I lost a lot of weight for my age, but that was self inflicted. I’m not a big eater, never have, I’m now eating 4-5 meals a day and feeling pretty good To any teens reading this, take care of your body. Listen to it, if it says it’s hungry you eat, if it says it’s tired you sleep, if it wants some fun in the sun you go out, if it needs to be stimulated you play games
In this story there are three victims and only one oppressor, the mother. The father was deprived of being able to share his daughter's adolescence and was used as a BMT by the w1tch, the daughter went through years of hell and physical and psychological suffering, and the disabled half-sister who did not ask to be born from a betrayal and then having to suffer all his life as a disabled person. The only monsters in this story are the mother and the highly misandric judicial system
Same here. But sadly, even, though OP is getting away from her egg-donor and half-sister, she'll have more trauma coming her way, due to how %£?@ed up they have treated her for years. I predict that, given OP has turned 18, instead of moving in with her dad and going to college with her stepbrother, she'll end up moving in with/marrying a boy who treats her like a princess, one moment, and next, cheats on her, treats her like a slave, and worse, abuses her, not only emotionally/mentally, financially, but also, verbally, and physically, to the point of landing her in an ambulance, traps her (there's a possibility that she doesn't have birth control on her ⚠️), in order to isolate her from her father and his new family, because he's paranoid that OP will break up with him, and even, threatens to do away with her if she moves in with them, then, OP will have to have the police and DV social workers help her pack all her belongings (including her legal documents, sentimental items/valuables, etc.), take her to another town, put her belongings in a storage facility there, and check her into a motel for the night, escape to another state (and transfer her belongings to another storage facility therein), because she's scared that her husband and birth giver will not only lie to courts that she's an unfit mother, in order, to take her kid away from her, but also subject him to the same cruelty her birth giver subjected her to, stay temporarily at a women's shelter shelter, find a cheaper apartment, take online college courses, and work two or more minimum wage jobs (not only that, but also, apply for government assistance, Medicaid, and food stamps/SNAP benefits), to support herself and her kid, ask neighbors to babysit for her because she won't have her dad, stepmother, stepbrother, her dad's best friend, or any friends in her new state to take her under their wing; all she and her kid will have is each other, and instead of finding new love, or for that matter, getting married again (just like her dad had), OP will need to keep potential boyfriends/husbands at bay (even, if some of the men are more like her dad and stepbrother), concentrate on her mental health, raising her kid, his needs/health/welfare/happiness, and giving him a stable home. Plus, in order to pay for baby supplies/necessities, baby-related expenses, and maternity expenses, she'll have to have social services place her sister in a group home, as leverage to scare her mother into giving her back every dollar of her child support.⚠️
The fact that when OP left the egg donor called OP’s dad not asking where OP is or if OP is okay, but to demand money for the other daughter, says everything.
If someone had gotten wind of OP's living situation, they would contact CPS to remove her and her sister from their mother, place OP with stable foster/adoptive parents, and place the sister in a group home.
All the people showing sympathy for sister but people are forgetting what op has been through. Having same set of clothes for past three years. Only getting leftovers with spit in it which caused eating disorders. Overworking for her mom. Not to mention she see op as a cash cow who will go to college and get good job to feed both of them. Op is the black sheep who is only used by her mom. Op deserves happiness and should be out of that asap. Yes we should be kind but that kindness should not be at our own expense.
THIS. being compassionate should be at the price of your life, future carrier, mental health. People who criticize her are possibly envious because she stood by what was best for her and was sick of living like shit to let her sister live a bit better, it is her mother's responsibility to get both children a decent life, it's not OP place to be a second parent
I feel like you can be sympathetic towards both of them here. It's not like the sister asked to be born or severely disabled. And it shouldn't be OP's responsibility to take care of her like this.
Parentification is abuse, and sucks. But that's still not the sister's fault. If the mother had any decency, she would have put the child up for adoption to be with parents who would actually take care of her.
You are rambling. Of course we all know this. But it’s not the little kid doing it. It’s the mom and judicial system. Resenting the kid is reasonable at face value, but you can’t BLAME the kid.
@@luizbezerra4373you can understand how, no matter how far in the past it is, it will still hold up in family court right? Why are you guys acting like the system is broken or something 😂
@@ekalorschmekalor2885 you missed the point. Also, yes, the system is indeed broken for making the girl in the story live with her abusive mom for so long instead of living with her dad.
If mom wants money for her affair baby, she can go after her baby daddy. She broke that family the moment she stepped out on her husband. Neither kid deserved all that, but mom had it coming.
@@davidkermes376 for all we know she told him she was using birth control pills. We simply dont have enough info to know if that guy is an asshole or not
People asking for explicit pictures once 18 and the others hoping the worst for her: Are you senile? Not even commenting the request about the first group... But the others. Like she's at fault for refusing to stand idly while her mother steamroll over her to support the other child. It's her mother's responsibility to take care of the sister, not this girl WTF. If she's unable she should ask support to people outside the family insteam of annihilate her first child present and possibly fuck up her future. I feel sorry for this girl and hope she will continue getting better, her mother doesn't seem to deserve her
you said it better than I could've and wtf is wrong with them, they probably just saw she is 18 female and the title cause like if they would've read it they would have understood or said nothing
ngl, that mom is bad on all fronts, wins custody over op just to spite her dad, then proceed to make her life a living hell in an attempt to alienate her from her dad, then spoiling the half sister to the nth degree, i can already tell that the half sister wont be a good kid, why?, well, if you've spent your entire life being spoiled rotten, would you listen to someone that is strict?
i dont think the half sister is going to be anything. we havent ever heard a word from that sister and the fact shes drooling over her food indicates shes probably unable to function for herself.
