Fawning is a dishonest way to live. It’s being fake to everyone. The false persona. Yes, we abandon ourselves we think to get our needs met and then resent everyone when they don’t show they care. I have been this way most of my life. Now I ask myself” why am I doing this, and do I want to do this?” I did lots of things I did not want to do. When we set boundaries we sift out the users in our life. Thank God! You guys are so insightful I am very impressed. Thank you! ❤
Nima is speaking directly to me. With chronic fatigue and pain, I lost touch with myself entirely until my body had to scream at me to deal with my stuff. Yes, totally a fawner. I also go into martyrdom thinking because I do everything for everyone else but no one returns that care on me and there it is - my repressed anger. So much to work on.
Love this! I come from a middle eastern background and no one has addressed the cultural issues. Thanks to both of you! So much to learn and feeling hopeful 🙏
I am greatly thankful for falling across Russell's video with Mel Robins. Anxiety. I thank you so much for doing these videos and now I see your friend Dr. Nima Rahmany. You are both beautiful humans. Thank you.
Hardly anyone is talking about fawning. It works for so many people why would we want to screw it up and encourage people away from behaving in a way that feeds our ego. Super excited to hear this conversation on the fawn response. Leading edge for sure! Keep up the good work!
One more thing. As a person who spoke over others in conversation like you do Nima,I learned it was a form of dominance. Also, what I have to say is more important or even better I know more. Food for thought.
Hi Guys - I’m a 60 year old people-pleaser and new channel subscriber. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experiences. Unfortunately, I suffered years of chronic fatigue and eventually got cancer before I realized my fawning was the issue. I really appreciate your guidance and techniques for resolution. Disrupting relationships with “friends” who wanted to continue to use me was the hardest part, but I feel so much better being honest with myself. I’m still a good person, I just know how to say, “no, not now,” when I need to. The more I stand my ground and listen to my gut/solar plexus chakra, the less awkward and easier it gets.
😮 the story of my life. Lost my thyreoid this year, due to autoimune. Still felling resentfull, angry, exhausted, anxious.. etc. I was constantly looking for reasons. Thank you! ❤
When someone attacks me verbally, i just start agreeing with everything they are saying, to appease them. Then i go back, after thinking about it and feeling hurt, i go back and readdress all the things that were said and hurt me and that i never really agreed with at all. I feel so much turmoil inside until i go back and talk honestly to the person. It seems like I'm not capable of being honest when someone is attacking me.
LOL! This road trip must have been the best ! Thanks for the great content guys, I am learning a lot. My journey is really benefiting from those talks. Thanks for investing time here. :)
Starting to believe that fawning can also be inherited. My mother has been in fawn all her life. So did her mother and in turn my grandmother's mother and I. Learned to be a doormat. Giving and giving until I collapse. My body and soul in wise energies go into fawn without me even understanding what is happening. Only now, nearly 50 years later, have I put together my life's puzzle. In my last relationship, which today I see as a blessing, even though it was painful deep into the bone marrow, I got to see my inner child as locked up. I also got to see myself based on how I acted as a child. When I lived with my mentally ill father and his madness. How I lived on breadcrumbs and with Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. My mother in turn codependent and in fawn took care of all this. She meets a new man when I am 9 years old. A polished man on the surface but a devil on the inside. A covert narc. So fawning is perfect here. My mother serves herself to death. This also becomes my norm. So when this goes on in me today. I have to leave. Because in this I leave myself completely. I don't exist. Without this, my programming goes on automatically. Today I trust my body. It speaks clearly. Which it has always done. But not understood. Been working on myself for several years now. Hard work required. Also dare to feel all sensations without being afraid constantly. But is sensitive to raised voices and many more things. But challenges me every day with situations to get through life from a new perspective. So grateful for those I met along the way back to who I was meant to be before programming. But this is a job for life.
I fawn as a response to rejection sensitive dysphoria. Any negative social interactions (or even neutral social interactions I wrongly perceive as negative) fill me with this unbearable pain. It's like a punch in the gut. It hits this nerve so deep in my core that I become desperate to alleviate it. First I covertly fawn, and if that doesn't appease them, I straight up dissociate. I'm really becoming aware of it but that rejection sensitive dysphoria HURTS ME SO BAD ... Idk how to sit with it without trying to alleviate it somehow because it's so deeply painful ...
