How to be an energetically attractive and confident lover

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  • @heirsoleil
    @heirsoleil 6 місяців тому +522

    “I try not to concern myself with the karma of others.” Growing up in the South especially, being in other people’s business is a cultural pastime that I don’t feel comfortable with, but try not to judge or bring the vibe down around. I love that wording.

    • @chillcreature737
      @chillcreature737 6 місяців тому +16

      As someone from the South as well this is so real. Everyone is always in someone else’s business, or telling their business. 💀

    • @TheCosmicCinem4
      @TheCosmicCinem4 6 місяців тому +8

      I had the same experience, It is so true, I always feel better when I focus on myself, my life and the people around me and all the good things we have, whenever they bring things up like the looks of a person or what happened to them I stay out of it as much as possible

  • @moonbread2334
    @moonbread2334 6 місяців тому +413

    Refusing people's offers (bc you're worried about burdening them) = cutting off a cycle of reciprocation that could happen!! Ahh wow that's such a good way of putting it. I needed to hear that.

  • @zsrillanka
    @zsrillanka 6 місяців тому +462

    "You are intense"- my bf said recently. My first reaction was weird, like whaaat...Then after a while I thought for myself, well, FINALLY! I am not making myself small for others anymore, I express myself more and more, share my joy of being alive, I try to make the most out of my days in a playful way...so yeah, i am intense and proud of it:) also...Hitomi, your voice is not "little", not a chance! Your videos help so many human beings «3

    • @nina-w
      @nina-w 6 місяців тому +21

      intensity is a gift!

    • @illuminatedCrowsHeart
      @illuminatedCrowsHeart 6 місяців тому +15

      Intense is bold, vibrant, filled with vitality, exuberant, over flowing !! ❤

    • @marty3456hgn
      @marty3456hgn 5 місяців тому +2

      Oh gosh I am very intense too and I suppress it a little bit cause I don’t want to scare others away but man I’m a passionate lover and just really excited about life and love and getting to share that with the people I care about. I’m glad you’re in a better place and I’m working on slowly breaking my walls down.

    • @katkatungu8813
      @katkatungu8813 4 місяці тому

      I can relate bc I get you're too much alot

  • @gabsasusual
    @gabsasusual 6 місяців тому +172

    Everytime I watch one of these videos I think to myself “Is she aware that she’s saving lives?” bc she saved mine.

  • @wubwzrd
    @wubwzrd 6 місяців тому +139

    "Make being yourself a revolution." 🌿

  • @alicia10387
    @alicia10387 6 місяців тому +46

    Ugh love the way she thinks already a minute in and I resonate with the reframe of instead of saying “I wish that could be me.” To “I’d love to try that some day.” Which is so much lighter and freeing! I’d even add “I’d like to know more about how this person did this or that.” Seeing each other as teammates rather than competitors.

  • @kaylanrosa
    @kaylanrosa 6 місяців тому +100

    Your last point really brought me back to the book Braiding Sweetgrass. I so often find that beautiful current of reciprocity in my travels. It’s beautiful to receive blessings and then be the blessing back in new ways.

    • @Isaure143
      @Isaure143 6 місяців тому

      I love braiding sweetgrass! Such a good book.

    • @elisullivan7392
      @elisullivan7392 6 місяців тому +7

      Me too! I am lying in a hammock right now resting my head on that book as a pillow while watching this video, about to read the next chapter. Fun coincidence :)

    • @wildawake.experience
      @wildawake.experience 6 місяців тому +1

      reading it right noww!

  • @1artist4u2b
    @1artist4u2b 6 місяців тому +81

    Hitomi your words means art and your art mean the world to me

  • @sanjanaa5195
    @sanjanaa5195 5 місяців тому +15

    her voice makes me feel so good. I'm so grateful to exist in the world where she does.

  • @juliannascott4705
    @juliannascott4705 6 місяців тому +28

    Your videos remind me of how capable I am, especially while the world is so turbulent. We can positively affect those around us more than we know!