I care for kids and adults with disabilities and I will tell you what OP is saying here is all too common. There really are parents who will pawn off all the responsibility onto another kid and cause them to basically give up their entire childhood because they can't bother. Because of this, it is not an unusual situation for a child to wait until they turn 18 and then leave and never return because of this. None of this is the fault of the sister as she did not choose to be born this way or be put in this situation. I've even heard of parents who have a disabled child going so far is to have another kid just to raised to be a caregiver and little else. The mother could have certainly been able to get some kind of aid for the daughter or CNA. OP has every right to be upset here and to want to go live her own life and make up for all the lost time. I've seen many parents who have a disabled child find a way to make sure that responsibility is shared and it's not put on the kids. As well as not neglecting other children. It's not easy but it can definitely be done
My advice would be to brace for an unexpected reunion with the sister only. From the sounds of it, if the sister was cognisant of OP's presence, the biggest positive moments might be from when OP was taking care of her, and OP might have unwillingly taken over the role of a maternal figure in her sister's life because of the parentification. As such, even assuming this doesn't repeat in the sister's teen years, I'd be bracing for her asking to live with OP when she gets old enough to gain independence assuming average ability levels or enough to chart her own course in life.
Based on the comments about drooling on food, refusing to eat, and absolutely no mention of what the sister said or thought, I’m guessing she probably won’t ever reach a level of functioning sufficient for independence. At best, perhaps a group home. So OP probably doesn’t have much to worry about on that front.
Honestly I see a lot of people in these comments talking about how “I feel bad for the sister” or about how OP is wrong for hating her because the sister didn’t ask for this, it’s like ok bud we will see how kind and nice you are when your life is thrown to the side by your own mother for a kid she had as a result of CHEATING.
It’s not that, we are more concerned about the sister because OP is projecting her hate into her sister when in reality nothing that has happened is her fault at all. She was born like that and didn’t have a parent who know how to care for her. Yea OP became the designated nanny but that wasn’t the sisters fault. She actually only has hatred for her mother but is taking like 40% out on an in all accounts innocent 10 year old. OP has every right to be angry and we understand that, we get it, but she is misplacing her anger aggressively.
@@lilkit2191it's true, she is indeed misplacing her anger and all of it should be towards her mother but at the same time OP saw her sister getting more attention and love and care and she had to look after her all day so she THINKS it's her sister's fault
@@IndeedWomen which I completely understand! I was just pointing out how her sister is still also a victim and hasn’t done anything wrong so is being wrongfully raked through the mud for something completely not her fault. She is mad at her mother and the circumstances
Well said. If someone had gotten wind of how the mother had treated OP, they would contact the authorities to place OP with foster/adoptive parents, and the sister in a group home; in fact, OP should've been taken away from her mother and placed with adoptive parents who are stable, and she would've had a good life.⚠️
I've had a similar situation, but reversed: it was my dad and his wife that had treated me as a liability and/or tool for financial gain, and my mom and my stepdad who have been supportive of me. My dad has not paid a cent of my tuition for college (I graduate this spring), yet has asked me in the past if I was claimed by my mom for taxes so that I could be a write off. I still speak to him but only occasionally, and as far as I am concerned his wife is dead to me. Major love and support to OP, may God bless you in the difficult years to come.
Your own happiness comes first. Op's sister is their mother's responsibility, not op's. Op doesn't have any obligation to live a miserable life so her mother and sister won't. Op's mother made her own bed and now she has to lie on it. I only hope that she does so with dignity and actually takes care of op's sister without growing resentful, because she's selfish and she's had it easy at op's expense for years.
I live in hawaii. Here, older children generally get to choose which parent to live with. The other parent can also seek custody of the current one with custody it's abusive.
I feel sorry for the sister since she didn't do anything and obviously has some pretty big issues. While OP may sound harsh, remember she's a kid and being abused by her mom. It's called Parentification and OP is taking on her Mom's responsibility for not only her sister but also her affair. It's best for OP to stay away. Hope she's doing better. She owes nothing to her sister or Mom.
How exactly did the first lawsuit about misusing child support fail? There's no way to justify using that money for anything other than taking care of OP, that's the whole point of child support. Heck, the fact that "mom" sold stuff that dad had bought for OP should have been a red flag in court.
The mom definitely probably said something like”how could you not help your sister she is your sister!!” To try to guilt trip them the mom is trying to make it out that if your sister is disabled you must take care of her that’s probably why they hate the sister the mom influencesd her so much she is mad for her sister for doing literally nothing tragic honestly the mom is a true villian for not taking care the disabled sister herself
She's a teen. Give her some rest, let her grow up and mature and she'll see that she hated the situation, not the sister. When you are young it's harder to differentiate.
Poor OP has lost so much. I hope that now that she is with her father she has time to catch up on some things... Time is a precious thing and her "mother" is a monster for ripping that away from her.
Parents who completely disregard their other kids or treat them as servants because one kid is disabled are the worst parents and deserve whatever their other kids say and do once they are in a position to speak and act freely without consequence.
I can't help but get angry at OP as someone who knows people with physical disabilities. Yes, I think we can all agree its abusive that she and not her mother was forced to care for her, that's not job, never should have been. However, to project all of your hatred to the sister and attacking her personally by calling her "nothing" and "useless" and flat out saying you hate her is just wrong and vindictive. Her hatred needs to be 100% on the abusive deadbeat mom. I have sadly heard about this happening in a lot of families, even when the child isnt forced to care for a disabled sibling. They grow to resent them out of jealously when in reality its out of everyone's control, the disabled person still is a human being, has basic rights, and is entitled to some respect and care. No disabled person is happy about the condition they are in, they deserve empathy to.
Sue him for parental alienation😂! What the hell was she thinking suing her ex for parental alienation when, for the past decade, she’s had full custody? I guess desperation will make people do the dumbest shit ever.
Op and her dad is never an asshole. First of all op's dad don't have to pay any money to a baby who is not even his, whether child is disabled or not. If that so called mother wanted mony for her disabled child she should find the man sperm owner not the other one. The audacity of people to still ask for the op's dad to pay for their aka op's mom lack of responsibility is really beyond disbelief. You reap what you do. So basically they got their karma. And the only kind thing op has to do is call social service for her half sister. So that she can be saved from her so called mother. That's it...
OK is this fake for one major reason, she change the age she was when her sister was born from 7 to 10 in the recap post at the end. That's not something you typically mess up on considering on, especially not with a 3 year gap. Also OP being a teen with tons of proof of miss use of child support she could have collected, and the fact that her testimony of neglect and mental abuse probably would hold more weight in court then the mom who cheated on her husband saying "well he used to do weed" especially after a few years of living together. No the child doesn't get to choose who to live with, but that doesn't mean that their opinion doesn't matter. Also IDFK what state this was suppose to take place in but I've never heard of any court choosing an at fault person caught red handed with testimony from the daughter, over a dad who got caught doing drugs once and turned his life around (unless he got the charge while he had the child). That would be like having a someone who accidentally killed someone drunk driving, turned his life around after getting out of prison, getting accused of murder, none of the evidence points against him but he get convicted because he killed someone in a DUI so he must have killed this person. An extreme analogy but you get it. What I'm saying is he should have at least gotten dual guardianship.
