to live a more healthy life? If that requires a shift in self identity so that I adopt healthy habits, then so be it. Nothing wrong with change - if you aren't changing, you aren't learning anything new. I think we actually are on the same page here.