  • @flamingomingo9810
    @flamingomingo9810 6 місяців тому +36

    I love that point you made about sensuality and things such as being aware of how the sunlight hits you/ bodily movements. I’ve been struggling with this the past few months because my walls have come down more and I’ve been worried that they are threatening to myself and others (but mainly others). Just taking that in and accepting that you will have to go through a phase of discomfort and “revolution” because this sensitivity is so intertwined with the western view of sexuality, aside from the fact that it brings all intentions into the light, has been so liberating to get past.

  • @featherhead181
    @featherhead181 5 місяців тому +16

    Girl, you really always remind me to be my best self and to be more compassionate with myself. I’m so happy and grateful we coexist on the same timeline ❤

  • @Momocreme
    @Momocreme 6 місяців тому +216

    The videos lately have been slaying Hitomi🫶🏼

  • @fionapolgari48
    @fionapolgari48 6 місяців тому +54

    Hitomi, I love your videos so much!! They always give me a sense of peace, break me out of the negative cycles in my mind, and ground me in the present. I love what you said about saying "yes" to experiences more. I definitely notice that when I'm stressed and anxious, I tend to avoid meeting new people and doing new things "until I get my life sorted out," even though it would probably help me to do just that if I said yes, rather than continuing to be stuck in that negative space. To anyone reading this, we're all in it together, dealing with our own challenges, so don't be too harsh with yourself, and remember that taking up space is okay and allowed. Asking for help is allowed. You can lean on other people because people WANT to be leaned on! Much love xx

  • @Createyour_great
    @Createyour_great 6 місяців тому +14

    I identify so much with the example you gave of a friend giving a cup of water, I really was like that before, never letting anyone help me with anything. But I am not like that anymore and I feel so much freer, I am excited to feel even more open and free in this world. Thank you so much for this insight and little conversation about confidence

  • @jvlcixm
    @jvlcixm 6 місяців тому +5

    Honestly, Hitomi, wow. I think this was the most impactful thing I have ever ever heard in my life. I am on this journey of becoming more true to myself - kind, loving, unapologetic of who I am, trusting and spreading positivity everywhere I go. and I get those moments when I am with people who are completely the opposite (I am trying not to do that, but I don't control who I work with for example unfortunately), when people are so negative and complain and are rude when I think that it doesn't make sense to be different from them, because I come off as weird or extremely like pacifistic or something? I had a lot of reflections about it lately and you really spoke to me here - that it makes sense, that this is my path and I don't have to care about what other people would think of it. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration and I think watching this video is a pivotal moment for me. just thank you, again. I hope you're having the loveliest time

  • @broketraveluster6515
    @broketraveluster6515 6 місяців тому +6

    I’m definitely a “I’ll get it myself “ or “do it myself “ kind of person and I never thought of it from your perspective!

  • @fp2551
    @fp2551 6 місяців тому +4

    Wow, I havent clicked on one of your videos in maybe 2 or 3 years (I was in a deep depression and the messages from your channel were really difficult to connect with and tbh made me really angry because i couldnt access that part of me any more). Anyway, you seem to have grown up some much, in such an amazing way. Youre so authentic and balanced, its really inspiring

  • @SoulfulReflections888
    @SoulfulReflections888 4 місяці тому +2

    You are such a light, your energy is healing

  • @divinaryf3703
    @divinaryf3703 5 місяців тому +1

    „Let people love you“ made me instantly cry. Thank you❤

  • @divergentprici
    @divergentprici 6 місяців тому +8

    Lately your videos have made me confident about posting again on UA-cam, the value and healing I received seeing your daily life in this adorable cabin made me realize how important it is to share, whatever it is that you have to say to the world 🌹

  • @Mr.MasonCat
    @Mr.MasonCat 6 місяців тому +5

    im so happy to have you in my existence hitomi... Thank you for being who you are!

  • @ankitadas3400
    @ankitadas3400 6 місяців тому +2

    I love listening to you and the wisdom you share. At times being in a space where there's a lot of clashing energies I can't escape, makes me question my self of being. Days like today where i get the time to clean, cook for myself, and take care of my body help me to ground myself and throughout my routine, i always have your videos on. I learn something new every time, today I learned how i should let people do something for me when they want to and that it's not a step back from my side but rather it's about letting them take a step towards me.