This one was sad, although glad that op got out cleanly and gets to move on with their life, I had a shitty mother and cut contact as soon as I could, never looked back
@@mcreemuffins yea. the only person at fault here is the mom and the sister has no choice but to be with her. The OP and Father got their happy ever after. The sister is stuck in crappy situation with no way out
I remember reading this thread on Reddit. That was sad to read but I hope OP is doing okay now. I don't remember if I made a comment on her post that time but still.
I'm not blaming the kid at all, just said it's selfish to ask Op's dad's side to care. Op has struggled a lot and to support the child is to deal with the mom all over again. And the mom is a legal adult. Clearly, she can manage by herself. She just doesn't want to. I've seen my own mother pull through touch financial times without ever discomforting me and my younger sister. The mom has the capabilities, she just doesn't want to. She wants to leach of Op's dad
I've heard this before I honestly feel bad for the sister she didn't do anything wrong, all of my siblings have different dads but we see each other as family having a different dad shouldn't matter, and calling her sister useless is wrong, i understand how she feels to though
Its true, this isnt the sisters fault. I totally get the resentment towards her though, my brother is disabled and a lot of my parents attention and time went into him. I cant really see him as part of my family and I honestly dont have a lot of empathy for him, as sad as that sounds.
@@yaseen9044she does realise, she says she doesn't hate her just that she doesn't like her and if she's that disabled then it's just a fact that she's useless as harsh as that is to say
everyone is feeling Sympathy for the half sister and no one is talking about the op op suffered trauma and the sister didn’t the sister got all the money that the ops dad sent op didn’t get to live her childhood she was a caretaker for the sister and a money cow to the mom i dont feel anything for the sister bc of her op suffered everyone should feel sympathy for the op not the half sister
I feel lots of sympathy for OP, too. Plus, I have the feeling that, when she finds a wonderful SO (whose family are good people), and she has a kid with him, not only will she disappear on him, she'll also disappear on their kid, hence; she'll leave her SO to raise their kid as a single father, because she's afraid that it'll be like taking care of her sister, all over again.⚠️
should stop by the nearest police station and inform them that your a consenting adult and have left the house and are not missing when the mother begins to call them looking for OP for money and caretaking purposes
I get that OP is hurting and the mom sucks but my heart breaks for that little girl. She is as innocent as OP. She never asked to be born ffs. But OP is a teen who was forcefully parentified so I hope when she gets out of there and lives her own life she’ll stop resenting her sister. None of this is her fault either
This is sad, i hope the OP manages to let go of some anger towards her sister, as it's not the sisters fault their mother put her through this. That does not mean she should feel obligated to have anything to do with her either though.
I hope OP learns to let go of her hatred for her mother and half sister, not for their sake but for hers. She would do good to get to the point where she just doesn't feel anything for them. Hatred poisons your soul and, after all she's been through, she deserves to live without carrying that weight around with her. I'm glad she got into therapy.
is there any update? i feel bad for the half sister because, sure she made op's life miserable BUT it wasnt her fault that she was born, it wasnt her fault that op's mother cheated, it wasnt her fault that she's dissabled, also blaming the half sister is fair but unjustified and she's just 10 years old! i would understand if only the mother where to burn in hell i dont give a sht but also letting the half sister get the same treatment just beacuse, its not fair
Yes its not the sisters fault. But if you are in this situation you cant think clearly about this. I resented my disabled brother for years, because so much time and attention went into his care. I obviously knew he isnt at fault but you cant just turn off a feeling.
@@realglutenfree My sister was disabled from birth and I never resented her or the amount of care or effort that went into her, I'm just glad I didn't have to suffer through ANOTHER sibling's death. Maybe you ought to work on yourself.
@@impishrebel5969 People are allowed to feel how they feel, work on yourself first before condemning another: children that lose focus and attention aren't spoiled, or unpleasant. And yes, speaking as someone with a relative that was basically born a warm corpse, and looking at this mother that sold her other child's things, and parentified them- not everyone has to deal with it the same. So to hell with his sister, and mother. From what was described, she's simply an unfortunate glitch in biology.
@@impishrebel5969if your whole life was bound by ur disabled siblings and had to everything for them and got barely no attention then of course your bound to resent them
@@impishrebel5969 If you're supposedly so empathetic then you wouldn't be so quick to have a superiority complex over people with similar experiences to you. Asshat.
The one thing that I am disgusted by some of the redditors when she said "people asked for explicit photos when I turned 18". For fuck sake, she's going through a lot right now and all you care about is receiving nudes from her? Absolutely disgusting.
Even though OP is an adult now, she should be certain to get her affairs in order by having a will, power of attorney, and healthcare proxy which explicitly names the father to prevent the mother from swooping in and reduce any future hassles if something happens and OP cannot make decisions for herself. The last thing OP should want is for the mother to take control if she's in the hospital or handling her financial affairs in the future. Also, father won't have to go to court to battle mother in that situation.
The half sister is probably the biggest victim here Like no she wasn’t the person who “ broke the marriage” The mother Was it was her decision to fuck some else The half sister is just a product of the affair She didn’t choose to be born like that and sadly my judgment Is affected by the fact that it isn’t specified what kind of disability does she have? assuming it is mental and physical than yeah And don’t get me wrong op is a victim here since she basically lives with the consequences of her mothers action and was denied everything because of her mother favoring her sister It was clear that she has some resentment to her sister which is completely understandable and should be dealt with Since The sister is innocent
yeah i feel really bad for that poor girl obviously it wasnt right that OP had to sacrifice her entire childhood and got abused and treated like shit but thats the mothers fault the disabled sister is also a victim and i cant even imagine the guilt inside of her and how it must torture her eventhough none of this is her fault it does feel that way for her id imagine poor girls if only the mom could keep her legs closed and be loyal to her husband man i really hate cheaters theyre the worst scum... they do so much harm to other people and at the end of it the only one they care for is themself
I disagree heartily. Op was basically made a servant to the person who represents the destruction of her family and her happy childhood, the half sister is not the biggest victim.