Chronic fatigue and stomach issues are definitely me. It is so hard to stop and take a step back and think about how you feel inside before answering something someone asks you to do. It’s so very hard how to either go and help everyone or not at all. Is there a balance
I’m doing the revision now. I’m on chapter 56 “The Dissociation Association” so I’m halfway through and it’s taken me about 3 weeks. Be changed WAY more than I thought I would. It’s sooooo much better of a book now. The theories are the same but since 2020 I have explained these concepts on 100s of podcasts and writings. I’m LOVING how the book reads now. It’s scheduled to come out August/September 2024.
The guy doing all the talking needs to know when to shut up and let his friend speak, he needs to learn to listen, give and take, he is too overwhelming, hopecthis helps don't get mad!😊 Just say no to everything, I don't speak to my npd evil sisters anymore, putting up with this abuse was soul destroying! Shut up and let your friend speak!
What is this burrito of helpful ingredients wrapped in creepy interrupting weirdness? Could the chiropractor stop interrupting and talking over the whole damn time so there’s actually a flow?
@@drnimarahmany White wife? You’re without excuse then. In all fairness. it might be a cultural thing from the US. I’m Australian and here, that kind of anti White crap isn’t tolerated. Racism is racism. My wife is American and it’s one of the reasons we live here and not there. Here’s some pearls for you. If you’re attempting to appeal to a wider audience than America, (with your book and podcast), you might want to make some adjustments and keep your bigotry to yourself. Take a real deep breath yourself. .
Fawning is a dishonest way to live. It’s being fake to everyone. The false persona. Yes, we abandon ourselves we think to get our needs met and then resent everyone when they don’t show they care. I have been this way most of my life. Now I ask myself” why am I doing this, and do I want to do this?” I did lots of things I did not want to do. When we set boundaries we sift out the users in our life. Thank God! You guys are so insightful I am very impressed. Thank you! ❤
Nima is speaking directly to me. With chronic fatigue and pain, I lost touch with myself entirely until my body had to scream at me to deal with my stuff. Yes, totally a fawner. I also go into martyrdom thinking because I do everything for everyone else but no one returns that care on me and there it is - my repressed anger. So much to work on.
Anxiety is a separation from self! Waw that is phenomenal!😮
Love this! I come from a middle eastern background and no one has addressed the cultural issues. Thanks to both of you! So much to learn and feeling hopeful 🙏
I’m from there too I totally relate!😢
I am greatly thankful for falling across Russell's video with Mel Robins. Anxiety.
I thank you so much for doing these videos and now I see your friend Dr. Nima Rahmany. You are both beautiful humans.
Thank you.
Hardly anyone is talking about fawning. It works for so many people why would we want to screw it up and encourage people away from behaving in a way that feeds our ego.
Super excited to hear this conversation on the fawn response. Leading edge for sure! Keep up the good work!
One more thing. As a person who spoke over others in conversation like you do Nima,I learned it was a form of dominance. Also, what I have to say is more important or even better I know more. Food for thought.
Hi Guys - I’m a 60 year old people-pleaser and new channel subscriber. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experiences. Unfortunately, I suffered years of chronic fatigue and eventually got cancer before I realized my fawning was the issue. I really appreciate your guidance and techniques for resolution. Disrupting relationships with “friends” who wanted to continue to use me was the hardest part, but I feel so much better being honest with myself. I’m still a good person, I just know how to say, “no, not now,” when I need to. The more I stand my ground and listen to my gut/solar plexus chakra, the less awkward and easier it gets.
'its heroic work" Perfect
😮 the story of my life. Lost my thyreoid this year, due to autoimune. Still felling resentfull, angry, exhausted, anxious.. etc. I was constantly looking for reasons. Thank you! ❤
Such a great and, sadly, relatable conversation. Thanks!
Me too
The privilege stuff was so spot on!! So refreshing hearing this conversation, thank you!
This is extremely fascinating and helpful. Thanks very much!
Amazing, simply amazing and oh so inspiring and informative…. Thank you both
Healthcare working here- burnt out from fawning, thought it was just me! How to manage in this field until I switch careers?
Thank you, this was helpful to listen to! Blessings
Happy new year Dr Russ. Looking forward to this. Hope u can help loads of people this year
Wow love this. Thank you guys
When someone attacks me verbally, i just start agreeing with everything they are saying, to appease them. Then i go back, after thinking about it and feeling hurt, i go back and readdress all the things that were said and hurt me and that i never really agreed with at all. I feel so much turmoil inside until i go back and talk honestly to the person. It seems like I'm not capable of being honest when someone is attacking me.