  • @mrautynka
    @mrautynka 5 місяців тому +1

    Your invitation for listening the episode got me. Masterpiece. Such a beautiful invitation. 14:43

  • @samgween
    @samgween 6 місяців тому +4

    For real I needed to hear this. I’ve been feeling ashamed of my actions and who I am recently and this video just brought me back to my self ❤

  • @danirazuk9583
    @danirazuk9583 4 місяці тому +1

    You are literally a role model to me! You appeared to me in the perfect timing and I’m so glad for it! Continue to be this amazing human being. Lots of love ❤

  • @ri35685
    @ri35685 6 місяців тому +3

    Your videos always feel like a warm hug, but on the internet!! I so appreciate you being so vulnerable on things like social media, when being vulnerbale just in real life can be hard enough - you def inspire me to try and 'be' love!

  • @jasminemassey4283
    @jasminemassey4283 6 місяців тому +3

    You’re so sweet! Self love oozes from you and holds space for others in such a beautiful way✨

  • @violabx
    @violabx 6 місяців тому +2

    I genuinely love your energy. I felt pretty exhausted rn and also even kinda negative bc of it and within the few first seconds of your video I just felt better and more grateful. Your videos are so healing, thank you❤️

  • @cassandraocana4483
    @cassandraocana4483 Місяць тому

    “Make being yourself a revolution”. Amazing ✨✨✨

  • @SimonesBlankCanvas
    @SimonesBlankCanvas 6 місяців тому +4

    I often hear your voice in my head giving me words of wisdom and speaking beautiful poetry about life! Thank you queen!

  • @TheFernASMR
    @TheFernASMR 6 місяців тому +1

    I love how you see the world and how you find words for feelings I couldn’t speak out 🧚‍♂️

  • @deanzaherrera2256
    @deanzaherrera2256 6 місяців тому +3

    “Nothing that you are could ever be wrong”

  • @calcam2100
    @calcam2100 3 місяці тому +1

    lots of 💎s here! i liked the part about receiving/reciprocity and the example you used with making friends dinner and if they declined u would feel sad. i tend to say “oh no it’s okay, I can do it” as well in whatever context. So this was very eye opening, and an element to receiving that I over looked because I try to be so gracious. I will now start saying yes more when offered things (when it makes sense). Thank you for this insight!!! 🦋💓

  • @m00nsp3ck
    @m00nsp3ck 4 місяці тому +1

    I’ve been watching your videos for yearsss and recently I have been avoiding your content and I’m not entirely sure why.. but I think it has something to do with me not living authentically and not wanting to face your genuine, authentic expression in fear it would trigger me??? IDK but I’m glad I jumped back into your world, it’s so gracious and the reminders are so gentle and filled with love and intention. Nothing to be scared of. Thank you hitomi for existing and creating a safe space to land in whenever

  • @elisanapoletano
    @elisanapoletano 6 місяців тому +23

    Safe place, ethereal good vibes as always Hitomi x

  • @julzamidala2865
    @julzamidala2865 6 місяців тому +1

    Hitomi I love your unique way of expressing essential truths about life, love and everything in between.

  • @Joseanna.x
    @Joseanna.x Місяць тому

    Your my new comfort youtuber❤ thankyou for existing and sharing it with me

  • @alicia10387
    @alicia10387 6 місяців тому +1

    Aww this is the sweetest comment section ever. You guys are so kind!💕

  • @kalopsias
    @kalopsias 6 місяців тому +2

    this channel is my safe space !! and the message always comes at the right time. i know you're not a perfect person either of course, but that is exactly why the lessons i take from you & your journey have been so valuable in becoming the best version of myself !! thank you so much

  • @srichard1232158
    @srichard1232158 6 місяців тому

    You are amazing. Whenever I am feeling lost, I know I can come here and feel so safe and inspired. Thank you Hitomi!