I don't lame her at all. Her mother is a pos and blew everyone else's lives up while expecting the people who used to love her to literally pay for her bad decisions.
4:47 So the mother wasn't even working and still enslaved her daughter. 5:30 You can at least report her for neglect. And the mother obviously is around to abuse her daughter, so she is able to care for her disabled daughter. 11:40 Your dad should have supported you to do something there. 13:07 And reddit is censoring again. -.-
NTA, why didn't the mother go after the sister's bio father for child support? She could have also asked that he be required to provide medical insurance for her.
girl should have made the mothers life hell and rebel against her and if the mother got violent let cps know or media know shes a violent mother it teach her to give up and give full custody to father if she don't want more crap thrown at her
If OP did let CPS or media know that her mother is violent, and the combo of the two remove her and the affair kid from the mother, she'll need to prepare for them to place her in the foster care system, and the affair kid in a group home.⚠️
@@danacarter9147 depends on the state some states will give full custody to the other partner if they found bad actions they done and also depends on the cps if there not horrible people who just do it without other partner getting a chance yea the affair kid go in the system but cant do much about that one sense its not blood with the father the only thing you can do is hope the family that takes it in is a good one
@@robertmancuso4383True, but then, they'll have to take full custody away, again, from the other partner who has done some bad actions, and they'll have to place the affair kid in care facility.
@@danacarter9147 well kid could also turn out bad by the parents that raised it either way kid going to go through life changing events that make the kid who they are today so either kid gets lucky and meets a good family in the system or not all on chances or has a toxic parent who turn there personality rotten with there mindset either way kid is going to have drama filled life
There is a hole here , did the step sister mean to him ? What cause did make him so hate to his stepsis ? If she is mean , i can understand , but if not, you just cruel for leaving her and abandon her in toxic surrounding .
I understand OP hating her sister, but maybe she should forgive her. She never did anything, and that excess hate can’t be good. Hate the game master, not the players.
I really...found this story interesting. Except that last part. Is the existance. The very existance of her sister a reason that the op's parents' got divorced? Or was it instead the dumbass mentality of her mother to cheat on such a saint of a man???? The last part of the op's post really really ofset me to be honest. I can completely understand their resentment and anger towards their sis DUE to her mother playing the favour card. But is it fair and valid to pinpoint the existence of the op's sister as a reason for their suffering. Tbh i think its not. Its completely and clearly the mother's fault for playing that favour card.
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yes but i'm also happy that the OP has such a great dad and an amazing support system outside of her toxic mom.
shits fake. don't ask me why.
"I lost some weight since I couldnt eat" no teenager should EVER say that. That's the most heartbreaking thing to me in this story
how was this not used in court?
@@diamondly6250 Probably was, but the injustice system ignores that.
I lost a lot of weight for my age, but that was self inflicted. I’m not a big eater, never have, I’m now eating 4-5 meals a day and feeling pretty good
To any teens reading this, take care of your body. Listen to it, if it says it’s hungry you eat, if it says it’s tired you sleep, if it wants some fun in the sun you go out, if it needs to be stimulated you play games
In this story there are three victims and only one oppressor, the mother. The father was deprived of being able to share his daughter's adolescence and was used as a BMT by the w1tch, the daughter went through years of hell and physical and psychological suffering, and the disabled half-sister who did not ask to be born from a betrayal and then having to suffer all his life as a disabled person. The only monsters in this story are the mother and the highly misandric judicial system
Don't forget the AP who is skipping out on paying child support for his own daughter.
@@jimjohnson394 You're right, I actually forgot about him , a worthy lover for that woman.
@@orazioserraggisindone1015a match made in hell❤
also is spoiled by the mother
The mother is a feminist hero and QUEEN!
Glad op is getting away from all that, she's no monster she's just a kid who was abused mentally emotionally and financially.
Same here. But sadly, even, though OP is getting away from her egg-donor and half-sister, she'll have more trauma coming her way, due to how %£?@ed up they have treated her for years. I predict that, given OP has turned 18, instead of moving in with her dad and going to college with her stepbrother, she'll end up moving in with/marrying a boy who treats her like a princess, one moment, and next, cheats on her, treats her like a slave, and worse, abuses her, not only emotionally/mentally, financially, but also, verbally, and physically, to the point of landing her in an ambulance, traps her (there's a possibility that she doesn't have birth control on her ⚠️), in order to isolate her from her father and his new family, because he's paranoid that OP will break up with him, and even, threatens to do away with her if she moves in with them, then, OP will have to have the police and DV social workers help her pack all her belongings (including her legal documents, sentimental items/valuables, etc.), take her to another town, put her belongings in a storage facility there, and check her into a motel for the night, escape to another state (and transfer her belongings to another storage facility therein), because she's scared that her husband and birth giver will not only lie to courts that she's an unfit mother, in order, to take her kid away from her, but also subject him to the same cruelty her birth giver subjected her to, stay temporarily at a women's shelter shelter, find a cheaper apartment, take online college courses, and work two or more minimum wage jobs (not only that, but also, apply for government assistance, Medicaid, and food stamps/SNAP benefits), to support herself and her kid, ask neighbors to babysit for her because she won't have her dad, stepmother, stepbrother, her dad's best friend, or any friends in her new state to take her under their wing; all she and her kid will have is each other, and instead of finding new love, or for that matter, getting married again (just like her dad had), OP will need to keep potential boyfriends/husbands at bay (even, if some of the men are more like her dad and stepbrother), concentrate on her mental health, raising her kid, his needs/health/welfare/happiness, and giving him a stable home. Plus, in order to pay for baby supplies/necessities, baby-related expenses, and maternity expenses, she'll have to have social services place her sister in a group home, as leverage to scare her mother into giving her back every dollar of her child support.⚠️
The fact that when OP left the egg donor called OP’s dad not asking where OP is or if OP is okay, but to demand money for the other daughter, says everything.
If someone had gotten wind of OP's living situation, they would contact CPS to remove her and her sister from their mother, place OP with stable foster/adoptive parents, and place the sister in a group home.