LOL! This road trip must have been the best ! Thanks for the great content guys, I am learning a lot. My journey is really benefiting from those talks. Thanks for investing time here. :)
Oh my god.. my dad is a choleric and this is SO true. He is a people pleaser first…
This is amazing!
Nice to see such deep friendships 🎉 thank u
This opened my eyes so wide I almost left my body
You two are great!❤
Fantastic discussion🙏👍👏
Thank you !
Starting to believe that fawning can also be inherited. My mother has been in fawn all her life. So did her mother and in turn my grandmother's mother and I. Learned to be a doormat. Giving and giving until I collapse. My body and soul in wise energies go into fawn without me even understanding what is happening. Only now, nearly 50 years later, have I put together my life's puzzle. In my last relationship, which today I see as a blessing, even though it was painful deep into the bone marrow, I got to see my inner child as locked up. I also got to see myself based on how I acted as a child. When I lived with my mentally ill father and his madness. How I lived on breadcrumbs and with Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. My mother in turn codependent and in fawn took care of all this. She meets a new man when I am 9 years old. A polished man on the surface but a devil on the inside. A covert narc. So fawning is perfect here. My mother serves herself to death. This also becomes my norm. So when this goes on in me today. I have to leave. Because in this I leave myself completely. I don't exist. Without this, my programming goes on automatically. Today I trust my body. It speaks clearly. Which it has always done. But not understood. Been working on myself for several years now. Hard work required. Also dare to feel all sensations without being afraid constantly. But is sensitive to raised voices and many more things. But challenges me every day with situations to get through life from a new perspective. So grateful for those I met along the way back to who I was meant to be before programming. But this is a job for life.
I fawn as a response to rejection sensitive dysphoria. Any negative social interactions (or even neutral social interactions I wrongly perceive as negative) fill me with this unbearable pain. It's like a punch in the gut. It hits this nerve so deep in my core that I become desperate to alleviate it. First I covertly fawn, and if that doesn't appease them, I straight up dissociate. I'm really becoming aware of it but that rejection sensitive dysphoria HURTS ME SO BAD ... Idk how to sit with it without trying to alleviate it somehow because it's so deeply painful ...
I LOVE this! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼☺️🙏🏼💙
Chronic fatigue and stomach issues are definitely me. It is so hard to stop and take a step back and think about how you feel inside before answering something someone asks you to do. It’s so very hard how to either go and help everyone or not at all. Is there a balance
No way calling names is a valuable communication
When is your revised book coming out Dr. Russell?
I’m doing the revision now. I’m on chapter 56 “The Dissociation Association” so I’m halfway through and it’s taken me about 3 weeks. Be changed WAY more than I thought I would. It’s sooooo much better of a book now. The theories are the same but since 2020 I have explained these concepts on 100s of podcasts and writings. I’m LOVING how the book reads now. It’s scheduled to come out August/September 2024.
Why do i get anxiety when anybody is coming to my house even family
My first sensation depends on situation and anticipated question. Usually forehead for me.
The guy doing all the talking needs to know when to shut up and let his friend speak, he needs to learn to listen, give and take, he is too overwhelming, hopecthis helps don't get mad!😊 Just say no to everything, I don't speak to my npd evil sisters anymore, putting up with this abuse was soul destroying! Shut up and let your friend speak!
Good video. The interviewer could do a bit better at not interrupting/talking over the interviewee.
What is this burrito of helpful ingredients wrapped in creepy interrupting weirdness? Could the chiropractor stop interrupting and talking over the whole damn time so there’s actually a flow?
Hello, Dr Nima!
I got endometriosis
One at a time guys….speak one at a time lol
I was able to listen and learn till the talking over each other just became to irritating and counterproductive.😢
Dr Nima, Are you a B.E.S.T. practitioner?
Likely great info but the repeated potty mouths have caused me to search for information elsewhere. Too bad!
The guy on the left talks to damn much - shut up and stop over talking so much geeez
I was enjoying this until your guest went on an anti White racist rant. You might want to think about that
It’s a running joke between us- my wife is white brother. Deep breath.
@@drnimarahmany White wife? You’re without excuse then. In all fairness. it might be a cultural thing from the US. I’m Australian and here, that kind of anti White crap isn’t tolerated. Racism is racism. My wife is American and it’s one of the reasons we live here and not there. Here’s some pearls for you. If you’re attempting to appeal to a wider audience than America, (with your book and podcast), you might want to make some adjustments and keep your bigotry to yourself. Take a real deep breath yourself. .