  • @doralicebenedusi5752
    @doralicebenedusi5752 6 місяців тому +1

    "Make being yourself a revolution" ❤

  • @Littlejadedragoni_11
    @Littlejadedragoni_11 6 місяців тому +4

    HITOMIIII CAN YOU PLS DO A VIDEO ON POLYAMORY? And Monogamy? Like a objective view on both and how to deal with a relationship where 1 partner wants/needs to be “free” and see other people and the other partner not feeling this need at all!

  • @heaven.on.earth.podcast
    @heaven.on.earth.podcast 6 місяців тому

    I love your genuine thank you at the end hehe ! But it’s crazy how when you follow people on social media and keep up with their videos/ posts etc they really can be a little voice in your head. so many times have i returned to something you’ve said in your video ! It definitely inspires me to be that voice for others. We all have so much to add to the world and when we can all help each other out it is just so so beautiful

  • @antslife5839
    @antslife5839 6 місяців тому

    you’ve been my favorite not even just youtuber but just one of my favorite humans for so long! ur impact is truly so powerful and shiny

  • @madebym5359
    @madebym5359 6 місяців тому

    I miss these intimate talks and deep convos of inspiration, insight, and optimism and realness . I love how calm and peaceful and articulate you are. Your energy comes through the videos and content so intimately and perfectly. Always always am i thankful every time u post of how lucky am i to have found you or simply to consume such content, and for people like Hitomi to exist in the lifetime of mine. Only wished i had them as friends in real life lmao . Much love 💗

  • @rozaSkroza
    @rozaSkroza 5 місяців тому

    every time I start your video, I can't stop watching.
    this is *so* in alignment with what I'm processing and learning rn.
    thank you ❤

  • @nadiabarmasse5294
    @nadiabarmasse5294 6 місяців тому

    Your UA-cam channel is a safe space to me, really I mean it, you helped me so much with all your videos, I cannot thank you enough 🥺💖

  • @katlantas5674
    @katlantas5674 6 місяців тому

    I'm so grateful I get to hear these inspiring and loving thoughts that were formed by such deep experiences, by a person who feels and thinks so intensely. I take these positive thoughts I gain from hearing you speak and try to give back to other people as a more vulnerable and open being. Thank you for being here and sharing some of yourself.

  • @ellauchi7062
    @ellauchi7062 5 місяців тому

    What a beautiful soul you have❤️ Your energy is so radiant and it makes me really want to bring out more of my authentic self☺️

  • @stuhproductions
    @stuhproductions 6 місяців тому +1

    I adore you so much. This video reminded me that we are truly all the teacher and the student… girl if you ever have a meet up I will be there!!

  • @F4R4DISE
    @F4R4DISE 6 місяців тому

    Love how the little light reflections on the wall change with every cut✨ two new affirmations I got from this video:
    I am excited to share myself
    I trigger aliveness in the people around me 🥺💗

    • @F4R4DISE
      @F4R4DISE 6 місяців тому

      I let people love me ✨

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths 3 місяці тому +1

    Confidence starts with truly loving and accepting yourself. Practice self-compassion, focus on your strengths, and work on your self-esteem. When you’re grounded in self-love, you don’t seek validation from others.

  • @Samadhicat
    @Samadhicat 6 місяців тому

    I love being deep and I being around people like you ❤

  • @cyberruds
    @cyberruds 6 місяців тому

    So accurate when you said you have been sometimes the voice talking narratives in my head hahahaha , thank you for taking me back to this feeling! Adulting is crazy, thank you for keeping people alive including me

  • @h3neystars
    @h3neystars 6 місяців тому +2

    the way the timing of this video is perfect ... thank you so much hitomi

  • @amandajaneh
    @amandajaneh 6 місяців тому +3

    Going to put this video on repeat this summer. Thank you ❤❤

  • @SSL_SSL
    @SSL_SSL 6 місяців тому +1

    Your videos are the very essence of music to my ears. Your quintessence is in my circle of energy. It's a positive vibe and I will pass that on to others !!! To your fans and followers, you are already appreciated and loved; now, you need more of them !!!