@@danacarter9147 CPS isn't doing much to help people.
@@danacarter9147that's really fucked up, they should put her in her father's care not some foster house
"the egg donor" lol
All the people showing sympathy for sister but people are forgetting what op has been through. Having same set of clothes for past three years. Only getting leftovers with spit in it which caused eating disorders. Overworking for her mom. Not to mention she see op as a cash cow who will go to college and get good job to feed both of them. Op is the black sheep who is only used by her mom. Op deserves happiness and should be out of that asap. Yes we should be kind but that kindness should not be at our own expense.
THIS. being compassionate should be at the price of your life, future carrier, mental health. People who criticize her are possibly envious because she stood by what was best for her and was sick of living like shit to let her sister live a bit better, it is her mother's responsibility to get both children a decent life, it's not OP place to be a second parent
I feel like you can be sympathetic towards both of them here. It's not like the sister asked to be born or severely disabled. And it shouldn't be OP's responsibility to take care of her like this.
Parentification is abuse, and sucks. But that's still not the sister's fault. If the mother had any decency, she would have put the child up for adoption to be with parents who would actually take care of her.
The handicapped sister has no choice what goes on in that house. Don't blame her for anything. Its the mother.
You are rambling.
Of course we all know this.
But it’s not the little kid doing it. It’s the mom and judicial system. Resenting the kid is reasonable at face value, but you can’t BLAME the kid.
the law needs to stop treating Father's as second class parents by default when it comes to custody battles
did you skip the part about the sustance abuse issues?
@@ShiNijuuAKL which happened long in the past and never repeated while the custody battle was on, so it should've been irrelevant
@@ShiNijuuAKL did your brain skip the not being retarded part of development?
@@luizbezerra4373you can understand how, no matter how far in the past it is, it will still hold up in family court right? Why are you guys acting like the system is broken or something 😂
@@ekalorschmekalor2885 you missed the point. Also, yes, the system is indeed broken for making the girl in the story live with her abusive mom for so long instead of living with her dad.
I understand OP 100%. She's been abused all these years, you can't blame her.
If mom wants money for her affair baby, she can go after her baby daddy. She broke that family the moment she stepped out on her husband. Neither kid deserved all that, but mom had it coming.
3:58 parkour guy has an existential crisis
I feel bad for the sister. Shame on the mother for not doing her job. Shame on the father of the sister.
don't call him a father! even sperm donor is too generous a term for him.
@@davidkermes376 for all we know she told him she was using birth control pills. We simply dont have enough info to know if that guy is an asshole or not
@@Redd_Nebulatbh i wont be suprised if this guy was lied about this so she can get easy money from another man
@@georgegorvaniagerge7077Yeah. Coz if AP wants to get involved, it could complicate things.
When I heard OP had to eat the drool leftovers, I almost threw up.
Same here. That's beyond %£?@ed up.🤢😒
People asking for explicit pictures once 18 and the others hoping the worst for her:
Are you senile?
Not even commenting the request about the first group... But the others. Like she's at fault for refusing to stand idly while her mother steamroll over her to support the other child. It's her mother's responsibility to take care of the sister, not this girl WTF.
If she's unable she should ask support to people outside the family insteam of annihilate her first child present and possibly fuck up her future.
I feel sorry for this girl and hope she will continue getting better, her mother doesn't seem to deserve her
you said it better than I could've and wtf is wrong with them, they probably just saw she is 18 female and the title cause like if they would've read it they would have understood or said nothing
Reddit
@@om3ga109you mean social media honestly it’s more messed up than I can imagine but that’s life ain’t it
OP father is a true one hope you're father sees how good he truly is
ngl, that mom is bad on all fronts, wins custody over op just to spite her dad, then proceed to make her life a living hell in an attempt to alienate her from her dad, then spoiling the half sister to the nth degree, i can already tell that the half sister wont be a good kid, why?, well, if you've spent your entire life being spoiled rotten, would you listen to someone that is strict?
It shouldnt even be allowed for someone to get full custody, unless one of the parents is abusive or a drug addict.
@@realglutenfree Which was what the asshole mom told. She brought up the dad's past issues of being a drug addict before OP was born.
the half sister is disabled bruh yall are really bozos
i dont think the half sister is going to be anything. we havent ever heard a word from that sister and the fact shes drooling over her food indicates shes probably unable to function for herself.
I care for kids and adults with disabilities and I will tell you what OP is saying here is all too common. There really are parents who will pawn off all the responsibility onto another kid and cause them to basically give up their entire childhood because they can't bother. Because of this, it is not an unusual situation for a child to wait until they turn 18 and then leave and never return because of this. None of this is the fault of the sister as she did not choose to be born this way or be put in this situation. I've even heard of parents who have a disabled child going so far is to have another kid just to raised to be a caregiver and little else. The mother could have certainly been able to get some kind of aid for the daughter or CNA.
OP has every right to be upset here and to want to go live her own life and make up for all the lost time.
I've seen many parents who have a disabled child find a way to make sure that responsibility is shared and it's not put on the kids. As well as not neglecting other children. It's not easy but it can definitely be done
Dads friend is a real one
Show no mercy to a cheater, no matter the circumstances
%£?@in' A.
My advice would be to brace for an unexpected reunion with the sister only. From the sounds of it, if the sister was cognisant of OP's presence, the biggest positive moments might be from when OP was taking care of her, and OP might have unwillingly taken over the role of a maternal figure in her sister's life because of the parentification. As such, even assuming this doesn't repeat in the sister's teen years, I'd be bracing for her asking to live with OP when she gets old enough to gain independence assuming average ability levels or enough to chart her own course in life.
say, "NO!"
Based on the comments about drooling on food, refusing to eat, and absolutely no mention of what the sister said or thought, I’m guessing she probably won’t ever reach a level of functioning sufficient for independence. At best, perhaps a group home. So OP probably doesn’t have much to worry about on that front.
Clearly the only place the half sister is going is into a care facility.
@@shortangel333I agree with you 💯%, placement in a group home/care facility will be what's best for the half-sister.
No, that's not gonna happen, because OP doesn't want to go through that crap show again; she needs to live her own life.
Honestly I see a lot of people in these comments talking about how “I feel bad for the sister” or about how OP is wrong for hating her because the sister didn’t ask for this, it’s like ok bud we will see how kind and nice you are when your life is thrown to the side by your own mother for a kid she had as a result of CHEATING.
It’s not that, we are more concerned about the sister because OP is projecting her hate into her sister when in reality nothing that has happened is her fault at all. She was born like that and didn’t have a parent who know how to care for her. Yea OP became the designated nanny but that wasn’t the sisters fault. She actually only has hatred for her mother but is taking like 40% out on an in all accounts innocent 10 year old.
OP has every right to be angry and we understand that, we get it, but she is misplacing her anger aggressively.
@@lilkit2191it's true, she is indeed misplacing her anger and all of it should be towards her mother but at the same time OP saw her sister getting more attention and love and care and she had to look after her all day so she THINKS it's her sister's fault
@@IndeedWomen which I completely understand! I was just pointing out how her sister is still also a victim and hasn’t done anything wrong so is being wrongfully raked through the mud for something completely not her fault. She is mad at her mother and the circumstances
@@lilkit2191ya i agree with that. hopefully the sister gets help and perhaps one point in the future they can meet again
@SunshinePIRRATA Yeahhhhh... it's a very harshly ableist mindset.
Kid didn't ask to be born different. Every life has worth.
the mother was just using her as a live in carer and bank account. its not even that poor sisters fault, their mums just a horrible person.
Well said. If someone had gotten wind of how the mother had treated OP, they would contact the authorities to place OP with foster/adoptive parents, and the sister in a group home; in fact, OP should've been taken away from her mother and placed with adoptive parents who are stable, and she would've had a good life.⚠️
No bruh foster life is not good dont be delusional @@danacarter9147
Finding the post on reddit, it is well over a year old by now
OP is probably appreciating life by now
Just another reminder that law and justice are two separate things.
I've had a similar situation, but reversed: it was my dad and his wife that had treated me as a liability and/or tool for financial gain, and my mom and my stepdad who have been supportive of me. My dad has not paid a cent of my tuition for college (I graduate this spring), yet has asked me in the past if I was claimed by my mom for taxes so that I could be a write off. I still speak to him but only occasionally, and as far as I am concerned his wife is dead to me. Major love and support to OP, may God bless you in the difficult years to come.
I'm so sorry for your pain.😔
Your own happiness comes first. Op's sister is their mother's responsibility, not op's.
Op doesn't have any obligation to live a miserable life so her mother and sister won't.
Op's mother made her own bed and now she has to lie on it.
I only hope that she does so with dignity and actually takes care of op's sister without growing resentful, because she's selfish and she's had it easy at op's expense for years.
I live in hawaii. Here, older children generally get to choose which parent to live with. The other parent can also seek custody of the current one with custody it's abusive.
I feel sorry for the sister since she didn't do anything and obviously has some pretty big issues. While OP may sound harsh, remember she's a kid and being abused by her mom. It's called Parentification and OP is taking on her Mom's responsibility for not only her sister but also her affair. It's best for OP to stay away. Hope she's doing better. She owes nothing to her sister or Mom.
How exactly did the first lawsuit about misusing child support fail? There's no way to justify using that money for anything other than taking care of OP, that's the whole point of child support.
Heck, the fact that "mom" sold stuff that dad had bought for OP should have been a red flag in court.
The mom definitely probably said something like”how could you not help your sister she is your sister!!” To try to guilt trip them the mom is trying to make it out that if your sister is disabled you must take care of her that’s probably why they hate the sister the mom influencesd her so much she is mad for her sister for doing literally nothing tragic honestly the mom is a true villian for not taking care the disabled sister herself
I don't Blame the sister or op I blame the mother
It sounds like OP is more mad at the sister than the mom
And you sound like a complete dumbass
She's a teen. Give her some rest, let her grow up and mature and she'll see that she hated the situation, not the sister. When you are young it's harder to differentiate.
She only hates the sister mainly because of her mother
Imagine being forced to care for a disabled sibling as a child, you grow to resent that more than the shitty parent who forced it onto you.
this mother is a monster but I do hope the girl can find a way to work through her feelings and let go of the hate she feels for her sister.
Unfortunately, that will be WAY too impossible.
Poor OP has lost so much. I hope that now that she is with her father she has time to catch up on some things... Time is a precious thing and her "mother" is a monster for ripping that away from her.
Agreed.
i dont blame the sister its not really her fault but its also understandable why OP feels this way both are victims of their mother
Parents who completely disregard their other kids or treat them as servants because one kid is disabled are the worst parents and deserve whatever their other kids say and do once they are in a position to speak and act freely without consequence.
I can't help but get angry at OP as someone who knows people with physical disabilities. Yes, I think we can all agree its abusive that she and not her mother was forced to care for her, that's not job, never should have been. However, to project all of your hatred to the sister and attacking her personally by calling her "nothing" and "useless" and flat out saying you hate her is just wrong and vindictive. Her hatred needs to be 100% on the abusive deadbeat mom.
I have sadly heard about this happening in a lot of families, even when the child isnt forced to care for a disabled sibling. They grow to resent them out of jealously when in reality its out of everyone's control, the disabled person still is a human being, has basic rights, and is entitled to some respect and care. No disabled person is happy about the condition they are in, they deserve empathy to.
Shes young. Eventually she will see it’s all her mother doing
A friend of mine managed to get adopted at 18yo despite both her bio parents being alive.
Sue him for parental alienation😂! What the hell was she thinking suing her ex for parental alienation when, for the past decade, she’s had full custody? I guess desperation will make people do the dumbest shit ever.
Op and her dad is never an asshole. First of all op's dad don't have to pay any money to a baby who is not even his, whether child is disabled or not. If that so called mother wanted mony for her disabled child she should find the man sperm owner not the other one. The audacity of people to still ask for the op's dad to pay for their aka op's mom lack of responsibility is really beyond disbelief. You reap what you do. So basically they got their karma. And the only kind thing op has to do is call social service for her half sister. So that she can be saved from her so called mother. That's it...