  • @BaumbChell
    @BaumbChell 6 місяців тому +1

    you are a very safe space hitomi, thank you for always being there

  • @Hope-vh6yy
    @Hope-vh6yy 6 місяців тому +1

    you speak soooo deeply into my soul I feel so seen

  • @Bloodyharry96
    @Bloodyharry96 5 місяців тому

    I love watching your videos, they are breath of fresh air, i’ve been following you for a while, and I always love your raw uniqueness it has inspired me to just be me, and it really makes me meditate on putting myself out there more often. Thank you for sharing your light it means a lot ❤

  • @ro2974
    @ro2974 6 місяців тому +3

    loved this video! if you don't mind i would love to see you talk about how you deepen your relationships esp long distance relationships?

  • @janjirah
    @janjirah 6 місяців тому

    I love these talking videos 🤗 i often watch them 2-3 times as they really resonate with me and i can return to them and receive the message again and again 🩷 thank you Hitomi 🙏🏻

  • @amylouisemai
    @amylouisemai 6 місяців тому

    the content you create is fun and I adore it. thank you for showing up authentically. i have been desiring to become a better storyteller, and this video was an encouragement.

  • @nova_summer
    @nova_summer 6 місяців тому

    Currently solo traveling and I always hear “I could never do that” and always have the thought of “why not?? You can do anything you wanttttt!!!” And I think hearing that in this video showed me how much I’ve grown and how beautiful the life I’ve created for myself is ✨✨🥰 thank you for this

  • @katielowery1895
    @katielowery1895 6 місяців тому +1

    You ARE an archetype in all of our worlds❤

  • @habibbdvs
    @habibbdvs 6 місяців тому

    This video is so inspiring! Being present, embracing your unique gifts, and radiating confidence can truly transform your life and relationships.

  • @Pales_a
    @Pales_a 6 місяців тому +4

    Why do you sound so poetic 😮❤

  • @Birdiescabin
    @Birdiescabin 6 місяців тому

    The ending, ugh I felt it deep in my heart. You definitely help to return to my authentic self. Thank you!

  • @furnisseugene
    @furnisseugene 6 місяців тому

    You really are so wise and comforting Hitomi, you have a very universal energy which is truly so radiant ☺️ I want to say the same for everyone here too, and for being on this healing and life journey even when it can get really rough at times. Know you’re enough and have unique gifts to bring to the universe 💗✨

  • @Jeannagrace_
    @Jeannagrace_ 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for being an encouraging narrative in my lil brain

  • @bributler8130
    @bributler8130 4 місяці тому

    I'm so grateful to have found this video! So Beautiful! Thank you❤❤❤

  • @jeremymullinax6982
    @jeremymullinax6982 6 місяців тому +1

    I could feel your good mood oozing in this video Hitomi. Loved it

  • @vicky_thegiantpossum
    @vicky_thegiantpossum 6 місяців тому

    I really like your vibe and your mindset ! When I lack confidence in myself or my body (most of the time it's my body tho XD) you are here to remind me that i am so much more and really, I don't have to care about that. You are so acceptant and positive that I feel accepted. It's really nice of you, thank you for doing what you do

    • @vicky_thegiantpossum
      @vicky_thegiantpossum 6 місяців тому

      And honestly it's real, when I hang out with people, I'm not like.. "They are not great person because of this, of their weight or idk", I just love them for who they are. That's why we are friends !

  • @jordynnwhite1414
    @jordynnwhite1414 6 місяців тому

    Lately in my life your videos have been a safe haven and a outlet for so much wisdom and comfort, and I just want to thank you so much Hitomi for creating that safe space here for us on the interwebs 💗 I'm so grateful for how much you pour into us and how much you inspire us in the ways you pour into yourself 🙏🏽 I love you so much Hitomi

  • @naberslauren
    @naberslauren 6 місяців тому

    I’ve been having such a hard day today and your little voice did help me find some beauty in my inner world. I’m going to be thinking about everything you said for a long time 🦋✨Thank you so much Hitomi 🙏

  • @Creativities123
    @Creativities123 6 місяців тому +1

    thank you so much for this Hitomi, this message came at the most perfect time. i am so grateful to you!!! thank you for doing what you do.