OK is this fake for one major reason, she change the age she was when her sister was born from 7 to 10 in the recap post at the end. That's not something you typically mess up on considering on, especially not with a 3 year gap. Also OP being a teen with tons of proof of miss use of child support she could have collected, and the fact that her testimony of neglect and mental abuse probably would hold more weight in court then the mom who cheated on her husband saying "well he used to do weed" especially after a few years of living together. No the child doesn't get to choose who to live with, but that doesn't mean that their opinion doesn't matter. Also IDFK what state this was suppose to take place in but I've never heard of any court choosing an at fault person caught red handed with testimony from the daughter, over a dad who got caught doing drugs once and turned his life around (unless he got the charge while he had the child). That would be like having a someone who accidentally killed someone drunk driving, turned his life around after getting out of prison, getting accused of murder, none of the evidence points against him but he get convicted because he killed someone in a DUI so he must have killed this person. An extreme analogy but you get it. What I'm saying is he should have at least gotten dual guardianship.
This one was sad, although glad that op got out cleanly and gets to move on with their life, I had a shitty mother and cut contact as soon as I could, never looked back
I'm so sorry that happened to you.😔
i feel bad for the sister. She didnt want/ask for any of this.
Neither did the father or OP
@@mcreemuffinsand they are not in the wrong but so isn't the sister
@@mcreemuffins yea. the only person at fault here is the mom and the sister has no choice but to be with her. The OP and Father got their happy ever after. The sister is stuck in crappy situation with no way out
Doing what's best for you doesn't make you a monster.
I am so happy for her getting out. I got out of shitty household myself two months ago. I am grateful for how much better my life became.
Feel bad for her half-sister, but that's not her circus, not her monkeys, not her problem.
No wonder my worldview keeps growing darker, darker, yet *ever so darker*
Nah nah nah nah nah why did you jumpscare me as soon as op says i hope she suffers
If the disabled sister is so bad then they should be in a care facility.
I remember reading this thread on Reddit. That was sad to read but I hope OP is doing okay now. I don't remember if I made a comment on her post that time but still.
I'm not blaming the kid at all, just said it's selfish to ask Op's dad's side to care. Op has struggled a lot and to support the child is to deal with the mom all over again.
And the mom is a legal adult. Clearly, she can manage by herself. She just doesn't want to. I've seen my own mother pull through touch financial times without ever discomforting me and my younger sister.
The mom has the capabilities, she just doesn't want to. She wants to leach of Op's dad
I've heard this before I honestly feel bad for the sister she didn't do anything wrong, all of my siblings have different dads but we see each other as family having a different dad shouldn't matter, and calling her sister useless is wrong, i understand how she feels to though
Its true, this isnt the sisters fault. I totally get the resentment towards her though, my brother is disabled and a lot of my parents attention and time went into him. I cant really see him as part of my family and I honestly dont have a lot of empathy for him, as sad as that sounds.
Wow i admire you mother 😮,
its just misdirected resentment in a young mind, eventually she'll realize its not sister's fault and get over this
The half-sister is in need of 24 hour care. This being needed means she should be in a care home/facility.
@@yaseen9044she does realise, she says she doesn't hate her just that she doesn't like her and if she's that disabled then it's just a fact that she's useless as harsh as that is to say
everyone is feeling Sympathy for the half sister and no one is talking about the op op suffered trauma and the sister didn’t the sister got all the money that the ops dad sent op didn’t get to live her childhood she was a caretaker for the sister and a money cow to the mom i dont feel anything for the sister bc of her op suffered everyone should feel sympathy for the op not the half sister
I feel lots of sympathy for OP, too. Plus, I have the feeling that, when she finds a wonderful SO (whose family are good people), and she has a kid with him, not only will she disappear on him, she'll also disappear on their kid, hence; she'll leave her SO to raise their kid as a single father, because she's afraid that it'll be like taking care of her sister, all over again.⚠️
See what cheating causes? So much pain! Don’t cheat!
Do you think the AP is paying child support for her half sister?
Nope.
should stop by the nearest police station and inform them that your a consenting adult and have left the house and are not missing when the mother begins to call them looking for OP for money and caretaking purposes
No, OP should just call social services, and have the half-sister taken away from the mother, and placed in a group home.
the audacity
cheating on someone and then forcing them to pay you child support despite not even using it for your own child, it is an utter atrocity
He alienated her? How, by selling everything he bought for her? Oh wait, that was the mother doing that and alienating herself
"she is useless since she is born" fucking MEAN but damn i cackled
I get that OP is hurting and the mom sucks but my heart breaks for that little girl. She is as innocent as OP. She never asked to be born ffs. But OP is a teen who was forcefully parentified so I hope when she gets out of there and lives her own life she’ll stop resenting her sister. None of this is her fault either
7:34 update
Child’s log ruined, mother most effected ) that’s some main character syndrome right there
This is sad, i hope the OP manages to let go of some anger towards her sister, as it's not the sisters fault their mother put her through this. That does not mean she should feel obligated to have anything to do with her either though.
The first commenter nailed it, so no need to repeat myself here.
if the mother needs child support, then she should contact the FATHER OF HER DISABLED CHILD!
i think op's mom forgot that slavery is illegal
This literally breaks my heart 😕
I hope OP learns to let go of her hatred for her mother and half sister, not for their sake but for hers. She would do good to get to the point where she just doesn't feel anything for them. Hatred poisons your soul and, after all she's been through, she deserves to live without carrying that weight around with her.
I'm glad she got into therapy.
Unfortunately, OP will never let go of hatred towards her mother or half-sister; they've caused her far too much hurt over the years.😔
is there any update? i feel bad for the half sister because, sure she made op's life miserable BUT it wasnt her fault that she was born, it wasnt her fault that op's mother cheated, it wasnt her fault that she's dissabled, also blaming the half sister is fair but unjustified and she's just 10 years old! i would understand if only the mother where to burn in hell i dont give a sht but also letting the half sister get the same treatment just beacuse, its not fair
Life isn’t fair and blame the mother
"For those of you asking for explicit pictures once i turn 18"
What the fuck is wrong with people?
This one actually seems really familiar
It's not her sisters fault. Stop blaming someone who has no control of the situation at all. I feel sorry for both of them.
Yes its not the sisters fault. But if you are in this situation you cant think clearly about this. I resented my disabled brother for years, because so much time and attention went into his care. I obviously knew he isnt at fault but you cant just turn off a feeling.
@@realglutenfree My sister was disabled from birth and I never resented her or the amount of care or effort that went into her, I'm just glad I didn't have to suffer through ANOTHER sibling's death. Maybe you ought to work on yourself.
@@impishrebel5969 People are allowed to feel how they feel, work on yourself first before condemning another: children that lose focus and attention aren't spoiled, or unpleasant. And yes, speaking as someone with a relative that was basically born a warm corpse, and looking at this mother that sold her other child's things, and parentified them- not everyone has to deal with it the same. So to hell with his sister, and mother. From what was described, she's simply an unfortunate glitch in biology.
@@impishrebel5969if your whole life was bound by ur disabled siblings and had to everything for them and got barely no attention then of course your bound to resent them
@@impishrebel5969 If you're supposedly so empathetic then you wouldn't be so quick to have a superiority complex over people with similar experiences to you. Asshat.
I think the op blames Sue for making her childhood sad. Sue didn't ask to be born. I think op should instead focus on the mother. Sue is innocent
It’s not the half sister’s fault. I hope that OP will eventually see this. It’s all “mom’s” fault.
The one thing that I am disgusted by some of the redditors when she said "people asked for explicit photos when I turned 18". For fuck sake, she's going through a lot right now and all you care about is receiving nudes from her? Absolutely disgusting.
12:54 the person that broke the marriage was the mother not the sister
Anyone knows where does these posts come from??
I would get out of there as soon as I turned eighteen and tell my mom that she can take care of her own affair baby. I then cut contact with them
amazing how many people think OP's dad should pay for a daughter who isn't his
Even though OP is an adult now, she should be certain to get her affairs in order by having a will, power of attorney, and healthcare proxy which explicitly names the father to prevent the mother from swooping in and reduce any future hassles if something happens and OP cannot make decisions for herself. The last thing OP should want is for the mother to take control if she's in the hospital or handling her financial affairs in the future. Also, father won't have to go to court to battle mother in that situation.
The half sister is probably the biggest victim here
Like no she wasn’t the person who “ broke the marriage” The mother Was it was her decision to fuck some else The half sister is just a product of the affair
She didn’t choose to be born like that and sadly my judgment Is affected by the fact that it isn’t specified what kind of disability does she have?
assuming it is mental and physical than yeah
And don’t get me wrong op is a victim here since she basically lives with the consequences of her mothers action and was denied everything because of her mother favoring her sister
It was clear that she has some resentment to her sister which is completely understandable and should be dealt with Since The sister is innocent
yeah i feel really bad for that poor girl obviously it wasnt right that OP had to sacrifice her entire childhood and got abused and treated like shit but thats the mothers fault the disabled sister is also a victim and i cant even imagine the guilt inside of her and how it must torture her eventhough none of this is her fault it does feel that way for her id imagine poor girls if only the mom could keep her legs closed and be loyal to her husband man i really hate cheaters theyre the worst scum... they do so much harm to other people and at the end of it the only one they care for is themself
I disagree heartily. Op was basically made a servant to the person who represents the destruction of her family and her happy childhood, the half sister is not the biggest victim.
I don't lame her at all. Her mother is a pos and blew everyone else's lives up while expecting the people who used to love her to literally pay for her bad decisions.
Typical modern woman
You shouldn’t blame the love child. She didn’t ask for this life.
justified totally.
4:47 So the mother wasn't even working and still enslaved her daughter.
5:30 You can at least report her for neglect. And the mother obviously is around to abuse her daughter, so she is able to care for her disabled daughter.
11:40 Your dad should have supported you to do something there.
13:07 And reddit is censoring again. -.-
Even, if OP did report her mother for neglect, she would need to be prepared for social services to place her in foster care.⚠️
Good on the girl in the first story.
0:35 "There's nothing he *(WE)* can do" 😔
what's the BGM?
what is the name of the shader?
NTA, why didn't the mother go after the sister's bio father for child support? She could have also asked that he be required to provide medical insurance for her.
From all of what I've read and heard it never ceases to amaze me how toxic and vicious women can be, even to their own flesh and blood.
girl should have made the mothers life hell and rebel against her and if the mother got violent let cps know or media know shes a violent mother it teach her to give up and give full custody to father if she don't want more crap thrown at her
If OP did let CPS or media know that her mother is violent, and the combo of the two remove her and the affair kid from the mother, she'll need to prepare for them to place her in the foster care system, and the affair kid in a group home.⚠️
@@danacarter9147 depends on the state some states will give full custody to the other partner if they found bad actions they done and also depends on the cps if there not horrible people who just do it without other partner getting a chance yea the affair kid go in the system but cant do much about that one sense its not blood with the father the only thing you can do is hope the family that takes it in is a good one
@@robertmancuso4383True, but then, they'll have to take full custody away, again, from the other partner who has done some bad actions, and they'll have to place the affair kid in care facility.
@@danacarter9147 well kid could also turn out bad by the parents that raised it either way kid going to go through life changing events that make the kid who they are today so either kid gets lucky and meets a good family in the system or not all on chances or has a toxic parent who turn there personality rotten with there mindset either way kid is going to have drama filled life
Tragic story.
I suspect op let some of her misguided frustration out on her poor sister, judging from the venemous language she uses to describe her.
There is a hole here , did the step sister mean to him ? What cause did make him so hate to his stepsis ? If she is mean , i can understand , but if not, you just cruel for leaving her and abandon her in toxic surrounding .
Parentification is a form of abuse. OP has NO ties to that child - they are not the parent
His mother decided to have the affair and the baby
This sounds like a invented story from a red piller
I understand OP hating her sister, but maybe she should forgive her. She never did anything, and that excess hate can’t be good. Hate the game master, not the players.
Why did they put the comment in the video? Like just tell the main ducking story like damn
And the one who caused all of this was the mom if you wanna even call her that
I really...found this story interesting. Except that last part. Is the existance. The very existance of her sister a reason that the op's parents' got divorced? Or was it instead the dumbass mentality of her mother to cheat on such a saint of a man???? The last part of the op's post really really ofset me to be honest. I can completely understand their resentment and anger towards their sis DUE to her mother playing the favour card. But is it fair and valid to pinpoint the existence of the op's sister as a reason for their suffering. Tbh i think its not. Its completely and clearly the mother's fault for playing that favour card.
Guys, what is this song?!?