  • @JobbieCivanne
    @JobbieCivanne 6 місяців тому +1

    I was just catching up on the video from last week and thought I was going crazy because there's already a new video! THEN I thought I was going extra crazy because this is an old title. Im excited to hear what's changed from earlier this year.

  • @catarinaferreira6751
    @catarinaferreira6751 6 місяців тому

    I really trully love you Hitomi ❤ You've helped me loving myself and get through depressive times, and let myself be seen by this beautifull world! Thank you so much for that 😊 just keep shining 💫

  • @daniguetschow5377
    @daniguetschow5377 6 місяців тому

    I would love you to do a podcast. Your voice feels really calming to me and I love listening to your thoughts

  • @MichaelaHutchison
    @MichaelaHutchison 6 місяців тому

    The messages in this video is just what I needed at this time in my life. Thank you for existing and sharing your wisdom!

  • @balelegoabe4364
    @balelegoabe4364 6 місяців тому +1

    ahhh, this was so wholesome - such excellent reminders! Thank you!

  • @weweremadeofstardust
    @weweremadeofstardust 6 місяців тому +1

    this video was actually so eye opening for me, thank you so much for the advice hitomi!!

  • @anna-melina
    @anna-melina 6 місяців тому +1

    Love you soo much and please remember - everything will be alright again

  • @mariaateresa
    @mariaateresa 4 місяці тому

    hitomi, you inspire me so deeply. thank you.

  • @lisafreeman8691
    @lisafreeman8691 6 місяців тому

    My goodness, thank you for sharing your wisdom and shine. I think I have always had a problem with receiving graciously...I'm going to work on that.

  • @morgzee3361
    @morgzee3361 6 місяців тому +5

    Grateful for this content hitomi🙏🏼💌💌💌✨💐

  • @chloediamond7
    @chloediamond7 6 місяців тому

    your videos always feel so nurturing, thank you for being you and allowing me and so many others to learn how to become more comfortable and alive in our bodies:)

  • @lilianaeva1690
    @lilianaeva1690 4 місяці тому

    Thank you so much you have no idea how much this video just helped me

  • @LawrenceFrank-nu3tw
    @LawrenceFrank-nu3tw 6 місяців тому

    My new genius guru. Nice to hear from a clear mind

  • @deanzaherrera2256
    @deanzaherrera2256 6 місяців тому

    This video is everything!! Thank you ❤️ you are truly my soul sister 😭🙏🏽

  • @DearEmma-tj1zs
    @DearEmma-tj1zs 6 місяців тому

    Hi Hitomi, thank you so much for the sharing and your existence. I’m again going through a really tough time and ur words really inspires me like you always did. I’m also very interested in what we learn from life. And it’s important to remember the power within us and you always remind me this. Thank you. Send you all my love ❤

  • @ltblemont1583
    @ltblemont1583 6 місяців тому

    we love you Hitomi! your videos are the perfect way to start my day, thank you!

  • @stellatownshend4250
    @stellatownshend4250 6 місяців тому

    You’re so wise, I am beyond grateful for you 🙏🏼

  • @kyaoglesby
    @kyaoglesby 6 місяців тому +6

    Thank you Hitomi ❤

  • @Vanessa-tx7dg
    @Vanessa-tx7dg 6 місяців тому

    This advice was so good, I watched it again right after.

  • @lauren8wright
    @lauren8wright 4 місяці тому

    This was beautiful. I loved it. Thank you Hitomiii :)

  • @Alusengo
    @Alusengo 6 місяців тому

    thank you hitomi for this video! it is so authentic & high vibrational - i definitely want to make a practice of genuine/deep complimenting

  • @gabbygrace101
    @gabbygrace101 6 місяців тому

    I love you! Your like my small moment of peace and comfort everyday ❤

  • @laritabuu
    @laritabuu 6 місяців тому +2

    thank you Hitomi!! I'm always lighting up as soon as I see you uploaded